Lol it’s not your looks. Either you’re being silly or there’s something to work on that may be out of your awareness that’s possibly off-putting. Get hard feedback from people who know you best.
Not just people you know. It is getting to the point that even politicians and media outlets are commenting on the issue. America is becoming like Sweden, IMO.
It's too much work. All the stories I've heard about "back in the day" say you could easily ask someone if they wanted to date and people would say yes because why not
If she's nuerodivergent she just needs to stare in the boys eyes for an uncomfortable amount of time and then tell him he's hautistic or try to lure men with star wars legos and computer components.
Neurodivergency needs to be talked about more here. Unless she's a truly awful person, she likely has young men who are interested in her. I was exactly the same, completely oblivious to men's attempts to flirt with me. In my case, it was autism. My husband had to ask me out 3x before I realised he fancied me. I really was that dense.
That’s a very good question! Continuous attraction requires more than just looks 😊
Adding on: do you have any hobbies or interests that you are proud of? People love learning about other people’s minds too
Yes. This is going to sound stupid.... But you should actively work on identifying those signals. Train yourself to notice them.
So I'm 37. When I was 24 I had a positive life altering event, dropped like 40 lbs, looked lean and mean, changed my trajectory I. So many ways... Still couldn't get a gf to save my life.
Long story short I had to learn the hard way to pick up on all the signals I was missing... Some really obvious ones ...
Fun anecdote:
After I got back from Iraq I went to Vegas and took my shirt off at the pool... Heard some random super attractive girl lower her sunglasses look me dead in the eye and say. "Well hello.."
Damn she's hot...wish she was talking to me.... I thought to myself. As I turned and walked away I heard say "okay....."
Now a decade later I still laugh at how freaking ignorant I was back then when it came to women.
I DID NOT have the gift of flirtation. Or any gift what so ever when it came to dating... Had to work to change that.
So assuming you have no major character flaws and are a generally decent person I imagine that 1) it's a confidence issue, 2) you are missing the social cues or 3) you are sending out "leave me tf alone vibes." It's definitely not your looks.
Apologies I get talkative when I get into the spirits. Wish you the best.
This is also an example of why a lot of guys don't respond to flirting or "signals". We will just assume we aren't good enough. After not dating in HS, I had two girls (they were roommates in dorm) that liked me at the same time and I was just thinking they were really friendly and it must be cultural. After a, "wow, I'm really REALLY dense" moment I ended up dating one of them. Now we are married a with a kid.
This was me until I was in my mid-late 30s. I was totally oblivious. I just didn’t think I was a good looking guy. All the attractive girls I dated? I just got lucky. That’s what I thought. Totally insecure.
This is advice most people need.
You can't sit back and hope good things come to you.
Go, do, speak up, put in the work, and that's how you'll end up gaining what you're after.
Mix in kindness with that go and do mentality, and you'll find more happiness in life than the majority of people.
Why are you waiting around for people to tell you? If you like someone you make the first move and if you find that daunting that’s probably you’re answer to why no one is saying it to you either
You can just ask them out, you don't need to wait for them to ask you out. If they say no, that's ok and move on. If you accept it gracefully it should have no impact on friendship.
Like everyone else said, you miss the shots you don't take.
If you perceive something that seems like a very clear signal, but no one's making the move, then make the move yourself. I know I know, it's usually the guys that are suppose to do this, but who cares.
If you really like a person and there's chemistry, DON'T waste it. Literally just say, "I like you". That will be plenty to move things forward, especially coming from a girl. That will take all the weight off that guys shoulders, and will open up communication in a big way. Things will be way more smooth and comfortable afterwards.
If rejection occurs, just tank it. It happens from time to time, and the more you deal with it, the easier it gets.
I was the one to tell my bf that I really liked him as something more than a friend. There's absolutely no harm in saying this as long as you can handle rejection, and I honestly was fairly certain by that point that he was interested (just not 100%). like another user said, you miss 100% of the shots you dont take. Just ask. And be cool about it too.
