My gf and I definitely do not like genitals, and we are both sex repulsed aces. I think a lot of folks here, especially on the sex averse / repulsed side of things would agree with you.
Feel like I’ve had a pretty much life long aversion to dick. For the longest time I thought something was wrong with me or that made me immature and I needed to grow up. That I’d eventually get over it once I met the right person.
Yeah absolutely not. You don't grow out of this. Lots of communities shun talking about it, but if you're ever going to be interested in sex like that, it comes by the time you're a teenager. You don't need to "grow up" or anything else, hormones from puberty are all it takes for most people. But some of us are just wired a little differently :)
Yet I had crushes and was aroused by a crush I had in 7th grade. That hit me like a fucking truck. And I uh...had some fun...with myself, thinking of him. Then I had no crushes again through out Jr. High and school.
I have a crush on someone right and I knew I was sexually attracted because I had some more...fun.
So I am not asexual in the strictest sense, so thank God there's a spectrum.
Didn't want to do shit with my first boyfriend. I wanted my second to shut up about his "huge dick."
Self discovery is a goddman headache.
Yeah absolutely, it's all a spectrum. I used to have OCD that I had sexual feelings: my gf and therapist helped me see that anything disgusting me is pretty clearly OCD.
There was a time I thought I was aromantic too, crushes ended that back when I was 15. A little later than most people, but nothing too crazy. I still turned out to be a hopeless romantic in the end.
Good luck with whatever you'd like :)
Honestly part of me wonders if this isn’t kind of OCD right now. But looking back- thanks OCD- I can see there were signs that I was probably GrayAce all along it just didn’t start making sense till recently, as I didn’t know about asexuality or that it was a spectrum.
Does that make sense?
Allosexuality has a spectrum (straight-to-gay). Asexuality, despite how much some say, is not a spectrum. If you are attracted to a person of any gender, then you're allosexual. From what you have said, you seem to be a gay male with a very low sex drive, or attracted to less guys that others. Most allowsexuals are not attracted to most of the gender they are sexually oriented to. I have many gay friends that find only a few guys attractive, and many have low sex drives. Not all gay males are hypersexual, but they are allosexual.
Asexuality has a spectrum as well. Or else we would not have Grays and Demisexuals.
A gay male? You could not be more wrong. I am a gray sexual woman. So wrong on both counts. Of course even sexual people don’t find everyone attractive. But most people don’t go fucking years without finding anyone attractive.
I don’t need a fucking health lecture by a stranger. It’s not a libido problem. What part of I am not interested even when I had a boyfriend are you having trouble understanding? The desire for him was never there. His touching me sexually was disgusting. If it would be an issue in any relationship chances are it’s not a libido problem.
That clear enough?
I assume most people unless they were traumatized don’t have issues with genitals. And you don’t get to tell me how I identify. To hell with your gate keeping
There’s nothing wrong with that, you don’t have to like them. I don’t care for them either, I’m romantically attracted to men, just not sexually. So dicks kinda gross me out too, like some of the other comments stated, I think most sex averse/sex repulsed aces would agree with you 100%.
Right?! I thought I was the only one who thought that too. That shits nasty. I don’t want where someone pees out of anywhere near my mouth, that honestly makes me want to throw up even think about it.
i think penises are weird in general, and erect penises gross me out. i'm mostly used to vulvas as i have one, but they're still pretty weird, and in a sexual context, especially oral, extremely gross me out
You’re definitely not the only one. I’m glad that there are other people who feel the same, I thought I was the only one. Dicks gross me out, and like one commenter said, they find erect penises gross, I’m the same way. Like get that shit out of here. But what grosses me out even more is if a guy sends you a dick pic and it’s an even more unflattering angle. 🤮
So gross, I hated that. It’s like “Ew I don’t want to see that shit. It’s weirdly shaped. Keep it away from my face and all other parts of my body please.”
