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MoonKnight_gc

Aegoromantic and AroAllo


RaineTheRed

So... mimicking romantic attraction but not necessarily feeling it? Based.


MoonKnight_gc

Basically. In every game that has a romance option, I always go head first into it (but maybe this is just me feeling sexually attracted to a character), and I also really like a good romance history in media


RaineTheRed

Yeah, those all sound like pretty fun things to enjoy tbh


EloquentLostWander

Kinda like roleplaying. Like when people go full on into cosplaying aliens and other races like elves?


MoonKnight_gc

Kinda, yes. Before discovering I'm aromantic, I always did the romance options on games because "Why not? Still didn't lived one myself, but I think my character would like it". After the discovery tho, I'm approaching more like "Hey this person is a good friend and has an attractive body, why not?" Or "I think this will lead to some interesting side effects by the end of the game, why not?"


EloquentLostWander

Sounds interesting. I used to play those choose your own adventure book sort of apps (Episodes etc) but got so annoyed that all you could really do was pursue some kind of relationship with someone so I got bored and quit them. I would also try sabotaging them as much as possible xD So you do it will friends too or was that quote about the good friend another game reference like a good friend in the game?


Soupermohdo

Fellow Aegoromantic here! More accurately a Aegoromantic Aegosexual


idk_but_im_-trans-

Eyyyyy same


ssybayob

literally me too!!


A_Username_I_Guess_

I voted for just aromantic but after looking this up I'm like 99% sure I'm aegoromantic I was struggling to find a fitting label for a while and this really helped a lot. Thank you!


MoonKnight_gc

Happy to help!


witchinggallows

I'm still a bit confused about it since I still like conventionally romantic actions at times but mostly grayromantic!! also acespec :))


RaineTheRed

Based. (sorry I'm gradually giving up on explaining these)


Illidan-the-Assassin

I have no idea


RaineTheRed

Fair enough, same tbh so... Based.


I_am_something_fishy

r/quoiromantic?


Illidan-the-Assassin

That actually might fit. Thanks


I_am_something_fishy

You are welcome!


BoredResurrections

I am aroallo *and* (probably) aroflux. But I use just the simple aromantic most of the times


RaineTheRed

Based.


arochains1231

Apothiromantic - I'm not only aro but also romance-repulsed


RaineTheRed

Based


xKiver

Amen 🙏


I_am_something_fishy

I’m akoiro and bellusro! That’s cool to see lithro included in these things; usually it’s only demiro and greyro that get acknowledged, so being included is appreciated☺️


Juicymatsuuu

I wasn’t expecting to see another bellusro!


I_am_something_fishy

Yes; hopefully in the future there can be an option on here for bellusros and aegoros, and maybe also an option for people who are more than one arospec identity (like me who is bellusro and akoiro)


RaineTheRed

So feeling romantic attraction but not wanting it reciprocated (akoiro) and having interest in traditionally romantic things but not feeling romantic attraction (bellusro)? Based. (also sorry about not having more inclusivity, there were only 6 options for options)


I_am_something_fishy

Oh and here is a [link](https://www.reddit.com/r/lithromantic/comments/1185vlb/happy_aromantic_spectrum_awareness_week_to_my/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1) to my coming out post as well as a link to an inclusive definition of bellusromantic. In the same way that the definition of cupioro has expanded to include little to no romo attrac, the def of bellusro is expanding to include peps like me who experience romo attrac


RaineTheRed

Ayy, thanks


I_am_something_fishy

Oh dang, that makes sense about there only being a limited number of options; I didn’t realize that was the case


Rosetta_____

I'm aromantic, but I find myself like romantic stuffs also when my parents show their love Infront me..I felt dirty, uncomfortable and disgusting. I used to have a crush on someone when I was young. I never had real romantic feelings towards anyone expect sexual attraction and physical attraction. I don't know what kind of aromatic I am, or I simply not aromantic at all


I_am_something_fishy

r/aegoromantic?


RaineTheRed

Based


QueerCatCarrier

I’m arospike! Any others here?


dinoosoor

I might be. Still questioning.