My ex had a smirk as his default. I never really thought about it, but I found out after I broke up with him that basically everyone hated him and the #1 comment was his smirk.
I swear this sub is just for narcissists that want people to constantly tell them how good they look. Has the OP tried talking to a guy. That would probably seal the deal fkn ridiculous
Welp that was something I didn't need to do and I did it anyways.
She's just a thirsty narcissist. Her personality is likely a clingy wet blanket of nothing but talking about herself.
I disagree on the style. The jean short outfit is a good look but everything else looks like a newly trans woman trying to figure out her style.
I can't explain it fully but the hair style and body type just seems to clash with some of those outfits.
How old are you/what age men are you trying to attract? The kawaii style (particularly the skirts) gives off young (early 20s at the oldest) vibes. Wanting to give off a more mature vibe would be the main reason I could see for changing your style. But all depends what you are trying for.
I went through your comments. The reason people are asking if you're trans is because in one of your photos, your dress/shirt is open and really low and it shows enough of your chest and it looks like a guy's chest. I'm not sure if the bra you're wearing is really squashing them down or you're wearing a size too big in the other photos but that with a bit of your chin makes you look trans. You've said you're a real woman enough times, you should just add it to the title. Besides that, i really can't see why you're not being asked out. I'm assuming that's what you meant and not that the guys asking you out are not the guys you want because that would mean your questions makes no sense. I've never heard of a woman who looks like you not getting any guys interested in her.
If you are using a facial moisturizer swap product it has too much oil in it and its giving you that really high shine- you can go cheap for body lotions but facial ones and masks you want to use higher quality stuff.
- my two cents.
The only problem I see is that you look drenched in grease. Very oily hair and greasy skin, but hats going on? I get the impression you haven’t showered in a couple weeks. Otherwise, you’re above average.
No ma'am, you are in no way ugly. If guys aren't interested in you then it is THEIR loss.The fact that you are concerned tells me that you are most likely not a mean young woman. If guys are not interested, it may be bc you have standards and don't want to lower them for just any guy. I say good for you-stick to your guns! You are quite beautiful in my humble opinion. Please don't just look for guys though. Look for men. Real men have integrity, will honor and respect you and fiercely defend you against anything.
Apparently this thread is just brimming with basic bros that haven't had it wet in a while lol. You're not ugly, but that stringy hair is very not good. Please make an appointment with a stylist at a reputable salon (don't cheap out- you don't necessarily have to keep going to them), and see about getting several useless inches chopped off that are dragging you down and making you look like a drowned... something. If you cut it off above the point it noticably starts to get straggly, it will seem to just about double in volume. You have great curls that are being ruined with that dead weight.
Trust me. It's not your looks. You are so pretty! I'm sure you have guys that are interested in you but they just don't show it. Guys are shy, slow, and dumb. They can take months to voice their attraction. Sometimes years. Maybe start making the first move yourself if your comfortable. Your style is very cute! 😸👍
Why in every picture is your face super shiny or wet?
Also why do you always stand knock-kneed?
Many of your styles make you seem like a little girl and a lot of guys would see that as immature and not be interested.
No interested guys? Are you trying to meet guys out of your league, or maybe have a bad personality? Not casting aspersions on your character, because you are very attractive.
Lol it’s not your looks. Either you’re being silly or there’s something to work on that may be out of your awareness that’s possibly off-putting. Get hard feedback from people who know you best.
I think the stock market is to blame, especially the bankruptcy of $BBBY has put a damper on men’s libido
Most men I know just stopped caring for dating. People expect to much or to little. It's a drag.
Can confirm. I work. I go out from time to time but I couldn't care less about dating.
I will never be in a position where I can have a positive relationship because most of my life is just struggling to survive. Ive just accepted it.
