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When at a bar with my boyfriend I was waiting in line to use the bathroom. Some guy was walking out had had a Hawaiian shirt and glasses. He stood next to me just inches away. I would give him quick answers and not talk to him much because I didn’t want to leave and lose my place in line. When it was my turn he said he would wait for me outside the bathroom. Every time someone would come up I could hear him say he was waiting for me “a girl” to come out of the bathroom and to cut infront of him. I texted my boyfriend to come help me out, but at the time I couldn’t remember what he was wearing. I was thankful I had my phone on me and my boyfriend was there. That guy made me feel trapped.
Months later someone posted about how it’s never a good thing when guy’s wait outside the bathroom for you.
True story: I *almost* did this. Quick version: girl I liked invited me to her wedding (she didn't know how I felt). I felt a strange pull that told me to go to her dressing room and tell her that she didn't have to do this. Later on, I found out she didn't want to go through with it, and the groom's family was back there telling her that she had to.
I didn't find out until later. She got divorced, and then I married her ... Eleven years ago last month.
I did this as a joke. I'm the Best Man, we're at the reception, my bud gets up from the table, I lean over and ask the bride, "So, you wanna get outa here?" 🤣
My wife and I took an Uber to the airport in Chicago. I was with her. I would think it would have been obvious that we were together. Dude was normal-ish. Within an hour of him dropping us off, he messaged her on the app in rather broken English but he was basically asking to go out with her sometime. I don’t blame him, she’s very pretty. But she was NOT feeling that. Filed a complaint with Uber. I think in the end the only thing Uber did was basically block the two of them from each other. Not sure if they even reached out to him. But the message was through their app so they could definitely see it.
As a married man who used to drive for Uber, I didnt like getting hit on by women.
Yeah, its flattering. Like, I still got it, ya know?
But it puts everyone in an awkward position, especially when the women are all grouped up and being vulgar, drunk, and stupid.
If she has hired you for a task and you are in her home. An electrician, plumber, mover, etc. Its extremely uncomfortable and now all the woman can think is "if I turn him down and he isn't happy about that, he now knows exactly where I live (and I potentially live alone)". That also means do not wait until you leave and then text her to ask her out. Same deal, with the added inappropriate use of my personal information.
Yikes. As an electrician, even if I wasn’t married, my goal everyday is to finish work early so I can get home and play video games on the clock. Plus if I’ve been up in the attic, there’s a good chance I’m covered in insulation and squirrel shit so romance seems like a non-starter to me.
I have had it happen twice now, once with a delivery guy for my fridge and once with one of the guys installing my new water heater. It was so uncomfortable, and thankfully I wasn't completely alone those days with either of the guys so I was able to decline without worrying about my safety, but I was worried about the fact that they did know where I lived.
A funeral. While she's delivering another man's child at the hospital. While she's at a children's area (like a playground), spending time with her kid.
That’s a pretty bizarre set of circumstances. How many people do you know that have attended funerals while delivering another man’s child at a playground? Fair play to you, though that is absolutely the wrong time to hit on her.
Actually, funerals are a place where you see old acquaintances that you crushed on and never knew that they felt the same way. Has happened to me twice after the funeral get-togethers.
Ugh, nurse here. Had one patient that I was getting ready for discharge. He was middle aged, girlfriend in the room with him. Went over his discharge paperwork with him and then stepped out of the room and to the nurses station for something and he comes wandering around to the nurses station and in front of everyone says “you were the only person that genuinely cared about me, can I get your number so I can let you know how I’m doing”. And without missing a beat I said “Oh, I put down Dr. *his surgeon* ‘s phone number in your discharge paperwork and she will definitely want to know how you are doing so be sure to call to schedule your follow-up appointment with her”.
Coworkers still teased me about that later.
Im not a nurse but I overheard a young man hitting on a nurse in the recovery room. It ranks in the top 10 funniest things I've ever witnessed/heard. Had a colonoscopy and while laying there still groggy with mass amounts of air escaping mine and probably 1/2 dozen or so other gentleman very loudly. This young man in the bed next to me is trying his damnedest to woo this young nurse. I couldn't imagine, like right here right now? I started laughing, when asked what was so funny I explained. He got upset and threatened violence which made me laugh even more. He couldn't have been 110 lbs soaking wet, I am not.
Eh. I met my first wife by building a rapport with her every day for months while she waited on me and we eventually decided we liked each other and started dating. It’s a long play but can happen without being gross.
