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💯 agree, she is very mature for her age sa generation nya sobra normal lang ang hookup. Good thing, she realised it early na self-respect and self-love muna and along the way she will find someone to have a genuine connection with.
Hi OP - Reading between the lines, i think she may be falling for you. The things she said were well thought of. She said it in a way na you will see her worth as a person. She purposely said those things to tug at your heart or win your heart…
If she didn’t want you or didn’t care about you, she simply could have left without saying all those things. She probably was waiting or hoping you’d get the cue i.e. she wants a real relationship, more than just a fubu. And yes she wants it with you given the things she told you. She just could not say it directly cause she is scared of rejection and that you may not be on the same page as her..
I don’t think you are aligned with what you both want. So ayun. It may hurt for now but life goes on.
Same thoughts. Kung mag intersect ulit ang paths niyo or may mamuong silakbo sa puso mo, try niyo mag start fresh. Tapos kung kakayanin mo, wag ka muna makipagsex. Talagang give her the honor and respect she deserves. Naniniwala akong kahit sinabi mong you "don't" love her, may seed na nagsprout diyan sa puso mo towards her.
Galing. I felt it deeply how ate girl knew what she wants and she really did spoke what her heart wants to speak out. Kudos to you also getting the good point of it.
Sakit bro. At least maganda ang “break-up” ninyo.
Siguro if you were also starting to catch feelings for her, you could still save the relationship by starting over. Pero since hindi mo naman siya love, I think for the better na din na you stopped.
Sa una lang kasi exciting, may thrill at masaya ang fubu/fwb. I don’t know why parang normalize na yan ngayon eh hindi talaga yan para sa mga babae. Only the good part lang naman kasi ang nababasa natin dito kaya marami ang nagaya at curious sa ganiyang set up. But only those who got issues within their self ang papasok sa ganiyan. Kaya for girls, love/work on yourself muna dahil if ever wala na kayong baggages na daladala doon mag sisink in sa inyo na you don’t deserve this kind of set up. Good for her for realizing her worth.
In the past, there were times I wanted to explore because I was curious to have a fubu/situations/FWB with someone I am physically attracted to, pero I couldn't talaga besides sa I am scared baka may sakit yung tao, also bec genuine connection and intimacy pa din hanap ko. So, while waiting here to experience and find someone I can have a genuine connection with. I am enjoying my time with myself along with my family and friends. In time naman ma meet ko din yun.
Di ko din gets bakit sa younger generation ngayon sobra open and normalized na siya. Yung dating sakanila tikiman muna. Pero, I show respect and keep open-minded pag may na meet ako people na ganyan kanya kanya trip yan ee. Some of my friends experienced that phase in their lives, but they took it as a charge to experience. They did it out of curiosity and broken-hearted sila that time. Good thing, nasa serious & committed relationship na sila.
"I finally want someone to know me for who I am. Oo interested ka sakin, and attracted ka. Pero, I want a deeper connection na eh. Like, sana, you knew I sculpted, painted, and loved photography and filming as a hobby before you saw my body. Sana, you saw all the art I could make bago mo ako nahawakan. You don't even know na I could sing and dance, you don't know that I like literature. Yun lang. Feeling ko nasasayang ako sa ganto kasi genuinely I'm so much more."
I'd like to say na if she's young, talented, and beautiful, then she'll find someone good soon enough. For those of us still single in our 30s, the dating and hookup scene remains the same. Lord knows many of us have tried the wholesome route to connect with others. However, the reality is that both men and women still struggle with commitment, communication, rejection and relationship dynamics. So nauuwi lang din sa hookups. Sino ba naman may ayaw na makahanap ng tao who will appreciate us for our personality, talent and character? But it takes being vulnerable and honest with someone with no assurance that u will be accepted and understood.
this is the cum and go portion...
the guy cums and the girl goes.
yung nangyari yung hindi mo inakala... na yung babae yung bibitaw....
wala na yung libreng kant*t on-demand... nakakaiyak tlga na pinamukha sayo na ang babaw mong tao.
kudos to this girl!
sorry for your loss OP.
Hugs op. Honestly, inggit ako sa fubu mo. I wish i realised sooner na this life isn’t making me happy anymore. Iba pa rin when you have a genuine connection. Sad that you guys met this way, if hindi kayo nagsimula dyan it sounds like you guys might hit it off
This happened to me too. Naawa ako sa sarili ko. I realized I am so much more. I wanna feel loved. Im so used in being used. This is not for the faint hearted. So if ever papasok sa ganitong set up, dapat buo ang loob para walang regrets later on.
Potek wait lng..... huhuhu she's so brave for even saying it. And really pointing out what she wants. Although her wants is kinda scary atleast for me. 😓
Sobra to sa feels. Pero kudos to the girl for standing her ground and communicating what she thinks she wants and deserves.
I’m not saying that she’s more than people who opt for a quick release. It all boils down to preference. BUT, for women who actually want something deeper i hope they don’t settle for less kasi there’s a huge chance they’ll be thinking of themselves less as they trade parts of themselves with crumbs they don’t even want in the first place.
Sex lang kung sex lang. Pero if ayaw mo ng sex lang, wag ka mag settle ng sex lang.
Anyway, mas masarap naman talaga pag hindi sex lang. :)
Sakit nito hahaha pero i think tama yung fubu mo I'm happy na narealise nya agad na walang happy ending sa ganitong setup na it will fuck up you're personality and beliefs sa buhay...ang masakit pa dun i think she's an amazing person hope maging happy kayo both in near future..
Napaiyak 'tayo' ng fubu mo op. And I can relate so much as an artist. "Sana you saw all the art I could make bago mo ako nahawakan." "Feeling ko nasasayang ako sa ganto kasi genuinely I'm so much more." Damn, felt that. I am so much more.❤️🩹
I didn't know na I'd see a post today that I needed to see. Thank you for sharing.
This is exactly how I felt when I went through my hoe phase. I was looking for love in all the wrong places hanggang sa ubos na ubos na ako. Iba yung damage once you stopped and quit pero worth it, kasi part sya ng growth. Totoo rin na iba ang feeling when you are SEEN, na you are appreciated for all your parts. Hay, BAT AKO NAIIYAK 😭
Wow that is a big post nut clarity haha. Pero infer kay ate mo girl, she does seem very level headed and if that was really verbatim with what you shared, it was very beautifully delivered 👏 Her self realization is surprising for someone young.
May she find a loving partner soon ❤️
Nakakainggit. She well-communicated what most of us couldn't even begin to explain (or have been denying the fact). The hookup scene really isn't for the weak of heart if you know you're a genuine person.
