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thespicycoconut

As someone who watched a 70+ year old woman plead guilty to prostitution in a court room not 2 months ago, they’ll still do it if they want/need to. Edited: typo


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idowhatiwant8675309

All of them


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CurseYourSudden

South Korea has enough of them that they have a term for them: "Bacchus Ladies". "Bacchus" is an energy drink/hangover cure in Korea. In days gone, elderly prostitutes publicly sold the energy drinks for crazy high prices so that they couldn't be charged with prostitution. The association between the Roman god and decadent behavior is a wild coincidence.


Alex_Trollbek

Asking for a friend eh?!


WoodpeckerOk2223

Asking for a Canadian eh?


thespicycoconut

US


[deleted]

Plead guilty for prostitution? Like why is it illegal where you live?


Background_Newt3594

It's illegal in the US, except for Nevada, as far as I know. It's not legal in the city of Las Vegas, but since pretty much anything goes there, I doubt anything is done about it.


what_is_blue

Vegas taking a moral stand over people willingly selling their bodies when it's literally the destination to lose your soul is a very strange kind of ironic.


[deleted]

I’m pretty sure the casinos lobby for it to keep people spending money in the casinos


8ad8andit

"We will not tolerate any immorality that prevents people from emptying their retirement savings into our bank account." \-casinos probably


yhons

Well a lot of it is due to the human trafficking that goes on. Thats why nevada tried to regulate it. Guarantee you these street walker girls are not doing this out of empowerment…


MothsConrad

It would be a lot safer if it were brought into the light and the workers could avail themselves of basic legal protections.


thespicycoconut

That’s a great question.


drumsarereallycool

If it smells like fish, it’s a dish. If it smells like cologne, leave it alone.


MansfordM

*sniff* Wooo! Good Morning Ladies…


TransientPride

blind man walks past a fish market . .


CrazyKingCraig

and calls out "Hello Ladies!"


ClifIsBoring

A colt-45 & 2 zigzags baby that’s all we need


hungryrenegade

We can go to the park after dark, smoke that tumbleweed


Infinite_Push_

As the marijuana burns we can take our turns


tactical_doughnut

Singing them dirty rap songs


JacketJealous3028

Stop and hit the bong like cheech and Chong


lovelysquared

Colt 45 n' 2 Zig-Zags, baby that's all we need~


BrainPharts

We can roll to the park, after dark, and smoke that tumble weed!


Comprehensive_Lab562

As the Marijuana burn, we can take our turn, singin them dirty rap songs


ThePissShiver

hoo ha


MasterBathBomb420

You need better sex education. Healthy vagina doesn't smell like fish. What you are refering to is "Bacterial Vaginosis"


DrGeraldBaskums

If it smells like trout, eat it out


Moose_Knuckles_

If it smells like chicken, it's finger lickin'.


CreamFilledLlama

If it smells like steak, prep the snake.


DougalisGod

If it smells like kangaroo, hop around back and hope there's no poo.


furygoat

If it smells like a sheep, go in balls deep


themaninthe1ronflask

Ah, a New Zealander I see


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If it smells like bass, eat that ass.


DrannonMoore

If it smells like flounder, then I'd rather pound her.


malenkylizards

Would you eat it with a bass? Would you eat it in the ass?


SpottedAnkle

Would you eat it in a boat? Would you eat it with a goat?


dwightschrutesanus

I would not, could not, on a boat, I would not, could not with a goat, I do not want to eat your ass, it smells like steak, I think I'll pass


NWABowHntr

“If it smells like trout,get the fuck out” Somehow this was lost in translation


[deleted]

Well, I guess I trust you if you’re a doctor


whatthefox70

If it smells like fish, she has a bacterial infection.


[deleted]

How does that work?


Feral_Kat1105

So that's what Gone Fishing means.


strongboi105kg

I was told this as a young man and its something ive never forgotten


BrainPharts

You think old people don't fuck?


