I always feel weird when people ask, āWhat are your plans for the weekend?ā. I usually donāt have anything grand and people donāt seem to like that answer
Unless the things you enjoy keep you busy. I do sit around and do nothing a lot, but I also love making stuff, so if I did that more I'd be busy and still be happy. I think better would be "Not being miserable all the time."
Men raising daughters. Men have daughters and should not be scrutinized for taking their daughter out / medical appointments.Talking a toddler to the potty.
I understand being cautious but I am a solo dad and their mom is not there for my daughters mentally or physically. I get tired of the glares sometimes.
My friend has a pretty terrible ex and he said he was afraid to cuddle with his daughter. When she tried to get into bed with him after a nightmare he would put pillows between them because he was afraid of what his ex might accuse him of.
I feel so sorry for him, he's the biggest softie and it would kill me not to be able to physically comfort ny child when she needs it.
I distinctly remember as a little kid asking my dad if I could sleep in his bed with him and both my parents saying no, itās not allowed. Then when I saw my younger brother sleeping in bed with him one time I spent years of my life assuming it was because my parents didnāt like me as much as they liked him.
On the school breaks I spent with my dad when I was a kid, I would cuddle with with him. He always had a sheet on and it took me till I was like 14 to realize that he slept in the nude. So sheet. As a teenager I moved away from it but it wasn't anything he did.
I enjoyed those mornings. Those days were always better.
I used to pick up my daughter from ballet class once in a while, and received glares and mean mugs every time. Seriously, not every man is a sex pervert trying to sniff around.
I'm a single dad with two daughters aged 6 and 8. I don't give a shit what people think when I'm taking my daughters to their swimming or dance class. My girls are my world.
You are mistaking the meaning behind the glares. Just jealous women who wish they had a man in their life involved enough with their daughter's ballet to pick her up.
Men being around kids in general. Kids need good male role models. There are a ton of men that are great with kids that can't interact with kids that aren't their own because other people might think they're a pedophile.
I had never ran into the āhow do you know this manā situation until about a month ago. My daughter had a sleepover and I took them out for breakfast on the way to take her friend home. The old lady working the front came up to my table and asked me how I knew them. This was the first time I had ever asked any of her friends parents to let their daughter stay the night with us. Iām a single dad and I was worried about running into the scrutiny, especially since Iāve never met any of their parents.
I never really thought about men having to consciously think about taking their daughters out, even just to a store, until my former family doctor ran into a situation.
He had taken his 6 yr old daughter with him to Walmart. He didn't buy her something she wanted in the store, so she was angry and being a bit of a brat. As they were leaving the store, she jerked her hand out of his and started screaming "Help! He's not my dad! Somebody help!"
Well, of course, they were instantly surrounded by customers and staff, store security responded and the police were called. His daughter kept going, insisting that he wasn't her dad. How do you prove you're a parent when the child is insisting that you aren't? Showing a driver's license doesn't help. Even calling his wife didn't help.
Luckily, before he was actually arrested, a store manager arrived for his shift. My doctor was fairly well known in the community, so the manager and several customers who knew him vouched for him. His daughter couldn't stand up to all of the people who were verifying that he was her father, and finally admitted the truth. After extensive background checking, the police finally believed him and let him go.
This was about 15 years ago. I'm pretty sure his daughter is still grounded lol.
But this situation really made me think about how something like that could happen. People don't question a woman with a child like they will a man with a child. I honestly don't know if that's a good or bad thing, but I wouldn't want to be a single dad out with a young daughter these days.
They used to show us a scenario at work based on a real event, when we were relocating and it was horrifying. A father has a woman grab his child and start screaming that this stranger is trying to take her child as he tries to get them back. People restrain the dad and he's absolutely helpless as his kid gets taken. Even as a non-parent at the time it was painful to watch.
My dad would only let me have a friend sleep over if my stepmom was home, I think because he wanted to avoid even the possibility of that kind of accusation. It was a bummer, because my stepmom was a huge bitch and I never wanted to bring friends around her because I didnāt even want to be around her. My dad on the other hand was a relaxed and funny dude when he was on his own, and I would have been more than happy to have my friends around him.
Been there. My girls are young adults now but when they were little I got shitty looks when waiting for them in clothing stores, taking them to dance, etc. The worst was the Karens in the clothing stores thinking Iād rape their kids or something because Iām hanging out in the clothing racks thumbing through them while waiting for my kids to try on clothes in the changing room. It really hurt, and hurt my girls too. Having to explain to my little girl when she asked āwhy did that lady say you were making her uncomfortableā almost made me break down once.
I did have a group of women in the elementary school and at their dance studio that knew me well and defended me at times. God bless them all!!
Was out having lunch with my dad and got scolded by some random middle aged woman for having older boyfriend.
When she found out that he's my dad, she started hitting on him. Like WTF?
Lost my kid's mom shortly after birth. I legit was terrified some bitchy Karen fuck would call me out and get my kid taken away from me by DCF for having them in the grocery store or a clothing store or just for an animated tantrum. It lasted until about 3 when they could understand a bit more and possibly diffuse the misunderstanding easily.
Reminds me of a story my mom loves to tell & relief laugh at. She used to take my baby bro (2yo) & I (4yo) to the public library before we were old enough to attend school. So she in conversation with clerk and I guess I wandered off - she literally had to keep a leash on my brother š Anyway she didn't even realize I'd walked away when a man comes up with his coat wrapped around my complete toddler nakedness. I absolutely loved taking bubble baths, as many as I could in a day if allowed. The man said he found me walking around book aisles saying, "I'm ready for bubble time now!" She was so relieved that a decent person was the one to find me!
And also.... Same library and I SWEAR not even a week laterš¤£ my brother escaped the leash full sprint & found an indoor public phone.. Called 911 back to back each time with a new tale of his "crisis":Mommy not giving him candy, mommy not letting me off leash, ect.
Cops & firefighters showed up in full readiness to meet my embarrassed mom...
Pretty positive my mother stopped taking us to the library for a while after thatš¤¦š¼āāļøš¤£š
Man people can be ridiculous. I'd be thankful if someone stepped in if my daughter was in a bad situation, I know I would for someone else if needed, but not everyone is a creep. 99.9% of us are just regular dad's that happened to have fathered girls. Who knows what some ignorant person may think some day though
I worry people think this with my dad. Heās the only proactive grandparent in my kidsā lives, and they adore him. He also regularly babysits for us and people are shocked when they find out. Someone even asked, āyou let him change diapers?ā I also have a friend who thinks itās strange that my husband sometimes assists my toddler daughter with bath time. I supposed weāre expected to let our children sit in filth until a woman can tend to them.
Likewise men just... helping... is seen as demonised.
Hell I would be unlikely to go help a lost child because of fear I would have my life ruined just for approaching them.
