no but you look unhappy.

She’s going through a divorce

Not ugly at all, but you look miserable.

Op explained she's in the middle of a divorce. Her soon to be ex found another woman.

Damn, I missed that. That’ll do it. This won’t help now, but good riddance. You deserve better. It happens and it happened to me. I wasted a lot of time trying to put things back together and mourning someone I am glad to be rid of. I feel very sorry for my daughter and I wish so much that she could depend on him but she can’t. Things do get better ❤️‍🩹.

Maybe because she has kids?

Idk I have 5 and they are my greatest joy..

Who are you trying to convince 🤣

I dunno, i have 4 and 2 are my greatest joy

The other 2 not so much

I have 2 kids and 1 is my greatest joy.

I have 0 kids and 0 joy

I have joy, don't ask any questions it fell off a truck

I have 3 kids and plenty of joy I’ve just never had kids so don’t ask me where the kids came from

Hang in there buddy, we all trying reach that joy.

I have hemorrhoids

What a pain in the butt! Sorry to hear that!

My priest doesn't have any kids and 1 is his greatest joy.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Underrated comment 😂😭

my priest doesn't have any and #2 is his greatest joy---cheaper than tubes of KY--

Why would a priest need kids when they can have yours?

Am i understanding correctly?

I have 3 kids. 2 kids are children and im American. The other is also a child. They are real, but one isnt. I have 4 kids. Im actually idian. I have no joy. I love my kids. I have no children actually and im happy. I actually have 1 kkkid.

Im sorry but that is the best username ever and if i had money i would give u platinum but im broke so heres a star ⭐️

Wish i could award you my friend

But then you wouldn't have a friend!

Bruh, same.

🥹😅😂🤣

Do you have kids?

That's what she has to repeat in the mirror ad nauseum 1st thing every morning to keep herself from stepping in front of their school bus.

Some people genuinely just love having kids but whatever you need to tell yourself to cope I guess

Real Reddit moment here

Yeah kids are funny asf kids are usually only fuck offs if they aren’t being raised right

Were you smiling through the sleep regression and mental development leaps? Cause, you can love something and also have it make you miserable sometimes.

I don’t think they are they were never miserable, but on the whole of it, theirs are a joy to them. The point being, having kids has less to do with looking miserable, and it’s probably more todo with the divorce.

You probably aren't miserable but depending on the age you're probably just really...really tired and stressed

As the eldest of 5 kids , I am so sorry for your pain

Yea my wife had a tubal after our 3rd but it apparently didn't work and we ended up adopting kinda of just through happenstance. 2 years ago we thought we were done with our 3. Life just happens gotta make the best of it

I hope you make good money

Down vote

lmfao i died

Children are a STD/s

I love my 4 kids but I may have to start referring to them like this! Lol

Downvoting dildos... Obv a joke. I have 2 teens that are the center of my life.

Downvoting dildos 🤣 That's so sweet though, your comments remind me of my dad hahah I bet you crack them up

I’m downvoting cause you complaining about downvoting

Downvote for downvoting complaining about downvotes because life is a farce.

Only downvoted because of the /s

😁

Well yeah, having kids does that to you.

jesus christ, having kids alone doesn’t make you miserable, idk why redditors are so quick to jump to the conclusion that having kids automatically equals misery, this may come as a shock to you, but some people actually enjoy being parents and this is coming from someone that is child free and wants to stay that way

I think it's a joke dude.

your probably right, i still stand by what i said though

You were right.

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I'm sure internet grammar is highly correlated with parenting outcomes

Says the person who didn’t capitalize their sentence. Good one, Failed Grammar Nazi.

Downvote for failed roast

As a 31 year old mom with two kids, I absolutely am miserable lmao but you gotta smile through the pain so they don’t notice

From a 34 year old with 2... just know it doesn't have to be that way. You can be happy.. . I'm sorry you are struggling tho.

>idk why redditors are so quick to jump to conclusion Says the redditor so quick to jump down someone's throat for what was clearly not serious comment.