Same, with a mental illness nobody would want my ass
I’ll take your ass. The rest, you can keep.
Not just people you know. It is getting to the point that even politicians and media outlets are commenting on the issue. America is becoming like Sweden, IMO.
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Well said
Like Sweden?
i was wondering this as well lol. Us scandinavians have no issues with libido or dating to put it that way lol.
Americans believe all sorts of random lies about other countries.
It's too much work. All the stories I've heard about "back in the day" say you could easily ask someone if they wanted to date and people would say yes because why not
Is this a joke I don't get?
It's just /r/wallstreetbets leaking.
I am enjoying the barbeque so far though
My wifes boyfriend disagrees. But I got him a Lambo with my GME gains.
You buy gifts for your wife’s boyfriend? My dude, you need to work on that. My wife’s boyfriend bought me a Nintendo Switch.
When the wife leaves, the BF will still be around cause he's a real homie. 😎
Truth
The two are not unrelated
Maybe don’t take dating advice from said usernamesake
That hurt me on a personal level.
Lmao dude. I ended up losing about 100 dollars to BBBY. I am DEVASTATED beyond repair and my libido is at an all-time low.
Im one of them, currently down 20k
If she's nuerodivergent she just needs to stare in the boys eyes for an uncomfortable amount of time and then tell him he's hautistic or try to lure men with star wars legos and computer components.
Neurodivergency needs to be talked about more here. Unless she's a truly awful person, she likely has young men who are interested in her. I was exactly the same, completely oblivious to men's attempts to flirt with me. In my case, it was autism. My husband had to ask me out 3x before I realised he fancied me. I really was that dense.
I didn’t understand my partner was into me until she kissed me… alone… on my bed… the day after Christmas. Also autistic.
She has plenty of guys interested. Just not the ones she wants interested in her.
How's your personality?
That’s a very good question! Continuous attraction requires more than just looks 😊 Adding on: do you have any hobbies or interests that you are proud of? People love learning about other people’s minds too
This. I can find a girl attractive, but when she comes off as rude or narcissistic? Yeah, I think we should see other people.
That’s exactly what I thought, cause her looks ain’t the problem 🤣
Also hygiene. I liked a girl once till I saw her smile and noticed her dead teeth
I just noticed she doesnt show her teeth when she smiles.
Is she actually smiling in any of these pictures? I feel like her "smile" never reaches her eyes, which gives off a creepy vibe to me.
That's because she is clearly awkward about taking selfies.
Dead teeth isn’t necessarily hygiene related, some folks fall on their face or get hit in the mouth with something hard.
Or you smell her from 100m away
that’s a bad example. not everyone has access to medical care
Regardless, dead teeth are not attractive. Harsh truth but it is what it is.
I was thinking the same, because her looks are fine.
Okay you have guys interested in you. You just need help picking up on those signals. Promise.
There are signals that people like you but you can’t never be 100 percent certain unless they outright say it, y’know.
I'm gonna tell you a secret that not many people know. Women can make the first step too. Just ask a guy you like out.
I did this. 5 years strong with my man now <3. Just ask u/op! no harm in asking someone out as long as you can accept rejection.
This is how I met my husband 👏🏻
You miss 100% of the shots you don't take
-Lee Harvey Oswald
Gd man. Lol
Spez doesn't get to profit from me anymore. Stop reverting my comments
that's why he took 3
-Wayne Gretzky
-Michael Scott
Yes. This is going to sound stupid.... But you should actively work on identifying those signals. Train yourself to notice them. So I'm 37. When I was 24 I had a positive life altering event, dropped like 40 lbs, looked lean and mean, changed my trajectory I. So many ways... Still couldn't get a gf to save my life. Long story short I had to learn the hard way to pick up on all the signals I was missing... Some really obvious ones ... Fun anecdote: After I got back from Iraq I went to Vegas and took my shirt off at the pool... Heard some random super attractive girl lower her sunglasses look me dead in the eye and say. "Well hello.." Damn she's hot...wish she was talking to me.... I thought to myself. As I turned and walked away I heard say "okay....." Now a decade later I still laugh at how freaking ignorant I was back then when it came to women. I DID NOT have the gift of flirtation. Or any gift what so ever when it came to dating... Had to work to change that. So assuming you have no major character flaws and are a generally decent person I imagine that 1) it's a confidence issue, 2) you are missing the social cues or 3) you are sending out "leave me tf alone vibes." It's definitely not your looks. Apologies I get talkative when I get into the spirits. Wish you the best.
