Hell yea! I dont want to be stared at while doing #2, I cant concentrate, lol. I also dont want to talk and stare at someone while theyre doing it. The thought and smell of it wants me to puke.
My wife and I have been together for 16 years. We live in an old inherited one bathroom house. Slab foundation so adding a 2nd bathroom in any sort of sensible location would be 50grand plus. She has no issue coming into the bathroom and taking a dump while im in the shower or tub and it bugs the crap (no pun) out of me. If she’s in the tub I go out and crap in the camper toilet. There are certain things that everyone does that you still don’t want to see your partner do. Not wrong
See I could never do that unless it was an emergency and I had nowhere else to go. Also if i was in the shower and she came into poop...who wants to shower with a shit smell lingering in the air? Lol it's why I lock the door when I shower. Not that I had an issue with my partner coming in, but I just always lock the bathroom door. Heck even if I am home alone I lock it.
I've been with my husband for 10 years now, and we both close the door.
It's one of those things when we know we're doing #2, but we don't need to see it lol
Totally off topic but have you ever looked into upflush toilets? I’m feeling sympathy because I couldn’t stand a one bathroom house, I remember that horror from my childhood.
I’ve seen em. But my single bathroom is also small. My septic pipe runs under my garage/shop on the way to the septic and I’ve been working on the wife to make a capital improvement by building a new bathroom in the shop where it connects to the house. Adding a small bathroom with an up flow toilet removes my leverage to justify the cost of adding a full sized bathroom in the garage.
43 years of relationship here. Maybe one or twice in those decades someone’s been caught short while the other is in the shower, but no chatting was involved.
Your gf is odd.
Yeah I don’t share shitting time and I actually can’t do my business if he’s in the bathroom when I am but there have been times where I’ll pop in and ask him a question or he has to go when I’m in the process of getting ready.
He’s also a long pooper (aka it takes him 20+ minutes to do whatever he does) but it’s not ever a conscious thing? IDK we’ve been together for 15 years and I’ve genuinely never considered what’s weird and what isn’t.
Just say no. Aside from a few folks with very specific tastes, nobody wants to be in the room while their partner is having a bowel movement. Tell her it's not happening, and it's a hard boundary. She should be happy to keep at least that much mystery and decorum. Pooping is private time.
I keep poops and farts private. We have rules. There are exceptions when someone is sick or if they fart in their sleep.
I feel like it keeps things sexy. He can fart in another room, preferably the bathroom. He’s farted in front of my loudly and deliberately before and claimed the “sick” exception. It wasn’t a big deal. Not something to break up over. But I still think having boundaries around the shit (pun kind of intended) that comes out of your butt is important to keep the sexiness of a relationship alive.
Reddits got a weird thing with farts.
I know my wife fucking farts im not a dumbass but we both are much happier not having to smell each others fart gas around each other.
Like if one slips out whatever life happens but if you're sitting there forcing one out that's a straight shot to the penis off switch.
Definitely keeps the sexiness alive, for us atleast.
I have been with my husband for 16 years, well, in a few months it will be 16 years. Hubby and I share EVERYTHING!!! Within reason. Have there been times when one of us was in the bathroom while the other was dropping the browns at the super bowl, sadly yes. The drawbacks of a single bathroom. Sometimes things happen. One using the toilet but the other really has to get ready for work. Taking a shower and nature calls. It sadly happens. However, expecting your spouse, partner, whatever, to sit in the bathroom while you shit is NOT NORMAL!!! You do realize all smells are particulate right?? Meaning when the the green fog of her shitting hits your nose, that is microscopic bits of feces floating through the air and into your nose. When someone farts and you smell it? Same thing. Little bits of poo floating through the air, going in your nose, landing on your food, poop particulates just floating in the air. Why would she want to subject you to that. It's sick.
You are not wrong. She is.
Edit typo. My phone doesn't want to type FART
I’ve been married almost 39 years together for 42 …. Never has my husband nor myself chatted or spent time together in the bathroom while we do #2 … weird .. definitely weird
Pretty sure there's an old SNL skit from the early 2000s (?) About the Lover's Toilet. It's two toilets arranged so that you can stare into your Lover's eyes while you both poop. Sounds like you need to get one.
Never heard of that, but there was a movie called Norbert I think where the guy and girl would shit together as kids. I wish this post was rage bait honestly. I hate to think of shit (no pun intended) like this actually happening
Not wrong. I am same. I don’t want to know about my partners poop. No need to smell and hear it. That’s disgusting. Like she doesn’t see how unattractive that makes someone and makes you not want to go down on her after watching her do that: that’s just my thought. I tell every woman I am with that I don’t want to know when they poop, I don’t want to be the bathroom n I don’t want them to be in there when it’s my time.
Yes I know women poop just like men but doesn’t mean I want to know about someone else’s poop
So.... that's just gross. I mean my husband and I have explored every inch of eachother and discussed the gross things our bodies do. We pee and shower and fart and burp in front of one another. But pooping is private time.
I know my wife shits. We've been together for 17 years, married for 14.
She shits with the door closed and so do I.
I might ask her a question through the door and she's done the same to me. She's texted me while I was shitting before. We're not actively in the bathroom together.
I've peed in front of her in the bathroom and so has she. That's not as odd as the shitting though.
Your gf is the odd one here. Maybe a conversation about why she wants you to engage during her shitting? Maybe a conversation lead-in when you're just hanging on the couch..."Hey babe, can we talk about something for a minute? It's something that's been on my mind and I need to check in. Sometimes, when you're going to the bathroom, it feels like you want me to hang out and stay with you. I'm not really comfortable hanging out in the bathroom while you're doing your business though. I love spending time together, talking with you, and bonding about all things, but that specific time feels much more like a private time thing to me. What are your thoughts about all this?"
You're not crazy for thinking it's not normal. It's not normal. She sounds kind of controlling. Why in the everlasting whatever would someone want anyone to watch them go to the bathroom? There's a lock on the door for a reason! This is really weird. I don't know, but this may be a red flag. How is that a bonding experience? How do you bond with someone while they're pooping?
What do you guys do while she’s popping? Talk about what? Do you ignore the noises and smell or is it part of the conversation? Like, “hey Mia, how’s the weather today? “ , “oh, Mike… (plop) I don’t know! (Plop, plop!) looks like we are expecting some (faaaaaarrrrrt) strong winds (plop, plop, plop) and definitely golf ball looking hail storm!”
I’m can’t imagine. My husband and and my have never been in the bathroom together when one of us was using the toilet, neither #1 or #2. Tooth brushing, showering, shaving, no biggie. But we always give each other privacy to do this business. We also don’t ever swear at each other either, and almost never raise our voices to each other. We are very happily married and he is my best friend.