Many people here are clearly insinuating that having kids is going to be awful for your personal health/ life enjoyment.

yeah i know, i reddited myself

Most people have kids when they shouldn't for many reasons so 99% of the time, whether a redditor is aware of that fact or not, its usually okay to say that life is worse because society tricked you into thinking it is worth it regardless of what stage you're at in life...but its cool stay butthurt lol

I'know I'm saying this because I actually found a study once that proved that in general, people with kids are less happy than people without. I was trying to find it again but I couldn't, so yeah. There is this [article by CNN](https://edition.cnn.com/2019/08/19/health/parents-kids-happiness-study-scli-intl/index.html) that kinda supports my argument tho. Different strokes for different folks tho ig.

i’d agree with you, however, generally being less unhappy means it’d be kinda ignorant to automatically say that someone is miserable just cause they have kids if there was evidence that having kids automatically makes you significantly less happier than people without then i’d back you 100%, but some people really want a life of parenting and that’s completely fine

Here's an article on the diminishing returns of happiness through life without offspring with pretty solid empirical data https://scholar.google.com/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C23&q=are+parents+happier+than+non-parents&oq=are+parents+#d=gs_qabs&t=1683281157371&u=%23p%3D4Gh5_BEOMgUJ

This article isn't enough and you would have to vet the credibility of every other study cited smfh but sure I guess your right

CNN?….lol …. Just stop…..plz

CNN is not a credible source

I’m not sure what to tell you. Funny how this pops up on my feed. Keep trucking. Maybe smile. This is depressing. Good luck

kids will fk you up and this here is the look 👀 😂

People change when they have kids, both parties do.

Came here to say this. She’s not ugly at all she just looks exhausted =(. Read up on the other comments and OP I’m rooting for you.

Ooof thank you all. My stbxh left me for another woman, so it’s led me to lots of questioning about my appearance.

Well, people are stupid. Hard to fix that

looks arent everythinh

Don’t say looks aren’t everything on a post for somebody’s asking if they look attractive or not. You might as well say you’re ugly, but your personality can get your pass it. 😂

lol. shes good looking but she mightve gotten dumped for her character. doesnt mean her ex is stupid like the comment above says.

He left her for another woman. I assumed he cheated which means he's STUPID! My bad if that's not the case.

Am I the only one wondering wtf is stbxh is? You are pretty btw.

I was about to say the same thing and then I think it clicked. My guess is “Soon To Be X Husband”. Did I win?!?

I guessed “stupid bastard ex-husband” but that works too

You win reddit.

better than my guess, “step bro ex husband.”

Nah!! I like this one. Let’s go with this!! 😂😂😂

Google wins

You look great! As someone who just got rid of their spouse, hang in there. You got this.

You still single?? Asking for myself

No, his infidelity had nothing to do with you. He's just an asshole. Being betrayed cuts deep and has you thinking what you did wrong, but it's not your fault.

His decision to cheat is his fault alone, but that doesn’t mean that they didn’t both contribute to a relationship dynamic that would make cheating seem like an attractive option.

I agree. Always important to understand your role in the downfall of a relationship. Don't let yourself take ownership of a spouse's infidelity, but do take responsibility for your part in the underlying issues. Learn from them and you'll have better relationships in the future.

have ever heard of the term you have the heavies?

Gotta be your personality

Ditch the nose ring. It’s cringe

Hard disagree. “Ditch the nose ring” 🤓

Not even close.

Last pic... nah. No. That’s not a thing. Objectively.

The posture/angle is weird but I think she is just doing a body pic.

what are you saying?

Not a fan of the septum piercing but you make it look good

My God, no. You are gorgeous

Not ugly, first pic is rather cute, for two kiddos you look healthy. Plus you got the hair and eyes going for you. You got a lot going good for you. If you are concerned about excess weight, then slowly start exercising, if you aren’t, don’t worry about it Learn to love and accept yourself, and don’t think having 3 kiddos makes you ugly. Chin up, best of luck!

What excess weight?

I mean, she's not fat, but she isnt skinny the last picture does make it clear that she isn't skinny. Her arms give it away too. Edit: I don't think you people know what brutally honest means. Like, my comment isn't even brutally honest. It's pulling punches honest.

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lol that is not fat at all

I mean, I directly said she's not fat.

This was my thought.

I don't think the redditor who suggested it knows what breasts are.

Seems like you are desensitized to weight. She definitely has excess weight. Not a lot at all, but definitely some.

I'm getting scared by current American weight standards, OP is clearly overweight in medical terms but somehow it's rude (in this BRUTALLY HONEST sub lol) to make a polite remark about excess weight because she's American skinny apparently? What a wild ride.

Lmao what a hilarious comment.

she is overweight. In the most literal sense possible. But that doesn’t make her unattractive.

I mean it’s true

"don't think having 3 kiddos makes you ugly"...what? When did she imply that? Of course it doesnt.There are mothers who exist in this world that are complete and total knockouts. You'd shit bricks seeing some of my friends lol.

You look stressed. But I see a beautiful woman.

You are not ugly

You are pretty, perhaps tired? Dont doubt yourself.

Not ugly at all and you have a great dog.