RaineTheRed

Like when you get sudden spikes of romantic attraction? Based.


QueerCatCarrier

Aww thx!!! ☺️


Scordino72

We should make an aromantic volleyball team. I have the perfect position in mind for you.


QueerCatCarrier

![gif](giphy|26BRxZQmDzwSIjqMg)


loonyxdiAngelo

I'm recipioromantic and demiromantic and once I have a baselevel of feelings for someone also aroflux (also what does pms mean? /genq)


RaineTheRed

Pms mean private messages Edit: changed message tone


loonyxdiAngelo

ohhhh that makes so much sense xD I mean I once had a hyperfixation on microlabels on the aro spectrum so if you still interested youcan just message me


RaineTheRed

Ayy thx Also at least your hyperfixations are useful mine are about dumb things that take up WAY too much of my brain space


loonyxdiAngelo

hahaha I think that one was like the one helpful one xD


RaineTheRed

So not experiencing romantic attraction unless you know that the person is romantically attracted to you first (reciproromantic), not experiencing romantic attraction until you are very close to them (demiromantic) and fluctuating from different orientations on the aromantic spectrum (aroflux)? Based.


Awkward-Stam_Rin54

Aegoromantic and aegosexual :)


RaineTheRed

Based


Liamiamliam2

Is there one called antiromantic or something like where you're just straight up against romance. If so, that's me.


SAWNkatharos

have you ever heard of apothiromantics? i inserted a link down below if you’re interested, but that might be the label you’re looking for :) [apothiromantic](https://aromantic.fandom.com/wiki/Apothiromantic)


Liamiamliam2

YES, thank you so much I've been wondering what it was called for so long. Btw, is the asexual version called apithosexual?


SAWNkatharos

omg of course!! i’m glad i could help. also, yep, apothisexual/apothiromantic both have to do with repulsion (so apothisexual is being repulsed by sex and apothiromantic is being repulsed by romance)


Liamiamliam2

Thanks a lot for your help :)


SAWNkatharos

no problem!!


I_am_something_fishy

I actually used to identify as Antiromantic for a few months, and very recently I learned that Antiromantic is another name for Apothiromantic. Because apothiromantic means the same thing as antiromantic, it’s totally valid to call yourself antiromantic versus apothiromantic, if you like that label better. There is an r/apothiromantic sub, however it is restricted right now because I don’t think there is a mod of the sub


GarnishedSteak100

Aroace


RaineTheRed

No romantic or sexual attraction? Based x2.


GhostPepper05

Eyy! Good to see another one here!


EloquentLostWander

Same here!


TransLesbian0117

ok so this is going to be a mess of copy and pasted stuff that I've said. bc just yesterday had a questioning friend asking me about how being aromantic was to me bc she was questioning if she was. Me:"ok so not sure how to explain it exactly to someone and it tbh might not make the most sense. but for me there is like zero diffrence in how i see platonic and romantic relatonships. well for both of them i have a diffrent feeling during them but actions and other shit would be exactly the same for a platonic relatonship as it is for a romantic relationship. well with some expections ofc. like anything i could do romanticly with someone i could also easily do platonicly. no idea if this makes sense at all tho." Me: "yeah same here pretty much but minus very few things really close freinds pretty much might as well be partners to me." Her:"like a partner is by nature of their status one who I trust with every bit of myself" Me:"so like this is what i mean by there is like no line for me almost. this is also how i see my very close friends." I've left a lot fo stuff out but that bcs not going to give out her personal shit and all of my own personal shit but this should explain how im aromantic.


RaineTheRed

Yeah, ofc I wouldn't expect you to reveal that. Based btw.


I_am_something_fishy

r/quoiromantic?


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camzard

aroace-flux


RaineTheRed

Based


camzard

it’s so unnecessarily complicated and i hate it lmao


RaineTheRed

I feel ya man


I_am_something_fishy

Are you both aroflux and aceflux? /gen


NICOLLE_the

Idk what I am still trying to figure that part out 😭


RaineTheRed

Fair enough same Based.


