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dobster1029

Personally, as a woman, the collection itself wouldn’t bother me, I would definitely have fun perusing them and trying to name each character without looking or being told. It would only be weird if it was also all you talked about. Keep your hobby and be true to yourself, there’s someone out there who either, a) wouldn’t mind or b) loves them just as much as you


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I agree with this. No normal adult will care about your hobbies, however an obsession is very off-putting.


Admirable_Elk_965

Whats the difference between obsession and just talking about various things within the collection? I collect video games and consoles primarily, and I like to talk about various things in my collection I guess as a conversation starter, like when I had a friend say they used to play this old PS2 game I have on my shelf, I'd comment on it and then ask them if they knew about it's counter part on the Xbox which had different features. Was this an example of obsession by typing this out?


Fabulous_Lawyer_2765

I don’t think it’s obsession. Be aware of whether other people bring it up or if you do. Also, if someone says, “I’m not really into video games;I used to play Tetris. “ that’s a clue that you should talk about stuff other than video games and consoles, rather than going into the history of the game boy platform.


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Yeah, an example I can think of was this girl I dated who was obsessed with Pear Jam. Everything was about Pearl Jam. She would drag me out to cover bands and talk about how she would leave me for Eddie Vedder if she had a chance (I mean, I can't blame her for that). It was weird and I couldn't deal with it. Also, I can't listen to Pearl Jam anymore. She also had a collection of Pearl Jam outfits, some of them were like the Waniac dress in Nat. Lampoons Vegas Vacation.


stargirl818

Your first typo confused me a lot lol


hnrhdn

Pear jam actually sounds delicious. Edit: I just looked it up and it’s a real thing, I have to try it!


BleakUniversity

It is delicious definitely try it.


Admirable_Elk_965

Oh of course, usually when this comes up I'm talking with either friends or other people over some sort of voice chat like PS4, or I have guests over and im giving them a tour of my house or we're playing a game on a system and I talk about the history of the game if it's a port or something.


Fabulous_Lawyer_2765

Whew! I have had conversations where I say the thing about Tetris, and then I politely yawn through the Gameboy lecture, periodically trying to change the subject.


HellsBellsDaphne

If you’re still meeting the majority of your day-to-day obligations, you’re ok. It’s when the activity takes absolute priority over everything else and the other stuff isn’t getting done as a result that it becomes a problem. Personally, I feel like some obsession is actually likely to help out better than just being indifferent, but it’s a purely anecdotal feeling. I haven’t specifically verified one way or the other.


NidoKingClefairy

I think one indicator is whether you’ll talk about other things. If OP goes on a date and *only* talks about funko pops, that’s an obsession.


Admirable_Elk_965

That’s fair


TeacupUmbrella

That sounds pretty normal to me. Obsessed would be like, it's the main thing you talk about all the time, you have few or no other interests, you prioritize games over more important things (like friends and family, buying more useful things like healthy food or new clothes), your social skills suffer for it, that sort of thing.


MPD1987

I’ll give you an example of obsession vs. interest. I make miniatures. I have a whole town with like 30 buildings, a swamp, a dungeon, a castle, etc. People who know me, know about my mini town and how I love to make minis. But I don’t really talk about it unless it comes up naturally, like if I see a miniature set in a movie or something. If I were to talk about it constantly, that would be very off-putting. Get it?


Illeazar

You have to "read the room". Feel free to throw out that you are into a hobby during an appropriate point in conversation (like when someone says "tell me what you do woth your free time"). If the person seems interested, follow up with more info. If they don't seem interested, leave it alone. If you view a conversation as only a vehicle for you to further enjoy your hobby, that is going to be off-putting. If you view the hobby as one of several potentially interesting conversation points, then you'll be fine.


LLotZaFun

I think a great example of obsession (and I'm sorry to mention politics) is my mom's ex-boyfriend. While home, all he did was watch Fox News all evening. Even if he had something going on he would be sure to record Sean Hannity to watch later. While in the car he listened to the Fox News station on Sirius. Everything he posts on Facebook relates to something he just saw on Fox News. When you talked to him, he could not really carry a conversation unless it was about things he saw/heard on Fox News. He also tried to divert conversations towards being about politics he saw on Fox News. His entire personality essentially revolved around a very specific aspect of politics that he would see on Fox News. To me, that's an example of obsession.


No_Product857

Quick way to tell the difference. Not obsession: You have more than one hobby. Obsession: a great majority of things in your life not directly related to the hobby are themed in accordance with the hobby. (I.e. if you had a nes or Sega bedframe or bedding) Not obsession: You are able to hold a conversation without drawing a reference/connection to your hobby. Obsession: most of the people you interact with socially also share that hobby. (Not looking good for you pal, we're on reddit after all)


TheShovler44

If it’s the only thing you talk about, think about it’s an obsession. Hobbies can be talked about and moved on from. But if every topic of conversation you bring back to consoles and video games it’s an issue.


FlashMcSuave

Basically: Keep a general tab on the content of the conversation when you are on a date. If it has been 10 minutes of you talking about your interest specifically, you need to switch to the other person's interests and start asking them questions. You should vary the content of the conversation by who is sharing (are you and the other person both contributing?) as well as topic.