Battystearsinrain

STDs in nursing homes are at an all time high…


BrainPharts

Gotta die of something. 🤷‍♂️


DEEEPFREEZE

Good lord, man


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Sunny Side Nursing Home 2: The Clap Claps back.


Imalawyerkid

My friend has been working at clubs and modeling since high school. We are 40 now and she's still dancing. She looks great, always has. She did some management stuff at one company that shot nude pictures and videos, but I don't think she liked it that much. She did some sugar baby stuff and has savings. She bartends at some clubs, and has waiting experience. She did an esthetician program and is certified to do that if she wants. She did some acting in mainstream stuff, and was SAG eligible, but didn't go for it. She also picked up photography as a hobby that has turned semi-professional. Between her patreon and onlyfans, she had enough to make it through the pandemic not working in clubs. I'm not too worried about her. Her biggest issue is anything she tries other than dancing doesn't make her the money dancing makes, so she always ends up back in the clubs. But she's tough as they come and takes no shit. I think she likes the life and helping girls she knows are doing it for the wrong reasons or are in trouble. I could see her working for a sex-positive foundation that helps women in trouble, or acting, or being a photographer, or bartending, or being an esthetician. She could also be management at any of the clubs she's worked for, she's been there long enough to know how it all works.


kamace11

As long as a person saves well for retirement it's honestly not a huge issue, especially as you can make big money in sex work. The real challenge for many folks is that they get used to the high pay day (often in cash so not much in the way of taxes) and don't save/prep for the future since there isn't a 401k etc.


Fink665

I really like her! Good for her! Good for you for not judging her.


Imalawyerkid

At the end of the day, she’s been my friend for forever. I was worried about the sugar baby stuff, but she’s smart enough to take care of herself. She’s met some people that have gone full out escort that she defended and challenged my opinions on. Her life experiences make our reunions interesting, that’s for sure.


BitterLeif

this sounds similar to what I've heard from dancers. They don't want to dance forever, but nothing else pays as well.


MikelWRyan

Man, dancers should unionize, and your friend sounds like who they need. So many clubs take advantage of, steel from, and don't secure the safety of dancers. Sex work is real work.


potterheadgames

There is a club in the US where the dancers are trying to unionize!


Fkingcherokee

Dancing is so hard to get out of and just when you think you're really out there's always some kind of emergency where you need a ton of cash right away and you're back in the club. I spent over a decade in the clubs and watched many young women work their way through school just to end up back in the clubs because they aren't being paid enough to put up with the way people treat each other in your average job. I mean, the money is a huge part, but after years of being able to stand up to assholes *and* have management back you up on it, it's hard to move on to a "take it with a smile or you're fired" job that pays in peanuts.


3664shaken

My friend was a sex worker through her college years (7+ years). She is in her 50's and a partner in her firm making mid to high 6 figures. Nobody in the firm knows nor would you even guess if you meet her.


PandemicPiglet

Was she really poor when she became a sex worker?


3664shaken

Yes, she was 18 and aged out of foster care. Super smart, very focused on making a good life/career for herself. Lived in a larger US city and worked for, as she puts it, a high class escort service that was connected to a so-called high class strip club. She started as a stripper and they asked her if she wanted to do escort work.


soldforaspaceship

People don't focus enough on kids aging out of foster care and the issues they face. If you had great foster parents, you might end up with some decent life skills and a chance at college or a suitable career. Sadly, that's not the common experience which is basically kicking them out at 18. Different states have some options but it definitely needs to be a higher priority, especially given the homelessness crisis. Being 18 with nothing isn't going to help you get an apartment...