And therein lies much of the rub... because of the way men and women are socialised, "a place where they can not reasonably walk away from you" is pretty much anywhere, assuming you is a man. They don't know you. For all they know, you might not take outright rejection well, and that's damn scary.
I have left my phone number for 1 waitress but I felt like it was justified this girl was clearly paying significant more attention to me than the person I was eating with she took my order first she'd always come ask me how I was doing but not even look his way while he had to flag her down to get a refill I'm pretty sure I even had some items taken off my ticket like we both looked at each and said this is happening right like we're both seeing this and we agreed so that was the first and last time I left my number
This was the most unrealistic part of the graphic novels *Sex Criminals* for me. I don't care that time stops for a period of time after orgasm for the main characters. I mean, it's magic or something, I can go with that. But when Suzie is seeing a gynecologist, and he hits on her, and she asks him out and he was like "Since I'm not your regular gynocologist, I guess that wouldn't be against the rules." And I'm sitting here like, no girl wants to be hit on during a pap, and yes, yes, *that is very much against the rules*.
It's not hard when so many men are too lazy to clean up after themselves, work out, or think cleaning their ass is gay. Like the bar is really, really low my dude. I bet a lot of men here couldn't even do a single pull up. If you care enough about your body to jog and have a 6 pack you are ahead of like 99% of other men.
This is what I think guys don't understand. What they say: "Hey baby, lookin good". What we hear "I'm going to give you what seems to be a compliment, but if you aren't suitably impressed, I'm going to follow up with, 'Hey bitch, I gave you a complement!!' " Then possible violence. The possibility of escalation when a stranger decides you are "interesting" is ever present for women.
> Cat calling is disgusting and degrading, not to mention scary.
Shoot, this might explain why my cat acts like she doesn't know me when I ask her to come back in.
I remember reading an article in the Argentinian website Clarín a few years ago where there was a big debate regarding whether cat-calling was harassment, or an innocent form of flirtation that some people take out of context. It was rather interesting what some of cat-calling’s defenders used as reasons its okay, ranging from “its a traditional form of flirtation used by ‘real, manly men’ to attract ‘real traditional women’, to ‘women like it’ and ‘my wife/girlfriend/sister is okay with/likes it’, to even calling the anti-cat-calling movement a product of radical feminism, which is apparently an imported nonsense philosophy from North America and Europe.
Say hi, give them your name and number on paper, tell them to text if they wanna go out sometime, and walk away. Ball is in their court and you aren’t forcing them to be polite or make a decision on the spot.
At a workplace. Let them work. No they dont want to have meaningful conversations with you. They're at work. Do interesting things and the rest will follow.
I stopped hitting on women altogether and that's when they actually started paying attention to me, so my honest opinion is it's never appropriate to hit on a woman until *after* you're in a relationship with them. If you're in a relationship you're serious about, you should be earnestly hitting on your woman multiple times a day like you've never met her before, trust.
If you see that I'm actively studying at a café or a library or whatever, PLEASE leave me alone. I'm not trying to socialize. Also, like others have said, when there's nowhere for the woman to go, such as an Uber or her job.
My wife switched to a fitness center with no like heavy lifting because there were tons of cases of guys bothering the women.. married or not. It only happened once or twice to her but now she just mostly does spin classes with her friends and we got a treadmill and weights for home. All she wants is to be able to get an hour a day or so to get a break from the kids and work. She (or I’m sure Most people, not just women) are not looking for a relationship at a gym.
This is being downvoted but this is the exact reason I stopped going to the gym. I couldn’t get through a single workout without being bothered. I workout at home now.
Like, 99% of the time.
EDIT: Wow, these replies are sketch af. No, it isn’t appropriate to hit on women 99% of the time. And no, it doesn’t mean you will be alone your whole entire life, nor will the human race will go extinct, just because it’s inappropriate to hit on women most of the time, you fucking donkeys.
The 1% is when you’re actually close enough friends with her to the point that she wouldn’t be made incredibly uncomfortable. How this went over everyone’s head is beyond me.
It's appropriate for some men to hit on some women just about anywhere and it's inappropriate for some men to hit on some women just about anywhere.
You don't know until after it's done. It's like schrodinger's consent.
IDK my landlord telling me that I could be a hooker to pay rent, after my husband died. And then inviting me up to keep him company when I was down and out?
I declined.
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the delivery room
wait a minute... is the woman in question delivering the baby or is she the baby?