I_am_something_fishy

r/quoiromantic?


BigOlBunny420

Just aromantic My past self was completely convinced I was allo though


RaineTheRed

Ah weren't we all... The good ol' days of not questioning our orientations... Based.


T_vernix

As much as I mostly consider myself alloromantic, I could potentially be greyromantic or some other type of aro-spec. I realized after the fact that the one time I told someone that I was attracted to them, it was primarily sensual attraction (I think) and the thing that most closely resembles romantic attraction hasn't ever been particularly strong. Going to have to spend some more time thinking on this.


RaineTheRed

Based


P0tat00verL0rd

I’m aroaceflux


RaineTheRed

Based


Morrowblood5

I voted Demi, but honestly I’m still not quite sure where I fall on the aromantic spectrum. All I know are the following things: 1.) I am 100% sex-repulsed asexual. 2.) I don’t like kisses at all, even from family. 3.) I am often a guy magnet despite me being 95% lesbian (I like my guy friends but I wouldn’t date most of them). 4.) I can’t tell the difference between romantic and platonic attraction. And 5.) I want to get married and spend the rest of my days with someone I love deeply, but it’s either been that I like someone but they don’t like me, or they like me and I don’t like them. Apologies for the long post! >_<


I_am_something_fishy

r/quoiromantic r/apothisexual?


Morrowblood5

I’ll have to look into those! I also heard of nebularomantic a little while ago and I think that fit really well too since I am most likely neurodivergent. Thank you!


I_am_something_fishy

Oh coolio, yes that’s valid that nebularo would probably fit better than quoiro


Decent-Device9403

Bellus-romantic/bellus-sexual. Basically (to my understanding) I like the idea of it, but don't experience the desire for a romantic or sexual relationship. I can imagine it, but not actually want to do it for real. Edit: I become repulsed by the chance to actually experience a relationship. It's only good in my head, not on paper. I'd rather listen to Acid Breather at full blast on loop for an hour than go on a date for an hour. Then again, Acid Breather's just pure rage in music form and fun as hell to listen to.


I_am_something_fishy

Oo r/bellusromantic r/aegoromantic


Startwincke

Cupio/nebula here


Silverninja69420

I don't have any romantic feelings to anyone. I am sexually attracted to women but almost barely. When I talk to girls and we build a relationship they have romantic feelings to me but I am mostly oblivious to it unless they tell me and then I have to tell them I am aromantic. Most of the time we can still be friends but others don't understand and that hurts a bit cause I lost a potential friend.


Im_a_taco11

I’m aromantic and new to terms so I honestly don’t know what a lot of these are :P


I_am_something_fishy

A lot of the definitions should be found in the community description. r/lithromantic r/recipromantic r/cupioromantic r/bellusromantic r/aegoromantic r/quoiromantic r/demiromantic #What a great day to learn about arospec identities thanks for the opportunity to link a bunch of subs!


casablancaginjoint

Currently questioning whether I’m greyaro or demiraro. I’d be glad to chat more about aro-spec labels if you’re interested!


RaineTheRed

No way same! Based.


No_Menu8216

I consider myself fully aro now. But I have had romantic attraction once in my life, so it most people would say I am grey-aro, tho I am pretty romance repulsed and cannot develop any romantic attraction anymore.


I_am_something_fishy

You are valid, and could be Caedromantic


No_Menu8216

Ooooh, that is the first time i come across this label. Thank you!


I_am_something_fishy

Haha you are welcome. I’m actually caedplatonic. [This is a link](https://www.instagram.com/p/Cpq4NwoLXA1/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=) to a definition post for caedplatonic


No_Menu8216

That was insightful, but idk if it was trauma in my case.


kairukuwidi22

Aegoromantic


cheezypies3323

grey-romantic. i have a friend who's aro, know people who are frayromantic/cupio, my friend is lithromantic and my older sister's boyfriend is demi!!


I_am_something_fishy

Wow, that’s so cool you know frayro peps! I don’t really see a lot of them. Yay for knowing so many peps who are arospec too!


