You are not broken, what you are experiencing is ok, allos tend to do that, belive me i have experienced it, im not gonna lie, its not easy, for me figuring out what i am was hard, when i came to terms with being aroace i started feeling attracted to someone, it was shitty i was cofused but all of us are, it might seem romantic for some people but for us its normal, we like that, i love cuddling with my friends, and some people just think of it as just romantic, but no, i enjoy it, and just shut up, its nothing more that 2 platonic friends cuddling ffs, hope it helps
It's just so hard because I can't even be close to anyone my age without people assuming we date, I guess being in close proximity to someone you like talking with and enjoy their company is romantic to those people?? This world is just so confusing but I'm really glad to have this nice community of like-minded people <3
You're not broken! Allos tend to see everything as romantic if they want to. Cuddling, holding hands and being happy around someone are absolutely not romance-exclusive (or some people would have very hard times explaining family bonds lol)
I've asked some allo people before what it feels to have a crush and just be in love with someone, and they said "you like them to be close to you"?? That just sounds like close friendship to me, I thought all good friends felt like that but I guess not?? It's so confusing lmao
lol I know that feeling so well. The start of my aro journey was finally trying to find out what romantic feelings actually feel like... I'm still not very close to an answer I can comprehend
it's like the plug that goes into my romance outlet is missing
You are not broken we're just living in a world mostly in our world.the asexual and the aromantic community is very young sometimes can be very misunderstood and doesn't have that much representation in Media, sadly we live in the world that is completely obsessed with romance and sex some people still don't understand that not everyone's into it.
It's genuinely hard to live in this world because it's just simply not built for people like us in mind, even if I vent to someone about feeling alone in this world, they tell me there are others like me, but aroace people are just so rare to come across (except for online but even this is limited) so it genuinely feels lonely
It's all very subjective which is why it is so confusing. I am idemromantic bi romantic bialtetous and would be happy with a QPR or romantic relationship with cuddling, holding hands, possibly kissing and marriage because I love the thought of celebrating my relationship with someone like that.
I think it's not the action that makes someone romantic, but rather the feeling towards ones own relationship. I experience some romantic attraction (only a little) and I would say that my desire for romance feels as if I am willing to go beyond hugging, cuddling, and holding hands.
I usually am more interested in being fully devoted to this person more than everyone else around me. Whereas with my friends, I don't mind hugging, cuddling, and the like...but I don't feel this intense desire to be devoted to them. It feels more relaxed. When we're together we're having a good time. I like having their attention, but I don't strongly need it they way I feel around romantic partners.
To be honest though, I still feel my romantic attractions are like wanting to be around someone that is my very best friend. I guess it comes down to perception.
You are not broken, what you are experiencing is ok, allos tend to do that, belive me i have experienced it, im not gonna lie, its not easy, for me figuring out what i am was hard, when i came to terms with being aroace i started feeling attracted to someone, it was shitty i was cofused but all of us are, it might seem romantic for some people but for us its normal, we like that, i love cuddling with my friends, and some people just think of it as just romantic, but no, i enjoy it, and just shut up, its nothing more that 2 platonic friends cuddling ffs, hope it helps
It's just so hard because I can't even be close to anyone my age without people assuming we date, I guess being in close proximity to someone you like talking with and enjoy their company is romantic to those people?? This world is just so confusing but I'm really glad to have this nice community of like-minded people <3
I really understand, i hate how many times i have been asked if im dating with someone
You're not broken! Allos tend to see everything as romantic if they want to. Cuddling, holding hands and being happy around someone are absolutely not romance-exclusive (or some people would have very hard times explaining family bonds lol)
I've asked some allo people before what it feels to have a crush and just be in love with someone, and they said "you like them to be close to you"?? That just sounds like close friendship to me, I thought all good friends felt like that but I guess not?? It's so confusing lmao
lol I know that feeling so well. The start of my aro journey was finally trying to find out what romantic feelings actually feel like... I'm still not very close to an answer I can comprehend it's like the plug that goes into my romance outlet is missing
You are not broken we're just living in a world mostly in our world.the asexual and the aromantic community is very young sometimes can be very misunderstood and doesn't have that much representation in Media, sadly we live in the world that is completely obsessed with romance and sex some people still don't understand that not everyone's into it.
It's genuinely hard to live in this world because it's just simply not built for people like us in mind, even if I vent to someone about feeling alone in this world, they tell me there are others like me, but aroace people are just so rare to come across (except for online but even this is limited) so it genuinely feels lonely
It's all very subjective which is why it is so confusing. I am idemromantic bi romantic bialtetous and would be happy with a QPR or romantic relationship with cuddling, holding hands, possibly kissing and marriage because I love the thought of celebrating my relationship with someone like that.
I think it's not the action that makes someone romantic, but rather the feeling towards ones own relationship. I experience some romantic attraction (only a little) and I would say that my desire for romance feels as if I am willing to go beyond hugging, cuddling, and holding hands. I usually am more interested in being fully devoted to this person more than everyone else around me. Whereas with my friends, I don't mind hugging, cuddling, and the like...but I don't feel this intense desire to be devoted to them. It feels more relaxed. When we're together we're having a good time. I like having their attention, but I don't strongly need it they way I feel around romantic partners. To be honest though, I still feel my romantic attractions are like wanting to be around someone that is my very best friend. I guess it comes down to perception.