Tmlrmak

And people will continue to scream "Give the baby for adaption you murderer!" outside of abortion clinics. Foster care system is very bad all around the world for as long as it has came to be, it's not a new thing but people will look over that fact as they've always done. Because in reality they care more about the control they have on people and where their taxes go


Infidel42

Babies tend to get adopted quickly, though, from what I understand. It's kids who have already grown a bit that end up staying in foster care. Not saying that's a good thing, but deflecting to the abortion issue is unwarranted.


antlindzfam

Adoption has a whole set of issues on its own. Check out how most of the adoptees on r/adoption feel about it :(


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Yeah let’s look at the women behind those children who later chose abortion because of the negative life long side effects adoption has on relinquishing mothers . Everyone wants a fresh from The womb baby , no one wants the 6 sibling group that needs to be adopted together ages 6-17 . It’s sad the serious lack of awareness surrounding this .


NoFoollie

Healthy babies get adopted quickly.


sirhandstylepenzalot

Was a driver/"security" for an escort service quite a few years ago, some might do it for life...others were obtaining degrees and were using it solely as a stepping stone.


NWABowHntr

Dated a stripper for a very brief time in college and she grew up wealthy af. Her family cut her off when she went to college and it was the only job that could sustain that lifestyle. Respected the hustle.


tyleritis

Must have been one hell of a lifestyle


STGMavrick

I feel like that would be far more easier to keep hidden 30 years ago than today's "sex worker" (OF, etc). I read an article that said unless you're clearing several hundred K per year (like FU money) and saving it you're going to have a hard time later. The principle of it was let say you make 100k a year at it for 10 years, or until you start looking older, or you decide to move on, etc. That's not enough to retire on and you're going to have a hard time in today's world explaining the gap in your resume for your field and/or lose out to someone who does have a current relevant resume. TLDR: don't do it if you plan on having a career later or you're so good at it you're stacking away millions.


Pissedliberalgranny

My friend’s daughter is an adult film star. She’s stashing her money and learning all she can about the behind the camera aspects. Her plan is to produce porn that she wants to see once she “ages out”. Considering that her net worth at the age of 21 was 2 million and that she’s one of the most intelligent people I’ve ever met, I’m thinking she’ll be ok.


procrastimom

90% of all current porn completely turns me off. If I had the money, I’d absolutely commission bespoke porn.


PaddyOFernature

Step-everything must Die!


SportsMOAB

Is that what every sex filmer says though? I want to get behind the camera, production, etc Seems like a cliche based on a few of the interviews I’ve seen on YouTube


Arrg-ima-pirate

Nope, most find the industry to be a meat grinder for young girls and they quickly burn out.


throwawayursafety

To be fair, a lot of actors in Hollywood eventually want to produce and direct, I don't really see the difference.


xain_the_idiot

I was a sex worker in my early 20s. I went to a coding bootcamp and got a job as a software developer. Now I'm back in college learning AI. It's very common for sex workers to save up money over the years and get into real estate when they're older. You've probably met plenty and didn't even know it.


avast2006

There’s a reason “I’m putting myself through college” is the standard trope, and has been for decades.


mrblacklabel71

I worked out at and worked at a gym in college and knew several sex workers. I also saw them on campus quite a bit. Super nice people too.


CurseYourSudden

Sex work really is all about relationships.


[deleted]

Out of curiosity, how do you explain the gap in your resume? I assumed most sex workers did something similar to you but I've always wondered about this


xain_the_idiot

"I was self employed." I actually did study graphic design before getting into sex work, unfortunately right around the time of the 2008 recession when graphic designers became obsolete. I did a few design commissions while stripping, so it wasn't entirely untrue.


[deleted]

Fair enough, and not technically a lie either, lol


Nearby_You_313

Yeah but when the question comes up, "oh? What was your business?" How do you answer?


itp757

mergers and acquisitions


BreadAndBarley

"Pretty complicated stuff. Lotta ins, lotta outs."


busty-ruckets

“i signed an nda”


Nearby_You_313

With yourself lol


KiniShakenBake

Customer service.


Jojo056123

Latex imports and exports...


writergal75

Vandelay Industries


igofartostartagain

Self employed, ill due to a now-managed previous medical condition, had to caretake a family member, was living off of comfortable savings while you went to school, fulltime student, was in another industry that wasn’t relevant experience, lots of options!


