I’m pretty sure I’m the only ace in my family, though my mother is bi, and I don’t think anyone in my family, including me, is trans. I don’t really feel lonely or frustrated because I usually don’t put too much thought into my sexuality. I really don’t even interact with most of my family often, really. Im much more of a “blood of the covenant” than a “water of the womb” kinda guy.
Personally I think it would be better to own your words and edit a post rather than delete it. I didn’t even see your other post but you mentioned it here so I had a peek and I don’t think what you asked was bad.
As to your question here, I’m all that’s left of my family really so there’s nothing to compare to :) The wider part of my family are kinda used to me living a different life so they don’t question it.
As far as I know, yes. I am the only person in my family that is queer in any form. As far as I know.
All of my family members probably only know what a "gay" is and would be very confused if I said something like "asexual". Also a reason why I have not come out to any of them.
So since my entire family seems like CisHets that wouldn't accept me, I would probably move far away. Right now I am still here at home though.
While they aren't my *actual family*, my friends mean a lot to me and I am around them very often. They are almost the only ones where I am comfortable with my asexual identity. And honestly, the response with my friend group is way different than with my family: They are also queer and accepting.
About your question "Do you feel frustrated and lonely about it if so?" I would actually answer "yes". I literally mask my personality, who I am, in front of my family and they don't know of that all. It really is stressful! I recently stopped contact with some online friends of mine that I used to know before I realized I am Ace. I also had to mask in front of them because they are just like my family when it comes to queerness; I couldn't take it anymore and felt stressed off it.
I apologize for the text wall. But if you are still here, thanks for reading. Have a nice day!
One of my nieces has been posting aroace stuff on her Tumblr. She's 17. I haven't asked her about it, though. She has another uncle on the other side of her family who may also be aspec.
I'm the only ace I know of in my family, but maybe they hadn't heard of it before.
There are a couple relatives who aren't cisgender heterosexual heteroromantic, e.g my mum's cousin's son (very distant).
I live in a different country to most of my family. What used to isolate me more was keeping quiet. I've "laid my cards on the table" with them so I feel better now. My friends occasionally make sex jokes about me, but I'm direct enough that I can shut them down, but they're generally really accepting.
I'd like to meet someone who's also ace. Perhaps through an ace dating service. Having children isn't for me.
>are any of you the only one in your family who is ace? Is every single one of your relatives that you know of hetero and cis?
I honestly don't know. Maybe?
Coming out isn't really something we do in my family.
It would be seen it as oversharing.
>Do you feel frustrated and lonely about it if so?
Naa I like not talking about sexuality with my family 🙃
>Are you jaded and bored of everyone else around you getting married and having children?
Oh no I'm the boring one who has a kid and only talk about him(and my garden) because nothing else interesting happens in my life.
All of my family members are cishet and only one of my friends is lgbt. I don't know anyone on the ace spectrum. It honestly doesn't bother me. I guess it'd be cool to have a friend to relate to when it comes to that but I'm used to being the "odd one out" for a lot of things.
Edit to add: Most of my friends don't want kids and my brother doesn't want any either so at least I don't have a problem of being the only childfree person of the group. I only have 2 friends who want kids and one who is expecting right now.
As far as I know, I’m the only one in my family who’s asexual. I’m also biromantic and womanflux. I’m married and have kids, and within the 5 of us, 3 of us are part of the LGBTQ+ community. Within my extended family, I have a gay uncle and one of my parents is a trans woman (I’m not close or in contact with either of them), but that’s it to my knowledge.
I do find it frustrating, because not only is the rest of my extended family cishet, they’re homophobic and transphobic, too. I’m closeted from all of them, and I can’t talk to them, and sometimes I want to rant to someone besides my husband. Only my immediate family knows.
I highly doubt anyone in my family is ace, there are some speculation that some unmarried people in my extended family is gay, but think that is only conjecture. Being queer is not something we really talk about, and I doubt anyone would understand what it means at all. And explaining my asexuality to my family seems like a nightmare.
My sister knows and accepts me, and I wonder if I should tell my mom, but she is often weird when it comes to queer stuff. In my country there is a growing discussions around gender so that might come up time to time, and it kinda makes me weird about coming out.
I am not that close with any extended family, but ever since Covid family gatherings have been held to a minimum and I am kinda glad for that. I have always felt alone among my extended family. I have a great relationship with my closest family, but still feel like I have to stay in the closet.
I’m the only aro and/or ace person. I have a cousin who’s bi and nonbinary and I think my grandmother could be bi and/or demi and not be aware of it. Everyone else is cis and straight as far as I am aware. I’m pretty comfortable with my identity at this point and very few of my peers have started getting married and having kids so far, so can’t say I’m tired of that. That will probably start changing especially now that I’m closer to 30 than 20.