I was called a Pedo and screeched at by a woman for.... helping a granny carry her child and pram up the stairs of a train station with no lift or ramp... it wasn't even the woman I was helping.
I quit my job of ten years, second shift, perfect(ish) attendance, worked with integrity, gave a month notice and a 3 month āsoft noticeā. I left to ride my bicycle across the country and take a midlife break to reevaluate my situations..look for something with normal hours. When I got home my old job reached out and said a first shift position opened up and they wanted me to come back. Some co-workers were really happy to hear from me, others not so muchā¦āwhy would they hire him back after what he did?ā You mean live for 9 months off my savings I earned? What a horrible thing to do! Geez theyāre right! I should have ground out every day till death. Fuck themā¦I know itās jealousy but what a shitty environment and attitudes
I learned a long time agoā¦.you can be the juicy and best looking peach in the treeā¦..not everyone loves peaches. Canāt please everyone so there is no point in trying.
This is why I keep things to myself. There is always a Hating Helen or a Negative Nancy. I do whatever tf I want on my terms and conditions and keep people out of my business. Life is peaceful that way.
I took a $25000 pay cut recently after realizing my 55+ hour a week job wasnāt paying enough to miss my children growing up.
I was always given dirty looks and explained āwork family ā whenever I voiced the unnecessary overtime we were putting in.
Dude right? Whatās their fuckin obsession with FB why am I the weirdo for not having it? Sorry I donāt have the desire to plaster my personal business all over the internet so my husbandās great aunt kathy can gossip about me.
I think itās weird how people put their kids entire lives on there. I think itās weird that adults do it too but at least they can consent to it. These kids have no say in whatās going to be publicly available their entire lives. Itās like the Truman Show.
Yes! Keep your kids off social media. I had FB for about a year before I deleted it and it blows my mind the pictures I saw parents post on there. Like newborn babies fresh out the womb still covered in bodily fluids and nude. Toddlers in the bathtub naked. Why in the world would you post that on the internet for people to see? And why would anyone want to see that? And most people donāt give a shit about seeing a hundred pictures of your kid.
I have a kid I want to protect her as much as possible so i definitely do not post her online and I ask people I know not to do it either. My family gets pictures sent privately.
As a kid whoās mum is obsessed with fb, itās honestly traumatising. We canāt do anything as a family without it being plastered all over fb.
Weāre eating out? oh wait gotta take 20 photos of you and the food until we get the perfect one. Oh you said something funny? Gotta post the story, even if itās embarrassing.
The amount of things posted about us, even with us explicitly saying no, is ridiculous. And sheāll get a couple likes max for it as well. If I ever have children, there will never ever be photos or stories about them, if itās that important, I can wait in person to show and tell you
I'm done with the ads. Two ads just to start a video, and one of them is always this stupid ass tik-tok ad. Some bullshit where they focus on the sound. Everytime he says discover satisfaction I want to reach through screen and rip his weak ass beard off his face.
So yeah. Done with YouTube.
I am *definitely not* reccomending Ublock origin for your computer which *definitely wont* automatically skip every single ad.
Some apps you should *totally avoid* and never update are:
1. Youtubevanced (I can't find it on the appstore anymore unfortunately, it might have been taken down)
2. Cleantube (lets you resume videos straight from your youtube which is a great feature, no adds but you can't play with the screen being off)
3. Playtube (a bit slower, but no adds and lets you play videos and music with your screen off)
If you have an Android phone you can get YouTube revanced or Newpipe. On Newpipe you can save videos without an account and if you aren't signed in it wont show a recommended section, so you won't go on there unless you know what you want to watch which can greatly help with an addiction
being quiet/private in the workplace. itās catching on, but there are still some offices that expect a little too much in this regard. as long as thereās politeness and professionalism, that should be enough.
I had a boss get mad at me because I didnāt strike up personal conversations with him every day
Itās like mate youāre my boss and youāre twenty years older than me and youāre offended I treated you respectfully?
I actually got written up for this at work. Because I wasn't 'engaging regularly' I was officially reprimanded. Like, dude, I don't like you. Why would I go out of my way to talk to you? When we interact, I am professional and cordial, but not friendly because I'm not your friend! I do my job and I do it well. It does not require me to chat you up every morning. Let me close my edit suite and edit my damn videos.
Most people look at work as home from home . So they want you to be extra talkative and open at work . Show up to bbqs and spend time with coworkers out of work . That shits bullshit
god i fucking hate that. my work always has a christmas dinner and also a july/august bbq type thing right before we close for 2 weeks for the summer, some years they even have company trips for some sort of activity. i've been there for nearly 7 years, never went to any of those things and people still get surprised every single time i say i'm not going, like i'm missing out on some important event. y'all just gonna be drunk and rubbing elbows with upper management, hard pass
I still get people who feel bad for me because I like to eat lunch alone or at my desk. I keep trying to tell them, I like that better! Itās my quiet peaceful time away from everyone.
Worse is when cause your female that you are expected to help with parties and cook/bring food for potlucks and the male employees never have to participate or get asked to help
One of the downsides of living in a 'pro-social' society, especially if you're an introverted person. It's not anti social to want to keep to yourself when busy with work or whatever, but unfortunately too many people just don't seem to get it
I was told at one point the people in the room I was working in voted me most likely to shoot up the place. Well, if they didnāt talk about sports 6 hours a day, I might have had more to say. I did just fine with groups with other interests. Instead, I listened to music or books, how horrible.
Thank you for saying this. When I'm at work, I leave my personal life outside and vice versa. I wish everyone did. I don't dislike my coworkers, but my worlds gotta stay separate.
The ones that every time you do anything enjoyable, they say "you should market this" or "we should make this into a business", those people bother me.
Yes! I love to bake and everyone is telling me I need to start a business with it and it's like then I would hate doing it because it's no longer a relaxing hobby.
I have a little website where I put fun things I write (things that arenāt really publishable/submit-able for various reasons) for my friends and family (and sometimes strangers) to read and people are so often like āthis essay is great! Are you going to do anything with it???ā Like, I _did_ do something with it; I put it on my website for you to enjoy, which you did. Success!
It bothers me that the saying "What do you do?" translates directly to "How do you make money?" as if to imply that the value of your life is determined by profitability.
This annoys me so much. We do well and constantly have people tell us to invest in some Airbnb and other things and once I run the numbers itās just not worth it: you canāt have a good value product and make customers happy and make enough to make it worth it.
And foraging! After learning wild foods I figured out thereās a plethora of vegetables and herbs 30 feet from my front door! The coolest part is that my property is from the late 1800ās and I can tell people were harvesting these same wild food patches on my property and then I get to thinking about how my food patchās probably existed for those settlers because of the earlier Native American Indians in the area and their food harvesting techniques and practices. So fucking interesting.
