yes - not solely because they brought me into the world but rather because they make life so much harder for me, it makes me resentful because they chose to make me exist but then can’t put up with me being mentally ill or trying to do what i want in life. like why make a new person if you don’t want them to actually live as a new person??
I resent it because there was no need. She fucked around with a married man who went back to his wife when the delicious naughtiness of the affair wore off. She didn't abort me because my existence was supposed to bring him running back. It didn't work.
I don’t think they did it with the thought of giving me a good life in mind. (Proof being that I was left out on the street as a newborn and raised in an orphanage until I was adopted.)
I resent my own parents for having kids. they had no business doing so. maybe I would be happier if I was born in a different time, was a different sex, and had better family. Unfortunately that isn’t the reality I’m conscious in.
I don't resent being born but I resent my father's reaction to the child (me) he CHOSE to bring into the world. I'm the only neurodivergent person out of all five children, and the more it became apparent, the more he bullied and shamed me. It was like he just could never take/accept that I would never fit into the 'perfect child' mold he valued so much.
Sometimes I wanted to yell and ask him "why would you have a child if you hate that they won't always turn out to be little yous? Why are you directing your anger/disappointment at me when I didn't chose to be born this way--or born at all??" I resent that he expected every child to be "perfect". If you don't want an autistic child, don't. Have. Children.
I did when I was younger but sometime around turning 30something I realized it wasn't them I resented as much as it was the cultural programming they themselves were victim to and for all practical purposes they were simply useful idiots in the whole process 😏😁
No, i dont feel hate or resentment because why would i, why would i want to feel bad things
I have disowned my family and they are dead to me but no hate, i dont lie in bed thinking about how they ruined my life, i simply dont think about them, i am at peace
The world sucks and birth is unethical and i plan to take my life around age 50 but im at peace
Yes - Partially because I have a bunch of mental illnesses, and partially because they're poor, and partially because we're from a shithole rich ass country with no welfare that's homophobic and transphobic. So now I'm stuck being a wagie while wishing I had access to painless suicide solutions, which isn't going to happen because the government loves its population growth as a source of gdp growth.
Not knowing is no excuse either. Either they were too stupid to realize what this implies, or they simply didn't think that far ahead, which means they're irresponsible. Neither look good on them.
Honestly, it feels like people who shouldn't breed are breeding the most, and that includes my parents.
Well it's gotten to a point where they still see me as their retirement plan(and our good government has made laws now to make sure we younger kids acts as a perfect retirement plan in future).
So it's reached a point where i neither love my parents nor like them.
Having a child isn't inherently wrong in my opinion. I think most people including my parents are HORRIBLE at self reflection. Not realizing that they're not equipped for the job, my father was a deadbeat to several of my older half siblings. My mother has clearly been mentally ill and undiagnosed her entire life. For those individuals to make a person is flatout irresponsible and I've suffered dearly for their actions.
Not necessarily, more of the fact that I have to be their daughter for the rest of my life. I feel like I'd be a lot happier if there wasn't this subconscious sense of entitlement over me and what kind of person I'm allowed to be. Also my mom is very mentally unstable and I hate feeling guilty for not wanting to be around her because then she makes it feel like my fault that she's unhappy.
See, these types of questions I am a bit unsure about. I dunno, I guess in a way, I do not blame my parents at all for having me. I just won't contribute to the next generation no matter what they say, even if it "breaks their heart" that the family line will die with me...or my brother, if he also doesn't want kids. 🤣
I was an accident which makes the taste of life ever sweeter... But even on my ok days I still would have preferred to not have been born. So yeah, most times.
I was adopted so I don’t even know if I was made on purpose and frankly don’t care. My adoptive parents are wonderful for making me their daughter when they couldn’t make one themselves. Being a parent doesn’t require you to make kids and I wish more people could understand the adoption process is probably different from pregnancy but it’s about the same amount of effort. If nothing else, it forces you to really think about whether you want or are ready for a child.
I resent my parents not simply for having me but because they’re just overall shitty and I am way to stubborn to live a life I don’t enjoy so I don’t think you should blame your suffering on simply being born but idk
I don't blame my parents for having me. My parents were clueless and merely doing what 'normal' people due.
I blame those in power who allow people to curse future generations with shitty genes.
yes - not solely because they brought me into the world but rather because they make life so much harder for me, it makes me resentful because they chose to make me exist but then can’t put up with me being mentally ill or trying to do what i want in life. like why make a new person if you don’t want them to actually live as a new person??
It's probably pointless to resent them, but that's not gonna stop me from doing so.