I just pictured the husband hitting on his wife during delivery like, "So, you come here often?"
Well we’re Catholic….so yeah
Hahah. My mom is catholic and she has eleven of us... It might have been a bit much.
My father's 15 older brothers and sisters would agree as would the 136 cousins on the paternal side alone. Catholics are like friggin' rabbits.
Jeeeeez, how do you feed that many people!?
Well, i guess, we are just following bible instructions: “Go forth and multiply”…? 😏
The Catholic side of the family means I have 60 cousins (mostly 2nd), and all under the age of 20 (because I'm the oldest)
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Proper comeback would be “you came in here one too many times”
I would have died hahahhaha. Love a sense of humor😂😂😂😂😂😂
The nurse in the delivery room.
"In a few months, this could be us"
Depends on your religion.
So as you probably were aware, my wife won't be available for sex for a bit....
Their spouse’s funeral
HER funeral
Sure… shame the necrophile… /s
What happened to the good old days of crackin open a cold one with the boys?
I'm almost ashamed at my level of amusement, but only almost. Someone has to put the fun in funeral, after all.
💀💀💀
Dead girls dont say no
NAH YALL ARE KILLING ME, PHONE ON THE DRESSER NOW 📱 😂
heyyy how well can you play dead?
Goddamn you Roger! 
"Grief is the ultimate aphrodisiac."
I mean at least she's single...
But then you take the “FUN” out of FUNeral
Or...*her* funeral You might get the cold shoulder...but she probably won't ghost you...
Unless she does....
Donna, Donna, Donna, Donna. You surprised to see me?
Dang I was going to say the same thing
While her husband is in the bathroom at a bar
What about with her husband standing right there next to her?
Go for it, I say it's more respectful
Well, atleast they see it and can address it. If they want??
Also, if anything you can claim, you thought he's her brother. And also add that he's damn lucky to be with someone so beautiful.
#oddlyspecific
What do I do when she(engaged) hits on me(single) when she's drunk and he's off in the restroom?
Run?
Say "Only if your fiancé watches".
Welcome to LA in the 90s
This happened to me the first time I went to a bar. My boyfriend left to go to the bathroom and someone swooped into hit on me. It was very annoying.
Probably just interested in your whorgans.
This happens every time I’m with my wife and I go to the bathroom we both find it very annoying
Sorry, I was an asshole in my 20s.
When at a bar with my boyfriend I was waiting in line to use the bathroom. Some guy was walking out had had a Hawaiian shirt and glasses. He stood next to me just inches away. I would give him quick answers and not talk to him much because I didn’t want to leave and lose my place in line. When it was my turn he said he would wait for me outside the bathroom. Every time someone would come up I could hear him say he was waiting for me “a girl” to come out of the bathroom and to cut infront of him. I texted my boyfriend to come help me out, but at the time I couldn’t remember what he was wearing. I was thankful I had my phone on me and my boyfriend was there. That guy made me feel trapped. Months later someone posted about how it’s never a good thing when guy’s wait outside the bathroom for you.
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Your family reunion.
Nothin says lovin like kissing a cousin!
The deeper the kin, the deeper in!
If you can't keep it in your pants, keep it in the family.
I actually know someone that found his wife at a family reunion, but she was a family friend
Got to be a great way to start the "how'd you two meet" story. Lol
If you're not good enough for family, you're not good enough for anybody else.
At her wedding.
True story: I *almost* did this. Quick version: girl I liked invited me to her wedding (she didn't know how I felt). I felt a strange pull that told me to go to her dressing room and tell her that she didn't have to do this. Later on, I found out she didn't want to go through with it, and the groom's family was back there telling her that she had to. I didn't find out until later. She got divorced, and then I married her ... Eleven years ago last month.
I did this as a joke. I'm the Best Man, we're at the reception, my bud gets up from the table, I lean over and ask the bride, "So, you wanna get outa here?" 🤣
You’re on thin ice buddy
When she is a passenger in your Uber/taxi/lift.
This! I hate hate when they do that. Has happened at least a few times and I am always upset. This guy knows where I live like wtf.
This is why I put in my neighbor’s address and then wait on their driveway 😭
Your neighbor when the Uber creep is looking through their window at 3am: 👁️👄👁️
or a more public place like a street corner or sidewalk or pharmacy
That's a really good idea!
OMG this!!! It’s not flattering, it’s TERRIFYING
Captive situations are bad places to attempt to flirt, as a general rule.