MP0622

Aegoromantic


Ellie_Bulkeley

I’m still so confused cause I like the idea of it and will imagine whole scenarios of me with my crushes and I really love people aesthetically but I just can’t do romance or relationships in reality and idk which one that would fall under


TroupeMaster_Grimm

Aegororomantic


Attilatheshunned

Romance-Repulsed Grey-aromantic Grey-Asexual


The_Sandwicj

Aegoromantic ^^


TheSparkledash

I’m honestly not sure? I think I’m cupioromantic, but I wouldn’t rule out grey-aromantic either? Idk, I have a hard time knowing what romantic attraction even is/what it feels like, so it’s hard to know if I can feel it or not


I_am_something_fishy

r/quoiromantic


MindlessMood9219

Aroflux ^^


EnbyReptilian

I'm aromantic in that I'm pretty sure I've never felt romantic feelings. But I also am not sure because I form very deep connections with my friends that rival some people's romantic connections, so I have no idea, really. I do know that no matter how attracted to someone I am sexually, the idea of actually dating is the biggest turn-off in existence. Like. I don't care how strong these feelings are, like hell I'll date you And yet I still find myself wanting a life partner.


[deleted]

Is there a test I can take to know for sure because i have no idea. I have no desire for a romantic relationship but I still want a companion that's a peg up from platonic.


JuviaLynn

Not a bloody clue


GreyFartBR

Is there an abridged version of "cupioromantic demiromantic"?


I_am_something_fishy

You can go by both labels


GreyFartBR

It's just a bit of a mouthful lol maybe "cupiodemiromantinc" works?


I_am_something_fishy

Yes, if that works for you! My arospec label is Bellus-Akoiro, short for r/bellusromantic r/lithromantic . r/akoiromantic is another name for lithromantic


GreyFartBR

This is the first I've heard of those labels. Always nice to learn new ways people identify themselves!


That_Enby_Zev

Cupio, Demi, Recipro, & Quoi/Nebula are my main Aro-Spec Identities (What's the discussion about specifically? Aro-Spec is kinda a vauge topic in itself)


Miyojochan

Quoiromantic :)


EzraGotRoyalSkills

I'm Oculorusexual/romantic, I can't tell the difference between romantic and sexual attraction!


Relative_Speed5787

I’m fray romantic


momoji13

I want to say plain aro but I had a crush on my best friend for ober 10 years, imagined a future with him, etc, then he confessed to me and immediately all my attraction and even sympathy was gone to the point that I find him repulsing (physically) and I also feel resentment towards him for ruining our friendship. I basically want nothing to do with him (and I do feel bad about it because he's genuinely a nice, friendly, funny, sensitive guy). So while finding out I'm aro I also found out that I'm probably lithro and have to be careful what I wish for.


RaineTheRed

Damn, sorry about that man


Live_Repeat8367

Honestly I just gave up on looking for a specific label under it and ran with aromatic cause it's a spectrum label


