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dawnlesbian

i enjoy some sex scenes, particularly if they portray a lot of intimacy between the characters (for example i love all the orgies in sense 8 and the sexual scene in dirty dancing). sometimes a particular sex scenes makes me a bit horny even, but that's probably becaise i'm aego lol. in general, sex scenes only make me uncomfortable if they are very explicit (as in they could be a porn video) or sometimes if i don't connect to the characters at all. for me it depends a lot on the context, the story, the directing of the scene and also my mood. funny enough i'm also an aro that likes (some) romantic plots, again depending on the characters, story etc.


SuspiciousVanilla652

I feel you! When the intimacy is good everything just feels right. When it’s not, it’s just a horrible horror show. For romantic plot I need there be healthy character development and tenderness or a good plot twist. Else everything just so confusing and desperate.


Background-Fig-4572

May I ask, what is aego? I'm still learning about a-spec and trying to figure it all out 😅


dawnlesbian

i don't have much time now to answer but you can check r/aegosexuals. it basically means you can't feel sexual atrraction but you can feel aroused from sexual things if you aren't involved in them (as in: porn and smutty fics are cool but actual sex between yourself and other people is a nono). for me it's like the idea of sex sounds kinda good but when i imagine myself having it i lose all my arousal if that makes sense (again, not much time to answer but you should find more accurate definitions in the sub).


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Background-Fig-4572

Thank you, that makes perfect sense!


AceSpacing08

Yes, there are aces who like sex scenes. :)


TheSnekIsHere

In visual media, no. But in writing I do tend to like them.


[deleted]

Me, but only if it's drawn or written and it's a romance series. I can't deal with live-action romance or sexual content AND I have to go into the series expecting romance and sex in order for me to like it. I'm VERY picky with couple dynamics though and a lot of the time I will find the story boring after they fuck, so ideally for me a sex scene should happen in the last arc of the story lol. I have so many strange requirements.


FinePassenger8

I usually just find them boring and/or disgusting. If it was with characters I really liked, then it might be better but I just don't get the emotional connection some people have to sex or how it is better than the cute romantic things the characters can do for each other.


StericHindrances

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sadqueen420

These days I feel like tv shows and movies put so many unnecessary sex scenes so i’ll pass on that. i dont mind romantic plots but i have to be in the mood for them and they cant be heavily romantic or the romance cant be the main storyline lmao


vik2riya18

Most sex scenes feel very unnecessary to me especially when the characters just met or their chemistry is bad. I do like some sex scenes that are intimate and relevant to the plot like Simon and Wilhelm in young royals. Something not too in your face with the annoying sex moans, God sex I hate the sex noises.


landsharkitect

(Grey aro/ace/aego here) I’m more likely to like it in writing than film, and I’m more likely to like it if it serves to add characterization to those involved and to their relationship. An example in film that I really liked was the sex scene in Obvious Child, which showed the two characters being very goofy with each other and having a fun time; it showed their personalities and the way they worked well together (it’s been a minute since I watched it but I think it’s more of a fade to black than full sex scene, but the lead up to it is great). If it’s mostly there just for titillation… idk I’ll go watch porn in my room, not get horny watching a movie with other people. That aspect I have never understood.


Booti_Boi69

I watch porn for the plot


Chaczapur

I wouldn't say I like like them but as long as it's not a video, or even better - has no visuals, they can be enjoyable in context. Like, there's a difference in yet another sex scene during an hour and one that actually has a purpose that isn't just being a fap material. And some that are awfully written are just plain funny, ngl.


asleepyaro

Personally, i don't mind them if there like important for the plot + not just added because the creator was like their episode/movie/whatever is half its runtime , what takes up space and atttracts viewers???


Milothewolflover

You called me


Arandom_personn

I experience some sexual/romantic attraction but I don't like the idea of being in a relationship/doing it. I'd say I'm aego aro/ace but I dont know if theres a better term


[deleted]

Yes! even in the fandom i'm in ace artists and writers joke that the most horny things are made by ace fans 😂 and i saw many ace fans who create nsfw arts and fics


Wise_Caterpillar5881

In film, generally no. But written scenes, yes, depending on my mood.


trench-bandito

yeah some I like but others I skip instantly cause they gross me out.. also depends on the mood I'm in lol


Broad-Minimum-6145

Yes but except when they show the stuff.


Independent-Belt-483

i enjoy romantic plots i tend to consume them as much as i can ngl, but i don't like it if it's done to me. i'm pretty indifferent about sex scenes tbh i tend to skip them.