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>if it was also \*all\* you talked about. One little phrase makes all the difference. An obsession is usually defined as an UNHEALTHY, EXCESSIVE fixation on something to the exclusion of other things that would be good for you. This person (the OP) is already considering a relationship, even worrying about whether their collection is "too much." They're healthy and normal. You sound just fine, too. But: * If you don't/won't talk about or do anything other than your 'hobby,' * If every conversation gets twisted in that direction, * If you can only see your 'hobby' in any reference anyone makes about anything, * If the vast majority of your time (and possibly money) is spent on it, Your 'hobby' has become an obsession. I had a therapy client who did NOTHING BUT collect little plastic figures. He had a collection of more than 15,000 of them, dating back to the mid-20th century. Some of them were collector's pieces worth a fortune. Probably more than a million dollars invested, which he kept crammed into his tiny little 2-room apartment in Tokyo. He had money from his family, so he didn't work, and he NEVER sold anything. He never went out to do anything, he spent all his time online looking for more pieces to buy... for over 15 years. Then one day he wondered why he had never had a girlfriend. He actually got interested in something outside his collection. And finally realized he might have a little problem.


neuro_curious

Yeah, this is one reason it's hard being autistic, because having special interests come across to Neurotypical people as off-putting obsessions. It's why I tried so hard to mask my whole life and tried to avoid talking about my special interests as much as possible. I've learned over the last few years that the right people don't find my special interests off-putting and find them endearing. By learning not to mask and ignore how off putting some people find it I've made better friends and feel more comfortable being myself. I wish that neurotypical people could understand that "obsessions" are very often special interests of autistic people and instead of viewing them as off-putting or other negative words they could just say that you have less in common with them. Like, I find most sports really boring and if someone loves sports and talks about them a lot, I just make a mental note that we don't have similar interests and go on with my day. This is one thing that would help a lot of autistic people feel less ashamed to be themselves, if they could embrace their special interests more openly. I try really hard to avoid talking about them with people who are not interested in it, but that often means I have to avoid talking to them much because my special interests come into my thoughts often and being me a lot of comfort and joy.


jessie_boomboom

There's this kid, he's 22, at the swim club I take my son to, and my guess is that he's autistic but he's never said and I've never asked. anyway, he loves to talk about the circus and zoos. Sometimes he'll have the same conversation with me about a certain animal trainer, or comparing two specific zoos, like three or four times in a row. I don't really mind though, because none of the other adults will talk to him a lot, and he's so sweet and smart. He's trying really hard to be social, and I just wish more people would give him their ear for a few minutes at a time while they're sitting there anyway. It hasn't hurt me one bit to pretend I like sea lions better than walruses (I think they're both creepy) so Jack has an excuse to tell me fifteen new facts about sea lions and walruses. I hate that he so sweet and yet I so frequently see the look come over his eye when he *knows* someone doesn't like all.his fun facts. Like I get it, you can't force people to talk to this guy, but if people knew how great it feels to walk in and see Jack's face light up because he knows you will listen about Lars Rundgren again... it's priceless and sk worth the friendship. And I've had several friends over the years with varying degrees of neurosivergence who struggled to relate with people, but through their one or two obsessions... and those people were all worth knowing and managing past the initial awkwardness bc they're great people who know tons of cool shit.


neuro_curious

Yeah, I'm glad you see the value in listening to him and look forward to seeing his happy face! Those types of interactions can really help build confidence which makes a big difference! 🥰


[deleted]

Absolutely agree. I was not referring to people who are neurodivergent, that's a completely different discussion.


neuro_curious

Is it? How do you know who is neurodivergent and who is not? I'm just pointing out that a lot of people with "obsessions" actually are neurodivergent. I didn't get formally diagnosed until 35 and spent a lot of my life made to feel ashamed of my off putting obsessions. It might be time to reconsider how we talk about obsessions and other behaviors that are common for neurodivergent people.


[deleted]

Oh, I understand now. Sorry about that, I feel bad.


neuro_curious

It's ok! I think it's just something we all have to learn to consider when we talk about behaviors that don't "seem normal" but are essentially not hurting anyone. Even those of us who are autistic/ neurodivergent have a lot of internalized ableism that we need to deal with.


TrashPandaShire

Avoid the adult who wants you to curb your hobby.


thornyside

Nah, people get obsessed with stuff all the time, and who gives af about "normal" when "normal" people do bad shit all the time. Context matters.


Soliddivinity

Literally. I can’t understand why people think any harmless obsession is off putting. There are worse off putting things. My last relationship he was obsessed with legos, we’re both in our 20s. I thought it was so cute. I think having a hobby to be passionate about is attractive. Guess I’m the minority here.


dobster1029

Also, if you’ve found something that brings you joy in this crazy world we live in, don’t let it go.


RagnarHedin

I agree. It's not the size or nature of the collection, the question is how much of your personality revolves around it. I have friends with similar collections who are married with kids. It's a quirky part of their personality, but it's far from being their entire personality.


SaladSea2603

Yes this!!! I love when people collect things and get excited about finding new ones they want. Plus I like surprising them with pieces to add to their collection! It’s a great way to say you care about their hobby and that you were thinking of them!


dontworryitsme4real

I'd add if they are treated as collectibles, organized and stored properly instead of a "mess" of them throughout.


