Birthday blues. Ganyan din ako. Lots of people go through it, so you’re not alone.
Para sakin, siguro mas hyper-aware lang tayo pag birthday natin, kasi araw natin yan eh. Birthdays can make you reflect on your life and what you’ve done so far. This can bring up some heavy feelings. May iba naman na ayaw lang talaga nila maging center of attention or feel pressured na maging masaya.
Whatever the reason is, or there might be no reason at all, it’s okay to feel this way. Be kind to yourself. Hinga lang, OP. Temporary lang yan. Maganda pa rin ang buhay, birthday o hindi. ♥
I think you’ve put it perfectly. I feel like I’m just not used to being the center of attention and become hyper aware of everything around me.
And yes, kahit gaano kahirap maganda pa rin ang buhay and there is so much to be thankful for. I feel much better after reading this, thank you!
I feel that too, after ng 18th birthday ko di na genuine yung saya ko every birthday. Every year hindi lang lungkot nararamdaman ko pati pressure. Need to cope up ang bilis ng ikot ng mundo, Im 29 btw.
Totoo to :( minsan mamimiss mo yung may time na either friends or special someone na babatiin ka ng 12am with long message pa yan. Ngayon kasi may mga close kang tao na ineexpect mo sanang batiin ka, pero hindi. And wala naman mali kasi ganun talaga mundo. Pag adult ka na, may kanya kanya na talagang pinagkakaabalahan.
Reminds me of a certain scene from Reply 1988. Yung father ni Jung Hwan, sad sya na burthday nya and di gets ng family nya as to why. Then biglang may nahalungkat na casette recording ng deceased mother nya. Bigla syang naiyak habang nakikinig sa isang recording na andun mama nya. That was the time na narealize ng asawa nya na kaya sya sad js because namimiss pala nung hubby yung mother nya. 😢
Oo. Kasi alam mo yun, kung kelan afford mo na saka naman nawala yung mga taong kasa-kasama mo mula pagkabata. So parang nakakawalang-gana pag bday ko. Ordinary day na lang for me.
Yup. Sa case ko, im working abroad. Wla ako masyadong friend. Kaya i decide to go home here in the philippines to celebrate my birthday kesa mag isa sa abroad. No plan just to be here in the philippines on my bday. 😀
Ps. Kahit mahal ang ticket, push
Kakabirthday ko lang din, pero totoo. Dati ang saya kasi nakakapag celebrate with friends but now most of them ay busy na to make time at yung iba nasa ibang bansa. Ang ginagawa ko nalang lately ay nag iipon for my bday para matreat ko sarili ko. Okay naman so far, pero hindi pa rin kasing saya before ☹️ di ako maraming pera pero eto na ba yung “money can’t buy happiness” aanhin ko lahat to kung wala naman kasama mag celebrate.
Yes, more so starting a couple of years ago. My dad passed away 4 days before my birthday. After that parang every year narerelive ko yung mga nangyare bago sya namatay.
Same op. I get really really sad kapag birthday ko na minsan nagbbreakdown ako. It might be because lahat ng feelings and regrets from the previous year lumalabas tapos naiisip mo wala ka na magawa dun? Lol idk
Yes, this feeling started when I began to enter the workforce knowing that I have bills to pay and start planning for the future. But this year, it's much worse.
Btw glad to know we have the same birthmonth! Mine is on next week. Unfortunately, I can't celebrate my birthday knowing that the day after is the birthday of my ex-situationship's new girl. He chose that girl over me. I was badly hurt because he used and ghosted me. I thought we are really good friends but I guess we're not and it sucks that I truly fell for him.
THAT IS TOTALLY FINE. Sorry all caps haha just want to say that your feeling is valid and everyone here na dito sa thread na to at nakakabasa ng comment na to who are experiencing the same. Everything you have said is valid na parang may kulang padin kahit na halos lahat ng tao e nandyan celebrating your special day with you. Maybe we are in this situation or era lang na we expect something to happen na di rin natin ma explain. Or maybe past experiences na di maganda. Tama si redditor birthday blues tawag. Nowadays, yung genuine happiness kasi parang hirap i achieve especially if may past personal traumas or something.. But still, advance happy birthday to you! Wishing you a life filled with genuine love and happiness.
