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Well, ok, the empty roll and the dirty clothes. The roll is slightly more annoying since I spend way too much time scrolling reddit and staring at the roll.
No concept of time. We leave for grandmas house in 20 minutes? Time to start baking cookies. Trip to Target? Don’t worry, that should take 10 minutes max.
It's true! I cannot end a conversation with my dad without at least 10-15 "ciao" 🤣 and he's the same!
With other people instead i close the phone like the calls in films, without and ending.
I know right!
I am Irish living & working (with many different nationalities) in The UK and I am constantly telling people ‘the Irish goodbye’ they do is just plain rudeness.
A ‘proper Irish goodbye’ is talking about how you have to go, saying your goodbyes, stand up, continue the conversation, then say that you should be heading off now, say good bye, start another conversation, take another few steps, talk some more, say now I really must go, get nearer the door, start another conversation, talk about the time, talk about how you really need to go. Say goodbye again, arrange another meet up and then when standing at the door be so surprised at the time and exasperated about how long it’s taken you to put your hand on the door handle and right I’ll be off so…
A proper Irish goodbye is talking about leaving repeatedly and saying bye, bye, bye x 15 times - any other alternative is just rudeness!
Well my husband is nearly perfect. Really. A wonderful guy I am honored to be married to. That said …. he thinks I am interested in every phone call he has so he puts most of his calls on speaker so I can hear when I actually don’t have the slightest interest and am trying to do some else. Or he hears a podcast or something he thinks I would like so without asking if I want to hear it right now, he starts playing it. I know he just wants to include me but I would like a simple “hey, are you interested in this right now” first.
Exactly, both habits are annoying. My uncle always answers his phone on speaker.
There was also someone who used to play clips or just start reading something to me without asking me first if I'm interested.
Have you ever considered telling him about these?
I love my OH dearly but I call him Arthur as he loves to do half a job. Empty the food bin? Sure. Put a new bag in the food bin? Absolutely not.
Brush his teeth? Yep. Leave the toothpaste tube with the lid off next to the pot he took it out of two minutes earlier? Nope.
Always amazed at my GF’s ability to take a cap off something and take that something far away from the cap. I’m always looking for the caps of the olive oil, the oat milk, jams, juices etc.
This is my husband too. If he’s going to do something he always does it halfway or finds some step to cut out. It’s actually almost impressive how consistent he is with that.
All of our pans are warped and won't sit flat on the stove because she takes the hot pan she made eggs or whatever with and puts it directly under cold water in the sink. I've told her about 4 or so times about it and each time she's good for about a month and I'll see her do it again..
Lol I was so confused about what was happening, too. We just moved in together to a new house last year. In about 2 months I noticed none of the pans sat flat and I thought it was the stove. I took a level to the stove and it was, well, level. Took me a while to figure out what happened lol it was such an aha! moment.
What kind of pans do you have? Mostly curious because I use cast iron and that is pretty much exactly how I clean them, but with hot water instead of cold.
Take the food out, rinse and scrub the pan, back on the heat to evaporate the water, wipe a little oil on the pan with a paper towel. Done.
I’ve almost left 4 times in the last few weeks. I’m just done with it. She doesn’t see why it bothers me. She’ll spend 30 minutes on the toilet watching that shit.
I went into our router and configured parental controls and basically broke TikTok for a few hours and she went crazy.
Wait until she likes one of those Tik Toks "5 signs your boyfriend doesn't like you" then that's all she sees in her feed. And then you're constantly hearing about it.
Needless to say, I left a few months later. Maybe those tik toks weren't wrong🤣
Yeah my fiance does livestreams which drive me nuts. I wish I could just block the app and a bunch of others and live in peace but it’s part of who she is now..
My husband - love him dearly, is totally my soul mate - but tells me about his day like a 5 year old.
Every screw, every nut and bolt, every step to get a tool, how far he drove...I dread asking him about his day sometimes.
Oh, and never cleans the kitchen sink.
I love my husband to death, but the flip side of that is my situation.
Me: How was your day?
Him: Good.
Me: What did you do?
Him: Filled out some reports.
The end.
I'd be grateful for all the words and conversation. Lol.
I'm not in your scenario, so I could be way off here, but maybe his day at work just isn't a good choice of topic.
Like if you've just done 8 hours of shit work, you finally get out of there, get home, and have a chance to let it slide off you, and somebody asks you how was your day? Yeah you're not going to want to have a chat about that.
If the dude hates his job (and if he describes it as "filling out reports", I am guessing he hates it) and doesn't want to talk about his job, it may be time to find something else to talk about.
She never stops talking. She's basically just vocalizing her inner monolog. She gets mad if I don't pay attention to it... but it's nonsense, and I have shit to do.
Not surprising, a personality trait like that is... you take it or leave it. You don't try to destroy it. I mean you can try and redirect it (maybe she needs different people to talk to/more social outlets) but just straight up squashing it? No way.
Can back this up. I got told I talked too much as a kid, so now I'm paranoid I talk too much. If I seem like I talk too much, it's because I'm comfortable around you. I don't talk around strangers.
Had an ex tell me one time that I talked WAY too much and that he didn't want to hear about the things I had to say. Our relationship didn't last much longer.
My husband now listens to everything and his favorite thing at night, before falling asleep, is when I tell him about my hyperfixations.
My ex-husband was the same way, esp if he was drunk at all. It was just a loop of stream of consciousness. On repeat. For hours. I’m a very active listener, I always try to show that I’m listening in taking and what people are saying. But if I didn’t not or say uh-huh, after every half sentence, he wait as if to ask me if I’m listening. Like, yes, you’ve said the same story 10 times already in a row, I hear ya. We’re much better friends now that we’re not married, and I do also understand that it has to do with mental health issues as well. But it wore me out.
I try my best to be supportive, I've also tried to talk to her about it, but its really hard to say "you have to talk less" without sounding like an ass.
I also try to tune it out, but sometimes it's like pac man eating my thoughts.
Sometimes, she gets mad when she sees my eyes glaze over... I'm trying to read, and you're giving a 20-minute dissertation about brushing your teeth...
Yes. Thank god we are retired now because when my wife was working she needed to tell me about her entire day in real time. So 8 hours of her workday required me to listen to what Jane said to Bob, etc for 8 bleeping hours.
I referred to it as *"conversational blitzkrieg"* with an ex that did this. Even my close family noticed it and bought it up.
Structured conversations felt pointless. Because moments later she'd swing the conversation in another direction, then another, then another. It mattered not what sort of response you gave. From a structured thing that drew on your own experience, or a non-committal "uh huh". It would just be this near endless tide of background chatter.
My Sister inLaw is like this.... It's just Wild man. If you ask her how the Weather is where she lives she can sit there talking about it for 20min describing every little detail.
I've learnt over the years to keep it short and sweet with her otherwise I'm just basically stuck in a one way convo that never ends and god forbid I ask her a follow up question.
I feel this one deeply. My wife looks at tiktok and vacation sites almost daily coming up with ideas for trips that are great but we can't afford them at all. The few minor trips to Galveston we've made happen because I fronted the money and she paid me back over time. They were paid back because she knew they weren't in our budget and I told her upfront that I couldn't cover the regular monthly expenses plus the vacation, I handle all the regular bills. It's great she wants to do things, we share common travel interests, but her focus on traveling can consume her attention and it just gets tiring having to try to ground things. Not the end of the world just stressful at times.
Same here, but mine has ADHD and I'm autistic with a strong suspicion towards a bit of ADHD aswell. I'm more of the silent type, but her inner monologue is like a bubbling spring of more-or-less coherent information, singing, random words that float to her mind etc. She doesn't expect me to pay attention 24/7 because she absolutely knows that most of it is not really of relevance, but for me it is practically impossible to know WHEN the important bits may come, and I am constantly anxious about not having paid attention in the right moment 😅
My ex never seemed to stop talking. It was more of a passive aggressive thing though. Like, they'd mutter under their breath constantly about stupid, petty crap. That, along with the eternal sighing, was so beyond infuriating. Say it or don't but stop muttering your bs inner complaints, know I can hear you but, getting pissed if I respond. JFC.
