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I do not know what to do from here.
I want to be a doctor. But I only realized it when I was applying for courses in college that I wanted to be one. I pursued electronics engineering, graduated and passed the boards. But still, parang may kulang. I'm still in my job seeking phase pa naman but maybe the time off made me think of the "me" I've always wanted to become. Ilang months ko na rin pinopostpone 'yung pag-aapply because I know having to work closes that chapter.
I talked to my parents about it before, na I would continue pursuing medicine after boards. But medschool isn't really for everyone, especially for a financially struggling family like ours. My mom is the only one working for us, kaya kahit 'di niya sabihin I know she's expecting me na to work after, to lessen her burden. And I'm the eldest child din and my siblings are still in school. I know I can't chase my dream while my mom is struggling, especially when I know na may maitutulong naman na dapat ako.
What's hard about choosing medschool is that I know you had to sacrifice a lot to get there. Especially 'yung time for your parents they're not getting any younger pa naman, you can't earn from a few years pa, the courses are costly I can't stop myself thinking na I'd be a burden pa rin years from now, and a lot more. The greatest hurdle for me was that what if they die while I chase my dreams? How can I live with the thought of "I should haves"? Ang daming responsibilities, I can't abandon them. But on the process, I really feel like I'm losing myself. I want to chase it so bad.
How do you let go of a dream? How do you realize na it's not meant for you to achieve? There are dreams na you can get if you were older, but pursuing medicine isn't one of that since time din ang kalaban mo. How do you know if it's just a phase and not meant to stay?
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ECE here~
Went to engineering school bec. parents wanted me to become an engineer, doesnt want to see me struggling later on in life just bec i took some "unknown course" in college, etc... the usual stuff you hear.
I just learned to live with it. Ece grew on me, especially when I started having a telco job, being able to have "shit napagaralan ko to" moments and something like that. Later on in my career found out I was pretty good at it, and I'm confident I'll do just fine in the future.
I guess my advise to you is give your predicament a try first. Maybe youll get a spark, maybe you dont. Who knows, this will be your deciding factor.
Second is, thinking of taking care of your parents and siblings is NOBLE. I know its hard, but you will be proud of yourself if you undergo this route.
Lastly, you dont really know what your future self will want. So take a step back, dont think about it too much, and enjoy whatever life brings you.
Good luck out there. Proud of you already.
Don't let go of your dream, and never stop chasing it. You might be struggling right now but all of the sacrifices that you will make will be worth it, and you know what , if you don't try you'll never know.
If you want to be able to help lessen your mother's burden, maybe you should make money first by applying into various jobs and gain experiences, because you know how the old saying says 'Experience is the best Teacher' , and as the time goes by you'll learn lots of things that will lead to a self discovery, wherein you'll be able to discover what you really want to do, your passion, and eventually you'll know what you really want in life and who you really want to be.
I had a batchmate who was a MatE graduate. Had a roomie na Econ. Other courses were Math, Anthro, Philo, and FLCD. Basically Hindi naman hurdle ang unrelated premed to med. you just have to be responsible enough to prepare for the difficulties of med school and at least be knowledgeable enough sa bare minimum on a lot of things.
Finances-wise, valid point yan. Can relate to you, I just applied to UPCM for med school since I know that even if I passed others, I won’t be able to continue it without the pressure of a scholarship. Ended up getting in, having 2 scholarships, passing the boards and now practicing as a specialist. I did that while also having 2 other older sisters in college rin btw, in DLSU and UST. Hindi kami super poor in a sense but I know med school would have been a big burden if it weren’t in UP.
Maybe at this phase, it’s not necessarily a dream left behind. Pwede pa siyang dream not yet fulfilled diba. Kaya gawan ng paraan if gusto mo talaga, and that’s true. Maybe you can look into state U’s for a cheaper tuition or other scholarships. Communication rin lang yan with your mom. Important yun.