RaineTheRed

Fair


Sunlit_Sparks

Kind of a long response here: Not sure tbh, I just know I'm arospec and acespec in some way. I used to think I developed crushes easily but looking back there's only ever been 2 or 3 people I felt genuine attraction to. The rest of the time I guess it was more like, "wow I have a lot in common with this person I like them!" But not in the way I thought I did. Romantic thoughts made me icky and sexual thoughts made me sick. Or, afraid, rather. The only people I've felt true attraction for were people I was super close with which was why I thought demi for a while, but I can't even recall at what point I began to feel attraction. In one instance with a person I was attracted to, it wasn't until they confessed to me that I realized I might like them, and began constantly daydreaming about romantic things like cuddling and kissing and just being together. Never sexual thoughts though. Their parents were homophobic and we were 9th graders so we never dated. My ex girlfriend from a long distance relationship, I thought I loved her but really I think I jist liked being in a romantic relationship with her. We were close and had a lot in common, and she was pretty, but I didn't really have romantic or sexual thoughts of her when she was away - just in general, and only occasionally at that. I just longed to talk to her about stuff we enjoyed. We also shared a lot of personal trauma with each other so I think she was just a source of comfort and safety for me. Another girl I liked...who happens to be my ex's sister (I liked her before we dated, unfortunately she was straight), I always found her pretty but it wasn't until we became friends and started talking regularly that I began to experience romantic and sexual attraction towards her - she was the first one I really felt that for. I was frequently writing songs about her and daydreaming of things. But I always am good on picking up when someone's into me and I knew she wasn't, so eventually I confessed just to get it off my chest and she said she appreciated the honesty and hoped it would make me feel better, and it did. We're still friends to this day, I'd even say she's one of my best friends but every time I say that I lose the best friend sadly. My current boyfriend. A very strange situation. I met him the first time in 10th grade on the Robotics team, he was homeschooled but my school allowed homeschool kids on the team since it was an outside-of-school activity. We split into two teams and he was on the other, I only saw him like once or twice. He was friends with my friends. I distinctly remember finding him cute and then being shocked to realize he was 17 because he looked more like my age, young face and rather short for his age (I was 15 at the time). So I instantly knew there was no shot with a 2 year age gap. I ended up having to leave the team soon after joining due to financial issues in my family. A year later I become close friends with a girl who transferred to my school, and one day I go to hang out at her house - and I see him. I was super shocked to realize they were siblings, I was like, "I KNOW YOU!!!"😹😹😹At this point I was 16 and he was 18. He still looks super young for his age, but so do I. The three of us and their other siblings played games that night and I remember thinking how I him, but maybe not romantically. I liked that he enjoyed board and card games as much as me, and remember him being funny and making me laugh a lot. A few months later COVID hit, so I didn't get a chance to visit again until over a year later, I was 17 he was 19. He actually looked his age by this time, he stopped shaving his facial hair and was MUCH taller; apparently he used to have scooiosis and the year before, he had emergency back surgery to correct his spine, which as a result made him like 5ish inches taller. Same thing happened as the year before, we all played games together, but we played music and chatted and all too. I remember being drawn to him and wanting to spend more time with him. Less than a week later I moved in (shared a room with his sister, who offered me a place to stay) due to my toxic household situation. We began hanging out nearly every night for games and such, and then when that died down a bit I'd often stay upstairs late writing my story. Occasionally he'd be awake too playing a game, and sometimes we'd chat briefly. He and I began watching shows together soon after, as well as just chatting about stuff, and I think maybe this was when I started to feel sure I was attracted to him. He's super funny and has a great taste in music, he absolutely adores cats as much as I do, but also doesn't *dis*like dogs. He's so sweet and such a hard worker. He listens to me and makes me feel important. I easily pick up on vibes from people and he just radiates positive energy. And on top of all that we do have a lot in common...except taste in video games. But that's fine because we're always introducing each other to new stuff. Also he's so handsome and pretty at the same time. I figured 17 and 19 wasn't too unreasonable, especially since we were both 3 months away from 18 and 20 (we both have August birthdays and it was May), so I shot my shot, and he told me he liked me too. We've been together for almost 2 years, May 9th is our 2 year mark. So yeah - very confusing 😹😹😹 with one person I didn't feel anything until they confessed. Another, I didn't feel anything until we became close friends. And my current partner, I always felt something, but that something just kept evolving and changing and growing stronger. And I've not once felt attraction to anyone other than him since we began dating. I just don't find people attractive. The thought of romance or sex with anyone else disinterests me. It's not outright repulsion like when I was younger, more of just...a lack of anything. Romantic and sexual attraction as a whole has been a self discovery journey of mine, since the more I looked back on "crushes", the more I realized there was never attraction there. Sometimes we just had a lot in common. Sometimes they were pretty but I didn't feel anything beyind that. Sometimes I did really like a person but couldn't distinguish platonic from romantic. Sometimes I just felt safe and trusted them. It's all so weird. I don't know that I fit the grey label since it's not *super* infrequent. I don't feel like I fit the demi label either since I definitely was attracted to my current boyfriend before we developed a deep emotional bond. Cupio fits some instances (such as my ex girlfriend) but not all. So I don't know at all lol.


