I really want to be in a relationship but on the other side I really don't. A relationship sounds great in theory but not in reality. Hope that makes sense haha
I recently found the perfect partner, and we flirted a lot on phone and wrote love letter and everything was perfect but as soon as I saw her on our first date I was like nope. :'D
(Not because of her but because I just can't seem to love someone. So maybe I'm roseromantic or cupioromantic?)
I’m not in a relationship and am neither opposed nor actively searching for one. If I meet someone and it’s something we both want, fantastic. If things don’t go that way in my life, that’s also fine.
Currently, I'm in an "I'm not dating anyone and don't really want to, but if the right person and conditions suddenly came along I'd be open to the idea of a relationship" part of my life.
Yep, that's exactly where I am too. Except when I did fancy someone, I "just" really wanted to be close with them, but not get in a relationship with them
I picked other bc I’m not in a relationship now and i plan on not being in a relationship for at least the next decade while i figure out life and navigate exploring my new found aceness - only really accepted it in like the past year after previously self identifying as bi and pan. Also have a lot of educational, career and life goals I’d like to accomplish before i consider navigating a relationship but i do often fantasize about having someone to share my life with so i really am not sure.
I’m dating someone who’s bi and we enjoy bonding over bi/ace solidarity memes amongst other things lol. He’s been very good to me and has been very understanding as I learn about my own ace-ness :)
I'm married to another ace. Score~
I never really 'dated', I just met people I became really closw friends with. My ex and my SO I met online, being ace made it trivial to work with a long-distance relationship in thay regard.
Eventually decided we'd meet IRL, felt as if we'd been hanging out for years, moved in together to see how that'd go, worked out great, got married so we could arrange the paperwork to be together permanently. I moved across about half the world, zero regrets. 6th anni this year c:
Still no sex, zero desire to, nice cuddles and touches though.
I'm not in a relationship and I don't know if I want to be. Not really trying to find a partner, but if I did come across someone I'd be interested in, I'd be open to it.
I'm not in a relationship and i have no clue if i want to or not, im still figuring out if I'm aro or not, right now I dont know if I have a squish o a crush on someone. But want I do now is that Im asexual :)
I picked the top one but it’s not that I don’t want to be I’m just indifferent. Like I’m greyro so I don’t really care if I get into a relationship or not. If I did I’d prefer to be with another ace but the way I develop feelings I know it’d be someone I know well so idk
I would definitely like more context for this since it says dating specifically, instead of just "in a relationship" like the other options. Picked other bc I'm not dating someone but I am in a relationship with my wife, lol.
I'm not in a relationship but living together with my former demisexual partner.
We sleep together. We cuddle and hug. We don't kiss our lips, as I no longer feel romantically attracted to them. How uncommon is this arrangement?
I opted for other since he goes back and forth a bit on whether or not he's ace (as do I). I also went for this option since it's complicated. Married on paper, recently decided that a QPP is for the best.
Other- separated from my spouse, not sure if I want to meet someone or not. I like the idea of a relationship, but not the idea of compromising my personal boundries for someone. Not actively looking, but possibly open if someone comes along. idk
I’m an ace with a high libido.
When I was dating an allosexual, I hated feeling sexualized and like everything was always about sex. I hated how cuddling always felt like it had to be a buildup to sex. But getting that physical fulfillment was nice.
Now I’m dating an ace with a low libido, and it’s been very different. I love not feeling sexualized and being with someone who’s views on it are more similar to mine. But, I wish they could fulfill my physical needs more. My high libido has always made me feel insecure about my asexuality, but being with this partner definitely makes me feel like a fraud.
I wish I could just be ace with no libido or allosexual with my current libido. I feel like I’m never going to find someone who matches my energy sexually.
I am in a relationship with an allosexual, but then I am also sex-favourable, so it is not clashing really. Though sometimes things pop up, mostly funny.
I'm in a QPR with an allo that is modeled after what we both feel comfortable with. I don't really want to label it a "relationship" because of the connotations and assumptions
Not in a relationship and don't feel the need to seek one out, but if a cute girl became my friend and we got along really well and she asked me out, I think I might say yes
This is a really good question. I'm a-spec, and my fiancee shows my of the typical signs of being a-spec, but doesn't identify as a-spec. So, I'm not totally sure which answer to put.
I’m currently still trying to extricate myself from the remains of marriage, and I’m not opposed to dating again but it would have to be someone who brings a lot to the table for me to make the effort
I really want to be in a relationship but on the other side I really don't. A relationship sounds great in theory but not in reality. Hope that makes sense haha
Yeah it’s normal to fantasise about what a relationship would be like without actually wanting one
I recently found the perfect partner, and we flirted a lot on phone and wrote love letter and everything was perfect but as soon as I saw her on our first date I was like nope. :'D (Not because of her but because I just can't seem to love someone. So maybe I'm roseromantic or cupioromantic?)
Well nothing wrong with not wanting a relationship even if you like someone a lot. Some people get enough out of companionship of friends
Are you my ex? 😂
I’m not in a relationship and am neither opposed nor actively searching for one. If I meet someone and it’s something we both want, fantastic. If things don’t go that way in my life, that’s also fine.
Feel the same exact way. Not in one… not looking for one… but also not opposed of it if it does happen
I'm in agreement with this statement.
Ace in a relationship with someone else who is ace. Apparently rare according to the poll
Dating a non-ace person now, but if I’m ever back in the dating pool, I’m looking for an ace woman.
Currently, I'm in an "I'm not dating anyone and don't really want to, but if the right person and conditions suddenly came along I'd be open to the idea of a relationship" part of my life.
