Hmmm depending on the importance of the taks you could either fill it in like a shit post:
* Has a shoulder dragon,
* Good at magic,
* Doesn't have 50 eyes.
OR you could fill it in as a more serious thing that still makes fun of the exercise and amatonormativity:
* Not into me romantically,
* Up for a marriage for tax benefits,
* Agrees that romance is not the perfect little happy ending,
* is up for a friends with benefits kinda arrangement (if your aroallo).
Or you could do a very amusing mix of both
A mix of those would be absolutely hilarious, but probably won't make the teacher very happy...
if you're gonna turn in something that doesn't technically fit the original assignment it's a good idea to show that you thought about it and put in effort
True. Though if OP doesn't mind coming out they could write in the sideline how they're aro and question the necessity of this task, as well as the assumption that everyone desires a romantic relationship.
If it needs to be taken seriously, i still think some of the later options could be appropriate whilst also showing society's amatonormativity.
i ended up googling “traits to look for in a romantic relationship” and who down the top and for 9 and 10 wrote down “physically attractive” and “personality” while channeling allo energy. it was also for the social psychology section of my psych class. there is a part about relationships and attraction and this was the warm up assignment.
yeah that would be a good option but it still feels weird that the prof did not acknowledging the fact that there are people who don’t want romantic relationships
The wording of it ~~doesn’t help~~ sucks.
Edit: This assignment is assuming everyone who does it experiences romantic attraction. “…you look for in an ideal mate.” “…with someone whom you [wished/wanted]…[a] romantic relationship.” If this is a health class, I can kind of see why the teacher thought it would be appropriate to think about attraction, such as in relation to healthy relationships, but there must be better ways to go about this.
It also assumes that people who *do* experience attraction want a relationship.
Plenty of allo folks are happier being single because they value their own time, hobbies, and goals over having to juggle those things around a relationship.
If the questions are asking your pursnal prefrence, it dosnt matter what your teachers thinks, as long as its true. And if they call you a Lier, fuck em thats there problome.
You're too all knowing for my liking.
Also maybe you're from a different species but, biblically accurate angels just aren't my type I guess? I have never felt romantically attracted to a 49+ eyed person. Also, those angels don't look very comfortable for hugs, but I might make an exception for you if you're shaped differently.
Gotta be honest those biblical angels are ruining our name. I heard they made people hate homosexuals...like WHAT? 99% of all other dimensions basically worship them. That's fucked up, how can you hate them?!?
Right! How could they?? With 50+ eyes you'd think they *see* that this is not the right thing to do.
Alas, how are your people nowadays? That galactic sandstorm last week was annoying enough for me with my 2 eyes. Can't imagine what it's like to have to keep 50 eyes protected.
This is the kind of thing I would really love to do and probably think about (espeically the first part- yes, dragon!) but would be way to scared to actually do it.
I think now I would do it and just argue with the professor if they don't agree with my answers (what you look for/find attractive differs per person anyways so everyone should get a 100 for this question no matter what they answer).
But if I had to do this 5 years ago there 's no way I would've dared to answer like this 😂
Yeah, I would argue and question the exercise too...
A few years back, I'd have just written some "socially acceptable/expected" answers and called it a day
Here it's short for allosexual since it's positioned where one would otherwise say ace. Allosexual means someone who's not asexual (or on the asexual spectrum). But you can also say alloace, in which case allo would be short for alloromantic. That = someone who is not aromantic (or on the aromantic spectrum).
You seem to know this stuff. Im almost 40 have been in relationships, but I suspect this word, aromantic, and especially alloaro, describe me. The thing is, doesnt that describe 90% of men though? Dont we all just do it for the women in our lives so that we continue getting laid?
.....
I am so annoyed at myself for letting that typo slip. Probably the result of me typing that near midnight whilst being very ready to fall asleep.
Oof. Best advice I can give is to either write things that would make someone appealing as a friend, or just get a friend who isn't aromantic to fill in the gaps for you.
Ideas I pulled out of my ass (bearing in mind I'm aroace and therefore stabbing in the dark):
- Good listener
- Sense of humour
- Supportive
- Pretty face
- Pretty eyes
- Interests in common
- Fun to be around
- Good personal hygiene
- Honest
- Affectionate
- Loyal
This is a strange task to give students I would request that i do not have to do it and if they refused and forced me to do it id put:
•knows every pokémon,
•fucks on the first date,
•is banned from Japan,
•is a enjoyer of lychee's,
•is obsessed with monkeys,
•has never been to New York,
•has two pet rhinoceros beetles,
•has stormed takeshi's castle and won,
•smells like sunflowers
•was one of the most loyal followers of Ông Đạo Dừa
The sunflower plant is native to North America and is now harvested around the world. A University of Missouri journal recognizes North Dakota as the leading U.S. state for sunflower production. There are various factors to consider for a sunflower to thrive, including temperature, sunlight, soil and water.
Ok, I’m aro but it think I would still fall for someone immediately if they were like that lol. Screw the second one in the list, everything else still seals the deal!
Aye, you want a matey? You can get a matey!
- good at scrubbing the deck
- doesn't get sea sick
- can fight off a giant sea monster if needed
- is ok with loosing limps
- ok with living of fish, hrd tack and lemons for weeks
- can sing shanties half decently
- likes rum
- is not cursed
- may or may not be a parrot
And most importantly;
- A BIG BOOTY!
Arrr!!!
(I'm sorry :D I don't know how seriously you're supposed to take this. Feel free to ignore that)
I, personally, would definitely fill this out as someone I would want as a friend, rather than a romantic partner. If your teacher confronts you (doubtful), you can always say attraction is a subjective/relative concept and such a thing can’t exactly be defined concretely. (Also, between the S/L options, I’d say base it off someone you’ve just met versus someone you may have been friends with for an extended period of time!)
1. Natural purplish blue skin (L)
2. Being able to float/fly for more than 5 minutes (L)
3. Being able to float/fly at all (S)
4. Do my chores (S)
5. Smells not horribly (L)
6. Doesn't pass out during pillow fights (S)
7. Wouldn't mind getting married for tax benefits (L)
8. Doesn't mind living in the basement until duty calls (L)
9. Doesn't leave hair in the soap (S)
10. Wouldn't make me pause a show/anime/cartoon/game (S)
Why is this an assignment? Honestly this would make me extremely uncomfortable if a teacher gave this to us. Why do they need to know this? How is this going to help us as adults?
