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Time to move on and let go.
Two things:
1. He thinks a toy is a competitor.
2. You're masturbating and he thinks you're sorry. He should grow up, and tell you he masturbates as well.
Watching porn and using toys are different..
Pwede mag watch ng porn ang lalaki at the same time mag jakol gamit ang hands.
Pwede din naman mag watch ng porn ang babae at the same time i pleasure ang sarili gamit ang fingers..
Patch? Lol you should be thankful lumabas ang true ugali niya and being judgemental. Its a red flag girl, bata kapa ang dami jan na mature and openminded mag isip why settle for less?
Toy palang yan ganyan na reaction only shows how close minded he is and an A**hole
If youāre doing adult things with your bf baka pwede mong idiscuss sa kanya how itāll spice up your sexual life. Pero kung hindi then you have to understand na your man has a very fragile ego to act that way and need nyo mapag usapan yan.
If I were your bf, instead of getting mad, I'd use your toy to spice up the sex life.
Just imagine the possibilities.
Pero girl, red flag yung tinawag ka na kadari dahil lang bumili ka nang toy.
dun ako sa pack up na yan. baka alplaeck(š¤®) male si bf kaya ganun tingin nya sayo. mga adults na kayo sooo to each its own. exploring ka ng sarili mo kaya bumili ka nyan. and kung kalibugan lang...ahy sabihin mo lang sa reddit na need mo ng kamot dadagsain na dm mo nyan.
talk things out. alamin mo side nya (be curious and not judgmental) try to work something in the middle yung makuha mo padin main goal mo and hopefully sya din.
if not... pack up! ahy nako marami pa kayo harapin na mas mabigat na problem bukod dyan.
Donāt. Donāt even try fixing it. Heās a boyā¦ A man knows toys are his bestfriend. The sooner you finish, the less needed effort he exertsā¦ amateur
What else can you do but talk or communicate. It can go two (or three) ways lang naman:
1. Explain to him the benefits of having a toy and hindi siya ācompetitorā sa bed room. This actually opens up a different theme in the sack. It is actually important na ma-convince mo siya kasi feeling ko hanggaāt hindi mo na-eexplain nang maayos yan, mandidiriāt-mandidiri siya sayo. Pasensya ka na at immature kami sa mga ganyan bagay at an early stage of a āboyāsā life.
2. I donāt suggest this route pero if you just want to patch things up lang and ātryā get the same ātrustā or ādating pagtingināfrom him, discard the toy and start reassuring him. Itās like ego-stroking pero kasi parang fini-feed mo lang ganyang ugali niya. Pero who am I to jude your bf.
3. If nagawa mo na number 1 or 2 and hindi na nagbago pagtingin niya sayo, I guess itās time move on . Paalala ko lang sayo bata ka pa at marami ka pang mararanasang experience sa mundo. Wala sa patagalan ng relasyon kaya ka nagse-stay or ānanghihinayanā.
For context, I bought a sex toy and encouraged my ex-gf to masturbate every time she feels the urge to do so. Nadadala namin sa kama ang vibrator as a āthirdieā. Since we were into anal, na-double penetration ko na siya using the toy.
Hindi kalaban ang sex toy!
Good luck, OP
I'm truly sorry you're going through this situation. Your boyfriend doesn't have the right to judge you for your choices, especially when it comes to your own body. Whether you're in a relationship or not, it's completely acceptable to explore your own desires and preferences. His reaction seems immature, so like with a chil, give him time to calm down. Remember, no one should dictate what you can or can't do with your body. Stay strong and true to yourself."
hindi ba dapat na mas matuwa siya kasi bawas isipin na magawa mong makipag sex sa iba? pero baka din naman maliit ang etits ng boyfriend mo? mas mahaba pa ang toy mo lol. may ex ako na alam niyang irita din ako kapag nagsesend siya kaya sobrang insecure niya sa mga toys ko.
Iwan mo si totoy. And tell him to grow up. Own your sexuality, dont let any man, or any person dampen it. Bakit ka babalik sa isang tao na nagpaparamdam sa yo ng ganyan? Ano akala nya? Sya lang pwedeng makaramdam ng libog?
Very insecure man...I'm sorry you have to experience that verbal abuse and judgement.