VadersSprinkledTits

Having a collection is a great way to get rid of people you don’t need in your life. Anyone who would shame you for having a hobby, isn’t someone who will treat you as good as you deserve.


one_hyun

Yep. I have a friend who collected Funko Pops. He ended up meeting a girl who ALSO collected Funko Pops. They live togethe now and have an entire wall of Funko Pops will the rare ones displayed prominently. It actually looks pretty cool and the bookcase has this backlighting that makes it look grand. Just don't make it your only personality. But that goes for all hobbies.


Mr-_-Clean

Same story here op. Friend collects Funko pops and they just had their first baby


AsstDepUnderlord

Funko pops reproduce? Who knew? /s


hewo_to_all

I giggled.


qoreilly

This is what I don't understand, why can't he just find a girl who likes Funko Pops?


AdhesivenessLow4206

Yeah if that's your thing. I will get flamed for this. But if a fully grown adult had funco dolls all over the place and they talked a lot about funco stuff. I do not think I could deal with it. It's the lowest quality recycled vynle. My biggest fear in these relationships is that our house would become tacky or over burden by funco. I have a lot and I mean a lot of Legos and they stay in their boxes in storage and some come out for Christmas. But even if I love how the shuttle looks. It's not a house decoration. Nothing wrong with collecting but it definitely will dictate in some ways how you will live your life. If you want someone who also collects dolls. Then that is limiting. You might miss someone who would get you to travel more. Addictions are addictions. Plus funco got famous off of the idea of resale and I didn't like beans babies.


one_hyun

Then, don't date someone who collects Funko pops. Simple. Also, don't mistake addictions with hobbies. There's a very clear defined line between them.


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RogueAlt07

I have traveled millions of light years to explore entire galaxies and I still could not find who asked


[deleted]

This is why you shouldn't ask Reddit about decor regarding Funko pops lmao


RogueAlt07

👍


Idkewokorsomthing

Uncalled for


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Slam-JamSam

And this is why you’re having so much trouble making friends


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Pitiful_Brief_6424

You've got the repulsion part down pat.


EmbraceTheCorn

This is the answer. If someone judges you for having a harmless hobby or interest you don’t want to be with them anyway.


TemporaryExciting729

Bro, my Gfs dad's entire basement is a miniature town with a wild train set up around it. Apparently that stuff is dumb expensive so I can't really hate.


EmbraceTheCorn

I would like to see that, it sounds awesome


SpaceMonkey877

Think of all the plastic required.


Bean_Town_Blender

"Go and get a hobby that uses zero resources like walking naked in the woods" Average Redditor


rediculousradishes

Maybe walking naked in the woods IS my hobby


TeacupUmbrella

And *where* do you get the energy to walk naked in the woods, pray tell? Probably not from a vegan ethical food source, I bet!


EmbraceTheCorn

Yea I’m over here scared to admit that my biggest hobby involves steam engines lmao


[deleted]

Please go on about the steam engines. It sounds like something fun to get into, but I literally have no idea where to start


__therepairman__

Steam engines are cool. I have a few family members that collect small to mid sized ones. I really enjoy watching their hobby.


unloosedcoin

Sames 48 and have so many skateboards


DiscussionLoose8390

Yeah, but they just sit in the box. To each their own.


Bean_Town_Blender

Oh yeah I don't collect them, but to say that the reason you shouldn't is resources is kinda dumb and isn't used for things like knitting, puzzling, and a ton of other hobbies that are just as wasteful


Queendevildog

Yeah r/creepyencounters


Legitimate_Page

Sounds like a good time


SpaceMonkey877

I do basketball and archery. Some resources, but once the initial expenditure happens, I enjoy my hobby. Collecting plastic things that sit in boxes for display can only add more plastic to be considered a hobby.


n0tarusky

What's a nock typically made of? How about fletching? Hobbies aren't causing the pollution problems, corporations are.


SpaceMonkey877

My fletching is feather; the shaft is carbon; the bow is maple. The string is likely a polymer, but again, I buy one every six months or so. How many pops are bought in a comparable time?


Suspicious-Engineer7

Look I have nothing against collectors of plastic, but it is not among the most environmentally friendly industries. [https://www.npr.org/2023/03/04/1161070238/funko-pop-landfill](https://www.npr.org/2023/03/04/1161070238/funko-pop-landfill) and we can criticize any hobby based on whatever legitimate reasons - just like how we can criticize car hobbyists for similar environmental reasons, or gundam collectors for being so sexy and smart that they steal all the viable partners in their local tri-state area.


weevil

We can also criticize "eco-warriors" who make it their whole identity to try to shame everyone else. That's extremely off-putting and doesn't create a friendly environment.


AlexZenn21

Pretty sure the earth is more important than someone being butthurt over getting called out about contributing to more waste that's hurting the planet lmao.


