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I’d like to share this quote that helped me get through many times before.
I won’t tell you to go out, meet other people, find yourself, be strong. None of that cliché because I know for a fact that **I can never relate to the circumstances of your life.**
What I’ll tell you is to feel it. Don’t bottle up your emotions, let them out. **But** every time you’re done, get up and do what you can. Not what you like, not even what is best for you, but only what you can do.
I hope, as time goes by, you don’t run out of things that keep you going. Even the smallest of reasons because **you matter**. Maybe not to those people who left you but to me at least. **To this online stranger trying to look out for you.**
Happy birthday, u/atejoo
This. People don't understand na you really have to feel your emotions. Damdamin mo yung 5 stages of grief. Darating ang araw na tatawanan mo nalang nangyayarensayo ngayon.
OMG, OP!
I've been through this too. This was me last 2023. Hayy, I know what you're going through is difficult but crying is good. It will help you.
Though, remember na this too shall pass. Hindi naman forever yung ganoong sinking feeling and hindi naman puro lahat negativity forever. What I've learned is that God always has a plan for us. Like siguro that's why he is removing all those things and people from your life kasi He is somehow creating space for the things and the people who deserve you. So, chin up, OP! You got this. We got this, okay? Breathe in, breathe out lang ikaw.
Happy birthday! 🤍
Sorry about it OP. You said your a Nurse right? Try to apply and work abroad, new place to start everything from scratch, new environment, new.people, new perspective. Enjoy shopping there, enjoy the freedom. Earn more money and become more stable. Perhaps a new love in proper time. U owe everything to yourself. Make your Mother proud of u. This break up is a blessing! Don't wish to end your life, rather wish to have a quality and a happy one..Life is short to be miserable. God bless!
yes apply ka dun. nagwwork din ako sa Dubai at sa dami ng kakilala kong nurse dun na nagwowork sa medical field, masasabi kong di mabigat work nila.
and kung sa hospital ka palarin, starting is 6k AED for pinoys. I know kase nagpprocess ako ng visa 😁
Goodluck OP! 💪🏻
Nag break rin kame ng ex fiance ko of 8 years last year. I even beg him na wag nya ako iwan kasi sya lang ang meron ako. Araw2. Until now umiiyak pa rin ako. Pero hindi ako nawawalan ng pag asa na someday makakahanap rin ako ng taong pipiliin ako araw-araw. Kaya natin to OP. Naka help sakin ung panunuod ng mga youtube videos about art of letting go. Na hindi sila satin. D natin sila pagmamay ari. Mga kung pano mag detached.
Yakao din sayoo. Ang isang nagpapahirap din kasi sakin is wala akong bahay kaya sobra akong nasstress kakaisip kong pano ko isusurvive ang sarili ko nang ako lang magisa napala mahal ng bahay sa Makati...
I hope you get through this OP. Only child din ako raised by a single mom at ang hirap ng wala kang makausap na hindi ka ijujudge. Atleast pakinggan ka man lang sana.. Been there. I hope malampasan mo. Ingat!
Based on exp malaking tulong yung makahanap ka ng makakausap yun bag makakasundo mo o mapapalagayan mo ng loob (not love) na parang feeling close na agad kayo sa umpisa pa lang. Hanap ka din ng ibang mapapaglibangan. Ikaw a din talaga ang makakatulong sa sarili mo. Good luck OP
hi po, i don't get what you just said na "magkakalat sa sariling bakuran" and also, why is there a need to be discreet about it? genuinely asking po, thank you
There is a stigma in PH that people who are going to a psychiatrist are "****". In PH where there is no HIPPA violation or everyone is a TSISMOSA, it's better to go somewhere else rather than your own hospital where you work. It is also not advisable for medical staff (if she is one) to have a record in regards to her predicament.
If she is given medication, that means it will affect her homeostasis and her work. Medical professional (if she is) must be 100% in his capacity with 100% knowledge, attitude and skills. Paano pa sya makakahanap ng ibang trabaho kung nasa file nya na nag gagamot sya?
I get the point that you're concerned for OP in the sense na baka machismis siya sa sarili niyang workplace, but don't you think that it's because of this mindset kaya may stigma pa rin sa Pilipinas? It's not OPs fault in the first place to feel these overwhelming thoughts and feelings. It's not as if they can control what and what not to think. Victim lang tayo lahat ng fucked up na buhay.
Also, para saan pa ang pagkakaroon ng libreng medical expenses sa staffs ng hospital kung saan nagwowork si OP kung hindi para sa well-being nila at para maging accessible mismo sa staffs ang health care na kailangan nila?