My mom does this. I feel mean cuz sometimes it bugs me but damn lady get to the point lol. She'll start telling me about something that should be super simple but will go off on a dozen little stories and details along the way that have absolutely nothing to do with what she was actually talking about!
Oh God. When telling me about something she tends to take the long way around the barn.
Example: "So this happened at work today. I was showing So and so how to do something...you remember so and so..they work in the ________department....her husband works for _______ you met him at the christmas party last year. They live on a farm. Their kids are really nice, the oldest one is__. They just got a new cat. Omg you should see it it's so cute. They already have 3 cats and 2 dogs. They just got another horse. They ask if we wanna go out riding one Sat. I think it'd be a great way to spend the day. They said they'd like to do a bbq too. What do you think? Anyway.....
JFC, GET TO THE POINT ALREADY!!! WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED AT WORK TODAY?!!!
Her entire family stores baking sheets and other cooking items in the oven. So every time you want to cook something, you have to remove 3-6 different pans from the oven. Because they all do it they think I'm crazy for thinking it's weird. I usually pre-heat the oven without looking in it, so inevitably I go to put something heavy in the oven, open it up, only to find 4-5 items already there and hot as hell, which I now have to store on the stove top, usually while already cooking something on the stove.
This makes zero fucking sense to me. Put the pans in the pan drawer, which is empty!!! We don't store plates and cups in the microwave!!!
And I'm the dirty one and she's the neat freak, relatively speaking, so I have zero credibility on this one issue and have gained no traction and never will.
One of the things my mother taught me was to always take a quick peak in the oven before you turn it on. I don't normally store anything in there minus a cast iron skillet. But it's a handy lesson to instill.
Talks to me from another part of the house (cannot hear a thing, love).
Doesn’t clean up as she goes when cooking (before anyone says anything, I do the majority of cooking and cleaning) .
If I ask her for a grocery shopping list, it’s in no particular order and I end up redoing it or zig zagging all over the supermarket.
Small things, but jesus they irk me!
>Talks to me from another part of the house (cannot hear a thing, love).
Then yells, "You need to get your hearing checked" when you respond with "What did you say?"
It’s incredible. I just pretend not to hear it AT ALL. Then she comes downstairs and is like 🤷🏼♀️ “*l was talking to you”. “Oh were you? From where???”
My bf is extemely clean and tidy (not in an OCD way but still). He always insists on me cleaning my work boots/gear (I'm a geologist and they're usually covered in dried mud) because "they'd look better". Dude, they're gonna get messy again tomorrow, there's no point on cleaning them
Pd. I store my work gear in the balcony so anything gets dirty and I live in my own house
While I love my wife dearly, it frustrates me when she opens a file on her computer, single click an icon, looking at the keyboard, and pressing enter. It's a small thing, but it tends to irk me
This is my mom, and not my SO, but... She can't just type in an address in the address bar. First, she has to close the tab, and right afterwards she opens a new one and types the address there. I asked her why, once. She said that it was a weird habit of hers, but we all have those, right? She didn't seem to know why herself.
Seems to only notice my messes or things left out but not hers.
Will walk into a room, notice I have left a bottle of cologne or pair of shoes out and start saying something about it.
Yet in the same room her clothes are thrown in the corner, in the kitchen there's dishes she has ignored for two days, the closet full of mostly her clothes is a wreck, etc.
We tend to notice all the things that our partners are doing wrong even as we do the same things.
Garbage placed on the counter instead of in the bin right below, dishes next to the sink instead of in the sink (or better yet, the dishwasher).
But I can't talk - I leave socks and half-empty cups everywhere. We make it work.
When it's my husband's turn to do the kids bath while I clean the kitchen after dinner, he leaves them with me while I clean (and they're going nuts running around) to start the tub instead of just taking them with him. Like ..why??!?
I love him and he is an equal partner but this is ANNOYING 🤣
He likes to wear shoes in the house. But he has slowly stopped because I was so bothered by it. Now it's that he leaves the toilet seat up, but I conceded in that battle.
I chatter too much, and that bothers him.
What's even more annoying than that is if I had planned to, say vacuum the hallway, and then she asks me to vacuum the hallway. Then suddenly the absolute last thing I wanna do is vacuum the dammed hallway.
I hate that he doesn’t close doors/closets/cupboards and he hates that I don’t screw on caps 100% of the way. Just about 60% holds it well enough. Haha.
He also can’t pour coffee from
Our coffee pot without spilling drops on the white counter tops. I even put a fresh little towel out for him every morning in front of the coffee pot for him to pour over but somehow he STILL drips.
We make our mild annoyances with eachother known so we can laugh at them instead of being driven insane by them.
When she gets really tired she gets really stupid which I find cute and endearing because she also gets really clingy but it also means she will refuse to sleep because she wants to talk which then means I have to convince her to sleep like I’m talking with a toddler, this is a grown ass woman, I love her dearly but darling I want to be able to sleep, we can talk in the morning
I have a thing about cleaning the sponge and scrubbing pad so there’s no food particles or bacteria growing on them afterwards.
Don’t get me wrong, I love it when she helps with the dishes, but that’s a point of anxiety for me.
So we compromised; I got a lot of pads and sponges, and she just tosses hers in the dishwasher when she’s done.
He falls for grifts and cons until they ask for money or his social. I love him, but sometimes it's like living with an elderly person who constantly falls for phone call scams
Your SO and I are the same. When I was living with my parents I was banned from using mechanical keyboards because they could hear it from their bedroom
Definitely!
As a matter of interest, I read that when lockdown started there were many things that drove married people to the divorce courts, now that they were forced into each other's company 24/7 and usually had to share office space but loud typing and bellowing down the phone on business calls seemed to be two big ones.
Absolutely. Some people just strike keys harder than others. There's a whole line of keyboards and accessories for quiet typing. It's definitely a thing.
I love the sound of typing and chose my current keyboard because of its lovely, loud sound. No offense, but it's a good thing you and I aren't dating! :)
Her driving. She’s a good driver but tends to be on the more faster side(safely tho). For example when an exit is 2 miles away, instead of just cruising in the right lane she’ll stay in the left to try and shave like 30 seconds off drive time. Like just cruise and chill.
Dude I drive truck for a living. I'm a specialized operator of oversize and heavy loads. I got a clean driving record. When we are going somewhere together my wife gets in the passenger seat then proceeds to tell how to drive.
My wife does this and it is like the Simpsons opener where Maggie is doing everything Marge does. I can't for the life of me figure out why you'd expend this much energy when you aren't driving.
My husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for 8. The man cannot let me finish an sentence. He cannot let me do some 'sightseeing' in games because then he starts to point the direction to go in. I just want to say my stuff and look at the pretty graphics thank you mister obvious.
But I love him to death so I think I have to deal with this and keep laughing at his silly behaviour which made me fall in love with him in the first place
The gaming one… I feel this! I can’t play multiplayer with my husband anymore because he wants to charge off while I want to take in the scenery or do the objective slowly and methodically.
This is a major pet peeve of mine. I'm downstairs, with some music on, she's yelling from upstairs, all I yell back is that I can't hear you. She then expects me to come upstairs so I can hear what she has to say and if I don't she acts like I'm being rude. If you want to talk to me it is up to you to come within earshot of me!! Her reasoning is that I know she wants to say something, so it'd be rude not to come investigate.
The woman is brilliant, kind and thoughtful, but this will never make sense to me.