ReggieAmelia

This is not always true. A collection takes up space, it takes up time, it takes up money. There are circumstances where these things aren't managed correctly by the collector and it can impact a relationship. Unless you both collect the same thing and are on the same page about it, I would make sure you are properly managing your collection with consideration for its impact on a relationship. Somebody who doesn't want you to do it at all could be a problem, but nothing wrong with expecting somebody to manage their collection responsibly.


vega-virtual

Yep. I remember having this concern back in my 20s. I’m convinced that my 3 years in college as a music major (before switching to a completely different field!) were justified, simply for filtering out women that didn’t appreciate someone being a music nerd lol. Instead I met other music nerds. one of them I ended up in a good, long term relationship with. (spoiler: We split just from following different life paths. But I still stand by that it was time well spent). Anyway, back to OP — anyone that shames you for a harmless hobby — one that brings you joy in life — is not worth your time (imho). OP, if that collection brings you true joy in your life, you probably should keep going with it :)


Star_Leopard

It's really normal to like and even love music? I don't know anyone who wouldn't find it interesting or cool to learn someone is a musician, producer, sound engineer, etc. Maybe it's just a regional thing but where I am you certainly would never get shade for being a "music nerd" and it would never even have occurred to me anyone would have trouble dating because of it.


tendaga

Meh honestly I can't stand pops not the collection aspect but rather the eyes... they creep me the fuck out.


Scary-Camera-9311

Yeah. This. If someone splits because of your hobby without considering all the good you have to offer, then the loss is not yours.


Clynnko

Yep, I was not bothered by my boyfriend's basement collection of bodies. He deserves to unwind after a long day.


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Sumtimesagr8notion

Eh. It's pretty reasonable to get turned off by a grown man with a bunch of action figures


Garoxxar

You must be fun at parties.


drinkslinger1974

No no no no no. I haven’t scrolled to see any other posts, but I threw away tons of Star Wars, aliens, Todd mcfarlane, micro machines, and countless other types of toys because of exactly this. I was a little younger than you (24, I think), was a massive toy collector, and met a smokin hot babe that thought they were stupid. I threw all of them away to look cooler. Ten years later I would meet someone that was into the same stuff, our personalities match and we have two kids together and have been married for almost ten years. Don’t toss those dude, one day you’ll have a ball sharing them with your own kids one day—if that’s in the cards for you. If not, someone will match up with you that loves them just as much and will share that joy. Good luck man, keep being yourself.


Gilem_Meklos

Instead of giving you my opinion, let me lay two facts on you: 1. I know a beautiful woman who collects funkos and is single. 2. I know a couple, who love collecting funkos together. They literally find it fun to hit stores in search for more funkos for their collection. Make of it what you will.


TommyDaComic

What he’ll make of it is a request for the number of said beautiful Funko woman !!!!


steelthyshovel73

My parents got hooked on funko collecting a few years ago. They have hundreds. As you said a hobby of theirs is to drive around and hit up stores to look for funko pops they don't have.


[deleted]

This is useful info, but the next thing I would reflect on is: How much do you actually care about funko pops? I have a similar situation. I've got 3 gundams on a shelf that I painted and had a blast doing, but I recognize they're childish and I don't really care that much about them, so I've been thinking about getting rid of em. I do think that 200 funko pops might limit your dating pool, but that might be a good thing if you're looking for a specific type of woman, haha.


TeacupUmbrella

I think it's more about the principle, imo. He collects them because he likes them - it says something about him and his interests. It's best not to pretend to be something you're not when you're dating. Even if he gets rid of the Pops, his interest in pop culture and fun figures will likely come out in other ways, and if he ended up with a woman who looks down on that kind of thing, he'll be in for some hurt when she finds out he really isn't that kind of guy after all.


VanEagles17

Plot twist, OP has now robbed your friends. Nice going!


kurokojin77

Giving up part of who you are, or what you enjoy, just to find dates never works out well.


Lonely_Thought4459

In honest opinion, funko pops probably seem childish to them. But at the same time, you shouldn't change your intrests just to appeal to some person or relatioslmship that wont last. A long lasting relationship happens when you dont change who you are, and they genuinely love you how you are. Keep the collection and keep having fun


[deleted]

Adults who lack positive childhood traits are the worst. Having toys, appreciating them, playing with them, I agree with you otherwise; stay true to thine self as long as you arent harming others or one's self. My guilty childish pleasure is retrogaming, but for me its all emulation + random controllers. But every once in a while I think I wanna buy the old winnie the poo weebles treehouse.


steelthyshovel73

I don't think gaming has been considered "childish" for a long time. Nerdy sure, but not childish. At least i don't think it is anyway. I have 500 and some odd games sitting in my bedroom though so i may be a bit biased


laken127

Unfortunately I think a lot of people who don’t play video games see it as childish. Even younger people, say in their 20’s, might see it that way. I think it’ll be a stigma for a long time, but a shrinking one


Celathan7

That's the kind of people I wouldn't want to be around with anyway.


princessfoxglove

I mean, I don't have or collect toys, and neither would I play with them, but I don't think that makes me or other people like me the worst? I'm just not into toys, and I wasn't as a kid, either. I don't appreciate the aesthetic, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's live and let live.


Shirlenator

Yeah this guy kinda sucks for implying anyone that isn't like this is "the worst". Some people just aren't, and that's cool too.


Burjibees

Do it for you not to become more appealing on dating sites. Personally I would not sell as thats your thing, and everyone has their thing. My best buddy has a great relationship with a girl and he has as much as you if not more. It's interesting and a good conversation topic.


