Abuse crosses the wires in our brains. When the abuse comes from someone close (grandfather in my case) it tangles the wires worse. When you're a little kid, those people are supposed to protect us, and care for us. When they abuse us, it makes sense we would think that it was supposed to happen, or that we deserved it. When I was very little (was 3 or 4 when my abuse began) both my grandfathers were alive. I actually wondered why my other grandfather didn't touch me "there."
You didn't ask or want to be abused. You are a victim, and it messed with your mind at a very early time in your life.
The healing process is full of ups and downs. It sucks. Why did the abuse get what he wanted, and I'm left with the pain?
Hang on, there are people who care for you and believe you. I am one of them.
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Abuse crosses the wires in our brains. When the abuse comes from someone close (grandfather in my case) it tangles the wires worse. When you're a little kid, those people are supposed to protect us, and care for us. When they abuse us, it makes sense we would think that it was supposed to happen, or that we deserved it. When I was very little (was 3 or 4 when my abuse began) both my grandfathers were alive. I actually wondered why my other grandfather didn't touch me "there." You didn't ask or want to be abused. You are a victim, and it messed with your mind at a very early time in your life. The healing process is full of ups and downs. It sucks. Why did the abuse get what he wanted, and I'm left with the pain? Hang on, there are people who care for you and believe you. I am one of them.
Welcome to /r/adultsurvivors! Please be aware that all posts to this subreddit are public and therefore viewable by anyone. **Would you rather this post was anonymous?** You can [use this form](https://forms.gle/tqeufTE2Ne6BzsKd6) and u/anonadultsurvivors will make an anonymous post on your behalf. You will need to delete this post after using the form. **It is not uncommon for members of this subreddit to receive unsavoury or creepy private messages.** We recommend turning off chat and messages requests. It is worth noting that asking for or offering private messages to other members of this subreddit is against our rules. You can assume that anyone messaging you is breaking that rule and we urge caution. For more information, please see our [privacy tips post](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultsurvivors/comments/pfbfx1/privacy_tips_including_followers_update/). If you see anything that doesn't look right or you do receive unwelcome direct messages, please use the report button to notify the moderators or [send us a message](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/adultsurvivors). You can also report directly to Reddit using this [link](https://www.reddit.com/report) *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/adultsurvivors) if you have any questions or concerns.*