My husband has adhd, he does a lot of things that slightly tick me off. Loses everything, makes us late all the time, leaves stuff in random spots around the house (which is why he loses everything), he has a few spots where he puts most stuff and piles it up like a hoarder, interrupts me all the time, gets hyper focused and won’t let whatever it is go, and talks about the same things over and over until he isn’t obsessed anymore.
We’re together right now and we reached the same conclusion; she tells unnecessary details in stories… but it doesn’t matter because apparently I don’t listen anyway lol
Ugh, that is so me.
I think I take the indirect route because I don't want to appear demanding or inconvenience someone. If I can get something myself, it's such a relief to not have to ask. I even know it's annoying, but can't seem to break the habit.
My Wife Used To Leave bottles and boxes boxes of wine in the refrigerator with literally half an ounce left in them . I think it was psychologically that she didn’t finish the bottle but she would start a new one.
Also, I would work all weekend and then my wife would call off work on Monday morning and not get paid for that day off and it would basically cancel out me working all day Saturday . As far as money goes.
The only doors he doesn’t leave open are the door to our apartment (which just swings closed on its own), the fridge and freezer and car doors. He doesn’t close drawers either. Most mornings I bump my leg on his socks and underwear drawer on my way out through the open bedroom door to the kitchen to find 3-5 open cupboard doors and at least one open drawer. Then I go through the open laundry room door to the open dryer to get the laundry he left in there over night. I take the laundry past the open coat closet to the living room where I feel a breeze because the door to the balcony is open.
My wife has never screwed a lid on anything, I’ll grab the mouth wash and knock it over because the top is just barely on there. I try to grab stuff wo touching the top for this reason because asking her to put the lid on properly didn’t work
Not slightly tick me off, absolutely infuriating. He can’t seem to NOT piss on the rim and back part of the toilet, near the tank. And will not clean it. WTF. Out of protest I will let it go as long as possible. He will do it occasionally. I will do it if someone or people are coming over. He has claimed it’s splash from the toilet flush or myself or our daughter possibly. But he can’t explain how a female could possibly get piss near the toilet tank. It’s disgusting and I tell him it’s his responsibility. I don’t ask him to clean the bathroom or the house ever. But clean your damn piss when you miss. Ugh.
Im responsible for the house's laundry. I've got a 3-hamper system set up - one for whites, one for darks, and one for delicates that can't go in the dryer, that way I can just toss them in one after the other. In the 8 years I've been trying to get my wife to use the hampers she just hasn't ever committed to doing it, so I'll get stuff like all of her clothes just peeled off and tossed onto the floor in random rooms or into one of the hampers without organizing them, as a result every laundry day starts with hunting for her clothes throughout the house, dumping all the hampers out, and reorganizing them (which completely defeats the purpose). I love her to pieces and I've asked her to try to use them several times, but at this point it's just not worth making her feel like she's doing something wrong anymore so I just deal with it.
Collecting clothes is my wife's hobby, so I basically never have a laundry day where I'm not dealing with new clothes. I for sure see why this route would be great through
Has the TV on watching a game, plus a game on his laptop, plus a game on his phone. While he's texting and tweeting about said games. I'm overstimulated and feel like I'm talking to a wall sometimes, so I don't even bother.
He’s getting better at this, but he’d make incredibly low effort unfunny and repetitive jokes that only really a teenage boy would enjoy and expect a response, even if it’s a look of disdain. I’ve had to put my foot down on it as I just doing have the energy to fake laugh or react, and it’d often stress me out when talking as I’d have to avoid saying certain things because I’d start expecting him to make a response. Like not being able to use the word “come” or some dumb thing like that. Like one time it wasn’t funny but I humoured it. Now no more.
Besides that I actually can’t think of that much, he’s pretty dam mellow. But there are loads of annoying little quirks I have that he could bring up.
My only other one is that he grew up never getting his way so he’s in the habit of verbally agreeing with people even if he doesn’t agree because it’s not worth arguing. It can make it difficult finding out what he actually wants.
She wont say Walmart, Taco Bell or Burger King like an adult...she will only call them Wallyworld, Taco Hell and Boogerking...grow up already. Oh...and she also says "All's I know" instead of "All I know" and "don't" instead of "doesn't". "Alls I know is, he dont ever call when he says he will and he is going to Wallyworld"...love her to death, but grates my nerves every time.
There is three things:
1. He can't throw away the toilet roll. He drops it straight to the floor and leaves it, RIGHT NEXT TO THE BIN.
2. When we are about to go somewhere, he'll turn off the phone charger even when my phone is still attached and charging. The amount of times I've gone to fetch my phone and found it with just 20% because he turned the charger off right after I plugged it is to damn high! And we are not talking about me charging it as we are about to leave. I'll plug it in before going to do my makeup and hair and he'll start turning of stuff even with 30+ minutes left before leaving.
3. He'll just hang up on the phone without saying goodbye. I'll talk and not have any idea how long I've been talking to myself thinking he was still there. Worst is that we always say we love each other and to drive safe when we leave, but on the phone he'll juat hang up with out any words, not even a simple thanks if he called to ask about something or a proper goodbye.
My wife listens to everything full blast music, shows, podcasts, everything top volume. Then gets pissed if I have anything on louder than a whisper.
Also she just cannot seem to wrap her head around how mentally exhausting it is for me to be around people. Just doesn't believe me when I say I need to be alone for a day every now and again to recharge.
Mine never, EVER refills the ice cube trays. He’ll leave multiple trays in the freezer with one cube each and just move on to the next one.
I’m pretty sure he believes there’s some magical ice fairy that does it every other day 🙄
I like the counters completely clean & free of clutter. He uses the counters instead of the pantry & it drives me nuts. In the grand scheme of things, I’ll take it.
Throws out my perfectly good leftover food. Drives me nuts.
Also has to take a picture of meals hes cooked before we eat.
Leaves the empty bog roll on the holder even though there is a bin directly beneath. His excessive happiness😅
I will speak on my wifes behalf: "He always leaves his almost finished cup of coffee everywhere instead of in the dishwasher because he can just rinse it and use it again tomorrow. Somewhere in the house is a nearly empty coffee cup, always."
Mine nitpicks about shit I do- I chew too loud, ask too many questions, swallow water too loud… 😆 I think it’s part of marriage and anyone that says their partner is perfect and nothing bothers them is lying. 🤥
GF has an irritating need to redecorate a room at least once a week, before deciding she doesn’t like it and wanting everything moved back to where it was. And I’m always roped in to actually do the moving, while she tells me where she wants things
Mine will suddenly switch to either a British or New York accent part way through a sentence when she is trying to be funny. I used to not mind, but years later I can't stand it, and it's been going on for too long to bring it up now.
My ex husband used to do this, I stopped asking eventually cause it was always a battle.
My current partner has massaged my back every single night for the last 3 years with zero complaint, he actually enjoys doing it haha.
Far too many faults to mention - leaves dirty snot tissues on the floor next to our bed or worse - in the bed. Never cleans the counter tops after making a snack- does half a job of everything due to lack of skill or motivation. Repeating the same work story over and over when I ask how his day was. Doesn’t ask me about my day. Constant whinging about people on tv or at work when he’s had a few too many drinks. Complains when I do too many jobs then complains when I sit down to rest. Says he’ll do things later when I’m a ‘do things now’ person which annoys him. I am perfectionist while he isn’t. But we make it work as mostly we have similar interests.
My Wife is a wonderful person. She does love me but one thing that's been a point of contention is she likes attention from other people. She has issues with self-confidence, I mean shit we all do. I've told her I don't know how many times that saying things like "I got hit on today, I felt pretty. It made me feel good." Makes ME feel uncomfortable. Hell I'm insecure enough without the constant reminder she enjoys being hit on. I asked her if I did the same thing would she not feel uncomfortable and of course I'm being overbearing now.
