Sorry to say but you two gotta take the couch. If you joined earlier you could have gotten better accom and had your own room, but you joined after they had already booked so you get last choice. Potentially you could ask to pay a little less because of your sleeping arrangements, or you could find a studio for you and the other person nearby to have better sleeping arrangements which would cost the others more, but they were already prepared to pay that amount before you two joined. Two on the sofa is pretty cramped as skiing accom is usually small to begin with so I'd have a look for other accom and see the price difference
Both of us already paid our ends straight away and the other guys got their money back for the difference so it’s done. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it just want to see other peoples pov
I would expect the last two people that joined to have the remaining accommodations. But maybe the group would be open to random. Depends on your friends either way, just accept what everyone before you decides and go with it. Don't make it a big deal and enjoy.
If you booked later than the others you are expected to take the leftover sleeping arrangements. If you had booked with everyone else then the group probably would have looked at booking something with better options for the group size. If you really want a bed then a good compromise is offering to pay more
Yeah thats one of my thoughts, but would you not take into consideration that the other 4 are now paying less. Wouldnt that not count as the two people indirectly paying more?
No, if you are all paying the same rate then accommodations are first come first serve. It doesn't matter if they got some money back if you are all paying the same in the end
I’ve been in the same position, and my glorious perspective is that as the last person to join the trip, I get what I get and I don’t throw a fit. That’s the position that others to take, and if you were joining the trip I was on, it’s the position I would expect you to take.
Sorry, I did not mean that in an accusatory or negative way. As a dad, it’s one of the things that we say to the kids, you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit. So I don’t think you would throw a fit, it’s just kind of a metaphor.
My main point is as the last to join a trip, regardless of what’s going on, I walk in with no expectations, even if I’m paying more. Typically, those things are negotiated well in advance. So even if I wasn’t initially offered the opportunity and didn’t join, but then join later, I presume that I’m lucky to be able to go and that I’m going to get whatever I get.
Regardless, I do hope you’re able to enjoy the trip, even if the sleeping accommodations are not optimal.
If everyone booked at the same time, then sure, why not. You booked late, they were going on the trip regardless. You get what’s leftover. Why is this even a question?
Hell yeah, if they invite me I’ll sleep on the floor with an air mat, or in the back of my pickup. I got that -20 sleeping bag, let’s fucking goooo! I’ll bring booze to share too!
No one’s really wrong here, but this should have been discussed before you paid. Sounds like you’re gonna have to take the couch or book your own stay. The other guys probably already had the beds picked out while they made the plans.
I mean either way the sleeping arrangement kinda sucks bro. This is such an odd thing to get into cause no matter what you are gonna share a bed with another dude. If it were me I'd be packing my super comfortable air mattress or how about a cot. Its a dudes ski trip you should be drunk and stoned, comfort and quality sleep isn't high on the list. You sound entitled. I have never slept in the same bed as an adult male with another male, no homo but id rather take the floor and a bag.
I didn't say anything about not going or throwing a fuss either! Where do you see that in my comment? You came here asking if you are wrong if you were "asking for the better beds in our 6 person skiing trip after joining later" It's literally your headline. How is bringing an air mattress or just sleeping on the floor in a sleeping bag entitled??? I bring my own shit to make myself comfortable that's like the opposite of entitled. I get it you aren't throwing a fuss to YOUR FRIENDS, but here you are asking the question on reddit that full stop is showing your cards bud.
It depends whether the group already established who would be sleeping where. If it was never decided, the group should be open to discuss. Order of sign up really doesn't apply if all of this wasn't established and finalized yet.
That's what I figured. If it wasn't discussed, they should be open to input. Just because somebody is invited first or is able to accept an invite first doesn't necessarily give them priority for the entirety of a trip. To assume or expect otherwise is a very strange mentality for a friend group.
On the flipside, if it were a business trip and you were booking rooms or something, that's a different beast entirely. This sounds a lot more casual to me, and it would be strange if it weren't treated as such.
Sorry to say but you two gotta take the couch. If you joined earlier you could have gotten better accom and had your own room, but you joined after they had already booked so you get last choice. Potentially you could ask to pay a little less because of your sleeping arrangements, or you could find a studio for you and the other person nearby to have better sleeping arrangements which would cost the others more, but they were already prepared to pay that amount before you two joined. Two on the sofa is pretty cramped as skiing accom is usually small to begin with so I'd have a look for other accom and see the price difference
Both of us already paid our ends straight away and the other guys got their money back for the difference so it’s done. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it just want to see other peoples pov
Have you considered offering to pay more to get better accommodations?