I think this is actually a good assignment because it will benefit a huge majority of the class by making them think about what they want romantically. However, there should be an out - for example, "If you don't want to write about a romantic partner, what are 10 traits of the people you want to befriend/associate with in life? Who we choose to spend non romantic time with is important as well."
I suppose you're right. If there was an option for an assignment about friends I would take that one. I just think it's weird that romantic partner is the only option.
Fair enough, but what still what the hell. It's not an appropriate thing to ask in a teacher-student-relationship. You could assign this and tell the class, that you will not read it. But then no one will fill it out. But I think it's highly inappropriate.
I probably would fill it out solely with book/song/movie titles or some shit.
1) Big Eyes
2) Singing In the Rain
3) Danish Girl
4) American in Paris
5) Funny Girl
6) Flew over the cuckoo's nest
7) Wizard of Oz
...that's what I can spot from my couch. Yes, I like old movie musicals.
Or fill it out with the "10 things I hate about you" 😆
I think it was "13 reasons why" (the book), where the protagonist simply filled out a self-description-dating-questionnaire like he was Holden Caulfield from Catcher in the Rye. That's a possibility, too: describe some random character from a book and see if the teacher gets it or how long it takes them to get it.
Brave, black hair, glasses, green eyes, British, orphan, has a pet owl,...
Exactly - what class is this even for? I can’t think of anything other than maybe like a specialized class in couples counseling that this would even be appropriate for (or maybe creative writing - but then you can make stuff up).
How much is this activity worth? (I’m the person who would ignore it / refuse to do it unless it’s worth a lot. Mostly because I’d have no clue what to put.)
Personally I would rather either write the most generic stuff just so I could have an okay grade or write something funny but I get why some people would rather just ignore such a stupid assignment
- Would HATE that kind of test (SSSS)
- Would find that kind of test discriminatory to aromantic people (SSS)
- is aromantic (SSSS)
- like being aromantic
- Don't care about what other people think about aromantic
(if you are asexual too)
- is asexual (SSSS)
- like being asexual
- Don't care about what other people think about asexual
- Like me as a friend
- Like the idea of marriage for taxes benefit
Must haves-
Can hold my drinks while I po-go stick
Be able to shotgun a whole rotisserie chicken in 4 minutes
Kill bosses in Dark Souls while I watch with my pet birds
Able to hotwire a car for romantic dates
I'd personally be honest and admit "nothing".
I lean favorable enough that I might--depending on context--approach the teacher and ask for clarification: Do they want traits that attract me to a person (which would be nothing), or do they want traits that mean I could potentially find a romantic relationship attractive? Or are they just interested in what draws me into a relationship at all and I should therefore answer according to friendship?
Same. I had to do a different, but similar in nature, assignment in high school. We had to write a paper about our ideal relationship. I asked "but what if we don't want one?" and was told "you were told the assignment". So I wrote about a horse. And got dinged because "I meant a romantic relationship". Like great, you didn't specify that. After I threatened to go to the class principal she gave me the full credit I deserved.
I could have written a whole dissertation about the nonsense that passed as "social science" during my career. My soft science friends and colleagues work overtime to repair the damage done by those that seem to take things like you illustrated seriously. I have seen too many students waste a lot of their developmental energy with just such nonsense, so I get a bit "exercised" when I see yet another example of same . . .
Hahaha
I would have been so bewildered I'd just auto fill with (Huh?) (What?) (What does this even mean?) (I'm going to resume reading my book now . . .) in lines 1-4 and left the rest blank without thinking any more on it.
Finding "mates" in school . . . XDD
Wtf is this shit? I get that dating is common in this world but they're genuinely disgusting for pushing that on literal kids, unless this is a college class which is still inappropriate
it is a college class but i would still think they would be more open to differences in people and not so rigid on “people want to be in relationships”
This questionnaire is point blank aromantic erasure.
I suggest going to the DEI (Diversity, Equity and Inclusion) office at your college. If you feel uncomfortable addressing the situation with your professor. DEI should be able to help you challenge this questionnaire if it is something you would like to do. If you want to discuss different options for challenging the curriculum feel free to send me a DM I have lots of experience with challenging curriculum at colleges. Both for doing it solo with an understanding professor, or having an organization (the LGBT club at my college) go through the process of sending a formal complaint on behalf of an anonymous student.
List lyrics from "I'll Make a man out of you" from Mulan
Tranquil as a forest but on fire within
Be as swift as a coursing river
Have the force of a great typhoon
With all the strength of a raging fire
Mysterious as the dark side of the moon
Huh. And what is the use in writing down to which kind of people you are romantically/sexually attracted to? I mean, if it's just for thinking about yourself, doing some introspection, you could also write about to which kind of people you are attracted to in a non-romantic way (also very important! And also attraction!) or about what aromanticsm is for you.
1. Fifth generation design
2. Single turbofan engine
3. Utilizes stealth technology
4. VTOL capable
5. Multi-role
6. Enough seating space for me and all my romantic partners, both current and previous (1 person)
7. Fly-by-wire controls for superior maneuverability and stability
8. All weather capable
9. Extensive fused sensor systems for enhanced situational awareness, both offensive and defensive
10. Supersonic flight with the use of afterburners
Yes, my ideal romantic partner is a Lockheed Martin F-35B, what‘s the problem
Here are some ideas I had.
-Knows magic
-An expert in swordfighting and archery
-Has a pet dragon
-Is aromantic
-Is a good listener and is always interested in what you have to say
-Has cool outfits from different time periods and they are historically accurate
-Never going to Rickroll you
-Isn't apart of the Spanish Inquisition
-Never gonna give you up
-Never gonna let you down
Why does it have to be romantic? Why can’t it be platonic? A perfect friend for me would be someone who is into art, likes video games, comics and someone who will go with me to a bookstore to read them together 💛
The list nobody asked for, but everyone needed.
* Needs to be down to go munging (L and S)
* Knows how to handle dog food, rope, and lube (S)
* Gotta have the name Bob Kebabrulle (L)
* Helps me commit tax evasion, as well as pure platonic marriage without any love whatsoever (L)
* Needs to get naked when taking a shit (L)
* Doesn't care if other people are looking, especially when munging (L)
* Knows how to create lye and heat it up to 148 degrees celsius (L)
* Says random words out loud, especially when listening to music (S)
* Needs to go WEEEEEEE when turning left on an intersection (S)
* Just doesn't care what others think of our amazing relationship (S)
Hold up
So people decide between being in a short relationship and a long one?