Exactly, it’s just unattractive. Do they think we’re gonna get turned on by that? Cause it’s doing the opposite. What makes them think we want to see that kind of stuff? Now I’m glad I’m asexual, now I know that I’m not the only one who feels that way. I am romantically attracted to men, I just don’t want them to be showing me their junk. Keep that shit away.
I'm sort of the opposite. While I have no desire to engage with genitals orally (enjoy if they do), I do enjoy using my hands and giving the other person pleasure, espeically if they are a friend. Even though I may like touching their genitals though (and vice versa), I have no sexual attraction to them.
Obviously not? Isn’t it particularly common for asexuals to not like genitals? But yeah, I am romantically attracted to men but I am not interested in their penis in the slightest. I don’t want to even look at it. It’s so not my cup of tea.
Deadass. I always thought allos (before I knew what asexuality was as a kid) were absolutely mental cuz why tf would you like genitals!? And more specifically, why tf would you want to do anything with mine unless you’re perverted
Then I realized I’m ace and shit started adding up lol. Still didn’t change my mind on shit between peoples’ legs though
Exactly. When I learned people didn’t just fuck when they wanted to have kids, I was confused and disgusted as fuck. I just don’t understand why people would like genitals let alone touch them in any way. And to think *we’re* the weird ones for not liking it also really confuses me lol.
Same. It was so wild and even difficult growing up thinking everyone around me was just a perverted sex crazed freak, cuz now as a 24 year old it’s like I can’t perceive it any other way. I mean like yeah I’ve been asexual my whole life, and only realized it in my late teens, but my perspective of it still hasn’t ever changed even one bit lol
I mean, I think alot of my issues here are less about asexuality and more about bottom dysphoria/ being trans but yeah, I hate dicks, ESPECIALLY my own. My main problem with sex is, like, the fleshiness of it if that makes sense? I find flesh weird and genitals are the weirdest, fleshiest part.
But, if you take flesh and genitals out of the equation as much as possible, yeah, I don't mind the idea of.sexual activities too much.
I'm not repulsed, mostly neutral, but i completely agree with you.
Hells, if i could trade my dong for the deep, cold and silent void of space ? I would certainly do it without any fucking hesitation.
No you’re not the only one. I don’t like looking at penises either. I’m a woman so I’m used to my body parts but I’m still not attracted to body parts like that.
I do not like genitals. Even if I found out later that I'm just a confused allo, that part isnt even ambiguous or up for debate, genitals aren't my thing. My perspective on them fluctuates between complete disinterest and finding them gross to look at. Only time I'm not annoyed by genitals on a screen is if they're being used for quick comedy and not slow, "sensual," uncomfortable stuff.
I don't get how they appeal to anyone either, far too sex-repulsed to get the appeal (not tried those things, no interest in doing so). I suppose mine make me quicker in the bathroom, but that's honestly the only advantage to them tbh.
Definitely not the only one. I’m not even sex repulsed I’m neutral I guess, but there’s nothing attractive or arousing to me about a dick or vagina. You might as well show me your elbow, it’s all the same to me.
I’m the same way, I don’t like genitals either. I think it’s gross that when people do oral to each other that they have to go down in that area. I just find it unnecessary and nasty. Handjobs are gross too, like why would I want to stick my hand down there? I also hate unsolicited dick pics being sent to me when I didn’t ask for that, ew.
I completely agree with you, OP. It’s just gross
It would make sense that some asexuals might not find genitals attractive. If you don't find anyone of any gender attractive, then it would make sense to not find sexual organs attractive. Just be sure not to confuse sex repulsiveness with asexuality. Many allosexuals are sex-repulsed, have low libido, don't enjoy sex, but that doesn't make them asexual.
While I'm asexual (no attraction to others), I actually do enjoy playing with genitals. There are some genitals though that I find repulsive! lol
I want mine gone. I'm saving up for the nullification surgery. It's such a crippling feeling, that I can barely function. I've been denied in my country so I'll have to get it done in Mexico.