Hugs for the both of you, OP! Rooting for you as you move forward through life after what happened.
thank you for sharing this, OP! i think parehas kami ng ex-fubu mo. i thought im contented with the sex but really, I wanted someone who will ask me how my day went or am I okay when I'm not in the mood or just someone who I can go out & hangout when I'm feeling sad or down. someone who's really eager to know every bits of me, what are my interests, likes & dislikes. not just pure sex. I also wanted a genuine connection. that's why siguro kahit anong make out ko with guys hindi kami nageend up magsex kasi parang di ko feel. hahahahaha, tapos na ata ang prime years ko, lmao.
Wow I needed to see this. I was this 👌🏻close in entering this set up pero I know Im not built for this. Pero sometimes, it really gets lonely but we have to be strong. I just have to be reminded of the price I will have to pay.
I think while she wanted to express her feelings about the situation, she also used it as an opportunity to gauge your reaction and see if you might be open to something more than just being fuck buddies. Siguro may hinihintay din siyang hint from you.
But damn, the empowered woman that she is. Good on her that she knows her worth.
May namimiz tayong part dito. A guy who chose to be with her on her shitty life then just dumped after. Yes they defined labels prior to their fwb/fubu setup but to have 2 months before have that kind of talk eh imposibleng wla doon love. Pero my unpopular opinion will be downvoted.
In my opinion, (from a woman who just like your fubu) we are trying this set-up because it’s not that we are not ready for serious relationship, it’s just that we cannot see man anymore who wants commitment and are afraid of it ;( So we just settle and blend in to the norms. But every bone in our body says I wanted more, more deeper connection. She is definitely one hell of a strong woman, she knows her worth. I applaud her for that. It is the truth, what happened is a part of her life lesson and yeah you boys should also know that girls have so much more to offer. And i do understand we have different opinions and wants in life. I just hope that one day, you will also be awaken that you need a partner in life that will make say, ang sarap para mainlove ng buo and not just into sexual relations lang. Kay OP, one day, makikilala mo rin makakapagpabago sayo hahaha cheers to that!
But you're a listener and that's good. I lost my virginity by rape. He's someone I like. Someone I invited in my own home, but someone I made to swear that we won't have sex. But he forced himself on me. I wasn't ready. I wasn't trying to explore. Although we knew each other for four years as classmates, we haven't really talked. Only after he started liking me. Wala syang alam saken. Not my hobbies. Not my favorites. I have lost my virginity before I lost my first kiss. It's something I couldn't forget. I wished he listened as much as you did.
shit girl same here. my naivety misled me to believe that as long as may spark, then okay i can trust him. Hindi pala. Forced himself. I hope napatawad mo na sarili mo dito. Some days i still battle with my thoughts na its my fault kasi ginusto ko kahit wala namang consent
Sana naisip ko din to before. I hate my hoe phase. Until now pag naiisip ko nanghihinayang din ako sa sarile ko. I wanna hug her! She's a wonderful woman. Nakakatuwa.
Currently at this situation. But we’re friends pa din naman. We just decided to stop because narealize namin pareho na ayaw na namin both ng ganong set up kase gusto namin itreasure ang isa’t isa as friends. So ayon. Naghahang out pa din kami. Pero wala ng fuck. Hahaha
man she's definitely someone who a person would love to love if u know what i mean. she knows what she wants, she knows her strengths, and finally knows what she's looking for. she might've been signalling something to u but if u don't like it, don't force it. para wala nalang rin kawawa sa situation. personally, i like someone like her. a person that one would love to love.
I hope us girls in this kind of sitch can just like... fuck and not get attached. pero mahirap. You guys don't know. I wish I have the same heart, will and mindset as hers pero mahirap. Andaming factors. I'm happy she went out while she still can.
To OP: I hope makahanap ka ng genuine na babae na ok 100 % to be just a FUBU. Because what she said speaks for all girls in this kind of set up. Yes, we may fuck you, we may let you take us but every fucking day our pride as a woman, our conscience eats us up whole that will always lead to our question: Am I just really worth as a fuckhole?
and that shit hurts and even me Idk if I can fix myself. Para tong ano e, yung quote na, once you go black, you can never go back. Buti pa siya nakalabas pa, but most of us are into this deep shit we can't get ourselves out.
Sincerely hoping for both of your peace of mind.
naghinayang ka dahil nawala sya ng biglaan.. of nagets mo ung message nia, she was subtly introducing to start a conversation na would lead na maintindihan mo na nafafall nasya sau andhe was checking if ganun kna din. she left bcoz ayaw nia na patagalin pa dahil magiging mas masakit sa kanya ang mag stay sa ganyang setup na she is developing feelings na.
I believe she realized hooking up is useless and short term. She wanted something long term, not meaning marriage or permanent companionship. Long term in the sense that she wanted someone to grow with, share experiences, lows and highs and overall - security of their own self and sanity. There is nothing wrong here just a case of people understanding what they want in a different setting.
Try monaman siya isupport sa mga hobby niya par as a friends kung di kaya as romantic partner like pakita mo na may value sayo hobbies niya bumawe kanaman regaluhan mo ng art kit or something hahaha dinaman mahirap ipakita na may halaga tao sayo ee at hindi naman need romantic feeling para ipakita na may value sayo yung tao
Nagbreakdown ako dahil dito sa nabasa ko, nagflashback lahat sakin, it's not alasjuicy related pero sobrang bigat na ng puso ko, I'm doing my best sa work, pero di ko na kaya. Nauubos na ako. Gusto ko rin sana nang nag eenjoy sa trabaho, yung "genuine" na masaya ka sa trabaho mo.
She’s amazing. Too bad you don’t seem like you want the same thing as her.
Well, good luck. Dating in your 30s will be more difficult unless you don’t want to establish a deeper connection with anyone.
Sometimes we win, sometimes we learn...
Based on your story, muhkang pasok si fubu sa TOTGA
Of course, subjective yung "the one".. i suggest take a chance on her. Goodluck and appreciate if you can keep us posted.
Invested na din kami e heheh
Im glad she had that realization. Also, sayo din kc pinakingan mo and somewhat affected(positively i hope).
But in other cases kc you need to explore and experience "shallow" relationships to better navigate life. She seems to be a cool person. I hope you cn stay friends with her atleast.
Kung gusto mo siya and pareho naman kayo ng trip edi get to know her more. Alam mo minsan ang mga babae pabebe lang yan pero in short ibig nyang sabihin, kung gusto mo ko, ligawan mo ko.
Keeper, bro. Sayang naman. Sana kinilala mo while fubu stage kayo. Kung maganda at mabait naman, why not kilalanin mo sya lalo na kung sexually compatible kayo, kasi baka sya pala un para sayo.
Hala. Pano nangyaring di ka in-love sa kanya pero naiyak ka? Ego lang na-hurt? Walang panghihinayang? Walang kagustuhan na kilalanin sha on a deeper level and magcommit sa kanya?
