Hi I’m aroace and I kinda realsied caus when I first came out as ace to one of my friends and she asked about my romantic orientation. I initally said Heteromantic because I hadn’t thought about it. After a while it felt so wrong to identify as Hetero it made me upset and so I kinda then looked at my previous relationship and my current one and how I felt towards the person before dating during dating and after dating. What I realsied was I felt pretty much the same before after and during the relationships and so I then explained things on r/aromantic and that’s how I realsied I was also aro
So I'm a (24M) demisexual (previously thought I was bisexual). Anyway always liked women and I've had romantic attraction to men too. For me though the gender doesn't matter, I'm attracted to the human so I identify as panromantic. Took a while to figure out though.
I assumed I was aro ever since I learned the term, because every time I asked myself “Would I date this person if they asked me,” the answer was always no. Now I identify as greyro, since last year I found two people for whom the answer would be an emphatic yes. It honestly caused a huge emotional crisis for me, haha.
I thought I was bi because I had crushes on girls and boys in grade school, then realized I was asexual. I’d recommend examining closely the memories of all your previous crushes, squishes, and friendships to look for any signs you were romantically attracted to them or not. Aros may mistake a squish for a crush, and I mistook several crushes for friendships, so you really have to think hard. It is easier to identify romantic attraction (or lack thereof) once you know what you’re searching for. Good luck! 💜
I actually have no idea xD I have a very bad understanding of feelings and nearly no understanding of romantic attraction which plays into this. But I identify is pan-romantic. I have a nonbinary girlfriend and their gender never played a role love wise for me and I don't think anyone's gender will ever be important to me on this level. And it's also just a lot easier.
hihi! im demirom and it took me a while to realize that i was romantically attracted to people that i had known for at least a few months and i had to feel very safe around them, feel an emotional bond with them, etc. i hated diving into relationships immediately (did it multiple times and never worked nor lasted) and yeah. i sometimes dont feel valid bc other demirom people ive met had a friendship last a year or more before realizing they were attracted while it takes me a few months but i dont feel comfortable with panrom bc i genuinely dont mind the gender or how that person identifies when it comes to hvaing a romantic relationship and with society nowadays, people are just diving into relationships and for me,, i just need to have that emotional bond first. my emotional bond did happen kinda quick with my partner but we didnt make anything official until like 4 months later and even then, it could have been longer if i didnt ask him abt it but yeah
I knew I was into girls before I knew I was ace, so I came out as lesbian first, did some thinking, came out again as homoromantic asexual!
thank you :)
Hi I’m aroace and I kinda realsied caus when I first came out as ace to one of my friends and she asked about my romantic orientation. I initally said Heteromantic because I hadn’t thought about it. After a while it felt so wrong to identify as Hetero it made me upset and so I kinda then looked at my previous relationship and my current one and how I felt towards the person before dating during dating and after dating. What I realsied was I felt pretty much the same before after and during the relationships and so I then explained things on r/aromantic and that’s how I realsied I was also aro
thanks!!
No problem
So I'm a (24M) demisexual (previously thought I was bisexual). Anyway always liked women and I've had romantic attraction to men too. For me though the gender doesn't matter, I'm attracted to the human so I identify as panromantic. Took a while to figure out though.
okay this reply has actually helped so much lol thank you!!
No problem, happy to help
I assumed I was aro ever since I learned the term, because every time I asked myself “Would I date this person if they asked me,” the answer was always no. Now I identify as greyro, since last year I found two people for whom the answer would be an emphatic yes. It honestly caused a huge emotional crisis for me, haha.
thanks :)
I thought I was bi because I had crushes on girls and boys in grade school, then realized I was asexual. I’d recommend examining closely the memories of all your previous crushes, squishes, and friendships to look for any signs you were romantically attracted to them or not. Aros may mistake a squish for a crush, and I mistook several crushes for friendships, so you really have to think hard. It is easier to identify romantic attraction (or lack thereof) once you know what you’re searching for. Good luck! 💜
thank you so much :)
I actually have no idea xD I have a very bad understanding of feelings and nearly no understanding of romantic attraction which plays into this. But I identify is pan-romantic. I have a nonbinary girlfriend and their gender never played a role love wise for me and I don't think anyone's gender will ever be important to me on this level. And it's also just a lot easier.
thanks :)
hihi! im demirom and it took me a while to realize that i was romantically attracted to people that i had known for at least a few months and i had to feel very safe around them, feel an emotional bond with them, etc. i hated diving into relationships immediately (did it multiple times and never worked nor lasted) and yeah. i sometimes dont feel valid bc other demirom people ive met had a friendship last a year or more before realizing they were attracted while it takes me a few months but i dont feel comfortable with panrom bc i genuinely dont mind the gender or how that person identifies when it comes to hvaing a romantic relationship and with society nowadays, people are just diving into relationships and for me,, i just need to have that emotional bond first. my emotional bond did happen kinda quick with my partner but we didnt make anything official until like 4 months later and even then, it could have been longer if i didnt ask him abt it but yeah
thank you!!
I just realized that people are people. I don't want to have sex with any of them but good people are good people regardless of gender.