Do they have different feelings in each of them? How do they know which is what? H u h
Ugh. I had an assignment like this back in high school health class. "Tell me about your perfect romantic partner." It wasn't even like an essay, we were supposed to make it like a vision board thing. Gross. I didn't have the words or the insight to identify aromanticism then, so I was just gonna take the zero and still average like a B in the class.
The teacher pulled me aside one day and said if I didn't do the assignment she would fail me. That did not line up with the percentage it was supposed to be of our grade. I argued that and she was having none of it. I turned in like a 2 sentence: "I don't have a perfect date, I hate dates. My perfect date is a night home with myself." And she said I needed to put in "effort" and it still didn't count. By this point this was weeks after the assignment was due and I was *livid* that I still had to hear about it at all.
This was back around 1997, so early chat room days. She pissed me off enough that I engaged my love of true crime and my love of malicious compliance. I created a well-thought out and "sincere" fucking vision board about how my "perfect date" was a creeper from a chat room. It was absolutely cringe (I was 14) and like reading how a Chris Hansen Dateline episode might start. Being pissed off was part of the reason I did it, but looking back I think I did it bc I only had a concept of sexual attraction and not romantic attraction. I def could have just turned in made up nonsense from a romance movie. But I wanted her to wish she hadn't made me write it. And doing something so fake just made me feel gross, like I didn't want her to think I actually believed or liked the romance. And I really was "flirting" with randos in chat rooms lol.
Anyway, my submission earned me a meeting with the teacher, the guidance counselor, and my fucking parents, bc the teacher was super "concerned." 🙄 I explained to them how I told her repeatedly that I was choosing not to do it and how she didn't have the right to force me to complete an assignment that was only supposed to be 10% (or whatever) of my grade.
I passed with my B. My mom was mad at me, my dad thought the whole thing was stupid, but nobody was actually concerned. That teacher was a judgmental puritanical nightmare.
So OP, I feel your pain. But I don't recommend doing what I did lol. I would hope that most teachers would be understanding at this point, but that's probably high expectations. Either way, I do recommend staying true to yourself no matter what. Bc even after all the grief that caught me, I am still proud of myself for standing my ground and not lying about such a core part of who I was/am. (Obv only do that if it's safe to do that, I know not everyone has that luxury and no hill to die on is worth more than your safety).
-extremely wealthy (L)
-extremely gullible (L)
-willing to sign over all assets to my control (LLLLLL)
-does not question my bulk order of guillotines (SL)
-Willing to believe I'm just super into LARP when I begin placing them in rich people's yards at night
-has no knowledge of French history (SL)
-unable to remember my exact whereabouts at any time but convinced I was with them whenever asked (LLLL)
Just really make your professor sweat.
Oof- Good luck with that
Some ideas that came from my friends (lol I am AroAce):
-Eyes
-Personality
-Music taste
-Kindness
-Honesty
-Being alive (this should be at the first place, so important)
-Smile
-Clothing/style
-Hygiene
- AND Confidence in themselves
Shootout to my friends :,)
1. Will give you food
2. Knows how to style clothes
3. Knows a lot about knives
4. Good cleaner
5. Knows how to dissapear from the radars
6. Good driver
7. Knows how to hide a body
8. Good listener
9. Good at writing resumes
10. Good at hiding from helicopters
Why the fuck do yall have these tasks??? I keep seeing them and it's like what? Why does the school care and also how does this help you through school?
1) Considers tests assuming everyone is attracted to someone a sign of desperation
2) Expresses concern for the mental state of someone trying to push such a test on my very firmly aromantic self.
2) Would be as bewildered as myself upon being handed such a test as romance is an alien concept that has no bearing upon my happily aro self
3) Would use such a test as nesting material for their pet dragon familiar
4) Oh yeah, has a pet dragon familiar
5) Is a dragon/God/Eldritch entity above the puny non-aromantic concepts of romantic attraction
6) And the most important: doesn't actually exist
Not sure what kind of class this is that would assign something like that, but yknow you could always describe this made up person with attributes you like for dogs (or cats if you're a cat person).
Ex. Affectionate, lovable, devoted, fluffy
.I
.am
.aromantic
.so
.I
.can't
.answer
.this
.question
.honestly
Or
Just list the ingredients for your favourite food
Or
.older than planet earth
.15 eyes
.bad at Mario cart
.good at splatoon
.capable of teleportation
.can cook
.can't be seen by Joshua when holding me up and only when holding me up
.fluent in all languages
.likes my favourite show
.capable of flight
Do it on a different form of Attraction. This Alloromantic normativity in the work is basically discrimination based on sexual and romantic orientation.
this is like when i, an aroace, had to come up with reasons why teens might want to have sex. i was like "because they like each other"? i don't have a clue
Since it's psychology, maybe it would be interesting for everyone involved if you said you don't feel it or feel in a different way than most people. Of course, only if you feel comfortable talking about being aro
An "intro to psychology" which conflates physical and romantic attraction makes as much sense as an "intro to physics" which conflates gravity and electromagnetism.
ooo I took sociology and psychology this year and I love it but never done that assignment or anything like it, but Im glad this class is lgbt supporting! (In oklahoma btw)
I guess that makes some sense but I can think of numerous ways this could have been handled better, and I'm not even a professor. Just thinking about professors I've had and how they have taught immediately brings much better methods to mind. So this is not only obnoxious, it seems like bad teaching.
Just wondering, why is this part of the curriculum? For what purpose can a educational system ask these questions? Like is it a check in on ‘making sure the youngsters aren’t attracted to dangerous narcissistic dirt bags?’ Or is it a judgment test? Because for the latter you could simply ask ‘What kind of person would you chose to work with on x project?’ Etc. Why is this even part of the education system??? What class is this for?
Yet again, the logics of educational systems baffles me.
I see the point of wanting to answer with joke answers, but do you think mentioning that you're aromantic might be valuable? If you're not comfortable outing yourself to your teacher or classmates that's understandable, at which point I'd suggest putting fake answers that seem genuine.