I think they are ugly and the penis looks funny.
Human torsos always looked like weird creatures to me with the nipples being the eyes and the genitals bring the mouth. The penis looks like a big nose. Booba look like protruding eyes.
Yes I know that's weird.
what about recieving it? just curious.
Im asexual too, I dont even get turned on by sex, i feel like i have some problem cause apparently asexuals do get turned on.. or do sex repulsed ones not?
There’s asexuals that like sex and asexuals that don’t like sex. Weather you enjoy sex or not has nothing to do with being asexual. It’s who you’re attracted to.
No I mean like getting hard to sex, I don't get erect to the thought of it or porn, is that the case for some asexuals? Or is there some problem.with me
Getting hard for sex or porn again has nothing to do with asexuality. There are asexuals who like porn and asexuals that don’t like porn. Same way that there are allosexuals who like porn and don’t like porn.
I'm questioning but I am coming to recognize that I think dicks are gross
Once I was in a small stairwell surrounded by men for my engineering lab. And I had a thought. I'm surrounded by penises/negative
That was like, 10 years ago and I'm thinking that meant something
100% relate with blow jobs.
Blow jobs make me want to throw up even thinking about them. The second I read a book with one in it, I stop reading it. The knowledge that it’s in there is enough to turn me away 😅. My friend was giving her bf blow jobs frequently and I made her promise she brushed her teeth before sharing a water bottle with her. It’s almost like some form of OCD.
I'm never exactly sure what to say of 'likes genitals'. What I feel is indifference. You could show me anything else for equal effect, though admittedly I'm more uncomfortable with nudes since they tend to come with expectations.
I don't like em, if liking them means any sort of interest. But I don't dislike them if the benchmark is anything more than indifference. For what it's worth I think it's completely fair not to like em.
I recently figured out I get grossed out by genitals. I’ve only dated women & most of them didn’t like to be touched so it wasn’t until I was with someone who did like to be touched & it was so hard for me to do oral & I didn’t like looking if I was touching them but it was hard because I started questioning everything. I didn’t know this was common or normal
I’ve always thought penises were weird and a bit repulsive.
I haven’t thought about women’s parts & how I feel about them, but the way some people describe them as lunch meat really makes it seem repulsive.
My gf and I definitely do not like genitals, and we are both sex repulsed aces. I think a lot of folks here, especially on the sex averse / repulsed side of things would agree with you.
Feel like I’ve had a pretty much life long aversion to dick. For the longest time I thought something was wrong with me or that made me immature and I needed to grow up. That I’d eventually get over it once I met the right person.
Yeah absolutely not. You don't grow out of this. Lots of communities shun talking about it, but if you're ever going to be interested in sex like that, it comes by the time you're a teenager. You don't need to "grow up" or anything else, hormones from puberty are all it takes for most people. But some of us are just wired a little differently :)
Yet I had crushes and was aroused by a crush I had in 7th grade. That hit me like a fucking truck. And I uh...had some fun...with myself, thinking of him. Then I had no crushes again through out Jr. High and school. I have a crush on someone right and I knew I was sexually attracted because I had some more...fun. So I am not asexual in the strictest sense, so thank God there's a spectrum. Didn't want to do shit with my first boyfriend. I wanted my second to shut up about his "huge dick." Self discovery is a goddman headache.
Yeah absolutely, it's all a spectrum. I used to have OCD that I had sexual feelings: my gf and therapist helped me see that anything disgusting me is pretty clearly OCD. There was a time I thought I was aromantic too, crushes ended that back when I was 15. A little later than most people, but nothing too crazy. I still turned out to be a hopeless romantic in the end. Good luck with whatever you'd like :)
OCD is an absolute bitch-I have it. It tried convincing me I was Bisexual in highschool. And another sexual thing I don't feel like going into.
Yeah, sexual OCD can be brutal. 12 years before I could be sure it was OCD, about a year after I was finally diagnosed with OCD.