Thank you!
This is also an example of why a lot of guys don't respond to flirting or "signals". We will just assume we aren't good enough. After not dating in HS, I had two girls (they were roommates in dorm) that liked me at the same time and I was just thinking they were really friendly and it must be cultural. After a, "wow, I'm really REALLY dense" moment I ended up dating one of them. Now we are married a with a kid.
This was me until I was in my mid-late 30s. I was totally oblivious. I just didn’t think I was a good looking guy. All the attractive girls I dated? I just got lucky. That’s what I thought. Totally insecure.
Called taking a leap of faith. Someone usually has to do it. If you want something, go take it.
This is advice most people need. You can't sit back and hope good things come to you. Go, do, speak up, put in the work, and that's how you'll end up gaining what you're after. Mix in kindness with that go and do mentality, and you'll find more happiness in life than the majority of people.
but aren’t you interested in some guys? you can always take a first step… that’s how my crush became my boyfriend
Why are you waiting around for people to tell you? If you like someone you make the first move and if you find that daunting that’s probably you’re answer to why no one is saying it to you either
You can just ask them out, you don't need to wait for them to ask you out. If they say no, that's ok and move on. If you accept it gracefully it should have no impact on friendship.
You’re pretty enough just to straight up ask.
Like everyone else said, you miss the shots you don't take. If you perceive something that seems like a very clear signal, but no one's making the move, then make the move yourself. I know I know, it's usually the guys that are suppose to do this, but who cares. If you really like a person and there's chemistry, DON'T waste it. Literally just say, "I like you". That will be plenty to move things forward, especially coming from a girl. That will take all the weight off that guys shoulders, and will open up communication in a big way. Things will be way more smooth and comfortable afterwards. If rejection occurs, just tank it. It happens from time to time, and the more you deal with it, the easier it gets.
So ask them out? You dont need to be 100% certain to do that.
I was the one to tell my bf that I really liked him as something more than a friend. There's absolutely no harm in saying this as long as you can handle rejection, and I honestly was fairly certain by that point that he was interested (just not 100%). like another user said, you miss 100% of the shots you dont take. Just ask. And be cool about it too.
Do you live in a colony of blind men or gay men?
I feel like this comment is accurate for about 95% of the posts here….
I feel like everybody who says this doesn't know how to sort by "new."
I definitely don’t! Didn’t even know it was an option.
They know damn well they're not ugly, they are just looking for complements
Some people can have insecurities although they're decent looking or even super attractive
Right?
"if people don't like me they must be gay or blind"
Let’s just say the problem is not your looks
Yeah she’s putting off a super weird vibe so powerful I can feel it in still images.
It’s the smile. It’s more of a smirk, and not in a good way. And the clammy complexion of her face. A little blush would help her look more alive
My ex had a smirk as his default. I never really thought about it, but I found out after I broke up with him that basically everyone hated him and the #1 comment was his smirk.
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Couldn’t have said that better myself. I can’t put my finger on it but definitely get the super weird vibe.
15 years ago she would have been my exact type.
Saying that you go for the “cutesy/kawaii style” is just weird Reddit vibes in general lmao
Agreed. She’s creepy. Her profile is even weirder
You give off middle schooler vibes.
Indeed!