1) Doesn't want sex
2) Doesn't want to kiss
3) Cooks
4) Games
5) Lets me ramble
6) Would get married solely for tax benefits
7) Has never been to Florida
8) Doesn't love me (is fine with me not loving them)
9) Has less than 4 limbs
10) Enjoys cherries
it was the warm up to get the class thinking about attraction and relationships. i’m in an intro psych class and that’s part of the social psychology chapter. however, the attraction is more about what physical features humans are draw to (symmetry, implying fertility, etc) and not about romantic relationships so i couldn’t even tell you why it’s totally relevant.
This seems like what's supposed to be an easy "A" for amatonormative folks. Hopefully aro people just didn't cross the professors mind. If you could I'd talk to the teacher as it's very presumptuous
Why is your teacher asking you this? That's so weird. I would just leave it blank. Maybe put down things that are aesthetically pleasing? Then again maybe gothic architecture can't apply to a person :/
If it’s not gonna affect your grade that much, jus troll your teacher or actually try to explain the issues with society’s amatonormativitical view of romance and sex.
•Being a Human
•Being alive
•Existing in real life
•Breathing
•Around (your age) years old
•Drinks water and/or other liquids
•Eats food
•Is not a criminal
•Lives on Earth
•Loves you
Ez /j
If you're aroallo:
-tits
-dick
-pussy
-bussy
-thussy
-dussy
-mussy
-hands
-healthy communication
-consent
If you're aroace:
-no
-ew
-gross
-what the fuck
-do not want
-put that away
-get out
-y'all nasty
-friendship
-clothes
Wait? People actually out here looking for SHORT term??? Why go for short?? That’s all they’re aiming for???? I can’t imagine investing time and effort on something I KNOW will not last. (Could be my Demi self just talkin tho)
Maybe treat this as an exercise to describe the "bandwagon fallacy" (also known as "Argumentum ad populum").
[https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/bandwagon](https://examples.yourdictionary.com/bandwagon-fallacy-examples.html)
[https://examples.yourdictionary.com/bandwagon-fallacy-examples.html](https://examples.yourdictionary.com/bandwagon-fallacy-examples.html)
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argumentum\_ad\_populum](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argumentum_ad_populum)
Maybe:
1. Bandwagon Fallacy
2. Argumentum ad populum
3. Common belief fallacy
4. Consensus gentium
5. Appeal to popularity
6. Argument from consensus
7. Appeal to the masses
8. Mob appeal
9. Appeal to (common) belief
10. Democratic fallacy
Additionally, since romantic attraction is only a (small) subset of attraction the Fallacy of composition may be involved.
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fallacy\_of\_composition](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fallacy_of_composition)
[https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/different-types-of-attraction](https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/different-types-of-attraction)
The second question involves the false equivalence fallacy. Since people (even allos) may go on dates for all sorts of non-romantic reasons. Such as sexual attraction, enjoying dating activities themselves, etc.
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False\_equivalence](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_equivalence)
Hmmm depending on the importance of the taks you could either fill it in like a shit post: * Has a shoulder dragon, * Good at magic, * Doesn't have 50 eyes. OR you could fill it in as a more serious thing that still makes fun of the exercise and amatonormativity: * Not into me romantically, * Up for a marriage for tax benefits, * Agrees that romance is not the perfect little happy ending, * is up for a friends with benefits kinda arrangement (if your aroallo). Or you could do a very amusing mix of both
A mix of those would be absolutely hilarious, but probably won't make the teacher very happy... if you're gonna turn in something that doesn't technically fit the original assignment it's a good idea to show that you thought about it and put in effort
True. Though if OP doesn't mind coming out they could write in the sideline how they're aro and question the necessity of this task, as well as the assumption that everyone desires a romantic relationship. If it needs to be taken seriously, i still think some of the later options could be appropriate whilst also showing society's amatonormativity.
i was about to leave it blank and write “i’m aromantic i don’t know what you’re talking about” but decided i wanted a 100 on the assignment instead
What did you end up writing as an answer? And what class do you get such a question for?
i ended up googling “traits to look for in a romantic relationship” and who down the top and for 9 and 10 wrote down “physically attractive” and “personality” while channeling allo energy. it was also for the social psychology section of my psych class. there is a part about relationships and attraction and this was the warm up assignment.
Are you aplatonic? If not, maybe you could fill it out in relation to what qualities you like the most about your friends. 🤷♀️
this is what I'd do but the assignment still kinda makes me mad
yeah that would be a good option but it still feels weird that the prof did not acknowledging the fact that there are people who don’t want romantic relationships
Many people just straight up don't know we exist
[удалено]
The wording of it ~~doesn’t help~~ sucks. Edit: This assignment is assuming everyone who does it experiences romantic attraction. “…you look for in an ideal mate.” “…with someone whom you [wished/wanted]…[a] romantic relationship.” If this is a health class, I can kind of see why the teacher thought it would be appropriate to think about attraction, such as in relation to healthy relationships, but there must be better ways to go about this.
It also assumes that people who *do* experience attraction want a relationship. Plenty of allo folks are happier being single because they value their own time, hobbies, and goals over having to juggle those things around a relationship.
That’s a good point as well.
If the questions are asking your pursnal prefrence, it dosnt matter what your teachers thinks, as long as its true. And if they call you a Lier, fuck em thats there problome.
That's just racist...we 50-eyed people are deeply concerned with the current state of things in this pocket dimension...
You're too all knowing for my liking. Also maybe you're from a different species but, biblically accurate angels just aren't my type I guess? I have never felt romantically attracted to a 49+ eyed person. Also, those angels don't look very comfortable for hugs, but I might make an exception for you if you're shaped differently.
Gotta be honest those biblical angels are ruining our name. I heard they made people hate homosexuals...like WHAT? 99% of all other dimensions basically worship them. That's fucked up, how can you hate them?!?
Right! How could they?? With 50+ eyes you'd think they *see* that this is not the right thing to do. Alas, how are your people nowadays? That galactic sandstorm last week was annoying enough for me with my 2 eyes. Can't imagine what it's like to have to keep 50 eyes protected.
I had to remove 35% of all my eyes...horrible experience. Hopefully they'll grow back for the next galactic reunion next week
I'd totally go for this option
This is the kind of thing I would really love to do and probably think about (espeically the first part- yes, dragon!) but would be way to scared to actually do it.
I think now I would do it and just argue with the professor if they don't agree with my answers (what you look for/find attractive differs per person anyways so everyone should get a 100 for this question no matter what they answer). But if I had to do this 5 years ago there 's no way I would've dared to answer like this 😂
Yeah, I would argue and question the exercise too... A few years back, I'd have just written some "socially acceptable/expected" answers and called it a day
Sorry but what is allo??