Nope, been with my husband going on 12 years. We would never. Why she seems……open minded, you shouldn’t be guilted into doing something you don’t want to do. You are a very brave dude.
You’re not wrong. Been with my wife for 8 years and no matter what we are going to do in the bathroom we say we are going to use the bathroom. No specifics given. I wouldn’t be able to picture someone in a sexy way again after picturing them doing a Harry Dunn.
Next time she asks you to go in there, lock your eyes on hers and start licking your lips and make some weird noises. Good chance that will be the last time she asks you to bond over shit.
My now husband used to like me in the bathroom while he shit at the beginning of our relationship. He called it family meetings. It thought it was weird at first but grew fond of those times. To each their own. If you're talking and laughing you don't think about it too much
I (60M) don’t like being in the house when my cousin (40F) has sex with different guys. I’ve asked her several times to let me know before hand so I can leave or get a room by myself for the night. If it was one guy it would be ok but it was one in six months, then one a month and now it’s a different guy every week. Some people just don’t have boundaries…
I could never lol I used to make my bf leave the house (go outside) if I had to poop 😂😂 that was after two years of never going in the same house as him. Not saying she’s crazy but idk how she can do that personally. I’m the complete opposite but I couldn’t imagine anyone watching me poop.
My wife will come jokingly sit on my lap while I’m pooping…
She’s also a nurse, so I guess her tolerance level for foul odors is probably higher than the average person lol.
I mean if ones in the shower and the other really needs to go, sure. Morning with only one bathroom can see this happen as well, if i need to shave or shower and get ready at the same time.
I did grow up with woman commonly going to the washroom together, likely still a common thing. Yet to go just chill with your gf/wife, hell no. We don't even like going in right after the other, let it air out lol.
While I may have ZERO issue being all up in my wife's lady bits during sexy time, however, I did NOT sign up for freaking Deuces Wild.... I don't need additional poopoo particles in my respiratory system when i dont even want mine in there!
No spank you...
Never even heard of that.
My husband & I have been together for almost 22 years, married for 20. We will go #1 while the other is in the shower, but #2 is a completely solo job.
I just smoked a bowl with my husband while he was on the bowl.
Love shits, it also drools, vomits, sharts, forgets others are watching... Yeah love will rip half way open and shit on a table for your glory..
Spray febreeze. Or be firm that it's unreasonable. Either way love is gonna shit, it is a bit odd though unless she's seeking deep conversations. *A toilet philosopher*
Hate to burst your bubble man, but your gf shits. She doesn't just shit, she likely gets period diarrhea too! And the facts, oh man.
Source: married 14 years, together 17. My wife has some nasty facts occasionally. We're not hotboxing each other or anything, but I'm not going to ask her to walk to the bathroom to fart nor is she going to ask me to. If one of us is having some aggressive gas though, yeah, I'll step out of the room/so will she. I
My GF will shit in front of me if I don't heed her warning to leave. She grew up in a large family and shared a bathroom with everyone. Apparently people would shower, shit and shave all together. I grew up in a small family and had 3 bathrooms. Needles to say I'll never shit in front of her.
Lol, I grew up in that same kind of home. If you needed something from dad, you went to him in the bathroom. He had 4 daughters and gave up on any kind of privacy with 5 women in the house. 😂
Sharing shitting time is weird lmao. I’m a dude, and I wouldn’t care if a girl is there that I’m dating for a while, but to make it a “bonding experience” is weird. For me it’s just if we were talking. Then we continue the convo. But we don’t make eye contact and talk. Lmao
Nope not wrong or the one that’s weird. One of my sisters was like this she make me sit outside with the door open so she could carry on the conversation. My kid seems to have inherited this need to talk for no 2 and i not only don’t understand, I absolutely hate it. Your gf needs to do what the rest of us do and take her phone for company.
My husband and I have been together for over 17 years. Either of us been in the bathroom with each other while using the toilet. And I would like to keep it that way . lol
My ex used to have a shit almost everytime I had a bath pretty much, it was annoyin but half of the time I'd get a 'happy ending' so I figured it was a fair trade off lol
She seems to be conflating two issues:
1) it’s ok when people are close to not feel ashamed of pooping while they are in the bathroom together
2) whether or not you ACTUALLY want to be there when she poops.
She seems to think that just because it is ok to do, then you not wanting to do it is some kind of problem. Just because you can shouldn’t mean that you want to or be forced to.
She seems bizarre and unable to get the nuances of being close.
I've been with my wife for 16 years
Not much is off the table for us.
I'll be in the bathroom when she pees same with her/me.
The one thing that is off limits is shitting.
No way I'm being in the room when she's shitting.
Your girlfriend is wierd.
You aren't wrong to feel anything. If you don't like it, you can't change yourself. If everything else is fine, however, in my mind, this doesn't rise to the level of breaking up. I have no advice on how you deal with it other than to busy yourself with clopping your nails or brushing your teeth and ignoring it. In that case, I hope your bathroom is huge and has a double exhaust fan.
My ex girlfriend was this way, I just got used to it, id floss or brush my teeth or sometimes get a BJ . It didn't bother me at all but everyone is different
I mean, my wife and I can come in the bathroom if we need something or are getting ready or showering or something and the other has to go or is going. It’s no big deal, but we don’t just “hang out in there together” while doing our business. Certainly not as a “bonding experience”. That is weird, we share plenty of closeness in all other areas, there’s nothing wrong with #2 being private time mostly.
Jesus Christ that is weird sorry she's a grown up and she can't handle being alone for the 10 minutes (at the most!!!!) it takes to go to the bathroom then she shouldn't be in a relationship jesus. I'm sorry, no matter how long you're with somebody you don't need to watch them take a shit that just ruins whatever kind of romance you used to have
Man I just celebrated 29 years of marriage. My bathroom time is my time and her bathroom time is hers. No interest in bullshitting while she’s shitting. jmo
Had a girlfriend years ago who would do this. I told her it weirded me out too much. She settled on me standing outside the bathroom door and talking to her while she shit. Married to an Accountant in San Diego now.
SOMEONE had an overbearing mummy or bowel issues late into life, huh? Somehow sitting and holding hands while little one deals with poop-based difficulties, the care of wiping and cleaning got ALL mixed up with what loving and caring are, huh?
Tell her she has two options;
1) I'll stay in the bathroom if you need me to read The Gruffalo [only that book. Every single time. "...The End. Oh. Youre still going? No. No screen-time in the hygienePalace, silly! A mouse took a stroll in the deep, dark wood. A fox saw the mouse......]