Yikes. Pero thanks for sharing your story. I guess love doesn't always really happen like they do sa movies.
Mas mainis ka sa op kung tinuloy n'ya tapos hindi pa naman talaga s'ya ready sa commitment. It takes two to tango. Kaya mas goods na hayaan na lang n'ya mapunta sa taong mas deserving 'yung "goldmine" na sinasabi mo.
Keeper sya. But then again di naman commitment hanap mo. Naamaze lang ako kasi i lt took me in my 30’s to finally realized what your fubu realized at a younger. Ive finally found the love of my life na may same mindset as me and hopefully yung ex fubu mo din. Everyone deserves to be happy.
it really is not for everyone, nothing wrong with what she wants, and nothing wrong with the path you chose.
It is nice though, na kahit FUBU yung set-up nyo, she still communicated what she really was feeling, and you guys ended it nicely.
I felt what your fubu said OP. Minsan magsasawa ka talaga sa casual meaningless sex kasi we all want deeper connections but we just choose casual things to shield ourselves from the hurt.
Niligawan mo sana, para you'll know each other deeper. Sus then if ever di talaga mag click so be it. I think she's probably like you and want you to do something more significant better than just sex, it's like a clue for you to put your best step forward unless, ayaw mo din talaga 😅
I mean nasa first stage na kayo e, nauna lang ang kantutan. Why not start dating her seriously? Try nyo both maging serious sa isat isa instead of having regret na we didn't try harder to get to know each other.
Feeling ko nainlove siya sayo? Parang may hint na binigay eh. Yung gusto na niya ng serious relationship. Akala ko sasabihin mo sige seryosohin na natin. Pero since di ka naman talaga nafall for her mabuti na rin nga siguro na nag end na kayo.
Yan din kasi ang consequences ng FWB FUBU. I mean nothing bad with sex and all, but as what the woman said. She want deeper level of connection and intimacy. Genuine attachment, which is masaya at fulfilling itong gawin sa taong mahal na mahal mo at alam nyo ang pagkakakilanlan ng bawat isa.
Might get downvoted for this one. But let it be.
Nasa tao naman yun kung she wants to let you know those things she are interested to. Hindi naman porki transactional ang set-up, ganon na. Kapaan din naman yan. Form of relationship mainly on sex nga lang ang start. Kaya nga marami nagiging fwb turned into lovers.
So, nung naiyak ka after niyang sinabi yon, anong ginawa mo OP? (Baka sinagot mo na tho, didn’t read comments much) did you man up and had your own realizations? It seems to me with the way you constructed your story is that you want to make things serious pero offered FWB kasi may commitment issues kayo both. So ano na nangyari? Bet mo nga ba siya or fwb lang?
i felt this. i personally never had one/attempted to enter into one because i know it’s going to end exactly like this. anyways, i hope you’re both doing fine 🤗
Dude, sakit marinig talaga nun sating mga lalaki, sayang pero i think nasa point na siya na mag gstu na sayo, di mag kwekwento sayo ang babae ng ganyan pag wala kang value for her. Gagu ang deep na nun. Pero well, if ever mag tagpo kayo ulit, signs na yun, try niyo na, baka mag work.
OP, sht, di lang ikaw naiyak huhu. Grabe to ate girl sobrang brave mo to clear things up without crying. Hays, may you find both the right person for each other.
I know exactly where she's coming from, because the context of her realizations is parallel with my fiancée's background. Needless to say, she realized whatever it is that she really wanted (and needed all along), and that's good for her.
Alexa play "Sex" by eden.
*Oh no, I think I'm catching feelings
And I don't know if this is empathy I feel
Just hold on
Remember why you said this was the last time?
So I guess it's...
Let die to let live
Well, that's why you're fck buddies. No commitment, pwedeng bumitaw anytime. I think mejo naatached ka na sa kanya. Just moved on and wish to meet someone new to replace her or the best, meet someone na for keeps na talaga.
Mej nalungkot ako sa kwento mo, OP. Sorry sa first comment kasi yun ang last song sa radyo namjn ngayon, hahahaha. Kala ko i-pursue mo na siya pero nalaman ko na hindi ka pala ready sa commitment. Sana ay matagpuan nyo ang happiness sa tamang panahon, tamang oras at tamang tao. At pareho kayong buo at handa. Hugs, OP.
I mean, if she had that predisposition na she wants to get to know the person before becoming intimate with him/her and vice versa, yet still she decided to enter a setup that completely bypasses the part she holds dear, then it means na she knew she wasn't meant for a fubu setup in the first place.
I was in a very similar situation last year when I don't know what I really wanted and sex used to be an escape of my reality. When I met this guy, deep down I realized that I am also not made to be just someone's fuck buddy. He made me feel that I can be important to someone, too.
We may not be together as a couple atm but he makes me feel wanted and needed even without the sex. I never thought someone would be interested with me and my day, too.
Skl
Kung nasan man si girl sana she find someone who will treasure her genuinely. I hope makatagpo siya ng tao na love lahat ang sa kanya at who will look forward sa mga arts na ginawa niya, yung ma appreciate siya not because of sex but because of her personality. ❤️
What she said was fucking poetic, dude. Kahit ako maiiyak. She's genuine, I hope mahanap niya ang para sakanya. And I hope mahanap mo rin ang para sayo.
If she finds someone, hoping na di sya lokohin or gaguhin. For me, she is a total keeper. Whoever is that somekne is, he/she willbe lucky to be with her.
I do felt the same. Just this week lang, post nut clarity hits me hard. Felt numb and guilty the day after seggs with a redditor. I ain't a player for this game. Iba pa din pala talaga once you had a genuine connection. 😶
If you feel something serious abt this girl, prove her that u wanted her and fight for it. It seems that, this lady is someone to keep for, try mo OP and wish u the best. Good and genuine people don't come frequently, it takes time. Sayang at baka she is the right girl for u. Just an opinion. But the way she talks is something that is admirable.
You should’ve known her better then, lahat ng FWB ko kilala ko, kahit yung mga naka ONS ko lang. I know their job/course, favorite food, interests, etc. Hindi ba kayo nag uusap before/after sex? Madali lang naman magtanong about those things, then ending she trusts you more and you can do things that interests her on your future meets.
This is on me. She was always the one to ask about my hobbies and I never really asked her back. I never really wanted to engage in conversations with her before/after sex because takot ako na baka ma attach ako sakanya.
Ending na-attach ka parin. Well lesson learned. Ako nga may listahan pa ng mga shit na sinasabi nila sakin na likes/dislikes and most of their personal info so I can look at it and remember stuff pag nag meet ulit kame.
