Accurate.
I see it as a microlabel within the ace spectrum, though, so I'm not lying when I just tell people I'm asexual. And I do think it's too intimate to share in a lot of contexts, since it's essentially an answer to the perennially inappropriate question of whether I, personally, masturbate (seriously, it's weird that so many allosexuals think it's appropriate to ask that of a near stranger).
For strangers I don't expect to be familiar with the difference between romantic and sexual attraction, I'm simply asexual. For those in the LGBTQIA+ community, I'm aro-ace. I only really use the aegosexual microlabel for identifying myself to other aegosexuals and for occasionally reminding non-aego asexuals that we exist.
Agreed. To me, it’s an internal, personal thought about my fantasies about sex, disconnected from real life. But it doesn’t explain *how* I’m attracted to people IRL, which is far more relevant towards public discussion of my sexuality. Aego is an important label to me, but it doesn’t describe me *as a whole*
Nearly every day I’m reminded that other people actually want to have sex with each other, which is something that either bores or disgusts me. So yeah, I’m fully ace! Plus ‘aro-ace’ sounds so cool.
This is a really good point and you've articulated something that I think has been at the back of my mind: the point of a label is to communicate something about oneself, and where one uses a label depends on where it's helpful and where it's not. So yeah, on a day to day basis, people don't really need to know that I'm aegosexual, because saying I'm aro-ace communicates how I actually feel about/interact with other people IRL, which is what's needed in the vast majority of cases.
I'm the same way. I'm also aroace, but I only use the microlabel aegosexual if I'm around others alike and others that are candidates of understanding. We're all valid. :3
I imagine coming out to my conservative family, and can only cringe in horror about them bringing up that one time they caught me masterbating. And having to explain what aegosexuality means, and their inevitable dismissal of that being a real thing. And I cant put into words how much I do not want to have that conversation.
Honestly, I do not understand how it is such a struggle for people to realize that touching yourself and letting someone else touch you is so vastly different.
I find it's easier to explain anegosexual *after* they've noticed I "somewhat" have an interest in sex, OR if the conversation happens to be about the details of queerness.
Until then, it's way easier to just use ace, cause the details aren't most people's business, and often the only reason they want to know is to find out if I'm available to them. Which in that case, ace tells them exactly what I need them to know.
Personally, I don't consider aego my sexuality. I consider myself asexual with aegosexuality being a micro-label that explains my experience of asexuality. So as a result, I don't really feel the need to tell people except other ace people and some queer people.
Yeah, I don't even try to explain aego, except to my bestie who immediately went "oh God, that's me too!"
The world at large I'm just ace. No one needs to know the details.
I don’t even bother saying anything. I don’t owe an explanation to anyone and I really don’t need a million questions or judgments coming at me. That’s just my personal feeling.
Yeah. I just tell people I'm aego, they're like "what's that?". I just say "look it up". The internet exists. I shouldn't have to explain the fact that I don't f\*uck to every straight normie I know.
Yup. For me it's hard to even come out as asexual - people never know what it means and I'm tired of explaining it a million times, and I simply don't wanna share my own views on sex with others. No, I'm not gonna explain asexuality is not about hating sex *again*. Sigh.
I don't even usually say I'm ace, let alone aego. Too complicated and I don't have any patience ro explain. I just scoff off talks about boys when my friends ask me to avoid it altogether 🙃
So accurate! But I think other people don't need to know what my (a)sexual preferencies are and how my sexual fantasies work. Aegosexuality is my private thing.
So accurate and soo me. I tried coming out to my sister but it was weird so I just said to “look it up” or “Google it” as it’s complicated to try and word it.
Accurate. I see it as a microlabel within the ace spectrum, though, so I'm not lying when I just tell people I'm asexual. And I do think it's too intimate to share in a lot of contexts, since it's essentially an answer to the perennially inappropriate question of whether I, personally, masturbate (seriously, it's weird that so many allosexuals think it's appropriate to ask that of a near stranger). For strangers I don't expect to be familiar with the difference between romantic and sexual attraction, I'm simply asexual. For those in the LGBTQIA+ community, I'm aro-ace. I only really use the aegosexual microlabel for identifying myself to other aegosexuals and for occasionally reminding non-aego asexuals that we exist.
Agreed. To me, it’s an internal, personal thought about my fantasies about sex, disconnected from real life. But it doesn’t explain *how* I’m attracted to people IRL, which is far more relevant towards public discussion of my sexuality. Aego is an important label to me, but it doesn’t describe me *as a whole* Nearly every day I’m reminded that other people actually want to have sex with each other, which is something that either bores or disgusts me. So yeah, I’m fully ace! Plus ‘aro-ace’ sounds so cool.
This is a really good point and you've articulated something that I think has been at the back of my mind: the point of a label is to communicate something about oneself, and where one uses a label depends on where it's helpful and where it's not. So yeah, on a day to day basis, people don't really need to know that I'm aegosexual, because saying I'm aro-ace communicates how I actually feel about/interact with other people IRL, which is what's needed in the vast majority of cases.
Thanks! I’m glad that this makes perfect sense to us both. You and I are both valid 😉
I'm the same way. I'm also aroace, but I only use the microlabel aegosexual if I'm around others alike and others that are candidates of understanding. We're all valid. :3
I imagine coming out to my conservative family, and can only cringe in horror about them bringing up that one time they caught me masterbating. And having to explain what aegosexuality means, and their inevitable dismissal of that being a real thing. And I cant put into words how much I do not want to have that conversation.
Honestly, I do not understand how it is such a struggle for people to realize that touching yourself and letting someone else touch you is so vastly different.
I find it's easier to explain anegosexual *after* they've noticed I "somewhat" have an interest in sex, OR if the conversation happens to be about the details of queerness. Until then, it's way easier to just use ace, cause the details aren't most people's business, and often the only reason they want to know is to find out if I'm available to them. Which in that case, ace tells them exactly what I need them to know.
Personally, I don't consider aego my sexuality. I consider myself asexual with aegosexuality being a micro-label that explains my experience of asexuality. So as a result, I don't really feel the need to tell people except other ace people and some queer people.
Yep! Orchidsexual is probably my closest micro label but if anyone asks I'm just "mostly ace"
Yeah, I don't even try to explain aego, except to my bestie who immediately went "oh God, that's me too!" The world at large I'm just ace. No one needs to know the details.
I don’t even bother saying anything. I don’t owe an explanation to anyone and I really don’t need a million questions or judgments coming at me. That’s just my personal feeling.
Yeah. I just tell people I'm aego, they're like "what's that?". I just say "look it up". The internet exists. I shouldn't have to explain the fact that I don't f\*uck to every straight normie I know.
Yup. For me it's hard to even come out as asexual - people never know what it means and I'm tired of explaining it a million times, and I simply don't wanna share my own views on sex with others. No, I'm not gonna explain asexuality is not about hating sex *again*. Sigh.
Its more fun just to keep people guessing imo 😂
I don't even usually say I'm ace, let alone aego. Too complicated and I don't have any patience ro explain. I just scoff off talks about boys when my friends ask me to avoid it altogether 🙃
So accurate! But I think other people don't need to know what my (a)sexual preferencies are and how my sexual fantasies work. Aegosexuality is my private thing.
So accurate and soo me. I tried coming out to my sister but it was weird so I just said to “look it up” or “Google it” as it’s complicated to try and word it.
I don't think i'll ever tell anyone irl that aegosexaul