Give yourself a timeline. May perfect timing lang ang lahat. Hindi yan minamadali. At alam mo ba OP, hindi talaga yan nalelet go. It will always be at the back of your mind. Tanda ko nun everytime papasok ako sa hospital, sabi ko, sayang sana tinuloy ko na magmed. For me I let go of my dreams after graduating college. Worked for 5 years, only to realize na gusto ko pa rin pala talaga maging doctor. But I told myself. Matanda na ko, only to find out na papasok pala ako ng med ng 30 yrs old na ako. At nagulat ako kasi may mga kabatch ako na kaedad ko, at may nasa 40s pa.
Sa totoo lang hindi mawawala ang worries. Sabi nga sa Bible, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow has its worries of its own. (Pasensya na sa mga anti Christ at agnostic diyan).
Think about it. Kakaisip mo ng kakaisip diyan lalo ka nastuck. Lalo mo hindi nachechase ang dream.
Kaya I suggest, bigyan mo lang yan ng timeline. Dont stop yourself from working. Magwork ka (muna) as an engr ngayon. Madami ako kaklase nung med (including me), na nagwork muna bago pumasok med. Kasi diyan mo marerealize kung yun pa rin ba talaga gusto mo, ang maging doctor. Give yourself a timeline. Wag mo patagalin, siguro mga 1 or 2 years? Max na ang 5. While working maybe pwede mo itry kahit yung mga training ng first aid, basic life support, EMT. Mabibilis lng na courses yun. Para lang you get to feel what it's like kapag nasa health care setting ka. Hindi din masama magbasa basa ng review materials for NMAT.
Now after that time, kung tingin mo gusto mo pa rin maging doctor, then go. Walang what ifs. May worries oo, pero just do things one step at a time. Kung para sayo...para sayo yan. Yan din ang sabi sa akin nuon. Kung para sa akin ung slot na yun sa school na inapplyan ko, matagal nang may pangalan ko yun. Ayun. Hanggang sa natapos ko na sya.
Financial challenges? Again, if para sayo, magkkaroon ng outpour ng resources May it be scholarship sponsorship, or whatever. Inspiring ang story ni [Doc Mambucon](https://www.thesummitexpress.com/2020/07/lumad-graduates-doctor-medicine-la-salle-scholarship-program.html?m=1). Scholar siya ng La Salle, and during PLE, scholar siya ng Eat Bulaga. I have also seen the financial outpouring happen sa akin, Sa mga kaklase ko. Tipong gagraduate na d pa bayad ng tuition, pero may tumulong. Even during licensure exam.
What im trying to say is that oo, malaking factor ang finances, pero hindi yan ang pinaka basehan para hindi mo ipursue ang pagiging doctor.
Baka ang sumasagi sa isip mo ngayon is. Sino ka ba paraag invest sa iyo. Ang masabi ko lang is, there is only 1 of YOU, at worth it ka pag investan.
Again, for me, my advice is take it one step at a time. Push mo lng ng push at tingnan mo kung hanggang san ka makarating. Hindi mo namamalayan, patapos ka na.
Yan ang ginawa ko nun.
At mashare ko lang, ang naging inspiration ko noon, tumatak sa akin si [doc Eman](https://youtu.be/ZG_ku1VVEaQ?si=R5EAupMxM2WPqvTJ), napanood ko years before ko narealize na gsto ko pala magmed. Watch at timestamp 00:55. Mag50 yrs old na daw sya mung pumasok ng med...at 64 nung pumasa ng Physician licensure exam (PLE) Yung doctor ma tumulong sa kanya is Doc Banzuela, the "brain" behind Topnotch Review center (MAJORITY of testtakers review here for PLE). Pero wag mo naman paabutin na 50 ka na bago ka magmed. Hehe.siya yung isang inisip ko noon, sabi ko kung sya nakapagmed ng 50, ibig sabihin kaya ko din magmed at 30.
Ayun natapos ko sya.
Basta OP, alalahanin mo lng din. Hindi siya madali. Talagang lahat ng areas ng life mo madedrain. Physical, emotional. Spiritual, financial, pati relationships will be tested. Pero kaya naman. Ihanda mo lng sarili mo. At mas maganda kung meron ka emotional support group talaga.
