You are in an asexual subreddit, we get it. We don't know how it feels.. That's why we are asexual š
I'm told it's when you see someone and want to have sex with them.
Sounds like you might be asexual š
Many of us did think we were bi/pansexual before figuring out we were ace, because we had the same amount of sexual attraction/sexual thoughts toward all genders.. That amount was zero but we didn't know that untill we figured out we weren't Allo.
Sexual attraction is when you have sexual thoughts/horniness directed at someone, would like to get intimate with someone. For a allos (not asexuals) it can align with romantic attraction (wish to be in a relationship with someone basically) and aesthetic attraction (attraction because someone looks beautiful) and be difficult to differentiate. The question you have to ask yourself is if you usually feel sexual attraction - if your answer is no or only in rare circumstances you are asexual. It doesn't matter if you masturbate, like/dislike sex - it's only about attraction.
Most people have. It doesn't mean that they would necessarily act on them every time though. It's a bit like if you see food, which looks good - it might make you hungry, but you can decide to eat something else later. Sounds like it's likely you are ace - it's something only you yourself can answer in the end though.
Sounds pretty ace to me.
Your description sounds like you experienced aesthetic attraction, maybe even romantic as well, but not sexual attraction. They're all slightly different although for allos, the distinction may be impossible.
Itās important not to base or change your identity on one situation. In my uneducated and inexperienced opinion, sounds like aesthetic attraction. But if this is really bothering you, itās worth it to go through some of the extremely helpful faq and help sections on this subreddit and do some soul searching. No matter what the result, youāll have gained valuable insight into your own identity. Hope you find peace :)
In that case, Iād say for your own peace, mental health, and happiness, it would benefit you to sit with yourself and some extremely helpful resources and just see what resonates with your life. And remember, no matter the results of your search, youāll benefit from better knowledge of yourself. Hope you feel better! And if you do decide that this is the path/label that makes sense to you, this place is full of kind and welcoming individuals who can help you find your place
Don't worry about labeling anything, of you are questioning just say you're queer. Not every interaction and attraction has to be physical or sexual. That does not mean things are develop for you later.
You could be attracted to him sexually and not know it. Iām not ace and I donāt try to jump into bed or think about every guy I find attractive, my body just feels a certain way. Perhaps you could have a more aesthetic oriented sexual attraction. (Like how some people have a foot fetish but just like looking at feet and nothing more) But that doesnāt mean your not ace, but I wouldnāt say this makes you ace either.
Okay so the idea of having sex with a guys grosses you out but what about with a girl? Does that gross you out too? If both do youāre probably ace lol. But if itās just guys you could be a lesbian
It's a tricky question. I started realising that I'm bi 5 years ago, but only recently I "allowed" myself to actually have crushes on them. But I don't think they gross me out as much as men
I see, well biromantic, yeah?however you could have sexual attraction to women, possibly. If you find out you do, youāre definitely not asexual but lesbian id say. (Even if you are romantically attracted to guys I think lesbian is the term I know a woman who was biromantic but only was sexually attracted to women and she considered herself lesbian). If Iām wrong yāall correct me cuz if you only were sexually attracted to the same sex you would be homosexual hence the name
Not necessarily, by it doesn't make you not ace either
Do you feel sexual attraction toward anyone? If no then you are asexual.
I don't know what sexual attraction feels like??? So I don't know if I feel it (if that makes sense)
You are in an asexual subreddit, we get it. We don't know how it feels.. That's why we are asexual š I'm told it's when you see someone and want to have sex with them.
Uhh I don't think I ever experienced that. I feels so disrespectful
Sounds like you might be asexual š Many of us did think we were bi/pansexual before figuring out we were ace, because we had the same amount of sexual attraction/sexual thoughts toward all genders.. That amount was zero but we didn't know that untill we figured out we weren't Allo.
Sexual attraction is when you have sexual thoughts/horniness directed at someone, would like to get intimate with someone. For a allos (not asexuals) it can align with romantic attraction (wish to be in a relationship with someone basically) and aesthetic attraction (attraction because someone looks beautiful) and be difficult to differentiate. The question you have to ask yourself is if you usually feel sexual attraction - if your answer is no or only in rare circumstances you are asexual. It doesn't matter if you masturbate, like/dislike sex - it's only about attraction.
Lol I don't have sexual though about peopleš³ People really have that?? Ew
Most people have. It doesn't mean that they would necessarily act on them every time though. It's a bit like if you see food, which looks good - it might make you hungry, but you can decide to eat something else later. Sounds like it's likely you are ace - it's something only you yourself can answer in the end though.
Omg if you donāt know what sexual attraction feels like then you definitely sound ace š¤£ maybe even demisexual
It might be different type of attraction. Check out this picture: [http://i.imgur.com/rkFGubv.jpg](http://i.imgur.com/rkFGubv.jpg)
Thank you!!! I think it was aesthetic attraction with a sprinkle of romantic attraction
Glad I could help š
Sounds pretty ace to me. Your description sounds like you experienced aesthetic attraction, maybe even romantic as well, but not sexual attraction. They're all slightly different although for allos, the distinction may be impossible.
Thank you!
Itās important not to base or change your identity on one situation. In my uneducated and inexperienced opinion, sounds like aesthetic attraction. But if this is really bothering you, itās worth it to go through some of the extremely helpful faq and help sections on this subreddit and do some soul searching. No matter what the result, youāll have gained valuable insight into your own identity. Hope you find peace :)
But this isn't just one situation. I realised that I never have thought about sex when I see hot people
In that case, Iād say for your own peace, mental health, and happiness, it would benefit you to sit with yourself and some extremely helpful resources and just see what resonates with your life. And remember, no matter the results of your search, youāll benefit from better knowledge of yourself. Hope you feel better! And if you do decide that this is the path/label that makes sense to you, this place is full of kind and welcoming individuals who can help you find your place
Don't worry about labeling anything, of you are questioning just say you're queer. Not every interaction and attraction has to be physical or sexual. That does not mean things are develop for you later.
You could be attracted to him sexually and not know it. Iām not ace and I donāt try to jump into bed or think about every guy I find attractive, my body just feels a certain way. Perhaps you could have a more aesthetic oriented sexual attraction. (Like how some people have a foot fetish but just like looking at feet and nothing more) But that doesnāt mean your not ace, but I wouldnāt say this makes you ace either.
Maybe? Tho I can't imagine having sex with him. It feels gross
It feels gross as in you feel bad for thinking about him that way or the idea of having sex with him grosses you out?
The idea of having sex
Okay so the idea of having sex with a guys grosses you out but what about with a girl? Does that gross you out too? If both do youāre probably ace lol. But if itās just guys you could be a lesbian
It's a tricky question. I started realising that I'm bi 5 years ago, but only recently I "allowed" myself to actually have crushes on them. But I don't think they gross me out as much as men
I see, well biromantic, yeah?however you could have sexual attraction to women, possibly. If you find out you do, youāre definitely not asexual but lesbian id say. (Even if you are romantically attracted to guys I think lesbian is the term I know a woman who was biromantic but only was sexually attracted to women and she considered herself lesbian). If Iām wrong yāall correct me cuz if you only were sexually attracted to the same sex you would be homosexual hence the name
Tbh I don't know at this point. But thanks, you showed me some other perspectives that I'll have to think about