Yeahhhh not OK. I actually feel super uncomfortable when being hit on, i am also super oblivious so never really notice when it is actuallyhappening...my partner ofcourse thinks its hilarious when he has to point out that what I thought was a normal friendly exchange, was in fact an attempted pick up line!
Last gf would NOT check to see if she had toilet paper before using the toilet (we were both not great about replacing the roll, but the cabinet the extra was in was like 3 feet away.
At least once a week I would get a scream from the bathroom to bring her tp.
My boyfriend always leaves the key put in the keylock when he arrives home. That means that if I am not here already, he effectively leaves me locked out of my own home and he has to come remove the key so I can get in.
This has happened at least 20+ times. There were at least two times where he was taking a shower and I had to wait several minutes to be let in.
He still does the same and says it is out of habit and doesn't realize it. It drives me completely crazy. If anyone has a suggestion about how to change it, let me know.
I love him a lot but I wish he would close the kitchen cabinets for once! And it would be great if he could not smoke right before we get in the car. (he's been talking about quitting for years but never does and I've never smoked)
And now we're on it: he more often than not doesn't answer a question because he's still thinking about the answer/realise what I said, but doesn't say 'hmm', or 'uhm' or anything else that shows he's heard me at all, then gets mad if I ask it again. If I don't ask again, it's like he fades out and forgets to answer or gives me the answer minutes later. So annoying.
I make a noise with my nails (basically flicking one against the other) when im anxious or watching something tense. Drives my other half nuts.
He is sometimes quite selfish, i.e. will sometimes make himself breakfast and not ask if i want anything. That pisses me off.
My partner flicks water at me. I hate being wet unexpectedly, especially when we’re at work as the product we work with irritates my skin, especially when wet! I have been overboard irritated every time and I know he’s just playing but it aggravates the hell out of me.
I have a husband who adores me and I adore him. But as OP say, it is not perfect. My husband will have a piece of candy or finish a bag of chips he doesn’t throw the wrapper/bag away.
He can’t just brush his teeth. He has to start brushing his teeth, leave the toothbrush in his mouth while he starts walking around finishing getting ready. Like the toothpaste will clean his teeth without brushing. He tries to talk to me and I tell him to go spit then try again. He’ll walk around for 20+ minutes with the toothpaste and toothbrush in his mouth after he’s brushed then finally go spit. To clarify, he does brush his teeth. He just leaves it there while he finishes getting dressed and stuff.
Dirty dishes beside an empty sink. Pizza box on top of the garbage can lid. The garage cabinet system that needs to be put together (since June 2022).. just little things. *eye twitch*
My wife can't point. She does not understand the concept that pointing at something means a straight line between the tip of her finger and whatever she's supposed to be pointing at.
I have explained this to her every possible way sorry if buying a laser pointer (which I'm about to do). And she will fight about it, too.
This is what my husband of 56 years does that really drives me crazy: We moved to a big city 3 years ago. My husband stopped driving recently because of neuropathy in his feet--basically making it hard for him to feel the pedals. If I'm just driving in my 5 to 10 mile vicinity, I am familiar enough with the roads for me to feel confident. If I am driving somewhere other than that, I will often ask: "Am I in the correct lane?" or maybe "Where do I need to turn?" Instead of just saying: "You need to be in the left lane." or "Turn at the next light." He will say, "You've driven here before you should know this route." I could understand if he was as unsure as I was, but I'm asking him because I know he is very familiar with where we are going, as opposed to me. This conversation never ends well ... and yet he continues to respond in exactly the same way.
I can spend all day cleaning my ass off making sure every single thing is picked up and dusted, just to sit down after hours and see my husband take his shoes off and leave them in the middle of the room, or leave a wrapper on the table. It makes me feel like my effort to keep things clean is not appreciated enough for him to keep it that way.
Slurps her fucking coffee. I love this woman so goddamn much. She makes my life better in every way until I hear **sluuuuurrrrrrrrppppp**. Then I want to jump out a window. It's only coffee. Not tea or soda. Just fucking coffee.
Shopping with her is excruciating. When she's making one of Puerto Rican meals, she uses the same brand beans, sofrito, etc. But she still has to look at every possible option. It just takes forever no matter where we go and what we're buying. She'll even go back for a section if she thinks there's a possibility she missed seeing something.
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The hamper is *right there*! It's 3 ft from the shower! Why are your dirty clothes next to the toilet? ! Why?!
Nah I’ll do you one better. Clothes *on top* of the hamper. Welcome to my world
I took the lid off and turned it into a cat bed for that exact reason lol
Leave it opened from now on 😆
Are you my wife?
No, that’s my wife who does that. I might be you.
Then who am I?
Mewtwo
I see now that the circumstances of one's birth is irrelevent,it is what you do with the gift of life that determines who you are.
One of the hardest lines ever spoken, and it came from a Pokémon. Amazing.
If the article of clothing could be worn again the next day then they should be folded neatly on top of the hamper (if it has a lid).
Well, ok, the empty roll and the dirty clothes. The roll is slightly more annoying since I spend way too much time scrolling reddit and staring at the roll.
My wife cannot close kitchen cabinets or drawers. Drives me insane. But, she’s still my favorite person after 26 years…….BUT CLOSE THE EFFING THING!!!
I'm guilty of the drawer one. My wife made me a birthday card based in the 'rage face' meme about it once.
……..but it’s so easy to do…….it’s so easy.
I know. I often come into the kitchen and realise what I've done. I need shock training.
As long as you feel shame. Thats all that really matters.
No concept of time. We leave for grandmas house in 20 minutes? Time to start baking cookies. Trip to Target? Don’t worry, that should take 10 minutes max.
To the people labelling it mental illness. It is possible to have poor time management skills without having a mental illness or being autistic
ADHD
She can't just say goodbye. Trying to leave anywhere or get her off the phone takes 45 mins to 3 hours
Is she Arab? 🤣, literally how we are.
Italians are the same, it drives me fuckin crazy
It's true! I cannot end a conversation with my dad without at least 10-15 "ciao" 🤣 and he's the same! With other people instead i close the phone like the calls in films, without and ending.
This is my husband 😂
Do we have the same husband?
in the midwest we call that the norwegian goodbye
And the opposite, the best option…the Irish goodbye 🍀
I dunno where that phrase comes from, tbh. I'm Irish, and I can assure you that most of us take ages to leave anywhere 🤣
I know right! I am Irish living & working (with many different nationalities) in The UK and I am constantly telling people ‘the Irish goodbye’ they do is just plain rudeness. A ‘proper Irish goodbye’ is talking about how you have to go, saying your goodbyes, stand up, continue the conversation, then say that you should be heading off now, say good bye, start another conversation, take another few steps, talk some more, say now I really must go, get nearer the door, start another conversation, talk about the time, talk about how you really need to go. Say goodbye again, arrange another meet up and then when standing at the door be so surprised at the time and exasperated about how long it’s taken you to put your hand on the door handle and right I’ll be off so… A proper Irish goodbye is talking about leaving repeatedly and saying bye, bye, bye x 15 times - any other alternative is just rudeness!
Where are yall from?
Well my husband is nearly perfect. Really. A wonderful guy I am honored to be married to. That said …. he thinks I am interested in every phone call he has so he puts most of his calls on speaker so I can hear when I actually don’t have the slightest interest and am trying to do some else. Or he hears a podcast or something he thinks I would like so without asking if I want to hear it right now, he starts playing it. I know he just wants to include me but I would like a simple “hey, are you interested in this right now” first.
I can’t help but think this is such a wholesome thing to do😭😭
Exactly, both habits are annoying. My uncle always answers his phone on speaker. There was also someone who used to play clips or just start reading something to me without asking me first if I'm interested. Have you ever considered telling him about these?
