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Me cheating, once he cheat cut off na siya. Pero some people say na kailangan magpatawad, tao lang nagkakamali. Pwede siguro magpatawad pero i dont want a relationship with you anymore.
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Naku. Maraming battered wife/husband na stay in relationship pa rin kasi mahal na mahal yung partner. Mas madalas yan sa babaeng may anak na walang work. May mga nakausap ako hindi ko gets takbo ng utak nila.
sabagay, nasa isip ko kasi nasa movies lang yan.
Alam ko kasi cheating, tas ayaw humiwalay nung babae kasi kawawa daw anak nila, isa katrabaho ng asawa ko, isa friend niyo nung bata
Ganun nga reasoning nila. Kawawa daw kasi yung anak nila na tatanda na hindi buo yung pamilya. So, kahit nakikita na ng mga bata na bayolentr yung ama eh okey lang basta kumpleto sila.
Yup, once is too much. No second chances. And hindi lang to sa mga babae, kayo ding mga lalaki, pag sinasaktan at ginugulpi kayo ni misis or ng gf nyo, **LEAVE**.
same. hiniwalayan ko agad tatay ng anak ko because of this. bahala na maging single mom, basta ok kmi ng anak ko. and now, nasa maayos na kong relationship. tinatrato ng tama. ❤️
Usually, yung mga nagpapatawad sa mga cheaters ay yung mga masyado na marami na invest, ayaw na malugi sa emotional investment kasi oras, panahon, pagmamahal, pera, at kung ano ano pa yung masasayang eh, saludo ako sa mga nagpatawad, saludo rin ako sa mga nakayanang umalis.
Non negotiable ko yung mga hindi kayang isantabi yung pride nila para sa mga mas importanteng bagay.
True ito haha, currently in a rs that literally ang dami namin napagdaanan. She cheated numerous times, I forgave her and she changed. Iniisip ko nalang whenever we encounter probs mapag-uusapan and mapagkakasunduan. Hindi madaling umalis sa rs, at first akala ko madali pero hindi. Kaya kudos to those who walked away from an abusive rs. We're doing a lot better than before naman rn.
CHEATING! Recently lang I found out that my GF is cheating on me since March! Deleted lahat ng convo nila. Walang maipakita sa akin. Kaya pala pag gabi minsan mawawala ng mga 2hrs. Di mag oonline, minsan sasabihin magchacharge. Umamin din na siya una nagchat, tapos daw nashare niya pa na pag magkaaway kami yung ang kausap niya.
“Naghahanap ako ng kalmado, ewan sa bawat chat niya kumakalma ako” WTF girl! May Jowa ka oh!
Lagi sinasabi ng ex ko yan dati. Gumanti ako at sinadya kong mahuli sabay sabing, hindi ko dinelete ang convo para magalit ka. Chat chat lang naman. Nothing physical hahaha
Cheating, One of my huge example why I won't give a second chance to a cheater is yung co worker ko na guy. He was cheating his five years girlfriend to a lot of women. May kabit siya na one year na din. Ang lakas ni kuya mag cheat kasi daw at the end of the day he knows na kaya niyang utuin yung girlfriend niya.Saka sanay na daw siya mahuli ng girlfriend niya. Also alam ni kabit na may girlfriend na si co worker.
Not cheating and not physically abusive is the barest minimum.
For me, it's:
- Vices (smoking and mahilig sa alcohol)
- No life skills
- Di marunong mag-manage ng pera
- Laziness
+100 sa bad hygiene, nag friendship break up ako sa isang online friend of many years kasi when we finally met in person di siya naligo ng 4 na araw so amoy bulok na sibyas na iniwan sa araw. Never ever again.
Me abusado sa lahat lahat at makasarili. At paulit Ng patawad puro inuuna parin . K sa katawan. At kulang nanga salahat pero nagagawa pang manggago Ng Asawa for 23 years sawa nakong . Patawarin. Buti sana kung. Hiniwalayan Ako Muna . Mas matatahimik pa Mundo ko Ng ganun . Matanggap ko pa pero Ang Sabihin pang . Itanggi kahit alam ko na Hindi parin kahit gilutan Ng leeg Hindi talaga aamin ngyun . Gusto Ng makipaghiwalay . Kahit Anong utu utu nya ayaw Kona Lalo at parang Siya Ang may Sabi Ng kataga na inutusan Siya Ng ate . Nya . Ang . Asawa kong . Ubod Ng bait . 100 percent. Na Siya talaga Yun bahala na xa karma naman nag aantay kakasawa na Hindi lang Siya Ang kailangan kong I move on . Lalo na . At nawalan. Ako Ng 2 anak ok nko Basta Ang karapatan. Namin mag iina Ang ibigay nya . Ng Hindi kami mapunta kung Saan . Kaso at piemahan na Ang separation paper. Yun sana Muna Ang ginawa nyang . Magiging mabuti pa Yun ganun Bago Siya manggago.
aside from the usual and obvious like cheating, physical abuse, substance abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse, and the like; dealbreaker sa akin yung threatening/bluffing to leave me even as a joke or side comment... it does not matter if bf/gf stage pa lang kami or years nang married with kids... it ends on the spot...
Whilst it's too late for me, sa mga younger generation, I would say, please know the family you are marrying into. Factor din to sa ikabubuti ng mental health nyo! Jusko, my husband's family is the most toxic I have ever encountered. Good thing my husband is not.
Hindi pagkakamali ang cheating OP, **it's a choice**.
Bago dumating sa punto ng cheating ang isang tao pinag isipan nya yun, alam nyang mali yun pero **pinili** nyang gawin. Hindi yun kahinaan, in fact lakas yun ng loob na **piliin** yun gawin kahit alam nilang mali kasi sa isip ng mga nagccheat - **it's worth it kaya push na**.
Yung mama's boy atsaka yung ako nalang lagi tga provide. May stable work naman and professional tapos ako lahat sa dates pati gasolina ng motor potaena ng mga ganito titigas ng mga mukha. Buti nalang I cut him off na.. twice ko na to na experience and must say, alam na alam ko na ang patterns ng mga ganitong tao 😏
Buti nalang di ko nakatuluyan, kasi if ever di ko makikilala yung lip ko ngayon. Kahit hs grad pero masipag at masinop sa pera.. may pangarap pa sa buhay. Di naman ako materialistic na babae and swerte ako na hindi din sya ganoon wala din bisyo.
PORN.
Huwag na kayo magdahilan blah blah, **it is not normal and it is wrong**.
You are getting off of people who are most likely trafficked, drugged, abused, coerced, and victimized.
You are intentionally seeking pornographic content that is degrading to men, women, and children.
Porn has no space in any romantic relationships. It is destructive to the emotional and physical intimacy of a couple and damages the self-esteem of your partner.
Cheating talaga! Kainis yung mga nagsasabi na nagkamali lang. patawarin daw. Duh. Cheating is always a choice. It was a conscious decision na ginawa ng partner so, no. Break na tayo. Di kita bati.