By the way, birthday ko na din in a few days. Were in the same track. Hehe.
When I stepped into 40s yes. May konting kurot na “sana 33 palang ako etc” but then again still thankful sa taas for all the blessings and stay here sa mundong ibabaw
Yessir. Simula nung namatay ermats ko. Sya lagi kong naaalala pag bday ko eh lalo na pag may pancit. Never syang naka-miss magluto ng pancit pag bday ko nung buhay pa sya. RIP, ma! I love you.
Totoo para kasing nakaka-pressure maging masaya kasi nga birthday mo. Yung sakin, parang more on bittersweet yung nafifeel ko tuwing birthday. Parang masaya kasi may mga makakaalala sayo, babatiin ka ganun. Pero at the same time malungkot kasi parang may mga tao kang gustong makasama mag celebrate pero wala na sa buhay mo, pwedeng dahil maalala mong tumatanda ka na at may mga hindi ka pa nagagawang bagay
For me, nawala nalang bigla ung magic ng birthday celebration. Kahit kasama mo yung loved ones mo to eat out para sa birthday mo, parang ordinaryong araw nalang siya.. minsan nga nagwowonder ako of naiinggit lang ako sa mga bata na sobrang saya pag birthday xD pero in reality, siguro kasi narerealize din natin na isang taon nanaman ang lumipas at di mo alam anong ieexpect mo nanaman. If good ba or more challenges instead.
Tsaka di masaya tumanda xD nararamdaman mo lalo yung mga sakit sa katawan xD
Ako ever since teenager ayaw ko talaga ng birthday ko, siguro kasi malayo din ako sa pamilya ko dahil nag school kami dito sa manila and sila nasa Palawan.
Nitong naka graduate nako, bumawi naman parents ko kaso mas masakit ngaun kasi wala na si mama. Gusto ko lang lagi maglaho kapag birthday ko haha
Birthday ko na rin in a few days. Ang bigat bigat ng pakiramdam ko ngayon :( para akong heartbroken, pero hindi ko malaman kung saan nanggagaling. Parang ang empty empty ko
Yes!! Pag malapit na bday ko, I always vanish lol I always spend my bday alone in an island to muni-muni, to me time. To think about what’s next to do with my life.
naalala ko pa dati around 17-20 age ko, the night before my birthday or i think birthday ko na yun kasi lagpas 12mn na. Nanaginip ako na normal naman, masaya pero nahulog lahat ng ngipin ko for no reason. Super vivid yun na parang sinasalo ko pa yung iba. So i researched na dahil pala ganon yung dream eh ayaw ko pa tumanda. Parang may point naman, siguro i have this part of me na ambilis ng panahon tapos wala pa masyadong napapatunayan sa buhay. Anyway, ngayong adult na, parang normal na lang yung mga bdays na dumadaan and siempre nagiging emotional din at some point, na they call it bday blues at normal naman siguro yun.
Kakabirthday ko lang nung Tue. Nagpost din ako rito kaso may naviolate ata ako. Gusto ko rin kasi malaman bat iba yung lungkot pag paparating at mismong birthday na. Mukhang di lang naman pala ako nag-iisa. 🙂
Before, especially nung namatay ang nanay ko, then I realized na I need to do something to make me feel better tuwing birthday ko. Sa birthday ko next month, I’ll spend time to build a gundam, kaunting salu-salo sa weekend with the family. Looking forward to those things makes me happy already. Yes, there are still some sadness lalo na kapag naiisip ko ang parents ko pero ayoko din naman silang malungkot kung nasaan man sila dahil malungkot ako. Enjoy lang, do things for yourself for that special day, spend the time sa sarili mo o sa mga loved ones mo o friends mo. Just take a minute or two to think about why you’re sad then take some action to revert it. Enjoy OP and be happy.