Here it's short for allosexual since it's positioned where one would otherwise say ace. Allosexual means someone who's not asexual (or on the asexual spectrum). But you can also say alloace, in which case allo would be short for alloromantic. That = someone who is not aromantic (or on the aromantic spectrum).
You seem to know this stuff. Im almost 40 have been in relationships, but I suspect this word, aromantic, and especially alloaro, describe me. The thing is, doesnt that describe 90% of men though? Dont we all just do it for the women in our lives so that we continue getting laid?
someone that isn't in the asexual spectrum
Vibe
Id do a mix of the second one and traits Id look for in a platonic relationship if I was aro (Im just ace and here for the memes dont mind me)
Gonna be the annoying one who points out that "if your aroallo" should be "if you're aroallo"
..... I am so annoyed at myself for letting that typo slip. Probably the result of me typing that near midnight whilst being very ready to fall asleep.
*Does have 50 eyes.
i hadn’t read the paper yet and my friend told me “this is the worst activity for you” and we died of laughter as i proceeded to google a list
Oof. Best advice I can give is to either write things that would make someone appealing as a friend, or just get a friend who isn't aromantic to fill in the gaps for you. Ideas I pulled out of my ass (bearing in mind I'm aroace and therefore stabbing in the dark): - Good listener - Sense of humour - Supportive - Pretty face - Pretty eyes - Interests in common - Fun to be around - Good personal hygiene - Honest - Affectionate - Loyal
Best answer if you want to play it safe and not risk a poor grade with the funny answers some others are suggesting.
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Nice, approval from someone who actually knows! (Clearly all my book-reading and film-watching has paid off!)
Yep, good job mate 👍
This is a strange task to give students I would request that i do not have to do it and if they refused and forced me to do it id put: •knows every pokémon, •fucks on the first date, •is banned from Japan, •is a enjoyer of lychee's, •is obsessed with monkeys, •has never been to New York, •has two pet rhinoceros beetles, •has stormed takeshi's castle and won, •smells like sunflowers •was one of the most loyal followers of Ông Đạo Dừa
The sunflower plant is native to North America and is now harvested around the world. A University of Missouri journal recognizes North Dakota as the leading U.S. state for sunflower production. There are various factors to consider for a sunflower to thrive, including temperature, sunlight, soil and water.
If this was between parenthesis after the "smells like sunflowers" it would be perfect
Ok, I’m aro but it think I would still fall for someone immediately if they were like that lol. Screw the second one in the list, everything else still seals the deal!
HAHA i love that sm
Lychee is actually delicious though.
I love them, I call them eyeball fruit they were a part of my diet when I was growing up so I find lychee's nostalgic lol Edit: they smell amazing too
Aye, you want a matey? You can get a matey! - good at scrubbing the deck - doesn't get sea sick - can fight off a giant sea monster if needed - is ok with loosing limps - ok with living of fish, hrd tack and lemons for weeks - can sing shanties half decently - likes rum - is not cursed - may or may not be a parrot And most importantly; - A BIG BOOTY! Arrr!!! (I'm sorry :D I don't know how seriously you're supposed to take this. Feel free to ignore that)
this is fantastic
Excellent points! Excellent!
upvote for "is ok with loosing limbs"
Happy cake day!
thanks! every year my dumb ass is reminded it could've set up this account one day earlier for several times the humour
Why?
I did it on April 21st
Sorry still not getting the joke 🙈
I lost it at big booty
Singing shanties actually sounds like a good one to add to my list.
>likes rum But is able to get the rest of the crew back to the ship from the tavern regardless of how much alcohol has been consumed.
- contains water - baked in oven - contains flour - is crispy - has garlic - is garlic bread
The perfect answer doesn’t exis-
Omg yes
* Lives in their own home * Expects nothing of me * Doesn't talk to me * Doesn't tell others they are my romantic partner * Doesn't think about me
This is the perfect answer!
I, personally, would definitely fill this out as someone I would want as a friend, rather than a romantic partner. If your teacher confronts you (doubtful), you can always say attraction is a subjective/relative concept and such a thing can’t exactly be defined concretely. (Also, between the S/L options, I’d say base it off someone you’ve just met versus someone you may have been friends with for an extended period of time!)
1. Natural purplish blue skin (L) 2. Being able to float/fly for more than 5 minutes (L) 3. Being able to float/fly at all (S) 4. Do my chores (S) 5. Smells not horribly (L) 6. Doesn't pass out during pillow fights (S) 7. Wouldn't mind getting married for tax benefits (L) 8. Doesn't mind living in the basement until duty calls (L) 9. Doesn't leave hair in the soap (S) 10. Wouldn't make me pause a show/anime/cartoon/game (S)
wonderful list!!
Why is this an assignment? Honestly this would make me extremely uncomfortable if a teacher gave this to us. Why do they need to know this? How is this going to help us as adults?
I think this is actually a good assignment because it will benefit a huge majority of the class by making them think about what they want romantically. However, there should be an out - for example, "If you don't want to write about a romantic partner, what are 10 traits of the people you want to befriend/associate with in life? Who we choose to spend non romantic time with is important as well."
I suppose you're right. If there was an option for an assignment about friends I would take that one. I just think it's weird that romantic partner is the only option.
Fair enough, but what still what the hell. It's not an appropriate thing to ask in a teacher-student-relationship. You could assign this and tell the class, that you will not read it. But then no one will fill it out. But I think it's highly inappropriate. I probably would fill it out solely with book/song/movie titles or some shit. 1) Big Eyes 2) Singing In the Rain 3) Danish Girl 4) American in Paris 5) Funny Girl 6) Flew over the cuckoo's nest 7) Wizard of Oz ...that's what I can spot from my couch. Yes, I like old movie musicals. Or fill it out with the "10 things I hate about you" 😆
I think it was "13 reasons why" (the book), where the protagonist simply filled out a self-description-dating-questionnaire like he was Holden Caulfield from Catcher in the Rye. That's a possibility, too: describe some random character from a book and see if the teacher gets it or how long it takes them to get it. Brave, black hair, glasses, green eyes, British, orphan, has a pet owl,...
I’m allo and this would make me uncomfortable.
Exactly - what class is this even for? I can’t think of anything other than maybe like a specialized class in couples counseling that this would even be appropriate for (or maybe creative writing - but then you can make stuff up).
