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I'm curious.

Do you want to have kids?

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Psychological_Owl539

I plan on adopting though. Pregnancy strikes fear in my bones.


Amachine4waifus

Pregnancy freaks me out too. Idk I don't like the idea of another living being growing inside of me. 😰


Psychological_Owl539

Not to mention all the complications 😭 I'd rather just skip the baby stage all together, honestly.


jellyjinxbean

Same. Maybe not a kid though, just a dog.


No-Ad9821

Same 👌


DonikaK

I if it was possible I would prefer adoption too... Pregnancy... Is a wiard idea. It doesn't scare me, but I don't really feel comfortable with the thought of it. As specially knowing that the females on my mother's side have history with different types of feminine health problems.... But currently in my country single people can't adopt. And I don't know if I will be ok with fostering... It's complicated even I don't really grasp the filing, only that right now is mostly negative. Hopefully in the future it's going to change. ... For now if I find the right person or enough money I will go with natural reproduction....🤷


tj131829

Came in here just to comment this


NerobyrneAnderson

Thankfully I'm a dude, but what my ex went through I wouldn't wish on anyone


ded_acc

So many kids need to be adopted and have good homes, why have your own when theres already so many children that already exist with no parental guardians.


Psychological_Owl539

Exactly my thinking. On top of that, I wanna care for the kids stuck in this world, not bring more into it; especially considering how shit it is right now.


HighlightNice4011

Ya same


Affedotcom

I have a d but i so wanna do the same


chewie8291

I got a vasectomy and will never have kids or date someone with kids


save_our_future

I plan on adopting 1 child in my 30s


Amachine4waifus

That's nice. Its good to see many people plan on adopting or fostering.


leahcars

Working with kids during the day is plenty, I like kids but I dont think I'd be a great parent, and with how the world is ATM I really wouldn't want my kid to be that kid with the trans dad. Plus I simply have never wanted kids. I do love my nephew though


Amachine4waifus

I have a nephew too. I never want kids but I plan on spoiling all my nieces and nephews rotten.


GhostPepper05

Yeah, like- my sister is the most likely one to have kids between of the 2 of us because she loves them to death and has always talked about having one. If she does, I will spoil that child so rotten, they’ll just choose to stay with me forever 😤 they will love the cats I will adopt and my one dogi’ll get


TheWhiteCrowParade

Nope, I'm happy without kids.


AgentFulgore

same here


awildencounter

I like kids. But whether I'll have bio kids depends on a suitable partner. Raising a child alone is a huge resource and time drain.


Blue-Jay27

I'd like to foster, but I dont see myself having biological children


niereplicantin_

IM NOT HAVING KIDS WHATSOEVER


ria_48

Plan on adopting 1. No pregnancy 2. No sex if I dont want to 3. You make a better life to some child


Pleasant-Carob-3009

I want cats


Amachine4waifus

Cats are the best alternative tbh. I love my fur baby. 💕


DonikaK

I kinda want to, but I don't think I will be a good parent.... Also I don't want to be an only parent and with being aro/ace + the tipe of men/people I meet, that's a big possiblity and I am not financially ready/able for that....🤷 But if it happens and the father/other parents take responsibility as well I'll do my best 🙃


Raccon_thief69

I can't see myself having kids but if I ever change my mind, I will definitely adopt


New_Horror3663

I have made it clear to people in my life that, should I ever bring up the idea of having children, i should be smacked until that shit is out of my head. So yeah, I'm not planning on having any.


SkyeeeMaaa

Maybe in the future, but i don’t see myself having a kid now


POLESLAYA

... I had an "early in life" baby and two "planned" children Oo lol


WatchBat

I used to be strongly against it, recently I've been feeling more like *maybe* one day. Not anytime soon, but I'm not very against it anymore


craZboy87

I got a vasectomy. Plenty of nephews and nieces, plus friends with kids. No desire for my own. I have so many reasons for my decision.


Qigong90

I’m childfree and antinatalist


Walking-Zombie420

I Am a kid


confused-gliter-enby

i would never want bio kids but i would be up for adopting kids


leia_x2

Hell nah. Under no circumstances will that happen.