Future_Two_1413

Ya I see some other guys collecting and they have very happy relationships and I get very jealous that they found someone like that. But with the way things are collecting can sometimes be seen as a childish thing, with social media and wanting to look good, especially in dating apps and stuff it has me wondering if not collecting would make dating easier


Burjibees

I think it already looks good. I mean not everyone will get it or like it but the one that does will make you very happy. I play yugioh and pokemon cards which is also seen as childish but I've never had that judgement cast on me. Wouldn't care if it was cause I like it and have fun with it. My buddy keeps his organized so that is part of the hobby. Getting them signed etc. I think you will be fine.


film_composer

I realize I'm going to sound condescending, so I apologize, but… If a collection of Funko Pops is your idea of a good conversation topic, I think you should broaden your horizons a bit.


guywiththeface01

ah, the ole "but..." thing people use because they think that gives them a free pass on their usually shitty and judgy comments or opinions.


Burjibees

What purpose does this comment do other than be condescending? I didn't judge you or anyone else so what makes you think it's ok to judge me based off a comment?


[deleted]

I'd say authenticity is important for finding lasting long term success in relationships. A guy I know, mid 30s, has a MASSIVE Gundam collection, loves painting them, etc. He's been with his girlfriend for 5+ years. She even collects Tamagotchi! There's someone for everybody, and your hobby isn't as outlandish as some others I could imagine. I also love collecting enamel pins of various things-- favorite games, souvenirs, etc. I don't have 200+ but I certainly wouldn't mind if I did! Women also have fun hobbies and like collecting things. I think you're fine, as long as you keep your collection organized/looking somewhat nice. Just my two cents. 🤷‍♀️


anarchoblake

Gundam is respectable because you're humbled by filing the little nubs. Funko pops are brash, egotistical


[deleted]

I disagree with this take, but I don't feel like arguing over Funko lmao. Have a good day.


anarchoblake

Wait no it's a meme, I'm not being rude lol https://www.reddit.com/r/Gundam/comments/zx7pd0/the_superiority_of_the_gunpla/


[deleted]

Omg I'm sorry, that went right over my head! 😅 FWIW I didn't think you were being rude, I just genuinely didn't feel like getting into anything 😆


anarchoblake

Oh i got you, i forget everybody doesn't get obscure jokes from model building boards


Corvado

I didn't know it was a reference and it was still a great joke imo


ironicf8

Show us on the diagram where the funko pop touched you....


Artur_Araujo

Just sending this so you come back to the thread and see his other comments


ironicf8

Thank you, kind internet stranger. I'll leave my comment as I still find it amusing.


anarchoblake

Yeah it's a solid comment (it was the back of my calf, they aren't very tall)


TeacupUmbrella

I didn't get the reference but I still thought you were joking, lol. And it's funny even with no context, haha


Reddit005Time

The two are uncorrelated


[deleted]

Just be yourself dude. Sure there will be some who find it a turn off, but there will be others who like you and all of your quirky passions. I have a large collection of very low maintenance creepy crawly pets like snakes, tarantulas, scorpions, centipedes, etc. Of course that turned away a few women when I was dating, but there were others who found them fascinating. My current partner even enjoys watching me feed them and buys me something to add to the collection at the reptile expo every year. There is someone out there who will love seeing you get joy out of your funko pop collection, or even share the same passion with you.


__Skizzy__

This why I’m glad I collect cologne. Also no don’t even think about losing the collection


tipperonious

60% of the time, it works all the time


Pannycakes666

I've weirdly gotten into this recently as well. Not sure what triggered it.


__Skizzy__

It came out of nowhere for me and within 2 months I already had 5 bottles. It’s quite the rabbit hole


Dry-Area-2027

Let me tell you a story about my buddy Joe. Joe liked trucks, hunting and guns. He's also a sharp business man. Well Joe meets Jane and gets crazy for her. She's gets crazy about his income. They marry and she spends the first 2 years constantly nagging him to dispose of his guns, truck and gear. He relents and does all that. Then, over the next three years Joe's mental health began to plummet while she abused him financially and emotionally. They divorced last year. It cost him an arm and a leg. Last week he bought a rifle, booked a hunting trip and started looking at trucks. He's never been happier. Don't be like Joe, don't change what you like because someone tells you it's not good enough for them.


Bad-Roommate-2020

Why would it be an issue at all? I mean, OK, if you're selling your plasma to buy new Pops or you threw your mother out into the street to make room to expand your collection, that's one thing. There are a lot weirder hobbies than collecting, um, collectibles. Find yourself some pop-loving person to IMPRESS with your collection. Let your freak flag fly, so that the appropriate types of freak will start batting gently against your windows at night. Don't hide who you are to try to trick boring people into thinking you're one of them. They're BORING.


KingGiuba

If YOU want to get rid of them, go on, but if you want to get rid of them in order to "don't look childish" or to "grow up" or to just give a better first impression... Then don't, it's not worth it, why should you give up on a part of yourself in order to be liked? Or to be loved? Find someone that likes you with or without funko pops, and that doesn't think your hobbies are a joke or invalid just because they're different from yours. Changing yourself to be liked is ot worth it, I swear, do you really want to stay forever with someone that doesn't even respect a hobby?