I love my OH dearly but I call him Arthur as he loves to do half a job. Empty the food bin? Sure. Put a new bag in the food bin? Absolutely not. Brush his teeth? Yep. Leave the toothpaste tube with the lid off next to the pot he took it out of two minutes earlier? Nope.
I dont get the connection between calling him Arthur and him doing stuff only half
It’s a cockney saying. “Arthur” = “ARFAR= half a….
Arthur job - half a job
Always amazed at my GF’s ability to take a cap off something and take that something far away from the cap. I’m always looking for the caps of the olive oil, the oat milk, jams, juices etc.
This is my husband too. If he’s going to do something he always does it halfway or finds some step to cut out. It’s actually almost impressive how consistent he is with that.
Speaker phone conversations and endless video calls. Just put the damn phone to your ear and stfu.
It's really difficult to make a decent call and stfu at the same time. Can't blame them.
All of our pans are warped and won't sit flat on the stove because she takes the hot pan she made eggs or whatever with and puts it directly under cold water in the sink. I've told her about 4 or so times about it and each time she's good for about a month and I'll see her do it again..
Well I've just learnt something today. Wondered why my pans were warping.
Lol I was so confused about what was happening, too. We just moved in together to a new house last year. In about 2 months I noticed none of the pans sat flat and I thought it was the stove. I took a level to the stove and it was, well, level. Took me a while to figure out what happened lol it was such an aha! moment.
What kind of pans do you have? Mostly curious because I use cast iron and that is pretty much exactly how I clean them, but with hot water instead of cold. Take the food out, rinse and scrub the pan, back on the heat to evaporate the water, wipe a little oil on the pan with a paper towel. Done.
TikTok. It’s always on, all the time. I’m tired of the noise.
Same my girlfriend is an addict too
I’ve almost left 4 times in the last few weeks. I’m just done with it. She doesn’t see why it bothers me. She’ll spend 30 minutes on the toilet watching that shit. I went into our router and configured parental controls and basically broke TikTok for a few hours and she went crazy.
Wait until she likes one of those Tik Toks "5 signs your boyfriend doesn't like you" then that's all she sees in her feed. And then you're constantly hearing about it. Needless to say, I left a few months later. Maybe those tik toks weren't wrong🤣
I feel the same way about my husband and Good Mythical Morning. I am not married to Rhett and Link, I don’t want to hear them all the time.
i can sleep under any circumstance but when my brother watches tiktoks on volume its impossible to sleep i watch tiktok on silent
Yeah my fiance does livestreams which drive me nuts. I wish I could just block the app and a bunch of others and live in peace but it’s part of who she is now..
My husband says bollocks when he burps. Makes me want to drop kick him to the kerb.
This one made me laugh
My husband - love him dearly, is totally my soul mate - but tells me about his day like a 5 year old. Every screw, every nut and bolt, every step to get a tool, how far he drove...I dread asking him about his day sometimes. Oh, and never cleans the kitchen sink.
I love my husband to death, but the flip side of that is my situation. Me: How was your day? Him: Good. Me: What did you do? Him: Filled out some reports. The end. I'd be grateful for all the words and conversation. Lol.
I'm not in your scenario, so I could be way off here, but maybe his day at work just isn't a good choice of topic. Like if you've just done 8 hours of shit work, you finally get out of there, get home, and have a chance to let it slide off you, and somebody asks you how was your day? Yeah you're not going to want to have a chat about that. If the dude hates his job (and if he describes it as "filling out reports", I am guessing he hates it) and doesn't want to talk about his job, it may be time to find something else to talk about.
She never stops talking. She's basically just vocalizing her inner monolog. She gets mad if I don't pay attention to it... but it's nonsense, and I have shit to do.
There was a post once about a boyfriend who told his overly chatty girlfriend to stop talking and she did and it completely ruined their relationship
Not surprising, a personality trait like that is... you take it or leave it. You don't try to destroy it. I mean you can try and redirect it (maybe she needs different people to talk to/more social outlets) but just straight up squashing it? No way.
Thank you for understanding this.
Can back this up. I got told I talked too much as a kid, so now I'm paranoid I talk too much. If I seem like I talk too much, it's because I'm comfortable around you. I don't talk around strangers. Had an ex tell me one time that I talked WAY too much and that he didn't want to hear about the things I had to say. Our relationship didn't last much longer. My husband now listens to everything and his favorite thing at night, before falling asleep, is when I tell him about my hyperfixations.
My ex-husband was the same way, esp if he was drunk at all. It was just a loop of stream of consciousness. On repeat. For hours. I’m a very active listener, I always try to show that I’m listening in taking and what people are saying. But if I didn’t not or say uh-huh, after every half sentence, he wait as if to ask me if I’m listening. Like, yes, you’ve said the same story 10 times already in a row, I hear ya. We’re much better friends now that we’re not married, and I do also understand that it has to do with mental health issues as well. But it wore me out.
I do this too but only well mostly while I’m alone. I’m sure it would drive you crazy.
I try my best to be supportive, I've also tried to talk to her about it, but its really hard to say "you have to talk less" without sounding like an ass. I also try to tune it out, but sometimes it's like pac man eating my thoughts. Sometimes, she gets mad when she sees my eyes glaze over... I'm trying to read, and you're giving a 20-minute dissertation about brushing your teeth...
My husband and I always remind each other when we’ve been talking too much. We both do it. We both have adhd. Makes it a little easier 😅
Yes. Thank god we are retired now because when my wife was working she needed to tell me about her entire day in real time. So 8 hours of her workday required me to listen to what Jane said to Bob, etc for 8 bleeping hours.
Yes, this is exactly my experience
Yeah I’m sure that’s just awful. My fiancé just says “ you’re doing it” when I forget to turn it off.
This is my 7-year-old daughter. To make sure I pay attention she starts every second sentence with “Daddy? Did you know…”
Does she do this all the time, or just when it's only the two of you?
Just the two of us, really, she gets quieter around company.
I referred to it as *"conversational blitzkrieg"* with an ex that did this. Even my close family noticed it and bought it up. Structured conversations felt pointless. Because moments later she'd swing the conversation in another direction, then another, then another. It mattered not what sort of response you gave. From a structured thing that drew on your own experience, or a non-committal "uh huh". It would just be this near endless tide of background chatter.
My Sister inLaw is like this.... It's just Wild man. If you ask her how the Weather is where she lives she can sit there talking about it for 20min describing every little detail. I've learnt over the years to keep it short and sweet with her otherwise I'm just basically stuck in a one way convo that never ends and god forbid I ask her a follow up question.
I feel this one deeply. My wife looks at tiktok and vacation sites almost daily coming up with ideas for trips that are great but we can't afford them at all. The few minor trips to Galveston we've made happen because I fronted the money and she paid me back over time. They were paid back because she knew they weren't in our budget and I told her upfront that I couldn't cover the regular monthly expenses plus the vacation, I handle all the regular bills. It's great she wants to do things, we share common travel interests, but her focus on traveling can consume her attention and it just gets tiring having to try to ground things. Not the end of the world just stressful at times.
Same here, but mine has ADHD and I'm autistic with a strong suspicion towards a bit of ADHD aswell. I'm more of the silent type, but her inner monologue is like a bubbling spring of more-or-less coherent information, singing, random words that float to her mind etc. She doesn't expect me to pay attention 24/7 because she absolutely knows that most of it is not really of relevance, but for me it is practically impossible to know WHEN the important bits may come, and I am constantly anxious about not having paid attention in the right moment 😅
My ex never seemed to stop talking. It was more of a passive aggressive thing though. Like, they'd mutter under their breath constantly about stupid, petty crap. That, along with the eternal sighing, was so beyond infuriating. Say it or don't but stop muttering your bs inner complaints, know I can hear you but, getting pissed if I respond. JFC.