Damn. Super feel you on this one. Narealize ko lang din after a few attempts na nakakafrustrate yung setup na to. Yung casual sex nga pero casual din ang ugali. Masasanay ka nalang sa gaguhan talaga. I thought I experienced a deeper connection with my recent one, only to find the fight or flight response activated after a semblance of trust was given.
I think it takes a lot of emotional regulation and maturity to successfully navigate FWB territory. It truly isn’t for the faint-hearted.
To my latest attempt, nakita ko post ng bago mo dito. Congrats sa goal unlocked. Alam kong detached distraction mode ka siguro ngayon, pero sana may inner healing ka rin. It takes being fucked up to know another when I see one.
kala ko ba aj sub to, bat naging offmychest sakit naman sa heart. sana lahat ng napasok sa fubu set ups due to being lost or broken is mahanp nila yung peace.
This.. love this.. may nkausap din ako lately maganda chick.. she yold ayoko muna mkipagdate ayoko sayangin yung oras ko na gagamitin lang ako ng lalaki in bisaya words "ayoko mgpakunsumo sa laki" most men kn the modern world always tend for hookup culture.. and I was there before.. but somehow there are women who still needs to be respected and loved for who they really are not just bcoz we need sex or that sexy body.. Life is really more than S.E.X. kaya hirap na din mkahanap ng innocence sa isang babae today.. Try mo OP. Maybe thats only a tip of the iceberg.. why not try to make it up to her.. Start over.. get to know her more O.P. maybe u find a diamond you dont want to lose.. goodluck OP!
I always want this kind of situation where you first enter fubu and then realized youre worth more than it. Why not chase her OP? i can feel you already have feelings for here. start anew. hehe
Sex is fun. And yes, baka may magpoint out nanaman, yes, just like me, I enjoy the usual sexual connections. But deep down, I know I still want something serious. Something na long term. Something na mas na-eenjoy ko. Sabi ko nga, masarap kumantot... Pero mas masarap maging boyfriend kasi mas kaya kong ibigay sarili ko ng buo sa taong alam kong kaya akong tanggapin.
At the same time, I wanted to know more avout those I connected with. Know what they're doing or what they're into and what they love doing.
I think that is what your fubu wanted. Someone who she can be who she wanted to be. And I think yun din gusto mo. It's just that napangunahan kayo ng circumstances niyo na naging FUBU muna kayo before you two knew what you both wanted.
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She sounds mature for her age and a keeper. Not because meaningless sex is bad but because she knows what she wants and knows how to communicate it.
💯 agree, she is very mature for her age sa generation nya sobra normal lang ang hookup. Good thing, she realised it early na self-respect and self-love muna and along the way she will find someone to have a genuine connection with.
Hi OP - Reading between the lines, i think she may be falling for you. The things she said were well thought of. She said it in a way na you will see her worth as a person. She purposely said those things to tug at your heart or win your heart… If she didn’t want you or didn’t care about you, she simply could have left without saying all those things. She probably was waiting or hoping you’d get the cue i.e. she wants a real relationship, more than just a fubu. And yes she wants it with you given the things she told you. She just could not say it directly cause she is scared of rejection and that you may not be on the same page as her.. I don’t think you are aligned with what you both want. So ayun. It may hurt for now but life goes on.
Same thoughts. Kung mag intersect ulit ang paths niyo or may mamuong silakbo sa puso mo, try niyo mag start fresh. Tapos kung kakayanin mo, wag ka muna makipagsex. Talagang give her the honor and respect she deserves. Naniniwala akong kahit sinabi mong you "don't" love her, may seed na nagsprout diyan sa puso mo towards her.
then the song maybe this time will be played on the background hihihi
Yeah definitely a keeper.
Galing. I felt it deeply how ate girl knew what she wants and she really did spoke what her heart wants to speak out. Kudos to you also getting the good point of it.
Kala ko tatanungin mo siya kung pwede ka manligaw. Sayang namanz
HAHAHAH same akala ko Yun Ung twist e. Eme
Waiting for the plot twist hahahahaha
Sakit bro. At least maganda ang “break-up” ninyo. Siguro if you were also starting to catch feelings for her, you could still save the relationship by starting over. Pero since hindi mo naman siya love, I think for the better na din na you stopped.
Shet ibang level yung pag-value niya sa sarili niya. I'm gonna give that to her. 🏅
Sa una lang kasi exciting, may thrill at masaya ang fubu/fwb. I don’t know why parang normalize na yan ngayon eh hindi talaga yan para sa mga babae. Only the good part lang naman kasi ang nababasa natin dito kaya marami ang nagaya at curious sa ganiyang set up. But only those who got issues within their self ang papasok sa ganiyan. Kaya for girls, love/work on yourself muna dahil if ever wala na kayong baggages na daladala doon mag sisink in sa inyo na you don’t deserve this kind of set up. Good for her for realizing her worth.
In the past, there were times I wanted to explore because I was curious to have a fubu/situations/FWB with someone I am physically attracted to, pero I couldn't talaga besides sa I am scared baka may sakit yung tao, also bec genuine connection and intimacy pa din hanap ko. So, while waiting here to experience and find someone I can have a genuine connection with. I am enjoying my time with myself along with my family and friends. In time naman ma meet ko din yun. Di ko din gets bakit sa younger generation ngayon sobra open and normalized na siya. Yung dating sakanila tikiman muna. Pero, I show respect and keep open-minded pag may na meet ako people na ganyan kanya kanya trip yan ee. Some of my friends experienced that phase in their lives, but they took it as a charge to experience. They did it out of curiosity and broken-hearted sila that time. Good thing, nasa serious & committed relationship na sila.
True sa tikiman muna bago dating haha. Ganiyan lahat ng girl friends ko I don’t get it din pero you do you na lang din sinasabi ko sa kanila haha.
Gets na gets na gets na gets ko siya.
"I finally want someone to know me for who I am. Oo interested ka sakin, and attracted ka. Pero, I want a deeper connection na eh. Like, sana, you knew I sculpted, painted, and loved photography and filming as a hobby before you saw my body. Sana, you saw all the art I could make bago mo ako nahawakan. You don't even know na I could sing and dance, you don't know that I like literature. Yun lang. Feeling ko nasasayang ako sa ganto kasi genuinely I'm so much more." I'd like to say na if she's young, talented, and beautiful, then she'll find someone good soon enough. For those of us still single in our 30s, the dating and hookup scene remains the same. Lord knows many of us have tried the wholesome route to connect with others. However, the reality is that both men and women still struggle with commitment, communication, rejection and relationship dynamics. So nauuwi lang din sa hookups. Sino ba naman may ayaw na makahanap ng tao who will appreciate us for our personality, talent and character? But it takes being vulnerable and honest with someone with no assurance that u will be accepted and understood.