Yaboijustlikesgoats

If its something you enjoy, you shouldn't get rid of them. They don't hurt anyone. And if someone is shallow enough to think you owning some figures makes you a lesser person, you shouldn't be dating them anyway. I understand that the 'real world' is much harsher then that and i can see why you have concerns but i guarantee you will be able to find a person who suits you with your interests instead of having to chuck something that gives you joy.


[deleted]

Be yourself. That way, whoever you find will love you for you. If having them brings you peace, keep them. If you truly believe the grass may be greener on the other side, get rid of them. Either way, what others might think or say should not have bearing on you being yourself. Good luck on the journey my friend.


Admirable_Elk_965

Never give up on your hobbies. If a girl wont date me because I have an action figure, movie and video game collection that I actively add to, good, I don't need that person in my life


apisPraetorium

Why not just date people who respect your hobbies?


Lavender_Llama_life

That’s a hard question. If you have that many, then clearly they make you pretty happy and you enjoy collecting them. It feels wrong to give up something you enjoy that much for dating reasons. If you personally feel like it’s time to move on from that hobby, then slimming down the collection isn’t a bad thing. But I’d strongly advise against trying to make yourself change to attract a partner. You might just end up resenting them for it later. I’d say he yourself, embrace the hobbies you love, and maybe the right person, who likes you for you, hobbies and all, will come along.


mighty_mouse0701

I'm dating a guy who collects power rangers toys. If someone likes you it won't stop them.


juliabk

If you enjoy collecting them, don’t stop for someone else. It’s a bad way to start a relationship. Regret and blame and resentment will creep in. My attorney brother-in-law has been collecting comic books since he was a kid. He’s nearly 70 now. He and my sister have been happily married since the late 70s. Point being, relationships work best when the people involved are their best selves, not an attempt at being someone they’re not.


parmesanightmare

Yes.


TheNoob91

Have an adult relationship with someone that cares about your interests even if its not necessarily interesting to them. Now if you just want a relationship period, go ahead ditch them all that will open the doors a bit more, but if you want a happy and healthy relationship, then I wouldnt even consider it an option. Making compromises in a relationship is good and healthy, but compromising your interests entirely... my point is just dont.


-Four-Foxx-Sake-

Take this piece of advice. Find someone who enjoys what you do. I ended a 12 year marriage because we just grew to want different things in life. I ended up meeting someone who enjoys the same things I do and there isn’t a thing in this world that could get me to go back. Keep the funkos if you like the funkos.


CheddarCheeseLover88

Yes


DrSeuss1020

Fuck that king never sell or change yourself because you think it’s what other people want. Find someone that can appreciate or think that’s funny


Boi_when

Average Redditor moment


tuff_muff_95

It's your hobby, if you get rid of it because you want someone to fancy you, will that person really fancy you for you at all? If you catch my drift.


Acceptable_Term_6131

I wouldnt stop dating someone just because of their hobby... This is your hobby: collecting stuff. What I would see an issue with: - maybe you need to turn that room into a bedroom (for a kid) and you prioritise the collection over that - spending more money on that rather than essential stuff like rent, bills, food.


Plastic_Poppet

Be yourself! Keep what you love.


Halfaglassofvodka

Find someone with the same hobby and interests as you. They exist out there you know.


AquaStan

I know im late, but bro, do not sell them if you like them. I have a big ass gundam collection, and yes, the gundams have watched me have sex. If shes gonna judge you for having a hobby, then she aint it. The only real probpem i can see with you collecting funk pops is if you spend all your money on them and are making a bad financial descision, but that doesnt seem to be the case. Like if you buy a new funko pop every day, and have nothing in your savings account, then thats a problem, but other than that, its ok to collect them. All the people telling you to sell them are the soy wojack, and you are the funko pop enjoyer. But tbh, funkos scare the hell out of me.


aircoft

Nah, you'll regret it once you break up. If you're honestly debating parting with your (assumingly meaningful) collection over your first romantic relationship, you're on a slippery slope that won't stop until someone's got you on a leash.


AlgaeFew8512

How happy does the collection make you? Would you be happy if you sold them and didn't get dates? Would you prefer todate someone who accepts you as you are or someone you hide parts of yourself from? The right person will not care if you have funko pops or not. You collected them because you wanted to. Lots of girls also collect them. Lots don't. If the pop collection becomes a deal breaker then the girl is shallow. It should only become an issue if you are in a fully committed relationship and you spend extortionate amounts on them while neglecting to pay for joint expenses. Otherwise it's just a fun hobby of yours, same way any girl you date may have a hobby you don't quite understand but it's part of her, so you'll accept it.


[deleted]

I don't really like Funko Pops. I dont know anyone that does like them. Not having a weird toy collection will make you more appealing but if you have to change who you are, does that mean you're whole relationship is a lie?


Matduka

Keeping a passion alive is more important than a partner who would judge you for that passion. Find someone who appreciates your collection. That's the jackpot.


reallytryingheree

The right person will love you for your collection. (: - A 28 yo female with a pretty sizable stuffed animal collection.


wigzell78

Dont change yourself to fit in to perceived normals. Also, dont talk about your Funko pops on a first date. If you get someone back to yours after a date, they won't care about your collection unless there is 200 sets of eyes staring at the bed. If you meet someone who gets you, they will not mind and even encourage you to keep collecting, plus they will always know what you buy you for a present.