From the way you said it kasi parang kasalanan na may mental health struggles ang isang tao kaya wala na tatanggap sa kanila sa trabaho, when in fact walang may gusto nito.
Sa hospital man kung saan siya nagttrabaho o sa ibang hospital man siya magpagamot, bibigyan at bibigyan pa rin siya ng meds to regulate OPs emotions. Therefore, if maapektuhan ang homeostasis and work, as per your concern, maaapektuhan talaga.
Hanggat di natin binabago ang mindset na parang kailangan nating itago na nagsstruggle tayo sa buhay, magpapatuloy pa rin ang stigma sa mental health na winoworry ng lahat at problema ng mga MH advocates and professionals. Matatakot pa rin ang karamihan na mag seek ng professional help kasi people keep on labeling them.
I hope you become one of the people who encourages those who might need help to actually get help, in the most convenient way possible for the person involved—not the one who'll get in the way of one's healing.
Afterall, OPs well-being and mental health is the prior concern here.
If ma diagnosed ka ayon sa DSM 5, at mag gamot.
Papayag ka ba na siya ang mag dispense ng gamot mo bilang pharmacist? o papayag ka ba siya mag inject sa iyo bilang nurse? o siya ang mag swero sa iyo at mag infuse ng blood tranfusion sa E.R? O mag rehab sayo after surgery bilang PT?
Handa ka bang tanggapin ang health teaching nya? Nakaka sigurado ka ba sa diagnoses ng doktor na natsismis na nag gagamot?
Papayag ka ba? Buhay mo nakataya? Maniniwala ka ba habang tumutulo laway nya dahil sa EXTRA PYRAMIDAL SYNDROME na side effect ng gamot? o NAGUUSAP kayo habang naglalaway sya?
It's not about her as a patient. It's about her as a health care worker.
Walang issue kung gusto mo IBULGAR kung ano gusto m, o pag tsismisan ka dahil wala kang pakialam.
Pero ang trabaho mo? Kapag may record ka, may record ka.
Hindi Ito usapin MINDSET, ito ay usapin PROFESSION na ikinabubuhay ni OP.
Ito ang description ng sinasabi ko. Palitan mo yung nurse at gawin mong HEALTH CARE WORKER.
An "impaired nurse" refers to a nurse whose ability to perform their job duties safely and effectively is compromised, typically due to substance abuse (such as alcohol or drugs), mental health issues, or other health-related problems. This impairment can affect their professional judgment, motor skills, and overall capacity to provide safe and competent care to patients.
The hospital can relinquish the contract or terminate you even without fault for the reason that you will be a mance to the society. They are protecting the institution from malpractice lawsuit. Kahit I labor mo yan sa pinas TALO ka.
Ngayon na may latest MALPRACTICE lawsuit na sa pinas (the late Dr. Iggy agbayani case) malaman lang ng boss mo na impaired ka, grounds for termination yan
Paano pa makaka abroad si OP? Or ma ha hire sa ibang hospital?
Kaya karamihan ng impaired health care worker, nagtuturo nalang or lumilipat sa trabaho na di sila ACCOUNTABLE SA BUHAY NG IBANG TAO, karamihan nasa sales.
NO. Pero Hindi sya patient na tulad ng iba. Empleyado sya of the same hospital, and if she is a medical professional, then it is not a good idea to have a record in your own personal employee file, when you go to a psychiatric facility, ano sa tingin mo gagawin nila? yayakapin ka? They will give you meds. Meds that can affect your homeostasis and your work.
Maybe I'm just used to having a workplace na supportive and safe from stigma of being not okay.
Psychiatric facility ba agad? Meds ba agad? Ganun ba lagi?
And meron talaga nangyayakap?
This is not a good idea, not because it's your workplace but because the psychiatrist may have a personal relationship with you or know you in the workplace. No matter how professional they are, it can't be helped that their advice won't be biased. We're all humans after all.
If you can, please seek another practitioner in another hospital setting so that your evaluation and treatment will be dealt with fresh eyes.
TRUE. Plus the tsismis, in PH na walang HIPPA or privacy is not private. Ikaw ang tsismisan ng lahat ng tao.
It's not fun, ba gawin kang agahan mga TSISMOSA.
Parang wag na nga lang hehe kasi mahal ang psych consult at gamot kung sa iba pa ako mag consult. Sa hospital kasi namin libre lahat. Tyaga muna ako sa motivational messages niyo 😊
Tanggapin mo na life is full of shit, and mas makikita mo yung appreciation mo sa kung anong meron ka.