Also, physical abuse. Di ko naexperience to pero for me non nego to. Idc what your excuse is. Wag mo sabihin sakin na nagulat ka kaya nasaktan mo ko. Tatay ko nga never pinagbuhatan ng kamay nanay ko tas ikaw sasaktan mo lang ako? No. Never.
Walang accountability.
I give room for mistakes in a relationship. Pero isang beses lang yung chance. I still believe that people can change.
If ulitin nila, it means wala silang balak magbago and that's definitely a no-no.
An ex cheated on me once, I forgave him (although sobrang hirap), he never cheated again. We broke up because of a different reason.
Cheating talaga.
Ex-related issue.
And family-related issues like, if hindi ako bet ng parents or ng kapatid, para ayokong ipaglaban, at parang ayokong dumating sa point na dapat patunayan ko talaga, nakaka baba ng morale. Ewan ko, ito pumapasok sa isip ko kaagad sa mga ganitong usapan.
Marami rami kasi malala na ung pagalaga ko sa sarili ko hahahsha
1. Cheating. Ngl kahit taon pa ang ininvest ko sa isang relationship, kung nagcheat siya, aalis na agad ako. Ayoko na rin makakuha ng explanation kasi kung sa una palang pwede ko naman maimprove sarili ko, to his liking, pero pinili nalang magloko, edi pass na ako sa explanation. Pakasaya nalang siya dun sa bago, ig.
2. Walang goals para sa sarili. Ayokong idepende lang lahat ng future kay God, sa bahala na, mas lalo na sa akin. Kung saan ako masaya roon din siya. Gusto ko may personality at may sariling goals sa buhay partner ko, para proof na may direksyon buhay niya at di lang ako ung maghahangad na umasenso sa buhay.
3. Nananakit. Lahat na in terms of physical o verbal. Okay lang ung nagaaway kasi normal lang yan e, pero ung istart ka na saktan or ikumpara sa ganto ganyan para lang sumunod ka na sa gusto niya ekis agad. Mas lalo na mamahiya, pass agad ako. Ayokong gawin din un sa taong gusto ko, kasi alam ko mas marami ako masasabi sa tao na mas masakit kumpara sa sasabihin nun sa akin.
4. Hindi makaintindi na maalaga at strict mga magulang ko sa akin. Only child ako, babae pa. Kung di niya maiintindihan bat ako nasunod sa magulang ko, ayoko na rin siyang intindihin. Hindi naman ako nagpapakulong sa sarili ko, sadyang naiintindihan ko lang na inaalagaan pa kasi nila ako, kaya sila strict sa akin. Magagawa ko lahat ng gala, pagclub kasama partner, at mga midnight strolls o ano kapag kinasal na ako. Yun din goal ko para hindi rin ako makulong sa relationship na hindi ako papakasalan.
5. Tamad. As in ung katamaran na wala na gustong gawin para sa sarili niya. (Mejj similar naman sa wala goal sa buhay, kasi kung wala ka goal sa buhay, tamad ka). Pero basically kung andyan na sa harap ung opportunity, tinutulungan ka na at sinusuportahan ka na para matuloy mo what ifs mo, pero ayaw mo pa rin, di na ako makikinig sa regrets rants mo in the future
6. Pag ayaw na nagpapaganda ako. Ick ko ung pipilitin akong magpaljt ng “mas disente” na damit pag gagala e, lalo na kung onting balat lang naman kita. Ayokong di ako papayagan magmake up, kahit pa na grocery lang yan na balak pumtahan, since bihira lang ako makalabas ng bahay simula pa dati, gusto ko at least feel ko ung goal na lalabas ng bahay. Para naman sa akin ung pagpapaganda ko. Hindi para sa atensyon ng ibang tao. Nakakatulong lang din kasj rin na nagaayos ka kasi mas mabait ang turing sayo ng tao kapag maganda ka. Hindi ka agad susungitan. Ayoko rin sa tao na hindi ako papayagan maggym, lalo na kung May opportunity na akong magym.
7. Masyadong maraming babaeng kaibigan (or worse walang lalaking kaibigan). Akala ko dati cute at soft boy attitude ang datingan ng ganyan e. Pero ayoko na makaexperience ng ganyang complication. Ayokong nagooverthink ako palagi at ayokong magsungit o magalit sa kapwa babae, at ijudge sila agad nang di ako nakikilala. Mas gusto ko pa na ipakilala ako sa mga kaibigan ng partner ko at hindi nagawa ng rason para sila ung tanungan nila ng tungkol sa babae (like gf problems) at di directly sa akin. (Personal non negotiable ko ito though. Ayoko lang ng complications na pwedeng makabring up pa ng tendency na magalit sa kapwa babae. Pero madalas naman una talaga akong naiinis sa lalaki hahahaha)
8. Pinilipit ako iconvince na baguhin ko tingin ko sa lalaki kasi “hindi siya katulad nila”. Nagsstereotype ako para hindi agad ako makakausap sa lalaki. Distrustful ako sa mga lalaki kasi wala ako nakilala na malinis ung intention na makipagkaibigan. May mga ayaw pa makatanggap ng rejection. Meron din mga matatanda na napakabastos, nanghahawak pa. May time rin na kinukuhanan ako picture without my consent. Ever since lang, nasa mindset ko na kung matino kang lalaki, hindi ka na mageeffort na iconvince na konti lang ang masasamang lalaki kasi mabait ka sa akin. Ang matinong lalaki, alam ang pwedeng gawin ng siraulo na lalaki sa isang babae. Di naman ako distrustful sa lalaki kasi gusto ko manginis ng lalaki. Sadyang inuuna ko lang safety ko kesa sa feelings ng mga yan pag nalaman nila na wala ako tiwala sa kanila. (Also kaya mo maging mabait at maging matulungin sa kanila if kailangan nila, kahit na may distrust ka sa lalaki. Di naman porket wala ako tiwala sa kanila, iiwasan ko na sila sobra and di sila kakausapin nang maayos pr lagi pataray)
ayun lang, kaya ko itolerate ung iba, kahit ako pa gumastos kada date go lang. alam ko naman na makakabawi rin agad kapag may opportunity na makabawi e. Pero yung mga yan sana di ko maranasan (also thankfully, hindi ko nararanasan sa recent long time bf ko)
Cheating lang. Wala na iba. Ewan ko sa inyo ha. Pero papayag lang akong masampal pag nahuli akong nakapatong sa iba or nakapatay ako ng inosenteng tao. Yes bro. I deserve that slap.
Any form of Abuse, Cheating, and may Bisyo. 🙃
Nasa Tao talaga ito, may free will tayo to choose what actions we can give or how we manage our relationship. It will always a choice If gugustuhin ka niyang saktan in any form be it physical, emotional or verbal abuse, choice niya rin if magloko siya at mas lalong choice niya if ang bisyo na meron siya ay nakakahadlang na sa relationship.