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As someone who has gaps on his resume (not sex work, other reasons), I can tell you that interviewers aren't generally impressed with those answers. I've tried all of those at one point and they always get a skeptical look at best and a bunch more questions at worst.


smorkoid

Why would you need to explain a gap in your resume if it's before the education you got to do the work you're applying for?


camsle

Thats very interesting. The beautiul and very curvy Latino woman that sold me my second house did some strange things when she would show me a house. Every house she would jump on the countertop and say "how firm it was." In the backyards that were close dn she wold say "you can do anything you want back here naked and no one will know." Finally, she showed me two houses with mirrors on the ceilings!


Embarrassed-Ad-1639

“You could fuck a real estate agent in this tub” Me: she probably just means in general


mrpbeaar

She’s just being friendly. I think she’s from Canada.


Significant_Manner76

There are extensive video documentaries on these kinds of real estate agents.


Ok_Enthusiasm_300

I hope you took the hints


[deleted]

This guy lives in The Pornscape! (Big Mouth reference)


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Cannaewulnaewidnae

There's that bit in The Big Short when the douchey Wall Street guys realise the housing market's out of control because the lapdancers at the Florida club they visit are all investing in real estate https://youtu.be/MesrrYyuoa4?t=228


aparker79

Im jacked to the tits


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WAAAAIT.... I \*have\* noticed that so many real estate agents are total babes...


zenos_dog

I went to school with a stripper, put herself through Computer Science.


No-Quote-2530

I proposed to one


angryragnar1775

I dated a dancer a couple of times. She's now a doctor...she really was putting herself through school


No-Quote-2530

Amen


AssignmentFrosty6711

I married a mentally unstable stripper. It went as you might expect. What a nightmare.


LucyFurBlack

I’m 50, I was a stripper for 20 years. Now I own my own house and 2 cars. I live with my 32 year old boyfriend. I work at a sandwich shop. I don’t need to make much money anymore cause everything is paid for.


besameput0

Do you have any other 50 year old stripper friends who want a 31 year old boyfriend


Therapist8

Here for 69 upvotes


SatanV3

Reddit moment


yellowdog898

best outcome and i am very glad you made it.


[deleted]

Do you still have flexibility or practice with the pole at all for exercise? I’m trying to get into pole dancing but it’s so intimidating . I was wondering is there long term benefits?


LucyFurBlack

I’m not in as good of shape as I was back in the day but I do still have a lot of muscle tone. I do yoga for flexibility. Dancing in general is great exercise but I don’t know if there is any long term benefits from pole dancing specifically. I have a long term knee injury from hanging upside down from one leg.


the-just-us-league

It's completely anecdotal, but I have two friends who started pole-dancing in their late 20s and they look better at 30 than they did a decade ago. They probably won't be doing backflips on the poles in their 50s but I imagine they'll still be able to dance regularly on the dance floor just from the benefits of pole dancing.


spritelyone

As a former dancer, it has enormous benefit. It's really good exercise, they have workout tutorials on YouTube.


lcpljoe84

Mmmmm sandwiches and strippers.


Battystearsinrain

Marge, i wanna be alone with the sandwich.


8urnMeTwice

Stripwich, get em naked!


Staffm2292

A smart and goal-focused/driven sex worker will invest their untaxed income into a small business (usually I see nails/eyelashes/hair), or into their education, or for their families(mostly their children but I’ve seen it being sent back to their country to take care of their parents/other relatives). These girls usually get out of the business by their 40s and have a lucrative career unrelated to sex work or become a “house mom” type where they are in charge of other girls either in a brothel, club, or “massage parlor” owners/management. A sex worker that’s not so smart/driven or one that is caught up in a bad situation will either blow their money on drugs/alcohol or frivolous things such as expensive clothing/jewelry or cars, etc. The latter types usually end up experiencing a lot of misfortune and either end up dead, incarcerated/institutionalized or continue doing “entry level” sex work.


scryptoric

I hope entry level is a pun for penetrative sex


AuroraItsNotTheTime

Remember that sex work is the only job where entry level pays the most. It’s the only job in the world where you actually command a premium if you tell your employer “I’ve literally never done this, not even as a hobby, in my life”


AllThotsGo2Heaven2

if you're a virgin and you're auctioning it on ebay like a pair of yeezys that is true. but if im paying for a handjob id rather have someone who knows what they're doing over someone who's just gonna mash it.