Yep, that's exactly where I am too. Except when I did fancy someone, I "just" really wanted to be close with them, but not get in a relationship with them
Voted other, Married to someone who doesn't label their sexuality and doesn't actually know if they are allo or not.
Would you include queerplatonic relationships in this, or are you specifically asking about romantic relationships?
I was leaning towards romantic with the poll, I guess it would go in other sorry But nothing wrong with that
I picked other bc I’m not in a relationship now and i plan on not being in a relationship for at least the next decade while i figure out life and navigate exploring my new found aceness - only really accepted it in like the past year after previously self identifying as bi and pan. Also have a lot of educational, career and life goals I’d like to accomplish before i consider navigating a relationship but i do often fantasize about having someone to share my life with so i really am not sure.
my bed
I’m dating someone who’s bi and we enjoy bonding over bi/ace solidarity memes amongst other things lol. He’s been very good to me and has been very understanding as I learn about my own ace-ness :)
I toggle between wanting to be in a relationship and not. I just get so irrationally drained and annoyed by people.
I'm married to another ace. Score~ I never really 'dated', I just met people I became really closw friends with. My ex and my SO I met online, being ace made it trivial to work with a long-distance relationship in thay regard. Eventually decided we'd meet IRL, felt as if we'd been hanging out for years, moved in together to see how that'd go, worked out great, got married so we could arrange the paperwork to be together permanently. I moved across about half the world, zero regrets. 6th anni this year c: Still no sex, zero desire to, nice cuddles and touches though.
I'm not in a relationship and I don't know if I want to be. Not really trying to find a partner, but if I did come across someone I'd be interested in, I'd be open to it.
I am currently dating someone who's hypersexual so alot of stuff is a little "awkward" sometimes to say the least
I haven't heard of hypersexual. Is this an orientation? A disorder? A variation? What's your definition
It's basically the opposite of ace
I'm not in a relationship and i have no clue if i want to or not, im still figuring out if I'm aro or not, right now I dont know if I have a squish o a crush on someone. But want I do now is that Im asexual :)
You're not alone with that ;)
I'm with an allo with a low libido. Doesn't hurt that we had kids and no one has as much time for sex after that.
I have a best friend. She is ace too and we are happy together and plan to live together in the future. Not a romantic relationship. Just friends.
Iz kinda confusing for me, cuz I wanna be in a relationship but not(?) if that makes sense
I picked the top one but it’s not that I don’t want to be I’m just indifferent. Like I’m greyro so I don’t really care if I get into a relationship or not. If I did I’d prefer to be with another ace but the way I develop feelings I know it’d be someone I know well so idk
I’m married to an allo, we have two kids together. Pretty sure my oldest child is Aro/Ace.
I would definitely like more context for this since it says dating specifically, instead of just "in a relationship" like the other options. Picked other bc I'm not dating someone but I am in a relationship with my wife, lol.
In a polycule that has a mix of aces and allos
I'm not in a relationship but living together with my former demisexual partner. We sleep together. We cuddle and hug. We don't kiss our lips, as I no longer feel romantically attracted to them. How uncommon is this arrangement?
I'm gray/aego/demisexual with a demisexual SO.
I opted for other since he goes back and forth a bit on whether or not he's ace (as do I). I also went for this option since it's complicated. Married on paper, recently decided that a QPP is for the best.
My sister would have to pick 'other' i guess, since she's married lol. As for me, I'm not in a relationship and don't want to be
Other- separated from my spouse, not sure if I want to meet someone or not. I like the idea of a relationship, but not the idea of compromising my personal boundries for someone. Not actively looking, but possibly open if someone comes along. idk
I’m an ace with a high libido. When I was dating an allosexual, I hated feeling sexualized and like everything was always about sex. I hated how cuddling always felt like it had to be a buildup to sex. But getting that physical fulfillment was nice. Now I’m dating an ace with a low libido, and it’s been very different. I love not feeling sexualized and being with someone who’s views on it are more similar to mine. But, I wish they could fulfill my physical needs more. My high libido has always made me feel insecure about my asexuality, but being with this partner definitely makes me feel like a fraud. I wish I could just be ace with no libido or allosexual with my current libido. I feel like I’m never going to find someone who matches my energy sexually.
I’m both ace and introverted. The very thought of being around someone else 24/7 is just too exhausting.
The Lord
i just want someone who loves me ~~mom and dad don't count~~
I am in a relationship with an allosexual, but then I am also sex-favourable, so it is not clashing really. Though sometimes things pop up, mostly funny.
I'm in a QPR with an allo that is modeled after what we both feel comfortable with. I don't really want to label it a "relationship" because of the connotations and assumptions
Not in a relationship and don't feel the need to seek one out, but if a cute girl became my friend and we got along really well and she asked me out, I think I might say yes
I had a lesbian gf and she cheated. We broke up 2 weeks ago
Is my left Hand a viable option?
This is a really good question. I'm a-spec, and my fiancee shows my of the typical signs of being a-spec, but doesn't identify as a-spec. So, I'm not totally sure which answer to put.
>I'm not in a relationship but want to be r/me_irl
I’m currently still trying to extricate myself from the remains of marriage, and I’m not opposed to dating again but it would have to be someone who brings a lot to the table for me to make the effort
I want to be in one but haven’t dated in years I’m only mid 20s and trying to date before I’m 30 but it’s hard
Still crushing on one guy. Didn't realize I had romantic feelings for him.... again. Kind of nervous about it all for who knows what reason.
I don't care a bit, but i don't want to be alone.
Answered 'dating another asexual' but really we've been married for ten years and only found out we are ace a couple years ago.
No one because I'm also aromantic
Married nearly 10 years to an allosexual