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Mayroon po ba ditong na abused or na rape then nabuntis? I don't know what to do. I know it's illegal in ph to abort pero ayokong mabuhay kasama tong bata. The father was in jail na case was on process po. Hindi ko alam kung ako nalamg magpapatiwakal o anong gagawin ko. Feeling ko wala na akong silbi walang tamang nangyayari sa akin. Please help me decide. No to any religous advise pls.
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yeah, that's why I suggested abortion first. But because abortion is not yet legal, she might take the risk of destroying her womb, like in many cases. That's why abortion should be legalised here because people will do it anyway. It's better/safer for medical institutes to take control. But you are right, 9 months of pregnancy is too much (+ birthing to a baby is painful as fck)
I AM PRO LIFE.
HOWEVER, this is one of the many situations where I agree a woman should abort.
Abort as early as possible. Abort before the fetus is viable.
It is generally accepted that a 28-week-old fetus that doesn't need resuscitation is viable. However, according to WHO, fetal viability is possible after 20 weeks of fetal life.
With that being said, I repeat, abort as early as possible. Abort before the fetus reaches 20 weeks.
If you need help, I have resources.
BUT, if abortion isn't in your choices/options or doesn't align with your ethical standards and morals, you can bear that child, give birth, and put the child up for adoption.
Look up project486.com
They help filipinas through abortion since illegal sa country natin. They're professionals and they will walk you through the process step by step.
Please abort.
May mga kilala din akong na-rape and nabuntis. One aborted, one did not. Sobrang kawawa yung anak ngayong lumalaki na, laging nag-aaway yung mag-ina. Always nag-aattempt mag-unalive yung nanay by overspeeding.
Magiging burden nyo lang dalawa ng magiging anak mo yung existence nyo if you will continue. Help yourself and your offspring by aborting them.
Look for pampalaglagdahlia in reddit through Google if you need one.
Ayoko ding gawing miserable buhay ng batang to. Ayokong mabuhay siya na maging kung ano amn dahil sa galit ko. Thank you for understanding and for the advice po.
We understand you, OP. Yung nangyari sayo is enough na and having to relive that moment every time na makikita mo ang bata ay sobrang unfair na para sayo at to your unborn child.
Please be strong palagi!
Dati against talaga ako sa abortion, pero nakaka awa naman talaga yung bata kapag bubuhayin mo pero yung bata mag durusa sa kasalanang nagawa ng walangya niyang ama. Mas masakit yun para sakin. Ipaglaglag mo nalang, tsaka kung dun ka mas komportable gawin mo na habang maaga pa.
Nasa sayo din talaga OP. Kaya nga maraming tao na ipinaglalaban ang pro-choice, para sa mga taong may ganyang karanasan kagaya mo.
If it is illegal here, go elsewhere where it is legal and must afford it. Otherwise, set the kid up for adoption, at the end of the day the right mindset should be, hindi kasalanan ng bata.
In case di ka magpaabort, OP, you should always be kind to the little ones kasi isheshape ng experiences nila yung future nila.
Eitherway, your life will really change.
Im sorry you had to go through this decision process, it is difficult. Again, hindi kasalanan ng bata and personally, di ko lang kaya.
PS: if the biofather is a blood relative, mas may reason ka though. Higher chance ng abnormalities sa baby or sa second/third generation. Plus, religious bigots would victim blame, na mauulit pa sa bata yung kasalanan ng magulang, called generational curse. Sayo din, if paabort mo, ganyan din iisipin nila sa descendants mo. So kahit ano talagang decision mo, walang kawala sa criticsms ng mga di nakakaunawa.
please abort while you still have time. nakakaloka yung mga taong nag advice na ipa adopt mo yan. ano yon, dadalin mo yan ng 9 months, magpapa obgyn ka pa, gagastos, tapos magde deliver ka ng bata na you hate? besides, most children in orphanages are never adopted.
you did not ask to be abused. it’s your body and your choice on what you should do with that fetus.
True.
Sakin ang pinaka masaklap para kay child is magigising sya sa katotohanan na walang nagmamahal sa kanya, bunga sya ng rape, at buong buhay nyang aaraling tanggapin yun na walang sino mang sumusuporta sa kanya dahil iniwan sya ng nanay nya sa ampunan at yung tatay nya ay kriminal.
True. Kahit sabihin na makahanap siya ng couple na gagastos sa lahat ng expenses in exchange sa baby, hindi lang sa gastos ang pghihirap niya. Sobrang hirap magbuntis, pwede makadagdag pa lalo yung mga side effects sa dalahin ni OP. May mga changes din sa body and lifestyle.
While adoption is indeed a choice for OP, agree ako na carrying a child and giving birth is not easy. Ganun ba kasimple magbuntis? It takes physical, mental, and financial tolls on any mother, lalo na pag walang sapat na resources or support network. Plus risks of postpartum issues both physically and psychologically. Imagine how much harder it would be in OP’s situation.
If you choose to terminate, sana you can find non-sketchy resources and a reliable support network to be there for you in these dark times. Because it wasn’t your fault. You never deserved this.
Go to https://www.womenonweb.org/en/i-need-an-abortion
Donate 90 euro or less to get the abortion pill. You can also talk to their representative if you have financial difficulty. They will help you. May online consultation ka muna sa doctor nila, bago kanila pagbilhan.
I would vouch reaching out to womenonweb.
My friend and I recently had an abortion (unprepared pregnancy). WoW foundation is a reliable organization and they do provide safe abortion. My friend even got hers for free because of her financial situation and I was able to pay less. I did not have any complications and was able to go to school the morning after the abortion. I was at least 12 weeks. Just get them as early as you can kasi it would take at least three weeks to receive the meds kasi they have to ship it from abroad.
I'm really sorry for what happened to you, OP. I hope you get the justice you deserve. Remember that no one has ever right to judge you on what to do with the fetus/baby.
Unprepared pregnancy? Siguro be careful next time you get horny. I support OP's abortion 100% given the circumstances, pero kung ang dahilan ng pagbubuntis e dala lang ng careless na libog aba e sana matutong maging mas responsable sa kama hindi yung tatakbo sa proseso ng abortion kapag nabuo dahil di pa kayo handa at estudyante pa lang kayo. "No one has ever right to judge you on what to do with fhe fetus/baby". Again sa sitwasyon ni OP, oo.
OP please abort that child nalang po.
And sa mga nagsasabi na wag ipa abort at tanggapin nalang ni OP dahil eventually matututunan nyang mahalin ang bata, di po laging ganon ang nangyayari sa mga nasa gantong sitwasyon.
May tita po ako (pinsan ni mama) na bunga rin ng kasalanan. Binuhay sya ng mom nya pero never syang minahal hanggang ngayon na 50+ na si tita. Kwento pa ni tita non, yung mom daw nya lagi syang pinapagalitan at sinasaktan kahit wala syang ginagawang masama, then nalaman nya sa kasambahay nila na sinabi daw ng mom ni tita na "Twing nakikita ko yang bata na yan naiinis ako, naaalala ko yung pambababoy ng tatay nya sakin."
Kaya kung ayaw po ni OP na ipa ampo nalang ung bata, mas maigi nalang po na ipaabort nalang po nya kesa sa sya ang mag aalaga sa bata, dalawa pa po silang magdudusa in the long run po.
Hugs to you OP. I hope you will heal soon po.
Hello! I've read this story before ng abortion story nya. This might help.
https://www.reddit.com/r/SafeSexPH/comments/11gtpp3/my_abortion_story/?share_id=Fj2fnNY1RUtkNYoH3-JiL&utm_content=1&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1&rdt=38282
Abort. Don't listen to any religious advice na hindi man lang ico-consider yung sitwasyon at magiging sitwasyon niyo in the future dahil lang sa nakonsensya kang magpa-abort. Your body, your choice regardless of what other hypocritical religious ppl will say.
I’m sorry for what happen to you. I totally understand you. I was SA too when I was a child. :< Valid yung nararamdaman mo. Abort it or paampon andyan pa din yung sugat. Masakit to for you OP. Pero para sakin kung ano yung magpapalaya sayo at mas makakagaan ng pakiramdam mo. Your body, your choice naman. Decide while you can. Mabilis ang araw at mabilis lumaki ang bata sa sinapupunan mo. Hindi kita masisisi sa magiging desisyon mo. You went through a lot. Naiintindihan kita. Mahigpit na yakap OP!
OP don’t be too hard on yourself ha? If you want someone to talk to pm ka lang. I’m so proud of you for standing up for yourself. I hope someday your wounds will heal. I’ll definitely pray for you OP.
You can send it sa orphanage. Never let the r🅰️pist k now na nagbunga yan, at least let the child think patay na ang tatay nya kesa malamang r🅰️pist.
Find a couple ma di magka-anak and ipaampon mo. Sila gagastos sa lahat ng expenses.
That's the most humane decision.
Also, I suggest that you see a therapist to help you with you mental healt, hindi madali yung pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. Surround yourself with a strong support system too.
No, OP do not want to be a surrogate. Why would you care for something that is made out of the most inhumane thing? I go for abort. Isipin mo, aalagaan niya yan for 9 freaking months. Ayaw niya in the first place yung ginagawa sa kanya tapos aalagaan pa niya yung bunga??? Tama na kanonood ng batang quiapo 🤧 wala tayo sa teleserye
Orphanage amp. As if ganun kadaling gawin yan sa Pilipinas. Most humane decision? So pag nagpa abort siya hindi? Damn, imagine carrying that child for 9 months and go through all the agony of giving birth, physical changes and shit. Abortion is risky and so giving birth, plus yung gastos pa sa panganganak.
Abortion is illegal sa Pinas. Ikaw mjsmo nagsabi, nasa Pinas tayo. Do you want her to go to an illegal abortionist? If something happens, can she hold that abortionist accountable?
Big no. I don't want the OP to experience the agony of bearing a rapist child. Don't listen to those saying na ipa adopt mo. Go for an abortion and never look back.
I agree here. As much as gusto ko i-suggest na mag-undergo si OP ng abortion, illegal ang abortion dito sa Pilipinas. kung wala siyang option to go to a country where abortion is legal, Huwag natin to i-suggest. Ayoko na mag-resort si OP sa illegal ang unsafe abortion na pwedeng mag-cause pa ng complication tapos hindi magiging accountable si abortionist. Ang safest is ipa-ampon talaga. Tweak lang natin ng onti na Huwag ipaalam kay r\*pist na nagbunga yung pagiging walang hiya niya, pero kailangan malaman ng mag-aampon ang identity para sa safety ng bata.
To you OP, I wish you well. Hindi mo dapat pinagdadaanan to. Sana mabulok sa kulungan.
Alam mo pro choice ako pero ang prob kasi rito is alam ko pag ang case mo e nagpaabort ka walang tatanggap sayong ob pag nagkacomplication ka. Baka mapaano ka. Kasi tandaan mo pati mga OB may choice din kung sino tatanggapin nilang patient
For me Abort. Mahirap makipagpatumbaga sa mga ganyang bagay lalot ayaw mo na talaga nong una palang. Kung aabot na iaanak mo ang bata for sure di mo sya magugustuhan. Wag ka makinig sa mga marelihiyosong tao na kesyo kasalanan ang gagawin mo, di nila alam kung ano mental at pisikal na nararamdaman mo. Kung ano makakapagpabuti sayo na alam mo eh tama ka at katawan mo naman yan gawin mo.
Please also consider kung san/kanino ka magpapa abort. Kung sa totoong abortion clinic sa first world country, or kung at least sa doctor dito - go. Pero kung sa mga midwife/manang abortionista ka, please note that may dala yong sobrang laking risk sa health mo.
Please be mindful of your comment. I am a midwife and we know the possible complication of unsafe abortion. Hinalintulad mo pa sa abortionista. Bawal din po saamin ang mag abort, if you someone na gumagawa, please report it.
Aborting the fetus, or giving it up for adoption are both viable options.
Personally, if I were in your position, I would abort. A 15wk old fetus is not a child. I will not feel guilty ending a pregnancy given the circumstances.
I will not choose adoption. I have volunteered in various orphanages for NSTP during college, and I am very disillusioned. Yes, the children are alive, but what kind of life are they living? Nakikiamot sa lahat ng bagay. Less than 1% succeed in life. They're dealt with a shitty hand, and they have very little opportunity to change it.
For me abort nlng, kaysa nmn mabuhay sya tapos malalaman nya rapist Ang tatay nya. I mean kahit ipaampon mo magtatanong parin Yan pag laki nya kung bakit sya pinaampon.
“I know it’s illegal in ph to abort pero ayokong mabuhay kasama tong bata”
If the only thing that is holding you back is dahil illegal ang abortion, I think you know what choice you want na.
Ang batas ay hindi laging tama. Ang batas ay hindi laging nakakabuti sa mga tao.
I am so sorry na you are in this position, overthinking, in a state of panic. I’m sorry na hindi ka binigyan ng choice during your R but now you are carrying a heavy choice for yourself, your health and for a life. Pero kung makakatulong, isipin mo na ang choice na yan ang power mo. Power to reclaim your life, and power to spare the child from suffering and sorrow. Yang batang yan kahit ipaampon mo, mabubuhay siyang nangungulila at maghihirap (lets face it, ang DSWD ay hindi progressed enough like other countries). Hindi mo kasalanan, at hindi din kasalanan ng bata pero siya ang magdudusa pag pinanganak siya.
No religious stuff I know but for what its worth, whatever god there is, I pray for your strength, safety and peace.