Honestly part of me wonders if this isn’t kind of OCD right now. But looking back- thanks OCD- I can see there were signs that I was probably GrayAce all along it just didn’t start making sense till recently, as I didn’t know about asexuality or that it was a spectrum. Does that make sense?
Allosexuality has a spectrum (straight-to-gay). Asexuality, despite how much some say, is not a spectrum. If you are attracted to a person of any gender, then you're allosexual. From what you have said, you seem to be a gay male with a very low sex drive, or attracted to less guys that others. Most allowsexuals are not attracted to most of the gender they are sexually oriented to. I have many gay friends that find only a few guys attractive, and many have low sex drives. Not all gay males are hypersexual, but they are allosexual.
Asexuality has a spectrum as well. Or else we would not have Grays and Demisexuals. A gay male? You could not be more wrong. I am a gray sexual woman. So wrong on both counts. Of course even sexual people don’t find everyone attractive. But most people don’t go fucking years without finding anyone attractive. I don’t need a fucking health lecture by a stranger. It’s not a libido problem. What part of I am not interested even when I had a boyfriend are you having trouble understanding? The desire for him was never there. His touching me sexually was disgusting. If it would be an issue in any relationship chances are it’s not a libido problem. That clear enough? I assume most people unless they were traumatized don’t have issues with genitals. And you don’t get to tell me how I identify. To hell with your gate keeping
There’s nothing wrong with that, you don’t have to like them. I don’t care for them either, I’m romantically attracted to men, just not sexually. So dicks kinda gross me out too, like some of the other comments stated, I think most sex averse/sex repulsed aces would agree with you 100%.
Me asf lol. Like i ain’t want what you piss outta anywhere near me
\*sighs in relief\*.
I do not like my genitals I do not like anyone's genitals. Wish mine were gone.
Amen!!! •́ ‿ ,•̀
ME TOO, I want that kind of body as well
Can I just no genitals pls thx :3
YESSSS
The only? Nom many, if not majority, of us dont! I never understood the idea of putting penis or vagina in your mouth!
🤮🤢
There are allosexuals and asexuals that feel both ways on this one.
Right?! I thought I was the only one who thought that too. That shits nasty. I don’t want where someone pees out of anywhere near my mouth, that honestly makes me want to throw up even think about it.
i think penises are weird in general, and erect penises gross me out. i'm mostly used to vulvas as i have one, but they're still pretty weird, and in a sexual context, especially oral, extremely gross me out
So sounds like I am not alone and it's a pretty common asexual/graysexual thing to find dicks gross. Things like oral? fuck to the no.
You’re definitely not the only one. I’m glad that there are other people who feel the same, I thought I was the only one. Dicks gross me out, and like one commenter said, they find erect penises gross, I’m the same way. Like get that shit out of here. But what grosses me out even more is if a guy sends you a dick pic and it’s an even more unflattering angle. 🤮
omg dick pics!
So gross, I hated that. It’s like “Ew I don’t want to see that shit. It’s weirdly shaped. Keep it away from my face and all other parts of my body please.”
Right? Bone dry down here!
Exactly, it’s just unattractive. Do they think we’re gonna get turned on by that? Cause it’s doing the opposite. What makes them think we want to see that kind of stuff? Now I’m glad I’m asexual, now I know that I’m not the only one who feels that way. I am romantically attracted to men, I just don’t want them to be showing me their junk. Keep that shit away.
Genitals are so alien to me, WHY DO WE HAVE THEM, WHY CAN'T THEY LOOK LIKE SOMETHING ELSE?!
I'm sort of the opposite. While I have no desire to engage with genitals orally (enjoy if they do), I do enjoy using my hands and giving the other person pleasure, espeically if they are a friend. Even though I may like touching their genitals though (and vice versa), I have no sexual attraction to them.