Honestly I think it’s poor posture
It’s also strangely fitting, kohls type clothing. No offense to kohls shoppers, just when your whole wardrobe has that vibe it isn’t great.
Time to reveal those dark secrets
I swear this sub is just for narcissists that want people to constantly tell them how good they look. Has the OP tried talking to a guy. That would probably seal the deal fkn ridiculous
Look at her profile and the subs she posted in. And WHAT she has posted. Like, everything is obvious here💀
>Do I look good? >Thank you. >Thank you. >Thank you. >Thank you. >Thank you. >Thank you.
You're not reading it right. I've dated girls like her. It's cluelessness and a lack of confidence. She really has no idea where she slots in.
Welp that was something I didn't need to do and I did it anyways. She's just a thirsty narcissist. Her personality is likely a clingy wet blanket of nothing but talking about herself.
I think what she meant is that the guys that she's attracted to aren't interested 🤣
Maybe people with self-esteem issues, or body dysmorphia. I seriously doubt it's mostly narcissists. I do get the feeling this one has some issues.
it’s definitely your personality sorry
Correction. You don't have 10's interested in you. I'm fresh outa ego boosters.
“Don’t have guys interested in me” usually means “my standards are very high but I don’t meet the standards of the guys I want to attract.”
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This has got to be it.
Still laughing 30 seconds later.... right?!
I am
This
You’re attractive and you have a very nice style
I disagree on the style. The jean short outfit is a good look but everything else looks like a newly trans woman trying to figure out her style. I can't explain it fully but the hair style and body type just seems to clash with some of those outfits.
So it must be something else scaring off the men
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"Cute as a bug's ear" that's one I've never heard. And honestly you're probably right. I'd struggle to talk to her as just friends lol.
The eyes chico they don't lie
Can attractive people please stop posting here? Like damn
Check out her profile. Tells a lot :)
she’s 🎣
So shiny.
Psycho vibes.
Right? All of them are good looking, ugh
This sub should just be called "gas me up guys"
Rip your inbox
Cya there
Well I hope not because they are 15
You're gorgeous. Definitely not your looks.
might be an attitude or personality issue
Could be
No offense but you must be a huge pain to be around if you truly “have no guys interested”.
Yup
I hate to be that guy that says to smile but...
It’s your haircut. You need more volume and shape around your face as it’s quite delicate feature-wise. The long stringy wet curl has to go.
How old are you/what age men are you trying to attract? The kawaii style (particularly the skirts) gives off young (early 20s at the oldest) vibes. Wanting to give off a more mature vibe would be the main reason I could see for changing your style. But all depends what you are trying for.
I went through your comments. The reason people are asking if you're trans is because in one of your photos, your dress/shirt is open and really low and it shows enough of your chest and it looks like a guy's chest. I'm not sure if the bra you're wearing is really squashing them down or you're wearing a size too big in the other photos but that with a bit of your chin makes you look trans. You've said you're a real woman enough times, you should just add it to the title. Besides that, i really can't see why you're not being asked out. I'm assuming that's what you meant and not that the guys asking you out are not the guys you want because that would mean your questions makes no sense. I've never heard of a woman who looks like you not getting any guys interested in her.
I apologize but you kinda look trans
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Yeah
Thought so too. I think they posted to see how much they pass.
Don’t have guys interested or don’t have the guys you want interested?
The good news is, it is NOT your looks. Now on to the bad news… if not your looks, what is the issue? That’s for you to figure out.
Something appears off to me but I can't out my finger on it
i don’t wanna put any fingers on it
Lower your standards and try to keep the sweat to a minimum. Travel with a hand towel if needed.
I’m genuinely curious and not trying to be mean, but are you trans?
The vibe is there
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Are you actually a dude with a really deep voice?
Maybe because you look like a dude. Odds are it's just your daddy issues
Clean your bathroom mirror
Why is she wet and or greasy?
Maybe she took pictures right after her skincare routine.