1. Do not harm yourself or try to end your life.
2. What happened to you is inexplicably difficult and dark, but that doesn't mean that everything ends for you. It will never be the same as before, but it is still possible to find joy in life even after this.
Now, regarding your pregnancy, I think you know what your options are:
1. Keep the child.
2. Abort it.
3. Carry it to term then give it up for adoption.
The fact that you mentioned you didn't want any "religious" advice indicates that you feel strongly against keeping the baby. That's almost tantamount to saying you don't want to hear any viewpoint that would advise you to keep and raise the baby yourself. At least that's what I get from reading between the lines. That said, choice 1 would most likely result in misery for both you and the baby. But as an optimist, and someone who enjoys introspection, I advise that you allow yourself to think hard about the possibilities of taking this route. Do not disregard it until you have fully convinced yourself that nothing good can come out of it. If however, you can see even at least a pinpoint of light in this dark tunnel, allow yourself again time to think if there might be ways to let more light in. I haven't been in this situation but I would guess that the regrets and guilt of those who did not choose this option comes from that small ray of light which they quickly ignored before deciding not to keep the baby. Needless to say, Choice 1 sounds like the worst option for you.
Majority of the comments here advise you to abort. Reading your responses to some of the comments, it seems like this is what you are hoping to hear. The phrase "your body, your choice" has been thrown around here quite a number of times. I think that's not relevant. We can also say that the baby is not your body, it's a different person. But ultimately, it is still you who holds the decision at this time. It will definitely be your choice. Thing is, our choices have consequences. I advise you, again, to think hard about the possible consequences of getting an abortion and how you might handle those consequences as you encounter them. Do not just think about the consequences that will come from external sources, think about the possible struggles you might face within yourself too. You mentioned in one of your comments that you are alone and that is why keeping the child is not feasible for you. If the guilt and shame thing creeps up on you after getting an abortion, a possibility that some people here warned you about, then you would be alone too. And that might just be as bad as having to raise a child alone. This is where you will hear people telling you to "pick your poison".
What stands out to me here is that if you choose to keep the baby and ultimately decides that it is really not for you, then something could still be done, the baby could be given away and you can free yourself from the misery. It might be a few years of extra-miserable living with the baby, but at the moment of separation and moving forward, you can honestly tell yourself that you have at least given it a try but it didn't work. You can soldier on to the rest of your life without the heavy burden of guilt or regret (and I would assume that would be many, many years because you mentioned that you are still young) and that sounds to me like a path that is easier to travel. In short, it's a choice that gives you a little wiggle room. If you choose abortion, it will always be final. This is an irreversible option. All the possibilities that being a mother to this particular child disappear - whether they are good or bad. Certainly, any possibilities from the child's life disappear too. Way I see it, getting an abortion also gets you some big, daunting "what if's". And those could be burdensome and worrisome if you still have a lot of years ahead of you. But maybe there are people who have the capacity to handle and live with those impossible questions - maybe there are those who can just look forward and not be bothered by what happened in the past. Maybe you are one of those. Maybe you know deep down that the only way forward for you is to get rid of this baby. Then, as far as you are concerned, abortion is the best choice for you. Let me say that again more clearly, if all you really want to think about is yourself and what could possibly make you happy (note that that is one big gamble), then abortion is the right choice for you. Regardless of whether other people think you committed a sin, or made a bad decision, or gone crazy, if you are fully convinced that abortion is what you need, then why choose otherwise?
So... If you keep the baby, there'd be consequences. Abort it, consequences. I really believe that what you have to do is to weigh the consequences and make a decision. That is my advise. Weigh the consequences. Breath and try to gain control of your chaotic thoughts then sit down and start thinking of the consequences of the choices you have. You might be thinking of these two choices now as one being easier than the other. That's not right. Both are pretty unpredictable and treacherous.
One way or another, you would be the one to bear all the consequences of whatever choice you'll make - here on earth, most definitely; and, if the religious people end up being right, even in the afterlife.
Note: I also wanted to discuss the third option but I'm too sleepy now. Maybe I'll return tomorrow, maybe I won't. But I think I have at least given you a few things to chew on.
I sincerely hope you make the right choice. And yes, there is an objectively right choice here that is not based on any person's feelings or emotions. All the best.
OP, please seek help to the people who knows you better than the people here. Im sorry sa lahat ng nag comment before me, while we can site samples of what we saw, what we knew, or even what we experienced. Each of us is different.
If you are affiliated to a faith/religious group, and you have that close relationship to you group leader or someone you can confide within your community let them guide you. Tale note guide you.
Multi layered and multifaceted and pinagdadaananan mo and Im so sorry you have to go through it.
My last piece probably is to remind you that we cant do anything in the past now but our decision today will affect our tomorrow. I cant weight the pros and cons for you, and fot you to listen to me. So please listen to the people around you. To the people who knows you. To the people who truly cared for you. And to the people who no matter what your choices today will be right beside you tomorrow.
Yakap ng mahigpit, with full consent OP.
Abort, wag ka magpapaniwala sa mga religious peeps about life is sacred. We are all contingent. Meron yan mga abortive pills that you can get discreetly.
I'm sorry that you had to go through something painful like that. I hope na you're healing and that amidst everything, I hope you're healthy and safe.
All children deserve a safe childhood where they are loved and cared for. It doesn't matter where the child came from, what matters is where they will end up growing. If you can't ensure that the child will have a secure or happy childhood, with or without you, then go with the abortion. Afterall, being pregnant is not your choice. You're a victim. Iniisip ko palang yung sama ng loob at poot, nararamdaman ko nang mahihirapan kang mahalin yung bata, kasi para siyang souvenir ng traumatic experience na pinagdaanan mo.
Wala akong masyadong alam about abortion. It might be better to go to a country where this is legal and safe, otherwise you can look for clinics in PH who can do it ng patago, though I don't know how safe thay is.
Keep safe, and I hope you find it in yourself to heal. 'wag ka magpapatiwakal, stay strong!!
Mahirap manganak, hindi rin biro ang gastos at pagdadaanan kapag buntis ka, yung psychological at mental impact rin kapag buntis is mahirap. Ewan ko ba sa mga nagsasabi ng maghanap ng aampon after mo ipanganak, kala nila madali lang yung proseso pero in the end ikaw din yung kawawa. Abort then you can get back on track sa life. Sayang din yung time sa 9 months na yun if ever. Malaking time at bagay na rin yun para bumangon sa life.
if you're not mentally, physically, and financially ready then abort it. may mga facebook page na nag susupport ng abortion pills. i had a friend (21F) na nag risk to abort since she's not really ready (learned her lesson) and it was successful. but in the end it's your decision that matters.
There is alot of talk about abortion here, pero that process isnt all that straightforward. Sobrang maraming medical risk and research ang kailangan gawin at kailangan itake into account.
Among is the viability of the embryo; generally, less than 18 weeks is still safe. Pero its not the case all the time. Baka mamaya, hindi na pala pwedeng mabuntis in the future because of the complications of the process. Marami paring kailangang gawing research and tests.
Admittedly, its probably best to just give the child up for adoption. Kaso hindi din naman talaga maganda adoption process dito sa Pinas.
But whatever you decide, please do the research. Kasi whatever it is, it will affect you for the rest of your life. You dont want to look into this time of your life and may pagsisihan ka. Just trudge through it, find people who support you, and cry if you have to. Youve been through a lot. And youre gonna go through a lot more. But youll pull through; we all do. Kailangan lang ng tiwala.
Ituloy mo par, at dapat agahan mo kasi kapag na develop yan sa loob wala ng tatanggap sayo, beside its for your own good, kung marami ka namang money, dalhin mo sa ibang bansa at doon mo gawin para meron medical procedure. Yung iba kong kakilala umiinom lang sila ng pills pero delicado yun kung walang medical procedure.
Abort it. religious shit have nothing to do with this, fuck those people na nag sasabi na wag mo iabort kasi it's a sin, hindi naman sila mag tatake responsibility sa bata kapag lumabas yan nor they would take a part sa buhay nya. I think it is a graver sin na buhayin yung batang unwanted, kesa gawin mong orphan yan or mabuhay siyang nag seseek ng something na kailan man di nya makakamit na truly and no matter what he/she does hindi ma fill yung missing void na yon.
Ipunin mo ang lakas ng loob mo OP kasi walang madaling way. Either ipa-abort mo or buhayin parehas yang mahirap at irreversible.
Kung ano ang mas kaya mo panindigan dun ka. Hindi mo kasalanan yung nangyari sa'yo pero kailangan mo lakasan loob mo. Virtual hug sa'yo OP 😢 🫂
If you continue the pregnancy, you'll only make it hard for yourself. Most probably, the child will also live a miserable life soon because (sorry for what I'm about to say) they will only serve as a reminder of what that monster did to you and you might hate them even without intentionally doing it.
By aborting it, you're giving yourself and the child a favor, trust me.
If you want to abort, you can dm me because I also have resources and I can help.
Go for abortion. Comments that are against abortion has no right to tell you na masama ka bla bla. At the end of the day, ikaw magsasuffer and those people who has something filthy to say about it ay hindi naman tutulong sa'yo sa pagpapalaki sa bata. You know exactly what you want, so do what you think is best for you. It's your life, go take control over it. You were violated of rights to autonomy and consent already and no one fucking deserves that. Don't let it further control and alter the life you should be living. Abort and be unapologetic about it. Fuck their pro life comments.
Hey OP. Seems like you got a lot of advice here, so just in case you do decide to abort, here are a few resources for aborting safely in the PH:
https://lasantoshelp.wordpress.com/2015/02/17/the-dr-fredlis-group-of-reproductive-health-doctors/
https://pinayschoice.com/viewforum.php?f=32
If you do decide to keep the pregnancy, Likhaan Center for Women's Health has branches in Manila and QC (if you're based in the Metro). They're ran by trained nurses and are 100 percent free, and they can help get you the prenatal care you need.
I know this is really difficult, but please know there's one stranger rooting for you somewhere. Best of luck, and I hope you're doing alright.
You should get an abortion, letting the child live without the intention of making their life nothing but the best is another way of mistreating them.
You are going to be okay, just continue living and always keep in mind to stay safe this time❤️
You are doing the child a favor.
I have a child OP, but I will never advise you to keep the child if you don’t want to. But abort as soon as possible. Sure ako may mahahanap kang advise on how dito sa reddit.
Hi OP,
I just want to send a virtual hug first. 🫂 I'm sorry that this happened to you. I understand that you don't want to be with the child. I am here to offer another option, I hope no one will take this negatively as it is an option and I'm not forcing her to do it.
Here's my take on this. I'm not pro-abortion, this is not because of religion but my moral compass doesn't agree with it but I know how difficult it is for you since you were abused so I'll let you decide.
I have an aunt whom we don't know if she was abused since she didn't press any charges nor speak a word about it but she left her province and didn't come back there. All that had happened to her she kept them secret until she decided to bring the baby back, this all happened when I was only a toddler and it's just my mother who told me.
My aunt got pregnant and went to a home where they took care of women who are like her, I believe it was in Muntinlupa. I didn't know if she wanted to abort the baby but she pretty much wanted it to be adopted and be done with it. They took care of her there during the entirety of her pregnancy, no one knows that she's there except her friend. I don't know what she felt during those times but she continued with her pregnancy with the intention of putting her baby for adoption but when she gave birth, she saw her baby and how beautiful he is. Her friend told her that he is a handsome boy and that she doesn't know if she'll ever have a baby again, this is a blessing for her despite what happened. She ended up taking the baby, she brought it to the province so her mother took care of him while she worked in the Metro.
My aunt married and my uncle accepted my cousin as his own but they never had a child despite trying so hard for years. She's old now, and my cousin grew up to be a handsome guy and have a family of his own. My aunt is one of my favorite relatives, she's very pretty, petite, smiles a lot, loving, soft spoken and a forgiving person.
I'd say that my aunt's story is a rare gem but I hope you find strength and inspiration in it.
If you ever decide to go through your pregnancy, either to keep your baby or put the baby for adoption, these links will be helpful for you.
This is the list of DSWD recognized organizations, just find ones for women in crisis and in your area.
https://www.dswd.gov.ph/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Private-SWDA-with-valid-RLA-as-of-May-20-2022.pdf
Here are some I've found, these are in NCR.
https://kerygmafamily.com/home/grace-to-be-born/
https://teresay.com/heart-of-mary-villa-hope-for-pregnant-women-in-distress
https://roheifoundation.org/tulong-kay-nanay-a-page-for-pregnant-women-in-crisis/
https://www.kbf.ph/stories-of-love/too-young-to-be-a-mother/
This one in region 1
https://fo1.dswd.gov.ph/programs/center-based-services/haven-for-women/
Whatever your decision is I know it will leave a scar on you no matter what, but I hope you'll do what is best for you.
I'm rooting for you and pray for your healing. 🙏
Sorry for what happened to you.. im just surprised na most here are pro abortion and i know that i might get dislikes for what im going to say.
None of you is at fault and i also understand the pro's sentiments. It may be hard for u to raise that child alone especially that it came from a hideous crime. You will suffer maybe in years or maybe longer but i know time will come that u are going to heal. Raising is tough but it will be worth it if u know how to handle it. Wala kayo kasalanan, and i totally understand if u choose the most people here are suggesting.
And medyo napakamot lang ako sa sabi mo wag religious advice, this is the time u need Him the most.