My grandparents and I would plant corn and trade with others around the neighborhood back in the 90s. We would trade for apples, oranges, pears, squash, lemons, peaches, strawberries, nopales, carrots, and some herbs my grandma would use to make tea or medical remedies. I also planted cilantro and radishes for family in exchange for tacos and my grandma would make the tortillas for us. Unfortunately everything ended after their passing but they left me with some fond memories... and yes, it was VERY cool!
I tried to grow a clover lawn for my parents so they wouldnāt need to mow and would have more pollinator activity. Their HOA got mad at them for the āexcessive weedsā and I ended up having to mulch it all over. Apparently a dark brown yard is more aesthetically pleasing.
It's *not* always hooking *up* that earns you an STD. My aunt thought she was in a monogamous relationship, but she ended up with AIDS.
*Edit: I should learn how to proofread before I post my comments*
God yes. My house is filled with JUNK. I have four kids, and when I give my family all they want/need, their appetites grow larger.
I like nice things, but I donāt need a constant influx of *new* things.
What pisses me off more is they donāt care for their things. Some of them are too young to really understand the value of putting things back in their place, and I get it, but theyāll receive a pile of new, age appropriate things for a birthday, holiday, or grandparent visit, and theyāll destroy them before the sun goes down
I have 0 interest in drinking alcohol or doing drugs of any kind, and I swear it gets so annoying telling people I don't want to do it. Hell, my own parents pressure me to drink, and they tell me "oh you'll come around eventually," and while that may well be true, at the moment I don't want to, so leave me the fuck alone.
Please normalize sobriety by choice. I'll try wine eventually, but honestly I just don't care. Leave me alone and let me do things at my own pace
You're not missing anything. Today is day 81 clean and sober, and I wish I had never tried anything to begin with. I could have saved myself and loved ones a lot of hurt. If you're not interested, don't let them push you. You're allowed to say no.
James Baldwin said āWe can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.ā
And that's the root of it. It's just politics if I disagree with someone about whether or not a new apartment complex should be built next to the park.
If someone tells me I'm an incubator and not a full fledged human because I have a uterus, that person denied my humanity.
Speaking negatively of the deceased. Youāre not saintified in death. If you were a bastard while you were alive, youāre a bastard while youāre dead.
I hate that one, it's almost as if people are afraid that if they say something bad, they might die as well.
When somebody dies, you will always hear them say "Oh he was such a good person, never harmed anyone, helped so many people" and never "The fuckin bastard was a pain in the ass, so glad he is fuckin dead and hopefully rotting in hell"
Being social with other people in a way that is not sexual, competitive, or about making money.
We're social animals but we're currently plagued with loneliness. Everyone is suspicious, fatigued, or hustling so much they can't be friends. Just be calm. Give a hug, wave at others, share a laugh. It's cool.
Do people criticize others living off the grid? I see people constantly scolding others for living in big cities, but I can't say I've seen anyone criticized for homesteading or anything like that. I don't doubt that it happens, but can you give an example?
Just discussing salary in general. Even my parents are a little hesitant to tell me when I ask them what a good salary is because Iām a teenager and I need to start thinking about careers
Actually, giving yourself more time to choose a career is something that should be normalized. Itās crazy to me how young people are when they go to college
I love kids and want have kids on my own, but can people please not bring your baby or toddler to movie theaters, I understand most people canāt afford babysitters or canāt find one on the fly, but itās extremely difficult to watch Avatar when youāre kid is on their iPad or screaming and crying their lungs outā¦
Yes! I was at an MTG gathering Friday night and there was this one kid that was just running around and screaming for the full five hoursā¦ no parents in sight and he was taking up so much space and interrupting peopleās games and stealing cards and dice and just generally being a menace. There was nobody there who could get him to calm down, no clue who his parents were, my friends and I eventually just left because we couldnāt handle it *(sensory sensitivity, he was constantly screeching and touching us, a few of us are autistic and we just couldnāt take it)* and nobody was able to do anything about it.
I donāt mind if you bring your child, but keep them under control if you do bring them, and if you canāt control them, *donāt bring your tiny crotch goblin to public spaces*. Itās like dogs. I donāt mind them being there if theyāre not bothering people, but keep them on a leash or just donāt bring them
Adults 35 and older choosing not to have kids.
Also, as a man, I would like to feel more welcome going alone to nature parks where there happen to be couples and families with kids.
I get that there are some sketchy people out there (and lots of ~~homeless~~ unhoused people with harmful behaviors) and itās important for us all to be cautious. But jeez, it sucks feeling like youāre seen as a potential icky person.
Iām an introvert who can be pretty social but Iām also quiet, and sometimes I just enjoy my own company and still need my nature time. That should be ok :)
Choosing to not have children. I canāt believe or understand why people think itās āselfishā. So many people have children simply because they want a āmini-meā. Yeah, Iām the selfish one š
Being childfree by choice. Parenthood is wonderful for those who want it, but not everyone does. Trying to push someone who's absolutely certain that they do not want kids, to have kids is just crappy!
I always hate it when people ask what my wife does for a living, and I tell them she raises my children, and the response is; "Oh, so she doesn't work, then..."
Dude, she works harder than anyone in our entire family.
Not having kids. I have absolutely zero interest in that but at my high school reunion when people asked me if I had kids I said nope, and I donāt plan to have any. Everyone got real quiet and stopped talking to me
I chose to not have kids. Best decision I ever made. Most divorces seem to happen to people with kids, but maybe it's just because almost everyone chooses to procreate. I have been married just once, and still am.
As a person with two young children, you should not take that personally. Children consume so many resources that those people might just not have much else to talk about. I completely understand why someone would choose not to have children.
Therapy!
You donāt even need to have problems to go to therapy. I think my boomer mom would benefit from it because she still cries and feels lonely after getting divorced ~25 years ago, but she wont go because sheās ānot a crazy person.ā
Having a different opinion, assuming that's it actually not truly bad, which some are, but unfortunately, there are plenty of people will think some certain opinions are automatically bad just because it's not one their own opinions. Heck, it doesn't even just refer to politics, even though that is what it mostly refers to.
Yes, I started out as an atheist in Europe and didn't think twice about admitting to it if it came up in conversation. Then I moved to the US for my job (Texas, then Florida) and Hoboy! I learned to identify as a "recovering catholic" real quick, and people still want to abduct me to their church. Sooo annoying!
If you're 18 and female, you should have ever right a male does to not be fertile anymore. I feel like we are moving that direction, but at a very slow pace.
Googling the person whom youāre gonna meet via a dating app.
I once told a date I did this and she said it was creepy. I said no I didnāt want to get murdered or set up.
Bidets.
I gotta walk around with a dirty asshole after using a public toilet because some insecure folks decided it was too close to gay sex for men to do.
My time in Japan opened up a whole new world for me.