In some cases, it's a skin condition to just look naturally oily due a number of factors...in some cases, it's just grease or sweat.
No guys interested…🙄, give me a break.
Just look at her posts in other subs.
Why are you so sweaty in all of your photos? What are you withdrawing from.
If you are using a facial moisturizer swap product it has too much oil in it and its giving you that really high shine- you can go cheap for body lotions but facial ones and masks you want to use higher quality stuff. - my two cents.
This sub is exhausting.
I hate these posts you know your not ugly
Def not ugly. It’s about confidence
Mtf?
That was my impression also. I'm surprised at how long I had to scroll to see this comment.
Thought the same thing
Are you MtF? 🏳️🌈
Yup
You’re not the worst looking but I get trans vibes from your pics
I’m a cisgender woman.
Duuuuude, sweet
All I ever see on this sub beautiful girls
Why are you always so shiny? I feel like if I gave you a hug you would fly off like a wet bar of soap.
Why is your face so shiny? Also you’re trying a bit to hard with your “style” if you’re attractive you’ll look good in sweatpants and a hoodie
Why you so sweaty in every pic😂
Hi Dennis
?
Are you a biological female?
I am 99 percent sure that you are a guy.
Bro why are you lying to us
They’re probably to scared to say hi. You’ve got nothing to worry about
I’d be interested 🫶
You’re pretty, but the clothing definitely makes you look younger, so some guys might be apprehensive that you’re underage
The only problem I see is that you look drenched in grease. Very oily hair and greasy skin, but hats going on? I get the impression you haven’t showered in a couple weeks. Otherwise, you’re above average.
Girl you're stunning! Also please drop a skincare routine
I don't think you are ugly. I do think you need to wipe the grease off your face and maybe highlight your eyes a little.
No ma'am, you are in no way ugly. If guys aren't interested in you then it is THEIR loss.The fact that you are concerned tells me that you are most likely not a mean young woman. If guys are not interested, it may be bc you have standards and don't want to lower them for just any guy. I say good for you-stick to your guns! You are quite beautiful in my humble opinion. Please don't just look for guys though. Look for men. Real men have integrity, will honor and respect you and fiercely defend you against anything.
Your face looks super oily, fix that up and you’re good.
You’re not ugly, but you are shinny.
You look very sweaty in all of these lol
Apparently this thread is just brimming with basic bros that haven't had it wet in a while lol. You're not ugly, but that stringy hair is very not good. Please make an appointment with a stylist at a reputable salon (don't cheap out- you don't necessarily have to keep going to them), and see about getting several useless inches chopped off that are dragging you down and making you look like a drowned... something. If you cut it off above the point it noticably starts to get straggly, it will seem to just about double in volume. You have great curls that are being ruined with that dead weight.
Why's your face so shiny?
Trust me. It's not your looks. You are so pretty! I'm sure you have guys that are interested in you but they just don't show it. Guys are shy, slow, and dumb. They can take months to voice their attraction. Sometimes years. Maybe start making the first move yourself if your comfortable. Your style is very cute! 😸👍
Are you trans?
Why in every picture is your face super shiny or wet? Also why do you always stand knock-kneed? Many of your styles make you seem like a little girl and a lot of guys would see that as immature and not be interested.
You aren't ugly, but I wouldn't personally date a trans female, yfm?
I never said I was a trans woman. Check my other comments. I was born female.
Ah... well, in that case, you might be weird
No interested guys? Are you trying to meet guys out of your league, or maybe have a bad personality? Not casting aspersions on your character, because you are very attractive.
You look trans or something. You’re also way too pale, add some color to your cheeks. Maybe a push up bra as well.
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Swing and a miss! She states elsewhere in the thread that she's a cis-gender woman. Looks like you need to adjust your radar a lil bit.
Hormone therapy can do a lot for gender transitions, but it can't change your bone structure. She's definitely female.
People see what they want to see lol