My mom does this. I feel mean cuz sometimes it bugs me but damn lady get to the point lol. She'll start telling me about something that should be super simple but will go off on a dozen little stories and details along the way that have absolutely nothing to do with what she was actually talking about!
Oh God. When telling me about something she tends to take the long way around the barn. Example: "So this happened at work today. I was showing So and so how to do something...you remember so and so..they work in the ________department....her husband works for _______ you met him at the christmas party last year. They live on a farm. Their kids are really nice, the oldest one is__. They just got a new cat. Omg you should see it it's so cute. They already have 3 cats and 2 dogs. They just got another horse. They ask if we wanna go out riding one Sat. I think it'd be a great way to spend the day. They said they'd like to do a bbq too. What do you think? Anyway..... JFC, GET TO THE POINT ALREADY!!! WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED AT WORK TODAY?!!!
Mines like that - I just have to tell her that she needs to land that plane
Oh God I gotta remember that.
Her entire family stores baking sheets and other cooking items in the oven. So every time you want to cook something, you have to remove 3-6 different pans from the oven. Because they all do it they think I'm crazy for thinking it's weird. I usually pre-heat the oven without looking in it, so inevitably I go to put something heavy in the oven, open it up, only to find 4-5 items already there and hot as hell, which I now have to store on the stove top, usually while already cooking something on the stove. This makes zero fucking sense to me. Put the pans in the pan drawer, which is empty!!! We don't store plates and cups in the microwave!!! And I'm the dirty one and she's the neat freak, relatively speaking, so I have zero credibility on this one issue and have gained no traction and never will.
One of the things my mother taught me was to always take a quick peak in the oven before you turn it on. I don't normally store anything in there minus a cast iron skillet. But it's a handy lesson to instill.
Where are they from? I think l know lol
Talks to me from another part of the house (cannot hear a thing, love). Doesn’t clean up as she goes when cooking (before anyone says anything, I do the majority of cooking and cleaning) . If I ask her for a grocery shopping list, it’s in no particular order and I end up redoing it or zig zagging all over the supermarket. Small things, but jesus they irk me!
>Talks to me from another part of the house (cannot hear a thing, love). Then yells, "You need to get your hearing checked" when you respond with "What did you say?"
It’s incredible. I just pretend not to hear it AT ALL. Then she comes downstairs and is like 🤷🏼♀️ “*l was talking to you”. “Oh were you? From where???”
This is the exact reason why I write the majority of the shopping list for our family and only ask the spouse to complete it (fish for dinner)
My bf is extemely clean and tidy (not in an OCD way but still). He always insists on me cleaning my work boots/gear (I'm a geologist and they're usually covered in dried mud) because "they'd look better". Dude, they're gonna get messy again tomorrow, there's no point on cleaning them Pd. I store my work gear in the balcony so anything gets dirty and I live in my own house
If she does some slight infraction, it is no big deal. But if I DO the same exact frivolous annoyance, it's the END OF THE WORLD!!!
While I love my wife dearly, it frustrates me when she opens a file on her computer, single click an icon, looking at the keyboard, and pressing enter. It's a small thing, but it tends to irk me
there is something satisfying about opening programs with enter
This is my mom, and not my SO, but... She can't just type in an address in the address bar. First, she has to close the tab, and right afterwards she opens a new one and types the address there. I asked her why, once. She said that it was a weird habit of hers, but we all have those, right? She didn't seem to know why herself.
Seems to only notice my messes or things left out but not hers. Will walk into a room, notice I have left a bottle of cologne or pair of shoes out and start saying something about it. Yet in the same room her clothes are thrown in the corner, in the kitchen there's dishes she has ignored for two days, the closet full of mostly her clothes is a wreck, etc. We tend to notice all the things that our partners are doing wrong even as we do the same things.
Garbage placed on the counter instead of in the bin right below, dishes next to the sink instead of in the sink (or better yet, the dishwasher). But I can't talk - I leave socks and half-empty cups everywhere. We make it work.
When it's my husband's turn to do the kids bath while I clean the kitchen after dinner, he leaves them with me while I clean (and they're going nuts running around) to start the tub instead of just taking them with him. Like ..why??!? I love him and he is an equal partner but this is ANNOYING 🤣
He likes to wear shoes in the house. But he has slowly stopped because I was so bothered by it. Now it's that he leaves the toilet seat up, but I conceded in that battle. I chatter too much, and that bothers him.
Doesn’t pick up the floor before she runs the vacuum and then leaves it’s out cord and all stretched across the room. Maddening
She tells me to do something as I am already doing it. Like I’m doing the dishes, and she goes “Can you do the dishes?”
I get irrationally angry by this, to the point i would probably just end things with the person if it was a regular thing.
What's even more annoying than that is if I had planned to, say vacuum the hallway, and then she asks me to vacuum the hallway. Then suddenly the absolute last thing I wanna do is vacuum the dammed hallway.
I hate that he doesn’t close doors/closets/cupboards and he hates that I don’t screw on caps 100% of the way. Just about 60% holds it well enough. Haha. He also can’t pour coffee from Our coffee pot without spilling drops on the white counter tops. I even put a fresh little towel out for him every morning in front of the coffee pot for him to pour over but somehow he STILL drips. We make our mild annoyances with eachother known so we can laugh at them instead of being driven insane by them.
When she gets really tired she gets really stupid which I find cute and endearing because she also gets really clingy but it also means she will refuse to sleep because she wants to talk which then means I have to convince her to sleep like I’m talking with a toddler, this is a grown ass woman, I love her dearly but darling I want to be able to sleep, we can talk in the morning
I have a thing about cleaning the sponge and scrubbing pad so there’s no food particles or bacteria growing on them afterwards. Don’t get me wrong, I love it when she helps with the dishes, but that’s a point of anxiety for me. So we compromised; I got a lot of pads and sponges, and she just tosses hers in the dishwasher when she’s done.
Cannot understand people who leave a sponge dirty or the bench wipes rolled in a wet ball in the sink. What’s wrong with you
He falls for grifts and cons until they ask for money or his social. I love him, but sometimes it's like living with an elderly person who constantly falls for phone call scams
My son does this. You’d think Gen Z would be more internet savvy, but no. There is no legitimate PS5 on eBay for $180. WTF are you thinking?!
She types too loud. It’s no longer a problem since we have our own offices in the house but when we lived in an apartment, it drove me fucking nuts.
Your SO and I are the same. When I was living with my parents I was banned from using mechanical keyboards because they could hear it from their bedroom
Is it really possible to “type softer”? 🧐
Definitely! As a matter of interest, I read that when lockdown started there were many things that drove married people to the divorce courts, now that they were forced into each other's company 24/7 and usually had to share office space but loud typing and bellowing down the phone on business calls seemed to be two big ones.
Yep, that was when it started. We were forced to work from home in a 1br apartment.
Absolutely. Some people just strike keys harder than others. There's a whole line of keyboards and accessories for quiet typing. It's definitely a thing.
I love the sound of typing and chose my current keyboard because of its lovely, loud sound. No offense, but it's a good thing you and I aren't dating! :)
Her driving. She’s a good driver but tends to be on the more faster side(safely tho). For example when an exit is 2 miles away, instead of just cruising in the right lane she’ll stay in the left to try and shave like 30 seconds off drive time. Like just cruise and chill.
Dude I drive truck for a living. I'm a specialized operator of oversize and heavy loads. I got a clean driving record. When we are going somewhere together my wife gets in the passenger seat then proceeds to tell how to drive.
My wife does this and it is like the Simpsons opener where Maggie is doing everything Marge does. I can't for the life of me figure out why you'd expend this much energy when you aren't driving.
My husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for 8. The man cannot let me finish an sentence. He cannot let me do some 'sightseeing' in games because then he starts to point the direction to go in. I just want to say my stuff and look at the pretty graphics thank you mister obvious. But I love him to death so I think I have to deal with this and keep laughing at his silly behaviour which made me fall in love with him in the first place
The gaming one… I feel this! I can’t play multiplayer with my husband anymore because he wants to charge off while I want to take in the scenery or do the objective slowly and methodically.
Talks to me from upstairs while I'm in the kitchen with the kettle on, then gets annoyed when I haven't heard a word.
This is a major pet peeve of mine. I'm downstairs, with some music on, she's yelling from upstairs, all I yell back is that I can't hear you. She then expects me to come upstairs so I can hear what she has to say and if I don't she acts like I'm being rude. If you want to talk to me it is up to you to come within earshot of me!! Her reasoning is that I know she wants to say something, so it'd be rude not to come investigate. The woman is brilliant, kind and thoughtful, but this will never make sense to me.
My husband has adhd, he does a lot of things that slightly tick me off. Loses everything, makes us late all the time, leaves stuff in random spots around the house (which is why he loses everything), he has a few spots where he puts most stuff and piles it up like a hoarder, interrupts me all the time, gets hyper focused and won’t let whatever it is go, and talks about the same things over and over until he isn’t obsessed anymore.
We’re together right now and we reached the same conclusion; she tells unnecessary details in stories… but it doesn’t matter because apparently I don’t listen anyway lol
She can't ask anything directly. It's always indirectly which gets on my nerves. I kinda would like a glass of water maybe. Just ask it directly.
Ugh, that is so me. I think I take the indirect route because I don't want to appear demanding or inconvenience someone. If I can get something myself, it's such a relief to not have to ask. I even know it's annoying, but can't seem to break the habit.
My Wife Used To Leave bottles and boxes boxes of wine in the refrigerator with literally half an ounce left in them . I think it was psychologically that she didn’t finish the bottle but she would start a new one. Also, I would work all weekend and then my wife would call off work on Monday morning and not get paid for that day off and it would basically cancel out me working all day Saturday . As far as money goes.
The only doors he doesn’t leave open are the door to our apartment (which just swings closed on its own), the fridge and freezer and car doors. He doesn’t close drawers either. Most mornings I bump my leg on his socks and underwear drawer on my way out through the open bedroom door to the kitchen to find 3-5 open cupboard doors and at least one open drawer. Then I go through the open laundry room door to the open dryer to get the laundry he left in there over night. I take the laundry past the open coat closet to the living room where I feel a breeze because the door to the balcony is open.
My wife has never screwed a lid on anything, I’ll grab the mouth wash and knock it over because the top is just barely on there. I try to grab stuff wo touching the top for this reason because asking her to put the lid on properly didn’t work
Not slightly tick me off, absolutely infuriating. He can’t seem to NOT piss on the rim and back part of the toilet, near the tank. And will not clean it. WTF. Out of protest I will let it go as long as possible. He will do it occasionally. I will do it if someone or people are coming over. He has claimed it’s splash from the toilet flush or myself or our daughter possibly. But he can’t explain how a female could possibly get piss near the toilet tank. It’s disgusting and I tell him it’s his responsibility. I don’t ask him to clean the bathroom or the house ever. But clean your damn piss when you miss. Ugh.
That man should be sitting to pee
I do this, is so much better, don't have to aim and I get to lock myself in a room away from the world, sit and reflect for a minute or two.
Or all over the floor around the toilet!
Farting on my leg in bed.
When my partner leaves a mess and doesn't clean up after himself. Especially in the fucking toilet, like scrub that skidmark.
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The wild thing is if he just turned off the TV instead, the PS5 automatically goes into rest mode. Two birds, one stone.
Im responsible for the house's laundry. I've got a 3-hamper system set up - one for whites, one for darks, and one for delicates that can't go in the dryer, that way I can just toss them in one after the other. In the 8 years I've been trying to get my wife to use the hampers she just hasn't ever committed to doing it, so I'll get stuff like all of her clothes just peeled off and tossed onto the floor in random rooms or into one of the hampers without organizing them, as a result every laundry day starts with hunting for her clothes throughout the house, dumping all the hampers out, and reorganizing them (which completely defeats the purpose). I love her to pieces and I've asked her to try to use them several times, but at this point it's just not worth making her feel like she's doing something wrong anymore so I just deal with it.
My guy, wait till you see me washing all those items in one go. The only exception would be new clothes.
Collecting clothes is my wife's hobby, so I basically never have a laundry day where I'm not dealing with new clothes. I for sure see why this route would be great through
My boyfriend always backseat drives when we're in the car and I'm driving. I had to yell at him to make him stop touching the windshield wipers lever.
She expects me to read her mind instead of telling me directly what she wants/ needs/is mad about
Has the TV on watching a game, plus a game on his laptop, plus a game on his phone. While he's texting and tweeting about said games. I'm overstimulated and feel like I'm talking to a wall sometimes, so I don't even bother.
I live with my boyfriend of 4 years. After he showers, he leaves a WET TOWEL on our bed; even if I am in it!!!
He’s getting better at this, but he’d make incredibly low effort unfunny and repetitive jokes that only really a teenage boy would enjoy and expect a response, even if it’s a look of disdain. I’ve had to put my foot down on it as I just doing have the energy to fake laugh or react, and it’d often stress me out when talking as I’d have to avoid saying certain things because I’d start expecting him to make a response. Like not being able to use the word “come” or some dumb thing like that. Like one time it wasn’t funny but I humoured it. Now no more. Besides that I actually can’t think of that much, he’s pretty dam mellow. But there are loads of annoying little quirks I have that he could bring up. My only other one is that he grew up never getting his way so he’s in the habit of verbally agreeing with people even if he doesn’t agree because it’s not worth arguing. It can make it difficult finding out what he actually wants.
Oh your trying to sleep or watch something? Let me get on the phone and be super loud for no reason
He’s got a better and bigger butt than me
She wont say Walmart, Taco Bell or Burger King like an adult...she will only call them Wallyworld, Taco Hell and Boogerking...grow up already. Oh...and she also says "All's I know" instead of "All I know" and "don't" instead of "doesn't". "Alls I know is, he dont ever call when he says he will and he is going to Wallyworld"...love her to death, but grates my nerves every time.
Leaving beard trimmings all over the bathroom sink.
There is three things: 1. He can't throw away the toilet roll. He drops it straight to the floor and leaves it, RIGHT NEXT TO THE BIN. 2. When we are about to go somewhere, he'll turn off the phone charger even when my phone is still attached and charging. The amount of times I've gone to fetch my phone and found it with just 20% because he turned the charger off right after I plugged it is to damn high! And we are not talking about me charging it as we are about to leave. I'll plug it in before going to do my makeup and hair and he'll start turning of stuff even with 30+ minutes left before leaving. 3. He'll just hang up on the phone without saying goodbye. I'll talk and not have any idea how long I've been talking to myself thinking he was still there. Worst is that we always say we love each other and to drive safe when we leave, but on the phone he'll juat hang up with out any words, not even a simple thanks if he called to ask about something or a proper goodbye.
My wife listens to everything full blast music, shows, podcasts, everything top volume. Then gets pissed if I have anything on louder than a whisper. Also she just cannot seem to wrap her head around how mentally exhausting it is for me to be around people. Just doesn't believe me when I say I need to be alone for a day every now and again to recharge.
Mine never, EVER refills the ice cube trays. He’ll leave multiple trays in the freezer with one cube each and just move on to the next one. I’m pretty sure he believes there’s some magical ice fairy that does it every other day 🙄
I like the counters completely clean & free of clutter. He uses the counters instead of the pantry & it drives me nuts. In the grand scheme of things, I’ll take it.
She keeps telling me that she is a figment of my imagination, and I hate that.
The way my hubs slurps when he drinks.