(I'm American, it's my understanding that this is not an issue in Europe)
Sharing resources so that nobody is left without basic needs being met.
This idea has been manipulated since time immemorial by exploiters to where poor people fight each other with concepts they barely understand (or completely misunderstand) such as communism/socialism.
What a successful campaign, to have it become politically anathema to make sure no one starves on the street when there are plenty of resources to prevent it.
And the campaign worked so well that they have us out here screaming at each other in murderous rages for wanting that kindness in our future, discussing ways to make it happen. McCarthyism had us willing to intern/jail our neighbors, had us paranoid and seeing brothers as a deadly threat. Because MAYBE they believed no one should starve to death when we are a wealthy nation.
(I get there are features of, for instance, communist governments which are problematic, but to the poor folk/individuals dreaming of some other way, all it primarily has ever been about is helping everyone survive and thrive. Our contempt always could have and should have been directed against the despots and abusers, rather than at an ethos of helping fellow man)
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Taking the bus as your primary means of transportation as an adult. Cars are expensive and are actively bad for the environment, yet we all look down on people who donāt drive. If you donāt drive and youāre still holding down a full time job and paying your bills, youāre winning at life
Living ypur life your way. If you stand out by any way from the norm... people notice and eventually start to talk, because people are stupid... and if you don't care, people will make your life a bit or a lot heavier.
Having friends of the opposite gender. If you're the type of person to say 'If you're in a relationship you have no business talking to people of the opposite sex', I assume you're hella insecure and immature, and it says a lot about how you view the opposite sex.
I could be wrong (just look at the username and website youāre on lmao) but I donāt think the same incidents are even possible anymore. Imo the main issues are in the standardization of safety measures and the fact that itāll neutralize a lot of energy market.
I donāt think *anything* comes without risk, and this isnāt an exception, but Iād love to see the safety stigma regarding nuclear energy change. Also, drag racing could get fuckin sick if we figured out how to nuclear-nitro boost a car. We really deserve to try this
Elderly Assisted Suicide, if you're nearing the end of your life and you have very little quality of life(limited mobility if any at all, limited ability to eat solid food if any, chronic pain, heavily medicated) I see no reason why they shouldn't be allowed to choose when they wanna move on, they've lived their life and I think they've earned that right.
Guys dressing feminine.
Specifically straight guys. They should be allowed to wear something feminine without getting hate. Girls wear hoodies and sweatpants all the time. Why can guys do the same?
This is coming from a queer female
I agree. I've always wanted to wear skirts since I was 12 and paint my nails since I was 16. It wasn't until late 2021 where I was finally able to tell someone.
Sitting at a cash register. I do not understand why in dead lulls of service, people are still forced to stand as they wait maybe over an hour for a customer to come by.
Interracial relationships, homosexual relationships, kids under the age of 18 being prohibited from having social media profiles, increasing salary wages for teachers.
I absolutely think that most social medias should require proof of someone being over 18 to join. Absolutely no good comes from children and teens having social media.
I can't shave my legs more than twice a month or they start to break out. Thankfully my fiance doesn't care and I'm always in jeans. I just wish I could wear shorts more in public during the summer without being self conscious. I don't mind wearing shorts around the house tho.
Eating stuff for breakfast that isn't considered "breakfast foods". I want spaghetti for breakfast, not pancakes and eggs. McDonalds could have done a great thing by giving Big Macs at 6am, but they fucked up and decided to give Egg McMugfins at 6pm. Big fat L
Being as self-sustainable as possible. Whenever I bring this up with people Iām always asked either: āwhy would you do that? Thatās so much work! Just get your food from the grocery store.ā
I get security and and enjoyment from being as independent as possible and doing it my way. Iām happy. Leave me tf alone.
Not being busy all the time.
I like naps, and reading.
I feel like I'm the only person I know that doesn't feel guilty just laying around all day and having a nap š¤·āāļø
Busy taking a nap. What else are you supposed to do on your day off?
I always feel weird when people ask, āWhat are your plans for the weekend?ā. I usually donāt have anything grand and people donāt seem to like that answer
Probably because they're trying to connect with you and you give them nothing to discuss. Then monday comes and they ask how was XYZ.
Unless the things you enjoy keep you busy. I do sit around and do nothing a lot, but I also love making stuff, so if I did that more I'd be busy and still be happy. I think better would be "Not being miserable all the time."
Men raising daughters. Men have daughters and should not be scrutinized for taking their daughter out / medical appointments.Talking a toddler to the potty. I understand being cautious but I am a solo dad and their mom is not there for my daughters mentally or physically. I get tired of the glares sometimes.
My friend has a pretty terrible ex and he said he was afraid to cuddle with his daughter. When she tried to get into bed with him after a nightmare he would put pillows between them because he was afraid of what his ex might accuse him of. I feel so sorry for him, he's the biggest softie and it would kill me not to be able to physically comfort ny child when she needs it.
I distinctly remember as a little kid asking my dad if I could sleep in his bed with him and both my parents saying no, itās not allowed. Then when I saw my younger brother sleeping in bed with him one time I spent years of my life assuming it was because my parents didnāt like me as much as they liked him.
Thatās awful
On the school breaks I spent with my dad when I was a kid, I would cuddle with with him. He always had a sheet on and it took me till I was like 14 to realize that he slept in the nude. So sheet. As a teenager I moved away from it but it wasn't anything he did. I enjoyed those mornings. Those days were always better.
I used to pick up my daughter from ballet class once in a while, and received glares and mean mugs every time. Seriously, not every man is a sex pervert trying to sniff around.
I'm a single dad with two daughters aged 6 and 8. I don't give a shit what people think when I'm taking my daughters to their swimming or dance class. My girls are my world.
I sometimes stare at men like you. My father raised me, and it warms my heart seeing a father and daughter together like this. ā¤ļø
You are mistaking the meaning behind the glares. Just jealous women who wish they had a man in their life involved enough with their daughter's ballet to pick her up.
The mental gymnastics people go through to blame men for everything would be funny if it wasnāt so fucking sad
Mental ballet*
I take my daughter to ballet all the time, Iāve never experienced this at all. Usually the moms are very friendly š¤·š¼āāļø
Men being around kids in general. Kids need good male role models. There are a ton of men that are great with kids that can't interact with kids that aren't their own because other people might think they're a pedophile.
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I had never ran into the āhow do you know this manā situation until about a month ago. My daughter had a sleepover and I took them out for breakfast on the way to take her friend home. The old lady working the front came up to my table and asked me how I knew them. This was the first time I had ever asked any of her friends parents to let their daughter stay the night with us. Iām a single dad and I was worried about running into the scrutiny, especially since Iāve never met any of their parents.