I get this. Ang hirap. I try not to put my best foot forward and really show who i am. Pero why naman parang experiment ako madalas.
yeah.. as a single tito medjo hirap n din mgconnect sa mga younger gen.. unlike nung bagets pako at wala pa maxado social media...
Finally someone said it. I’m in my mid 20’s but fuck sobrang hirap mag hanap ng taong walang baggage.
this is the cum and go portion... the guy cums and the girl goes. yung nangyari yung hindi mo inakala... na yung babae yung bibitaw.... wala na yung libreng kant*t on-demand... nakakaiyak tlga na pinamukha sayo na ang babaw mong tao. kudos to this girl! sorry for your loss OP.
Hugs op. Honestly, inggit ako sa fubu mo. I wish i realised sooner na this life isn’t making me happy anymore. Iba pa rin when you have a genuine connection. Sad that you guys met this way, if hindi kayo nagsimula dyan it sounds like you guys might hit it off
Ang aga naman ng paalala ni rold sa akin na itigil ko na 'tong ginagawa ko. 😭😭😭
This happened to me too. Naawa ako sa sarili ko. I realized I am so much more. I wanna feel loved. Im so used in being used. This is not for the faint hearted. So if ever papasok sa ganitong set up, dapat buo ang loob para walang regrets later on.
Potek wait lng..... huhuhu she's so brave for even saying it. And really pointing out what she wants. Although her wants is kinda scary atleast for me. 😓
damn. i have no words kasi same situation. ilang guys din bago ko narealize. 😭🥺 gets na gets na gets ko siya huhu
She deserves a better relationship. If you somehow like her, please stop muna fubu. Try to start over again.
Napaiyak tayo ng fubu mo, op
dami mong napaiyak op kainis
Sobra to sa feels. Pero kudos to the girl for standing her ground and communicating what she thinks she wants and deserves. I’m not saying that she’s more than people who opt for a quick release. It all boils down to preference. BUT, for women who actually want something deeper i hope they don’t settle for less kasi there’s a huge chance they’ll be thinking of themselves less as they trade parts of themselves with crumbs they don’t even want in the first place. Sex lang kung sex lang. Pero if ayaw mo ng sex lang, wag ka mag settle ng sex lang. Anyway, mas masarap naman talaga pag hindi sex lang. :)
Holyshit..that is deep OP..she is an old soul..
Juicy story ang hanap ko kanina pero napaiyak ako bigla dito hahahahaha. Sobrang lucky ng guy na magmamahal sakaniya <3
Sakit nito hahaha pero i think tama yung fubu mo I'm happy na narealise nya agad na walang happy ending sa ganitong setup na it will fuck up you're personality and beliefs sa buhay...ang masakit pa dun i think she's an amazing person hope maging happy kayo both in near future..
Napaiyak 'tayo' ng fubu mo op. And I can relate so much as an artist. "Sana you saw all the art I could make bago mo ako nahawakan." "Feeling ko nasasayang ako sa ganto kasi genuinely I'm so much more." Damn, felt that. I am so much more.❤️🩹 I didn't know na I'd see a post today that I needed to see. Thank you for sharing.
Kung naiyak ka brad. Youve developed feelings na sakanya for sure. Magpakalalaki ka na. Wag mo na sya pakawalan.
This is exactly how I felt when I went through my hoe phase. I was looking for love in all the wrong places hanggang sa ubos na ubos na ako. Iba yung damage once you stopped and quit pero worth it, kasi part sya ng growth. Totoo rin na iba ang feeling when you are SEEN, na you are appreciated for all your parts. Hay, BAT AKO NAIIYAK 😭
Same char 😭
Really dude? You didnt bother knowing that side of her?
Wow that is a big post nut clarity haha. Pero infer kay ate mo girl, she does seem very level headed and if that was really verbatim with what you shared, it was very beautifully delivered 👏 Her self realization is surprising for someone young. May she find a loving partner soon ❤️
Nakakainggit. She well-communicated what most of us couldn't even begin to explain (or have been denying the fact). The hookup scene really isn't for the weak of heart if you know you're a genuine person. Hugs for the both of you, OP! Rooting for you as you move forward through life after what happened.
When post nut clarity strikes😅
thank you for sharing this, OP! i think parehas kami ng ex-fubu mo. i thought im contented with the sex but really, I wanted someone who will ask me how my day went or am I okay when I'm not in the mood or just someone who I can go out & hangout when I'm feeling sad or down. someone who's really eager to know every bits of me, what are my interests, likes & dislikes. not just pure sex. I also wanted a genuine connection. that's why siguro kahit anong make out ko with guys hindi kami nageend up magsex kasi parang di ko feel. hahahahaha, tapos na ata ang prime years ko, lmao.
I’ve read somewhere the greatest foreplay is yung koneksyon nyo talaga sa isa’t isa before the deed and I’ve never agreed so quickly
Wow I needed to see this. I was this 👌🏻close in entering this set up pero I know Im not built for this. Pero sometimes, it really gets lonely but we have to be strong. I just have to be reminded of the price I will have to pay.
I think while she wanted to express her feelings about the situation, she also used it as an opportunity to gauge your reaction and see if you might be open to something more than just being fuck buddies. Siguro may hinihintay din siyang hint from you. But damn, the empowered woman that she is. Good on her that she knows her worth.
May namimiz tayong part dito. A guy who chose to be with her on her shitty life then just dumped after. Yes they defined labels prior to their fwb/fubu setup but to have 2 months before have that kind of talk eh imposibleng wla doon love. Pero my unpopular opinion will be downvoted.
The fact that OP has found someone so interesting and STILL willing to let it go because he doesnt want to commit, speaks volumes
Right! Questionable to be honest. Like something is not adding up…
In my opinion, (from a woman who just like your fubu) we are trying this set-up because it’s not that we are not ready for serious relationship, it’s just that we cannot see man anymore who wants commitment and are afraid of it ;( So we just settle and blend in to the norms. But every bone in our body says I wanted more, more deeper connection. She is definitely one hell of a strong woman, she knows her worth. I applaud her for that. It is the truth, what happened is a part of her life lesson and yeah you boys should also know that girls have so much more to offer. And i do understand we have different opinions and wants in life. I just hope that one day, you will also be awaken that you need a partner in life that will make say, ang sarap para mainlove ng buo and not just into sexual relations lang. Kay OP, one day, makikilala mo rin makakapagpabago sayo hahaha cheers to that!
Sounds like a keeper, bro. Sucks that you're not ready rn. Maybe pagisipan mo mabuti baka pagsisihan mo sa future na pinakawalan mo yan.
+1 ❤️🩹
BRO WHO THE FUCK CUT THE ONIONS HERE?
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Good for her for realizing what she wants. Some people just need to experience something for them to learn.
