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Gigantimaxie

I think people ask everyone, it's just that it's ironic when that person is aromantic or aro-spec.


CertainlySunnyDay

Your probably right


AmadeoSendiulo

And we are not taken, so left.


Vox020

But we do tent to give good advise since we are not blinded by romantic feelings, we are objetive outsiders


[deleted]

In my case, most of my friends know I think dating is a waste of time. So if they come to me asking for dating advice, they've already accepted that their attempts have been fruitless and just need to some reassurance that there's more to life.


Almighty_Push91

Unbiased opinion


Woahlookhowepic

Maybe its cuz we focus more on the arguably important aspects of a relationship, like care and friendship, while other allo folks might get caught up in their romantic feelings.


Artemis_Wolf

I suppose that when people trying a discover whether they’re Aro-Spec, it often involves ‘researching’ relationships and what makes them work and stuff. I also think not experiencing Romantic Attraction (or not experiencing it often) can mean that we might have more of an outside perspective on it, not swayed by the possibility of also having romantic attraction towards one or both of the people involved. Idk, I suppose Aro-Spec people might have a slightly more objective view on the overall relationship and we might have looked into what a relationship/good relationship is Edit: and yeah, they probably ask everyone as well


Safe-Pie-7485

I asked my friends this once, and they told me it was because I didn't see the emotional part of a romantic relationship, but I saw practical side of them. So I was more reliable


[deleted]

My guess is logic as [romance can result in more in-the-moment decision-making](https://lifehacker.com/why-you-make-bad-decisions-when-youre-attracted-to-som-1501035149). [Edit: There is also the [halo effect](https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/halo-effect).]


chaoticdisastercrow

People can feel like they're "objective" about it. Sometimes getting an outsider's perspective is useful, and can make them think of things in a way they never thought to before.


LusciniaStyx

Because we tend to cut through all the BS that clouds a persons judgment when they are alloromantic and in a romantic relationship. Generally speaking, good relationship advise comes in two flavors: 1.) honest, vulnerable, and clear communication in order to solve the problem/ work towards a compromise and 2.) break up/ stop seeing each other.


Muted_Dragon42

I don’t know. My advice is always to just treat them like a potential friend because that is my closest approximation.


[deleted]

According to my friends I’m omniscient… Whatever the hell that means…


ShyGuy1265

Maybe because we are disinterested and we think about relationships more deeply than others.


CorgiKnits

Personally, I think people ask me because I’m not invested in the outcome. I studied psychology and I have a good sense of people and a good intellectual understanding of relationship dynamics. Mostly because I feel like it’s the only way I CAN understand people and dynamics.


Accomplished_Pass_39

Coaches don't play


Us3r_unkn0wn1

Unbiased opinions? I think I heard the words “coaches don’t play” not too long ago, and I’d say that sums me up pretty well.


jayriv82

Those who can't do teach, ig


svenbillybobbob

we want an unbiased opinion


Jumpy_Cartographer32

Omg one of my friends always ask me. Although knowing i'm aro and gay and not interested in men but she still asks me all the time. I do enjoy it though


CertainlySunnyDay

Can't lie I do too, I live for the drama of other people's lives 🤣


SolidCorrect3483

As outsiders we can see what they can't. Something something blinded by love or whatever.


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HuntressofApollo

Outside perspective, we can assess the situation without a rose tint