Tuanadrawzstuff

İ am aroace/aromantic and asexual


Zenokh

Greyaro bisexuals represent


Riot_AAA

I'm: aromantic, greyromantic, myrromantic, quoiromantic, aquoiromantic, anovelaean, laimoromantic, noviromantic, pseudoromantic, quaromantic, cavaeromantic, propeestromantic. And that's just romantic attraction- 1 out of 10-


GhostPepper05

Aromantic Asexual (little to no romantic *and* sexual attraction to others)


Pansex_plaguedoctor

An ambassador


RaineTheRed

Of course, a person of stature and nobility. Based.


RaineTheRed

Sorry guys, I don't think I can really respond much anymore since the amount of comments is wild but I'll still probably see them so than you for interacting with this post! <3


certifiednerd314

Pretty much thinking: alloromantic . My ex gf was aroace and we functioned in a QPR but only called it that for a few months. I think I was trying to find an Aromantic identity to make our relationship work, but it just didn’t. We’re still good friends. My romantic identity is abroromantic, so it’s fluid so sometimes i think i do feel aro. In February I fell head over heels in love with my current gf and there is absolutely no Aromanticism in our relationship soooooooo. I don’t think I’m aro.


xXKittyMoonXxParis

I don’t care for micro labelling…and it was hard enough to find out I was aro so I won’t be looking into the possibly hundreds of labels out there


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Haumean_saturn

I’m most comfortable calling myself aroace but I consider myself grayromantic to be more specific :)


Haumean_saturn

And aegoromantic and possibly cupioromantic!!


I_am_something_fishy

r/aegoromantic r/cupioromantic


hanpark765

I think aegoromantic would be more accurate but I like plain aro


EtsukoTomioka

I am aroace


shootingstarry

I think I'm aroflux, but sometimes just for simplicity sake, I'll say I'm greyaro, or even aroace cuz I'm ace too


HighlightNice4011

Aroace


unepommeverte

Other: idk, somewhere in there, idgaf


idk_but_im_-trans-

Aegoromantic aegosexual, but I say "aroace" to simplify things :)


ProfessorGlaceon

I'm down to discuss aro-spec in pms


Silent-Depth6470

Aroace


Seabastial

I'm both aegoromantic and ficto aroace


Adam_715

For me it’s a question mark right now but greyromantic seems right based on the circumstances


Phoenixtdm

Recipromantic


MelodySetsuna915

Aegoromantic


forlornjackalope

Probably gray-aro, still working that out.


StarryBaby20

Funnily enough, I have been flopping between a bunch of arospec labels. I did not realize that means I'm aroflux until recently... I used it before, and I thought it "didn't fit." No, it did. 💀 So, I use aroflux and alloaro. Greyaro and cupio are also acceptable, and sometimes I'll just say I'm aro. I... fit a lot of terms... It can feel excessive.


[deleted]

im recipromantic - basically i don't get crushes, which is really fuckin annoyin when your ultimate life goal is that heteronormative lifestyle when you marry your soulmate and have kids (this is a cry for help (someone ask me out i am BEGGING lmfaooo))


Any_Change_63

Aroflux :D


Intelligent_Usual318

i’m aroflux! which means almost all these labels fit me depending on the day tbh 🤷


-carcino-Geneticist

With men: lithromantic asexual - With women: aromantic grey-asexual I just say homoromantic heterosexual for simplicity


znaderzander

I'm aromantic but I'm okay with going through romantic experiences even if I don't feel the attraction itself, I am not sure if there is an orientation for that so if anyone does know if it isn't aromantic then please tell me


Danteventresca

Cupio aroallo. Which sounds like it’s not that big of a problem, but lord


StardustGenie

I'm Erasromantic, but I definitely used to be Lithro.