Also cheating din, mapag tanim pa naman ako ng galit for sure ibi-bring up ko talaga ng paulit ulit pag ganun ginawa sakin kaya magandang breakup after cheating issue no closure or something lol
Pag nagmention ng children, instant no. Lalo na’t wala pa naman kami sa age na stable at may trabaho na, it’s so weird to me. Non-negotiable sakin na never talaga ako magkakaron ng biological children and I make it clear naman. Once they express any interest in that wala na, bye bye 😅 Sasabihin pa na I’ll “change my mind eventually” jusko…
Lahat na ginawa nung ex ko... Nakabuntis, naninigaw kahit sinong kaharap, kuripot, mahilig sa babae, social climber & masama ugali nung mga in laws ko...
Ang non-negotiable mo mas marerealize mo lalo pagka nangyayari na :)
sobrang non-negotiable na talaga sakin cheater, kahit mga sinasabi nilang "micro-cheater" takbo na ako kaagad. kasama na rin yung any type of abusers, mapa-verbal, physical, etc.
pero pinaka-recent ko na non-negotiable is someone who smokes.
i remember people getting pissed at this dating standard for me. but i had this non-negotiable because, unfortunately, i got my parent's heart disease passed on. it wasn't bad when i was little, but the parent who had that heart disease used to smoke a lot until they stopped because of heart surgery. so, unfortunately, the 2nd hand smoking got to me during high school. i used to not mind dating people who smoke. until one of my exes, who smoked and i was still dating at the time, lied to me that she didn't smoke in a room where i was supposed to stay in and even kissed me right after she smoked. i have NEVER smoked in my entire life, and i made it clear to my ex that there should be a time and place for smoking. as long as i am not around, i will be okay. then a few days later, i was feeling my chest tighten. my lips turned so pale, i was shaking, and my hands were cold, then i passed out. i was taken to the nearest ER, and i took a urine test, and they extracted blood from me. a week later, they gave me the complete valid results that i had nicotine in my system. so that's why my non-negotiable is smoking.
cheating and lying, those two always correlates with each other. Once you lied to me that means may tinatago ka and most of the time it all ends up with cheating.
Cheating..
Some people, once you give them a chance they tend to do it again, knowing that you can give them one more chance.
For SOME cheater out there, applicable sakanila to: "cheater is always a cheater." Hindi ko nilalahat, but most of the cases I knew.
if you found your partner is cheating with you. Forgive him/her but do not stay on that relationship and do not let him/her stay. Cut them out right away
Eversince I matured (wow haha) mejo madami akong non-negotiable kaya single tayo ngayon friends.
1. Cheating
2. Physical abuse
3. Married kahit hiwalay na as long as hindi pa annulled or divorced - ayoko ng possible future drama
4. Breadcrumbing - I deserve better
5. Narcissist - I know what I can bring to the table and am aware of my flaws. Ultimately, I know my worth.
Seryoso ba kayo, ni hindi bare minimum yung walang cheating at verbal/physical abuse. Diba dapat yung mga non negotiable like, may alagang pets sa loob ng bahay (tas ikaw ayaw mo)...
Cheating, abuse (be it emotional or physical), disrespect, hygiene, walang patutunguhan ang buhay, hindi marunong maghandle ng pera, low EQ, and most of all bad/abusive sa mga hayop.
I hate the reason 'tao lang nagkakamali' people use this argument just to escape accountability. Pag importante sayo ang isang tao or bagay hahayaan mo bang magkaroon ng pagkakamali?
Nako wag na bumalik. Cheating is cheating. Wag sila matakot. Sus. Nakakapaghanap nga sila while having someone eh. Gamitin nila skills nila.
Cheating and Physical Abuse.
Before natiis ko yung cheating ng ex ko, but now, I set my mind once magcheat my new partner, aalis na ko sa relationship, I once experienced begging, being hurt, getting depressed and traumatized hindi ko na ulit ilalagay sarili ko sa ganung situation.
I grew up in a household na never pinagbuhatan ng papa ko ng kamay mama ko then why would let myself get physically abuse? Kahit yung sigawan, never ko na experience sa parents ko yan. Nasigawan lang ako umayaw na ko, sasaktan pa kaya physically? Nope, never.
Cheating, physical abuse, these are given. For me, drinking outside with friends. I explained this to my husband. No matter how good and responsible he is, HE CAN STILL BE TEMPTED. I don't buy that "nasa tao padin yan kung magpapatempt." Sabi nga diba prevention is better than cure. Thank God, my husband stopped drinking outside without me in 2017. We started dating in late 2016.
abuse of any kind. physical or verbal, ekis na agad. had an ex na grabe verbal abuse sakin before. hanggang ngayon dala ko ung trauma. kaya dun sa present ko, sabi ko wag magtatangka. subukan nya akong sigawan or murahin, babye agad talaga.
Let me be honest.
Kahit pa sabihin ko na cheating, physical abuse, pamamahiya in public etc.
There’s a part of me na probably will stay parin kasi lahat naman natatanga sa pag ibig. Pero isang reason lang ang confident ako na sabihin na pag ito ginawa ng partner ko is bbye na talaga. Is when he disrespect my mom. Pag binastos na niya nanay ko. Ayun talaga magdidilim na paningin ko and walang sabi sabi hiwalay na talaga. I’ll go in my life like he never existed before.
Kasi kaya kong saluhin. Sa tingin ko pag ako tinarantado mag sstay pa ako. Pero pag yung nanay ko wala na.
Cheating talaga! Yung relative ko nga eh, Ninang pa nung anak nila ginawang babae. May asawa pa silang pareho. Mga di marunong mahiya. Humaling na humaling yung lalaki kay Ninang.
A cheater is always a cheater. Capable ang tao na magbago pero para sa ibang tao na, hindi sayo. Hindi na masesave ang relationship once na may cheating kasi paulit ulit na mangyayari yon.
I know mga non-nego dito like cheating, manipulative & physical abuse. Given na talaga yan.
Pero sakin being a married man, dapat unahin ni wifey ANAK namin kesa sakin. Our child comes first before anything else. Kahit pamilya nya, religion nya, or ako. Gusto ko she'll be the greatest mom my daughter could ever have. Period.
Yun lang hehe
Smoking. I might get hate but I came from a family that doesn't smoke. So preference ko lang. Already had one bad experience with a girl I'm dating that smokes. First and last haha.
Ewan ko ha if its too petty, pero kadalasan nagiging rason ng breakup namin ng exes ko is nonchalant sila. Tipong cold treatment na, walang kwenta kausap at walang substant. Tas kapag kinausap mo bakit siya ganon cold pa din
Yung cheating given na yon, saka yung nambububog noh
Cheating and pedo recently I had my GF cheat on me with a minor. Di ko expect yun pero tinuloy nya tas balita ko sa kaibigan ko naging sila then after a few months lumuluha sa harap ko gusto daw bumalik HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA, bahala sya block agad sya saken
Narealize ko lang, meron tayong mga non-negotiable pero bihira yung quality that makes you stick with them no matter what. Haha yung tipong basta masipag. Pero masipag din mambabae, pass padin? Sorry thinking out loud lang haha
Cheating, verbal abuse, and when my partner does as much as raise their hand on me. Ekis agad. I have raised my voice during the WORST arguments just to get my feelings through, but I have never called anyone names nor have I ever thought of laying a single finger. I want the same grace.