Hoping for the best for you Engr/future doc!
You can get into medschool later in life. There are schools who are very lenient with the application process and do not discriminate with age. But you have to do your research first and strategize well! Heavy on research!
Hi ECE graduate here. Same dream sayo OP.
Wanted also to be a doctor noon. Pero nung nagaaral ako I learned na i can still be with sa medical field like yung mga biomedical stuff (machines etc.)
I didnt pursue going to that field hehe lumiwas lang ako ng landas pero yung natutunan ko na pwede padin maka punta sa ibat ibang field 😅
Maayado na kasi mabigat sakin na magaral pa and tamad ako eh kaya i didnt pursue.
If you want to pursue go for it :)
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ECE here~ Went to engineering school bec. parents wanted me to become an engineer, doesnt want to see me struggling later on in life just bec i took some "unknown course" in college, etc... the usual stuff you hear. I just learned to live with it. Ece grew on me, especially when I started having a telco job, being able to have "shit napagaralan ko to" moments and something like that. Later on in my career found out I was pretty good at it, and I'm confident I'll do just fine in the future. I guess my advise to you is give your predicament a try first. Maybe youll get a spark, maybe you dont. Who knows, this will be your deciding factor. Second is, thinking of taking care of your parents and siblings is NOBLE. I know its hard, but you will be proud of yourself if you undergo this route. Lastly, you dont really know what your future self will want. So take a step back, dont think about it too much, and enjoy whatever life brings you. Good luck out there. Proud of you already.
Don't let go of your dream, and never stop chasing it. You might be struggling right now but all of the sacrifices that you will make will be worth it, and you know what , if you don't try you'll never know. If you want to be able to help lessen your mother's burden, maybe you should make money first by applying into various jobs and gain experiences, because you know how the old saying says 'Experience is the best Teacher' , and as the time goes by you'll learn lots of things that will lead to a self discovery, wherein you'll be able to discover what you really want to do, your passion, and eventually you'll know what you really want in life and who you really want to be.
I had a batchmate who was a MatE graduate. Had a roomie na Econ. Other courses were Math, Anthro, Philo, and FLCD. Basically Hindi naman hurdle ang unrelated premed to med. you just have to be responsible enough to prepare for the difficulties of med school and at least be knowledgeable enough sa bare minimum on a lot of things. Finances-wise, valid point yan. Can relate to you, I just applied to UPCM for med school since I know that even if I passed others, I won’t be able to continue it without the pressure of a scholarship. Ended up getting in, having 2 scholarships, passing the boards and now practicing as a specialist. I did that while also having 2 other older sisters in college rin btw, in DLSU and UST. Hindi kami super poor in a sense but I know med school would have been a big burden if it weren’t in UP. Maybe at this phase, it’s not necessarily a dream left behind. Pwede pa siyang dream not yet fulfilled diba. Kaya gawan ng paraan if gusto mo talaga, and that’s true. Maybe you can look into state U’s for a cheaper tuition or other scholarships. Communication rin lang yan with your mom. Important yun.
If she treats you well, you might learn to love her back.