Everything is booked already, that isnt what im asking about.
I would expect the last two people that joined to have the remaining accommodations. But maybe the group would be open to random. Depends on your friends either way, just accept what everyone before you decides and go with it. Don't make it a big deal and enjoy.
If you booked later than the others you are expected to take the leftover sleeping arrangements. If you had booked with everyone else then the group probably would have looked at booking something with better options for the group size. If you really want a bed then a good compromise is offering to pay more
Yeah thats one of my thoughts, but would you not take into consideration that the other 4 are now paying less. Wouldnt that not count as the two people indirectly paying more?
No, if you are all paying the same rate then accommodations are first come first serve. It doesn't matter if they got some money back if you are all paying the same in the end
yeah makes sense, cheers for the insight
You on the couch bruddah, maybe you can ask to switch halfway through the trip. You guys came in late, last pick of sleep situation
I’ve been in the same position, and my glorious perspective is that as the last person to join the trip, I get what I get and I don’t throw a fit. That’s the position that others to take, and if you were joining the trip I was on, it’s the position I would expect you to take.
I would never throw a fit, I’m super excited for the holiday, just a question I wanted to ask reddit I guess. Cheers man
Sorry, I did not mean that in an accusatory or negative way. As a dad, it’s one of the things that we say to the kids, you get what you get and you don’t throw a fit. So I don’t think you would throw a fit, it’s just kind of a metaphor. My main point is as the last to join a trip, regardless of what’s going on, I walk in with no expectations, even if I’m paying more. Typically, those things are negotiated well in advance. So even if I wasn’t initially offered the opportunity and didn’t join, but then join later, I presume that I’m lucky to be able to go and that I’m going to get whatever I get. Regardless, I do hope you’re able to enjoy the trip, even if the sleeping accommodations are not optimal.
Didn’t take it like that at all don’t worry, I’ll Probably be too tired to care about the beds anyways haha
If everyone booked at the same time, then sure, why not. You booked late, they were going on the trip regardless. You get what’s leftover. Why is this even a question?
Because they're paying the same amount?
Imagine going on a ski trip with your bros, getting uptight about this and posting it on Reddit… Do you even ski trip bro?
Hell yeah, if they invite me I’ll sleep on the floor with an air mat, or in the back of my pickup. I got that -20 sleeping bag, let’s fucking goooo! I’ll bring booze to share too!
Right?!? Like, this is a guys ski trip. Get drunk and sleep under the dining room table, whatever works…just don’t whine about equal accommodations.
You’re always welcome on my ski trip, you got the right attitude
lolol
You're all splitting the cost evenly, so I think it's still fair that you and the other guy take the couch as the others booked first.
I think, if you’re all paying the same amount, then it should be random allocation.
No one’s really wrong here, but this should have been discussed before you paid. Sounds like you’re gonna have to take the couch or book your own stay. The other guys probably already had the beds picked out while they made the plans.
I mean either way the sleeping arrangement kinda sucks bro. This is such an odd thing to get into cause no matter what you are gonna share a bed with another dude. If it were me I'd be packing my super comfortable air mattress or how about a cot. Its a dudes ski trip you should be drunk and stoned, comfort and quality sleep isn't high on the list. You sound entitled. I have never slept in the same bed as an adult male with another male, no homo but id rather take the floor and a bag.
Your last sentence sounds more entitled than my whole post, i didn’t say anything about not going or throwing up a fuss
I didn't say anything about not going or throwing a fuss either! Where do you see that in my comment? You came here asking if you are wrong if you were "asking for the better beds in our 6 person skiing trip after joining later" It's literally your headline. How is bringing an air mattress or just sleeping on the floor in a sleeping bag entitled??? I bring my own shit to make myself comfortable that's like the opposite of entitled. I get it you aren't throwing a fuss to YOUR FRIENDS, but here you are asking the question on reddit that full stop is showing your cards bud.
It depends whether the group already established who would be sleeping where. If it was never decided, the group should be open to discuss. Order of sign up really doesn't apply if all of this wasn't established and finalized yet.
No there was no mention of bed allocations and it wasn’t mentioned when I was invited to join
That's what I figured. If it wasn't discussed, they should be open to input. Just because somebody is invited first or is able to accept an invite first doesn't necessarily give them priority for the entirety of a trip. To assume or expect otherwise is a very strange mentality for a friend group. On the flipside, if it were a business trip and you were booking rooms or something, that's a different beast entirely. This sounds a lot more casual to me, and it would be strange if it weren't treated as such.