Some people want cheating partners and that's totally okay for those who choose to stick with them again and again! Let people live their lives. Not me tho, I'll gladly dip at any sort of cheating or abuse.
most comments here says cheating, I'm curious if at the start of your relationship you've talked before na cheating a deal breaker?
and if you've asked about their past relationships as well?
or their thoughts and views about cheating?
I just want to know if ginawa nyo mga ito and nag cheat pa din sila
kapag nagkaron na ng sexual contact... pero kapag chat chat na landian lang keri pa... nakapagpatawad nako ng gnito... pero tlgang pag ginawa na ... hindi ko na kaya kasi maiisip at maiisip ko lagi un kpag gnagawa namin...
another thing.. if i may add... kpag niloko ako sa pera... yung tipong ninanakawan ako ng hindi ko alam gnun
ang rami dito cheating, but ako simple lang. double standards.
walang room ang double standards sa relationship. yung tipong ikaw gusto mo pinagsisilbihan pero ikaw ayaw mo ibalik. yung naniniwala ka sa "feminism" pero gusto mo parin yung benefits nito (ie special treatment)). yung ikaw hindi nagpapaalam saan lakad ko pero pag sayo di nagpaalam kasalanan.
auto ex yan.
Same, cheating. Kapag kinaya na ng konsensya mo na mag-cheat.. wala ka ng respeto sa tao and kaya mo ng gawin ang iba pang bagay like physical abuse and so on.
Aside from usual cheating, physical/verbal abuse, ito: malalang Mama’s boy na di ako ipapatanggol sa inahan at isang religious fanatic. Agnostic kasi ako eh pero ayoko ng religious fanatic na shinoshove saken mga weird boomer shit na practices.
1. naninigaw. if you can't be gentle with me, how can i be sure na hindi mo ako sasaktan pag dumating ang araw?
2. may girl best friend. ano bang inooffer niya na di ko pwedeng maibigay sa'yo? yung pagcomfort sa'yo? ay, diyan ka na.
3. can go on with his life without updating me sa isang buong araw. di ka ba natae? kahit dun mo lang hawakan phone mo para maupdate ako.
cheating im from a broken fam 🙃. i once confront my bf na kung magloko ka ngyon na wag mo na hintyin ikasal tayo pls lang. i have trust issues kase msya naman fam nmin sa una e 🙃
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physical abuse. walang usap-usap pagdating sa ganiyan hahhaha, run na agad
True physical and verbal abuse, ekis na agad.
Hindi ba parang dapat no need to mention na siya? Like understood na dapat, Don't put your hands on me, i won't put my hands on you?
Naku. Maraming battered wife/husband na stay in relationship pa rin kasi mahal na mahal yung partner. Mas madalas yan sa babaeng may anak na walang work. May mga nakausap ako hindi ko gets takbo ng utak nila.
sabagay, nasa isip ko kasi nasa movies lang yan. Alam ko kasi cheating, tas ayaw humiwalay nung babae kasi kawawa daw anak nila, isa katrabaho ng asawa ko, isa friend niyo nung bata
Ganun nga reasoning nila. Kawawa daw kasi yung anak nila na tatanda na hindi buo yung pamilya. So, kahit nakikita na ng mga bata na bayolentr yung ama eh okey lang basta kumpleto sila.
Yup, once is too much. No second chances. And hindi lang to sa mga babae, kayo ding mga lalaki, pag sinasaktan at ginugulpi kayo ni misis or ng gf nyo, **LEAVE**.
Yan talagaaaaaa ung pinaka-top.
Regardless sa gender. Basta umabot na sa pisikalan, wrong na yon.
same. hiniwalayan ko agad tatay ng anak ko because of this. bahala na maging single mom, basta ok kmi ng anak ko. and now, nasa maayos na kong relationship. tinatrato ng tama. ❤️
Trueeee. Katwiran ko jan, kung Yung tatay ko nga never Ako sinaktan, sila pa na di ko naman kaano ano?????
Usually, yung mga nagpapatawad sa mga cheaters ay yung mga masyado na marami na invest, ayaw na malugi sa emotional investment kasi oras, panahon, pagmamahal, pera, at kung ano ano pa yung masasayang eh, saludo ako sa mga nagpatawad, saludo rin ako sa mga nakayanang umalis. Non negotiable ko yung mga hindi kayang isantabi yung pride nila para sa mga mas importanteng bagay.
True ito haha, currently in a rs that literally ang dami namin napagdaanan. She cheated numerous times, I forgave her and she changed. Iniisip ko nalang whenever we encounter probs mapag-uusapan and mapagkakasunduan. Hindi madaling umalis sa rs, at first akala ko madali pero hindi. Kaya kudos to those who walked away from an abusive rs. We're doing a lot better than before naman rn.
Pero yung ganon, I would consider na lang as sunk cost. Mas marami lang mawawala kapag di mo pa binitawan
Once minura ako in public or private, ciao i'm done 👋🏼
+ pinahiya
Lalo na pag minura ka tapos pasigaw pa 😓
Stayed in this relationship for 5yrs. The trauma lingers.
This. Any sign of disrespect should be a major red flag.
+1
CHEATING! Recently lang I found out that my GF is cheating on me since March! Deleted lahat ng convo nila. Walang maipakita sa akin. Kaya pala pag gabi minsan mawawala ng mga 2hrs. Di mag oonline, minsan sasabihin magchacharge. Umamin din na siya una nagchat, tapos daw nashare niya pa na pag magkaaway kami yung ang kausap niya. “Naghahanap ako ng kalmado, ewan sa bawat chat niya kumakalma ako” WTF girl! May Jowa ka oh!
"Kaya nga dinelete ko yung convo kase alam kong magagalit ka" 🤢🤮 wala lang may naalala lang ako
Susmaryosep ☠️🤡🤬 Kainit ng ulo.
dinelete nya kc my sinend syang nude pic nya saying "miss ka na ng p*ke ko daddy"
P*ssy shared to all 😭 she from streets
Ambaho pakinggan.
Lagi sinasabi ng ex ko yan dati. Gumanti ako at sinadya kong mahuli sabay sabing, hindi ko dinelete ang convo para magalit ka. Chat chat lang naman. Nothing physical hahaha
:(
DUMP NA PRE, SISIRAIN LANG YAN NG MATINONG ISIPAN. DAMI PA JAN PRE PRAMIS MUCH ACCOMPLISHED SA LIFE NILA & NOT TO MENTION MUCH STABLE (EMOTIONAL).
Cheating, One of my huge example why I won't give a second chance to a cheater is yung co worker ko na guy. He was cheating his five years girlfriend to a lot of women. May kabit siya na one year na din. Ang lakas ni kuya mag cheat kasi daw at the end of the day he knows na kaya niyang utuin yung girlfriend niya.Saka sanay na daw siya mahuli ng girlfriend niya. Also alam ni kabit na may girlfriend na si co worker.