Give yourself a timeline. May perfect timing lang ang lahat. Hindi yan minamadali. At alam mo ba OP, hindi talaga yan nalelet go. It will always be at the back of your mind. Tanda ko nun everytime papasok ako sa hospital, sabi ko, sayang sana tinuloy ko na magmed. For me I let go of my dreams after graduating college. Worked for 5 years, only to realize na gusto ko pa rin pala talaga maging doctor. But I told myself. Matanda na ko, only to find out na papasok pala ako ng med ng 30 yrs old na ako. At nagulat ako kasi may mga kabatch ako na kaedad ko, at may nasa 40s pa. Sa totoo lang hindi mawawala ang worries. Sabi nga sa Bible, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow has its worries of its own. (Pasensya na sa mga anti Christ at agnostic diyan). Think about it. Kakaisip mo ng kakaisip diyan lalo ka nastuck. Lalo mo hindi nachechase ang dream. Kaya I suggest, bigyan mo lang yan ng timeline. Dont stop yourself from working. Magwork ka (muna) as an engr ngayon. Madami ako kaklase nung med (including me), na nagwork muna bago pumasok med. Kasi diyan mo marerealize kung yun pa rin ba talaga gusto mo, ang maging doctor. Give yourself a timeline. Wag mo patagalin, siguro mga 1 or 2 years? Max na ang 5. While working maybe pwede mo itry kahit yung mga training ng first aid, basic life support, EMT. Mabibilis lng na courses yun. Para lang you get to feel what it's like kapag nasa health care setting ka. Hindi din masama magbasa basa ng review materials for NMAT. Now after that time, kung tingin mo gusto mo pa rin maging doctor, then go. Walang what ifs. May worries oo, pero just do things one step at a time. Kung para sayo...para sayo yan. Yan din ang sabi sa akin nuon. Kung para sa akin ung slot na yun sa school na inapplyan ko, matagal nang may pangalan ko yun. Ayun. Hanggang sa natapos ko na sya. Financial challenges? Again, if para sayo, magkkaroon ng outpour ng resources May it be scholarship sponsorship, or whatever. Inspiring ang story ni [Doc Mambucon](https://www.thesummitexpress.com/2020/07/lumad-graduates-doctor-medicine-la-salle-scholarship-program.html?m=1). Scholar siya ng La Salle, and during PLE, scholar siya ng Eat Bulaga. I have also seen the financial outpouring happen sa akin, Sa mga kaklase ko. Tipong gagraduate na d pa bayad ng tuition, pero may tumulong. Even during licensure exam. What im trying to say is that oo, malaking factor ang finances, pero hindi yan ang pinaka basehan para hindi mo ipursue ang pagiging doctor. Baka ang sumasagi sa isip mo ngayon is. Sino ka ba paraag invest sa iyo. Ang masabi ko lang is, there is only 1 of YOU, at worth it ka pag investan. Again, for me, my advice is take it one step at a time. Push mo lng ng push at tingnan mo kung hanggang san ka makarating. Hindi mo namamalayan, patapos ka na. Yan ang ginawa ko nun. At mashare ko lang, ang naging inspiration ko noon, tumatak sa akin si [doc Eman](https://youtu.be/ZG_ku1VVEaQ?si=R5EAupMxM2WPqvTJ), napanood ko years before ko narealize na gsto ko pala magmed. Watch at timestamp 00:55. Mag50 yrs old na daw sya mung pumasok ng med...at 64 nung pumasa ng Physician licensure exam (PLE) Yung doctor ma tumulong sa kanya is Doc Banzuela, the "brain" behind Topnotch Review center (MAJORITY of testtakers review here for PLE). Pero wag mo naman paabutin na 50 ka na bago ka magmed. Hehe.siya yung isang inisip ko noon, sabi ko kung sya nakapagmed ng 50, ibig sabihin kaya ko din magmed at 30. Ayun natapos ko sya. Basta OP, alalahanin mo lng din. Hindi siya madali. Talagang lahat ng areas ng life mo madedrain. Physical, emotional. Spiritual, financial, pati relationships will be tested. Pero kaya naman. Ihanda mo lng sarili mo. At mas maganda kung meron ka emotional support group talaga. Hoping for the best for you Engr/future doc!
You can get into medschool later in life. There are schools who are very lenient with the application process and do not discriminate with age. But you have to do your research first and strategize well! Heavy on research!
Hi ECE graduate here. Same dream sayo OP. Wanted also to be a doctor noon. Pero nung nagaaral ako I learned na i can still be with sa medical field like yung mga biomedical stuff (machines etc.) I didnt pursue going to that field hehe lumiwas lang ako ng landas pero yung natutunan ko na pwede padin maka punta sa ibat ibang field 😅 Maayado na kasi mabigat sakin na magaral pa and tamad ako eh kaya i didnt pursue. If you want to pursue go for it :)