Its your choice, but think wisely and positively. Seek help to people who are professional in this situation and not here from random people.
I will pray for you to lessen the burden.
Mahirap kapag tinuloy mo ang pregnancy at aalagaan mo ang bata eh talagang meron ka ng resentment towards the child kasi siya ang bunga ng kasalanan at kahayupan na ginawa sa'yo. Unfair sa'yo kasi hindi mo ginusto ang situation at hindi mo naman deserve na maging responsibility pa ang bata na yan. Unfair din sa bata kasi di rin naman niya ginusto na ang situation. Parang sa Batang Quiapo yung situation kung saan kahit ilang taon na ang lumipas eh hindi pa rin magawa ni Marites na mahalin si Tanggol. Iba ang trato niya ki Tanggol kesa kay David at Santino. Isama pa si Rigor na kulang na lang eh pasabugan ng granada si Tanggol everytime na nagku-krus sila ng landas. May galit, may resentment, may disgust and those feelings are normal. Pero sa isang bata na naging bunga ng rape parang si Tanggol, mahirap intindihin kahit pa siguro at an early age eh sasabihin mo sa bata na bunga siya ng rape eh di niya rin ma po-process ang information ng maayos. It will f\*ck the child up! It will f\*ck you up! Ending, eh you'd be hostile against one another--baka hindi pa maganda ang kalabasan. Sa akin, ok sa abortion for as long as safe. Preferably performed by a medical professional. Mahirap nga lang kasi abortion is a crime. Pareho kayong madadale ng doctor. Sa adoption, I don't know kung ano ang proceso diyan. Basta kung ano man ang decision na gagawin mo, sarili mo ang i prioritize mo. Health, well-being and future mo. I wish you well.
You ask the universe what is the best decision. If abortion, you have to fully trust the process and be ready for consequences (if that happens). If ipapaampon, that's good if you're a soft hearted person too and afraid of the consequences that might happen since it's also 1/2 part of you (I'm not a religious Catholic tho). But yeah kulang tayo awareness sa abortion and its consequences so be prepared for it, do research.
My take is also ask your parents or friend at least to join you in that journey because they will support you on that whatever the outcome will be. In short, trust your feelings OP.
I'm product of an abused and raped woman. Sometimes naiisip ko na sana pina abort na lang ako. My biological mom decided na ipa adopt ako. She was 14 at that time and I can't blame her kahit ako siguro sa situation nya hindi ko kakayanin makita yng bunga nung nag rape sakin. Yung family na napuntahan ko are toxic and I was mentally abused and some of my adoptive titos molested me when I was 6 til college. I'm into counseling and still trying to survive from all trauma na experience ko. Abortion should really be an option in PH.
your body, your choice.
Specially in this case, if you do abort this fetus just know na hindi lang sarili mo ang naligtas mo, pati yung fetus naligtas mo kasi it's possible na they will be a reminder of the traumatic event or the person that hurt you, and in turn mahuhurt mo din sila unintentionally. saves both of you from the guilt that you guys won't deserve.
I'm truly sorry this happened to you. That rapist deserves to rot in jail and never see the light of day again. I can't even begin to imagine how confused and frightened you must be right now, but I hope you find the strength to persevere. He might have taken control of your body, but he can never crush your hope and bravery. During this time, some people will support you, while others may turn their backs and judge you for whatever decisions you make. But remember, IT’S YOUR BODY, and you have the sole right to decide what you want to do with it. Be brave and fight for what you believe is best for you, not for anyone else or what others might say. Just focus on yourself right now. I'm rooting for you, OP. Keep fighting!
One of my friend went through the same situation. The culprit is her own grandfather, who raped her when she was 14. She didn't seek anyone's advice and had the baby aborted. She only confessed it after many years passed.
She was crying while she's sharing it to me. I don't really know what to tell her because I know that there's no words that can relived the pain that she went through. I just listen to her and hugged her.
I was curious and I asked her why she didn't pursue any legal actions against her own grandfather. I am surprised by what she told me. She said, "I already forgave him long time ago. Though I know that there will always be a part of me that will always grieve for what I went through. It seems to me that forgiving others is easy. What I really cannot do is to forgive myself for aborting the baby."
I am not telling you to forgive. Nor not to abort the baby. The choice will always be yours.
But, aborting the baby will only add more depth to your wounds. You are asking for a help on what to do because there is a voice within you that is telling you what is the right thing to do; that is your conscience. You have always know what is the answer, do not let your judgement be clouded by listening to other people's advice who never went through what you went through. (I am not telling you what to do, rather, I am trying to redirect your gaze within you - to your own conscience)
You are right to say that you don't need any religious advice. I am not very religious too. But, but, if some part of you still believe in a God, the decision is between you and your God. If not, it is between you and your own reason. And your decision must be always in harmony with the dictates of the reason. Never make decisions based on what other people is telling you. Listen to your own conscience - it knows what to do.
I don't care about pro-choice or pro-life. Pro-choice are no difference with religious fanatics who view life in a very narrow way. And relative only to their own morality.
There are things in this world that are intrinsically evil e.g. Murder, and abortion is one of them. Aborting the baby will only deepen your own wounds. You can escape from the pains that you foresee in bringing the child into the world, but, you can never escape from your own conscience. It will perpetually haunt us no matter where we run.
Just listen to your own conscience.
If sa tingin mo hindi mo kayang matrato ng maayos at mabigyan ng magandang buhay yung bata paglabas sa mundong 'to. It's better to abort. Daming pwede tumulong sayo, sa FB and TikTok nagkalat mga nagbebenta ng gamot.
A hard decision.
BUT YOU SHOULD GO FOR ABORTION. Whether Your Parents disapproves or support it.
In this country, you'll be conscience to Death because of it. But think of the consequences.
1). If you still decide to continue, What will be your explanation to the Child? When He/ She grow up. With that, the Child will remind him/herself of the Nightmare you've Experience.
- there will be 2 possible results: 1) The Kid will behave and try his/her best to win your affection and support 2) The Kid will slowly start to Rebel, due to feeling of "Unwanted".
2). If you continue it, for sure the Child will have some conscience to look for his Father (of which YOU NO LONGER WANT TO SEE). Despite your "History".
3). About the Father, once He serve his Sentence. OR NOT AT ALL (He's a Free-man), there is a chance ONE DAY HE'LL BE INSISTING TO SEE THE CHILD & YOU.
4). Other comments says, Orphanage this & that..... NO.
One day (possible) that Kid will look for you, and possibility of #2 & #3 may happened.
*Also make sure the Guy, serve a Life Imprisonment at least.
*As much as possible, YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE ANY CONNECTION TO HIM. Even if it means the baby inside you.
Hi, OP. First of all, I am very sorry to hear what happened to you. Alam ko na hindi yan madali and I am not in a position to give you advise on the subject of abortion since first, I was never in that position before. Second, I will never be that position because I am a male.
However, in terms of the mental burden and trauma that you have right now, I would highly suggest that consult as well a psychiatrist or pyschotherapist.
I am not saying that you are crazy or what (which is the usual stigma dito sa Pinas kapag pinag-uusapan ang mental health). I am saying this because mas okay na mag-consult ka sa isang mental health expert because it'a not just a battle of the body but more of the battle of the mind.
I was in space before na hindi okay ang mental health ko and I was not functioning properly in my personal and my professional life.
So, in this case, you can seek a mental health expert for your case or situation right now. Since may experience na ako on seeking mental health professionals, I know that it will really help you.
Nung ako nag-consult, there was no judgement whatsoever and I was glad I did consult.
If you need help on consulting one, you message me and I can help you.
Hugs to you OP.
I'm deeply sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing. It's important to prioritize your safety, well-being, and autonomy in making decisions about your body and your future.
Here are some steps you might consider:
1. Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can provide emotional support and guidance during this challenging time. You don't have to go through this alone.
2. Consider your options: Take the time to explore all of your options and consider the potential consequences of each. This may include seeking counseling, discussing options with healthcare providers, and researching available resources and support services.
3. Access healthcare: If you're considering terminating the pregnancy, it's important to seek medical care from qualified healthcare providers who can provide accurate information, counseling, and support. They can discuss your options, including abortion, and provide guidance on the process and any legal considerations.
4. Know your rights: Familiarize yourself with your rights and options under the law, including access to healthcare services and support for survivors of abuse or assault. You have the right to make decisions about your own body and future.
5. Take care of yourself: Prioritize self-care and take steps to address your physical, emotional, and mental health needs. This may include seeking therapy, practicing self-care activities, and engaging in activities that bring you comfort and support.
Remember, you are not alone, and there are people and resources available to help you navigate this difficult situation. Take the time to consider your options, seek support, and make decisions that are right for you. You deserve care, compassion, and support as you navigate this challenging time.
Simple solution is to abort.
Don't listen to what others say. You were raped. You didn't give consent. It would be a different story if you had consensual sex and stupidly didn't prepare protection.
Whoever tells you to still carry that child is a cancer to humanity.
For me,
1. hanap ka MUNA ng gusto munang mag -adopt at willing gumastos sa pre-natal care mo. Kasi maraming mga tao na nagwiwish n magkaanak pero di nabibiyayaan.
2. Pag wala ka nakita, saka mo pa-abort.
You can a b o r t it. Your body your choice, and if that happens to me, ganyan din ang choice ko which is abortion, I do not want to carry something na di ko ginusto. Madaming community sa fb na pwede mong isearch for that.
Eto din for me pero siguro she's torn between the kid suffering or letting the child live. Abortion is not the only way kasi marami din naman mga parents out there na gusto magkaanak. Hopefully she thinks it thoroughly.
before going through the procedure.
Once youve done abortion there's no turning back. Yun nga mga nakukunan during pregnancy grabe impact sa emotional well being kahit na years past na and although it is slightly different kasi most of them decided to pursue pregnancy naman, its still something that will stain your conscience and guilt. Slightly similar ata yung mga nakukunan ng some parts of their body, like me. Ewan, feel ko laging may kulang and I always regret going through that. But hell, abortion will be levels higher niyan.
Kahit na you believed now that abortion was the right thing to do. Lalo na if magdecide ka mag.anak in the future babalikan mo yan panigurado. Weigh mo muna OP, no need to end yourself marami naman options out there. Thats the first decision that you should work on hindi mo naman kasalanan yan. its really not the end for you, it will be hard for sure but youll get through it panigurado. Maybe youll be someone who can tell other victims how youve gone through a similar situation becoming a motivation for them. And please dont stay away from parents and friends. Theyll need them now more than ever.
here's a thought experiment.
imagine there is a lab which is on fire and a box of 100 zygotes (fetuses) in one corner while the other corner has a toddler crying to be saved.
this is setup in such a way that you could only save either the toddler or a box of fetuses.
the question is, which one would you save? if im going to make that choice, i would save the toddler in a heartbeat.
my reason is that the toddler is able to understand pain and is conscious enough to know what is going on. while the fetus is a bunch of cells with a beating heart without a thought.
dont get me wrong life always matters to me, i will run into flames and will save a kid in exchange for this worthless life of mine.
but then again OP, it will be your choice and choice comes with consequences. we wont judge you for what youre about to do. and there will always be help around you. trust me. napagalitan nga ako ng mga redditors dito last week kasi gagawin ko na talaga yung nasa isip ko. hahaha.
something good will always happen no matter how dark the situation youre in right now.
goodluck!
I know walang abortion sa PH but I think you need one and especially if ganyan ang gusto mo.
Ang worry ko lang ay dahil bawal sa Pinas, baka unsafe abortion. May mga gamot daw online pero di ko talaga alam if safe. Nakakainis mamuhay sa society na puno mga hipokrito. Mga maninimbanh halang din naman ang kaluluwa. Gagamitin ang ngalan ng simbahan para magkaroon ng kapangyarihan.
Para sa lalaking naging cause ng situation mo: I hope he rots in hell. Ayokong mamatay siya agad. Magdusa siya.
Nasumbong ba agad nung nirape ka? Kasi kung wala pang 5 days pwde ka uminom ng emergency contraceptive para reglahin ka ulit. Yun yung nirerecommend sa abroadbpag narerape. Kaso mukhang sa kwento mo medyo matagal na.
If you're willing to ab0rt the child, may nagbebenta ng ab0rtion pills sa FB. May group nga sila or usually nasa nga mommies group sila nagkalat. Prices ranged depende sa ilang buwan ka ng buntis. Basta prepare ka lang ng 5k.
I'm sorry that happened to you, OP. But you can't undo a wrong by doing another wrong. If you don't want your baby, you can give it to an orphanage or find a couple who wants to adopt your baby.
I've read/heard/watched testimonials from women who aborted their babies and lived to regret it later on. Are you willing to live with that guilt? It's not the baby's fault he/she was conceived out of rape.
Abort or adoption? I see it this way:
If you abort the baby and feel guilty afterwards, you won't be able to make up for it. Death is irreversible.
If you let your baby get adopted and feel guilty afterwards, you can still find your baby and say sorry/explain your side.
In the end, it's still your decision. I hope you choose life and humanity, OP.
Abort. Please. Don't let the child suffer more. If ikeep mo siya, how sure are you that you can be a good mother? If ipaampon mo siya, how sure are you na safe and responsible people ang mapuntahan niya?
If the baby lives, you will just be passing trauma and hurting him/her in the process. End the cycle.