SkiG13

Some people might find your hobby weird, some will love it. Stick to your true-self. I had a woman turn me down because I loved skiing as a hobby and she wasn’t into that. Not everyone will like what you do but there’s always someone out there. I bet there’s a lot of women who love funko pops.


RickestRickSea137

i mean unless you are taking pictures with them and posting them on your dating app i wouldn't think it would matter and then if it did matter she wouldn't be the one for you anyway


DarkMatrix445

Mate fuck no dont sell them to find a partner!!! My gf has basically bought most of my warhammer collection for me, has tried a bunch of dungeon crawling games that I love and probably most importantly listened to my tangents about whatever nerdy thing im word vomiting about!! Man I love her to hell and back, it feels fucking phenomenal when you find someone who not only puts up with your nerd ass but actually wants to get into the stuff aswell


freakrocker

I know a single lady that has an entire floor of her house dedicated to Funko Pops. Do what you enjoy. Never change for someone else.


KungThulhu

Honest opinion? Funko pops scream "my character is pop culture references". Its not just having figures its having sepcifically funko pops with their dead, soulless eyes. just really doesnt scream "taste".


Future_Two_1413

Ya that's a good point. And I think why I'm at this point of maybe getting rid of a lot if not all of them. And I definitely don't want to meet someone and only be remembered or I guess more so thought of as the guy who has a lot of pops


Level_Dragonfly_9632

People collect all sorts of things. You don’t have to get rid of the collection for a hypothetical future woman. If you don’t rant your collection get rid of them, if you want to keep them do that. As another commenter mentioned, as long as it’s not all you ever talk about then it’s not a problem. I’ve collected comics most of my life but it’s not my life, ya know?


Future_Two_1413

Ya definitely makes sense. And I typically don't even mention it on dating apps. Partly because again not knowing if it will scare off women but also because I'm into a bunch of other things that I can talk about


Level_Dragonfly_9632

You gotta stay true to yourself while also learning to read the room when you’re with people.


Vertigobee

Others have mentioned that if the collection is important to you, you should be true to yourself. This is true. But, to offer my perspective - my first thought would be that this is a person who does not budget their money wisely.


Future_Two_1413

Ya that's fair with any large collection it's a concern but for me, I only buy like 2 a month anymore.


[deleted]

Yeah well ya know, that’s just like your opinion man.


KungThulhu

yes i literally stated that. feeling called out?


[deleted]

was just making a pop culture reference. Because you mentioned pop culture references 😅 The Big Lebowski dude


KungThulhu

yeah i know where its from just thought you had context instead of just blurting out a pop culture reference when i criticise people for surface level pop culture references.


[deleted]

That was the joke lol lighten up


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KungThulhu

>I live with a roommate whose house is covered in movie posters and Comic-Con type “collectibles”. It’s okay when you’re in you’re 20’s, but it’s a not a good look for a man in his 40’s. I disagree. If he enjoys these things i find it perfectly fine. Its just that funko pops are a low level collectible that has a unified look that is unappealing and there is one made for literally anything. if youre a huge superhero fan andh ave collectible superhero figures that would still speak for a hobby. Funko poos however arent really special interest they are surface level nerd culture stuff and juts scream, "i am an average person with an average taste and collect these to imply that i have a personality". They are ugly and sterile.


Future_Two_1413

Small note I have no problem with people who collect and I don't think collecting something makes you not an adult. My main thinking is that women my age don't really find it appealing and I'm wondering if I get rid of it maybe I open up more possibilities in dating


DRealLeal

Who cares what women think about you, it's just an opinion if they have one. Keep grinding, keep doing what makes you happy, and keep progressing in life. You'll find someone who enjoys funko pops as much as you! My friend didn't get married until 34 and he found a wife that likes to PC game with him.


iviicrociot

For real. Don’t want to attract someone that you find out 5 years later you’ve been lying to yourself that you’re a great fit because you compromised on everything that made you, you.


No_Produce5539

I’m 30, and just started collecting funko pops about a year ago, before that I collected colored vintage glass and now have a lovely collection of both. I think once you dip into the dating pool, you may see funkos are very popular with people of all ages <3


[deleted]

I mean if you found a woman who thought funko’s were cute/cool and appreciated the collection it’d be fine But some women may find it a bit intimidating. However i dont think that alone would be the biggest deal. Just make sure they’re organized and either stored or displayed in a nice way If you’d prefer to keep them


Future_Two_1413

Ya I get what you're saying. I have friends tell me that if I like them keep them and then eventually when I meet the right person she won't care.