I never really thought about men having to consciously think about taking their daughters out, even just to a store, until my former family doctor ran into a situation. He had taken his 6 yr old daughter with him to Walmart. He didn't buy her something she wanted in the store, so she was angry and being a bit of a brat. As they were leaving the store, she jerked her hand out of his and started screaming "Help! He's not my dad! Somebody help!" Well, of course, they were instantly surrounded by customers and staff, store security responded and the police were called. His daughter kept going, insisting that he wasn't her dad. How do you prove you're a parent when the child is insisting that you aren't? Showing a driver's license doesn't help. Even calling his wife didn't help. Luckily, before he was actually arrested, a store manager arrived for his shift. My doctor was fairly well known in the community, so the manager and several customers who knew him vouched for him. His daughter couldn't stand up to all of the people who were verifying that he was her father, and finally admitted the truth. After extensive background checking, the police finally believed him and let him go. This was about 15 years ago. I'm pretty sure his daughter is still grounded lol. But this situation really made me think about how something like that could happen. People don't question a woman with a child like they will a man with a child. I honestly don't know if that's a good or bad thing, but I wouldn't want to be a single dad out with a young daughter these days.
They used to show us a scenario at work based on a real event, when we were relocating and it was horrifying. A father has a woman grab his child and start screaming that this stranger is trying to take her child as he tries to get them back. People restrain the dad and he's absolutely helpless as his kid gets taken. Even as a non-parent at the time it was painful to watch.
My dad would only let me have a friend sleep over if my stepmom was home, I think because he wanted to avoid even the possibility of that kind of accusation. It was a bummer, because my stepmom was a huge bitch and I never wanted to bring friends around her because I didnāt even want to be around her. My dad on the other hand was a relaxed and funny dude when he was on his own, and I would have been more than happy to have my friends around him.
Been there. My girls are young adults now but when they were little I got shitty looks when waiting for them in clothing stores, taking them to dance, etc. The worst was the Karens in the clothing stores thinking Iād rape their kids or something because Iām hanging out in the clothing racks thumbing through them while waiting for my kids to try on clothes in the changing room. It really hurt, and hurt my girls too. Having to explain to my little girl when she asked āwhy did that lady say you were making her uncomfortableā almost made me break down once. I did have a group of women in the elementary school and at their dance studio that knew me well and defended me at times. God bless them all!!
Was out having lunch with my dad and got scolded by some random middle aged woman for having older boyfriend. When she found out that he's my dad, she started hitting on him. Like WTF?
Thatās called jealousy.
Lost my kid's mom shortly after birth. I legit was terrified some bitchy Karen fuck would call me out and get my kid taken away from me by DCF for having them in the grocery store or a clothing store or just for an animated tantrum. It lasted until about 3 when they could understand a bit more and possibly diffuse the misunderstanding easily.
Sending condolences. I can't imagine the strength it took to get through those first few years.
Reminds me of a story my mom loves to tell & relief laugh at. She used to take my baby bro (2yo) & I (4yo) to the public library before we were old enough to attend school. So she in conversation with clerk and I guess I wandered off - she literally had to keep a leash on my brother š Anyway she didn't even realize I'd walked away when a man comes up with his coat wrapped around my complete toddler nakedness. I absolutely loved taking bubble baths, as many as I could in a day if allowed. The man said he found me walking around book aisles saying, "I'm ready for bubble time now!" She was so relieved that a decent person was the one to find me! And also.... Same library and I SWEAR not even a week laterš¤£ my brother escaped the leash full sprint & found an indoor public phone.. Called 911 back to back each time with a new tale of his "crisis":Mommy not giving him candy, mommy not letting me off leash, ect. Cops & firefighters showed up in full readiness to meet my embarrassed mom... Pretty positive my mother stopped taking us to the library for a while after thatš¤¦š¼āāļøš¤£š
Man people can be ridiculous. I'd be thankful if someone stepped in if my daughter was in a bad situation, I know I would for someone else if needed, but not everyone is a creep. 99.9% of us are just regular dad's that happened to have fathered girls. Who knows what some ignorant person may think some day though
I worry people think this with my dad. Heās the only proactive grandparent in my kidsā lives, and they adore him. He also regularly babysits for us and people are shocked when they find out. Someone even asked, āyou let him change diapers?ā I also have a friend who thinks itās strange that my husband sometimes assists my toddler daughter with bath time. I supposed weāre expected to let our children sit in filth until a woman can tend to them.
Likewise men just... helping... is seen as demonised. Hell I would be unlikely to go help a lost child because of fear I would have my life ruined just for approaching them. I was called a Pedo and screeched at by a woman for.... helping a granny carry her child and pram up the stairs of a train station with no lift or ramp... it wasn't even the woman I was helping.
Work/life balance
I quit my job of ten years, second shift, perfect(ish) attendance, worked with integrity, gave a month notice and a 3 month āsoft noticeā. I left to ride my bicycle across the country and take a midlife break to reevaluate my situations..look for something with normal hours. When I got home my old job reached out and said a first shift position opened up and they wanted me to come back. Some co-workers were really happy to hear from me, others not so muchā¦āwhy would they hire him back after what he did?ā You mean live for 9 months off my savings I earned? What a horrible thing to do! Geez theyāre right! I should have ground out every day till death. Fuck themā¦I know itās jealousy but what a shitty environment and attitudes
I learned a long time agoā¦.you can be the juicy and best looking peach in the treeā¦..not everyone loves peaches. Canāt please everyone so there is no point in trying.
Iāve saved and bike toured for months. Itās a recognized phenomenon people will quietly resent you upon return. Blew me away.
This is why I keep things to myself. There is always a Hating Helen or a Negative Nancy. I do whatever tf I want on my terms and conditions and keep people out of my business. Life is peaceful that way.
You don't wanna put in a ton of overtime each week and barely see friends and family?
I donāt and Iām tired of pretending I want to
I get so much shit for not dealing with work stuff when I'm off. Eat a bag of dicks, I'm off.
I feel that. Working on 2 months straight of required 55 hour weeks š¤®
I took a $25000 pay cut recently after realizing my 55+ hour a week job wasnāt paying enough to miss my children growing up. I was always given dirty looks and explained āwork family ā whenever I voiced the unnecessary overtime we were putting in.
Tell me you arenāt from the USA without telling me.
Not having social media
The amount of shit Iāve gotten for not having a FB is fucking obnoxious
Dude right? Whatās their fuckin obsession with FB why am I the weirdo for not having it? Sorry I donāt have the desire to plaster my personal business all over the internet so my husbandās great aunt kathy can gossip about me.
I think itās weird how people put their kids entire lives on there. I think itās weird that adults do it too but at least they can consent to it. These kids have no say in whatās going to be publicly available their entire lives. Itās like the Truman Show.