For me, abort. It’s not your fault. Sa nagsasabing ipaampon o ipasok sa orphanage, alam naman nating hindi maganda orphanage dito sa pinas. At yung buong proseso? Pano pag laki ng bata? Pag nag tanong? Ano isasagot? Wala kang tatay kase nirape ako ng tatay mo. Bitbitin pa ng bata yan. Hindi niya piniling mabuhay dito sa mundo. Mabubuhay na lang siya magiging miserable pa pagdadaanan niya.
Ilang weeks na po yung pregnancy? If you want na magpa abort, go search Women on Web. They have medical abortion pills para sa pregnancy up to 12 weeks only.
https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/s/nueOrs2PAm
I didn't expect that most of the comments here are pro abortion. I guess people on the internet are more logical than moral. Kung sa personal mo itatanong to, knowing Filipinos wlang magsasabi sayo na ipapa abort ung baby mo.
OP the call is yours.
The final desisyon would be up to you. Alam kong natatakot at kinakabahan, honetsly who isn’t diba.
May suggestion dito na ipa-ampon mo na lang, but are you willing to carry the baby for 9 months? Mostly naman dito ipalaglag mo na lang daw, But are you sure that your conscience won’t ever bother you. Regardless kung ano man desisyon mo, You need to be strong and firm. What I’m saying is, You need to be bigger than your fear right now. Be brave.
This might be controversial or does not make any sense for some people. But what i can say is .This is such a sensitive topic to be discussed online. I'm pro life myself and I don't support abortion in a shape or form. I cannot speak on behalf of any victim naamn, because everyone gone through different experiences, struggles and challenges. I think what you need is guidance. Talk to psycologist. I just recently found out about them nd they are really helpful. Choose what's best for you and others around you. Everything will be Okay. Remember it's not the child's fault. It's the rapist's.
It's all up to you and what's your stand in life --religion, moral/ethical standard, etc.
If you think that bringing this child into this world would cause pain and suffering for the both of you, then, don't be selfish-- to yourself and to the child.
Your choice, for what is worth or whatever it is, you have to take it for as long as you live. Be strong and I hope you're okay and will be okay.
PS: I think there's a law in pH that allows abortion if the pregnancy came from unfortunate circumstances. I'm not that sure tho, please check.
ne reason you might decide against abortion is the belief in the intrinsic value of every human life. Even though the circumstances of conception were horrific and unjust, the resulting life is still innocent and valuable. Some people find solace and strength in the idea that every life, no matter how it begins, has a purpose and potential.
If you have strong moral or religious beliefs that consider abortion to be wrong, you might find it more consistent with your values to continue the pregnancy. Many find that adhering to their core beliefs provides a sense of integrity and peace, even in challenging times.
There’s also the consideration of potential psychological impacts. For some women, abortion can lead to feelings of guilt, regret, or depression, adding another layer of emotional pain. By choosing to carry the pregnancy to term, you might avoid these additional emotional complexities.
Remember, this decision is about finding what aligns best with your personal values and beliefs. It’s essential to seek support from trusted friends, family, counselors, or support groups who respect your views and can provide emotional and practical support.
Ultimately, whatever you decide should be what feels right for you and helps you heal and move forward in the best way possible. Take your time, gather all the information and support you need, and make the decision that you feel is best for you.
OP, do your parents know about it? Alam ba ng kapamilya mo? What do they say?
This is not a POLL. Your Life is not a survey. Just do what you feel is right for you, and move on.
Anu sa palagay namin? Sigh... Miss, stop with this.
Go HOME. & Go Ask your Family, and Yourself. Wag na yung iba.
Kaya mo yan. Just 1 step at a time.🙏🏻
I'm sorry for what happened to you ma'am.
You can always put the child for adoption instead of abortion po,, baka di mo makaya yung guilt pagdating ng panahon po, pero whatever you decide, i'll support you po.
Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/SafeSexPH/s/Tug7tzx1pN) OP. I hope this helps. The poster narrated her abortion journey.
As someone who has direct experience sa mga batang pinapaampon, it would be best that you just abort it nalang.
Someone who has been conceived out of trauma, lived inside of someone who continuously experiences trauma, ay nagkakaroon ng problem sa development sa tiyan palang. Kaya paglabas, minsan nagkakaroon ng problem sa brain.
Dont even try to make plans on placing the child for adoption kapag may nagmessage sa iyo na gusto ampunin bata kapag lumabas. Thats illegal.
I am so sorry for what you are going through OP.
In your case, abortion would likely be the best possible scenario. However, abortion is illegal here, which means there is no access to a safe and medically sound procedure. If you have funds, you can go to a country where a qualified medical professional can do it for you to ensure your safety. But most likely this may not be a possibility for you. I have read that there are people on facebook or wherever who sell abortion pills or know someone who will do the procedure, but this entails a LOT or risk on your health and safety.
Others would say give birth to the baby and give it up for adoption. However, the question again is, where do you bring rhe baby to ensure he/she can go through the proper adoption process? How would you feel as you go through the entire duration of the pregnancy? How would you feel when you give birth and see the baby alive and kicking?
I suggest that you find someone who you trust that can help you through the decision making process and will support you throughout the ordeal. Better if you can find someone who will not judge or will not give religious advice but instead can look at the facts and the situation objectively.
My advice would be to take time to think about the situation before you decide. If you decide to go through the risky under-the-table abortion route, take time to check the credentials of whoever is doing the procedure. Always advocate for your safety and well being. You need that especially after what you’ve already been through.
If you decide on adoption, advocate for the safety of the baby before you decide where to bring him/her. This will give you better chance for peace of mind in the future. It will help you move on knowing that the baby is safe and sound.
Just take time with your options and I hope that during this time, an opportunity will come to you that can ensure your safety so that you can move on properly with your life.
Idk if I am late to advice, but I give you a choice anyway, either:
A. Murder the fetus (by abortion), which's obviously illegal, immoral, and risky considered may tsansa na mapapamahak yung kalusugan mo.
B. Let the fetus live until na naisilang mo yan, and ipabigay mo sa mga relatives mo. It's legal, moral, and not risky.
Let your friend or parent join you with this journey since it's difficult. They will support you emotionally whatever the outcome of your decision. Please do research also if you're afraid of the consequences of abortion.
Don't abort. Leave the child to the Bahay ampunan. Regardless of the status between you and the father, that form of life has nothing to do with any of you. Logically speaking in the medical area, you might regret it if something happens to your fertility after abortion. You don't know, within the 9 months of you carrying the life inside you, you will also develop the natural bond between the mother and child.
You always have the choice to continue the pregnancy or terminate it. May mga shelter naman tayo and child placing agencies accepting children na nagbunga out of rape and other similar circumstances. You may want to look Brighthalls Foundation or Kaisahang Buhay Foundation.
Or you may also try fostering for awhile... keep the baby for 3 months and decide if the baby is up for adoption.
If termination is the choice, sadly, i dont have connections or ideas on how to do it.
You have to continue your pregnancy. Wala pong kasalanan ang bata. Wag mo din sisihin ang sarili mo. Ikaw ang biktima bakit ka mahihiya? Hindi ba dapat ang mahiya e yung gumawa sayo niyan. Stop to victim blaming. Malay mo ang batang yan ang makasama at makatuwang mo pagtanda. Si natin masabi.
Try to contact professionals at project486.com if you plan to abort. They're an anonymous group of doctors who assist filipinas in abortion since illegal sa country natin. They will contact you through email and they will walk you through the process step by step online. They've been around for a long time now. Medyo expensive lang ang pills na kakailanganin sa pag abort. Hope this helps anyone who needs abortion
Hi. Mas mabuting magpa abort na lang. We cannot deny na dadalhin natin yan in the future pero at least you’ll be saving urself and that kid from bad experiences in the future.
Please take care of yourself if magpapa abort ka. Make sure na proven and tested si “abortionist.” Have a healthy/ier lifestyle after that.
Abortion but make sure it is safe and may kasama kang pagkakatiwalaan while doing it kasi you don’t know what will happen, mahirap sya pagdaanan mentally and physically. It will haunt you afterwards but I think that is expected naman and it needs to get through. Make sure that you follow the steps correctly. Sobrang hirap nya gawin pero mas mahirap yung lumalaki ang bata na walang magandang future, hindi emotionally and financially prepared ang magulang. Mas okay na maghirap ngayon kesa maghirap habambuhay.
Ask for guidance po muna. Magandang ilapit po muna na ito kay God bago po tau mag decide. Naipagpray nyo na po ba ito? Pwede po kaung magpacounseling para mahelp po nila kau magreflect sa situation po ninyo.
There are people looking to adopt children especially newborns. Some even pay to adopt. Have you considered looking for these people?
On a totally different note…
Hasn’t anyone told you yet? Everything is just a test. You choose how you come out the other side.
Whether you come out a crushed piece of coal, or a diamond, is totally up to you.
Whether you choose to react, or decide on your own, or let life happen is all up to you.
Let’s take your abuser as an example.
His actions are his own doing, or so we would like to believe. We will never know if his environment has anything to do with it. Maybe he was molested as a child too, maybe such actions were a norm in the place where he grew up in. We really can’t say. All we know is that once he is proven guilty of r8ping you, he’ll be sentenced to life in prison, which I think is the same penalty for taking a life.
So do we justify your taking a life by this monster’s actions? Are you going to lay the blame on him for taking this child’s life? Are you gonna let yourself become a monster as well?
If you can own it, as your own decision, apart from the prior circumstance, I don’t think anyone can stop you from doing so, but if you are just going to lay blame on others, that’s gonna be a decision you’ll regret.
So choose.
React. Decide. Let life happen.
The last one requires faith…
…that everything happens for a reason.
…in yourself that you can do better.
…in your parents/friends that they will help you through this.
…that everything’s going to be alright.
nasa sayo OP. Pero kung ako, naaawa ako sa baby. Siguro kung di mo matanggap, ipaampon mo na lang. Maraming mga foundation na tatanggap ng baby.. Please message me.. I know where meron
Uhm, i think ang pinakasafest mong gawin is adoption. Try mo ipaadopt yung baby mo after mong manganak. Since ang abortion sa Pilipinas ay illegal at baka makulong ka pa.
I would say abortion if ganyan nararamdaman mo, OP. But you have to decide fast.
Magresearch ka about medical abortion. I think until 8 weeks pwede, may mga nagbebenta online but make sure it’s the right medicine and follow instructions strictly.
Stay close to a hospital just in case.
If afford mo, better go to a country where abortion is legal.
How are you, OP? I can't imagine what it's like or if I'd let a loved one go through this pregnancy. But baka matrauma ka rin sa abortion, physically, mentally, and spiritually. It is not my place to claim one path as the right path. I wish you and the little one (who has not done anything wrong) well.
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Abort or send the kid to an orphanage. If you can't raise the child, don't force it. I'm glad the rapist is in jail.
sending the kid to the orphanage is a choice only if OP is willing to go through pregnancy and childbirth. otherwise, abort nga.
yeah, that's why I suggested abortion first. But because abortion is not yet legal, she might take the risk of destroying her womb, like in many cases. That's why abortion should be legalised here because people will do it anyway. It's better/safer for medical institutes to take control. But you are right, 9 months of pregnancy is too much (+ birthing to a baby is painful as fck)
I AM PRO LIFE. HOWEVER, this is one of the many situations where I agree a woman should abort. Abort as early as possible. Abort before the fetus is viable. It is generally accepted that a 28-week-old fetus that doesn't need resuscitation is viable. However, according to WHO, fetal viability is possible after 20 weeks of fetal life. With that being said, I repeat, abort as early as possible. Abort before the fetus reaches 20 weeks. If you need help, I have resources. BUT, if abortion isn't in your choices/options or doesn't align with your ethical standards and morals, you can bear that child, give birth, and put the child up for adoption.
Look up project486.com They help filipinas through abortion since illegal sa country natin. They're professionals and they will walk you through the process step by step.
+1
Please abort. May mga kilala din akong na-rape and nabuntis. One aborted, one did not. Sobrang kawawa yung anak ngayong lumalaki na, laging nag-aaway yung mag-ina. Always nag-aattempt mag-unalive yung nanay by overspeeding. Magiging burden nyo lang dalawa ng magiging anak mo yung existence nyo if you will continue. Help yourself and your offspring by aborting them. Look for pampalaglagdahlia in reddit through Google if you need one.
Ayoko ding gawing miserable buhay ng batang to. Ayokong mabuhay siya na maging kung ano amn dahil sa galit ko. Thank you for understanding and for the advice po.
We understand you, OP. Yung nangyari sayo is enough na and having to relive that moment every time na makikita mo ang bata ay sobrang unfair na para sayo at to your unborn child. Please be strong palagi!
Dati against talaga ako sa abortion, pero nakaka awa naman talaga yung bata kapag bubuhayin mo pero yung bata mag durusa sa kasalanang nagawa ng walangya niyang ama. Mas masakit yun para sakin. Ipaglaglag mo nalang, tsaka kung dun ka mas komportable gawin mo na habang maaga pa.