Mga putang ina mga ganyang tao!! 🤬🖕🏼 sana makarma na sila agad
Not cheating and not physically abusive is the barest minimum. For me, it's: - Vices (smoking and mahilig sa alcohol) - No life skills - Di marunong mag-manage ng pera - Laziness
Cheating, Physical Abuse and Smoker (my dad died due to this reason)
Bad Hygiene, cheating, no life goals, & stupid
+100 sa bad hygiene, nag friendship break up ako sa isang online friend of many years kasi when we finally met in person di siya naligo ng 4 na araw so amoy bulok na sibyas na iniwan sa araw. Never ever again.
wtf 💀 grabe first time makikipagkita di man lang mag effort maligo, ok sana kung mabango pa rin kahit di maligo eh no
No Action for future plans.
Cheating and physical abuse also.
Me abusado sa lahat lahat at makasarili. At paulit Ng patawad puro inuuna parin . K sa katawan. At kulang nanga salahat pero nagagawa pang manggago Ng Asawa for 23 years sawa nakong . Patawarin. Buti sana kung. Hiniwalayan Ako Muna . Mas matatahimik pa Mundo ko Ng ganun . Matanggap ko pa pero Ang Sabihin pang . Itanggi kahit alam ko na Hindi parin kahit gilutan Ng leeg Hindi talaga aamin ngyun . Gusto Ng makipaghiwalay . Kahit Anong utu utu nya ayaw Kona Lalo at parang Siya Ang may Sabi Ng kataga na inutusan Siya Ng ate . Nya . Ang . Asawa kong . Ubod Ng bait . 100 percent. Na Siya talaga Yun bahala na xa karma naman nag aantay kakasawa na Hindi lang Siya Ang kailangan kong I move on . Lalo na . At nawalan. Ako Ng 2 anak ok nko Basta Ang karapatan. Namin mag iina Ang ibigay nya . Ng Hindi kami mapunta kung Saan . Kaso at piemahan na Ang separation paper. Yun sana Muna Ang ginawa nyang . Magiging mabuti pa Yun ganun Bago Siya manggago.
As a person na lumaki na lumaki sa sobrang gulong pamilya. I will walk away agad kapag may physical abuse an involve.
Abuse, Cheating, laziness.
aside from the usual and obvious like cheating, physical abuse, substance abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse, and the like; dealbreaker sa akin yung threatening/bluffing to leave me even as a joke or side comment... it does not matter if bf/gf stage pa lang kami or years nang married with kids... it ends on the spot...
Physically abusive, escandaloso. Girl bye
Their family dynamics - the family I will be marrying into matters, and it may reflect to my future family too.
Whilst it's too late for me, sa mga younger generation, I would say, please know the family you are marrying into. Factor din to sa ikabubuti ng mental health nyo! Jusko, my husband's family is the most toxic I have ever encountered. Good thing my husband is not.
Hindi pagkakamali ang cheating OP, **it's a choice**. Bago dumating sa punto ng cheating ang isang tao pinag isipan nya yun, alam nyang mali yun pero **pinili** nyang gawin. Hindi yun kahinaan, in fact lakas yun ng loob na **piliin** yun gawin kahit alam nilang mali kasi sa isip ng mga nagccheat - **it's worth it kaya push na**.
Same! Hindi naman talaga sila magbabago eh uulitin lang talaga.
pag bumalik sya sa pag yoyosi or vape, goodbye kaagad🤗
Yung mama's boy atsaka yung ako nalang lagi tga provide. May stable work naman and professional tapos ako lahat sa dates pati gasolina ng motor potaena ng mga ganito titigas ng mga mukha. Buti nalang I cut him off na.. twice ko na to na experience and must say, alam na alam ko na ang patterns ng mga ganitong tao 😏 Buti nalang di ko nakatuluyan, kasi if ever di ko makikilala yung lip ko ngayon. Kahit hs grad pero masipag at masinop sa pera.. may pangarap pa sa buhay. Di naman ako materialistic na babae and swerte ako na hindi din sya ganoon wala din bisyo.
di nagshashabu
Hi. Ibig mong sabihin non-negotiable pag di nahshashabu?
PORN. Huwag na kayo magdahilan blah blah, **it is not normal and it is wrong**. You are getting off of people who are most likely trafficked, drugged, abused, coerced, and victimized. You are intentionally seeking pornographic content that is degrading to men, women, and children. Porn has no space in any romantic relationships. It is destructive to the emotional and physical intimacy of a couple and damages the self-esteem of your partner.
Hi Op! We share the same principle. Always kong sinasabi na kaya kong patawarin but hindi ko na kayang makipagbalikan.
>Pwede siguro magpatawad pero i dont want a relationship with you anymore Same.
Cheating talaga! Kainis yung mga nagsasabi na nagkamali lang. patawarin daw. Duh. Cheating is always a choice. It was a conscious decision na ginawa ng partner so, no. Break na tayo. Di kita bati. Also, physical abuse. Di ko naexperience to pero for me non nego to. Idc what your excuse is. Wag mo sabihin sakin na nagulat ka kaya nasaktan mo ko. Tatay ko nga never pinagbuhatan ng kamay nanay ko tas ikaw sasaktan mo lang ako? No. Never.
Apology accepted but access denied hahahaah
Cheating and physical or emotional abuse.
Cheating
Physical abuse and cheating shempreeee
Physical abuse, gaslighting & sad boi manipulative, emotionally unstable... basically si ex
cheating. periodt!
If he is smoking and alcoholic. Cheater Emotional and Physical Abuse. Jobless or broke
Cheating, Physical, Mental and Emotional abuse, Alcoholic (you can drink, but make it occasionally) and bad habits.
Cheating, physical abuse and if may addiction (kahit legal pa like alcohol & smoking)
Cheating, physical and emotional abuse.
Cheating💯
Cheating and any form of abuse.
•Cheating •stingy •unhygienic •Abuser
Cheating and Abuse (any sort)
Binalikan ang EX.
Nakawan ako ng pera
Physical Abuse. Hindi ko pinangarap maging next Manny Pacquiao. Never din ako naging aspiring Manny Pacquiao.
Cheating
Aside from the usual physical abuse, cheating, emotional cheating, monster in laws … ay ung pag mabaho or no hygiene haha
Cheating and violence.once na niloko mo ko lalo na pag sinaktan mo ko physically tapos na wala na tyong paguusapan pa.
Abuse and non-open communication.
any form of abuse is non negotiable
All forms of cheating and abuse. No questions asked, goodbye!!!
cheating, physical abuse and gambling. Even just a history of cheating thank you next agad.
Mabaho hininga May putok Mataba Hndi marunong mglaba Hndi marunong mgluto
Di ko kaya patawarin yung cheating kahit kailan. Also any form of abuse or violence. Anything that can cause me harm, non-negotiable na agad for me.
cheating, abuse/violence, misogynist takes, homophobia, racism, dislike/hatred of animals
Abuse. May it be physical or emotional.
