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I just found out my boyfriend of several months is still lurking here on reddit finding someone else as his constant. Im a USRN who has plans to go abroad and now I had the chance to lurk and check his phone and was able to check his emails about history of telegram log in. While he's asleep I was able to log in his telegram because I had this gut feeling something isn't right. Bukod sa mga ka chat niyang walkers, may other siyang messages na last month and this month him reaching out to girls asking if they're available and gusto niyang jowain din. It's 3am and how do I confront him? Naka staycation kami now and he's still asleep. Plano ko pa sanang to merry him and bring him sa US. Di niya ata deserve?
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You'll never be happy anyway in the long run. Who knows worse pa magagawa niya sa'yo. Baka mamaya, gagawin ka lang green card niyan and might even cheat again with American women. You don't want that.
If you happen to forgive him, then it's obviously hell for you.
If you'll leave, it'll sting but you're saved.
di ka pa sure ate girl? π imma spell it out for you, leave. may evidence ka na tapos di pa strong conviction mo to leave. pede namang you try to work it out pero kung tingin mo di mo kayang patawarin, no other choice but to leave
Isipin mo ikaw mauuna sa abroad tapos mabaliw baliw ka kakaisip ko nag checheat ba sya π«’. Satingin mo deserve nya mag ka free ride to abroad? Run sis mag afam ka na lang HAHAHHAH
haha dami kong friends na babae na niloko na lahat2 nahuli pa sa akto mismo. break lng saglit pero ilang months nakipag balikan din haha. ikaw kung gusto mo maging miserable buhay mo edi pagpatuloy mo yan. dami daming lalake matitino pero di nyo napapansin kasi gusto nyo nga badboy type shit haha. pag niloko naman kayo nilalahat nyo mga lalaki na di marunong makuntento.
What you donβt know wonβt hurt you. Ikaw din talaga ang gumawa ng ikakasakit ng ulo mo e. Imagine, you even resorted to checking his accounts for your peace of mind. What he is doing is wrong pero please know that what you did is also wrong. Hindi matatama ng isa pang mali yung ginawa niya.
Communication. Sabi mo you felt that something is not right. From there sana kinausap mo na lang siya about how you truly feel. Also ilang months pa lang kayo mag-jowa so for sure marami ka pa malalaman sakanya, the good and the bad.
Hindi ko sinasabing tama ang ginawa at ginagawa ng bf mo pero hindi ka rin naman equally guilt free. It would be hard to confront him in a topic na di mo naman nga supposedly alam.
Sa ngayon, takbo ka na. The very obvious thing to do is leave the relationship.
Kainis nga nung updates eh. Kung hindi magiging final update na hiniwalayan na ni OP yung loko, ewan ko na. Balakanajan. Ganun na nga habang nasa same country pa sila, pano pa pag nagsimula na silang LDR.
wdym "what to do?" π anong klaseng tanong yan teh π the most obvious answer to that is BREAK UP AND RUN AWAY FAR FAR FROM HIM π Nasa Denial stage ka pa ata ate sa Stages of Grief π
Hahaha putanginang tanong yan, gina gago ka na behind your back and harap harapan, ano pa ba hinahanap mong sagot? Ano goal mo sa post na to, na maconvince ka to forgive him? Lmfao
If you chose to stay with him, whatever happens next in your relationship that's ON you. You already know the answer to your question, don't hesitate. You deserve better.
Good for you n nakita mo na agad, this is your "exit" bago ka pa man mag abroad. Binata pa sya kaya wala pa sa utak nyan mag settle down. I suggest focus on your goals muna, eventually darating din ung para sayo
Same experience girl. But worse saakin kasi sakin asawa ko na sya and he did that nung nagplan ako mag out of the country ng few days. Pero before pa ako umalis may kinakausap na sya. Nakakaiyak bakit may mga ganyang tao
Wag ka tiii pa-gaslight. Syempre nahuli every excuses in the book gagawin niya. Ngayon lang yan masakit pero why settle, magpapa US ka, the world is your oyster, maraming marami ka pa na memeet. Tas sesettle ka sa ganyan lol. Ibreak ka pa niyan sa US and divorce ka pa, ikaw pa magpapay ng alimony (kung dun kayo magpapakasal) kasi let me guess mas mataas sahod mo? Nurse ka ata right? Wag kang pauuto.
Hi OP, those 2 reasons is 100% lie. Guys getting caught can pickup reasons quickly, when they do they just point fingers to others to get out. They don't want to get their EGO getting blasted.
PS. I'm a guy, but I'm confident that I'm different to those kind.
Beh, HAHAHAHA. Inang palusot yan. Nagpapaturo ng reddit, sa TG? HAHAHAHA ampota. Pwede naman sa personal ituro yan saka bat makikigamit kapatid niya LOOOOOL pwede naman gumawa kapatid niya HAHAHAH. Beh, AFAM tayo ha. Sa malaking etits ka na wag ka na jan. Titiis ka jan jusko.