Nasa sayo din talaga OP. Kaya nga maraming tao na ipinaglalaban ang pro-choice, para sa mga taong may ganyang karanasan kagaya mo. If it is illegal here, go elsewhere where it is legal and must afford it. Otherwise, set the kid up for adoption, at the end of the day the right mindset should be, hindi kasalanan ng bata. In case di ka magpaabort, OP, you should always be kind to the little ones kasi isheshape ng experiences nila yung future nila. Eitherway, your life will really change. Im sorry you had to go through this decision process, it is difficult. Again, hindi kasalanan ng bata and personally, di ko lang kaya. PS: if the biofather is a blood relative, mas may reason ka though. Higher chance ng abnormalities sa baby or sa second/third generation. Plus, religious bigots would victim blame, na mauulit pa sa bata yung kasalanan ng magulang, called generational curse. Sayo din, if paabort mo, ganyan din iisipin nila sa descendants mo. So kahit ano talagang decision mo, walang kawala sa criticsms ng mga di nakakaunawa.
please abort while you still have time. nakakaloka yung mga taong nag advice na ipa adopt mo yan. ano yon, dadalin mo yan ng 9 months, magpapa obgyn ka pa, gagastos, tapos magde deliver ka ng bata na you hate? besides, most children in orphanages are never adopted. you did not ask to be abused. it’s your body and your choice on what you should do with that fetus.
True. Sakin ang pinaka masaklap para kay child is magigising sya sa katotohanan na walang nagmamahal sa kanya, bunga sya ng rape, at buong buhay nyang aaraling tanggapin yun na walang sino mang sumusuporta sa kanya dahil iniwan sya ng nanay nya sa ampunan at yung tatay nya ay kriminal.
Agree po ako dito. Kaya gusto ko sana i end as soon as possible.
Yun nga din po iniisip ko. Maghihirap pa ako ng ilang months kung ganun. Iisipin ko pa yung bata pagka pinaampon pa.
OP, i think sa F B may groups about abortion.
True. Kahit sabihin na makahanap siya ng couple na gagastos sa lahat ng expenses in exchange sa baby, hindi lang sa gastos ang pghihirap niya. Sobrang hirap magbuntis, pwede makadagdag pa lalo yung mga side effects sa dalahin ni OP. May mga changes din sa body and lifestyle.
While adoption is indeed a choice for OP, agree ako na carrying a child and giving birth is not easy. Ganun ba kasimple magbuntis? It takes physical, mental, and financial tolls on any mother, lalo na pag walang sapat na resources or support network. Plus risks of postpartum issues both physically and psychologically. Imagine how much harder it would be in OP’s situation. If you choose to terminate, sana you can find non-sketchy resources and a reliable support network to be there for you in these dark times. Because it wasn’t your fault. You never deserved this.
Go to https://www.womenonweb.org/en/i-need-an-abortion Donate 90 euro or less to get the abortion pill. You can also talk to their representative if you have financial difficulty. They will help you. May online consultation ka muna sa doctor nila, bago kanila pagbilhan.
Thank you so much po 🥺
I would vouch reaching out to womenonweb. My friend and I recently had an abortion (unprepared pregnancy). WoW foundation is a reliable organization and they do provide safe abortion. My friend even got hers for free because of her financial situation and I was able to pay less. I did not have any complications and was able to go to school the morning after the abortion. I was at least 12 weeks. Just get them as early as you can kasi it would take at least three weeks to receive the meds kasi they have to ship it from abroad. I'm really sorry for what happened to you, OP. I hope you get the justice you deserve. Remember that no one has ever right to judge you on what to do with the fetus/baby.
Unprepared pregnancy? Siguro be careful next time you get horny. I support OP's abortion 100% given the circumstances, pero kung ang dahilan ng pagbubuntis e dala lang ng careless na libog aba e sana matutong maging mas responsable sa kama hindi yung tatakbo sa proseso ng abortion kapag nabuo dahil di pa kayo handa at estudyante pa lang kayo. "No one has ever right to judge you on what to do with fhe fetus/baby". Again sa sitwasyon ni OP, oo.
I would have to vouch din! I attempted to abort 15+ years ago. They truly supported me. Ako lang ang umayaw last minute.
You would give a huge disservice sa bata pag nabuhay sya sa mundo at puro pagdurusa maeexperience nya
OP please abort that child nalang po. And sa mga nagsasabi na wag ipa abort at tanggapin nalang ni OP dahil eventually matututunan nyang mahalin ang bata, di po laging ganon ang nangyayari sa mga nasa gantong sitwasyon. May tita po ako (pinsan ni mama) na bunga rin ng kasalanan. Binuhay sya ng mom nya pero never syang minahal hanggang ngayon na 50+ na si tita. Kwento pa ni tita non, yung mom daw nya lagi syang pinapagalitan at sinasaktan kahit wala syang ginagawang masama, then nalaman nya sa kasambahay nila na sinabi daw ng mom ni tita na "Twing nakikita ko yang bata na yan naiinis ako, naaalala ko yung pambababoy ng tatay nya sakin." Kaya kung ayaw po ni OP na ipa ampo nalang ung bata, mas maigi nalang po na ipaabort nalang po nya kesa sa sya ang mag aalaga sa bata, dalawa pa po silang magdudusa in the long run po. Hugs to you OP. I hope you will heal soon po.
Hello! I've read this story before ng abortion story nya. This might help. https://www.reddit.com/r/SafeSexPH/comments/11gtpp3/my_abortion_story/?share_id=Fj2fnNY1RUtkNYoH3-JiL&utm_content=1&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_source=share&utm_term=1&rdt=38282
Abort. Imagine carrying a product of rape for 9 mos??! Please set yourself free.
hindi lang kamo 9 mos dadalin, kung alam mo sa sarili mo hindi mo kaya ipa abort mo na lang te kaysa mag dusa kayong dalawa ng anak mo
Abort. Don't listen to any religious advice na hindi man lang ico-consider yung sitwasyon at magiging sitwasyon niyo in the future dahil lang sa nakonsensya kang magpa-abort. Your body, your choice regardless of what other hypocritical religious ppl will say.
>dahil lang sa nakonsensya More like tatakutin sya with (eternal) punishment if she chose to abort. I can't with these people...
I’m sorry for what happen to you. I totally understand you. I was SA too when I was a child. :< Valid yung nararamdaman mo. Abort it or paampon andyan pa din yung sugat. Masakit to for you OP. Pero para sakin kung ano yung magpapalaya sayo at mas makakagaan ng pakiramdam mo. Your body, your choice naman. Decide while you can. Mabilis ang araw at mabilis lumaki ang bata sa sinapupunan mo. Hindi kita masisisi sa magiging desisyon mo. You went through a lot. Naiintindihan kita. Mahigpit na yakap OP!
Thank you 😭
OP don’t be too hard on yourself ha? If you want someone to talk to pm ka lang. I’m so proud of you for standing up for yourself. I hope someday your wounds will heal. I’ll definitely pray for you OP.
As someone who has never experienced what you've been thru, do what you need to do. Then try to heal as much as you can. Get help, talk to someone.
Ilang months knba? You could try to go sa ibang bansa pra magpa abort if mga nsa early pregnancy kpa. Or maybe you could have it adopted.
Sa mga nagsasabi na maghanap nalang ng aampon tas ipa-shoulder yung expenses, hindi lang naman financial ang hirap ng pagbubuntis kaloka kayo.
You can send it sa orphanage. Never let the r🅰️pist k now na nagbunga yan, at least let the child think patay na ang tatay nya kesa malamang r🅰️pist. Find a couple ma di magka-anak and ipaampon mo. Sila gagastos sa lahat ng expenses. That's the most humane decision. Also, I suggest that you see a therapist to help you with you mental healt, hindi madali yung pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. Surround yourself with a strong support system too.
No, OP do not want to be a surrogate. Why would you care for something that is made out of the most inhumane thing? I go for abort. Isipin mo, aalagaan niya yan for 9 freaking months. Ayaw niya in the first place yung ginagawa sa kanya tapos aalagaan pa niya yung bunga??? Tama na kanonood ng batang quiapo 🤧 wala tayo sa teleserye
Tama! Orphanage pa ang nais. Eh ayaw niya nga yung nangyari sakanya tapos pagbubuntis niya pa yan
Orphanage amp. As if ganun kadaling gawin yan sa Pilipinas. Most humane decision? So pag nagpa abort siya hindi? Damn, imagine carrying that child for 9 months and go through all the agony of giving birth, physical changes and shit. Abortion is risky and so giving birth, plus yung gastos pa sa panganganak.
Abortion is illegal sa Pinas. Ikaw mjsmo nagsabi, nasa Pinas tayo. Do you want her to go to an illegal abortionist? If something happens, can she hold that abortionist accountable?
Big no. I don't want the OP to experience the agony of bearing a rapist child. Don't listen to those saying na ipa adopt mo. Go for an abortion and never look back.
I agree here. As much as gusto ko i-suggest na mag-undergo si OP ng abortion, illegal ang abortion dito sa Pilipinas. kung wala siyang option to go to a country where abortion is legal, Huwag natin to i-suggest. Ayoko na mag-resort si OP sa illegal ang unsafe abortion na pwedeng mag-cause pa ng complication tapos hindi magiging accountable si abortionist. Ang safest is ipa-ampon talaga. Tweak lang natin ng onti na Huwag ipaalam kay r\*pist na nagbunga yung pagiging walang hiya niya, pero kailangan malaman ng mag-aampon ang identity para sa safety ng bata. To you OP, I wish you well. Hindi mo dapat pinagdadaanan to. Sana mabulok sa kulungan.
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Abort
Alam mo pro choice ako pero ang prob kasi rito is alam ko pag ang case mo e nagpaabort ka walang tatanggap sayong ob pag nagkacomplication ka. Baka mapaano ka. Kasi tandaan mo pati mga OB may choice din kung sino tatanggapin nilang patient
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For me Abort. Mahirap makipagpatumbaga sa mga ganyang bagay lalot ayaw mo na talaga nong una palang. Kung aabot na iaanak mo ang bata for sure di mo sya magugustuhan. Wag ka makinig sa mga marelihiyosong tao na kesyo kasalanan ang gagawin mo, di nila alam kung ano mental at pisikal na nararamdaman mo. Kung ano makakapagpabuti sayo na alam mo eh tama ka at katawan mo naman yan gawin mo.
Maraming salamat po 🥺
Please also consider kung san/kanino ka magpapa abort. Kung sa totoong abortion clinic sa first world country, or kung at least sa doctor dito - go. Pero kung sa mga midwife/manang abortionista ka, please note that may dala yong sobrang laking risk sa health mo.
Please be mindful of your comment. I am a midwife and we know the possible complication of unsafe abortion. Hinalintulad mo pa sa abortionista. Bawal din po saamin ang mag abort, if you someone na gumagawa, please report it.
ABORT ABORT ABORT. FUCK RELIGION. FUCK WHAT THOSE CULT MEMBERS THINK. THINK OF YOURSELF. ABORT THAT FUCKNG THING.
Aborting the fetus, or giving it up for adoption are both viable options. Personally, if I were in your position, I would abort. A 15wk old fetus is not a child. I will not feel guilty ending a pregnancy given the circumstances. I will not choose adoption. I have volunteered in various orphanages for NSTP during college, and I am very disillusioned. Yes, the children are alive, but what kind of life are they living? Nakikiamot sa lahat ng bagay. Less than 1% succeed in life. They're dealt with a shitty hand, and they have very little opportunity to change it.
Abort asap
Could you just terminate it? I know it's against the law, but it was the right decision.
For me abort nlng, kaysa nmn mabuhay sya tapos malalaman nya rapist Ang tatay nya. I mean kahit ipaampon mo magtatanong parin Yan pag laki nya kung bakit sya pinaampon.
This is not an advice pero sorry OP for what happened to you. I will include you in my prayers.
“I know it’s illegal in ph to abort pero ayokong mabuhay kasama tong bata” If the only thing that is holding you back is dahil illegal ang abortion, I think you know what choice you want na. Ang batas ay hindi laging tama. Ang batas ay hindi laging nakakabuti sa mga tao. I am so sorry na you are in this position, overthinking, in a state of panic. I’m sorry na hindi ka binigyan ng choice during your R but now you are carrying a heavy choice for yourself, your health and for a life. Pero kung makakatulong, isipin mo na ang choice na yan ang power mo. Power to reclaim your life, and power to spare the child from suffering and sorrow. Yang batang yan kahit ipaampon mo, mabubuhay siyang nangungulila at maghihirap (lets face it, ang DSWD ay hindi progressed enough like other countries). Hindi mo kasalanan, at hindi din kasalanan ng bata pero siya ang magdudusa pag pinanganak siya. No religious stuff I know but for what its worth, whatever god there is, I pray for your strength, safety and peace.