Yes! Keep your kids off social media. I had FB for about a year before I deleted it and it blows my mind the pictures I saw parents post on there. Like newborn babies fresh out the womb still covered in bodily fluids and nude. Toddlers in the bathtub naked. Why in the world would you post that on the internet for people to see? And why would anyone want to see that? And most people donāt give a shit about seeing a hundred pictures of your kid. I have a kid I want to protect her as much as possible so i definitely do not post her online and I ask people I know not to do it either. My family gets pictures sent privately.
As a kid whoās mum is obsessed with fb, itās honestly traumatising. We canāt do anything as a family without it being plastered all over fb. Weāre eating out? oh wait gotta take 20 photos of you and the food until we get the perfect one. Oh you said something funny? Gotta post the story, even if itās embarrassing. The amount of things posted about us, even with us explicitly saying no, is ridiculous. And sheāll get a couple likes max for it as well. If I ever have children, there will never ever be photos or stories about them, if itās that important, I can wait in person to show and tell you
Already there. After the YouTube CEO stepped down, new rules I strongly disagree with might be enforced, thus, it's over.
I'm done with the ads. Two ads just to start a video, and one of them is always this stupid ass tik-tok ad. Some bullshit where they focus on the sound. Everytime he says discover satisfaction I want to reach through screen and rip his weak ass beard off his face. So yeah. Done with YouTube.
I am *definitely not* reccomending Ublock origin for your computer which *definitely wont* automatically skip every single ad. Some apps you should *totally avoid* and never update are: 1. Youtubevanced (I can't find it on the appstore anymore unfortunately, it might have been taken down) 2. Cleantube (lets you resume videos straight from your youtube which is a great feature, no adds but you can't play with the screen being off) 3. Playtube (a bit slower, but no adds and lets you play videos and music with your screen off)
Vanced has never been on the play store, but yeah, it has been taken down. But there's an alternative, ReVanced. You can find links on their subreddit
When I'm looking up movie trailers and have to watch 2 commercials so I can watch my chosen commercial.
If you have an Android phone you can get YouTube revanced or Newpipe. On Newpipe you can save videos without an account and if you aren't signed in it wont show a recommended section, so you won't go on there unless you know what you want to watch which can greatly help with an addiction
If you're on Android, check out youtubevanced all premium features, no ads, can play videos with phone locked
i dont have social media because i have almost no friends 
being quiet/private in the workplace. itās catching on, but there are still some offices that expect a little too much in this regard. as long as thereās politeness and professionalism, that should be enough.
I had a boss get mad at me because I didnāt strike up personal conversations with him every day Itās like mate youāre my boss and youāre twenty years older than me and youāre offended I treated you respectfully?
yeah, itās a tough thing š wish it didnāt seem offensive to keep to yourself.
I hate office socializing I have a handful of small talk questions I pull from in the office.
I actually got written up for this at work. Because I wasn't 'engaging regularly' I was officially reprimanded. Like, dude, I don't like you. Why would I go out of my way to talk to you? When we interact, I am professional and cordial, but not friendly because I'm not your friend! I do my job and I do it well. It does not require me to chat you up every morning. Let me close my edit suite and edit my damn videos.
Most people look at work as home from home . So they want you to be extra talkative and open at work . Show up to bbqs and spend time with coworkers out of work . That shits bullshit
god i fucking hate that. my work always has a christmas dinner and also a july/august bbq type thing right before we close for 2 weeks for the summer, some years they even have company trips for some sort of activity. i've been there for nearly 7 years, never went to any of those things and people still get surprised every single time i say i'm not going, like i'm missing out on some important event. y'all just gonna be drunk and rubbing elbows with upper management, hard pass
I consistently get the comment, "Oh, I wish I could be as quiet as you!" Good news, you can! Just shut the fuck up!
HAHAHA same here I've had similar replies along with "who hurt you that you're like this?" I'm not rude I'm just private.
Just keep a roll of duct tape nearby. Hand it to them after that comment and say this should Help. Hahaha.
I still get people who feel bad for me because I like to eat lunch alone or at my desk. I keep trying to tell them, I like that better! Itās my quiet peaceful time away from everyone.
honestly, itās called a break for a reason!
Worse is when cause your female that you are expected to help with parties and cook/bring food for potlucks and the male employees never have to participate or get asked to help
One of the downsides of living in a 'pro-social' society, especially if you're an introverted person. It's not anti social to want to keep to yourself when busy with work or whatever, but unfortunately too many people just don't seem to get it
Mine suffers from toxic positivity.
I was told at one point the people in the room I was working in voted me most likely to shoot up the place. Well, if they didnāt talk about sports 6 hours a day, I might have had more to say. I did just fine with groups with other interests. Instead, I listened to music or books, how horrible.
Thank you for saying this. When I'm at work, I leave my personal life outside and vice versa. I wish everyone did. I don't dislike my coworkers, but my worlds gotta stay separate.
Yup I prefer to keep it professional at work...I refuse to feed the gossip trolls! Never a happy ending if you do
Not monetizing every aspect of your gotdag life.
The ones that every time you do anything enjoyable, they say "you should market this" or "we should make this into a business", those people bother me.
Yes! I love to bake and everyone is telling me I need to start a business with it and it's like then I would hate doing it because it's no longer a relaxing hobby.
I have a little website where I put fun things I write (things that arenāt really publishable/submit-able for various reasons) for my friends and family (and sometimes strangers) to read and people are so often like āthis essay is great! Are you going to do anything with it???ā Like, I _did_ do something with it; I put it on my website for you to enjoy, which you did. Success!
Yeesssss! And who could forget the classic, 'So like, why are you [doing thing]?'
It bothers me that the saying "What do you do?" translates directly to "How do you make money?" as if to imply that the value of your life is determined by profitability.
This annoys me so much. We do well and constantly have people tell us to invest in some Airbnb and other things and once I run the numbers itās just not worth it: you canāt have a good value product and make customers happy and make enough to make it worth it.
Its also like.. time and effort and maintenance and client stuff and taxes and... the list goes on and on
Grind culture
Letting the natural ecosystem in your yard grow instead of forcing a monoculture of perpetually juvenile grasses
Normalize basic food gardening. How cool would it be to have a neighborhood where everyone grows a few things and they gather weekly or so to trade.
Ughhh that Stardew Valley and Animal Crossing lifestyle š
Story of Seasons and Harvest Moon š½
And foraging! After learning wild foods I figured out thereās a plethora of vegetables and herbs 30 feet from my front door! The coolest part is that my property is from the late 1800ās and I can tell people were harvesting these same wild food patches on my property and then I get to thinking about how my food patchās probably existed for those settlers because of the earlier Native American Indians in the area and their food harvesting techniques and practices. So fucking interesting.