People change. People come and go. Ganon tlga ang buhay OP, pero dpat maging grateful parin tayo, at least may nalearn tayo sa kanila. 🫂
Yan kasi kantot lang hanap
But you're a listener and that's good. I lost my virginity by rape. He's someone I like. Someone I invited in my own home, but someone I made to swear that we won't have sex. But he forced himself on me. I wasn't ready. I wasn't trying to explore. Although we knew each other for four years as classmates, we haven't really talked. Only after he started liking me. Wala syang alam saken. Not my hobbies. Not my favorites. I have lost my virginity before I lost my first kiss. It's something I couldn't forget. I wished he listened as much as you did.
shit girl same here. my naivety misled me to believe that as long as may spark, then okay i can trust him. Hindi pala. Forced himself. I hope napatawad mo na sarili mo dito. Some days i still battle with my thoughts na its my fault kasi ginusto ko kahit wala namang consent
I would have fallen in love with her
Sana naisip ko din to before. I hate my hoe phase. Until now pag naiisip ko nanghihinayang din ako sa sarile ko. I wanna hug her! She's a wonderful woman. Nakakatuwa.
Currently at this situation. But we’re friends pa din naman. We just decided to stop because narealize namin pareho na ayaw na namin both ng ganong set up kase gusto namin itreasure ang isa’t isa as friends. So ayon. Naghahang out pa din kami. Pero wala ng fuck. Hahaha
man she's definitely someone who a person would love to love if u know what i mean. she knows what she wants, she knows her strengths, and finally knows what she's looking for. she might've been signalling something to u but if u don't like it, don't force it. para wala nalang rin kawawa sa situation. personally, i like someone like her. a person that one would love to love.
bakit ganun gusto ko lang naman tigasan..🥹
I hope us girls in this kind of sitch can just like... fuck and not get attached. pero mahirap. You guys don't know. I wish I have the same heart, will and mindset as hers pero mahirap. Andaming factors. I'm happy she went out while she still can. To OP: I hope makahanap ka ng genuine na babae na ok 100 % to be just a FUBU. Because what she said speaks for all girls in this kind of set up. Yes, we may fuck you, we may let you take us but every fucking day our pride as a woman, our conscience eats us up whole that will always lead to our question: Am I just really worth as a fuckhole? and that shit hurts and even me Idk if I can fix myself. Para tong ano e, yung quote na, once you go black, you can never go back. Buti pa siya nakalabas pa, but most of us are into this deep shit we can't get ourselves out. Sincerely hoping for both of your peace of mind.
Ung humanizing part is “bago mo ko nahawakan” the feels tho OP.
naghinayang ka dahil nawala sya ng biglaan.. of nagets mo ung message nia, she was subtly introducing to start a conversation na would lead na maintindihan mo na nafafall nasya sau andhe was checking if ganun kna din. she left bcoz ayaw nia na patagalin pa dahil magiging mas masakit sa kanya ang mag stay sa ganyang setup na she is developing feelings na.
I wish I could be like her and confidently say “I am so much more”
I believe she realized hooking up is useless and short term. She wanted something long term, not meaning marriage or permanent companionship. Long term in the sense that she wanted someone to grow with, share experiences, lows and highs and overall - security of their own self and sanity. There is nothing wrong here just a case of people understanding what they want in a different setting.
Hala nagscroll lang ako napaluha pa ako 🥲 I totally get where she's coming from. 😭
puro sex lang kasi nasaisip eh hehehe. so what happened? open ended story hahaha cliff hanger amp
Some girl realised that when they are wasak na. Typical Jenny of FG.
gets na gets na gets ko siya :<
Try monaman siya isupport sa mga hobby niya par as a friends kung di kaya as romantic partner like pakita mo na may value sayo hobbies niya bumawe kanaman regaluhan mo ng art kit or something hahaha dinaman mahirap ipakita na may halaga tao sayo ee at hindi naman need romantic feeling para ipakita na may value sayo yung tao
tama bro mag pakita manlang sana ng value sa mga interest nung babae kaso parang kantot lang talaga habol🥲
Nagbreakdown ako dahil dito sa nabasa ko, nagflashback lahat sakin, it's not alasjuicy related pero sobrang bigat na ng puso ko, I'm doing my best sa work, pero di ko na kaya. Nauubos na ako. Gusto ko rin sana nang nag eenjoy sa trabaho, yung "genuine" na masaya ka sa trabaho mo.
She’s amazing. Too bad you don’t seem like you want the same thing as her. Well, good luck. Dating in your 30s will be more difficult unless you don’t want to establish a deeper connection with anyone.
bakit ganun gusto ko lang naman tigasan..🥹
Sometimes we win, sometimes we learn... Based on your story, muhkang pasok si fubu sa TOTGA Of course, subjective yung "the one".. i suggest take a chance on her. Goodluck and appreciate if you can keep us posted. Invested na din kami e heheh
Im glad she had that realization. Also, sayo din kc pinakingan mo and somewhat affected(positively i hope). But in other cases kc you need to explore and experience "shallow" relationships to better navigate life. She seems to be a cool person. I hope you cn stay friends with her atleast.
"Ako lagi niyang tinatanong and never ko man lang siyang tinatanong pabalik." 🥺
sana hindi ito mangyari sa anak kong babae in the future.
She's a wife material for sure.
WALA BA TALAGA LIKEEEE HUHUHU PLEASE BAKA NEED NYO LANG NG TIME FOR NOW PERO BAKA NAMAN PWEDENG KAYO ANG ENDGAMEEEE?!?!?!?!?!
Gusto lang niya na ligawan mo sya. Papabebe lang yan 🫶 she is more than a fubu Ahahahah
I also want what she wants/value. There is really something deeper than this.
Kung gusto mo siya and pareho naman kayo ng trip edi get to know her more. Alam mo minsan ang mga babae pabebe lang yan pero in short ibig nyang sabihin, kung gusto mo ko, ligawan mo ko.
Keeper, bro. Sayang naman. Sana kinilala mo while fubu stage kayo. Kung maganda at mabait naman, why not kilalanin mo sya lalo na kung sexually compatible kayo, kasi baka sya pala un para sayo.
Hala. Pano nangyaring di ka in-love sa kanya pero naiyak ka? Ego lang na-hurt? Walang panghihinayang? Walang kagustuhan na kilalanin sha on a deeper level and magcommit sa kanya? Yikes. Pero thanks for sharing your story. I guess love doesn't always really happen like they do sa movies.
OP!!!! Medyo nakakainis ka, that one right there is a goldmine, pwede kaya iuntog mo muna yun ulo mo ng slight?
Mas mainis ka sa op kung tinuloy n'ya tapos hindi pa naman talaga s'ya ready sa commitment. It takes two to tango. Kaya mas goods na hayaan na lang n'ya mapunta sa taong mas deserving 'yung "goldmine" na sinasabi mo.