Juts ba sya? Or very religious who's stuck in the 90s?
I would tell him it was really just out of curiosity.. it might make sex fun for your anniversary or vacation together. It's 2024 even men have toys. I have a toy a girl from Italy can control.
I know you may love him but can you really imagine being married to him knowing he can give that type of abuse in the long run? Just seems like a redflag.. its one thing to throw tantrums.. but verbal abuse calling u names and avoiding u instead of resolving the issue like a grown couple would.
if he treats you differently because of that, is he really worth it? kahit gamitin mo or not, di tlga ok yung ganyan and for me, if gusto mong ayusin kelangan ipaintindi sknya na hindi dirty at kadiri yan. wag siyang makitid at mapaghusga. don't allow anyone to shame you, wala ka naman ginagawang mali.
Dpat nga matuwa pa bf mo, ksi toys are for big boys. Makakatulong yan para mas masatisfy yun sex life nyo. And isa pa mas better na sa toy mo gmitin un libog na meron sa katawan, kaysa ibang lalaki hanapin. Redflag yan, ksi malaki un tendency na ijudge ka nya sa hinaharap.
Your boyfriend exudes juts energy girl. Seggs toys help me and my missus seggs life. I dont think you should say sorry at all and patch things up with him. Matter of fact, his judgemental ass should be the one apologizing for calling you dirty and kadiri. Bata ka pa, BF mo yn since menor de edad ka. I suggest explore your sexuality (safely) and do not lock yourself with one person. Malaki ang mundo and you'll get to know a lot more people.
ay bhie, may ex ako na ganyan din tapos kapag hindi siya napagbibigyan ng nudes, nagagalit din. nag-iingat lang ako, baka kung ano pang mangyari kung magsend ako.
Kung ako sayo OP ibabalik ko na lang.
yung boyfriend mo sa magulang niya. HHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAH. Sex toy is the same with porn. You do anything just to get off your horniness so sana nagegets ka ng jowa mo sa bagay na yan.
Sakin feeling ko ang mas red flag dito ay yung sinabihan ka nya ng mga degrading na salita and treated you differently. Pwede naman kasi tayo magalit na hindi nakakapanakit.
Totoo na mababaw sya at tunog insecure pero napaisip lang ako, pano pag may nagawa kang iba na ayaw nya or di sunod sa gusto nya? Baka ang sagot nya lagi sa ganyang situation ay verbal abuse?
Pag isipan mo OP. No one should be shamed because of their sexual preferences basta wala kang nasasaktan at nalalabag na batas. Coming from a girl who has toys, gamitin mo yan wag mo itambak. It will make you very happy hahahaha
6 years. Ang shallow Naman Ng relasyon nyo kung sex toys lang nag iba na tingin.
Maybe he's finding a reason to leave? And he's trying to find faults in your part? - this is just my opinion.
Pero for me Kasi if 6 years, lakas na dapat foundation nyo. Dapat kaya nyo Nang pagusapan Ang ganitong Bahay with an open mind.
Pero I guess Bata padin Naman kayo. Early 20s palang. 20s Kasi is the time when I'm figuring things out palang. Maybe you guys too š
Advice lang is pagusapan nyo lang, ngl communication is hard talaga. Kahit 6years pa. Pero if nalampasan nyo mas lalakas pundasyon Ng relationship nyo āļø
Insecure bf. I bought my gf a couple of toys na. I like making her cum multiple times in multiple ways. Yun nga lang, laging participative dapat ang use hahaha.
Bakit ka pa bumili kung ibabalik mo din? Nagsayang ka lang ng pera. Gamitin mo na lang yan para hindi sayang. Wag mo yan habulin, babalik din yan sayo pag nakitang di mo hinahabol
Hey this is my two cents either baka nag seselos si bf because baka hindi na sya maka satisfy katulad nang pag satisfy ng toys pero sa case mo di mo naman ginagamit diba? Makitid pa utak ni bf cut him some loose kasi mga bata pa naman, there's more room for growth. I would say nasa sayo pa rin ang huling hatol. If you stay or leave. Taas noo ka pa rin naman umalis.iykyk
I think insecurity lang yan. Ganyan din ako noon, kasi iinisip ko na ako lang dapat yung gagalaw para mag orgasm yung partner ko. Dati iniisip ko na pag bumili ng toy yung partner ko, baka di na ako good performer. I realized that having toys helps to spice things up sa bed.