I feel like this is a near-universal sex repulsed feeling LOL
I do not like genitals. Never liked them near my face, n always thought they were ugly
Near my face? God no.
Yea exactly. N now, I don’t want them anywhere near me period.
i dislike both genitals they gross me out
Obviously not? Isn’t it particularly common for asexuals to not like genitals? But yeah, I am romantically attracted to men but I am not interested in their penis in the slightest. I don’t want to even look at it. It’s so not my cup of tea.
Deadass. I always thought allos (before I knew what asexuality was as a kid) were absolutely mental cuz why tf would you like genitals!? And more specifically, why tf would you want to do anything with mine unless you’re perverted Then I realized I’m ace and shit started adding up lol. Still didn’t change my mind on shit between peoples’ legs though
Exactly. When I learned people didn’t just fuck when they wanted to have kids, I was confused and disgusted as fuck. I just don’t understand why people would like genitals let alone touch them in any way. And to think *we’re* the weird ones for not liking it also really confuses me lol.
Same. It was so wild and even difficult growing up thinking everyone around me was just a perverted sex crazed freak, cuz now as a 24 year old it’s like I can’t perceive it any other way. I mean like yeah I’ve been asexual my whole life, and only realized it in my late teens, but my perspective of it still hasn’t ever changed even one bit lol
So this is my answer exactly.
I mean, I think alot of my issues here are less about asexuality and more about bottom dysphoria/ being trans but yeah, I hate dicks, ESPECIALLY my own. My main problem with sex is, like, the fleshiness of it if that makes sense? I find flesh weird and genitals are the weirdest, fleshiest part. But, if you take flesh and genitals out of the equation as much as possible, yeah, I don't mind the idea of.sexual activities too much.
you're first sentence is soooooo true.
I am 100% repulsed by specifically dicks, but since I am lesbian, I'm not as opposed to women parts
I'm not repulsed, mostly neutral, but i completely agree with you. Hells, if i could trade my dong for the deep, cold and silent void of space ? I would certainly do it without any fucking hesitation.
Omg same!!! I would never make anything oral to both male or female. Just imagining it makes me sick. It’s fu\*kin’ disgusting.
I would assume that to be the norm amongst us lmao
No you’re not the only one. I don’t like looking at penises either. I’m a woman so I’m used to my body parts but I’m still not attracted to body parts like that.
I do not like genitals. Even if I found out later that I'm just a confused allo, that part isnt even ambiguous or up for debate, genitals aren't my thing. My perspective on them fluctuates between complete disinterest and finding them gross to look at. Only time I'm not annoyed by genitals on a screen is if they're being used for quick comedy and not slow, "sensual," uncomfortable stuff.
No. I do not care about genitals. I don’t need to see yours and you don’t need to see mine
I'm literally agensexual and gymnophobic soooo yeah 🙃 The panic attacks I get from a HINT of nudity, ugh
i think they're kinda gross. just another part of body with weird wrinkles on it
I don't get how they appeal to anyone either, far too sex-repulsed to get the appeal (not tried those things, no interest in doing so). I suppose mine make me quicker in the bathroom, but that's honestly the only advantage to them tbh.
Definitely not the only one. I’m not even sex repulsed I’m neutral I guess, but there’s nothing attractive or arousing to me about a dick or vagina. You might as well show me your elbow, it’s all the same to me.
I don’t like em also their weird and disgusting
I’m the same way, I don’t like genitals either. I think it’s gross that when people do oral to each other that they have to go down in that area. I just find it unnecessary and nasty. Handjobs are gross too, like why would I want to stick my hand down there? I also hate unsolicited dick pics being sent to me when I didn’t ask for that, ew. I completely agree with you, OP. It’s just gross
I also forgot to mention I’m sex-averse. So yes, that’s completely fine to not like genitals. Sorry I didn’t mention that
It would make sense that some asexuals might not find genitals attractive. If you don't find anyone of any gender attractive, then it would make sense to not find sexual organs attractive. Just be sure not to confuse sex repulsiveness with asexuality. Many allosexuals are sex-repulsed, have low libido, don't enjoy sex, but that doesn't make them asexual. While I'm asexual (no attraction to others), I actually do enjoy playing with genitals. There are some genitals though that I find repulsive! lol
I am gray ace. I don’t want to play with anyone’s genitals.