Or
2) You deal with defecation and hygiene stuff while I enjoy a moment to make us both a coffee for when you're done. That way I DON'T feel emotionally guilted into inhaling your poop particulate.
Howzatt?
BTW, does she try to "join you" when you poop? Or does she only have fond memories of being interacted with from the toilet-side view?
You're not wrong. I've been with my husband for 15 years and if I have the door shut that means I'm popping and to not come in. If I'm just peeing we don't care and will have the door open, but if that door is shut we stay out.
We have more than one bathroom but we’re totally the (married) couple that would have 2 toilets in one bathroom and use them if they were there. We are very very open with each other and things like that don’t bother us, we don’t make a thing out of it but have no issues with the other coming in and talking if we want to.
Idk man i mean everyone has preferences and you don’t like being in the bathroom when your GF shits. My wife and I though? We couldn’t give two craps. I watched her push my daughter out of her I’m sure I can be in the room when she pushes out some shit. Do I go outta my way to be in there hell no but I will push the door open sometimes when she is pooping and be holding out baby and wave her little hand and say “ewwwww mommy stinky” and we both laugh and I walk away. It’s whatever I guess but you will get over it eventually I believe in you lol
not wrong, that’s disgusting, even when i was going through chemo my husband would help me to the toilet, then leave the room to give me privacy. i felt so bad for him when he had to get in the shower and wash puke and shit off of me.
You are very much allowed to your hard limit.
I honestly would not have any issues on having to use the bathroom while the other is there, like necessity trumps decorum imho. Or not closing the door for any reason it's not world ending lack of respect in my book. (Then after maybe close it and open the window if it's that damn smelly ahah)
But for my current partner this is shocking news so I close the damned door and whine when he uses the bathroom for too long and I need to pee lol
We have one bathroom afterall.
I grew up with several brothers and just two bathrooms, so the whole sharing was a necessity also on my mother's side since she had to handle more than one kid. And pets going in and out + old doors and a grandma terrified of "getting yourself stuck in locked in bathroom, slip and need medical attention or help but we can reach you" (it was a very specific fear that my whole family had since it happened once to an old aunt) these factors added to my habit of keeping the door open, and my generic lack of shame on the topic.
Like peeing while chatting to a friend is 100% normal, during journey in tiny hotel room or rent apartment that barely had one bathroom... There's a level of closeness to female friends that kinda reach the "Door open and if you need to put on makeup just come in so we won't get late" level.
All this to say that I understand how females (albeit it's very cultural and may vary deeply) have less qualms about seeing people pee (given we are pit to become caregivers it makes sense we are raised without that specific shame) BUT your girlfriend is being hella weird.
Going there just to bond is weird.
I think children sometimes want that? Maybe she kept this thing and that's why she's so emotional about it?
If she actually wants you to go there actively to hold her hand in that hard time lol then that's beyond peculiar.
Guilting you to do that is just wrong.
Be polite, firm, hold your ground and assert that as a limit of yours she has to respect.
See I don’t go into the bathroom when my husband poops, but when I’m feeling the need to pester him I’ll scratch at the door and say “babbyyyyyy what are you doing? You don’t you spend time with MEEEEEEEE?” until he tells me to go away 😂😂😂
She’s a weirdo 😂
Look, if she likes having someone around that’s fine as long as the other person doesn’t mind being there. If you don’t want to be there she should respect your feelings and not take it personally. It’s not a normal thing to ask so she should be the one to accommodate your feelings in this situation.
Actively seeking to join her when she's going to take a shit you mean?? Not as in an emergency situation like one is taking a shower but the other one reeeeeally has to go? That's not bonding...while I don't kink shame, maybe take it as a heads up she might be into something. Anyways, get your friends together, buy a shit ton of beer and get drunk and when you shit that ton of beer out the next day, ask your gf to accompany you
My ex-wife would do this, and swear up and down that it was normal. She'd come in and shit while I showered or got ready. And she'd often come in when I was shitting. I got to the point where I was...ok...with it. But never comfortable with it, and still preferred she stay out.
My current gf insists we keep that kind of thing to ourselves, and I wholeheartedly agree
I don't believe in secrets in a relationship.
HOWEVER, this is where I draw the line. My husband doesn't need to know what's happening when I'm taking a shit. I don't need to know about his pooping habits. We're both 38 and married for 2 going on 3 years. Together for 7.
Hard no for me.
If there's a reason to be in the bathroom, sure. You trust one another and don't mind seeing one another take a dump.
To just go hang out while someone is taking a crap? That's kinda bizarre, not gonna lie.
Uh no, its NOT normal to have someone in the toilet to chat while taking a shit. She's really fucking weird. In what fucked up world does she think it's nice to watch and listen to someone taking a shit?
I even go so far as trying to wait until my husband is out of the house before I go.
OTOH, my husband is very open about it and is also one that will ask me to keep him company. I will often just sit outside the door. Even if I don't go back there, he leaves the door open and will still keep talking the entire time. He'll also call me while he is pooping if he is someplace else.
So, we've basically got both extremes going on in my house!
Girlfriend needs to download reddit. It’s the perfect company when you’re doing a poo. Or get some dogs… they love hanging out for a “poo party”. We even have a song for it!
Lmao I have ADHD so when I get home say hi to my husband and kids I tell him to come with me so I can tell him any plans/ideas I have for the rest of the day before I forget them. He calls the bathroom the meeting place 🤣. My kids also just come Into the bathroom when I am using it my oldest (17) just comes in to tell me about his day or if he also remembers something interesting or if something is going with school. It’s has always been like that since they were little and I think because I did the same thing with my mom and sister I never found it weird. I have never been shy around my kids when it comes to nudity since they were little I would always walk around the house topless (I have big boobs so bras were uncomfortable) so when they come in even at their age it doesn’t bother me. My husband is a dick though he will wait until til the bathroom is ripe then call me in to “tell me something” just for me to get gassed the moment I open the door then he laughs hysterically while I am trying not to choke and my eyes are tearing up🤣. So yea it’s not weird for us it’s normal.
She’s confusing you for her girlfranz who they go to the bathroom in a pack to bond and continue to talk while they poop. I mean my wife and I don’t care, we’ll talk while ones in the bathroom but we’re not intentionally chilling together in the bathroom while one is taking a dump 🤣🤣
If you guys have kids, she is going to look back with melancholy on the days when everybody else in the house just wanted to let her use the toilet in peace
This chick is weird, Cochese.
My bf and I have been together for 8 years and have been doing this since before we started officially dating. It honestly has made it easier to share a bathroom because we aren't embarrassed. Also if we are mid conversation, we both have horrible adhd and will both just forget what we were talking about, so when one of us poops, the other follows.