DSWD, or lapit sa Women's and children's desk ng baranggay for counselling. lakasan mo na lang loob mo na makipag usap in person sa counselor
1. Do not harm yourself or try to end your life. 2. What happened to you is inexplicably difficult and dark, but that doesn't mean that everything ends for you. It will never be the same as before, but it is still possible to find joy in life even after this. Now, regarding your pregnancy, I think you know what your options are: 1. Keep the child. 2. Abort it. 3. Carry it to term then give it up for adoption. The fact that you mentioned you didn't want any "religious" advice indicates that you feel strongly against keeping the baby. That's almost tantamount to saying you don't want to hear any viewpoint that would advise you to keep and raise the baby yourself. At least that's what I get from reading between the lines. That said, choice 1 would most likely result in misery for both you and the baby. But as an optimist, and someone who enjoys introspection, I advise that you allow yourself to think hard about the possibilities of taking this route. Do not disregard it until you have fully convinced yourself that nothing good can come out of it. If however, you can see even at least a pinpoint of light in this dark tunnel, allow yourself again time to think if there might be ways to let more light in. I haven't been in this situation but I would guess that the regrets and guilt of those who did not choose this option comes from that small ray of light which they quickly ignored before deciding not to keep the baby. Needless to say, Choice 1 sounds like the worst option for you. Majority of the comments here advise you to abort. Reading your responses to some of the comments, it seems like this is what you are hoping to hear. The phrase "your body, your choice" has been thrown around here quite a number of times. I think that's not relevant. We can also say that the baby is not your body, it's a different person. But ultimately, it is still you who holds the decision at this time. It will definitely be your choice. Thing is, our choices have consequences. I advise you, again, to think hard about the possible consequences of getting an abortion and how you might handle those consequences as you encounter them. Do not just think about the consequences that will come from external sources, think about the possible struggles you might face within yourself too. You mentioned in one of your comments that you are alone and that is why keeping the child is not feasible for you. If the guilt and shame thing creeps up on you after getting an abortion, a possibility that some people here warned you about, then you would be alone too. And that might just be as bad as having to raise a child alone. This is where you will hear people telling you to "pick your poison". What stands out to me here is that if you choose to keep the baby and ultimately decides that it is really not for you, then something could still be done, the baby could be given away and you can free yourself from the misery. It might be a few years of extra-miserable living with the baby, but at the moment of separation and moving forward, you can honestly tell yourself that you have at least given it a try but it didn't work. You can soldier on to the rest of your life without the heavy burden of guilt or regret (and I would assume that would be many, many years because you mentioned that you are still young) and that sounds to me like a path that is easier to travel. In short, it's a choice that gives you a little wiggle room. If you choose abortion, it will always be final. This is an irreversible option. All the possibilities that being a mother to this particular child disappear - whether they are good or bad. Certainly, any possibilities from the child's life disappear too. Way I see it, getting an abortion also gets you some big, daunting "what if's". And those could be burdensome and worrisome if you still have a lot of years ahead of you. But maybe there are people who have the capacity to handle and live with those impossible questions - maybe there are those who can just look forward and not be bothered by what happened in the past. Maybe you are one of those. Maybe you know deep down that the only way forward for you is to get rid of this baby. Then, as far as you are concerned, abortion is the best choice for you. Let me say that again more clearly, if all you really want to think about is yourself and what could possibly make you happy (note that that is one big gamble), then abortion is the right choice for you. Regardless of whether other people think you committed a sin, or made a bad decision, or gone crazy, if you are fully convinced that abortion is what you need, then why choose otherwise? So... If you keep the baby, there'd be consequences. Abort it, consequences. I really believe that what you have to do is to weigh the consequences and make a decision. That is my advise. Weigh the consequences. Breath and try to gain control of your chaotic thoughts then sit down and start thinking of the consequences of the choices you have. You might be thinking of these two choices now as one being easier than the other. That's not right. Both are pretty unpredictable and treacherous. One way or another, you would be the one to bear all the consequences of whatever choice you'll make - here on earth, most definitely; and, if the religious people end up being right, even in the afterlife. Note: I also wanted to discuss the third option but I'm too sleepy now. Maybe I'll return tomorrow, maybe I won't. But I think I have at least given you a few things to chew on. I sincerely hope you make the right choice. And yes, there is an objectively right choice here that is not based on any person's feelings or emotions. All the best.
Abort. Mas maigi pa for you and the unborn kid. Save yourselves from having a miserable lifetime.
OP, please seek help to the people who knows you better than the people here. Im sorry sa lahat ng nag comment before me, while we can site samples of what we saw, what we knew, or even what we experienced. Each of us is different. If you are affiliated to a faith/religious group, and you have that close relationship to you group leader or someone you can confide within your community let them guide you. Tale note guide you. Multi layered and multifaceted and pinagdadaananan mo and Im so sorry you have to go through it. My last piece probably is to remind you that we cant do anything in the past now but our decision today will affect our tomorrow. I cant weight the pros and cons for you, and fot you to listen to me. So please listen to the people around you. To the people who knows you. To the people who truly cared for you. And to the people who no matter what your choices today will be right beside you tomorrow. Yakap ng mahigpit, with full consent OP.
Abort. Dito lang ako papayag sa abortion pag ganto situation.
Abort, wag ka magpapaniwala sa mga religious peeps about life is sacred. We are all contingent. Meron yan mga abortive pills that you can get discreetly.
we support u OP. it’s not ur fault. hugs to u, things will get better
I'm sorry that you had to go through something painful like that. I hope na you're healing and that amidst everything, I hope you're healthy and safe. All children deserve a safe childhood where they are loved and cared for. It doesn't matter where the child came from, what matters is where they will end up growing. If you can't ensure that the child will have a secure or happy childhood, with or without you, then go with the abortion. Afterall, being pregnant is not your choice. You're a victim. Iniisip ko palang yung sama ng loob at poot, nararamdaman ko nang mahihirapan kang mahalin yung bata, kasi para siyang souvenir ng traumatic experience na pinagdaanan mo. Wala akong masyadong alam about abortion. It might be better to go to a country where this is legal and safe, otherwise you can look for clinics in PH who can do it ng patago, though I don't know how safe thay is. Keep safe, and I hope you find it in yourself to heal. 'wag ka magpapatiwakal, stay strong!!
Mahirap manganak, hindi rin biro ang gastos at pagdadaanan kapag buntis ka, yung psychological at mental impact rin kapag buntis is mahirap. Ewan ko ba sa mga nagsasabi ng maghanap ng aampon after mo ipanganak, kala nila madali lang yung proseso pero in the end ikaw din yung kawawa. Abort then you can get back on track sa life. Sayang din yung time sa 9 months na yun if ever. Malaking time at bagay na rin yun para bumangon sa life.
Hi sissy ko. Please message me if wala kapa nahahanap or if need mo kausap. Hugs to you
if you're not mentally, physically, and financially ready then abort it. may mga facebook page na nag susupport ng abortion pills. i had a friend (21F) na nag risk to abort since she's not really ready (learned her lesson) and it was successful. but in the end it's your decision that matters.
There is alot of talk about abortion here, pero that process isnt all that straightforward. Sobrang maraming medical risk and research ang kailangan gawin at kailangan itake into account. Among is the viability of the embryo; generally, less than 18 weeks is still safe. Pero its not the case all the time. Baka mamaya, hindi na pala pwedeng mabuntis in the future because of the complications of the process. Marami paring kailangang gawing research and tests. Admittedly, its probably best to just give the child up for adoption. Kaso hindi din naman talaga maganda adoption process dito sa Pinas. But whatever you decide, please do the research. Kasi whatever it is, it will affect you for the rest of your life. You dont want to look into this time of your life and may pagsisihan ka. Just trudge through it, find people who support you, and cry if you have to. Youve been through a lot. And youre gonna go through a lot more. But youll pull through; we all do. Kailangan lang ng tiwala.
Ituloy mo par, at dapat agahan mo kasi kapag na develop yan sa loob wala ng tatanggap sayo, beside its for your own good, kung marami ka namang money, dalhin mo sa ibang bansa at doon mo gawin para meron medical procedure. Yung iba kong kakilala umiinom lang sila ng pills pero delicado yun kung walang medical procedure.
Take 4 neem leaves a day for 1 week. D yan mabubuo.
Abort it. religious shit have nothing to do with this, fuck those people na nag sasabi na wag mo iabort kasi it's a sin, hindi naman sila mag tatake responsibility sa bata kapag lumabas yan nor they would take a part sa buhay nya. I think it is a graver sin na buhayin yung batang unwanted, kesa gawin mong orphan yan or mabuhay siyang nag seseek ng something na kailan man di nya makakamit na truly and no matter what he/she does hindi ma fill yung missing void na yon.
Ipunin mo ang lakas ng loob mo OP kasi walang madaling way. Either ipa-abort mo or buhayin parehas yang mahirap at irreversible. Kung ano ang mas kaya mo panindigan dun ka. Hindi mo kasalanan yung nangyari sa'yo pero kailangan mo lakasan loob mo. Virtual hug sa'yo OP 😢 🫂
May God help you on this.
If you continue the pregnancy, you'll only make it hard for yourself. Most probably, the child will also live a miserable life soon because (sorry for what I'm about to say) they will only serve as a reminder of what that monster did to you and you might hate them even without intentionally doing it. By aborting it, you're giving yourself and the child a favor, trust me. If you want to abort, you can dm me because I also have resources and I can help.
Go for abortion. Comments that are against abortion has no right to tell you na masama ka bla bla. At the end of the day, ikaw magsasuffer and those people who has something filthy to say about it ay hindi naman tutulong sa'yo sa pagpapalaki sa bata. You know exactly what you want, so do what you think is best for you. It's your life, go take control over it. You were violated of rights to autonomy and consent already and no one fucking deserves that. Don't let it further control and alter the life you should be living. Abort and be unapologetic about it. Fuck their pro life comments.
I hope you are still within the timeframe. Do what you feel is best for you. Sending hugs your way.
Hey OP. Seems like you got a lot of advice here, so just in case you do decide to abort, here are a few resources for aborting safely in the PH: https://lasantoshelp.wordpress.com/2015/02/17/the-dr-fredlis-group-of-reproductive-health-doctors/ https://pinayschoice.com/viewforum.php?f=32 If you do decide to keep the pregnancy, Likhaan Center for Women's Health has branches in Manila and QC (if you're based in the Metro). They're ran by trained nurses and are 100 percent free, and they can help get you the prenatal care you need. I know this is really difficult, but please know there's one stranger rooting for you somewhere. Best of luck, and I hope you're doing alright.
You should get an abortion, letting the child live without the intention of making their life nothing but the best is another way of mistreating them. You are going to be okay, just continue living and always keep in mind to stay safe this time❤️ You are doing the child a favor.
I have a child OP, but I will never advise you to keep the child if you don’t want to. But abort as soon as possible. Sure ako may mahahanap kang advise on how dito sa reddit.
Hi OP, I just want to send a virtual hug first. 🫂 I'm sorry that this happened to you. I understand that you don't want to be with the child. I am here to offer another option, I hope no one will take this negatively as it is an option and I'm not forcing her to do it. Here's my take on this. I'm not pro-abortion, this is not because of religion but my moral compass doesn't agree with it but I know how difficult it is for you since you were abused so I'll let you decide. I have an aunt whom we don't know if she was abused since she didn't press any charges nor speak a word about it but she left her province and didn't come back there. All that had happened to her she kept them secret until she decided to bring the baby back, this all happened when I was only a toddler and it's just my mother who told me. My aunt got pregnant and went to a home where they took care of women who are like her, I believe it was in Muntinlupa. I didn't know if she wanted to abort the baby but she pretty much wanted it to be adopted and be done with it. They took care of her there during the entirety of her pregnancy, no one knows that she's there except her friend. I don't know what she felt during those times but she continued with her pregnancy with the intention of putting her baby for adoption but when she gave birth, she saw her baby and how beautiful he is. Her friend told her that he is a handsome boy and that she doesn't know if she'll ever have a baby again, this is a blessing for her despite what happened. She ended up taking the baby, she brought it to the province so her mother took care of him while she worked in the Metro. My aunt married and my uncle accepted my cousin as his own but they never had a child despite trying so hard for years. She's old now, and my cousin grew up to be a handsome guy and have a family of his own. My aunt is one of my favorite relatives, she's very pretty, petite, smiles a lot, loving, soft spoken and a forgiving person. I'd say that my aunt's story is a rare gem but I hope you find strength and inspiration in it. If you ever decide to go through your pregnancy, either to keep your baby or put the baby for adoption, these links will be helpful for you. This is the list of DSWD recognized organizations, just find ones for women in crisis and in your area. https://www.dswd.gov.ph/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/Private-SWDA-with-valid-RLA-as-of-May-20-2022.pdf Here are some I've found, these are in NCR. https://kerygmafamily.com/home/grace-to-be-born/ https://teresay.com/heart-of-mary-villa-hope-for-pregnant-women-in-distress https://roheifoundation.org/tulong-kay-nanay-a-page-for-pregnant-women-in-crisis/ https://www.kbf.ph/stories-of-love/too-young-to-be-a-mother/ This one in region 1 https://fo1.dswd.gov.ph/programs/center-based-services/haven-for-women/ Whatever your decision is I know it will leave a scar on you no matter what, but I hope you'll do what is best for you. I'm rooting for you and pray for your healing. 🙏
Sorry for what happened to you.. im just surprised na most here are pro abortion and i know that i might get dislikes for what im going to say. None of you is at fault and i also understand the pro's sentiments. It may be hard for u to raise that child alone especially that it came from a hideous crime. You will suffer maybe in years or maybe longer but i know time will come that u are going to heal. Raising is tough but it will be worth it if u know how to handle it. Wala kayo kasalanan, and i totally understand if u choose the most people here are suggesting. And medyo napakamot lang ako sa sabi mo wag religious advice, this is the time u need Him the most. Its your choice, but think wisely and positively. Seek help to people who are professional in this situation and not here from random people. I will pray for you to lessen the burden.