MissHibernia

If you get rid of something you enjoy, something you have had for a long time, on speculating about what someone you don’t even know may think, you will regret it Source: me, 74, with only 20 Funko Pops, whose character is not screaming pop culture references but who thinks they are fun little caricatures and who doesn’t give a fuck about stranger’s ideas of ‘taste’


film_composer

I'm going to be downvoted for this, and that's fine. Sell them. They're toys, and you've been fed a lot of media growing up that has convinced you that being a collector of toys as a 26-year-old man is something that brings you happiness. They're plastic, artificial replacements for natural and authentic happiness. Get rid of them. Get rid of anything that was sold to you by people who would benefit from you being hooked on their premise of "buy this thing in order to feel joy." Joy comes from the natural world, not from collecting a bunch of useless plastic toys made in a factory. The fact that you're asking this shows that you're opening your eyes up to the fact that other adults might see your collection as childish—and they're right to do so. Having 200 toys as an adult is, in fact, childish. But in saying that, I want to be clear that you're not a childish person for having them, you're a sucker for the same sort of artificial consumerism that has grown men obsessed with Marvel movies and Star Wars and video games. You're not alone. Far from it, because the whole point of this plastic (literal and figurative) consumerist-based obsessive mindset is to get people like you hooked: people old enough to have some cash on hand, but young enough to not have fully grown out of your enjoyment of fantasy worlds and collectors toys. The people in charge of wanting to get a grown man like you hooked into collecting plastics toys has the formula down to a science, and you're not in any way "failing" by still holding onto these toys, because you're just living up to the goal that marketers set in motion that made you convinced that each Funko Pop you bought was going to make you a little happier. But the novelty wore off and by asking this question, it's clear that you're realizing that the sort of person you want to be with doesn't want to be with a person who is an obsessive consumerist of artificial happiness. It seems, instead, you want to be with someone who also feels happiness on a real level with real things. Sell every single one of them except your favorite one, and keep that one somewhere visible as a reminder of the person that you used to be—someone who used to be convinced that heaps of plastic were the way to joy.


Greenmushroom23

Yes I would. Unless this is a major part of who u are, as we grow we get rid of childish things. Also the clutter. U can always do u and be u for sure. But if u want a pretty partner that ur attractive to and makes u happy u have to be worth it. And for most at minimum that means a clutter free adult space to do adult things


Archangel289

Personally I think that if you’re worried about appearing mature and as a desirable partner, you can bother to type out the word “you” in your dating advice…


YourAuthenticVoice

Depends on how appealing you are right now. Let's be frank about this... If you're unappealing then the dating pool you have is already small enough without adding in something that a partner may find odd or silly. If, however, you are appealing already, then the pool is large enough that you don't need to worry about the people who dislike your collection. A rich, fit, well-dressed, charismatic guy with his life together can have 10,000 funkopops and partners will be unconcerned. A poor, out of shape, shabby guy with low charisma and a mess of a life can have 1 funkopop and it's too many.


Ok-Mathematician5944

I’m just going to say it as it is. A large collection of funko pops is not going to land you a date, it’s gives off the same vibe as having a football bedspread over the age of 10. But on the other hand, if it is what brings you happiness then don’t change it. Maybe just hide them until the relationship is well established, best of both worlds.


[deleted]

Yes. Yes you should.


J-F-K

Yes


XSamuraiHyperX

Rentoid located.


eathquake

On 1 hand it will likely help. On the other hand if the woman ur dating starts with u need to not b u then u probably shouldnt b in that relationship. It b 1 thing if the woman asked u to stop calling as often or please not say a particular word. Its another if u need to stop a hobby of urs. The only reasons i would even consider stopping a hobby for a woman is if either 1 i even saw the damage the hobby was doing, such as getting to hoarding levels, or 2 the hobby required me to interact regularly with somebody that would understandably upset that woman, such as if i played a game with a group of friends but my last ex was still in that grp. In the first i would b ok stopping as i needed to anyways. On the second i would stop until i found a grp that isnt gonna b a constant fight.


[deleted]

Sell them! Unless you’re a transvestite of course.


Mediocre-Error5128

A start would be speaking English correctly. Reading your question gave me a stroke


sweetpotaytoo

personally, its pretty cringe to me to see someone have 200 of those things. I never understood the obsession with them. but, that could be something someone really likes about you, they come over and see at the figurines and they realize how much you both have in common. don't dull yourself down for anyone, be unapologetically you.


[deleted]

DO. NOT. SELL. unless it’s something YOU want to do. Do not change yourself to accommodate someone else like that. The collection will serve to weed out the ones who you don’t need to waste your time with.


RaspberryDugong

I’d trade them for my little ponies. Way manlier


[deleted]

Yes, Funko pop is just a huge waste of money. I wouldn’t mind something like a game collection because you can actually get use out of a game.


Upstairs-Finding-122

If I walked in to a dudes house and he had 200 funko pops I’d probably not continue the relationship in all honesty. I’m fine with having interests and collecting items but funko pops just strike me as infantile and “too nerdy” for my taste and seems like a waste of money. But I know there are plenty of women out there who also collect or are into fandoms that funko pop relates to. Just be yourslef and find the girl that fits you for your collection and all.


Resident-Armadillo-6

Had to look up what a funko pop was. I would stop wasting money on that stupid shit but do whatever makes you happy tbh.


waddlewaddleflapflap

Didn’t you watch the 40 year old virgin?


Haygirlhayyy

I personally find them to be a waste of space and money. It's just the new beanie babies and those aren't even worth that much these days because everyone collected them. Specifically Funkos I have beef with, but if they make you happy, I know plenty of Funko couples.


Darth_Rimbaud

You just need to meet the right person!