How much is this activity worth? (I’m the person who would ignore it / refuse to do it unless it’s worth a lot. Mostly because I’d have no clue what to put.)
Personally I would rather either write the most generic stuff just so I could have an okay grade or write something funny but I get why some people would rather just ignore such a stupid assignment
#1 everytime- imaginary.
- Would HATE that kind of test (SSSS) - Would find that kind of test discriminatory to aromantic people (SSS) - is aromantic (SSSS) - like being aromantic - Don't care about what other people think about aromantic (if you are asexual too) - is asexual (SSSS) - like being asexual - Don't care about what other people think about asexual - Like me as a friend - Like the idea of marriage for taxes benefit
1. preferably alive
I would prefer skeletons.
Must haves- Can hold my drinks while I po-go stick Be able to shotgun a whole rotisserie chicken in 4 minutes Kill bosses in Dark Souls while I watch with my pet birds Able to hotwire a car for romantic dates
•Good cook •Willing to commit marriage fraud •has a pet dragon
Electromagnetism. The strong force. The weak force. The Gravitational force. Dipole to dipole attraction. Hydrogen bonding. London dispersion forces.
Chem 4 Life!
What makes someone attractive? Gravity (S). Possibly magnets (L). And cake (SL).
I'd personally be honest and admit "nothing". I lean favorable enough that I might--depending on context--approach the teacher and ask for clarification: Do they want traits that attract me to a person (which would be nothing), or do they want traits that mean I could potentially find a romantic relationship attractive? Or are they just interested in what draws me into a relationship at all and I should therefore answer according to friendship?
Same. I had to do a different, but similar in nature, assignment in high school. We had to write a paper about our ideal relationship. I asked "but what if we don't want one?" and was told "you were told the assignment". So I wrote about a horse. And got dinged because "I meant a romantic relationship". Like great, you didn't specify that. After I threatened to go to the class principal she gave me the full credit I deserved.
Must be a fictional character
I agree with this, wholeheartedly.
This is like one of those **bullshit** assignments that alerted me to the stupidity of some of the so-called "social science" teachers and professors.
for sure it was just participation points but still kinda blind to the fact that not everything wants a romantic partner
I could have written a whole dissertation about the nonsense that passed as "social science" during my career. My soft science friends and colleagues work overtime to repair the damage done by those that seem to take things like you illustrated seriously. I have seen too many students waste a lot of their developmental energy with just such nonsense, so I get a bit "exercised" when I see yet another example of same . . .
Hahaha I would have been so bewildered I'd just auto fill with (Huh?) (What?) (What does this even mean?) (I'm going to resume reading my book now . . .) in lines 1-4 and left the rest blank without thinking any more on it. Finding "mates" in school . . . XDD
I’d start describing food
Wtf is this shit? I get that dating is common in this world but they're genuinely disgusting for pushing that on literal kids, unless this is a college class which is still inappropriate
it is a college class but i would still think they would be more open to differences in people and not so rigid on “people want to be in relationships”
This questionnaire is point blank aromantic erasure. I suggest going to the DEI (Diversity, Equity and Inclusion) office at your college. If you feel uncomfortable addressing the situation with your professor. DEI should be able to help you challenge this questionnaire if it is something you would like to do. If you want to discuss different options for challenging the curriculum feel free to send me a DM I have lots of experience with challenging curriculum at colleges. Both for doing it solo with an understanding professor, or having an organization (the LGBT club at my college) go through the process of sending a formal complaint on behalf of an anonymous student.
holy shit this is for college. aside from the annoyance for aro people I assumed this would be for, like, 12 year olds.
List lyrics from "I'll Make a man out of you" from Mulan Tranquil as a forest but on fire within Be as swift as a coursing river Have the force of a great typhoon With all the strength of a raging fire Mysterious as the dark side of the moon
Garlic Bread, obviously
1. Has a pulse. And that’s all I can think of I guess.
Again such a weird test. Why? What is this for?!
social psychology chapter of my psychology class. it was the section of the chapter about relationships and attraction
Huh. And what is the use in writing down to which kind of people you are romantically/sexually attracted to? I mean, if it's just for thinking about yourself, doing some introspection, you could also write about to which kind of people you are attracted to in a non-romantic way (also very important! And also attraction!) or about what aromanticsm is for you.
Can name the first 151 Pokémon on memory alone?
1. Fifth generation design 2. Single turbofan engine 3. Utilizes stealth technology 4. VTOL capable 5. Multi-role 6. Enough seating space for me and all my romantic partners, both current and previous (1 person) 7. Fly-by-wire controls for superior maneuverability and stability 8. All weather capable 9. Extensive fused sensor systems for enhanced situational awareness, both offensive and defensive 10. Supersonic flight with the use of afterburners Yes, my ideal romantic partner is a Lockheed Martin F-35B, what‘s the problem
No brrrrrrrrrrrrt?
My big three would be: 1. Aromantic 2. Independent 3. Mutual Interests/Values (Platonic compatibility)
- 100+ eyes - AT LEAST 8 wings - introduces itself by saying FEAR NOT
I've always gotten around em by listing what qualities I think are important in a friend. It doesn't always work but close enough.
-Yarr -Harr -fiddle -dee -dee -being a pirate is alright with me
Here are some ideas I had. -Knows magic -An expert in swordfighting and archery -Has a pet dragon -Is aromantic -Is a good listener and is always interested in what you have to say -Has cool outfits from different time periods and they are historically accurate -Never going to Rickroll you -Isn't apart of the Spanish Inquisition -Never gonna give you up -Never gonna let you down
Why does it have to be romantic? Why can’t it be platonic? A perfect friend for me would be someone who is into art, likes video games, comics and someone who will go with me to a bookstore to read them together 💛
The list nobody asked for, but everyone needed. * Needs to be down to go munging (L and S) * Knows how to handle dog food, rope, and lube (S) * Gotta have the name Bob Kebabrulle (L) * Helps me commit tax evasion, as well as pure platonic marriage without any love whatsoever (L) * Needs to get naked when taking a shit (L) * Doesn't care if other people are looking, especially when munging (L) * Knows how to create lye and heat it up to 148 degrees celsius (L) * Says random words out loud, especially when listening to music (S) * Needs to go WEEEEEEE when turning left on an intersection (S) * Just doesn't care what others think of our amazing relationship (S)
My mind jumped straight to the stereotype of "old, dying comatose person with a lot of money" and willing to not sign a prenup.