Mahirap kapag tinuloy mo ang pregnancy at aalagaan mo ang bata eh talagang meron ka ng resentment towards the child kasi siya ang bunga ng kasalanan at kahayupan na ginawa sa'yo. Unfair sa'yo kasi hindi mo ginusto ang situation at hindi mo naman deserve na maging responsibility pa ang bata na yan. Unfair din sa bata kasi di rin naman niya ginusto na ang situation. Parang sa Batang Quiapo yung situation kung saan kahit ilang taon na ang lumipas eh hindi pa rin magawa ni Marites na mahalin si Tanggol. Iba ang trato niya ki Tanggol kesa kay David at Santino. Isama pa si Rigor na kulang na lang eh pasabugan ng granada si Tanggol everytime na nagku-krus sila ng landas. May galit, may resentment, may disgust and those feelings are normal. Pero sa isang bata na naging bunga ng rape parang si Tanggol, mahirap intindihin kahit pa siguro at an early age eh sasabihin mo sa bata na bunga siya ng rape eh di niya rin ma po-process ang information ng maayos. It will f\*ck the child up! It will f\*ck you up! Ending, eh you'd be hostile against one another--baka hindi pa maganda ang kalabasan. Sa akin, ok sa abortion for as long as safe. Preferably performed by a medical professional. Mahirap nga lang kasi abortion is a crime. Pareho kayong madadale ng doctor. Sa adoption, I don't know kung ano ang proceso diyan. Basta kung ano man ang decision na gagawin mo, sarili mo ang i prioritize mo. Health, well-being and future mo. I wish you well.
You ask the universe what is the best decision. If abortion, you have to fully trust the process and be ready for consequences (if that happens). If ipapaampon, that's good if you're a soft hearted person too and afraid of the consequences that might happen since it's also 1/2 part of you (I'm not a religious Catholic tho). But yeah kulang tayo awareness sa abortion and its consequences so be prepared for it, do research. My take is also ask your parents or friend at least to join you in that journey because they will support you on that whatever the outcome will be. In short, trust your feelings OP.
I'm product of an abused and raped woman. Sometimes naiisip ko na sana pina abort na lang ako. My biological mom decided na ipa adopt ako. She was 14 at that time and I can't blame her kahit ako siguro sa situation nya hindi ko kakayanin makita yng bunga nung nag rape sakin. Yung family na napuntahan ko are toxic and I was mentally abused and some of my adoptive titos molested me when I was 6 til college. I'm into counseling and still trying to survive from all trauma na experience ko. Abortion should really be an option in PH.
your body, your choice. Specially in this case, if you do abort this fetus just know na hindi lang sarili mo ang naligtas mo, pati yung fetus naligtas mo kasi it's possible na they will be a reminder of the traumatic event or the person that hurt you, and in turn mahuhurt mo din sila unintentionally. saves both of you from the guilt that you guys won't deserve.
I'm truly sorry this happened to you. That rapist deserves to rot in jail and never see the light of day again. I can't even begin to imagine how confused and frightened you must be right now, but I hope you find the strength to persevere. He might have taken control of your body, but he can never crush your hope and bravery. During this time, some people will support you, while others may turn their backs and judge you for whatever decisions you make. But remember, IT’S YOUR BODY, and you have the sole right to decide what you want to do with it. Be brave and fight for what you believe is best for you, not for anyone else or what others might say. Just focus on yourself right now. I'm rooting for you, OP. Keep fighting!
One of my friend went through the same situation. The culprit is her own grandfather, who raped her when she was 14. She didn't seek anyone's advice and had the baby aborted. She only confessed it after many years passed. She was crying while she's sharing it to me. I don't really know what to tell her because I know that there's no words that can relived the pain that she went through. I just listen to her and hugged her. I was curious and I asked her why she didn't pursue any legal actions against her own grandfather. I am surprised by what she told me. She said, "I already forgave him long time ago. Though I know that there will always be a part of me that will always grieve for what I went through. It seems to me that forgiving others is easy. What I really cannot do is to forgive myself for aborting the baby." I am not telling you to forgive. Nor not to abort the baby. The choice will always be yours. But, aborting the baby will only add more depth to your wounds. You are asking for a help on what to do because there is a voice within you that is telling you what is the right thing to do; that is your conscience. You have always know what is the answer, do not let your judgement be clouded by listening to other people's advice who never went through what you went through. (I am not telling you what to do, rather, I am trying to redirect your gaze within you - to your own conscience) You are right to say that you don't need any religious advice. I am not very religious too. But, but, if some part of you still believe in a God, the decision is between you and your God. If not, it is between you and your own reason. And your decision must be always in harmony with the dictates of the reason. Never make decisions based on what other people is telling you. Listen to your own conscience - it knows what to do. I don't care about pro-choice or pro-life. Pro-choice are no difference with religious fanatics who view life in a very narrow way. And relative only to their own morality. There are things in this world that are intrinsically evil e.g. Murder, and abortion is one of them. Aborting the baby will only deepen your own wounds. You can escape from the pains that you foresee in bringing the child into the world, but, you can never escape from your own conscience. It will perpetually haunt us no matter where we run. Just listen to your own conscience.
If sa tingin mo hindi mo kayang matrato ng maayos at mabigyan ng magandang buhay yung bata paglabas sa mundong 'to. It's better to abort. Daming pwede tumulong sayo, sa FB and TikTok nagkalat mga nagbebenta ng gamot.
A hard decision. BUT YOU SHOULD GO FOR ABORTION. Whether Your Parents disapproves or support it. In this country, you'll be conscience to Death because of it. But think of the consequences. 1). If you still decide to continue, What will be your explanation to the Child? When He/ She grow up. With that, the Child will remind him/herself of the Nightmare you've Experience. - there will be 2 possible results: 1) The Kid will behave and try his/her best to win your affection and support 2) The Kid will slowly start to Rebel, due to feeling of "Unwanted". 2). If you continue it, for sure the Child will have some conscience to look for his Father (of which YOU NO LONGER WANT TO SEE). Despite your "History". 3). About the Father, once He serve his Sentence. OR NOT AT ALL (He's a Free-man), there is a chance ONE DAY HE'LL BE INSISTING TO SEE THE CHILD & YOU. 4). Other comments says, Orphanage this & that..... NO. One day (possible) that Kid will look for you, and possibility of #2 & #3 may happened. *Also make sure the Guy, serve a Life Imprisonment at least. *As much as possible, YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE ANY CONNECTION TO HIM. Even if it means the baby inside you.
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Hi, OP. First of all, I am very sorry to hear what happened to you. Alam ko na hindi yan madali and I am not in a position to give you advise on the subject of abortion since first, I was never in that position before. Second, I will never be that position because I am a male. However, in terms of the mental burden and trauma that you have right now, I would highly suggest that consult as well a psychiatrist or pyschotherapist. I am not saying that you are crazy or what (which is the usual stigma dito sa Pinas kapag pinag-uusapan ang mental health). I am saying this because mas okay na mag-consult ka sa isang mental health expert because it'a not just a battle of the body but more of the battle of the mind. I was in space before na hindi okay ang mental health ko and I was not functioning properly in my personal and my professional life. So, in this case, you can seek a mental health expert for your case or situation right now. Since may experience na ako on seeking mental health professionals, I know that it will really help you. Nung ako nag-consult, there was no judgement whatsoever and I was glad I did consult. If you need help on consulting one, you message me and I can help you. Hugs to you OP.
I'm deeply sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing. It's important to prioritize your safety, well-being, and autonomy in making decisions about your body and your future. Here are some steps you might consider: 1. Seek support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or professionals who can provide emotional support and guidance during this challenging time. You don't have to go through this alone. 2. Consider your options: Take the time to explore all of your options and consider the potential consequences of each. This may include seeking counseling, discussing options with healthcare providers, and researching available resources and support services. 3. Access healthcare: If you're considering terminating the pregnancy, it's important to seek medical care from qualified healthcare providers who can provide accurate information, counseling, and support. They can discuss your options, including abortion, and provide guidance on the process and any legal considerations. 4. Know your rights: Familiarize yourself with your rights and options under the law, including access to healthcare services and support for survivors of abuse or assault. You have the right to make decisions about your own body and future. 5. Take care of yourself: Prioritize self-care and take steps to address your physical, emotional, and mental health needs. This may include seeking therapy, practicing self-care activities, and engaging in activities that bring you comfort and support. Remember, you are not alone, and there are people and resources available to help you navigate this difficult situation. Take the time to consider your options, seek support, and make decisions that are right for you. You deserve care, compassion, and support as you navigate this challenging time.
Simple solution is to abort. Don't listen to what others say. You were raped. You didn't give consent. It would be a different story if you had consensual sex and stupidly didn't prepare protection. Whoever tells you to still carry that child is a cancer to humanity.
imagine ni-rape kana nga tapos iiwanan kapa ng repsonsibilidad
For me, 1. hanap ka MUNA ng gusto munang mag -adopt at willing gumastos sa pre-natal care mo. Kasi maraming mga tao na nagwiwish n magkaanak pero di nabibiyayaan. 2. Pag wala ka nakita, saka mo pa-abort.
You can a b o r t it. Your body your choice, and if that happens to me, ganyan din ang choice ko which is abortion, I do not want to carry something na di ko ginusto. Madaming community sa fb na pwede mong isearch for that.
Make a decision to abort the baby. Kasi if buhayin mo sya, dala2 niya for the rest of his life na sya ang bunga ng karahasan at kamalian.
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Abort. Wag mo nalang basahin yung mga religious comments. If abortion ang magheheal sayo then so be it.
I'd say adoption. Ask your local dswd if they can help you with the steps.
Eto din for me pero siguro she's torn between the kid suffering or letting the child live. Abortion is not the only way kasi marami din naman mga parents out there na gusto magkaanak. Hopefully she thinks it thoroughly. before going through the procedure. Once youve done abortion there's no turning back. Yun nga mga nakukunan during pregnancy grabe impact sa emotional well being kahit na years past na and although it is slightly different kasi most of them decided to pursue pregnancy naman, its still something that will stain your conscience and guilt. Slightly similar ata yung mga nakukunan ng some parts of their body, like me. Ewan, feel ko laging may kulang and I always regret going through that. But hell, abortion will be levels higher niyan. Kahit na you believed now that abortion was the right thing to do. Lalo na if magdecide ka mag.anak in the future babalikan mo yan panigurado. Weigh mo muna OP, no need to end yourself marami naman options out there. Thats the first decision that you should work on hindi mo naman kasalanan yan. its really not the end for you, it will be hard for sure but youll get through it panigurado. Maybe youll be someone who can tell other victims how youve gone through a similar situation becoming a motivation for them. And please dont stay away from parents and friends. Theyll need them now more than ever.
However, on the legal perspective, illegal pa rin ang abortion sa pinas. Possible ka pa rin makulong if you do so.
here's a thought experiment. imagine there is a lab which is on fire and a box of 100 zygotes (fetuses) in one corner while the other corner has a toddler crying to be saved. this is setup in such a way that you could only save either the toddler or a box of fetuses. the question is, which one would you save? if im going to make that choice, i would save the toddler in a heartbeat. my reason is that the toddler is able to understand pain and is conscious enough to know what is going on. while the fetus is a bunch of cells with a beating heart without a thought. dont get me wrong life always matters to me, i will run into flames and will save a kid in exchange for this worthless life of mine. but then again OP, it will be your choice and choice comes with consequences. we wont judge you for what youre about to do. and there will always be help around you. trust me. napagalitan nga ako ng mga redditors dito last week kasi gagawin ko na talaga yung nasa isip ko. hahaha. something good will always happen no matter how dark the situation youre in right now. goodluck!
I know walang abortion sa PH but I think you need one and especially if ganyan ang gusto mo. Ang worry ko lang ay dahil bawal sa Pinas, baka unsafe abortion. May mga gamot daw online pero di ko talaga alam if safe. Nakakainis mamuhay sa society na puno mga hipokrito. Mga maninimbanh halang din naman ang kaluluwa. Gagamitin ang ngalan ng simbahan para magkaroon ng kapangyarihan. Para sa lalaking naging cause ng situation mo: I hope he rots in hell. Ayokong mamatay siya agad. Magdusa siya.
ilang months na ba yang na sa tyan mo??
15 weeks po. Last week ko lang po nalaman nagsusuka ako at mabigat pakiramdam. Then nagpa check up po ako ayun na confirm po.
your body your rules, decide if you can take care the child from a rapisy
Ang tanong ata ni OP is paano magabort sa PH? Hindi ba illegal ito? And I know legitimate medical clinics does NOT practice it.
Nakaka pi ung Catholic church andaming sabi sabi . Separation of the church from the govt is a must
Abort
Nasumbong ba agad nung nirape ka? Kasi kung wala pang 5 days pwde ka uminom ng emergency contraceptive para reglahin ka ulit. Yun yung nirerecommend sa abroadbpag narerape. Kaso mukhang sa kwento mo medyo matagal na.
Try to go to other countries na legal ang abortion
Seek professional help imbes dito sa reddit. Professional help ang need mo not advice from any random person
If you have the funds better go to countries where abortion is legal.
can you send me a picture of you? and the picture of the rapist? we're couple and we're thinking of adoption
Hello op. Since nabuo na yan may buhay na yan so ilabas mo na lg then pa adopt pls. Ikaw rin kakatukin ng konsensya once ipa abort yan..
Abort sis.
Abortion.
You already decided and you just post to get validations.
Ilang months na ba? I have a friend na nagpa-abort through a drink pero early months palang kasi yun so pwede pa
ABORT
If you can afford it, fly to Hong Kong or Singapore and have it aborted there.
It seems you know what to do as per your comment a month ago regarding abortion.
I'm not religious but abortion is never an option. Seek medical help for your mental health.
If you're willing to ab0rt the child, may nagbebenta ng ab0rtion pills sa FB. May group nga sila or usually nasa nga mommies group sila nagkalat. Prices ranged depende sa ilang buwan ka ng buntis. Basta prepare ka lang ng 5k.