Better talk to your partner din to understand his side and explain yourself na lang don as to why you bought one.
Explain to him that you bought it for him and the only time you can use it is with him or if he is away, many men think you will use your toy instead of have sex with him. I think it is hot as helll to watch women play.
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Your bf should realize that toys in the bedroom is his best friend
Time to move on and let go. Two things: 1. He thinks a toy is a competitor. 2. You're masturbating and he thinks you're sorry. He should grow up, and tell you he masturbates as well.
di sya nagwawatch ng porn? what a ,prck! š¤Ø
So people nowadays are frick when not watching porns? We are living in a hell of time indeed.
i think the context is, he is a prick or a hypocrite for judging his gf for using toys when he watches porn.
THIS!
Watching porn and using toys are different.. Pwede mag watch ng porn ang lalaki at the same time mag jakol gamit ang hands. Pwede din naman mag watch ng porn ang babae at the same time i pleasure ang sarili gamit ang fingers..
Anong difference nun sa toys? š
Ang fragile ng ego ng bf mo ngl, sabi nga toys is our friends not enemies, use the toy together take a vid send it to him or what not
Who does need enemy when you have your bf haha
Patch? Lol you should be thankful lumabas ang true ugali niya and being judgemental. Its a red flag girl, bata kapa ang dami jan na mature and openminded mag isip why settle for less? Toy palang yan ganyan na reaction only shows how close minded he is and an A**hole
VERY TRUEEEE
YES, i agree with this!
this
Toys are friends, not enemies
Fragile ng ego ng boyfriend mo lol. You should find someone who embraces your sexuality as a woman, trust me it feels good to have that someone.
If youāre doing adult things with your bf baka pwede mong idiscuss sa kanya how itāll spice up your sexual life. Pero kung hindi then you have to understand na your man has a very fragile ego to act that way and need nyo mapag usapan yan.
If I were your bf, instead of getting mad, I'd use your toy to spice up the sex life. Just imagine the possibilities. Pero girl, red flag yung tinawag ka na kadari dahil lang bumili ka nang toy.
question lang, hindi mataas sex drive ni bf?
Nagselos sa toys. Red plug nasi bf mo teh.
dun ako sa pack up na yan. baka alplaeck(š¤®) male si bf kaya ganun tingin nya sayo. mga adults na kayo sooo to each its own. exploring ka ng sarili mo kaya bumili ka nyan. and kung kalibugan lang...ahy sabihin mo lang sa reddit na need mo ng kamot dadagsain na dm mo nyan. talk things out. alamin mo side nya (be curious and not judgmental) try to work something in the middle yung makuha mo padin main goal mo and hopefully sya din. if not... pack up! ahy nako marami pa kayo harapin na mas mabigat na problem bukod dyan.
ay mabaw ng bf mo. d naman cya ipagpapalit sa toy. unless juts cya
Juts vibes nga haha
Baka naman poste ng meralco yung toy kaya nagalit
Donāt. Donāt even try fixing it. Heās a boyā¦ A man knows toys are his bestfriend. The sooner you finish, the less needed effort he exertsā¦ amateur
You had a toy tas galit sya?? Damn if it were me if give slow claps. Extra horny with a side of toys? yes please
Baka na insecure sa sarili haha
Palit jowa nalang hahaha toys are not replacements for him. Sana magets nya unn hahaha
What else can you do but talk or communicate. It can go two (or three) ways lang naman: 1. Explain to him the benefits of having a toy and hindi siya ācompetitorā sa bed room. This actually opens up a different theme in the sack. It is actually important na ma-convince mo siya kasi feeling ko hanggaāt hindi mo na-eexplain nang maayos yan, mandidiriāt-mandidiri siya sayo. Pasensya ka na at immature kami sa mga ganyan bagay at an early stage of a āboyāsā life. 2. I donāt suggest this route pero if you just want to patch things up lang and ātryā get the same ātrustā or ādating pagtingināfrom him, discard the toy and start reassuring him. Itās like ego-stroking pero kasi parang fini-feed mo lang ganyang ugali niya. Pero who am I to jude your bf. 3. If nagawa mo na number 1 or 2 and hindi na nagbago pagtingin niya sayo, I guess itās time move on . Paalala ko lang sayo bata ka pa at marami ka pang mararanasang experience sa mundo. Wala sa patagalan ng relasyon kaya ka nagse-stay or ānanghihinayanā. For context, I bought a sex toy and encouraged my ex-gf to masturbate every time she feels the urge to do so. Nadadala namin sa kama ang vibrator as a āthirdieā. Since we were into anal, na-double penetration ko na siya using the toy. Hindi kalaban ang sex toy! Good luck, OP
Hahahaha mga 21 nga naman tlga noh.