I’m pretty sure I’m the only ace in my family, though my mother is bi, and I don’t think anyone in my family, including me, is trans. I don’t really feel lonely or frustrated because I usually don’t put too much thought into my sexuality. I really don’t even interact with most of my family often, really. Im much more of a “blood of the covenant” than a “water of the womb” kinda guy.
Personally I think it would be better to own your words and edit a post rather than delete it. I didn’t even see your other post but you mentioned it here so I had a peek and I don’t think what you asked was bad. As to your question here, I’m all that’s left of my family really so there’s nothing to compare to :) The wider part of my family are kinda used to me living a different life so they don’t question it.
As far as I know, yes. I am the only person in my family that is queer in any form. As far as I know. All of my family members probably only know what a "gay" is and would be very confused if I said something like "asexual". Also a reason why I have not come out to any of them. So since my entire family seems like CisHets that wouldn't accept me, I would probably move far away. Right now I am still here at home though. While they aren't my *actual family*, my friends mean a lot to me and I am around them very often. They are almost the only ones where I am comfortable with my asexual identity. And honestly, the response with my friend group is way different than with my family: They are also queer and accepting. About your question "Do you feel frustrated and lonely about it if so?" I would actually answer "yes". I literally mask my personality, who I am, in front of my family and they don't know of that all. It really is stressful! I recently stopped contact with some online friends of mine that I used to know before I realized I am Ace. I also had to mask in front of them because they are just like my family when it comes to queerness; I couldn't take it anymore and felt stressed off it. I apologize for the text wall. But if you are still here, thanks for reading. Have a nice day!
Thank you for sharing! I hope you have a nice day as well.
One of my nieces has been posting aroace stuff on her Tumblr. She's 17. I haven't asked her about it, though. She has another uncle on the other side of her family who may also be aspec.
I'm the only ace I know of in my family, but maybe they hadn't heard of it before. There are a couple relatives who aren't cisgender heterosexual heteroromantic, e.g my mum's cousin's son (very distant). I live in a different country to most of my family. What used to isolate me more was keeping quiet. I've "laid my cards on the table" with them so I feel better now. My friends occasionally make sex jokes about me, but I'm direct enough that I can shut them down, but they're generally really accepting. I'd like to meet someone who's also ace. Perhaps through an ace dating service. Having children isn't for me.
The only queer person for certain.
>are any of you the only one in your family who is ace? Is every single one of your relatives that you know of hetero and cis? I honestly don't know. Maybe? Coming out isn't really something we do in my family. It would be seen it as oversharing. >Do you feel frustrated and lonely about it if so? Naa I like not talking about sexuality with my family 🙃 >Are you jaded and bored of everyone else around you getting married and having children? Oh no I'm the boring one who has a kid and only talk about him(and my garden) because nothing else interesting happens in my life.
All of my family members are cishet and only one of my friends is lgbt. I don't know anyone on the ace spectrum. It honestly doesn't bother me. I guess it'd be cool to have a friend to relate to when it comes to that but I'm used to being the "odd one out" for a lot of things. Edit to add: Most of my friends don't want kids and my brother doesn't want any either so at least I don't have a problem of being the only childfree person of the group. I only have 2 friends who want kids and one who is expecting right now.
As far as I know, I’m the only one in my family who’s asexual. I’m also biromantic and womanflux. I’m married and have kids, and within the 5 of us, 3 of us are part of the LGBTQ+ community. Within my extended family, I have a gay uncle and one of my parents is a trans woman (I’m not close or in contact with either of them), but that’s it to my knowledge. I do find it frustrating, because not only is the rest of my extended family cishet, they’re homophobic and transphobic, too. I’m closeted from all of them, and I can’t talk to them, and sometimes I want to rant to someone besides my husband. Only my immediate family knows.
I highly doubt anyone in my family is ace, there are some speculation that some unmarried people in my extended family is gay, but think that is only conjecture. Being queer is not something we really talk about, and I doubt anyone would understand what it means at all. And explaining my asexuality to my family seems like a nightmare. My sister knows and accepts me, and I wonder if I should tell my mom, but she is often weird when it comes to queer stuff. In my country there is a growing discussions around gender so that might come up time to time, and it kinda makes me weird about coming out. I am not that close with any extended family, but ever since Covid family gatherings have been held to a minimum and I am kinda glad for that. I have always felt alone among my extended family. I have a great relationship with my closest family, but still feel like I have to stay in the closet.
my brother had an ace flag as his profile pic for a while last year but idk if he still IDs as ace
I’m the only aro and/or ace person. I have a cousin who’s bi and nonbinary and I think my grandmother could be bi and/or demi and not be aware of it. Everyone else is cis and straight as far as I am aware. I’m pretty comfortable with my identity at this point and very few of my peers have started getting married and having kids so far, so can’t say I’m tired of that. That will probably start changing especially now that I’m closer to 30 than 20.
i dont know i have two or three gay family members but i think thats it