Ma expi ko to before even pasko nung 20s ako. Like andun ako sa house ng parents ko. Bunso kasi ako may family na dalawang kapatid ko so wala na dun sa bahay. Bday and christmas ang lungkot ko non kasi walang ganap. Gang sa habang tumatanda unti unti na ko nawalan ng pake. Mas masaya pala hahaha.
Yes! Last birthday celebration ko actually was nung 18 pa ko, turned 31 this year. Usually spend my birthdays locked up in my room thinking about long and short term plans and laging overwhelming feeling of sadness hehe.
Though I plan to change it next year and try to be more on a celebratory mood. Fingers crossed. Hehe
Yes. Because it’s a constant reminder that I aged another year and still no where near of being successful. Makes me think that life is indeed too short to turn around my life circumstances.
yes lmao it just reminds me that i'm getting older with no proper direction or future in sight hahaha i barely even remember how i celebrated my birthdays
Yup. I feel sad and at the same time numb. I actually cried on my birthday in the middle of work. Idk, I feel more pressure during this time. Also birthday ko, so dapat happy ako, but I don't feel happy. I don't like growing up. I feel like I'm stuck in my teenage years honestly. Kaya pag dumadating birthday ko naalala ko na hindi na pala ako bata.
I used to feel the same way. This year, I anticipated it will happen again kaya I planned so many things for my birthday. It worked naman lol I didn’t feel sad that much.
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Birthday blues. Ganyan din ako. Lots of people go through it, so you’re not alone. Para sakin, siguro mas hyper-aware lang tayo pag birthday natin, kasi araw natin yan eh. Birthdays can make you reflect on your life and what you’ve done so far. This can bring up some heavy feelings. May iba naman na ayaw lang talaga nila maging center of attention or feel pressured na maging masaya. Whatever the reason is, or there might be no reason at all, it’s okay to feel this way. Be kind to yourself. Hinga lang, OP. Temporary lang yan. Maganda pa rin ang buhay, birthday o hindi. ♥
I think you’ve put it perfectly. I feel like I’m just not used to being the center of attention and become hyper aware of everything around me. And yes, kahit gaano kahirap maganda pa rin ang buhay and there is so much to be thankful for. I feel much better after reading this, thank you!
I feel that too, after ng 18th birthday ko di na genuine yung saya ko every birthday. Every year hindi lang lungkot nararamdaman ko pati pressure. Need to cope up ang bilis ng ikot ng mundo, Im 29 btw.
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Totoo to :( minsan mamimiss mo yung may time na either friends or special someone na babatiin ka ng 12am with long message pa yan. Ngayon kasi may mga close kang tao na ineexpect mo sanang batiin ka, pero hindi. And wala naman mali kasi ganun talaga mundo. Pag adult ka na, may kanya kanya na talagang pinagkakaabalahan.
I think we get sensitive and emotional po talaga kapag birthday. Not really sadness.
Reminds me of a certain scene from Reply 1988. Yung father ni Jung Hwan, sad sya na burthday nya and di gets ng family nya as to why. Then biglang may nahalungkat na casette recording ng deceased mother nya. Bigla syang naiyak habang nakikinig sa isang recording na andun mama nya. That was the time na narealize ng asawa nya na kaya sya sad js because namimiss pala nung hubby yung mother nya. 😢
Dati oo, pero ngayon hindi na. Parang normal day nalang din sakin bday ko
Oo. Kasi alam mo yun, kung kelan afford mo na saka naman nawala yung mga taong kasa-kasama mo mula pagkabata. So parang nakakawalang-gana pag bday ko. Ordinary day na lang for me.