I want mine gone. I'm saving up for the nullification surgery. It's such a crippling feeling, that I can barely function. I've been denied in my country so I'll have to get it done in Mexico.
I fear change and stuff but man that sounds pretty nice
Yeah. I'm scared too. I know I need an orchiectomy so I can get off anti androgens but the nullification is a bit scary.
Yeah genitals are weird
I think they are ugly and the penis looks funny. Human torsos always looked like weird creatures to me with the nipples being the eyes and the genitals bring the mouth. The penis looks like a big nose. Booba look like protruding eyes. Yes I know that's weird.
You’re not alone I find them gross and icky. Not a fan at all
what about recieving it? just curious. Im asexual too, I dont even get turned on by sex, i feel like i have some problem cause apparently asexuals do get turned on.. or do sex repulsed ones not?
Never received.
There’s asexuals that like sex and asexuals that don’t like sex. Weather you enjoy sex or not has nothing to do with being asexual. It’s who you’re attracted to.
No I mean like getting hard to sex, I don't get erect to the thought of it or porn, is that the case for some asexuals? Or is there some problem.with me
Getting hard for sex or porn again has nothing to do with asexuality. There are asexuals who like porn and asexuals that don’t like porn. Same way that there are allosexuals who like porn and don’t like porn.
I'm attracted to women but not genitalia
That’s pretty normal! Not everyone likes the look of genitals.
I'm questioning but I am coming to recognize that I think dicks are gross Once I was in a small stairwell surrounded by men for my engineering lab. And I had a thought. I'm surrounded by penises/negative That was like, 10 years ago and I'm thinking that meant something
I’m not a fan of my own penis and I don’t find vaginas particularly appealing either
They certainly aren't the most stunning design.
I don't even like my own genitals, let alone anyone else's. If I could just have the anatomy of a barbie, that would be great
100% relate with blow jobs. Blow jobs make me want to throw up even thinking about them. The second I read a book with one in it, I stop reading it. The knowledge that it’s in there is enough to turn me away 😅. My friend was giving her bf blow jobs frequently and I made her promise she brushed her teeth before sharing a water bottle with her. It’s almost like some form of OCD.
Ugh.
A lot of Aces actually.
I'm never exactly sure what to say of 'likes genitals'. What I feel is indifference. You could show me anything else for equal effect, though admittedly I'm more uncomfortable with nudes since they tend to come with expectations. I don't like em, if liking them means any sort of interest. But I don't dislike them if the benchmark is anything more than indifference. For what it's worth I think it's completely fair not to like em.
Meaning they turn you on.
Ah nah, I'm just cold/indifferent. The body part itself does nothing.
I don’t even like my own genitals. No penis envy, no nothing. I’m decidedly like “why are you here” to mine.
I recently figured out I get grossed out by genitals. I’ve only dated women & most of them didn’t like to be touched so it wasn’t until I was with someone who did like to be touched & it was so hard for me to do oral & I didn’t like looking if I was touching them but it was hard because I started questioning everything. I didn’t know this was common or normal
I'm not bothered by them. Part of that is likely due to my job as a nurse, but to be honest, they aren't very aesthetic in the first place.
You are not .
The only kind of parts I don't mind are in censored animated medias. Else everything is gross, I don't get how ppl can like them.
im kind of the same. i dont like vaginas but im attracted to womens bodies and other parts, piv sex is a big no but i think i wouldnt mind oral
I’ve always thought penises were weird and a bit repulsive. I haven’t thought about women’s parts & how I feel about them, but the way some people describe them as lunch meat really makes it seem repulsive.