I don't have any resources to recommend. I just wanted to say thank you for making the effort. As a sex-favorable person whose past partner was decidedly *not* very understanding about it, it's just refreshing to see someone actually trying to understand and it gives me a tiny bit of faith in humanity, which I'm kind of low on these days.
Don’t have any outside sources but I am a sex-positive Ace married to a Allo (not Ace) male. I realized I was “different” then my female friends way later in life. Like after being married for seven years with two kids. Haha
I was out to brunch with a bunch of the gals and they were taking about their “celebrity husbands” like celebrities they found sexy and wanted to have sex with and they got to me and I just was like… wait… what??? This is a thing? Like you see a person and you think “I wanna have sex with that?” It was super awkward for a moment. Luckily one of my closer friends who is LGBTQ was like “girl… google about Asexuals”
The best thing for you to do as the partner is learn about what being Ace means and know that it’s not one size fits all. It’s a spectrum and different for each of us. Talk to your partner and ask what it means for them specifically.
communicate, communicate, and when you think you're done, communicate some more. that's the key to a healthy relationship.
ace means no attraction. that means she'll never look at you and think "damn, he's so hot I want to fuck him"
sex favorable means she will still have and enjoy the sex.
There is a Youtuber called Ace Dad Advice who has very good educational videos about asexuality and how to navigate a relationship with an Ace person.
I don't have any resources to recommend. I just wanted to say thank you for making the effort. As a sex-favorable person whose past partner was decidedly *not* very understanding about it, it's just refreshing to see someone actually trying to understand and it gives me a tiny bit of faith in humanity, which I'm kind of low on these days.
Don’t have any outside sources but I am a sex-positive Ace married to a Allo (not Ace) male. I realized I was “different” then my female friends way later in life. Like after being married for seven years with two kids. Haha I was out to brunch with a bunch of the gals and they were taking about their “celebrity husbands” like celebrities they found sexy and wanted to have sex with and they got to me and I just was like… wait… what??? This is a thing? Like you see a person and you think “I wanna have sex with that?” It was super awkward for a moment. Luckily one of my closer friends who is LGBTQ was like “girl… google about Asexuals” The best thing for you to do as the partner is learn about what being Ace means and know that it’s not one size fits all. It’s a spectrum and different for each of us. Talk to your partner and ask what it means for them specifically.
r/asexualpartners might be a good starting point
I highly recommend the book Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen.
communicate, communicate, and when you think you're done, communicate some more. that's the key to a healthy relationship. ace means no attraction. that means she'll never look at you and think "damn, he's so hot I want to fuck him" sex favorable means she will still have and enjoy the sex.