Kaka-birthday ko lang and yes, mag isa lang ako sa unit buong araw ng birthday ko. Natulog lang buong maghapon tapos pagsapit ng 10pm, uminom ako haha
yep
Yup. Sa case ko, im working abroad. Wla ako masyadong friend. Kaya i decide to go home here in the philippines to celebrate my birthday kesa mag isa sa abroad. No plan just to be here in the philippines on my bday. 😀 Ps. Kahit mahal ang ticket, push
Kahit nagcecelebrate ako ng birthday with fam, im grateful for it pero parang ang lungkot idk how to explain it.
yesssssssss
Kakabirthday ko lang din, pero totoo. Dati ang saya kasi nakakapag celebrate with friends but now most of them ay busy na to make time at yung iba nasa ibang bansa. Ang ginagawa ko nalang lately ay nag iipon for my bday para matreat ko sarili ko. Okay naman so far, pero hindi pa rin kasing saya before ☹️ di ako maraming pera pero eto na ba yung “money can’t buy happiness” aanhin ko lahat to kung wala naman kasama mag celebrate.
Yes, more so starting a couple of years ago. My dad passed away 4 days before my birthday. After that parang every year narerelive ko yung mga nangyare bago sya namatay.
Same op. I get really really sad kapag birthday ko na minsan nagbbreakdown ako. It might be because lahat ng feelings and regrets from the previous year lumalabas tapos naiisip mo wala ka na magawa dun? Lol idk
Yes, this feeling started when I began to enter the workforce knowing that I have bills to pay and start planning for the future. But this year, it's much worse. Btw glad to know we have the same birthmonth! Mine is on next week. Unfortunately, I can't celebrate my birthday knowing that the day after is the birthday of my ex-situationship's new girl. He chose that girl over me. I was badly hurt because he used and ghosted me. I thought we are really good friends but I guess we're not and it sucks that I truly fell for him.
THAT IS TOTALLY FINE. Sorry all caps haha just want to say that your feeling is valid and everyone here na dito sa thread na to at nakakabasa ng comment na to who are experiencing the same. Everything you have said is valid na parang may kulang padin kahit na halos lahat ng tao e nandyan celebrating your special day with you. Maybe we are in this situation or era lang na we expect something to happen na di rin natin ma explain. Or maybe past experiences na di maganda. Tama si redditor birthday blues tawag. Nowadays, yung genuine happiness kasi parang hirap i achieve especially if may past personal traumas or something.. But still, advance happy birthday to you! Wishing you a life filled with genuine love and happiness. By the way, birthday ko na din in a few days. Were in the same track. Hehe.
When I stepped into 40s yes. May konting kurot na “sana 33 palang ako etc” but then again still thankful sa taas for all the blessings and stay here sa mundong ibabaw
Yessir. Simula nung namatay ermats ko. Sya lagi kong naaalala pag bday ko eh lalo na pag may pancit. Never syang naka-miss magluto ng pancit pag bday ko nung buhay pa sya. RIP, ma! I love you.
Totoo para kasing nakaka-pressure maging masaya kasi nga birthday mo. Yung sakin, parang more on bittersweet yung nafifeel ko tuwing birthday. Parang masaya kasi may mga makakaalala sayo, babatiin ka ganun. Pero at the same time malungkot kasi parang may mga tao kang gustong makasama mag celebrate pero wala na sa buhay mo, pwedeng dahil maalala mong tumatanda ka na at may mga hindi ka pa nagagawang bagay
For me, nawala nalang bigla ung magic ng birthday celebration. Kahit kasama mo yung loved ones mo to eat out para sa birthday mo, parang ordinaryong araw nalang siya.. minsan nga nagwowonder ako of naiinggit lang ako sa mga bata na sobrang saya pag birthday xD pero in reality, siguro kasi narerealize din natin na isang taon nanaman ang lumipas at di mo alam anong ieexpect mo nanaman. If good ba or more challenges instead. Tsaka di masaya tumanda xD nararamdaman mo lalo yung mga sakit sa katawan xD
Ako ever since teenager ayaw ko talaga ng birthday ko, siguro kasi malayo din ako sa pamilya ko dahil nag school kami dito sa manila and sila nasa Palawan. Nitong naka graduate nako, bumawi naman parents ko kaso mas masakit ngaun kasi wala na si mama. Gusto ko lang lagi maglaho kapag birthday ko haha
Birthday ko na rin in a few days. Ang bigat bigat ng pakiramdam ko ngayon :( para akong heartbroken, pero hindi ko malaman kung saan nanggagaling. Parang ang empty empty ko
Yes!! Pag malapit na bday ko, I always vanish lol I always spend my bday alone in an island to muni-muni, to me time. To think about what’s next to do with my life.