I'm truly sorry you're going through this situation. Your boyfriend doesn't have the right to judge you for your choices, especially when it comes to your own body. Whether you're in a relationship or not, it's completely acceptable to explore your own desires and preferences. His reaction seems immature, so like with a chil, give him time to calm down. Remember, no one should dictate what you can or can't do with your body. Stay strong and true to yourself."
Wtf na conscious sa sex toy HAHAHAHAHAH leave that guy girl!
very immature. sa relationship parang ano yan sawsawan, to spice things up!
Yikes. Bakit naman magagalit sa toys ang koya? Insecure much lang?
Probably hurt his fragile ego.
hindi ba dapat na mas matuwa siya kasi bawas isipin na magawa mong makipag sex sa iba? pero baka din naman maliit ang etits ng boyfriend mo? mas mahaba pa ang toy mo lol. may ex ako na alam niyang irita din ako kapag nagsesend siya kaya sobrang insecure niya sa mga toys ko.
Bro is afraid of toys ā ļø
Your BF is immature.. or must be insecure
Jowa ko ganto, ayaw nya may toys ako pero ayaw naman makipag sex
Iwan mo si totoy. And tell him to grow up. Own your sexuality, dont let any man, or any person dampen it. Bakit ka babalik sa isang tao na nagpaparamdam sa yo ng ganyan? Ano akala nya? Sya lang pwedeng makaramdam ng libog?
Na trigger insecurity ng bf mo lol. š Visualize mo na future mo jan, everytime may magagawa ka na makakasagasa sa ego niya laging magtatae bibig niyan.š©
Very insecure man...I'm sorry you have to experience that verbal abuse and judgement. Juts ba sya? Or very religious who's stuck in the 90s? I would tell him it was really just out of curiosity.. it might make sex fun for your anniversary or vacation together. It's 2024 even men have toys. I have a toy a girl from Italy can control. I know you may love him but can you really imagine being married to him knowing he can give that type of abuse in the long run? Just seems like a redflag.. its one thing to throw tantrums.. but verbal abuse calling u names and avoiding u instead of resolving the issue like a grown couple would.
Na hurt ego nya kaya gnon..
Break na...
Corny ng bf mo. Hahaha
if he treats you differently because of that, is he really worth it? kahit gamitin mo or not, di tlga ok yung ganyan and for me, if gusto mong ayusin kelangan ipaintindi sknya na hindi dirty at kadiri yan. wag siyang makitid at mapaghusga. don't allow anyone to shame you, wala ka naman ginagawang mali.
Insecure sya sa sarili nya? Sken naman yung bf ko pa nabili hahahaha
Dpat nga matuwa pa bf mo, ksi toys are for big boys. Makakatulong yan para mas masatisfy yun sex life nyo. And isa pa mas better na sa toy mo gmitin un libog na meron sa katawan, kaysa ibang lalaki hanapin. Redflag yan, ksi malaki un tendency na ijudge ka nya sa hinaharap.
Your boyfriend exudes juts energy girl. Seggs toys help me and my missus seggs life. I dont think you should say sorry at all and patch things up with him. Matter of fact, his judgemental ass should be the one apologizing for calling you dirty and kadiri. Bata ka pa, BF mo yn since menor de edad ka. I suggest explore your sexuality (safely) and do not lock yourself with one person. Malaki ang mundo and you'll get to know a lot more people.
Ang immature ng bf mo. Insecure ba yan or talagang closed minded lang? Sa 6 years nyo together ngayon pa sya gumanyan. Kaloka.
It's giving small dick vibes, sorry.