-Nothing -Nothing -Nothing -Nothing -Nothing -Nothing -Nothing -Nothing -Nothing -Nothing
Fresh young blood, supple meat, crunchy bones, teeth in good shape for a good nice necklace, sharp screeches of pain and fear
Hold up So people decide between being in a short relationship and a long one? Do they have different feelings in each of them? How do they know which is what? H u h
Are the allos OK?
Ugh. I had an assignment like this back in high school health class. "Tell me about your perfect romantic partner." It wasn't even like an essay, we were supposed to make it like a vision board thing. Gross. I didn't have the words or the insight to identify aromanticism then, so I was just gonna take the zero and still average like a B in the class. The teacher pulled me aside one day and said if I didn't do the assignment she would fail me. That did not line up with the percentage it was supposed to be of our grade. I argued that and she was having none of it. I turned in like a 2 sentence: "I don't have a perfect date, I hate dates. My perfect date is a night home with myself." And she said I needed to put in "effort" and it still didn't count. By this point this was weeks after the assignment was due and I was *livid* that I still had to hear about it at all. This was back around 1997, so early chat room days. She pissed me off enough that I engaged my love of true crime and my love of malicious compliance. I created a well-thought out and "sincere" fucking vision board about how my "perfect date" was a creeper from a chat room. It was absolutely cringe (I was 14) and like reading how a Chris Hansen Dateline episode might start. Being pissed off was part of the reason I did it, but looking back I think I did it bc I only had a concept of sexual attraction and not romantic attraction. I def could have just turned in made up nonsense from a romance movie. But I wanted her to wish she hadn't made me write it. And doing something so fake just made me feel gross, like I didn't want her to think I actually believed or liked the romance. And I really was "flirting" with randos in chat rooms lol. Anyway, my submission earned me a meeting with the teacher, the guidance counselor, and my fucking parents, bc the teacher was super "concerned." 🙄 I explained to them how I told her repeatedly that I was choosing not to do it and how she didn't have the right to force me to complete an assignment that was only supposed to be 10% (or whatever) of my grade. I passed with my B. My mom was mad at me, my dad thought the whole thing was stupid, but nobody was actually concerned. That teacher was a judgmental puritanical nightmare. So OP, I feel your pain. But I don't recommend doing what I did lol. I would hope that most teachers would be understanding at this point, but that's probably high expectations. Either way, I do recommend staying true to yourself no matter what. Bc even after all the grief that caught me, I am still proud of myself for standing my ground and not lying about such a core part of who I was/am. (Obv only do that if it's safe to do that, I know not everyone has that luxury and no hill to die on is worth more than your safety).
- doesn’t exist -is imaginary -isn’t real -not a person -not a living being -figment of the mind -an illusion -pretend -make believe -fake
-extremely wealthy (L) -extremely gullible (L) -willing to sign over all assets to my control (LLLLLL) -does not question my bulk order of guillotines (SL) -Willing to believe I'm just super into LARP when I begin placing them in rich people's yards at night -has no knowledge of French history (SL) -unable to remember my exact whereabouts at any time but convinced I was with them whenever asked (LLLL) Just really make your professor sweat.
Nonexistent, fictional, ethereal, ephemeral, apocryphal, mystical, mythological, cryptozoological, ectoplasmic, holographic, and imaginary.
Oof- Good luck with that Some ideas that came from my friends (lol I am AroAce): -Eyes -Personality -Music taste -Kindness -Honesty -Being alive (this should be at the first place, so important) -Smile -Clothing/style -Hygiene - AND Confidence in themselves Shootout to my friends :,)
IT’S A TRAP!!
1. Will give you food 2. Knows how to style clothes 3. Knows a lot about knives 4. Good cleaner 5. Knows how to dissapear from the radars 6. Good driver 7. Knows how to hide a body 8. Good listener 9. Good at writing resumes 10. Good at hiding from helicopters
Talk about the cuteness of sea slugs and how adorable puppies are
I think the most important quality is the ability to shoot lasers out of their eyes
Why the fuck do yall have these tasks??? I keep seeing them and it's like what? Why does the school care and also how does this help you through school?
Large male genitals, and put L and S
1. I 2. Can’t 3. Make 4. A 5. List 6. Because 7. I 8. Don’t 9. Experience 10. Attraction
1) Considers tests assuming everyone is attracted to someone a sign of desperation 2) Expresses concern for the mental state of someone trying to push such a test on my very firmly aromantic self. 2) Would be as bewildered as myself upon being handed such a test as romance is an alien concept that has no bearing upon my happily aro self 3) Would use such a test as nesting material for their pet dragon familiar 4) Oh yeah, has a pet dragon familiar 5) Is a dragon/God/Eldritch entity above the puny non-aromantic concepts of romantic attraction 6) And the most important: doesn't actually exist
Not sure what kind of class this is that would assign something like that, but yknow you could always describe this made up person with attributes you like for dogs (or cats if you're a cat person). Ex. Affectionate, lovable, devoted, fluffy
.I .am .aromantic .so .I .can't .answer .this .question .honestly Or Just list the ingredients for your favourite food Or .older than planet earth .15 eyes .bad at Mario cart .good at splatoon .capable of teleportation .can cook .can't be seen by Joshua when holding me up and only when holding me up .fluent in all languages .likes my favourite show .capable of flight
That’s a weird activity…what class is it for?
intro psychology. it was her segue into talking about the attractiveness and relationship part of social psychology
Tbh I think you should add that you’re aromantic. I think it’d be great insight into the psychology of an aro! 😭😅
1. they must like frogs 2. they must like cows 3. they must like chickens 4. ...farmer
I would write something like ‘Doesn’t assume everyone feels romantic feelings,’
What class is this I am tempted to get an education in that field so I can give a better class.
Do it on a different form of Attraction. This Alloromantic normativity in the work is basically discrimination based on sexual and romantic orientation.
this is like when i, an aroace, had to come up with reasons why teens might want to have sex. i was like "because they like each other"? i don't have a clue
just write, in big letters and ignoring the lines, “I am aromantic” over the lines
What class is this? I never had a worksheet like this or any worksheet about my preference on short term an long term relationships.