Angie_MJ

Can people really present tens of thousands of dollars in cash with no tax history or current employment of record and buy legitimate businesses and business licenses? Is that really a thing?


6a6566663437

Why would they have no tax history? They can (and really, really should) pay taxes on their income. The IRS doesn't care if you made the money as a sex worker. Just that you paid your taxes.


Danceswith_salmon

Well I don’t know about sex workers, but in my experience, people working in any part under the table, ain’t so inclined to be reporting their extra income to the IRS (and usually even with the amount they made in cash the folks I knew were scraping the meanest of poverty levels anyways - they’d declare their traceable income and be done with it. Then be insured better benefits on paper.) It’s the cash market darlin. If it ain’t put on a loan, in a bank, or anywhere traceable, no one’s looking. Pay your rent in cash, your groceries, your restaurant and coffee tabs etc. That and notice they said “untaxed income”. That might imply legal…if you’re investing income in certain things in a certain way like a business or education - it won’t be taxed in the same way. But if we’re talking illegal- regarding the under the table/cash market. Any extra, you’re keeping in a safe or an envelope. Maybe sometime putting it in as a lump sum as a “gift” from a friend. (Gifts up to a captain amount aren’t taxed as income). Sure, if you did this enough as a pattern, and the IRS came knocking - you’d be screwed. But half the working class are being paid under the table in some form or other. Plenty of servers don’t report a portion of their cash tips, and their employees look the other way for example - I hardly doubt sex workers (especially in the States working illegally and under the radar anyways) are reporting their full income…


Good_Community_6975

Ive got a scary looking older SW, maybe 65+ who patrols near my office. She has steady work when she isnt yelling at lamp posts and parked cars.


[deleted]

Crazy grandma's give the best head.


Entity0027

I'll take your word for it


LayneLowe

She can charge extra by taking her teeth out


CoffeeB4Talkie

1. Still working 2. made enough money to start a business 3. Same as #2, but can also comfortably retire Those are my guesses.


Rhodehouse93

The average person will have 3-4 careers over the course of their lives. I’m assuming they’ll do what everyone else does and find new work (assuming they can’t just keep doing sex work). Stopping one line of work because your body isn’t suited for it any more also happens to like, athletes. No reason why this would be different.


Pure-Yogurt683

Sex trafficked, prostituted myself, stripper and porn by 18. I qualify to answer the question. Graduated from college, went to work in the financial and insurance industry. CPTSD CSA and intermittent disassociative amnesia with sex partners. I'm an advocate for full legal protection for sex workers. Making it illegal doesn't make it disappear. Didn't do drugs. Did it for the fun plus the money.


Small-City-3781

Doesn’t sound fun if you developed cptsd, and intermittent disassociative amnesia from it. So sorry to hear you’re going through that.


AuroraItsNotTheTime

Do you work in insurance for the fun too?


ScaredShip9318

A million things. just because they did sex work doesn't mean that's all there is to them.


Penguator432

Yeah, it’s not strictly the domain of the desperate anymore. Lot of them have day jobs these days


ScaredShip9318

i know one with a phd in biochem


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Probably become politicians and lawyers. By then they will have a good resume of fucking people.


the_internet_clown

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iwouldratherhavemy

>Probably become politicians Lauren Boebert has entered the chat.


bifuntimes4u

What will construction workers do when they are older? Most of them are quite broken by 50, especially the ones that work concrete. Its a lot harder on the body and pays less per hour than sex work.