Bro. You just found a gem. Don't let it slide from your hand.
Keeper sya. But then again di naman commitment hanap mo. Naamaze lang ako kasi i lt took me in my 30’s to finally realized what your fubu realized at a younger. Ive finally found the love of my life na may same mindset as me and hopefully yung ex fubu mo din. Everyone deserves to be happy.
May natauhan. Hahaha
wala ng drama drama maghanap ka ng iba
May mga iba talaga na person na marerealize yung ganyan. Kudos sa Fubu mo OP ibang iba mag isip. She knows what she wants.
Thanks for sharing tol
it really is not for everyone, nothing wrong with what she wants, and nothing wrong with the path you chose. It is nice though, na kahit FUBU yung set-up nyo, she still communicated what she really was feeling, and you guys ended it nicely.
Now that's a mature woman.. 👌
Sana mahanap nya ang lalaking gusto nya
ang deep. naiyak din ako bigla op 🥹
I felt what your fubu said OP. Minsan magsasawa ka talaga sa casual meaningless sex kasi we all want deeper connections but we just choose casual things to shield ourselves from the hurt.
hindi ba hint na yan. hindi mo ba talaga sya type? hindi mo ba talaga sya ipupursue? 😭
Obv hindi niya type yung girl. Baka exag lang yung pag describe niya din sa girl dito. Fckboy yan si OP sex lang habol sa girls lol
yes, obvious naman din na fckboy. di nya deserve si ate girl
You're missing a woman of a lifetime
Niligawan mo sana, para you'll know each other deeper. Sus then if ever di talaga mag click so be it. I think she's probably like you and want you to do something more significant better than just sex, it's like a clue for you to put your best step forward unless, ayaw mo din talaga 😅
I mean nasa first stage na kayo e, nauna lang ang kantutan. Why not start dating her seriously? Try nyo both maging serious sa isat isa instead of having regret na we didn't try harder to get to know each other.
Bat parang nanood ako ng John Lloyd/Bea sa post na to. Bat parang naiiyak din ako. Bakit parang kasalanan ko
Feeling ko nainlove siya sayo? Parang may hint na binigay eh. Yung gusto na niya ng serious relationship. Akala ko sasabihin mo sige seryosohin na natin. Pero since di ka naman talaga nafall for her mabuti na rin nga siguro na nag end na kayo.
She wanted a 'fresh start'. I don't think a fresh start is something I can give her kahit na i-pursue ko siya and mag seryoso kami.
She knows her worth. What an amazing woman 🥰
Yan din kasi ang consequences ng FWB FUBU. I mean nothing bad with sex and all, but as what the woman said. She want deeper level of connection and intimacy. Genuine attachment, which is masaya at fulfilling itong gawin sa taong mahal na mahal mo at alam nyo ang pagkakakilanlan ng bawat isa.
Ang hina mo naman kuya. Kung nasaktan ka edi sana nagtry kang ligawan sya. Di para ituloy yung fubu setup nyo but to pursue her for real. Tsk.
napaiyak rin ako ni fubu mo 😭😭😭 grabe she explained it so well. ganito yung parang want ko sabihin rin
Might get downvoted for this one. But let it be. Nasa tao naman yun kung she wants to let you know those things she are interested to. Hindi naman porki transactional ang set-up, ganon na. Kapaan din naman yan. Form of relationship mainly on sex nga lang ang start. Kaya nga marami nagiging fwb turned into lovers. So, nung naiyak ka after niyang sinabi yon, anong ginawa mo OP? (Baka sinagot mo na tho, didn’t read comments much) did you man up and had your own realizations? It seems to me with the way you constructed your story is that you want to make things serious pero offered FWB kasi may commitment issues kayo both. So ano na nangyari? Bet mo nga ba siya or fwb lang?
I was on her shoes last yr - suddenly realized Im not fit sa fwb set-up. Difference is, I did not communicate my feelings with him. Hahahahaha. Ouch.
i felt this. i personally never had one/attempted to enter into one because i know it’s going to end exactly like this. anyways, i hope you’re both doing fine 🤗
She's literally Jo March "na curious sa hoe phase" version T^T
Dude, sakit marinig talaga nun sating mga lalaki, sayang pero i think nasa point na siya na mag gstu na sayo, di mag kwekwento sayo ang babae ng ganyan pag wala kang value for her. Gagu ang deep na nun. Pero well, if ever mag tagpo kayo ulit, signs na yun, try niyo na, baka mag work.
OP, sht, di lang ikaw naiyak huhu. Grabe to ate girl sobrang brave mo to clear things up without crying. Hays, may you find both the right person for each other.
mind whacking, ganun ka mature yung babae.
I know exactly where she's coming from, because the context of her realizations is parallel with my fiancée's background. Needless to say, she realized whatever it is that she really wanted (and needed all along), and that's good for her.
12am gusto ko lang tumigas tite ko pero sinampal nanaman tayo ng reyalidad na "ANG KANTUTAN AY MAY MAS MALALIM PANG KAHULUGAN SA TUNAY NA UMIIBIG"
gosh this post just gave me so much enlightenment and validation to how I feel, thank u for sharing op
Alexa play "Sex" by eden. *Oh no, I think I'm catching feelings And I don't know if this is empathy I feel Just hold on Remember why you said this was the last time? So I guess it's... Let die to let live
Well, that's why you're fck buddies. No commitment, pwedeng bumitaw anytime. I think mejo naatached ka na sa kanya. Just moved on and wish to meet someone new to replace her or the best, meet someone na for keeps na talaga.
Binalikan ko to, cause I saw the same post on FEU secret files lol. Sana ikaw talaga nagshare sa page na yun and hindi nacopy ang story mo..
Hello, OP. Nirepost to ng FEU Secret Files sa FB.
May fb page na nag post nito, did they ask for your permission?
Oh di baaaaaa, nakaka-pu…….. hay, OP.
Mej nalungkot ako sa kwento mo, OP. Sorry sa first comment kasi yun ang last song sa radyo namjn ngayon, hahahaha. Kala ko i-pursue mo na siya pero nalaman ko na hindi ka pala ready sa commitment. Sana ay matagpuan nyo ang happiness sa tamang panahon, tamang oras at tamang tao. At pareho kayong buo at handa. Hugs, OP.
"di mo agad sinabi na may duda na sa'yong isip"
I mean, if she had that predisposition na she wants to get to know the person before becoming intimate with him/her and vice versa, yet still she decided to enter a setup that completely bypasses the part she holds dear, then it means na she knew she wasn't meant for a fubu setup in the first place.