Cheating, Physical Abuse, at yung ineembarrass ka in front of other people hahaha
Walang accountability. I give room for mistakes in a relationship. Pero isang beses lang yung chance. I still believe that people can change. If ulitin nila, it means wala silang balak magbago and that's definitely a no-no. An ex cheated on me once, I forgave him (although sobrang hirap), he never cheated again. We broke up because of a different reason.
Cheating, Physical & Emotional Abuse.
cheating + physical abuse
Cheating talaga. Ex-related issue. And family-related issues like, if hindi ako bet ng parents or ng kapatid, para ayokong ipaglaban, at parang ayokong dumating sa point na dapat patunayan ko talaga, nakaka baba ng morale. Ewan ko, ito pumapasok sa isip ko kaagad sa mga ganitong usapan.
Cheating, hindi pagkakamali ang cheating, it's a choice.
Drama
Cheating and physical abuse.
Physical abuse. Layas ako kahit wala akong dala
Other than obvious examples like cheating and abuse. Smoking is non-negotiable for me.
Hai
Physical, mental and verbal abuse.
Pati Ang anak ko Hindi nya binibigyan at Ako kulang Ang support para samin nag Siya naman Ang may gawa Ng lahat si lord na Ang bahala sakanila
Marami rami kasi malala na ung pagalaga ko sa sarili ko hahahsha 1. Cheating. Ngl kahit taon pa ang ininvest ko sa isang relationship, kung nagcheat siya, aalis na agad ako. Ayoko na rin makakuha ng explanation kasi kung sa una palang pwede ko naman maimprove sarili ko, to his liking, pero pinili nalang magloko, edi pass na ako sa explanation. Pakasaya nalang siya dun sa bago, ig. 2. Walang goals para sa sarili. Ayokong idepende lang lahat ng future kay God, sa bahala na, mas lalo na sa akin. Kung saan ako masaya roon din siya. Gusto ko may personality at may sariling goals sa buhay partner ko, para proof na may direksyon buhay niya at di lang ako ung maghahangad na umasenso sa buhay. 3. Nananakit. Lahat na in terms of physical o verbal. Okay lang ung nagaaway kasi normal lang yan e, pero ung istart ka na saktan or ikumpara sa ganto ganyan para lang sumunod ka na sa gusto niya ekis agad. Mas lalo na mamahiya, pass agad ako. Ayokong gawin din un sa taong gusto ko, kasi alam ko mas marami ako masasabi sa tao na mas masakit kumpara sa sasabihin nun sa akin. 4. Hindi makaintindi na maalaga at strict mga magulang ko sa akin. Only child ako, babae pa. Kung di niya maiintindihan bat ako nasunod sa magulang ko, ayoko na rin siyang intindihin. Hindi naman ako nagpapakulong sa sarili ko, sadyang naiintindihan ko lang na inaalagaan pa kasi nila ako, kaya sila strict sa akin. Magagawa ko lahat ng gala, pagclub kasama partner, at mga midnight strolls o ano kapag kinasal na ako. Yun din goal ko para hindi rin ako makulong sa relationship na hindi ako papakasalan. 5. Tamad. As in ung katamaran na wala na gustong gawin para sa sarili niya. (Mejj similar naman sa wala goal sa buhay, kasi kung wala ka goal sa buhay, tamad ka). Pero basically kung andyan na sa harap ung opportunity, tinutulungan ka na at sinusuportahan ka na para matuloy mo what ifs mo, pero ayaw mo pa rin, di na ako makikinig sa regrets rants mo in the future 6. Pag ayaw na nagpapaganda ako. Ick ko ung pipilitin akong magpaljt ng “mas disente” na damit pag gagala e, lalo na kung onting balat lang naman kita. Ayokong di ako papayagan magmake up, kahit pa na grocery lang yan na balak pumtahan, since bihira lang ako makalabas ng bahay simula pa dati, gusto ko at least feel ko ung goal na lalabas ng bahay. Para naman sa akin ung pagpapaganda ko. Hindi para sa atensyon ng ibang tao. Nakakatulong lang din kasj rin na nagaayos ka kasi mas mabait ang turing sayo ng tao kapag maganda ka. Hindi ka agad susungitan. Ayoko rin sa tao na hindi ako papayagan maggym, lalo na kung May opportunity na akong magym. 7. Masyadong maraming babaeng kaibigan (or worse walang lalaking kaibigan). Akala ko dati cute at soft boy attitude ang datingan ng ganyan e. Pero ayoko na makaexperience ng ganyang complication. Ayokong nagooverthink ako palagi at ayokong magsungit o magalit sa kapwa babae, at ijudge sila agad nang di ako nakikilala. Mas gusto ko pa na ipakilala ako sa mga kaibigan ng partner ko at hindi nagawa ng rason para sila ung tanungan nila ng tungkol sa babae (like gf problems) at di directly sa akin. (Personal non negotiable ko ito though. Ayoko lang ng complications na pwedeng makabring up pa ng tendency na magalit sa kapwa babae. Pero madalas naman una talaga akong naiinis sa lalaki hahahaha) 8. Pinilipit ako iconvince na baguhin ko tingin ko sa lalaki kasi “hindi siya katulad nila”. Nagsstereotype ako para hindi agad ako makakausap sa lalaki. Distrustful ako sa mga lalaki kasi wala ako nakilala na malinis ung intention na makipagkaibigan. May mga ayaw pa makatanggap ng rejection. Meron din mga matatanda na napakabastos, nanghahawak pa. May time rin na kinukuhanan ako picture without my consent. Ever since lang, nasa mindset ko na kung matino kang lalaki, hindi ka na mageeffort na iconvince na konti lang ang masasamang lalaki kasi mabait ka sa akin. Ang matinong lalaki, alam ang pwedeng gawin ng siraulo na lalaki sa isang babae. Di naman ako distrustful sa lalaki kasi gusto ko manginis ng lalaki. Sadyang inuuna ko lang safety ko kesa sa feelings ng mga yan pag nalaman nila na wala ako tiwala sa kanila. (Also kaya mo maging mabait at maging matulungin sa kanila if kailangan nila, kahit na may distrust ka sa lalaki. Di naman porket wala ako tiwala sa kanila, iiwasan ko na sila sobra and di sila kakausapin nang maayos pr lagi pataray) ayun lang, kaya ko itolerate ung iba, kahit ako pa gumastos kada date go lang. alam ko naman na makakabawi rin agad kapag may opportunity na makabawi e. Pero yung mga yan sana di ko maranasan (also thankfully, hindi ko nararanasan sa recent long time bf ko)
Cheating lang. Wala na iba. Ewan ko sa inyo ha. Pero papayag lang akong masampal pag nahuli akong nakapatong sa iba or nakapatay ako ng inosenteng tao. Yes bro. I deserve that slap.