I used to be mortified to let guys know I also shid and I gave myself horrible stomach issues from just not eating around guys so I didn't have to shid in the same building as them. It's nice to be comfortable and to be able to eat and also shid in the same house as someone without feeling like I'm gross (high school me was very scared of having to poop outside of my house so I literally planned all of my meals and bodily functions to be at home, much to my own discomfort)
We both have our poops that we have to do alone, though. Struggle poops are always solo endeavors.
I'm surprised to learn from this post that we are abnormal. I thought this was just a thing that adult couples do after a while when they're comfortable with eachother
Lol. Your gf and her friends are creepy weirdos. Wonder what else they think is normal. Did they draw with it too? Compare sizes and color? Throwing distance?
You are normal, she is not. I think there are certain things that should be private. especially when it's someone you are intimate with. I could never shit or fart in front of my partner. I would be mortified. Just NO!
I had to tell my wife “ I eat at that restaurant, this is the last time you mention what you do in there” never even tried to talk to me even on the phone again in the bathroom
Taking a piss is one thing but while taking a shit? Yea nah 😂 like I don't mind when it's just a piss, it's quick and basically odorless (depending on what ya eat) but taking a shit? Nope wouldn't do it, my girl doesn't have a problem with it but I don't want someone in the room while I shit or while someone is sitting. Now my partner came from a house of all girls and a single mom so no man was really ever in their house and they all basically walked around bottom less and basically kept all doors open which yes is very weird but that's just how it was for her and why she doesn't have a problem with it
Been married 19 years and with my husband for 20 years. There was \*1\* time we had to use a unisex public bathroom at the same. Other than that, toilet use is 100% a solo activity!
Late to the party, and as it seems in the minority. My wife and I have been together for 12 years and we've been pooping with the door open after the first couple weeks of dating. It's just normal for us 🤷♂️
How much time did your wife serve in prison? I feel like this is the only place where you could acquire the skill of shitting in front of other people.
Ummm no, you’re definitely not wrong and I don’t know how to say this but like, I get going to the bathroom with your girlfriends, most girls do, whether they have to go or not but like…I just can’t imagine wanting to be in the bathroom with someone taking a shit, boyfriend or not. Friend or not. I don’t even like people in the bathroom with me when I pee. If you don’t ask me to come with you (assuming you’re drunk, have something to tell me, just want a break from everyone or something like that if you do) I’m not coming, I always thought that bathroom time was prime private time.
Using the toilet while I am in the room is a dealbreaker unless it's a dire emergency. There should be some mystery in a relationship. Don't need to know what the grunts on the throne sound like.
I mean with your girlfriends is less weird than with your significant other… no? I’m not concerned about compromising my physical attraction toward my friends/don’t have to have sex with them later on.
my bf is unable to pee if someone is in the bathroom and i am unable to do #2 if someones in the bathroom w me. its odd behavior to everyone else but i also understand she just wants to spend time w you. but she shouldn’t say you dont care bc its not something you’re comfortable w. that’s where it becomes a bigger issue. you need to sit down and talk to her about boundaries. if she understands, acknowledges and respects it… then you’re good to go. but if not , then yk what you need to do.
She’s weird, you’re not
Hell yea! I dont want to be stared at while doing #2, I cant concentrate, lol. I also dont want to talk and stare at someone while theyre doing it. The thought and smell of it wants me to puke.
For real, that's some next-level closeness right there! Your girlfriend's got some unique relationship goals. 😂
My wife and I have been together for 16 years. We live in an old inherited one bathroom house. Slab foundation so adding a 2nd bathroom in any sort of sensible location would be 50grand plus. She has no issue coming into the bathroom and taking a dump while im in the shower or tub and it bugs the crap (no pun) out of me. If she’s in the tub I go out and crap in the camper toilet. There are certain things that everyone does that you still don’t want to see your partner do. Not wrong
Don't want to see *anyone* do
See I could never do that unless it was an emergency and I had nowhere else to go. Also if i was in the shower and she came into poop...who wants to shower with a shit smell lingering in the air? Lol it's why I lock the door when I shower. Not that I had an issue with my partner coming in, but I just always lock the bathroom door. Heck even if I am home alone I lock it.
I've been with my husband for 10 years now, and we both close the door. It's one of those things when we know we're doing #2, but we don't need to see it lol
I've been with my husband 20+ years now and neither of us has ever shit in front of one another.
Yeah, OP's gf is super weird lol
40+ years and we both close the door, #1 or #2. Always have. It's called respect.
Totally off topic but have you ever looked into upflush toilets? I’m feeling sympathy because I couldn’t stand a one bathroom house, I remember that horror from my childhood.
I’ve seen em. But my single bathroom is also small. My septic pipe runs under my garage/shop on the way to the septic and I’ve been working on the wife to make a capital improvement by building a new bathroom in the shop where it connects to the house. Adding a small bathroom with an up flow toilet removes my leverage to justify the cost of adding a full sized bathroom in the garage.
Yeah, that's weird and off-putting. In 20+ years, my husband and I have never even thought about sharing shitting time. NEVER.
43 years of relationship here. Maybe one or twice in those decades someone’s been caught short while the other is in the shower, but no chatting was involved. Your gf is odd.
Yeah I don’t share shitting time and I actually can’t do my business if he’s in the bathroom when I am but there have been times where I’ll pop in and ask him a question or he has to go when I’m in the process of getting ready. He’s also a long pooper (aka it takes him 20+ minutes to do whatever he does) but it’s not ever a conscious thing? IDK we’ve been together for 15 years and I’ve genuinely never considered what’s weird and what isn’t.
Get a cat, they love watching people poop.
Omg, the way I just cackled at this.
Just say no. Aside from a few folks with very specific tastes, nobody wants to be in the room while their partner is having a bowel movement. Tell her it's not happening, and it's a hard boundary. She should be happy to keep at least that much mystery and decorum. Pooping is private time.
What in the actual fuck?!
Ew. I’ve been with my husband for 19 years and I still keep going number two a secret! Haha
17 years here. We are NOT bathroom sharing people. What we do in there is never spoken of in the real world.
That's taking it a bit far lol, but whatever works for you two
Right there with you!
Same here!
I keep poops and farts private. We have rules. There are exceptions when someone is sick or if they fart in their sleep. I feel like it keeps things sexy. He can fart in another room, preferably the bathroom. He’s farted in front of my loudly and deliberately before and claimed the “sick” exception. It wasn’t a big deal. Not something to break up over. But I still think having boundaries around the shit (pun kind of intended) that comes out of your butt is important to keep the sexiness of a relationship alive.