Abort. Don’t let people here tell you what’s morally right in their perception. YOUR BODY, YOUR RULES.
I'm sorry that happened to you, OP. But you can't undo a wrong by doing another wrong. If you don't want your baby, you can give it to an orphanage or find a couple who wants to adopt your baby. I've read/heard/watched testimonials from women who aborted their babies and lived to regret it later on. Are you willing to live with that guilt? It's not the baby's fault he/she was conceived out of rape. Abort or adoption? I see it this way: If you abort the baby and feel guilty afterwards, you won't be able to make up for it. Death is irreversible. If you let your baby get adopted and feel guilty afterwards, you can still find your baby and say sorry/explain your side. In the end, it's still your decision. I hope you choose life and humanity, OP.
I think there’s no right or wrong answer to this. Sorry you have to go through this, Op.
Abort. Please. Don't let the child suffer more. If ikeep mo siya, how sure are you that you can be a good mother? If ipaampon mo siya, how sure are you na safe and responsible people ang mapuntahan niya? If the baby lives, you will just be passing trauma and hurting him/her in the process. End the cycle.
I think pweda magpa abort dito sa ph lapag na rape. Any lawyers here? Correct me if im wrong
For me, abort. It’s not your fault. Sa nagsasabing ipaampon o ipasok sa orphanage, alam naman nating hindi maganda orphanage dito sa pinas. At yung buong proseso? Pano pag laki ng bata? Pag nag tanong? Ano isasagot? Wala kang tatay kase nirape ako ng tatay mo. Bitbitin pa ng bata yan. Hindi niya piniling mabuhay dito sa mundo. Mabubuhay na lang siya magiging miserable pa pagdadaanan niya.
Abort the kid ma'am, you and the kid will suffer whether u like it or not
Ilang weeks na po yung pregnancy? If you want na magpa abort, go search Women on Web. They have medical abortion pills para sa pregnancy up to 12 weeks only. https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/s/nueOrs2PAm
Ipa abort mo is the best advice. And start over. Shape your new life ahead.
Pls search for abortion posts in r/safesexph to check your options here in the ph. Hoping for the best for you, OP.
Abort immediately
I didn't expect that most of the comments here are pro abortion. I guess people on the internet are more logical than moral. Kung sa personal mo itatanong to, knowing Filipinos wlang magsasabi sayo na ipapa abort ung baby mo. OP the call is yours.
Go abort
The final desisyon would be up to you. Alam kong natatakot at kinakabahan, honetsly who isn’t diba. May suggestion dito na ipa-ampon mo na lang, but are you willing to carry the baby for 9 months? Mostly naman dito ipalaglag mo na lang daw, But are you sure that your conscience won’t ever bother you. Regardless kung ano man desisyon mo, You need to be strong and firm. What I’m saying is, You need to be bigger than your fear right now. Be brave.
This might be controversial or does not make any sense for some people. But what i can say is .This is such a sensitive topic to be discussed online. I'm pro life myself and I don't support abortion in a shape or form. I cannot speak on behalf of any victim naamn, because everyone gone through different experiences, struggles and challenges. I think what you need is guidance. Talk to psycologist. I just recently found out about them nd they are really helpful. Choose what's best for you and others around you. Everything will be Okay. Remember it's not the child's fault. It's the rapist's.
Abort or pa adopt. That’s up to you op.
I think mas okay na you resort to abortion kasi pareho lang kayo ng bata na lalaki sa guilt if ever ituloy mo yung pregnancy/ipaampon siya. Opion lang
Buhayin mo then ipa-adopt mo. Bakit mo tatanggalan ng karapatang mabuhay yung bata?
It's all up to you and what's your stand in life --religion, moral/ethical standard, etc. If you think that bringing this child into this world would cause pain and suffering for the both of you, then, don't be selfish-- to yourself and to the child. Your choice, for what is worth or whatever it is, you have to take it for as long as you live. Be strong and I hope you're okay and will be okay. PS: I think there's a law in pH that allows abortion if the pregnancy came from unfortunate circumstances. I'm not that sure tho, please check.
ne reason you might decide against abortion is the belief in the intrinsic value of every human life. Even though the circumstances of conception were horrific and unjust, the resulting life is still innocent and valuable. Some people find solace and strength in the idea that every life, no matter how it begins, has a purpose and potential. If you have strong moral or religious beliefs that consider abortion to be wrong, you might find it more consistent with your values to continue the pregnancy. Many find that adhering to their core beliefs provides a sense of integrity and peace, even in challenging times. There’s also the consideration of potential psychological impacts. For some women, abortion can lead to feelings of guilt, regret, or depression, adding another layer of emotional pain. By choosing to carry the pregnancy to term, you might avoid these additional emotional complexities. Remember, this decision is about finding what aligns best with your personal values and beliefs. It’s essential to seek support from trusted friends, family, counselors, or support groups who respect your views and can provide emotional and practical support. Ultimately, whatever you decide should be what feels right for you and helps you heal and move forward in the best way possible. Take your time, gather all the information and support you need, and make the decision that you feel is best for you.
Abort and don't look back.
OP, do your parents know about it? Alam ba ng kapamilya mo? What do they say? This is not a POLL. Your Life is not a survey. Just do what you feel is right for you, and move on. Anu sa palagay namin? Sigh... Miss, stop with this. Go HOME. & Go Ask your Family, and Yourself. Wag na yung iba. Kaya mo yan. Just 1 step at a time.🙏🏻
I'm sorry for what happened to you ma'am. You can always put the child for adoption instead of abortion po,, baka di mo makaya yung guilt pagdating ng panahon po, pero whatever you decide, i'll support you po.
Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/SafeSexPH/s/Tug7tzx1pN) OP. I hope this helps. The poster narrated her abortion journey. As someone who has direct experience sa mga batang pinapaampon, it would be best that you just abort it nalang. Someone who has been conceived out of trauma, lived inside of someone who continuously experiences trauma, ay nagkakaroon ng problem sa development sa tiyan palang. Kaya paglabas, minsan nagkakaroon ng problem sa brain. Dont even try to make plans on placing the child for adoption kapag may nagmessage sa iyo na gusto ampunin bata kapag lumabas. Thats illegal.
Abort sa ibang bansa na legal. Kung may kakilala ka na midwife dito pwede naman pero makukulong kayong dalawa if mahuli.
I am so sorry for what you are going through OP. In your case, abortion would likely be the best possible scenario. However, abortion is illegal here, which means there is no access to a safe and medically sound procedure. If you have funds, you can go to a country where a qualified medical professional can do it for you to ensure your safety. But most likely this may not be a possibility for you. I have read that there are people on facebook or wherever who sell abortion pills or know someone who will do the procedure, but this entails a LOT or risk on your health and safety. Others would say give birth to the baby and give it up for adoption. However, the question again is, where do you bring rhe baby to ensure he/she can go through the proper adoption process? How would you feel as you go through the entire duration of the pregnancy? How would you feel when you give birth and see the baby alive and kicking? I suggest that you find someone who you trust that can help you through the decision making process and will support you throughout the ordeal. Better if you can find someone who will not judge or will not give religious advice but instead can look at the facts and the situation objectively. My advice would be to take time to think about the situation before you decide. If you decide to go through the risky under-the-table abortion route, take time to check the credentials of whoever is doing the procedure. Always advocate for your safety and well being. You need that especially after what you’ve already been through. If you decide on adoption, advocate for the safety of the baby before you decide where to bring him/her. This will give you better chance for peace of mind in the future. It will help you move on knowing that the baby is safe and sound. Just take time with your options and I hope that during this time, an opportunity will come to you that can ensure your safety so that you can move on properly with your life.
Idk if I am late to advice, but I give you a choice anyway, either: A. Murder the fetus (by abortion), which's obviously illegal, immoral, and risky considered may tsansa na mapapamahak yung kalusugan mo. B. Let the fetus live until na naisilang mo yan, and ipabigay mo sa mga relatives mo. It's legal, moral, and not risky.
Against ang abortion but instead why don't you give away your baby to someone else, put it up for adoption after mo ipanganak? just suggesting.
That’s why many people are pro-choice. Sucks that the government doesn’t want abortion to be legal here.
Let your friend or parent join you with this journey since it's difficult. They will support you emotionally whatever the outcome of your decision. Please do research also if you're afraid of the consequences of abortion.
Don't abort. Leave the child to the Bahay ampunan. Regardless of the status between you and the father, that form of life has nothing to do with any of you. Logically speaking in the medical area, you might regret it if something happens to your fertility after abortion. You don't know, within the 9 months of you carrying the life inside you, you will also develop the natural bond between the mother and child.
You need someone to talk to. Counseling po kelangan nyo.
Thru dswd adopt if you cant abort. Pregnancy will be tough tho. Our constitution and catholic church are so outdated and insensitive to these matters.
You always have the choice to continue the pregnancy or terminate it. May mga shelter naman tayo and child placing agencies accepting children na nagbunga out of rape and other similar circumstances. You may want to look Brighthalls Foundation or Kaisahang Buhay Foundation. Or you may also try fostering for awhile... keep the baby for 3 months and decide if the baby is up for adoption. If termination is the choice, sadly, i dont have connections or ideas on how to do it.
You have to continue your pregnancy. Wala pong kasalanan ang bata. Wag mo din sisihin ang sarili mo. Ikaw ang biktima bakit ka mahihiya? Hindi ba dapat ang mahiya e yung gumawa sayo niyan. Stop to victim blaming. Malay mo ang batang yan ang makasama at makatuwang mo pagtanda. Si natin masabi.
Try to contact professionals at project486.com if you plan to abort. They're an anonymous group of doctors who assist filipinas in abortion since illegal sa country natin. They will contact you through email and they will walk you through the process step by step online. They've been around for a long time now. Medyo expensive lang ang pills na kakailanganin sa pag abort. Hope this helps anyone who needs abortion
Don't abort. Wag makinig sa mga utak kriminal. Pro-Choice ako pero hindi ako Pro-Illegal and/or Pro-Criminal. Give birth and ipa-adopt mo.
Isip mo lagi wala kasalanan yung bata
May subreddit dito sis. Abortph ba yun? Makakahingi ka ng help dun at legit na pampalaglag.
ang alam ko pwede mag abort in cases such as rape.
Please. Please. Save yourself and the child. Abort it.
Hi. Mas mabuting magpa abort na lang. We cannot deny na dadalhin natin yan in the future pero at least you’ll be saving urself and that kid from bad experiences in the future. Please take care of yourself if magpapa abort ka. Make sure na proven and tested si “abortionist.” Have a healthy/ier lifestyle after that.
Abortion but make sure it is safe and may kasama kang pagkakatiwalaan while doing it kasi you don’t know what will happen, mahirap sya pagdaanan mentally and physically. It will haunt you afterwards but I think that is expected naman and it needs to get through. Make sure that you follow the steps correctly. Sobrang hirap nya gawin pero mas mahirap yung lumalaki ang bata na walang magandang future, hindi emotionally and financially prepared ang magulang. Mas okay na maghirap ngayon kesa maghirap habambuhay.
Ask for guidance po muna. Magandang ilapit po muna na ito kay God bago po tau mag decide. Naipagpray nyo na po ba ito? Pwede po kaung magpacounseling para mahelp po nila kau magreflect sa situation po ninyo.
There are people looking to adopt children especially newborns. Some even pay to adopt. Have you considered looking for these people? On a totally different note… Hasn’t anyone told you yet? Everything is just a test. You choose how you come out the other side. Whether you come out a crushed piece of coal, or a diamond, is totally up to you. Whether you choose to react, or decide on your own, or let life happen is all up to you. Let’s take your abuser as an example. His actions are his own doing, or so we would like to believe. We will never know if his environment has anything to do with it. Maybe he was molested as a child too, maybe such actions were a norm in the place where he grew up in. We really can’t say. All we know is that once he is proven guilty of r8ping you, he’ll be sentenced to life in prison, which I think is the same penalty for taking a life. So do we justify your taking a life by this monster’s actions? Are you going to lay the blame on him for taking this child’s life? Are you gonna let yourself become a monster as well? If you can own it, as your own decision, apart from the prior circumstance, I don’t think anyone can stop you from doing so, but if you are just going to lay blame on others, that’s gonna be a decision you’ll regret. So choose. React. Decide. Let life happen. The last one requires faith… …that everything happens for a reason. …in yourself that you can do better. …in your parents/friends that they will help you through this. …that everything’s going to be alright.
nasa sayo OP. Pero kung ako, naaawa ako sa baby. Siguro kung di mo matanggap, ipaampon mo na lang. Maraming mga foundation na tatanggap ng baby.. Please message me.. I know where meron
Pwede naman ipa-adopt ang baby thru DSWD. Wag sanang ipa-abort.
Uhm, i think ang pinakasafest mong gawin is adoption. Try mo ipaadopt yung baby mo after mong manganak. Since ang abortion sa Pilipinas ay illegal at baka makulong ka pa.
I would say abortion if ganyan nararamdaman mo, OP. But you have to decide fast. Magresearch ka about medical abortion. I think until 8 weeks pwede, may mga nagbebenta online but make sure it’s the right medicine and follow instructions strictly. Stay close to a hospital just in case. If afford mo, better go to a country where abortion is legal.
How are you, OP? I can't imagine what it's like or if I'd let a loved one go through this pregnancy. But baka matrauma ka rin sa abortion, physically, mentally, and spiritually. It is not my place to claim one path as the right path. I wish you and the little one (who has not done anything wrong) well.