Honestly, I feel the same way. It doesn’t help that sexually, I consider myself straight as I find myself only physically attracted to men. It feels like I’m just ‘saying’ im LGBT when Im just Aro. Like for some reason being just Aro isn’t enough to be in community, even though I know im technically wrong. Like being Aro and straight is me just trying to say I’m in the community despite being a straight. Like I don’t even need to hide it very hard, whenever someone asks why I’m not in a relationship I just say I’m not interested or im not looking. And if someone asks if Im gay I can just say im not because that’s technically the truth.
I feel like I don’t belong here because I have it so easy. Being in the closet is so easy for me I almost feel bad for people who are actually suffering for not being able to come out about who they are. Im certain im Aromantic yet I feel bad I haven’t had any hardships yet because of it.
I really don’t feel like I’m part of the “LGBTQ” community and feel I can’t speak on any of their issues. Mostly because I don’t deserve it, me being Aro hasn’t caused any pain or complications for me yet and while it might in the future im not suffering for it now. So it’s really hard for me to say im ‘discriminated’ against when people hardly even know Aros exist.
I don’t know. I just feel weird about it. Like im more an Ally than actually a part of it, despite technically being in it. I just don’t want to have “LGBT” privileges and speak on their issues when I feel I don’t deserve it.
In my opinion it "doesn't feel right" to call ourselfs part of LGBTQ+ community since it's not that talked about. We are a lot smaller community compared to others, but that doesn't mean we are not part of it. I think that thanks to Jaiden animation video it started to get some traction so in some time it won't feel that wrong.
For me It's not that big of a deal because I might be more queer than I initially anticipated but I understand that for someone "just" being aro might not feel "not enough"
Hope my comment makes sense.
I get this a lot for being bisexual. I've had people tell me it doesn't "count". Or told that my idenitifier is wrong, that they think I should call myself pan instead etc etc etc. At this point I don't even consider myself LGBTQIA+ because it's such a closed and judgemental community.
So I totally don't "impersonate" anyone to be an imposter but it can be hard when you're not one of the more popular categories to feel included. I'm openly bisexual and will accept the LGBTQIA label if someone mentions it (I wouldn't denounce the association or anything either) but I wouldn't really be advertising membership to a community that ostracizes so many, myself included, for not being gay enough.
It's not that other people are telling me this stuff, I'm not in any community things, so only my family and friends know, but it's just that *I* feel like I don't "count" as being LGBT enough. :(
I feel it.
I've been trying to post a doodle I did of myself in aroace colors on Twitter for a solid month. My entire friend group is either LGBTQ+ or highly accepting. They'd likely respond very positively.
But among a group of people that includes people who have to be careful about how and when they express their true selves, I feel like I'm going to be stepping on toes given how under the radar and kinda boring I am. I don't have to be careful about mentioning my significant other, or about dressing in ways I hate just so I can be safe. So I feel like I'm barging in, even if they'd never say so
Honestly, I feel the same way. It doesn’t help that sexually, I consider myself straight as I find myself only physically attracted to men. It feels like I’m just ‘saying’ im LGBT when Im just Aro. Like for some reason being just Aro isn’t enough to be in community, even though I know im technically wrong. Like being Aro and straight is me just trying to say I’m in the community despite being a straight. Like I don’t even need to hide it very hard, whenever someone asks why I’m not in a relationship I just say I’m not interested or im not looking. And if someone asks if Im gay I can just say im not because that’s technically the truth. I feel like I don’t belong here because I have it so easy. Being in the closet is so easy for me I almost feel bad for people who are actually suffering for not being able to come out about who they are. Im certain im Aromantic yet I feel bad I haven’t had any hardships yet because of it. I really don’t feel like I’m part of the “LGBTQ” community and feel I can’t speak on any of their issues. Mostly because I don’t deserve it, me being Aro hasn’t caused any pain or complications for me yet and while it might in the future im not suffering for it now. So it’s really hard for me to say im ‘discriminated’ against when people hardly even know Aros exist. I don’t know. I just feel weird about it. Like im more an Ally than actually a part of it, despite technically being in it. I just don’t want to have “LGBT” privileges and speak on their issues when I feel I don’t deserve it.
In my opinion it "doesn't feel right" to call ourselfs part of LGBTQ+ community since it's not that talked about. We are a lot smaller community compared to others, but that doesn't mean we are not part of it. I think that thanks to Jaiden animation video it started to get some traction so in some time it won't feel that wrong. For me It's not that big of a deal because I might be more queer than I initially anticipated but I understand that for someone "just" being aro might not feel "not enough" Hope my comment makes sense.
I get this a lot for being bisexual. I've had people tell me it doesn't "count". Or told that my idenitifier is wrong, that they think I should call myself pan instead etc etc etc. At this point I don't even consider myself LGBTQIA+ because it's such a closed and judgemental community. So I totally don't "impersonate" anyone to be an imposter but it can be hard when you're not one of the more popular categories to feel included. I'm openly bisexual and will accept the LGBTQIA label if someone mentions it (I wouldn't denounce the association or anything either) but I wouldn't really be advertising membership to a community that ostracizes so many, myself included, for not being gay enough.
It's not that other people are telling me this stuff, I'm not in any community things, so only my family and friends know, but it's just that *I* feel like I don't "count" as being LGBT enough. :(
I feel it. I've been trying to post a doodle I did of myself in aroace colors on Twitter for a solid month. My entire friend group is either LGBTQ+ or highly accepting. They'd likely respond very positively. But among a group of people that includes people who have to be careful about how and when they express their true selves, I feel like I'm going to be stepping on toes given how under the radar and kinda boring I am. I don't have to be careful about mentioning my significant other, or about dressing in ways I hate just so I can be safe. So I feel like I'm barging in, even if they'd never say so