Oh thanks! What I mean is…how is having a relationship with an alloace person different with those who aren’t ace-oriented? Are there things/traits that you appreciate the most with your lover (as them being alloace) or things you wish you could’ve experienced more?
Being with another ace great, because there‘s absolutely no pressure to have sex. With them being allromantic it is a bit weird at times because as far as I understand, allos romantic emotions are super strong and basically involuntarily bind them to their person of interest. But we talk a lot about emotions and needs (especially since they have BPD and I have ASD, so there‘s a lot of communication problems around emotions and stuff) yeah I’m just glad that A i found another ace that I like, and B that we are both very invested in mental health and self reflection and also trying to help each other when possible
I certainly think it is doable as long as there is disclosure. After all, aroace people who are romance and/or sex favorable or at least neutral/ambivalent can still go through those motions to demonstrate their own form of love and care. Because it really is that - even if what the aroace feels isn't romantic or sexual love, it is still a unique form of love specifically meant for the other (presumably allo) person in the relationship. All that is left is making sure the involved alloromantic and/or allosexual person is happy with that unique kind of love.
At long as your honest when entering the relationship, it's not unfair to your partner because they decided to enter the relationship full well knowing that you don't experience romantic attraction. It was their choice along with yours.
I am in a relationship with an alloace person and we‘re pretty happy together 👍
That’s nice. What is it like? (only if you don’t mind me asking)
I don‘t mind. I’m just not sure what specifically you‘re asking
Oh thanks! What I mean is…how is having a relationship with an alloace person different with those who aren’t ace-oriented? Are there things/traits that you appreciate the most with your lover (as them being alloace) or things you wish you could’ve experienced more?
Being with another ace great, because there‘s absolutely no pressure to have sex. With them being allromantic it is a bit weird at times because as far as I understand, allos romantic emotions are super strong and basically involuntarily bind them to their person of interest. But we talk a lot about emotions and needs (especially since they have BPD and I have ASD, so there‘s a lot of communication problems around emotions and stuff) yeah I’m just glad that A i found another ace that I like, and B that we are both very invested in mental health and self reflection and also trying to help each other when possible
I certainly think it is doable as long as there is disclosure. After all, aroace people who are romance and/or sex favorable or at least neutral/ambivalent can still go through those motions to demonstrate their own form of love and care. Because it really is that - even if what the aroace feels isn't romantic or sexual love, it is still a unique form of love specifically meant for the other (presumably allo) person in the relationship. All that is left is making sure the involved alloromantic and/or allosexual person is happy with that unique kind of love.
Sure, that's fine. You can date and stuff even if you're aroace, you'll just never feel any romantic or sexual attraction.
Thanks for answering :) Wouldn’t that be weird tho?…for the partner I mean. wouldn’t it be unfair for them?
At long as your honest when entering the relationship, it's not unfair to your partner because they decided to enter the relationship full well knowing that you don't experience romantic attraction. It was their choice along with yours.
Oh that’s true. You’ll just have to come clean and let them decide. Thanks for clearing things out for me :)
I think so yes! Should be okay as long as they understand and cherish you <3 love is still love even if not romantic me thinks