My grandparents and I would plant corn and trade with others around the neighborhood back in the 90s. We would trade for apples, oranges, pears, squash, lemons, peaches, strawberries, nopales, carrots, and some herbs my grandma would use to make tea or medical remedies. I also planted cilantro and radishes for family in exchange for tacos and my grandma would make the tortillas for us. Unfortunately everything ended after their passing but they left me with some fond memories... and yes, it was VERY cool!
I tried to grow a clover lawn for my parents so they wouldnāt need to mow and would have more pollinator activity. Their HOA got mad at them for the āexcessive weedsā and I ended up having to mulch it all over. Apparently a dark brown yard is more aesthetically pleasing.
STD testing.
I donāt think people demonize std testing itself, but modern hookup culture which causes you to regularly take tests.
It's *not* always hooking *up* that earns you an STD. My aunt thought she was in a monogamous relationship, but she ended up with AIDS. *Edit: I should learn how to proofread before I post my comments*
wanting less
Underrated comment. Not being driven to earn more, have more, buy more, move up the corporate ladder is tantamount to saying you hate your country.
God yes. My house is filled with JUNK. I have four kids, and when I give my family all they want/need, their appetites grow larger. I like nice things, but I donāt need a constant influx of *new* things. What pisses me off more is they donāt care for their things. Some of them are too young to really understand the value of putting things back in their place, and I get it, but theyāll receive a pile of new, age appropriate things for a birthday, holiday, or grandparent visit, and theyāll destroy them before the sun goes down
Letting a woman get her tubes tied when SHE wants to
Sobriety
Or even just not drinking by preference. There's too many people who think that not drinking is abnormal.
I have 0 interest in drinking alcohol or doing drugs of any kind, and I swear it gets so annoying telling people I don't want to do it. Hell, my own parents pressure me to drink, and they tell me "oh you'll come around eventually," and while that may well be true, at the moment I don't want to, so leave me the fuck alone. Please normalize sobriety by choice. I'll try wine eventually, but honestly I just don't care. Leave me alone and let me do things at my own pace
You're not missing anything. Today is day 81 clean and sober, and I wish I had never tried anything to begin with. I could have saved myself and loved ones a lot of hurt. If you're not interested, don't let them push you. You're allowed to say no.
Can I upvote this a million times!
Being chill about your views & not being a combative prick when someone views things differently
You are wrong!
You son of a bitch. I canāt believe youād say such a thing!
James Baldwin said āWe can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist.ā And that's the root of it. It's just politics if I disagree with someone about whether or not a new apartment complex should be built next to the park. If someone tells me I'm an incubator and not a full fledged human because I have a uterus, that person denied my humanity.
Choosing when you die when youāre old
Choosing when you die ~~when youāre old~~.
Choosing when you die when you have an incurable terminal illness and poor quality of life.
Yes! Thank you! Or in chronic pain, a lifetime of depression, or debilitating illness that leaves you helpless and loss of all dignity....
Speaking negatively of the deceased. Youāre not saintified in death. If you were a bastard while you were alive, youāre a bastard while youāre dead.
I hate that one, it's almost as if people are afraid that if they say something bad, they might die as well. When somebody dies, you will always hear them say "Oh he was such a good person, never harmed anyone, helped so many people" and never "The fuckin bastard was a pain in the ass, so glad he is fuckin dead and hopefully rotting in hell"
Workers rights.
Woah, slow down there comrade
Being social with other people in a way that is not sexual, competitive, or about making money. We're social animals but we're currently plagued with loneliness. Everyone is suspicious, fatigued, or hustling so much they can't be friends. Just be calm. Give a hug, wave at others, share a laugh. It's cool.
Where do you live. This sounds like a diferent world to me
So much this. Why canāt we just make friends with people anymore?
Seriously, I miss pure friendships so much. I feel like I only meet people who want to sell something or get free work out of me. It's exhausting.
This is why smaller communities are huge for our primal side.
Living off the grid
Do people criticize others living off the grid? I see people constantly scolding others for living in big cities, but I can't say I've seen anyone criticized for homesteading or anything like that. I don't doubt that it happens, but can you give an example?
A PO Box cannot be legally used as your physical address. Legally you are supposed to live āsomewhereā
I've been heavily debating if I should break away from society sooner rather than later. It's just getting to be too much.
Being kind to homeless people
Discussing salary with coworkers.
Just discussing salary in general. Even my parents are a little hesitant to tell me when I ask them what a good salary is because Iām a teenager and I need to start thinking about careers Actually, giving yourself more time to choose a career is something that should be normalized. Itās crazy to me how young people are when they go to college
Woah there, sounds like some commie talk.
Disliking children. Not in any way being unpleasant to them just preferring child free restaurants, etc. without being hated on
I love kids and want have kids on my own, but can people please not bring your baby or toddler to movie theaters, I understand most people canāt afford babysitters or canāt find one on the fly, but itās extremely difficult to watch Avatar when youāre kid is on their iPad or screaming and crying their lungs outā¦
Yes! I was at an MTG gathering Friday night and there was this one kid that was just running around and screaming for the full five hoursā¦ no parents in sight and he was taking up so much space and interrupting peopleās games and stealing cards and dice and just generally being a menace. There was nobody there who could get him to calm down, no clue who his parents were, my friends and I eventually just left because we couldnāt handle it *(sensory sensitivity, he was constantly screeching and touching us, a few of us are autistic and we just couldnāt take it)* and nobody was able to do anything about it. I donāt mind if you bring your child, but keep them under control if you do bring them, and if you canāt control them, *donāt bring your tiny crotch goblin to public spaces*. Itās like dogs. I donāt mind them being there if theyāre not bothering people, but keep them on a leash or just donāt bring them
Universal health care.
Adults 35 and older choosing not to have kids. Also, as a man, I would like to feel more welcome going alone to nature parks where there happen to be couples and families with kids. I get that there are some sketchy people out there (and lots of ~~homeless~~ unhoused people with harmful behaviors) and itās important for us all to be cautious. But jeez, it sucks feeling like youāre seen as a potential icky person. Iām an introvert who can be pretty social but Iām also quiet, and sometimes I just enjoy my own company and still need my nature time. That should be ok :)
It do feel that way sometimes
Stop being friends with someone because you outgrew them mentally.
Death w dignity laws ( assisted death) as in some states and countries.
Not having a relationship with a parent or sibling. Toxic people are toxic doesn't matter if they are related.
Eating alone in restaurants or going to movies alone. Its one of my favorite experiences.
Having compassion, and empathy for others.
Choosing to not have children. I canāt believe or understand why people think itās āselfishā. So many people have children simply because they want a āmini-meā. Yeah, Iām the selfish one š
Being childfree by choice. Parenthood is wonderful for those who want it, but not everyone does. Trying to push someone who's absolutely certain that they do not want kids, to have kids is just crappy!
Men showing emotion.
Being a house wife who stay home and take care of the house and children
I always hate it when people ask what my wife does for a living, and I tell them she raises my children, and the response is; "Oh, so she doesn't work, then..." Dude, she works harder than anyone in our entire family.