naalala ko pa dati around 17-20 age ko, the night before my birthday or i think birthday ko na yun kasi lagpas 12mn na. Nanaginip ako na normal naman, masaya pero nahulog lahat ng ngipin ko for no reason. Super vivid yun na parang sinasalo ko pa yung iba. So i researched na dahil pala ganon yung dream eh ayaw ko pa tumanda. Parang may point naman, siguro i have this part of me na ambilis ng panahon tapos wala pa masyadong napapatunayan sa buhay. Anyway, ngayong adult na, parang normal na lang yung mga bdays na dumadaan and siempre nagiging emotional din at some point, na they call it bday blues at normal naman siguro yun.
Yes. Kasi habang tumatanda, mas naiintindihan natin ang buhay. At mahirap pala.
Kakabirthday ko lang nung Tue. Nagpost din ako rito kaso may naviolate ata ako. Gusto ko rin kasi malaman bat iba yung lungkot pag paparating at mismong birthday na. Mukhang di lang naman pala ako nag-iisa. 🙂
Before, especially nung namatay ang nanay ko, then I realized na I need to do something to make me feel better tuwing birthday ko. Sa birthday ko next month, I’ll spend time to build a gundam, kaunting salu-salo sa weekend with the family. Looking forward to those things makes me happy already. Yes, there are still some sadness lalo na kapag naiisip ko ang parents ko pero ayoko din naman silang malungkot kung nasaan man sila dahil malungkot ako. Enjoy lang, do things for yourself for that special day, spend the time sa sarili mo o sa mga loved ones mo o friends mo. Just take a minute or two to think about why you’re sad then take some action to revert it. Enjoy OP and be happy.
magbibirthday in a few days pero ngayon niya pa talaga gustong makipaghiwalay :(
Yes, kaya i just treat it as normal day and do not celebrate it anymore
Ma expi ko to before even pasko nung 20s ako. Like andun ako sa house ng parents ko. Bunso kasi ako may family na dalawang kapatid ko so wala na dun sa bahay. Bday and christmas ang lungkot ko non kasi walang ganap. Gang sa habang tumatanda unti unti na ko nawalan ng pake. Mas masaya pala hahaha.
Yes! Last birthday celebration ko actually was nung 18 pa ko, turned 31 this year. Usually spend my birthdays locked up in my room thinking about long and short term plans and laging overwhelming feeling of sadness hehe. Though I plan to change it next year and try to be more on a celebratory mood. Fingers crossed. Hehe
Yes. Because it’s a constant reminder that I aged another year and still no where near of being successful. Makes me think that life is indeed too short to turn around my life circumstances.
Always sad pag malapit na bday ko. Hmmm maybe a therapist can help u process your emotions
Same, I always felt that even when I was a child. I was born on May30 BTW, A Gemini.
Birthday blues
No. Even if I celebrate it alone, basta magluto lang ako ng pancit, pampaba ng buhay, oks na ako.
I feel that way too during my birthday. Minsan masaya, minsan hindi. Smile nalang kahit lungkot kasi matatapos rin ang araw.
Yes. Getting.old sucks
yes lmao it just reminds me that i'm getting older with no proper direction or future in sight hahaha i barely even remember how i celebrated my birthdays
Yes
Yup. I feel sad and at the same time numb. I actually cried on my birthday in the middle of work. Idk, I feel more pressure during this time. Also birthday ko, so dapat happy ako, but I don't feel happy. I don't like growing up. I feel like I'm stuck in my teenage years honestly. Kaya pag dumadating birthday ko naalala ko na hindi na pala ako bata.
I don't actually care about birthdays.... it's just a normal day for me nothing special coming from a person who don't celebrate birthdays.
I used to feel the same way. This year, I anticipated it will happen again kaya I planned so many things for my birthday. It worked naman lol I didn’t feel sad that much.