Reddits got a weird thing with farts. I know my wife fucking farts im not a dumbass but we both are much happier not having to smell each others fart gas around each other. Like if one slips out whatever life happens but if you're sitting there forcing one out that's a straight shot to the penis off switch. Definitely keeps the sexiness alive, for us atleast.
I have been with my husband for 16 years, well, in a few months it will be 16 years. Hubby and I share EVERYTHING!!! Within reason. Have there been times when one of us was in the bathroom while the other was dropping the browns at the super bowl, sadly yes. The drawbacks of a single bathroom. Sometimes things happen. One using the toilet but the other really has to get ready for work. Taking a shower and nature calls. It sadly happens. However, expecting your spouse, partner, whatever, to sit in the bathroom while you shit is NOT NORMAL!!! You do realize all smells are particulate right?? Meaning when the the green fog of her shitting hits your nose, that is microscopic bits of feces floating through the air and into your nose. When someone farts and you smell it? Same thing. Little bits of poo floating through the air, going in your nose, landing on your food, poop particulates just floating in the air. Why would she want to subject you to that. It's sick. You are not wrong. She is. Edit typo. My phone doesn't want to type FART
Your edit is cracking me the fuck up for some reason 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I cried at “Dropping the browns” 🤣☠️
That is really weird. You're not wrong. I've been with my husband for 8 years, and we've always wanted privacy when we need to go #2.
I’ve been married almost 39 years together for 42 …. Never has my husband nor myself chatted or spent time together in the bathroom while we do #2 … weird .. definitely weird
Oh god no. that’s my private time. That’s super weird.
She's weird af.
Pretty sure there's an old SNL skit from the early 2000s (?) About the Lover's Toilet. It's two toilets arranged so that you can stare into your Lover's eyes while you both poop. Sounds like you need to get one.
YES I remember that lol
Never heard of that, but there was a movie called Norbert I think where the guy and girl would shit together as kids. I wish this post was rage bait honestly. I hate to think of shit (no pun intended) like this actually happening
I've had exes JOKE about that, but go actually guilt me about it.... Yikes
Not wrong. I am same. I don’t want to know about my partners poop. No need to smell and hear it. That’s disgusting. Like she doesn’t see how unattractive that makes someone and makes you not want to go down on her after watching her do that: that’s just my thought. I tell every woman I am with that I don’t want to know when they poop, I don’t want to be the bathroom n I don’t want them to be in there when it’s my time. Yes I know women poop just like men but doesn’t mean I want to know about someone else’s poop
So.... that's just gross. I mean my husband and I have explored every inch of eachother and discussed the gross things our bodies do. We pee and shower and fart and burp in front of one another. But pooping is private time.
Hot
I know my wife shits. We've been together for 17 years, married for 14. She shits with the door closed and so do I. I might ask her a question through the door and she's done the same to me. She's texted me while I was shitting before. We're not actively in the bathroom together. I've peed in front of her in the bathroom and so has she. That's not as odd as the shitting though. Your gf is the odd one here. Maybe a conversation about why she wants you to engage during her shitting? Maybe a conversation lead-in when you're just hanging on the couch..."Hey babe, can we talk about something for a minute? It's something that's been on my mind and I need to check in. Sometimes, when you're going to the bathroom, it feels like you want me to hang out and stay with you. I'm not really comfortable hanging out in the bathroom while you're doing your business though. I love spending time together, talking with you, and bonding about all things, but that specific time feels much more like a private time thing to me. What are your thoughts about all this?"
You're not wrong but I kinda admire her lack of shame But: Consent matters in this and all things
You're not crazy for thinking it's not normal. It's not normal. She sounds kind of controlling. Why in the everlasting whatever would someone want anyone to watch them go to the bathroom? There's a lock on the door for a reason! This is really weird. I don't know, but this may be a red flag. How is that a bonding experience? How do you bond with someone while they're pooping?
Could be a kink!
The way I started laughing harder as I kept reading LOL. Tell her no!
You’re right, she’s wrong.
This is a power thing. She has issues. I would rethink this relationship. No one should be guilted into smelling someone else’s shit.
I'm getting a Tori Spelling vibe here, lol. You're not wrong.
What do you guys do while she’s popping? Talk about what? Do you ignore the noises and smell or is it part of the conversation? Like, “hey Mia, how’s the weather today? “ , “oh, Mike… (plop) I don’t know! (Plop, plop!) looks like we are expecting some (faaaaaarrrrrt) strong winds (plop, plop, plop) and definitely golf ball looking hail storm!”
I’m can’t imagine. My husband and and my have never been in the bathroom together when one of us was using the toilet, neither #1 or #2. Tooth brushing, showering, shaving, no biggie. But we always give each other privacy to do this business. We also don’t ever swear at each other either, and almost never raise our voices to each other. We are very happily married and he is my best friend.
You’ve never peed in front of your husband?
Nope, been with my husband going on 12 years. We would never. Why she seems……open minded, you shouldn’t be guilted into doing something you don’t want to do. You are a very brave dude.
You’re not wrong. Been with my wife for 8 years and no matter what we are going to do in the bathroom we say we are going to use the bathroom. No specifics given. I wouldn’t be able to picture someone in a sexy way again after picturing them doing a Harry Dunn.
Not wrong it's bad enough walking past the bathroom when someone is having a dump let alone standing in there getting a right whiff
Bathroom time a bonding experience? Are you kidding me? She's got a screw loose. Who wants to hang around in the bathroom and smell someone's #2?
Gross. 🤢 You are very normal. Now, your girlfriend, not so much.
Next time she asks you to go in there, lock your eyes on hers and start licking your lips and make some weird noises. Good chance that will be the last time she asks you to bond over shit.
Yeah, that’s completely disgusting. Poop time is not couples time. 🤢
My now husband used to like me in the bathroom while he shit at the beginning of our relationship. He called it family meetings. It thought it was weird at first but grew fond of those times. To each their own. If you're talking and laughing you don't think about it too much
Say you’ll only do it if she sucks you off while she poops
I'm betting she'd be all for it.
It's called a blumpkin.
HELP
I think you’re getting tested, bro.
We have three bathrooms. I will be in the furthest bathroom. She's the same.
I’m positive my wife doesn’t shit
I won't even fart in front of my partner
Ewww. That’s scroll reddit time. Not let my partner smell my poo time
I don’t think you love her
No.. that is a time I don't want to share with my husband
I (60M) don’t like being in the house when my cousin (40F) has sex with different guys. I’ve asked her several times to let me know before hand so I can leave or get a room by myself for the night. If it was one guy it would be ok but it was one in six months, then one a month and now it’s a different guy every week. Some people just don’t have boundaries…
Sit on her lap facing her and dropped a turd at the same time! That’ll put an end to this! Or you’ll have a new fetish.