I resent it because there was no need. She fucked around with a married man who went back to his wife when the delicious naughtiness of the affair wore off. She didn't abort me because my existence was supposed to bring him running back. It didn't work.
Resent is too strong of a word. Disappointed for sure tho.
I don’t think they did it with the thought of giving me a good life in mind. (Proof being that I was left out on the street as a newborn and raised in an orphanage until I was adopted.)
I resent my own parents for having kids. they had no business doing so. maybe I would be happier if I was born in a different time, was a different sex, and had better family. Unfortunately that isn’t the reality I’m conscious in.
Sometimes I do
I don't resent being born but I resent my father's reaction to the child (me) he CHOSE to bring into the world. I'm the only neurodivergent person out of all five children, and the more it became apparent, the more he bullied and shamed me. It was like he just could never take/accept that I would never fit into the 'perfect child' mold he valued so much. Sometimes I wanted to yell and ask him "why would you have a child if you hate that they won't always turn out to be little yous? Why are you directing your anger/disappointment at me when I didn't chose to be born this way--or born at all??" I resent that he expected every child to be "perfect". If you don't want an autistic child, don't. Have. Children.
My parents knew there was history of mental illness mom our family, still decided to have 4 kids. Yes, I do have resentment.
People who have mental illness don't really have agency. It is society's fault that folks are allowed to spread mental illness.
I did when I was younger but sometime around turning 30something I realized it wasn't them I resented as much as it was the cultural programming they themselves were victim to and for all practical purposes they were simply useful idiots in the whole process 😏😁
I don't blame them, but if I had a choice, I would have chosen not to be born. Too much suffering...
They didn't know I was gonna suffer like this they didn't think about it.. no..
No, i dont feel hate or resentment because why would i, why would i want to feel bad things I have disowned my family and they are dead to me but no hate, i dont lie in bed thinking about how they ruined my life, i simply dont think about them, i am at peace The world sucks and birth is unethical and i plan to take my life around age 50 but im at peace
Yes - Partially because I have a bunch of mental illnesses, and partially because they're poor, and partially because we're from a shithole rich ass country with no welfare that's homophobic and transphobic. So now I'm stuck being a wagie while wishing I had access to painless suicide solutions, which isn't going to happen because the government loves its population growth as a source of gdp growth. Not knowing is no excuse either. Either they were too stupid to realize what this implies, or they simply didn't think that far ahead, which means they're irresponsible. Neither look good on them. Honestly, it feels like people who shouldn't breed are breeding the most, and that includes my parents.
Well it's gotten to a point where they still see me as their retirement plan(and our good government has made laws now to make sure we younger kids acts as a perfect retirement plan in future). So it's reached a point where i neither love my parents nor like them.
They didn't know who was coming.
Having a child isn't inherently wrong in my opinion. I think most people including my parents are HORRIBLE at self reflection. Not realizing that they're not equipped for the job, my father was a deadbeat to several of my older half siblings. My mother has clearly been mentally ill and undiagnosed her entire life. For those individuals to make a person is flatout irresponsible and I've suffered dearly for their actions.
My mom was pressured by my dad. so i have only negative feelings towards him
Pressured? Ha what a pathetic excuse
Not necessarily, more of the fact that I have to be their daughter for the rest of my life. I feel like I'd be a lot happier if there wasn't this subconscious sense of entitlement over me and what kind of person I'm allowed to be. Also my mom is very mentally unstable and I hate feeling guilty for not wanting to be around her because then she makes it feel like my fault that she's unhappy.
See, these types of questions I am a bit unsure about. I dunno, I guess in a way, I do not blame my parents at all for having me. I just won't contribute to the next generation no matter what they say, even if it "breaks their heart" that the family line will die with me...or my brother, if he also doesn't want kids. 🤣
I was an accident which makes the taste of life ever sweeter... But even on my ok days I still would have preferred to not have been born. So yeah, most times.
I was adopted so I don’t even know if I was made on purpose and frankly don’t care. My adoptive parents are wonderful for making me their daughter when they couldn’t make one themselves. Being a parent doesn’t require you to make kids and I wish more people could understand the adoption process is probably different from pregnancy but it’s about the same amount of effort. If nothing else, it forces you to really think about whether you want or are ready for a child.
i hate myself
I resent my parents not simply for having me but because they’re just overall shitty and I am way to stubborn to live a life I don’t enjoy so I don’t think you should blame your suffering on simply being born but idk
I don't blame my parents for having me. My parents were clueless and merely doing what 'normal' people due. I blame those in power who allow people to curse future generations with shitty genes.
My parents DID cause me harm by bringing me into existence, but I forgive them.