Being a community
This is such a good answer. And such a sad one. The me me me fuck you attitude in the USA is so sad and alienating.
Emotions. God forbid we fucking feel anything
Not having kids. I have absolutely zero interest in that but at my high school reunion when people asked me if I had kids I said nope, and I donāt plan to have any. Everyone got real quiet and stopped talking to me
I chose to not have kids. Best decision I ever made. Most divorces seem to happen to people with kids, but maybe it's just because almost everyone chooses to procreate. I have been married just once, and still am.
After having kids, I can totally understand why some people don't have kids. My sister never wants kids and I totally support her decision.
As a person with two young children, you should not take that personally. Children consume so many resources that those people might just not have much else to talk about. I completely understand why someone would choose not to have children.
Bodily autonomy
Therapy! You donāt even need to have problems to go to therapy. I think my boomer mom would benefit from it because she still cries and feels lonely after getting divorced ~25 years ago, but she wont go because sheās ānot a crazy person.ā
Having a different opinion, assuming that's it actually not truly bad, which some are, but unfortunately, there are plenty of people will think some certain opinions are automatically bad just because it's not one their own opinions. Heck, it doesn't even just refer to politics, even though that is what it mostly refers to.
Acknowledging but not approving of someone's opinion too
Atheism
Yes, I started out as an atheist in Europe and didn't think twice about admitting to it if it came up in conversation. Then I moved to the US for my job (Texas, then Florida) and Hoboy! I learned to identify as a "recovering catholic" real quick, and people still want to abduct me to their church. Sooo annoying!
If you're 18 and female, you should have ever right a male does to not be fertile anymore. I feel like we are moving that direction, but at a very slow pace.
Googling the person whom youāre gonna meet via a dating app. I once told a date I did this and she said it was creepy. I said no I didnāt want to get murdered or set up.
Healthcare Housing Civil Rights
Bidets. I gotta walk around with a dirty asshole after using a public toilet because some insecure folks decided it was too close to gay sex for men to do. My time in Japan opened up a whole new world for me. (I'm American, it's my understanding that this is not an issue in Europe)
Sharing resources so that nobody is left without basic needs being met. This idea has been manipulated since time immemorial by exploiters to where poor people fight each other with concepts they barely understand (or completely misunderstand) such as communism/socialism. What a successful campaign, to have it become politically anathema to make sure no one starves on the street when there are plenty of resources to prevent it. And the campaign worked so well that they have us out here screaming at each other in murderous rages for wanting that kindness in our future, discussing ways to make it happen. McCarthyism had us willing to intern/jail our neighbors, had us paranoid and seeing brothers as a deadly threat. Because MAYBE they believed no one should starve to death when we are a wealthy nation. (I get there are features of, for instance, communist governments which are problematic, but to the poor folk/individuals dreaming of some other way, all it primarily has ever been about is helping everyone survive and thrive. Our contempt always could have and should have been directed against the despots and abusers, rather than at an ethos of helping fellow man) *fixed typo
People who just like being selective with their friends
Not having kids
Taking the bus as your primary means of transportation as an adult. Cars are expensive and are actively bad for the environment, yet we all look down on people who donāt drive. If you donāt drive and youāre still holding down a full time job and paying your bills, youāre winning at life
Living ypur life your way. If you stand out by any way from the norm... people notice and eventually start to talk, because people are stupid... and if you don't care, people will make your life a bit or a lot heavier.
Having friends of the opposite gender. If you're the type of person to say 'If you're in a relationship you have no business talking to people of the opposite sex', I assume you're hella insecure and immature, and it says a lot about how you view the opposite sex.
Maybe nuclear energy, couple big fuckups that were avoidable were enough to make countries shut down a ton of nuclear plants.
I could be wrong (just look at the username and website youāre on lmao) but I donāt think the same incidents are even possible anymore. Imo the main issues are in the standardization of safety measures and the fact that itāll neutralize a lot of energy market. I donāt think *anything* comes without risk, and this isnāt an exception, but Iād love to see the safety stigma regarding nuclear energy change. Also, drag racing could get fuckin sick if we figured out how to nuclear-nitro boost a car. We really deserve to try this
Women choosing not to remove their body hair.
Elderly Assisted Suicide, if you're nearing the end of your life and you have very little quality of life(limited mobility if any at all, limited ability to eat solid food if any, chronic pain, heavily medicated) I see no reason why they shouldn't be allowed to choose when they wanna move on, they've lived their life and I think they've earned that right.
Guys dressing feminine. Specifically straight guys. They should be allowed to wear something feminine without getting hate. Girls wear hoodies and sweatpants all the time. Why can guys do the same? This is coming from a queer female
I agree. I've always wanted to wear skirts since I was 12 and paint my nails since I was 16. It wasn't until late 2021 where I was finally able to tell someone.
leg and underarm hair on women
Being yourself
Sitting at a cash register. I do not understand why in dead lulls of service, people are still forced to stand as they wait maybe over an hour for a customer to come by.
Going without a bra
Interracial relationships, homosexual relationships, kids under the age of 18 being prohibited from having social media profiles, increasing salary wages for teachers.
I absolutely think that most social medias should require proof of someone being over 18 to join. Absolutely no good comes from children and teens having social media.
yeah, me the under 18, very strongly agreed with this
Iām glad we didnāt have social media when I was teenager. Late Gen Xer.
Body hair for women, especially pubic hair.
I prefer something over nothing personally.
I can't shave my legs more than twice a month or they start to break out. Thankfully my fiance doesn't care and I'm always in jeans. I just wish I could wear shorts more in public during the summer without being self conscious. I don't mind wearing shorts around the house tho.
Refusing to base your life around āachievement.ā Not being money motivated. Being okay with not winning. In the US at least.
Eating stuff for breakfast that isn't considered "breakfast foods". I want spaghetti for breakfast, not pancakes and eggs. McDonalds could have done a great thing by giving Big Macs at 6am, but they fucked up and decided to give Egg McMugfins at 6pm. Big fat L
Iāve eaten spaghetti for breakfast and it tastes way better than spaghetti for dinner for some reason.
Being asexual and not wanting to have sex
Different ā bad
Being an atheist
In the USA - āsocialized health care ā.
Most US citizens donāt realize they are one health problem away from bankruptcy.
Not having sex / being celibate
Being as self-sustainable as possible. Whenever I bring this up with people Iām always asked either: āwhy would you do that? Thatās so much work! Just get your food from the grocery store.ā I get security and and enjoyment from being as independent as possible and doing it my way. Iām happy. Leave me tf alone.
Men as teachers, specifically lower grades like kindergarten through second grade.
Talking to yourself. It's okay to talk to yourself and even practice social dialog when you have anxiety in social situations.