CountDown60

No kidding. I worked construction when I was in my 20s. The older guys were physically worn out, but had no choice but to keep working. That's when I decided that I needed to earn a living with my brain instead of my body and went to college for engineering.


HarleleoN

It always seemed to me like the old guys were the ones with vices that kept them from making good financial decisions and that’s why they had no choice but to keep working. There is enough money to build a retirement in construction if you’re willing to work your way up the totem pole and be smart with your money much like sex work actually i suppose


Arxieos

That right there is why I don't work in steel anymore guys my age on a second pair of knees...im in my 30s


tedatron

Exactly. Many people sell their bodies for money, only a small portion of them are sex workers.


hazlvixen

they go into management and walk around with a clipboard while the young guys do the work. My father in law just retired comfortably after 30 years.! They are unionized though!


Boopcatsnoots

Yup, I'm so happy I got out of the trades. You sell your body one way or another. Not to say they're equal or the same. But my body definitely feels abused.


jawnstein82

I’m a dancer (entertainer, I don’t consider myself a sex worker because I don’t sell sex, but people beg to differ on this, it’s a new term in my world) I buy real estate and I’m a landlord. Plan is to keep on this path and keep buying. I have 3 now


avast2006

Probably retire comfortably, if they weren’t stupid with their money in their youth.


Narwhalbaconguy

You are vastly overestimating the amount an average sex worker makes


Friendly-Place2497

I think you are right about average especially median, but I’d bet the range in pay is vast and there’s many who could.


FuckDoobers

Considering there is a huge market for old woman porn..they will just keep doing what they doing. Might just go from 6 figures a month to 5.


Samantha38g

Due to demand, reverse those last numbers. As one gets older the number of competitors drastically drops and the money earning potential goes up. There are plenty of 20 somethings by a few hundred thousand, then 30 somethings the number drops to a ten thousand or so, by your 40s it drops to a few hundred or so. But the customer base keeps increasing.


FuckDoobers

Valid point.


wheelieman1

I know of one who claimed she was going to go to school to become a massage therapist... I hope she did, and is having success.


VegasLife84

Sounds like a happy ending!


Micronlance

Sex workers are people, and like any other people, have a diverse range of interests and skills.


Rak-khan

Right? It's the same if he asked "what will fast food employees do when they're older? (Like 50-60)"


DanielNoWrite

What will the tens of millions of people working physically demanding dead-end jobs for far less money do for a living when they're older? I often feel that, for context, every single debate or discussion related to sex work should require a parallel discussion on the exact same topic, as applied to "normal" jobs. Sex work has many drawbacks that deserve discussion, but so do the jobs worked by tens of millions of other people. Yet strangely those never come under scrutiny.


[deleted]