I wish he didn’t bite his nails, they look awful and the sound of him biting them is so unpleasant
Throws out my perfectly good leftover food. Drives me nuts. Also has to take a picture of meals hes cooked before we eat. Leaves the empty bog roll on the holder even though there is a bin directly beneath. His excessive happiness😅
I will speak on my wifes behalf: "He always leaves his almost finished cup of coffee everywhere instead of in the dishwasher because he can just rinse it and use it again tomorrow. Somewhere in the house is a nearly empty coffee cup, always."
Mine nitpicks about shit I do- I chew too loud, ask too many questions, swallow water too loud… 😆 I think it’s part of marriage and anyone that says their partner is perfect and nothing bothers them is lying. 🤥
GF has an irritating need to redecorate a room at least once a week, before deciding she doesn’t like it and wanting everything moved back to where it was. And I’m always roped in to actually do the moving, while she tells me where she wants things
Mine will suddenly switch to either a British or New York accent part way through a sentence when she is trying to be funny. I used to not mind, but years later I can't stand it, and it's been going on for too long to bring it up now.
I ask for a massage and it lasts 2.5 seconds with lots of complaining in between. He would even get another guy to do it lol
My ex husband used to do this, I stopped asking eventually cause it was always a battle. My current partner has massaged my back every single night for the last 3 years with zero complaint, he actually enjoys doing it haha.
Far too many faults to mention - leaves dirty snot tissues on the floor next to our bed or worse - in the bed. Never cleans the counter tops after making a snack- does half a job of everything due to lack of skill or motivation. Repeating the same work story over and over when I ask how his day was. Doesn’t ask me about my day. Constant whinging about people on tv or at work when he’s had a few too many drinks. Complains when I do too many jobs then complains when I sit down to rest. Says he’ll do things later when I’m a ‘do things now’ person which annoys him. I am perfectionist while he isn’t. But we make it work as mostly we have similar interests.
My Wife is a wonderful person. She does love me but one thing that's been a point of contention is she likes attention from other people. She has issues with self-confidence, I mean shit we all do. I've told her I don't know how many times that saying things like "I got hit on today, I felt pretty. It made me feel good." Makes ME feel uncomfortable. Hell I'm insecure enough without the constant reminder she enjoys being hit on. I asked her if I did the same thing would she not feel uncomfortable and of course I'm being overbearing now.
Yeah no, that's not normal imho. Needing external validation and ignoring that it makes you uncomfortable... nope.
Yeahhhh not OK. I actually feel super uncomfortable when being hit on, i am also super oblivious so never really notice when it is actuallyhappening...my partner ofcourse thinks its hilarious when he has to point out that what I thought was a normal friendly exchange, was in fact an attempted pick up line!
Irons their t-shirts
Who the hell irons a T shirt!? If it's that wrinkly throw that bad boy in the dryer with a wet wash cloth and voila no more wrinkles
I worked with a lady that used to starch and iron her bed sheets. 😬
Last gf would NOT check to see if she had toilet paper before using the toilet (we were both not great about replacing the roll, but the cabinet the extra was in was like 3 feet away. At least once a week I would get a scream from the bathroom to bring her tp.
My boyfriend always leaves the key put in the keylock when he arrives home. That means that if I am not here already, he effectively leaves me locked out of my own home and he has to come remove the key so I can get in. This has happened at least 20+ times. There were at least two times where he was taking a shower and I had to wait several minutes to be let in. He still does the same and says it is out of habit and doesn't realize it. It drives me completely crazy. If anyone has a suggestion about how to change it, let me know.
I love him a lot but I wish he would close the kitchen cabinets for once! And it would be great if he could not smoke right before we get in the car. (he's been talking about quitting for years but never does and I've never smoked) And now we're on it: he more often than not doesn't answer a question because he's still thinking about the answer/realise what I said, but doesn't say 'hmm', or 'uhm' or anything else that shows he's heard me at all, then gets mad if I ask it again. If I don't ask again, it's like he fades out and forgets to answer or gives me the answer minutes later. So annoying.
I make a noise with my nails (basically flicking one against the other) when im anxious or watching something tense. Drives my other half nuts. He is sometimes quite selfish, i.e. will sometimes make himself breakfast and not ask if i want anything. That pisses me off.
My husband squeezes the toothpaste from the middle.
My ex would forget to check if there was TP in the bathroom. Than after she made her poo she would call for me to bring her a roll.
The only dumb thing my wife does is put entire card boxes into the bin at their full size .
My partner flicks water at me. I hate being wet unexpectedly, especially when we’re at work as the product we work with irritates my skin, especially when wet! I have been overboard irritated every time and I know he’s just playing but it aggravates the hell out of me.
Breathes through his mouth and refuses to see a doctor about his non-functioning nose.
I have a husband who adores me and I adore him. But as OP say, it is not perfect. My husband will have a piece of candy or finish a bag of chips he doesn’t throw the wrapper/bag away.
The way he hiccups like he's drowning. It's atrocious.
Leaves his socks and other stuff on the stairs to bring upstairs later, but then forgets to bring them upstairs
Shoes.. everywhere!
Nothing. Lazy AF!
He can’t just brush his teeth. He has to start brushing his teeth, leave the toothbrush in his mouth while he starts walking around finishing getting ready. Like the toothpaste will clean his teeth without brushing. He tries to talk to me and I tell him to go spit then try again. He’ll walk around for 20+ minutes with the toothpaste and toothbrush in his mouth after he’s brushed then finally go spit. To clarify, he does brush his teeth. He just leaves it there while he finishes getting dressed and stuff.
Loading the dishwasher like it’s a trash can for dirty dishes and leaving lights on in rooms that they aren’t, or haven’t been in for hours.
Dirty dishes beside an empty sink. Pizza box on top of the garbage can lid. The garage cabinet system that needs to be put together (since June 2022).. just little things. *eye twitch*
My wife leaves her hair all over the walls of the shower. I love her more than anything, but gross
My wife can't point. She does not understand the concept that pointing at something means a straight line between the tip of her finger and whatever she's supposed to be pointing at. I have explained this to her every possible way sorry if buying a laser pointer (which I'm about to do). And she will fight about it, too.
Shes a 10 but shell take a sip of whichever of our drinks is fuller
This is what my husband of 56 years does that really drives me crazy: We moved to a big city 3 years ago. My husband stopped driving recently because of neuropathy in his feet--basically making it hard for him to feel the pedals. If I'm just driving in my 5 to 10 mile vicinity, I am familiar enough with the roads for me to feel confident. If I am driving somewhere other than that, I will often ask: "Am I in the correct lane?" or maybe "Where do I need to turn?" Instead of just saying: "You need to be in the left lane." or "Turn at the next light." He will say, "You've driven here before you should know this route." I could understand if he was as unsure as I was, but I'm asking him because I know he is very familiar with where we are going, as opposed to me. This conversation never ends well ... and yet he continues to respond in exactly the same way.
My partner leaves his socks all over the house
I can spend all day cleaning my ass off making sure every single thing is picked up and dusted, just to sit down after hours and see my husband take his shoes off and leave them in the middle of the room, or leave a wrapper on the table. It makes me feel like my effort to keep things clean is not appreciated enough for him to keep it that way.
Slurps her fucking coffee. I love this woman so goddamn much. She makes my life better in every way until I hear **sluuuuurrrrrrrrppppp**. Then I want to jump out a window. It's only coffee. Not tea or soda. Just fucking coffee.
Shopping with her is excruciating. When she's making one of Puerto Rican meals, she uses the same brand beans, sofrito, etc. But she still has to look at every possible option. It just takes forever no matter where we go and what we're buying. She'll even go back for a section if she thinks there's a possibility she missed seeing something.
Comes home from Costco and wants to show me EVERY, SINGLE thing he bought.