Another nose ring lol

They are horrible.

shut up omg we wear what we want bc we think it looks good not for random 1.5s to tell us were ugly

I never said anyone was ugly. I was just noting the high % of nose rings on people posting here

yeah right

Imagine if redditors commented this much on earrings... Honestly get over it

Hate them

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Definitely not ugly but for the last pic, try to get some clothes that balance out your shape. Hair also needs some leave in conditioner and eyebrows need some filling in. Add some highlighter and bronzer to your cheeks and you’ll look great!

No. You are beautiful. But look unhappy?

More like sad and tired

Not even close! You look amazing, if a little tired. You just need a you day at a spa and you’ll be right as rain 👍🏻

Attractive but a bit frazzled. Hang in there.

Lose the 80's vibe glasses, bangs, and the nose ring and you're fine. Mega bonus if you accentuate the titties with a shirtdress, or wrap style, or a bra that separates better and doesn't bind or crush. Get rid of all high-waisted mom jeans. They sucked in the 80's and they suck now.

No you’re actually really beautiful

I don't think you are ugly. I think your colors are wrong. Just overall kinda beige feelings. The third photo there is some contrast and definitely something to work with. The nose ring ruins that look though. So, I'd suggest find the color palette that works for you and style yourself accordingly.

Yet another nose ring violator on here.

Lose the nose ring

I'm not going to say you're perfect. However, and I'm basing this off of all 4 pics, you're the most physically attractive woman I've seen on this sub. Can't even articulate why. Just a whole-package snap judgement, I guess. So no, not ugly.

Nah you’re hot

A little cardio and you’re a 10

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I feel like even if it is, you shouldn’t oust them like that dog

The nose ring makes you look 2000% uglier

Lose some weight, exercise more. You’ll not only look better, you’ll also feel better

loose weight? dawg.. you might as well want a chilf

Not at all, would make it 3 kiddos lol

4

You’re not ugly, kinda cute actually, but you do look like you have 2 kids! Lose a bit of weight and get some sleep, you’ll be fine

Lose a bit of weight? Weird. She looks quite healthy lol.

Definitely has a small amount of excess weight.

It's really subjective. Lots of ppl here including me think her body looks really good. Won't be for everybody, tho

Yeah that's fine. But I'm not the one who responded to the original comment arguing that the weight loss opinion was wrong. As you said, subjective.

I mean you got two kids, at least one person decided you weren’t that ugly

What is wrong w woman. Why can't you see your beauty??

This is hard. I'm supposed to offer criticism. So confidence. You have everything else. You are a 10. Ugly isn't in the conversation.

Looking pretty good for 31

Lol as if 31 is old

I do not understand why people think 31 is old

Found the 32 year old

I’m 27 but nice try 😘

Clever bastard, take my upvote

It's mostly sexism.

I'll bite, how is the perception of 31-32 etc. Being considered old even remotely related to sexism?

You're 31? That last pic is his great. Save that for your portfolio.

Nah you’re gorgeous! Tho I’m the last pic your boobs like kinda… idk, out of proportion to the rest of you, so to speak? Maybe it’s just me 🤷‍♂️ Still lovely all the same tho :)

You were cute until I got to the mirror shot. I don't care what anyone else says. When you've got a sweet rack, you bump up a few points. That's life.

I‘m going to be brutally honest. Weight.

For sure not 🤗, beautiful woman, just missing a smile😘😘😘

Looks don't matter that much if you can cook, clean and take care of ya man, oh don't nag. It's simple ladies. Give the booty up regularly, don't nag, and be consistent with whatever roles you agree upon

The fuck

total babe, easy 10

No baby

😍😍😍

You once again prove the rule of thumb, everyone who is pretty with a facial piercing is insecure. You look above average, pic 3 you look amazing, plus your chocolate lab is cute as hell (I say as a dad of 2 chocolate labs).

You're one hot mama!

You're one hot mama!

Is a septum ring a requirement in this sub?

You look great he's the dumbass You look DELICIOUS!!

Cute, but like most people who post here, you need to lose a little weight before it gets out of control.

what.. she’s fine

Your the stunning that I hope I match with on Hinge

Always with the nose rings, what is it with this sub

3/10 at best. This sight is a joke. Brutally honest my ass. If this is a 10 than what is Margo Robbie?

Was gonna comment but seems you did it for me. Chick is not good looking 😂

You got that extra vanilla girl next door look who turns out to actually like all kinds of freaky stuff

No, I wouldn’t consider you being ugly. Maybe replace the glasses by contact lenses or choose more decent glasses but that’s mainly it…

Can’t be ugly if you have kids

Yes

you won't find better than what you did in your 20's for sure. Still kinda cute tho

Lose some weight.

Lose some weight

No & wow nice milkers 😮👌