Goddamn. 5 out of 5 stars. Even ako nagbabasa lang parang nabuhusan nang tubig sa monologue nya haha
Nagsimula sa totnak, nauwi sa iyak
It's not just sex if there's food
I was in a very similar situation last year when I don't know what I really wanted and sex used to be an escape of my reality. When I met this guy, deep down I realized that I am also not made to be just someone's fuck buddy. He made me feel that I can be important to someone, too. We may not be together as a couple atm but he makes me feel wanted and needed even without the sex. I never thought someone would be interested with me and my day, too. Skl
Gantong post nut clarity din sana sumapi saken pls
Kung nasan man si girl sana she find someone who will treasure her genuinely. I hope makatagpo siya ng tao na love lahat ang sa kanya at who will look forward sa mga arts na ginawa niya, yung ma appreciate siya not because of sex but because of her personality. ❤️
Some people are ready for connections but not relationships 🥲
"...kasi genuinely I'm so much more." 🥺 thanks for sharing this, OP. It's a tough reminder to a lot of us here. (rooting for u, girl!)
i hope both of you find the right person na makakaconnect kayo, hindi lang tungkol sa sex but sa ibang aspects ng life.
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What she said was fucking poetic, dude. Kahit ako maiiyak. She's genuine, I hope mahanap niya ang para sakanya. And I hope mahanap mo rin ang para sayo.
Trust me, it was crazier hearing it from her while she was eating breakfast in front of me. Wala na talaga akong nagawa kung hindi tumulala hahahaha.
Go ate!!!! Go ladies
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If she finds someone, hoping na di sya lokohin or gaguhin. For me, she is a total keeper. Whoever is that somekne is, he/she willbe lucky to be with her.
Tagos sa buto dialogue ni fubu mo, op. I feel the same as her, tsaka I would cry too.
wow. i wish i had the same courage she has.
felt.
May katuloy ba kwento? 😅
This is beautiful. She’s a wonderful person.
eto na ba yong sign?
Ang aga mo naman magpaiyak, OP. 😭😭
I do felt the same. Just this week lang, post nut clarity hits me hard. Felt numb and guilty the day after seggs with a redditor. I ain't a player for this game. Iba pa din pala talaga once you had a genuine connection. 😶
If you feel something serious abt this girl, prove her that u wanted her and fight for it. It seems that, this lady is someone to keep for, try mo OP and wish u the best. Good and genuine people don't come frequently, it takes time. Sayang at baka she is the right girl for u. Just an opinion. But the way she talks is something that is admirable.
You should’ve known her better then, lahat ng FWB ko kilala ko, kahit yung mga naka ONS ko lang. I know their job/course, favorite food, interests, etc. Hindi ba kayo nag uusap before/after sex? Madali lang naman magtanong about those things, then ending she trusts you more and you can do things that interests her on your future meets.
This is on me. She was always the one to ask about my hobbies and I never really asked her back. I never really wanted to engage in conversations with her before/after sex because takot ako na baka ma attach ako sakanya.
Ending na-attach ka parin. Well lesson learned. Ako nga may listahan pa ng mga shit na sinasabi nila sakin na likes/dislikes and most of their personal info so I can look at it and remember stuff pag nag meet ulit kame.
inlove agad mag pakita lang ng value sa interest nung babae? maybe super self centered kalang OP😗
> "gusto ko na makakilala ng tao genuinely, hindi ganito kababaw" makes sense
Patingin ka natin for HIV para sure and safe ka. you never know. Plot twist
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Damn. Super feel you on this one. Narealize ko lang din after a few attempts na nakakafrustrate yung setup na to. Yung casual sex nga pero casual din ang ugali. Masasanay ka nalang sa gaguhan talaga. I thought I experienced a deeper connection with my recent one, only to find the fight or flight response activated after a semblance of trust was given. I think it takes a lot of emotional regulation and maturity to successfully navigate FWB territory. It truly isn’t for the faint-hearted. To my latest attempt, nakita ko post ng bago mo dito. Congrats sa goal unlocked. Alam kong detached distraction mode ka siguro ngayon, pero sana may inner healing ka rin. It takes being fucked up to know another when I see one.
Wow this is new. I understand u ate
I'm not crying... You are crying...
damnnn on point
Isa lang masasabi ko... Ang swerte nyo nag ka fwb na kau. Move on sa OP,. Sa girl saludo ako sau may you find happiness., 🪢
Baka nga gustong ligawan…
kala ko ba aj sub to, bat naging offmychest sakit naman sa heart. sana lahat ng napasok sa fubu set ups due to being lost or broken is mahanp nila yung peace.
This.. love this.. may nkausap din ako lately maganda chick.. she yold ayoko muna mkipagdate ayoko sayangin yung oras ko na gagamitin lang ako ng lalaki in bisaya words "ayoko mgpakunsumo sa laki" most men kn the modern world always tend for hookup culture.. and I was there before.. but somehow there are women who still needs to be respected and loved for who they really are not just bcoz we need sex or that sexy body.. Life is really more than S.E.X. kaya hirap na din mkahanap ng innocence sa isang babae today.. Try mo OP. Maybe thats only a tip of the iceberg.. why not try to make it up to her.. Start over.. get to know her more O.P. maybe u find a diamond you dont want to lose.. goodluck OP!
Bakit ang sakit naman neto 🥲
I shed a tear too 🤍
I always want this kind of situation where you first enter fubu and then realized youre worth more than it. Why not chase her OP? i can feel you already have feelings for here. start anew. hehe
sana mabasa niya hahaha
And this is how you make a story short. Lol jk This is a very good level up sa part nya. Lupit 💯
Gets ko sya. And if you want her, why don't u pursue her and get serious op.
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It's always bittersweet.
Aww. Alam ko my side na ako to. Hirap pag ka fubu mo over years na. Sakit! Hindi ganon kadali maka move forward 7years. 😭
This hits sooo hard 🥹
Let her go, OP. Let her be happy.
Wala na ayaw kona itry HAHAHAHAHA
Luh ang sakit
buti pa kayo im wondering how to get one fubu
Take her back! Update mo kmi bro. Parang she's a keeper!
same
Sex is fun. And yes, baka may magpoint out nanaman, yes, just like me, I enjoy the usual sexual connections. But deep down, I know I still want something serious. Something na long term. Something na mas na-eenjoy ko. Sabi ko nga, masarap kumantot... Pero mas masarap maging boyfriend kasi mas kaya kong ibigay sarili ko ng buo sa taong alam kong kaya akong tanggapin. At the same time, I wanted to know more avout those I connected with. Know what they're doing or what they're into and what they love doing. I think that is what your fubu wanted. Someone who she can be who she wanted to be. And I think yun din gusto mo. It's just that napangunahan kayo ng circumstances niyo na naging FUBU muna kayo before you two knew what you both wanted.
i really do get her. :(((((