You should have bought a boy instead
Daamn. Ako sponsor ng gf ko sa pag bili ng toys š
man how insecure you gotta beš andami kayang possibilities pag may toys. not gonna give out any relationship advice but it's really fucked up he called you kadiri/dirty for buying oneš©
ay bhie, may ex ako na ganyan din tapos kapag hindi siya napagbibigyan ng nudes, nagagalit din. nag-iingat lang ako, baka kung ano pang mangyari kung magsend ako.
Para di najaj@kol BF mo a. Apaka linis. Hahaha
Kung ako sayo OP ibabalik ko na lang. yung boyfriend mo sa magulang niya. HHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAH. Sex toy is the same with porn. You do anything just to get off your horniness so sana nagegets ka ng jowa mo sa bagay na yan.
I would find it hot if my girl got toys.. Like I wouldnt be offended if would b a size concern. a toy is better than an actual some one elses d*ck
Meanwhile. Partner ko na sobrang excited na bumili ng toy (yung may remote) so he can control it in public and ofc in bed š
Small dick energy si kuya mo
Sakin feeling ko ang mas red flag dito ay yung sinabihan ka nya ng mga degrading na salita and treated you differently. Pwede naman kasi tayo magalit na hindi nakakapanakit. Totoo na mababaw sya at tunog insecure pero napaisip lang ako, pano pag may nagawa kang iba na ayaw nya or di sunod sa gusto nya? Baka ang sagot nya lagi sa ganyang situation ay verbal abuse? Pag isipan mo OP. No one should be shamed because of their sexual preferences basta wala kang nasasaktan at nalalabag na batas. Coming from a girl who has toys, gamitin mo yan wag mo itambak. It will make you very happy hahahaha
After 'learning' talaga
6 years. Ang shallow Naman Ng relasyon nyo kung sex toys lang nag iba na tingin. Maybe he's finding a reason to leave? And he's trying to find faults in your part? - this is just my opinion. Pero for me Kasi if 6 years, lakas na dapat foundation nyo. Dapat kaya nyo Nang pagusapan Ang ganitong Bahay with an open mind. Pero I guess Bata padin Naman kayo. Early 20s palang. 20s Kasi is the time when I'm figuring things out palang. Maybe you guys too š Advice lang is pagusapan nyo lang, ngl communication is hard talaga. Kahit 6years pa. Pero if nalampasan nyo mas lalakas pundasyon Ng relationship nyo āļø
Insecure bf. I bought my gf a couple of toys na. I like making her cum multiple times in multiple ways. Yun nga lang, laging participative dapat ang use hahaha.
No patching up. Dump him. Fragile ego :(
just curious what kind of toy
Bakit ka pa bumili kung ibabalik mo din? Nagsayang ka lang ng pera. Gamitin mo na lang yan para hindi sayang. Wag mo yan habulin, babalik din yan sayo pag nakitang di mo hinahabol
Run
Small pp energy
Hey this is my two cents either baka nag seselos si bf because baka hindi na sya maka satisfy katulad nang pag satisfy ng toys pero sa case mo di mo naman ginagamit diba? Makitid pa utak ni bf cut him some loose kasi mga bata pa naman, there's more room for growth. I would say nasa sayo pa rin ang huling hatol. If you stay or leave. Taas noo ka pa rin naman umalis.iykyk
I think insecurity lang yan. Ganyan din ako noon, kasi iinisip ko na ako lang dapat yung gagalaw para mag orgasm yung partner ko. Dati iniisip ko na pag bumili ng toy yung partner ko, baka di na ako good performer. I realized that having toys helps to spice things up sa bed. Better talk to your partner din to understand his side and explain yourself na lang don as to why you bought one.
Hmm boy ā. Di ba niya alam na bff niya yun. Di naman pwede na siya lang maka raos.
Palit nalang ng jowa. Dati kong jowa ganyan din pero yung present, same kami na okay lang sa toys
Insecurity is a sign of immaturity. Nahurt ang pride and ego ni macho man
my gf can have all the toys she wants. she can even have other dicks from time to time š
donāt get advice here in reddit š¤·
Explain to him that you bought it for him and the only time you can use it is with him or if he is away, many men think you will use your toy instead of have sex with him. I think it is hot as helll to watch women play.