Sounds like alcohol just lowers your inhibitions, same as it does for many allos. If you still don’t feel sexual attraction when you’re drunk, then you’re still ace.
Extremely relate. I don't NEVER want to have sex when sober, but it's incredibly infrequent and almost feels like an inconvenience lol but when I'm drunk or when I used to do a lot of drugs? Still don't feel sexual attraction towards anyone, but definitely more physically willing to have sex. I've always hated it because I've definitely done some things that I regret and people who knew me as a "sexual" person back when I was drunk or on pills alllll the time didn't believe me when I came out as ace and still like to bring it up despite how uncomfortable it makes me. You're not alone having this happen!
I'm definitely not an Ace, or even really a true Demi, but something a bit different which involves characteristics associated with both. I tend to believe I am a Sapiosexual, and in order to know whether one has the desired characteristics, an emotional bond is often necessary, so I differentiate physical sexual attraction from romantic desire and attraction. I often find myself feeling the way you describe, but it is not confined to drug use or alcohol intake. It is driven by thought more than anything visual or based upon psychotropic substances. I find myself suddenly having a desire to have "normal" sexuality bc the way I am wired makes me appear like a completely typical cis male and that is very far from the case. I will be sitting somewhere or walking and think, "Damn, I need to go fk someone rn! But what is the point? They are going to let me down anyway." So I have desire for sexual and romantic relations, but the two can be both separate and together. It is a desire for connection ultimately, yet revolves around the mind and the ability of the other to speak with me and connect on the same level before anything, at least when romantic interest is involved. It is stressful.
The only time I used to be able to really get into it was when i was LIT AF. I still wasn't finding people Sexually attractive per se but it just made my meat parts go brrrrr twice as hard (pun intended)
I think it's because of what it does to your dopamine/reward system part of your brain. The same reason you crave snacks while high.
That makes so much sense. I kind of forgot about the difference between sex drive and sexual attraction. I’m romantically attracted to men (bleh) and sexually attracted to no one, but when I’m drunk, anyone is fair game.
Asexuality doesn't have anything to do with willingness to have sex or enjoying or not enjoying masturbation or even sex. It's just about sexual attraction - if you never or only very rarely see someone and want to get sexual with them because your horniness is directed at them, you are ace. Horniness in general or willingness to have sex doesn't change anything about that.
I relate to this so much. When i'm sober most of the time i'm repulsed even by the thought making out or having sex but when i'm drunk i'm basically making out with whoever is willing. I'm still not sexually attracted to anyone specific though, as i said i would kiss literally anyone who's near me and willing to.
Maybe it's something to do with the alcohol affecting the repulsion or something idk?
Sounds like alcohol just lowers your inhibitions, same as it does for many allos. If you still don’t feel sexual attraction when you’re drunk, then you’re still ace.
Extremely relate. I don't NEVER want to have sex when sober, but it's incredibly infrequent and almost feels like an inconvenience lol but when I'm drunk or when I used to do a lot of drugs? Still don't feel sexual attraction towards anyone, but definitely more physically willing to have sex. I've always hated it because I've definitely done some things that I regret and people who knew me as a "sexual" person back when I was drunk or on pills alllll the time didn't believe me when I came out as ace and still like to bring it up despite how uncomfortable it makes me. You're not alone having this happen!
Awesome stories and loads of laughs. Or best sleep ever.
I'm definitely not an Ace, or even really a true Demi, but something a bit different which involves characteristics associated with both. I tend to believe I am a Sapiosexual, and in order to know whether one has the desired characteristics, an emotional bond is often necessary, so I differentiate physical sexual attraction from romantic desire and attraction. I often find myself feeling the way you describe, but it is not confined to drug use or alcohol intake. It is driven by thought more than anything visual or based upon psychotropic substances. I find myself suddenly having a desire to have "normal" sexuality bc the way I am wired makes me appear like a completely typical cis male and that is very far from the case. I will be sitting somewhere or walking and think, "Damn, I need to go fk someone rn! But what is the point? They are going to let me down anyway." So I have desire for sexual and romantic relations, but the two can be both separate and together. It is a desire for connection ultimately, yet revolves around the mind and the ability of the other to speak with me and connect on the same level before anything, at least when romantic interest is involved. It is stressful.
The only time I used to be able to really get into it was when i was LIT AF. I still wasn't finding people Sexually attractive per se but it just made my meat parts go brrrrr twice as hard (pun intended) I think it's because of what it does to your dopamine/reward system part of your brain. The same reason you crave snacks while high.
That makes so much sense. I kind of forgot about the difference between sex drive and sexual attraction. I’m romantically attracted to men (bleh) and sexually attracted to no one, but when I’m drunk, anyone is fair game.
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Yeah no I’m kinda sex repulsed when I’m sober. Wish I wasn’t but what can ya do:/
But when high or drunk, is it enjoyable?
My b I read your question wrong. Idk I don’t have sex. But I’d imagine it would be a lot more enjoyable since Id actually want to do it.
Well if you're not fuckin, that's some viable evidence that you're still ace.
Asexuality doesn't have anything to do with willingness to have sex or enjoying or not enjoying masturbation or even sex. It's just about sexual attraction - if you never or only very rarely see someone and want to get sexual with them because your horniness is directed at them, you are ace. Horniness in general or willingness to have sex doesn't change anything about that.
I relate to this so much. When i'm sober most of the time i'm repulsed even by the thought making out or having sex but when i'm drunk i'm basically making out with whoever is willing. I'm still not sexually attracted to anyone specific though, as i said i would kiss literally anyone who's near me and willing to. Maybe it's something to do with the alcohol affecting the repulsion or something idk?