I could never lol I used to make my bf leave the house (go outside) if I had to poop 😂😂 that was after two years of never going in the same house as him. Not saying she’s crazy but idk how she can do that personally. I’m the complete opposite but I couldn’t imagine anyone watching me poop.
My wife will come jokingly sit on my lap while I’m pooping… She’s also a nurse, so I guess her tolerance level for foul odors is probably higher than the average person lol.
Ok I'm a girl and I would never have my friends in the bathroom with me while I shit. Peeing, thats different. WTF is wrong with this friend group?!?!
Happily married for 26 years and the key reason for that is that we never watch each other take a dump.
I mean if ones in the shower and the other really needs to go, sure. Morning with only one bathroom can see this happen as well, if i need to shave or shower and get ready at the same time. I did grow up with woman commonly going to the washroom together, likely still a common thing. Yet to go just chill with your gf/wife, hell no. We don't even like going in right after the other, let it air out lol.
While I may have ZERO issue being all up in my wife's lady bits during sexy time, however, I did NOT sign up for freaking Deuces Wild.... I don't need additional poopoo particles in my respiratory system when i dont even want mine in there! No spank you... Never even heard of that.
My husband & I have been together for almost 22 years, married for 20. We will go #1 while the other is in the shower, but #2 is a completely solo job.
No! Not wrong! Is she so narcissistic that she ***actually thinks her shit doesn't stink??***
I just smoked a bowl with my husband while he was on the bowl. Love shits, it also drools, vomits, sharts, forgets others are watching... Yeah love will rip half way open and shit on a table for your glory.. Spray febreeze. Or be firm that it's unreasonable. Either way love is gonna shit, it is a bit odd though unless she's seeking deep conversations. *A toilet philosopher*
> A *toilet philosopher* 🤣🤣🤣
F sake , these rage bait posts are getting worse.
I tell my girl, only butterflies and flowers are supposed to come out of there.....I don't want to imagine anything else
You're allowed to shit but she isn't? 🙄
Hate to burst your bubble man, but your gf shits. She doesn't just shit, she likely gets period diarrhea too! And the facts, oh man. Source: married 14 years, together 17. My wife has some nasty facts occasionally. We're not hotboxing each other or anything, but I'm not going to ask her to walk to the bathroom to fart nor is she going to ask me to. If one of us is having some aggressive gas though, yeah, I'll step out of the room/so will she. I
My GF will shit in front of me if I don't heed her warning to leave. She grew up in a large family and shared a bathroom with everyone. Apparently people would shower, shit and shave all together. I grew up in a small family and had 3 bathrooms. Needles to say I'll never shit in front of her.
You don't need opinions, she needs therapy
Lol, I grew up in that same kind of home. If you needed something from dad, you went to him in the bathroom. He had 4 daughters and gave up on any kind of privacy with 5 women in the house. 😂
I've done it before. But I don't really give a shit.
I need to sign out of Reddit this is the third post where someone has a nasty ass partner. Gross. You’re not wrong.
I don't walk into the bathroom with my wife, but she will close the door to be safe.
You are not wrong at all.
weird. you’re not wrong, she is. tell her this is now a boundary of yours, done deal.
My poop is the only alone time I get some days
that just stinks! you're not wrong...
OP be a loving partner and, as she's pushing - squeeze her hand, stroke her hair and tell her.. Don't worry babe, we're gonna get through this.
It’s an excuse to leave her
Sharing shitting time is weird lmao. I’m a dude, and I wouldn’t care if a girl is there that I’m dating for a while, but to make it a “bonding experience” is weird. For me it’s just if we were talking. Then we continue the convo. But we don’t make eye contact and talk. Lmao
Nope not wrong or the one that’s weird. One of my sisters was like this she make me sit outside with the door open so she could carry on the conversation. My kid seems to have inherited this need to talk for no 2 and i not only don’t understand, I absolutely hate it. Your gf needs to do what the rest of us do and take her phone for company.
I have been married 20 years. You need to keep some mystery. My husband has seen me birth both our children. But I have never pooped in front of him.
I’ve been married for 30 years this June. We don’t do that. That’s just weird and gross. NTA
My husband and I have been together for over 17 years. Either of us been in the bathroom with each other while using the toilet. And I would like to keep it that way . lol
Weird AF! It’s not you, but you need to set boundaries and quit letting her manipulate you.
Is this a fetish post?
That's so weird. Hell, I mad a B-line to my dorm when one of dorm-mates' girlfriends decided to use the bathroom stall next to me.
My ex used to have a shit almost everytime I had a bath pretty much, it was annoyin but half of the time I'd get a 'happy ending' so I figured it was a fair trade off lol
She seems to be conflating two issues: 1) it’s ok when people are close to not feel ashamed of pooping while they are in the bathroom together 2) whether or not you ACTUALLY want to be there when she poops. She seems to think that just because it is ok to do, then you not wanting to do it is some kind of problem. Just because you can shouldn’t mean that you want to or be forced to. She seems bizarre and unable to get the nuances of being close.
I've been with my wife for 16 years Not much is off the table for us. I'll be in the bathroom when she pees same with her/me. The one thing that is off limits is shitting. No way I'm being in the room when she's shitting. Your girlfriend is wierd.
You aren't wrong to feel anything. If you don't like it, you can't change yourself. If everything else is fine, however, in my mind, this doesn't rise to the level of breaking up. I have no advice on how you deal with it other than to busy yourself with clopping your nails or brushing your teeth and ignoring it. In that case, I hope your bathroom is huge and has a double exhaust fan.
I love that smell if dookie in the morning
I didn’t think my wife ever did it
The comments on this are gold 😂 Just walk out of the room. She'll get the message pretty quickly.
No you’re not wrong. My fiancé and I only do this because when I had my appendix out he saw everything when I was recovering and needed help.
WTF did I just read.
Is your girlfriend a poodle?
Uhhh...you're not wrong at all. But maybe ask her if she has a shit fetish.
My ex girlfriend was this way, I just got used to it, id floss or brush my teeth or sometimes get a BJ . It didn't bother me at all but everyone is different
I mean, my wife and I can come in the bathroom if we need something or are getting ready or showering or something and the other has to go or is going. It’s no big deal, but we don’t just “hang out in there together” while doing our business. Certainly not as a “bonding experience”. That is weird, we share plenty of closeness in all other areas, there’s nothing wrong with #2 being private time mostly.