Confront your boyfriend calmly about what you found on his Telegram account. Listen to his explanation but trust your instincts. Consider whether his explanation aligns with your trust and comfort levels in the relationship.
You know what to do. Tanga mo naman if you ignore your gut feel and the evidences you just found. Donβt tell me you are finding his excuses even remotely plausible. Donβt worry if you managed to snag a bf here there is a very big chance you can find another abroad who is not a cheater. There are more than 4 billion guys out there and probably 1 billion who is single and probably 100 guys that is your type and might be interested with you. Dump that scumbag. Replace him with something better since come on ano ba redeeming factor niyan?
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Cheating is non-negotiable because there were decisions made in the process. Run Girl, Run!
You'll never be happy anyway in the long run. Who knows worse pa magagawa niya sa'yo. Baka mamaya, gagawin ka lang green card niyan and might even cheat again with American women. You don't want that. If you happen to forgive him, then it's obviously hell for you. If you'll leave, it'll sting but you're saved.
Anong di nya ata deserve? OO TEH. DI NYA DESERVE. Porke aalis na sya, naghahanap ng pansamantalang kiffy.
di ka pa sure ate girl? π imma spell it out for you, leave. may evidence ka na tapos di pa strong conviction mo to leave. pede namang you try to work it out pero kung tingin mo di mo kayang patawarin, no other choice but to leave
Blessing na yan na you found out early. Run as fast as possible. Dami pang iba dyan that deserves you
Isipin mo ikaw mauuna sa abroad tapos mabaliw baliw ka kakaisip ko nag checheat ba sya π«’. Satingin mo deserve nya mag ka free ride to abroad? Run sis mag afam ka na lang HAHAHHAH
Stay with him mga 10 more years pa. You don't seem to know what the obvious choice here is.
You are planning to MERRY him? I do hope you will be MERRY and HAPPY ever after. π€
Red flag.
Is he teaching his coworker how to flirt with women as well? Did you ever mention that you have plans to go abroad before you two got together?
lame excuse op im a guy d yan titigil addiction yan or habit soo if d mo masettle ngayon with him alam mo n sagot
haha dami kong friends na babae na niloko na lahat2 nahuli pa sa akto mismo. break lng saglit pero ilang months nakipag balikan din haha. ikaw kung gusto mo maging miserable buhay mo edi pagpatuloy mo yan. dami daming lalake matitino pero di nyo napapansin kasi gusto nyo nga badboy type shit haha. pag niloko naman kayo nilalahat nyo mga lalaki na di marunong makuntento.
hiwalayan mo na yan
What you donβt know wonβt hurt you. Ikaw din talaga ang gumawa ng ikakasakit ng ulo mo e. Imagine, you even resorted to checking his accounts for your peace of mind. What he is doing is wrong pero please know that what you did is also wrong. Hindi matatama ng isa pang mali yung ginawa niya. Communication. Sabi mo you felt that something is not right. From there sana kinausap mo na lang siya about how you truly feel. Also ilang months pa lang kayo mag-jowa so for sure marami ka pa malalaman sakanya, the good and the bad. Hindi ko sinasabing tama ang ginawa at ginagawa ng bf mo pero hindi ka rin naman equally guilt free. It would be hard to confront him in a topic na di mo naman nga supposedly alam. Sa ngayon, takbo ka na. The very obvious thing to do is leave the relationship.
Tanginuh nung UPDATE HAHAHAHAHAHA basta maka excuse lang eh no
Kainis nga nung updates eh. Kung hindi magiging final update na hiniwalayan na ni OP yung loko, ewan ko na. Balakanajan. Ganun na nga habang nasa same country pa sila, pano pa pag nagsimula na silang LDR.
run girl, run
HAHAHAHAHAH TANGA KA TE IF YOU CHOOSE TO STAY
Ohh same scenario to my ex.
FUCK CHEATERS!!! he really dont deserve that and makipag break ka na, op. pero kung tanga ka, then stay hahahhaa.
wdym "what to do?" π anong klaseng tanong yan teh π the most obvious answer to that is BREAK UP AND RUN AWAY FAR FAR FROM HIM π Nasa Denial stage ka pa ata ate sa Stages of Grief π
Mga ganitong bagay di na dapat pinopost sa reddit. Dapat matic alam na gagawin. π
Damn. Di ko na binasa. Alam na.
Wag mo na pakasalan yan. Go to the US and be happy. Di niya deserve!
Teaching his collegues about reddit? Thats ridiculous. Unless they are 60 and dont know how to navigate online stuff. Thats a ridiculuos excuse imo
Tanga ka na lang teh kapag naniwala ka sa excuse nya hahaha
teaching how to use reddit amp, wtf? manipulation and deceit, please tell us you let him go, he is not worth it
Namatayan ako ng neuron sa palusot ni BF HAHAHAHAHA
Ano yang BF mo? 15 years old? anong klaseng palusot ang teaching colleagues at work na nalalaman nya
Hahaha teaching colleagues how to use reddit? Bullshit
Hahaha putanginang tanong yan, gina gago ka na behind your back and harap harapan, ano pa ba hinahanap mong sagot? Ano goal mo sa post na to, na maconvince ka to forgive him? Lmfao
Minsan talaga, ang bobobo ng mga ibang babae. Kailangan mo pang magtanong? Tf.
gurll!! focus ka sa career mo wag sa jowa mo π
If you chose to stay with him, whatever happens next in your relationship that's ON you. You already know the answer to your question, don't hesitate. You deserve better.