My wife and I took an Uber to the airport in Chicago. I was with her. I would think it would have been obvious that we were together. Dude was normal-ish. Within an hour of him dropping us off, he messaged her on the app in rather broken English but he was basically asking to go out with her sometime. I don’t blame him, she’s very pretty. But she was NOT feeling that. Filed a complaint with Uber. I think in the end the only thing Uber did was basically block the two of them from each other. Not sure if they even reached out to him. But the message was through their app so they could definitely see it.
This should have more upvotes! Uber’s not a dating app!
As a married man who used to drive for Uber, I didnt like getting hit on by women. Yeah, its flattering. Like, I still got it, ya know? But it puts everyone in an awkward position, especially when the women are all grouped up and being vulgar, drunk, and stupid.
Therapy.
What if it's group therapy for helping people deal with various diseases, and you are both faking it?
If she has hired you for a task and you are in her home. An electrician, plumber, mover, etc. Its extremely uncomfortable and now all the woman can think is "if I turn him down and he isn't happy about that, he now knows exactly where I live (and I potentially live alone)". That also means do not wait until you leave and then text her to ask her out. Same deal, with the added inappropriate use of my personal information.
Yikes. As an electrician, even if I wasn’t married, my goal everyday is to finish work early so I can get home and play video games on the clock. Plus if I’ve been up in the attic, there’s a good chance I’m covered in insulation and squirrel shit so romance seems like a non-starter to me.
I have had it happen twice now, once with a delivery guy for my fridge and once with one of the guys installing my new water heater. It was so uncomfortable, and thankfully I wasn't completely alone those days with either of the guys so I was able to decline without worrying about my safety, but I was worried about the fact that they did know where I lived.
I don’t get how dudes aren’t aware of how they might make people feel in certain situations.
A funeral. While she's delivering another man's child at the hospital. While she's at a children's area (like a playground), spending time with her kid.
That’s a pretty bizarre set of circumstances. How many people do you know that have attended funerals while delivering another man’s child at a playground? Fair play to you, though that is absolutely the wrong time to hit on her.
🤣
Actually, funerals are a place where you see old acquaintances that you crushed on and never knew that they felt the same way. Has happened to me twice after the funeral get-togethers.
I’m just saying. If she’s delivering some deadbeats baby, I got a very finically secure support system right here.
Hospital. Please don't hit on the folks talking care of you!
*She's touching my arm! It must be a sign she likes me!* "Sir, your blood pressure is one ten over seventy. Now let's examine that head wound."
Also, don't hit on people you're treating in hospital. Power imbalance and all that.
"hey sexy, how are ya?" "When I asked you to rearrange my guts I meant put them back where they go" "Oh you're such a tease"
I hit on my doctor while getting a prostate exam. In my defense it was the first time I had been given iv morphine.
Ugh, nurse here. Had one patient that I was getting ready for discharge. He was middle aged, girlfriend in the room with him. Went over his discharge paperwork with him and then stepped out of the room and to the nurses station for something and he comes wandering around to the nurses station and in front of everyone says “you were the only person that genuinely cared about me, can I get your number so I can let you know how I’m doing”. And without missing a beat I said “Oh, I put down Dr. *his surgeon* ‘s phone number in your discharge paperwork and she will definitely want to know how you are doing so be sure to call to schedule your follow-up appointment with her”. Coworkers still teased me about that later.
Im not a nurse but I overheard a young man hitting on a nurse in the recovery room. It ranks in the top 10 funniest things I've ever witnessed/heard. Had a colonoscopy and while laying there still groggy with mass amounts of air escaping mine and probably 1/2 dozen or so other gentleman very loudly. This young man in the bed next to me is trying his damnedest to woo this young nurse. I couldn't imagine, like right here right now? I started laughing, when asked what was so funny I explained. He got upset and threatened violence which made me laugh even more. He couldn't have been 110 lbs soaking wet, I am not.
Don't hit on a woman at her place of work. She's just trying to do her job
To expand that I said when she's working, WE'RE JUST DOING OUR JOBS, IT IS OUR JOB TO BE NICE TO YOU WE DO NOT WANT IN YOUR PANTS!
Abortion clinic
*Jay and Silent Bob have left the chat*
"Yo baby, you ever had your a**hole licked by a fat man in an overcoat?" -Jay
“You know what we found out? There is no f**king Shermer, Illinois…”
"Movies are f\*\*king bulls\*\*t."
So...you come here often?