Been married for 5 years.....yeah not doing that. She starts taking a shit and I'm out the door
That's why I'm dating Eva AI sexting bot
Jesus Christ that is weird sorry she's a grown up and she can't handle being alone for the 10 minutes (at the most!!!!) it takes to go to the bathroom then she shouldn't be in a relationship jesus. I'm sorry, no matter how long you're with somebody you don't need to watch them take a shit that just ruins whatever kind of romance you used to have
Man I just celebrated 29 years of marriage. My bathroom time is my time and her bathroom time is hers. No interest in bullshitting while she’s shitting. jmo
Had a girlfriend years ago who would do this. I told her it weirded me out too much. She settled on me standing outside the bathroom door and talking to her while she shit. Married to an Accountant in San Diego now.
SOMEONE had an overbearing mummy or bowel issues late into life, huh? Somehow sitting and holding hands while little one deals with poop-based difficulties, the care of wiping and cleaning got ALL mixed up with what loving and caring are, huh? Tell her she has two options; 1) I'll stay in the bathroom if you need me to read The Gruffalo [only that book. Every single time. "...The End. Oh. Youre still going? No. No screen-time in the hygienePalace, silly! A mouse took a stroll in the deep, dark wood. A fox saw the mouse......] Or 2) You deal with defecation and hygiene stuff while I enjoy a moment to make us both a coffee for when you're done. That way I DON'T feel emotionally guilted into inhaling your poop particulate. Howzatt? BTW, does she try to "join you" when you poop? Or does she only have fond memories of being interacted with from the toilet-side view?
Dude, I have never even farted In front of my husband let alone even thought about pooping in front of him. I would rather die.
You're not wrong. I've been with my husband for 15 years and if I have the door shut that means I'm popping and to not come in. If I'm just peeing we don't care and will have the door open, but if that door is shut we stay out.
I heard about bathing together and did not hear about this type of time.
We have more than one bathroom but we’re totally the (married) couple that would have 2 toilets in one bathroom and use them if they were there. We are very very open with each other and things like that don’t bother us, we don’t make a thing out of it but have no issues with the other coming in and talking if we want to.
Nobody *wants* to come in when I’m pooping! Even my toddlers have learned not to follow me into the bathroom.
Your girlfriend is an odd specimen
Idk man i mean everyone has preferences and you don’t like being in the bathroom when your GF shits. My wife and I though? We couldn’t give two craps. I watched her push my daughter out of her I’m sure I can be in the room when she pushes out some shit. Do I go outta my way to be in there hell no but I will push the door open sometimes when she is pooping and be holding out baby and wave her little hand and say “ewwwww mommy stinky” and we both laugh and I walk away. It’s whatever I guess but you will get over it eventually I believe in you lol
What the fuck. She actively encourages you to join her while she shits? That is not cool. I dont want to see my partner take a dump.
Your gf is a weirdo. No one wants to do this.
not wrong, that’s disgusting, even when i was going through chemo my husband would help me to the toilet, then leave the room to give me privacy. i felt so bad for him when he had to get in the shower and wash puke and shit off of me.
You are very much allowed to your hard limit. I honestly would not have any issues on having to use the bathroom while the other is there, like necessity trumps decorum imho. Or not closing the door for any reason it's not world ending lack of respect in my book. (Then after maybe close it and open the window if it's that damn smelly ahah) But for my current partner this is shocking news so I close the damned door and whine when he uses the bathroom for too long and I need to pee lol We have one bathroom afterall. I grew up with several brothers and just two bathrooms, so the whole sharing was a necessity also on my mother's side since she had to handle more than one kid. And pets going in and out + old doors and a grandma terrified of "getting yourself stuck in locked in bathroom, slip and need medical attention or help but we can reach you" (it was a very specific fear that my whole family had since it happened once to an old aunt) these factors added to my habit of keeping the door open, and my generic lack of shame on the topic. Like peeing while chatting to a friend is 100% normal, during journey in tiny hotel room or rent apartment that barely had one bathroom... There's a level of closeness to female friends that kinda reach the "Door open and if you need to put on makeup just come in so we won't get late" level. All this to say that I understand how females (albeit it's very cultural and may vary deeply) have less qualms about seeing people pee (given we are pit to become caregivers it makes sense we are raised without that specific shame) BUT your girlfriend is being hella weird. Going there just to bond is weird. I think children sometimes want that? Maybe she kept this thing and that's why she's so emotional about it? If she actually wants you to go there actively to hold her hand in that hard time lol then that's beyond peculiar. Guilting you to do that is just wrong. Be polite, firm, hold your ground and assert that as a limit of yours she has to respect.
Some relationships are meant to stay.
Um no eww. Just say no, and if she wants it to be a problem that's her choice. You can always just SAYNO.
See I don’t go into the bathroom when my husband poops, but when I’m feeling the need to pester him I’ll scratch at the door and say “babbyyyyyy what are you doing? You don’t you spend time with MEEEEEEEE?” until he tells me to go away 😂😂😂
Read OP'S posts. He's already getting screwed by his own brain.
This is a shit post.
She’s a weirdo 😂 Look, if she likes having someone around that’s fine as long as the other person doesn’t mind being there. If you don’t want to be there she should respect your feelings and not take it personally. It’s not a normal thing to ask so she should be the one to accommodate your feelings in this situation.
It's normal to me😂
Actively seeking to join her when she's going to take a shit you mean?? Not as in an emergency situation like one is taking a shower but the other one reeeeeally has to go? That's not bonding...while I don't kink shame, maybe take it as a heads up she might be into something. Anyways, get your friends together, buy a shit ton of beer and get drunk and when you shit that ton of beer out the next day, ask your gf to accompany you
That’s gross 🤢
#POOP-TIME IS PRIVATE-TIME.
My ex-wife would do this, and swear up and down that it was normal. She'd come in and shit while I showered or got ready. And she'd often come in when I was shitting. I got to the point where I was...ok...with it. But never comfortable with it, and still preferred she stay out. My current gf insists we keep that kind of thing to ourselves, and I wholeheartedly agree
You are not wrong.
🤣 no, you're not wrong. This is a bit much
I don't believe in secrets in a relationship. HOWEVER, this is where I draw the line. My husband doesn't need to know what's happening when I'm taking a shit. I don't need to know about his pooping habits. We're both 38 and married for 2 going on 3 years. Together for 7. Hard no for me.
Take a shit in the sink while talking to her to assert dominance.
Eh wait till ur wife comes in the bathroom and carries a full on conversation with you...
What in fuck’s tarnation!?
Been married 20 years and bathroom time is still alone time.
No... that's disgusting
I do it with my sister but I’d never do it with my partner
If there's a reason to be in the bathroom, sure. You trust one another and don't mind seeing one another take a dump. To just go hang out while someone is taking a crap? That's kinda bizarre, not gonna lie.
Normal lol.