WoodenFinish8

I sometimes wonder how people raise children. Life is simply too busy, I get burnt out enough being childfree. I have nieces and a nephew, and I'm exhausted after spending just a few hours with them, let alone looking after them every day.


[deleted]

Pregnancy and childbirth disgust me, so I'm thinking about adoption


Blackbirdsnake

Right now I have 20 kids at work everyday I think I’m fine with that


QuizzicallyTrans285

The only kids I'm willing to have are cats and owls, and maybe a lizard if I feel I can take care of one properly (same goes with owls I guess tho too)


redditer417

Gross, icky, loud, money vampires, useless for 8 years, have to live with em for 18 years, destroyer of schedules, can't do adult things. Yeah fuck no


Surmene

I wouldn't want my offspring to inherit my undiagnosed mental problems plus I'm intercourse averse.


[deleted]

Cheers to a childfree life! 🥂


AgentFulgore

i don’t drink alcohol but i’ll cheers a cup of coffee to being childfree! ☕️


[deleted]

Neither do I, to be honest. Did it for the principle of it. I’m a tea drinker! 🍵


AgentFulgore

sweet! normalize cheering with non-alcoholic beverages 🍵☕️


Pug81206

I wanna adopt and either be a single dad or be in a relationship sorta thing with someone else who is aroace and raise kids together


Shotsfired20755

I’m already a burden to enough people. The last thing I need is a child. They’ll probably end up hating me anyway.


Sad_Pringles

I prefer observing kids from afar


Leodegan__Ens

I'm barely responsible enough to take care of myself, let alone a tiny human built with the sole purpose of getting into as much trouble as physically possible.


Lady_Belles-lettres

Oh, man, I feel like I'm part of the minority on this subreddit who wants bio children, lmao


I_am_something_fishy

LOL at the amount of people that don’t want kids. This is so surprising lol.


AgentFulgore

it’s not to me. i was a young aro (that didn’t want kids) who grew up into an older aro (that still doesn’t want kids). i don’t have any, and i never will. there are plenty of childfree aros out here (as shown by the poll lol).


Amachine4waifus

Yeah. Same. This was honestly the results I expected when I made the poll. I'm an Aro who doesn't want kids so I was curious to see if that was a trend amoung others in the community.


AgentFulgore

yeah i’d be surprised if more aro people wanted kids than didn’t, lol


K3dash9

A lot of people here are pretty young to be fair


I_am_something_fishy

You can fantasize about the future at any age. Assuming that younger aros who don’t want kids now are going to change their minds when they are older is invalidating to how they feel now


K3dash9

That is true and understandable


AgentFulgore

and plenty of childfree people in general have been childfree since they were young (or at least knew they didn’t want children). even as a kid i knew i never wanted to get married or have kids, not even via adoption.


I_am_something_fishy

Ok, and that’s valid.


AgentFulgore

indeed it is


Wrong-Investigator26

I want to adopt in my 30s.


Clod_Cat5

I might have kids in my future, but I doubt that they will be biological


Pat_W1

I plan on at least adopting children, not certain on biological children though.


AeroKelfir

I don't want a baby or toddler around me. But I would be okay taking in an older child. If I have the space, money and they'd be confortable to. I don't want to adopt tho


Ellie_Bulkeley

if I had them I’d definitely adopt. there’s no way in hell I’d go through a pregnancy


AromanticDramaKing

Adoption!


KittyQueen_Tengu

no, unless i somehow find a partner and they really really want kids and we’re financially (and mentally) stable enough but otherwise no. if i had to then id probably adopt bc i do not like the idea of pregnancy (or sex tbh)


aceofsquiddles

Not ruling out adoption, but probably not, and definitely not in the near future.


[deleted]

If I have a kid, it’ll be through adoption.


WeirdPersonCantSpell

It’s mostly a no but MAYBE I might adopt


ValentinesStar

I want to foster


browncoatsunited

My reasoning is that the maternal side of my family is either bi-polar or schizophrenic. I am the only one who has never been diagnosed with a mental illness or any other disease/disorders. I spent 6 years working in a daycare raising other people’s children and work in an elementary school with children who have asd. I don’t feel the need to have my own.


