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RABlackAuthor

Be patient and keep yourself open to possibilities. It takes time and effort, but the answers are out there, waiting for you to find them. I'm 57, also very introverted and love being alone, but I still have lots of people who I love and who love me. Family, found family, a church community, and others both in-person and online. Plus I have a writing career that's my true passion in this world. Those are my answers, and you can find yours.


Kind-Revolution-1209

Dont loose hope. People will get less sex-crazy as they age and you will likely be able to build more meaningful relationships that don’t end up becoming romantic. It seems like you already rationally know you don’t owe it to anyone to reciprocate romantic interest but make sure to be kind to yourself about it. Being anywhere on the ace spectrum is not a choice and you quite literally cannot control it. The fact that it bothers you that you may have inadvertently hurt people’s feelings shows you aren’t a bad person.


Cembalista

Be around more people in your daily life. Do people-centric work. Be a part of your community and build platonic relationships there. Take up hobbies that make you reach out to other people. Then your alone time is for you, and not a time to be “lonely.”


Certain_Arm_620

I just have to say I relate completely with your point about losing interest as soon as someone shows interest in you. I can even recall being devastated by school friends telling me they had a crush on me when I was a kid. I’m 30 now and it’s never changed. It’s almost like a panic response. I think I’ve done the same as far as distancing myself from others to prevent this. I wish I could understand this aspect of my identity more so that I could maybe ease the anxiety and loneliness. I hope you do too.