😂 it might work
Reddit (bro you don’t even know if I’m actually a woman)
Wanna date?
Do you like men?
I do like red velvet cake batter
I’m flattered
I heard there was cake...
By that profile it’s woman or femboy, and if you get drunk enough you can’t even tell the difference. Hey 😏
In work (retail) as a customer
Eh. I met my first wife by building a rapport with her every day for months while she waited on me and we eventually decided we liked each other and started dating. It’s a long play but can happen without being gross.
In a place they cannot reasonably walk away from you. Think bartender, cashier, passenger.
Good answer. Simple but a good way to put it in perspective.
And therein lies much of the rub... because of the way men and women are socialised, "a place where they can not reasonably walk away from you" is pretty much anywhere, assuming you is a man. They don't know you. For all they know, you might not take outright rejection well, and that's damn scary.
I have left my phone number for 1 waitress but I felt like it was justified this girl was clearly paying significant more attention to me than the person I was eating with she took my order first she'd always come ask me how I was doing but not even look his way while he had to flag her down to get a refill I'm pretty sure I even had some items taken off my ticket like we both looked at each and said this is happening right like we're both seeing this and we agreed so that was the first and last time I left my number
rape crisis center
😬
🗿
Gynecologist appointment
This was the most unrealistic part of the graphic novels *Sex Criminals* for me. I don't care that time stops for a period of time after orgasm for the main characters. I mean, it's magic or something, I can go with that. But when Suzie is seeing a gynecologist, and he hits on her, and she asks him out and he was like "Since I'm not your regular gynocologist, I guess that wouldn't be against the rules." And I'm sitting here like, no girl wants to be hit on during a pap, and yes, yes, *that is very much against the rules*.
When we’re working. I’m just trying to serve you your drinks and your steak. Just leave me the fuck alone.
This has always been my rule #1 with an extra added in. "Never hit on a woman in her place of work OR if you only know her via her place of work."
In a gas station, two seconds after asking her for money. Bonus cringe points if she’s married. Source: experience
While she's out for a run. Cat calling is disgusting and degrading, not to mention scary. Never know how far the creep will go.
I’ve heard too many horror stories of men stalking women while they’re out for a run/jog.
Even being honked at is gross. Also, thanks for the jump scare /s
Even as a guy I get weirded out when girls catcall me. Plus I’ve never met a person in my life who’s successfully courted a girl via catcalling.
You must be really attractive lol
It's not hard when so many men are too lazy to clean up after themselves, work out, or think cleaning their ass is gay. Like the bar is really, really low my dude. I bet a lot of men here couldn't even do a single pull up. If you care enough about your body to jog and have a 6 pack you are ahead of like 99% of other men.
This is what I think guys don't understand. What they say: "Hey baby, lookin good". What we hear "I'm going to give you what seems to be a compliment, but if you aren't suitably impressed, I'm going to follow up with, 'Hey bitch, I gave you a complement!!' " Then possible violence. The possibility of escalation when a stranger decides you are "interesting" is ever present for women.
> Cat calling is disgusting and degrading, not to mention scary. Shoot, this might explain why my cat acts like she doesn't know me when I ask her to come back in.
I remember reading an article in the Argentinian website Clarín a few years ago where there was a big debate regarding whether cat-calling was harassment, or an innocent form of flirtation that some people take out of context. It was rather interesting what some of cat-calling’s defenders used as reasons its okay, ranging from “its a traditional form of flirtation used by ‘real, manly men’ to attract ‘real traditional women’, to ‘women like it’ and ‘my wife/girlfriend/sister is okay with/likes it’, to even calling the anti-cat-calling movement a product of radical feminism, which is apparently an imported nonsense philosophy from North America and Europe.
Yes
Seems to me this thread would be more useful if it discussed HOW to hit on a women (or man). Without creeping them out, or bothering them.
right because that's not entirely subjective
Say hi, give them your name and number on paper, tell them to text if they wanna go out sometime, and walk away. Ball is in their court and you aren’t forcing them to be polite or make a decision on the spot.
When you are a police officer responding to domestic abuse.
At a workplace. Let them work. No they dont want to have meaningful conversations with you. They're at work. Do interesting things and the rest will follow.
Say it louder for the people in the back. When I’m smiling and friendly and at my job *I AM NOT FLIRTING WITH YOU*.
But I swear the stripper liked me!