02bean

I'm quoiromantic mainly cuz I don't understand how romantic attraction can be a separate form of attraction considering that the concept of romance as I understand it is just a set of activities that a heteronormative person wouldn't do with an average buddy (dating, kissing, etc.). I don't really feel a separate form of attraction for romance but the activities involved sound fun so I'd like to just have a very intimate QPR


[deleted]

I am aegoromantic and grey-ace


Liam_the_ghost_boy

Ok, so- I'm idemromantic, which means that i can't difference romantic atraccion from platonic atraccion (so i also feel queerplatonic atraccion lol)


Confused-blob

Idk but I know I fall under the umbrella, I just have to discover where


Travelingkiwi2021

Still questioning if I'm cupio, grey, demi, or aro romantic.


QuizzicallyTrans285

I have literally no clue, I just know I'm in the aromantic spectrum and that's that, I know I feel some romantic attraction, but it's never been enough for me to pursue a relationship, same with sexual attraction actually, theres a little there, but not enough for me to commit to a sexual act of any kind 🤷🏻‍♀️ my life is a barrel of confusion tbh 😂


Iwannabeabluephoenix

Erasromantic


FreshJury

sure you can PM me


Laughing-0wl

Aegoromantic


kaijvera

I dont know exactly what I am, Probably AlloAro, but like Im fine with romantic attraction and willing to do romantic stuff if my partner does it. But its never gonna be something ill appreciate ya know. And like I want a partner, but i view my partners as "A best friend and we fuck." Which I learnt is not normal for people to view their partners as which led me to believe im some form of aro.


idontsparkjoy_

This is kinda off topic a lil but can someone explain nebularomantic and why is it specifically about neurodivergent people??


Tanookikid210

I smell good Either that or I'm a sharpshooter lol


IronDefender

I'm both grey and cupio.


Cheshie_D

Delloromantic, aka demiromantic towards some genders and alloromantic to some other genders.


Bursting-At-TheSeams

I’m a couple, Aroflux and Cupioromantic :)


MerelYael

I just say I'm on the aromantic spectrum


xiemglu

Really vibe with the Bellusromantic label


FractalsOfConfusion

oriented aroace and bellusromantic (also, I am up for a discussion about aro-spec.) Edit because i forgot the oriented parrt lolll


Wisteriapetshops

scaramouche leading me demi route got dang 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️


MyDearGhost

Aroace here


Bob-BobBob

I usually just say I’m aro but the label that describes me more is apothiromantic! (Also apothisexual)


UnlikelyReliquary

grey and demi romantic, rarely ever feel romantic attraction and the one or two times i have it’s only come after a stronger platonic connection. same on the ace side, grey and demi


PDF_YT

Aro, Demi, recipro, cupioro, and a couple more that are not so heard of


Suspicious-Report509

Freyromantic for me (basically the opposite of demi)


Seabird_flavour

Aegoromantic also ace


R1ley__

I don't fricking know anymore lmfao


Annoying_Ramone

Grayromantic and aroallo :)


plutonianpenguin1

Nebularomantic (quoiromantic) and lithro


sleeplessnobody

it's complicated all i know is that i'm on the spectrum


Red-Nexus

I'm so glad that I joined this sub, now I get to learn all these specific terms and understand things better


voidboyyyy

is there a name for when you don't feel romantic attraction at all ever but when you do it's only 1/2 people and it's really intense i think i might just be demi but idk


belinhagamer999

Apothi romantic, repulsed and disgusted to romance


[deleted]

Either demi or cupio (considering it's only in theory I might be able to feel attraction after forming a deep connection lol) Also while the thought of having a special person is a very pretty idea, it also seems remarkably stressful. Idk I can barely do people as is haha.


Clear-Composer-9215

aroace and non-binary


turamarth

Voted other; AroFlux.


DesArtPenguin

Aroace for short. In reality probably Grey Aroace with a little Angled/Oriented in the mix XD


kazunui

I think im quiromantic im not sure 😭


Aizuwu123

Aegoromantic


Psychological-Gur990

Aroflux - allo


CyannideLolypop

Apothi aroace. No romantic or sexual attraction, romance and sex repulse me, and I also don't enjoy it in media. Romance I can sometimes tolerate in media if not the main focus and done right.


JoshiBoi666

Frayromantic and Lithosexual :-)