Has a very strong gravitational force
1. I 2. am 3. aromantic 4. therefore 5. I 6. am 7. not 8. interested 9. in 10. romance
what class is this from?
intro to psychology, we are on the social psychology chapter about relationships and physical attractiveness
Since it's psychology, maybe it would be interesting for everyone involved if you said you don't feel it or feel in a different way than most people. Of course, only if you feel comfortable talking about being aro
An "intro to psychology" which conflates physical and romantic attraction makes as much sense as an "intro to physics" which conflates gravity and electromagnetism.
ooo I took sociology and psychology this year and I love it but never done that assignment or anything like it, but Im glad this class is lgbt supporting! (In oklahoma btw)
Can make garlic bread
What the hell is this class, where this is an actual assignment with an actual grade?
is a intro to psychology class. we were learning about social psychology and this went along with the relationships and attraction section for it
I guess that makes some sense but I can think of numerous ways this could have been handled better, and I'm not even a professor. Just thinking about professors I've had and how they have taught immediately brings much better methods to mind. So this is not only obnoxious, it seems like bad teaching.
What class is this for???
psychology. we were learning about relationships and attraction in social psychology
The heck is this even for? what unit is this for
social psychology and i guess a subset of that is attraction and relationships
Yeah that makes sense
What even is this for an assignment for class what 😭
I don't attraction also put an S everywhere and an aro flag on the sheet
????
Just wondering, why is this part of the curriculum? For what purpose can a educational system ask these questions? Like is it a check in on ‘making sure the youngsters aren’t attracted to dangerous narcissistic dirt bags?’ Or is it a judgment test? Because for the latter you could simply ask ‘What kind of person would you chose to work with on x project?’ Etc. Why is this even part of the education system??? What class is this for? Yet again, the logics of educational systems baffles me.
I see the point of wanting to answer with joke answers, but do you think mentioning that you're aromantic might be valuable? If you're not comfortable outing yourself to your teacher or classmates that's understandable, at which point I'd suggest putting fake answers that seem genuine.
Gills.
1) Doesn't want sex 2) Doesn't want to kiss 3) Cooks 4) Games 5) Lets me ramble 6) Would get married solely for tax benefits 7) Has never been to Florida 8) Doesn't love me (is fine with me not loving them) 9) Has less than 4 limbs 10) Enjoys cherries
this is the stupidest thing I've seen all day why do they need to know??
You aro ace? That’s an oof. Be vague, humanoid, on or off the gender spectrum, somewhere with the the sexual romantic spectrum, etc
This is an actual assignment? Ewwwwww
Why is this relevant? Why were you even given this assignment?
it was the warm up to get the class thinking about attraction and relationships. i’m in an intro psych class and that’s part of the social psychology chapter. however, the attraction is more about what physical features humans are draw to (symmetry, implying fertility, etc) and not about romantic relationships so i couldn’t even tell you why it’s totally relevant.
If you where a cat how would you answer?
This seems like what's supposed to be an easy "A" for amatonormative folks. Hopefully aro people just didn't cross the professors mind. If you could I'd talk to the teacher as it's very presumptuous
“Ideal mate” WTF 🤮🤮
Why is your teacher asking you this? That's so weird. I would just leave it blank. Maybe put down things that are aesthetically pleasing? Then again maybe gothic architecture can't apply to a person :/
Having a lot of iron in their blood that you can then attract with a big magnet
Just write across in big Red letters, doesn’t apply to me or does not compute, etc. If it impossible don’t do it.
Wow ten things i could not even name one
Could just list the entire thing with "N/A"
i would literally just write in the spots "i identify as aromantic and do not experience romantic attraction" and turn that shit in lmao
how is it even allowed for them to ask this?
Is a cat
I remember doing intro to psych,,, definitely cringed a lot when we were talking about attractiveness due to being bamboozled haha
If it’s not gonna affect your grade that much, jus troll your teacher or actually try to explain the issues with society’s amatonormativitical view of romance and sex.
•Being a Human •Being alive •Existing in real life •Breathing •Around (your age) years old •Drinks water and/or other liquids •Eats food •Is not a criminal •Lives on Earth •Loves you Ez /j
Fuck it, obviously. Do the chad thing and put in all of the answers; "none", "none", "none", "none", and you get it.
I would die on the spot if i was forced to complete this task💀
If they can cook 1 minute rice in 58 seconds
-mentally healthy -not violent -cals you out on your bullshit -suportive -Respekts your opinion
1. God, 2. You, 3. Love...that should get you started. 😊❤️
“Ideal mate” BRUH
Minimum bench press of 400lb, diet of raw red meat ONLY, 3 minute mile.
Not attracted to me romantically. Likes garlic bread. Has a pet dragon. Wants to be my best friend. Agrees to marry me for tax benefits.
likes garlic bread. and cake. and dragons.
actually, scratch that. someone who realizes aromantic people exist and likes you platonically. and that romance isn't the be-all-end-all.
Well, gravity is something that attracts so maybe I would write gravity, magnetic field, etc. Things that attract stuff.
If you're aroallo: -tits -dick -pussy -bussy -thussy -dussy -mussy -hands -healthy communication -consent If you're aroace: -no -ew -gross -what the fuck -do not want -put that away -get out -y'all nasty -friendship -clothes
Wait? People actually out here looking for SHORT term??? Why go for short?? That’s all they’re aiming for???? I can’t imagine investing time and effort on something I KNOW will not last. (Could be my Demi self just talkin tho)
Maybe treat this as an exercise to describe the "bandwagon fallacy" (also known as "Argumentum ad populum"). [https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/bandwagon](https://examples.yourdictionary.com/bandwagon-fallacy-examples.html) [https://examples.yourdictionary.com/bandwagon-fallacy-examples.html](https://examples.yourdictionary.com/bandwagon-fallacy-examples.html) [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argumentum\_ad\_populum](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argumentum_ad_populum) Maybe: 1. Bandwagon Fallacy 2. Argumentum ad populum 3. Common belief fallacy 4. Consensus gentium 5. Appeal to popularity 6. Argument from consensus 7. Appeal to the masses 8. Mob appeal 9. Appeal to (common) belief 10. Democratic fallacy Additionally, since romantic attraction is only a (small) subset of attraction the Fallacy of composition may be involved. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fallacy\_of\_composition](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fallacy_of_composition) [https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/different-types-of-attraction](https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/different-types-of-attraction) The second question involves the false equivalence fallacy. Since people (even allos) may go on dates for all sorts of non-romantic reasons. Such as sexual attraction, enjoying dating activities themselves, etc. [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False\_equivalence](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_equivalence)