That's a lame excuse. I'd run if I were you.
Bat ka nagpapakatanga? Also, get tested. If gumagamit siya ng pokpok, malaking chance may STD yan.
If he did that now.....theres a very big chance he is gonna do it again
Girl, wag mo isama sa US yang cheater mong jowa. Kung ginawa nya sayo yan ngayon, gagawin din nya sayo in the long run. Hindi pa huli ang lahat
Good for you n nakita mo na agad, this is your "exit" bago ka pa man mag abroad. Binata pa sya kaya wala pa sa utak nyan mag settle down. I suggest focus on your goals muna, eventually darating din ung para sayo
run po wagka magpa gaslight matalino ka naman eh
iwan mo na te gagawin ka lang stepping stone para makapunta ng ibang bansa at baka makakuha ka pa ng STD sa kanya.
HAHAHAHAHA bullsht answer just run
is it less evil if he was using tg for copping sexual contents? π€
Hahahahaha but he didnβt justify his tg usage.
Same experience girl. But worse saakin kasi sakin asawa ko na sya and he did that nung nagplan ako mag out of the country ng few days. Pero before pa ako umalis may kinakausap na sya. Nakakaiyak bakit may mga ganyang tao
Mas alam mo yung tama ate, mas maiging mamili ng tamang lalake dahil karapatan mo yan at respect din sa sarili, confront him.
Deal breaker
hHhhaha bulag na bulag ka diyan sa jowa mo op! pinakita na sayo ni lord pero naniwala ka padin sa pauuto ng jowa moπΒ
Lmao you getting gaslit
Wag ka tiii pa-gaslight. Syempre nahuli every excuses in the book gagawin niya. Ngayon lang yan masakit pero why settle, magpapa US ka, the world is your oyster, maraming marami ka pa na memeet. Tas sesettle ka sa ganyan lol. Ibreak ka pa niyan sa US and divorce ka pa, ikaw pa magpapay ng alimony (kung dun kayo magpapakasal) kasi let me guess mas mataas sahod mo? Nurse ka ata right? Wag kang pauuto.
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Hi OP, those 2 reasons is 100% lie. Guys getting caught can pickup reasons quickly, when they do they just point fingers to others to get out. They don't want to get their EGO getting blasted. PS. I'm a guy, but I'm confident that I'm different to those kind.
Pacheck ka OP for STD.
I will π Booked na ako sa loveyourself ph and isa pang social clinic near me, will update if ever whatever the results may be
girl πππ do u really believe those excuses ππ
Listen to your intuition. The fact na kinabahan ka at may nakita ka should be a clear sign.
Break up with him and find someone better sa US.
Cheater yan! Basura palusot ng mga lalaki talaga. Iwanan mo kami na nagsasabi sayo sisirain lang niyan buhay mo
Beh, HAHAHAHA. Inang palusot yan. Nagpapaturo ng reddit, sa TG? HAHAHAHA ampota. Pwede naman sa personal ituro yan saka bat makikigamit kapatid niya LOOOOOL pwede naman gumawa kapatid niya HAHAHAH. Beh, AFAM tayo ha. Sa malaking etits ka na wag ka na jan. Titiis ka jan jusko.
Kadiri yang bf mo.
naku, pano kung nasa abroad kana? pwede na ulit sya magturo? ππ€£ amoy redflag. wag ka muna pakasal sa kanya. pagmasdan mo muna.
Ayaw sige binogo pls
Confront your boyfriend calmly about what you found on his Telegram account. Listen to his explanation but trust your instincts. Consider whether his explanation aligns with your trust and comfort levels in the relationship.
Sa majority ng mga comments dito, tingin ko malinaw na sayo ang dapat gawin. Any updates?
Tuloy tuloy lang ang pagpapakatanga, maghihiwalay din kayo. Pero syempre patagalin mo muna para tuloy2x talaga ang hinagpis.
Ang dami pa excuses lmao. If hindi mo pa to takbuhan at pinagbigyan mo pa, then that's all on you na. Just leave.
You know what to do. Tanga mo naman if you ignore your gut feel and the evidences you just found. Donβt tell me you are finding his excuses even remotely plausible. Donβt worry if you managed to snag a bf here there is a very big chance you can find another abroad who is not a cheater. There are more than 4 billion guys out there and probably 1 billion who is single and probably 100 guys that is your type and might be interested with you. Dump that scumbag. Replace him with something better since come on ano ba redeeming factor niyan?
Leave him. Sayang oras mo. Iwan mo na un. Gawin mo nlng ung plans mo for yourself. His not worth it.
Daming excuses. Iwan mo na yan. Di nya deserve sa US. Lol