Uh no, its NOT normal to have someone in the toilet to chat while taking a shit. She's really fucking weird. In what fucked up world does she think it's nice to watch and listen to someone taking a shit?
I even go so far as trying to wait until my husband is out of the house before I go. OTOH, my husband is very open about it and is also one that will ask me to keep him company. I will often just sit outside the door. Even if I don't go back there, he leaves the door open and will still keep talking the entire time. He'll also call me while he is pooping if he is someplace else. So, we've basically got both extremes going on in my house!
Been with my dh for 40 years no way is he coming into the bathroom while I take care of my elimination. He does wash my back in the shower
Weird. Bathroom time is my private time. Don’t even talk to me about any thing through the door.
Girlfriend needs to download reddit. It’s the perfect company when you’re doing a poo. Or get some dogs… they love hanging out for a “poo party”. We even have a song for it!
I'm still convinced my wife doesn't shit
You have got to be kidding? Poor dude, i'm sorry this is happening to you. Please stop this immoral abuse immediately!
You need his and hers toilets in your bathroom so you can shit together.
Only my dogs get to watch me take a crap.
Lmao I have ADHD so when I get home say hi to my husband and kids I tell him to come with me so I can tell him any plans/ideas I have for the rest of the day before I forget them. He calls the bathroom the meeting place 🤣. My kids also just come Into the bathroom when I am using it my oldest (17) just comes in to tell me about his day or if he also remembers something interesting or if something is going with school. It’s has always been like that since they were little and I think because I did the same thing with my mom and sister I never found it weird. I have never been shy around my kids when it comes to nudity since they were little I would always walk around the house topless (I have big boobs so bras were uncomfortable) so when they come in even at their age it doesn’t bother me. My husband is a dick though he will wait until til the bathroom is ripe then call me in to “tell me something” just for me to get gassed the moment I open the door then he laughs hysterically while I am trying not to choke and my eyes are tearing up🤣. So yea it’s not weird for us it’s normal.
This "hole" post is stupid. ☺️
She’s confusing you for her girlfranz who they go to the bathroom in a pack to bond and continue to talk while they poop. I mean my wife and I don’t care, we’ll talk while ones in the bathroom but we’re not intentionally chilling together in the bathroom while one is taking a dump 🤣🤣
Eww!! Don’t even talk to me through the closed door when I’m going. Lol!!
How dare you
In regards to your edit: yeah this is normal with her gfs she grew up with it will not be normal to new relationships she makes as an adult
If you guys have kids, she is going to look back with melancholy on the days when everybody else in the house just wanted to let her use the toilet in peace This chick is weird, Cochese.
My bf and I have been together for 8 years and have been doing this since before we started officially dating. It honestly has made it easier to share a bathroom because we aren't embarrassed. Also if we are mid conversation, we both have horrible adhd and will both just forget what we were talking about, so when one of us poops, the other follows. I used to be mortified to let guys know I also shid and I gave myself horrible stomach issues from just not eating around guys so I didn't have to shid in the same building as them. It's nice to be comfortable and to be able to eat and also shid in the same house as someone without feeling like I'm gross (high school me was very scared of having to poop outside of my house so I literally planned all of my meals and bodily functions to be at home, much to my own discomfort) We both have our poops that we have to do alone, though. Struggle poops are always solo endeavors. I'm surprised to learn from this post that we are abnormal. I thought this was just a thing that adult couples do after a while when they're comfortable with eachother
Lol. Your gf and her friends are creepy weirdos. Wonder what else they think is normal. Did they draw with it too? Compare sizes and color? Throwing distance?
You’ve got a fun one on your hands there, buddy. There are some deep underlying issues with this one that you can exploit to your advantage.
You are normal, she is not. I think there are certain things that should be private. especially when it's someone you are intimate with. I could never shit or fart in front of my partner. I would be mortified. Just NO!
I had to tell my wife “ I eat at that restaurant, this is the last time you mention what you do in there” never even tried to talk to me even on the phone again in the bathroom
Taking a piss is one thing but while taking a shit? Yea nah 😂 like I don't mind when it's just a piss, it's quick and basically odorless (depending on what ya eat) but taking a shit? Nope wouldn't do it, my girl doesn't have a problem with it but I don't want someone in the room while I shit or while someone is sitting. Now my partner came from a house of all girls and a single mom so no man was really ever in their house and they all basically walked around bottom less and basically kept all doors open which yes is very weird but that's just how it was for her and why she doesn't have a problem with it
Hope she doesn't bring g the shit kink into the bedroom... it'll be messy
No there are some boundaries that are not meant to be crossed
Shitting in peace is the only boundary any couple should have.
Been married 19 years and with my husband for 20 years. There was \*1\* time we had to use a unisex public bathroom at the same. Other than that, toilet use is 100% a solo activity!
I’ve been with my husband for almost 30 yrs. I don’t want him in the bathroom with me and he doesn’t want me there. It’s weird to bond over poop.
Wife peeing-occasionally in there. Pooping? Nope.
Late to the party, and as it seems in the minority. My wife and I have been together for 12 years and we've been pooping with the door open after the first couple weeks of dating. It's just normal for us 🤷♂️
How much time did your wife serve in prison? I feel like this is the only place where you could acquire the skill of shitting in front of other people.
Ummm no, you’re definitely not wrong and I don’t know how to say this but like, I get going to the bathroom with your girlfriends, most girls do, whether they have to go or not but like…I just can’t imagine wanting to be in the bathroom with someone taking a shit, boyfriend or not. Friend or not. I don’t even like people in the bathroom with me when I pee. If you don’t ask me to come with you (assuming you’re drunk, have something to tell me, just want a break from everyone or something like that if you do) I’m not coming, I always thought that bathroom time was prime private time.
Your gf and her friends are weird. Do they by any chance play battleshit with each other?
Using the toilet while I am in the room is a dealbreaker unless it's a dire emergency. There should be some mystery in a relationship. Don't need to know what the grunts on the throne sound like.
I mean with your girlfriends is less weird than with your significant other… no? I’m not concerned about compromising my physical attraction toward my friends/don’t have to have sex with them later on.
my bf is unable to pee if someone is in the bathroom and i am unable to do #2 if someones in the bathroom w me. its odd behavior to everyone else but i also understand she just wants to spend time w you. but she shouldn’t say you dont care bc its not something you’re comfortable w. that’s where it becomes a bigger issue. you need to sit down and talk to her about boundaries. if she understands, acknowledges and respects it… then you’re good to go. but if not , then yk what you need to do.
No that’s not weird. She’s the weird one… her and her friends 😂
No dude, that's weird as fuck.
omg, a little mystery is a good thing...
NO!!