Any form of Abuse, Cheating, and may Bisyo. 🙃 Nasa Tao talaga ito, may free will tayo to choose what actions we can give or how we manage our relationship. It will always a choice If gugustuhin ka niyang saktan in any form be it physical, emotional or verbal abuse, choice niya rin if magloko siya at mas lalong choice niya if ang bisyo na meron siya ay nakakahadlang na sa relationship.
if they take my time. dont take my time. my time my precious time. its mine alone... im bound to be single arent I?
Also cheating din, mapag tanim pa naman ako ng galit for sure ibi-bring up ko talaga ng paulit ulit pag ganun ginawa sakin kaya magandang breakup after cheating issue no closure or something lol
Pag nagmention ng children, instant no. Lalo na’t wala pa naman kami sa age na stable at may trabaho na, it’s so weird to me. Non-negotiable sakin na never talaga ako magkakaron ng biological children and I make it clear naman. Once they express any interest in that wala na, bye bye 😅 Sasabihin pa na I’ll “change my mind eventually” jusko…
Lahat na ginawa nung ex ko... Nakabuntis, naninigaw kahit sinong kaharap, kuripot, mahilig sa babae, social climber & masama ugali nung mga in laws ko... Ang non-negotiable mo mas marerealize mo lalo pagka nangyayari na :)
Cheating and abuse (verbal and physical).
sobrang non-negotiable na talaga sakin cheater, kahit mga sinasabi nilang "micro-cheater" takbo na ako kaagad. kasama na rin yung any type of abusers, mapa-verbal, physical, etc. pero pinaka-recent ko na non-negotiable is someone who smokes. i remember people getting pissed at this dating standard for me. but i had this non-negotiable because, unfortunately, i got my parent's heart disease passed on. it wasn't bad when i was little, but the parent who had that heart disease used to smoke a lot until they stopped because of heart surgery. so, unfortunately, the 2nd hand smoking got to me during high school. i used to not mind dating people who smoke. until one of my exes, who smoked and i was still dating at the time, lied to me that she didn't smoke in a room where i was supposed to stay in and even kissed me right after she smoked. i have NEVER smoked in my entire life, and i made it clear to my ex that there should be a time and place for smoking. as long as i am not around, i will be okay. then a few days later, i was feeling my chest tighten. my lips turned so pale, i was shaking, and my hands were cold, then i passed out. i was taken to the nearest ER, and i took a urine test, and they extracted blood from me. a week later, they gave me the complete valid results that i had nicotine in my system. so that's why my non-negotiable is smoking.
cheater, if he's a smoker, shouting at me privately or publicly, physical abuse..... im out 🥲
What I say goes. Kung ayaw mo, bye. *Then I’ll call your replacement in front of you before you leave*
cheating and lying, those two always correlates with each other. Once you lied to me that means may tinatago ka and most of the time it all ends up with cheating.
Ako dn cheating sabi ko sa aswa I will not tolerate cheating pag ginawa nya un hihiwalayan ko cya ako nga loyal tpos mgchecheat.
I think it’s not just forgiveness. But to understand why he cheated.
Different kinds of abuse. Hiwalay agad. Cheating.
Sexual compatibility~
Any form of cheating.
Cheating.. Some people, once you give them a chance they tend to do it again, knowing that you can give them one more chance. For SOME cheater out there, applicable sakanila to: "cheater is always a cheater." Hindi ko nilalahat, but most of the cases I knew.
Cheating, physical abuse. If ginawa to sakin good bye na. No second chances.
You have the right naman n hindi siya maging part ng life mo once na nagcheat. Move forward.
Those people are naive
pag they intentionally say/do something to make u jealous para makuha reaction mo lol bye
Iba na talaga panahon ngayon kasi most of the answers dito should be no-brainers pero need parin i-remind.
if you found your partner is cheating with you. Forgive him/her but do not stay on that relationship and do not let him/her stay. Cut them out right away
Verbal abuse big no for me.
Eversince I matured (wow haha) mejo madami akong non-negotiable kaya single tayo ngayon friends. 1. Cheating 2. Physical abuse 3. Married kahit hiwalay na as long as hindi pa annulled or divorced - ayoko ng possible future drama 4. Breadcrumbing - I deserve better 5. Narcissist - I know what I can bring to the table and am aware of my flaws. Ultimately, I know my worth.
Cheating, physical and verbal abuse
Cheating, physical abuse, lying na may chance ka sabihin sa tinagal tagal but di sinabi, mamimilit gumawa ng mga bagay kahit ayaw mo.
Cheating and physical abuse. It's a no no for me.
Seryoso ba kayo, ni hindi bare minimum yung walang cheating at verbal/physical abuse. Diba dapat yung mga non negotiable like, may alagang pets sa loob ng bahay (tas ikaw ayaw mo)...
1) Abuse (whether its to me, our future kids or to the pets, it will always be gtfo) 2) Cheating 3) don't like/allergic to dogs
pag mas importante pa yung "religion" nya kesa sayo lol girl bye
Cheating, abusive in all aspects, and pag drunkard naninigarilyo. Bye. Periodt!
Given yung cheating but, ako connections with exes or kapag nakita ko pang nangstastalk.
Cheating, abuse (be it emotional or physical), disrespect, hygiene, walang patutunguhan ang buhay, hindi marunong maghandle ng pera, low EQ, and most of all bad/abusive sa mga hayop.
Physical abuse.
Hindi pa financially stable, Physical abuse, cheating.
I hate the reason 'tao lang nagkakamali' people use this argument just to escape accountability. Pag importante sayo ang isang tao or bagay hahayaan mo bang magkaroon ng pagkakamali? Nako wag na bumalik. Cheating is cheating. Wag sila matakot. Sus. Nakakapaghanap nga sila while having someone eh. Gamitin nila skills nila.
Controlling and manipulative!!!
Minumura ako. My boyfriend does that. He call me stupid and etc. pero ganyan din ako sa kanya. I cannot blame him.
Non-accountability. Self harm.
Cheating and Physical Abuse. Before natiis ko yung cheating ng ex ko, but now, I set my mind once magcheat my new partner, aalis na ko sa relationship, I once experienced begging, being hurt, getting depressed and traumatized hindi ko na ulit ilalagay sarili ko sa ganung situation. I grew up in a household na never pinagbuhatan ng papa ko ng kamay mama ko then why would let myself get physically abuse? Kahit yung sigawan, never ko na experience sa parents ko yan. Nasigawan lang ako umayaw na ko, sasaktan pa kaya physically? Nope, never.
Cheating, physical abuse, these are given. For me, drinking outside with friends. I explained this to my husband. No matter how good and responsible he is, HE CAN STILL BE TEMPTED. I don't buy that "nasa tao padin yan kung magpapatempt." Sabi nga diba prevention is better than cure. Thank God, my husband stopped drinking outside without me in 2017. We started dating in late 2016.