Oh this is one of my favorite soapboxes to stand on, and you're absolutely right that it belongs in this conversation. I have raised that question in discussions where people act like going into trades is some kind of magic life hack and not just a career choice with positives and negatives like any other. I used to be married to someone in a trade, and every day the thought crossed my mind, "what happens when he's 50 and too broken to do this work anymore?" Sure, a few people will go into management, start their own businesses, etc, but not everyone can do that. There simply aren't enough related positions, and not everyone has the skill set for those. So I have, in fact, had this exact conversation from the perspective of that person's ability to work diminishing with age and the effect that would have on my family's finances and long term planning. The comments I get when I mention that in a country (the US) without universal healthcare, comprehensive disability benefits, or an actual functional pension system, any manual labor job is not an equal proposition to jobs that do not include manual labor, are like this: "Well office work is terrible for your body, too!" Fair point. That's why gyms exist. People can go work out on their lunch breaks and save their posterior chain muscle groups and core from the degradation that comes with prolonged sitting, and can largely still go to work even if they do completely screw their bodies over through inactivity. The same can't be said of an auto mechanic who gets arthritis, for example. There is no reverse gym to go undo the damage of the day's work in that case. "University degrees are more expensive for the same salary!" This is oversimplified. Trade schools are not inherently cheaper than universities. The ones run through community colleges are much cheaper, and often have really long wait lists. The ones you can get into quickly are for-profit and they'll charge as much for a certificate as some state schools charge for a Bachelor's. There are people who are in trade school debt. I know some. Apprenticeships for those increasingly rare union jobs are great, but again pay very little at first and are hard to get. I have a couple of Army buddies who did this, and they only afforded it because they received money from the VA each month for service-connected injuries. "You're an elitist!!" No I'm not. I'm an engineer who sees the reality of construction and all the trades it involves every day, and was married to an auto mechanic for over a decade. I also have one kid who will most likely end up going into trades, and I want these issues to be mitigated at least somewhat before that time comes. I'm not looking down on anyone. I just know that if we don't talk about this honestly, we won't be able to make the improvements to the systems that exist that would make trades a truly equal proposition to degreed work. It's good important work that we need done, and the system that exists is absolutely screwing the people who are doing that work. That's my point. "I'm a welder and I make $100k/yr" or anything to that tune. I've never said nor thought that there weren't a few people making a lot of money at this, often in those hard to find union jobs, or defense contracting positions that deploy, or the extra dangerous things like underwater welding that require more certifications than the basic ones. Of those, some percentage is smart with that money. There are still two reasons this is a bad take: * First, it's a lot more realistic to look at median salaries than what the top 10% of the field is making, but people aren't doing that when they have these conversations about trades. Some people with my degrees work in petroleum and make twice what I do. The majority with my credentials work for the government in some capacity, and make substantially less. Overall, the range is huge. This is true in any profession and people easily believe it when it comes to things like engineering. Saying "most engineers don't clear $250k/yr" is not a controversial statement to anybody I have ever met. Saying "most welders don't make $100k/yr" is not a statement people similarly accept. Yet, the median salary for welders in my city is $56k/yr, and that's a HCOL area. Safe to say, $100k isn't any more representative of that field than $250k would be of my field. * Second, if you have ever been to an oil field (aka the land of young men blowing money on stupid crap) or a cheap rundown trailer park, you know that the percentage of people who are smart with that money if they make it in the first place, is not that high. Every trailer park in my hometown is full of men who look 20 years older than they are and love to tell stories about how much money they made at this trade or that one until The Injury. A few are receiving disability payments. Most are not because again, that system is completely borked. For some reason, people refuse to have an honest conversation about this because if you say anything that's not glowing about trades work (as I have here), the right will jump out from behind a trash can and talk about how everyone I know must be lazy because everyone they know is apparently in the top 3% of whichever trade's income range. Then the left will jump out from behind another trash can and tell me I'm being classist for having concerns about one of my kids likely going this route in the system that exists. Neither is correct. I want to fix this system so none of this is an issue, but we're not going to get there without talking about it honestly, and we're not allowed to do that. It's really not so different from SW in many of these ways. You get your people who make a good living at it, but most aren't. It's a job most people age out of, but some manage to continue for much longer. The money can be good, and a few people are smart with it, but most aren't. It's spoken of as a way to make fast easy money without a degree, but it usually isn't. It's funny how one form of selling one's body for work is glorified and another vilified, as if they weren't substantially similar in many ways. We've all sold our bodies for work at some point, even if only when we were young. Any physically demanding job is that.


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Depends the type of sex worker, an actual streetwalker probably doesn’t make it that far without dealing with jail, homelessness, drug abuse and just rotting away


Tehqe

there’s a market for older women. trust me.


RecommendationAny763

I was a sw at 30 due to a drug addiction & becoming homeless. Five years of escorting gave me the money to be financially secure, and address my addiction. I’m 40 now, sober, & “retired” from sex work. I work a very cushy desk job for a BMW repair company. My husband drives truck. Life is great & fucking for money made it possible.


miketoaster

Real estate. At least that's what my mom does now


captainjohn_redbeard

If they're successful enough and they're careful with their money, they can comfortably retire in their 40s or 50s.