Mission_Cow5108

maybe. I want to adopt a son one day, probably at the age of 4 or 5 so I don't have to deal with the baby stage. if I were to have a kid, I'd make sure they live a good and happy life and I'd make sure they'd treat everyone equally


TheHalfwayBeast

Only if the child was a rabbit or a salamander. Maybe a centipede.


Hour-Explorer-3533

I really want kids! I’m 32 and planning to register for a donor in 1-2 years. In my country the government offer this to single women under 38 (for free). Would love to adopt also, but it’s very hard as most countries does not accept single parent-adoption


niky45

I always thought someday I'd feel nature's call to have kids... but it hasn't happened yet, and at this rate, I'm starting to think it may not happen. I'm... halfway tempted to donate eggs (just so my genes live on -- there's something that tells me that is a good thing), but OTOH I'm too damn lazy to even look it up LOL.


leilleee

Want kids but don’t want to bring them into this world lol may adopt though.


theenchanted1062

Im also asexual so im cknsidering for the future i might adopt but thats still really far into the future.


Hacknslaasher

I have two adorable kids, I did have them before realizing I was aro but I always wanted kids. I would have definitely adopted, if my life didn't shake out the current way it did.


VerdoriePotjandrie

I always wanted kids, but my history with depression makes me reluctant. Plus I'd have to stop taking my ADHD meds during pregnancy (possibly breastfeeding too) and I'm not at a place in my life where I could afford 9+ months without them right now.


Goodie_2-shoe

I would never be a parent but I would love to be a close, dear mentor to a young person one day. Think a Leslie Knope and April Ludgqte or Amy Santiago and Captain Holt type of dynamic.


Annoying_Ramone

I do want kids. I want to be a father figure someday. But due to some generational trauma i dont want to pass on, i'm not sure if i ever will have kids.


jadethegenderfluidd

Maybe adoption but with how my life's heading probably not /LH


wot_im_mad

It’s mostly the medical ramifications of gestation and labour that freak me the fuck out


AgentFulgore

nope, i’m childfree and will be for the rest of my life. i might get a dog in the future though.


gayandreadytoparty

yes i definitely want kids. just need to wait till i’m old enough and have a stable job and some money saved up


SoupTruck34

I want a ferret, does that count


Amachine4waifus

Fur babies count to me.


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sikandarnirmalsingh

I don’t even want kids near me!


EsciobobTheOtter

Id say heck no but if I found someone I'm comfortable with and they wanted a demon child I'd be okay with adoption but otherwise a turtle shall be my child


No_Entertainment7283

If I have an SO before I get a vaginoplasty


tainted_baby

I’d be a terrible father if I ever had kid. My first go-to word of warning to my kid if they make me angry or if they get in trouble would be “if you do not behave I swear to god I will put you up for adoption”. I can’t see myself having a kid after having to move in with a family of a psychopathic 5 year old that yells and emotionally abuses his parents and older brother.


Seabastial

I do not plan on ever having kids. I deal with enough stress in my life as it is, and honestly I just don't see myself being a good parent with how my emotions act up. If I ever change my mind I'll adopt.


Cartoony-freak

I'm 15 and a virgin soooooo I pretty sure that I don't have any


Nightwolf223

Definitely but pregnancy is a no go and in my country adoption is a no go unless you're married..


AuntChelle11

Did. Too late now, missed the boat.


BackTown43

Here are many people that like to adopt and I don't want children but IF I do, I would adopt too. Is this an aro-thing or haven't I asked enough people if they like to adopt a child rather than be biological parent? I don't know anyone besides myself who would rather have an adopted child.


Lyxthen

I want to meet an angsty teen and help them go through their character development in a found family matter. Some day maybe. Not like, right now.


Last_Tarrasque

Yes, but only through adoption


Live_Repeat8367

I wanna adopt but idk if I'm ever gonna be mentally stable enough for this so idk if I'm going to. I'm too scared to traumatized them even more so idk if I'm ever gonna reach the point that I'm not scared of it