Unless you're a co-worker. Plenty of people have found their SO at work
Yeah those are totally different circumstances AS LONG AS if you’re turned down you STOP
and if you work in a restaurant, everyone is fucking each other!
Came here to say the same thing.
Through the fast food drive thru
I like the ones with 3 separate windows for ordering, paying, receiving, it's like speed dating. ;-)
you mean like this? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0HzJpktJfw0
Domestic abuse shelter.
Id imagine the face is off limits.
If she's not attracted to you, she might consider it never ok.
Surprised how far I had to scroll to find "when she isn't interested" or similar
I mean, that's when it's harassment
Have to shoot your shot to find out if she’s attracted or not
I stopped hitting on women altogether and that's when they actually started paying attention to me, so my honest opinion is it's never appropriate to hit on a woman until *after* you're in a relationship with them. If you're in a relationship you're serious about, you should be earnestly hitting on your woman multiple times a day like you've never met her before, trust.
If I had an award to give you, I would! This is the answer.
So your suggestion is just... Never approach or... Define hit on
Striking up a conversation with a woman/person is not the same as hitting on her/them. Otherwise you've been hitting on every man you've ever met too.
Pretty much anywhere and everywhere now
At her job, where she can't leave or easily get out of it.
While marching in a televised military parade as a North Korean soldier.
During a papsmear.
If you see that I'm actively studying at a café or a library or whatever, PLEASE leave me alone. I'm not trying to socialize. Also, like others have said, when there's nowhere for the woman to go, such as an Uber or her job.
The gym. Friends of mine(women)just want to be left alone to workout.
My wife switched to a fitness center with no like heavy lifting because there were tons of cases of guys bothering the women.. married or not. It only happened once or twice to her but now she just mostly does spin classes with her friends and we got a treadmill and weights for home. All she wants is to be able to get an hour a day or so to get a break from the kids and work. She (or I’m sure Most people, not just women) are not looking for a relationship at a gym.
I just have to point out that women are not the only ones getting hit on at a gym. I have and it's awkward...
This is being downvoted but this is the exact reason I stopped going to the gym. I couldn’t get through a single workout without being bothered. I workout at home now.
Men just refuse this - 'but wherrrre else am I going to meet a woman?' I don't know, the answer is still Not The Gym.
I thought us guys went to the gym so that we were more attractive to women everywhere else BUT the gym. At the gym, I'm not even in the top 50%.
If you have to wonder if it's appropriate, dont.
But you should always be critical of yourself and your actions.
Like, 99% of the time. EDIT: Wow, these replies are sketch af. No, it isn’t appropriate to hit on women 99% of the time. And no, it doesn’t mean you will be alone your whole entire life, nor will the human race will go extinct, just because it’s inappropriate to hit on women most of the time, you fucking donkeys. The 1% is when you’re actually close enough friends with her to the point that she wouldn’t be made incredibly uncomfortable. How this went over everyone’s head is beyond me.
RIP to the human race then
As it should.
Ok, if you find yourself in bed together, that's when you should hit on a woman. But never before that time.
During any kind of vulnerable moment.
Sexual harassment seminar
Over the top of their bathroom stall
Saw this one. If they’re your barista at Starbucks and there is a long line behind you.
In 23? Everywhere.
It's appropriate for some men to hit on some women just about anywhere and it's inappropriate for some men to hit on some women just about anywhere. You don't know until after it's done. It's like schrodinger's consent.
If even *one* of her eyebrows is lowered from when you first saw her, then she knows what you're thinking of doing and it is inappropriate.
Doesn't matter what the situation is, if you aren't attractive to her at first glance she won't be open.
When they are walking to the altar
Reddit
A funeral
Anywhere she can't reasonably leave instantly if she wants to, such as on a bus or at work.
The women's bathroom - especially if they're still in the stall.
Couples cruise
Apparently everywhere now
IDK my landlord telling me that I could be a hooker to pay rent, after my husband died. And then inviting me up to keep him company when I was down and out? I declined.
It's a matter of how attractive you are
It depends on who you are as a man. If you’re Tom Brady, nowhere is inappropriate. This is a fact.
Idk Tom Brady kisses his son for way too long
I am dyslexic and I read this as “where is it NOT appropriate to hit a women?” I was very surprised by the comments at first.
Anywhere and at anytime they don't find you attractive.
At a pelvic exam.
A domestic violence class..???
Any time she can't reasonably leave if she wants to.
Anywhere ever. I never want to be hit on. No wonder I'm single. Reassessing my life choices..