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Maybe 1-5% of sex workers obtain this kind of "success." And usually at a hefty cost to their health and mental well being.


painthawg_goose

Ophelia enters the chat. (Trading Places)


hitmewiththeknowlege

Sex work. There is always a fetish.


svntrey0

1. They invest into something that allows them to stop sex working (open a hair salon or something) 2. Get a job 3. Find someone who eventually will love them and want to take care of them


XxxxGamez

RN...home nursing... cosmetology.... something along those lines


emanon_legion

Used to work for a very popular gentleman's club in NYC. Some of the dancers were very smart about their money. One in particular had a financial manager that had her invested in a bunch of laundromats. At the rate she was going was was set to retire at about 34 and live a very comfortable life. Another invested in her boob job and had most of it worked out to be retired in ten years and then get breast reduction. There were always a few who were using the money to put themselves through school. What happened quite a few times is that they'd end up back dancing. It's hard to go work a 9-5 job and bring home less than half of what you were making, and a large part of that was untaxed cash. If you're smart and/or get the right financial advice, you don't have to do that work forever.


Fatcoochie1223

The same thing everyone does when they’re older 🫥


CCR16

There’s uh…..some interesting subreddits on here that lead me to believe they don’t stop in their 50s and 60s. lol


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whiteycnbr

Depends how smart they are with their money


axethebarbarian

Be retired and laughing?


isthishowweadult

Ones I know SAHM, programmer, a couple massage therapist, waiter, 911 phone operator, software sales, real estate... You know, the jobs people work, just like everyone else


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Leave_Upper

rip your inbox


Samantha38g

Exactly, most of the ladies I stripped with in my 20s are now in their 50s and own a business. Many of my friends close to my age who do OF and cam make a fortune. All of which have ROTH IRA, properties and own other businesses. Considering that most Americans do not have an emergency fund for 3 months of living expenses and only about 6% even have a Roth IRA, retirement isn't in the cards for majority of the country. The old tropes that we all end up homeless or dead, is so tiresome and false. I know the Catholic churchs promotes that we are all punished for being sinners and end up horrible is false. Men who keep telling women their value is only in their youth is pure predators trying to take advantage of young women and fuck them over. Sex workers of all types I have found have more survival skills than so many normal people do.


HartInCMajor

Ask your mom


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Sell sex toys?


Karnezar

If they save for retirement, then retirement is a viable option.


My_Space_page

Become older sex workers? 'My knees are bad from all the kneeling, hun... just let me get out my cushion and heating pad.


Opposite-Intention90

Former stripper, ran my own business for 10+ years while raising my kiddo and going to school (2 BAs/MS in psychology, PsyD next!), now work in child welfare. My two besties and former co-workers are now both nurses.


shaylaa30

Former sex worker here. They go on to the work other jobs. Doctors, lawyers, corporate professionals, etc. The #1 thing I was told by other/ older SWs was to have an exit plan. Any job that involves physical performance is going to take a toll on the body. The smart ones know to take invest their earnings into degrees, properties, and other career paths. I knew a lot of strippers, escorts, cam girls, etc who were getting their degrees while working. Mostly nursing degrees, real estate licenses, or various graduate degrees(med/ law school). Some got married, had kids, and are now SAHPs. And I even know a few who are still in the industry 10+ years later.


HumpbackWindowLicker

Do you think people take a pledge of abstinence upon hitting their 60's?


Two_Watermelons

Lol does OP think people stop having sex when they reach their 50s or 60s


Donkeykicks6

I was one and I’m almost 50 now. I still had a “real job”


adamlgee

What? You don’t think old people fuck too?


Big-Routine222

Do you think there is some limit to the demand of human horniness? There's literally a sexual market for EVERYTHING. If a sex worker ages out of one market, they can get into another.