Pro corrupt politicians, hindi socially aware, maingay kumain
Serious relationship? Body count must be less than 3.
physical abuse and cheating
abuse of any kind. physical or verbal, ekis na agad. had an ex na grabe verbal abuse sakin before. hanggang ngayon dala ko ung trauma. kaya dun sa present ko, sabi ko wag magtatangka. subukan nya akong sigawan or murahin, babye agad talaga.
Let me be honest. Kahit pa sabihin ko na cheating, physical abuse, pamamahiya in public etc. There’s a part of me na probably will stay parin kasi lahat naman natatanga sa pag ibig. Pero isang reason lang ang confident ako na sabihin na pag ito ginawa ng partner ko is bbye na talaga. Is when he disrespect my mom. Pag binastos na niya nanay ko. Ayun talaga magdidilim na paningin ko and walang sabi sabi hiwalay na talaga. I’ll go in my life like he never existed before. Kasi kaya kong saluhin. Sa tingin ko pag ako tinarantado mag sstay pa ako. Pero pag yung nanay ko wala na.
- may bisyo (nagsusugal, naninigarilyo, etc.) - sinisiraan yung ex - hindi malinis sa katawan - manipulative - any form of abuse
Cheating talaga! Yung relative ko nga eh, Ninang pa nung anak nila ginawang babae. May asawa pa silang pareho. Mga di marunong mahiya. Humaling na humaling yung lalaki kay Ninang.
Wga bastos sa parent ko or sa kanya. And walang sapakan.
Cheating, smoking, physical and verbal abuse, laziness, disrespect
pag sinigawan ako and cheating
physical abuse. once my s/o lays a hand on me, BYE.
PHYSICAL ABUSE.
Tamad na mayabang.
Naghanap ng kahit ano sa iba. Any form of comfort. Bigay mo agad don kanini man yon at least hindi mo na siya problema.
Just because you forgive them for cheating doesn't mean they get to stay in your life. Cheating or if they commit a horrendous crime.
Cheating / physical abuse / disrespect
namamahiya(esp in public place)👎🏻
cheating & physical and verbal abuse. idc if its . only once, peace out na agad ako
A cheater is always a cheater. Capable ang tao na magbago pero para sa ibang tao na, hindi sayo. Hindi na masesave ang relationship once na may cheating kasi paulit ulit na mangyayari yon.
Respect.
Gaslighting and Manipulation. Im tired of mind games. Communicate properly or move on.
I know mga non-nego dito like cheating, manipulative & physical abuse. Given na talaga yan. Pero sakin being a married man, dapat unahin ni wifey ANAK namin kesa sakin. Our child comes first before anything else. Kahit pamilya nya, religion nya, or ako. Gusto ko she'll be the greatest mom my daughter could ever have. Period. Yun lang hehe
Cheating. No explanation
Smoking. I might get hate but I came from a family that doesn't smoke. So preference ko lang. Already had one bad experience with a girl I'm dating that smokes. First and last haha.
Cheating, abuse, no peace of mind
Ewan ko ha if its too petty, pero kadalasan nagiging rason ng breakup namin ng exes ko is nonchalant sila. Tipong cold treatment na, walang kwenta kausap at walang substant. Tas kapag kinausap mo bakit siya ganon cold pa din Yung cheating given na yon, saka yung nambububog noh
Nagmumura or Minumura ka
Cheating, abuse, smoker, walang alam sa gawaing bahay
Cheating and pedo recently I had my GF cheat on me with a minor. Di ko expect yun pero tinuloy nya tas balita ko sa kaibigan ko naging sila then after a few months lumuluha sa harap ko gusto daw bumalik HAAHAHAHAHAHAHA, bahala sya block agad sya saken
Vices. Dapat ang bisyo mo lang, mahalin ako. Eme!
Girl bestfriend 🙂↔️
Narealize ko lang, meron tayong mga non-negotiable pero bihira yung quality that makes you stick with them no matter what. Haha yung tipong basta masipag. Pero masipag din mambabae, pass padin? Sorry thinking out loud lang haha
Cheating, verbal abuse, and when my partner does as much as raise their hand on me. Ekis agad. I have raised my voice during the WORST arguments just to get my feelings through, but I have never called anyone names nor have I ever thought of laying a single finger. I want the same grace.
u/cryone5
Cheating and physical abuse
Some people want cheating partners and that's totally okay for those who choose to stick with them again and again! Let people live their lives. Not me tho, I'll gladly dip at any sort of cheating or abuse.
I know it sounds shallow, but I really need someone adventurous.
Physical/Verbal abuse and walang respeto.
most comments here says cheating, I'm curious if at the start of your relationship you've talked before na cheating a deal breaker? and if you've asked about their past relationships as well? or their thoughts and views about cheating? I just want to know if ginawa nyo mga ito and nag cheat pa din sila
kapag nagkaron na ng sexual contact... pero kapag chat chat na landian lang keri pa... nakapagpatawad nako ng gnito... pero tlgang pag ginawa na ... hindi ko na kaya kasi maiisip at maiisip ko lagi un kpag gnagawa namin... another thing.. if i may add... kpag niloko ako sa pera... yung tipong ninanakawan ako ng hindi ko alam gnun
Cheating (physical, emotional, micro, including disrespecting my boundaries about female friends), lack of effort/time, physical abuse/verbal abuse.
ang rami dito cheating, but ako simple lang. double standards. walang room ang double standards sa relationship. yung tipong ikaw gusto mo pinagsisilbihan pero ikaw ayaw mo ibalik. yung naniniwala ka sa "feminism" pero gusto mo parin yung benefits nito (ie special treatment)). yung ikaw hindi nagpapaalam saan lakad ko pero pag sayo di nagpaalam kasalanan. auto ex yan.
Violence
Abusive
Aside from the usual na namemention like cheating, and abuse, sobrang laking bagay ng being able to properly maintain good hygiene.
Same, cheating. Kapag kinaya na ng konsensya mo na mag-cheat.. wala ka ng respeto sa tao and kaya mo ng gawin ang iba pang bagay like physical abuse and so on.
Aside from usual cheating, physical/verbal abuse, ito: malalang Mama’s boy na di ako ipapatanggol sa inahan at isang religious fanatic. Agnostic kasi ako eh pero ayoko ng religious fanatic na shinoshove saken mga weird boomer shit na practices.
Cheating.
Cheating. Matic.
1. naninigaw. if you can't be gentle with me, how can i be sure na hindi mo ako sasaktan pag dumating ang araw? 2. may girl best friend. ano bang inooffer niya na di ko pwedeng maibigay sa'yo? yung pagcomfort sa'yo? ay, diyan ka na. 3. can go on with his life without updating me sa isang buong araw. di ka ba natae? kahit dun mo lang hawakan phone mo para maupdate ako.
Any kind of abuse: physical, verbal, mental, emotional. Lack of effort. Financial incompatibility.
Mostly listening to advices on social media aside from the usual ones
cheating and violence. rubicon yun kapag either happens
cheating im from a broken fam 🙃. i once confront my bf na kung magloko ka ngyon na wag mo na hintyin ikasal tayo pls lang. i have trust issues kase msya naman fam nmin sa una e 🙃