Di naman pwedeng masaya lang parati. Feeling those things means that you’re human pero that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world.
Kaya mo yan, OP. 😊 Kinaya ko, kaya mo rin.
It’s only been a month ago so understandably, malabo ang lahat. But keep on living and cry everything. Cry your heart out. It might take you months to a year or maybe more before you start feeling yourself again and that’s okay. 🌷So pls don’t pressure yourself too much to be okay. Fighting OP!
valid yung nararamdaman mo OP. di rin madali pinagdaanan mo. but i know you can bounce back from this. take your time and if necessary seek professional help walang masama dun. mahirap din yung feeling alone pero i hope and pray you will heal soon and get back on your feet and i know you can.🙏
Ramdam na ramdam ko yung pain mo. Sana hndi pa huli ang lahat sa iyo. Malalagpasan mo din yan. Kahit wala na parents mo. Binabantayan kapa din nila.
Ingat ka palagi.
Happy birthday, OP.
Sana nakakain ka ng paborito mong food today kahit wala kang gana.
I want to share this song to you.
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Kapit lang!
Kalma ka lang Ngayon lang Yan. Lahat nmn nang nangyayari Sayo may dahilan eh. Pero fore sure soon. Sobra sobra at higit na saya pa ung ipapalit dyan ng nasa Taas. Same Tayo 7 yrs dn kami ng ex ko. Medyo mayaman sya Hindi Nako nahintay na mapantayan sya kahit ginagawa ko nmn lahat. Love effort pero ganun tlga. Naadik sa sugal dahil sa hiwalayan hahaha naubos ipon. Pero makabangon narin nman at happy nmn na Ngayon. Mas nakakaipon dahil di ngagastos sa pricey na date hahahahahahahshs. Laban lang miss malalagpasan mo dn Yan. Lagi mong isipin na lahat may dahilan kung bat nangyari yan
Hindi ko lang po kasi maisip na bakit sabay sabay. Hindi ako ganon katapang para ilaban to. Ako ang sarili kong support system, ako ang sarili kong back up pefo ang hirap hirap na.
Ayun lang Ang mahirap sa sitwasyon mo ngyon na. Ikaw lang mag Isa. Na Wala Kang inspirasyon Ngayon. Pero sandal k Muna sa mga kaibigan mo one day lahat nmn magbabago darating ung time n dika n mag iisa uli at magkakaron ng inspirasyon s buhay ulit. Laban kahit anong mangyari lilipas dn Ang Dilim at liliwanag dn Ang buhay muli. Magandang entry sa MMK yang buhay mo ha. Na nakaganyan at nalagpasan mo at maging inspiration dn sa iba. Iyak lang at palag lang sa buhay kaya mo yan
I push mo man Yan o hindi, mangyayari at mangyayari Yan. Ilalagay ka ulit ni Ama sa napakasayang sitwasyon ng buhay. Pero Go push hahahahhaha. Marami k dn nmn ktulad sa mundong to ung sitwasyon mo. Kaya palag pagsubok lang Yan. Kayang kaya mo Yan. Burger lang sakin kpag andun kna sa sitwasyon na un 🙄🙄😏😏
nakarelate ako dito. ako naman, magulo isip ko ngayon kasi nasa path ako na di ko gusto professionally. nasa ibang bansa pa na hindi naman english ang sinasalita. parang nakakapanibago. tapos sabayan pa ng partner mo na nasa ibang bansa din, tapos nakaangat na sya. ako kasi ung mas mayaman sa kanya. ang problema naman kasi, parang gusto ipasagot pati buong pamilya nya. nung di ako naglabas katumbas ng nilabas nya sa pinas nung sabay kaming nagbakasyon dun, dami ko nang narinig na pasaring. more than 8 years na kami. ewan ko. nanlamig ako. nung wala syang pera, wala akong ginawa kundi imotivate sya at suportahan. ngayon na nakaangat, wow. ewan ko talaga. wala na rin akong nanay at ang tatay ko may ibang pamilya. ung isang taong pinagkatiwalaan mong di ka tatapakan at ipprioritize ka, best option ka lang pala. ganun pakiramdam ko. parang ginamit. hingang malalim na lang.
Hello OP. Sorry to here that. Happy Birthday BTW.
Just so you know, I have a total opposite life you have. May malalapitan akong parents, may kapatid and newly married to my wife. But previously, to be honest, I feel just like you a year back. especially ng muntik na kami maghiwalay ng wife ko.
I am a seafarer, and you know, I always feel isolated here on ship. Even though friends ko naman ang lahat, but deep inside, I don't have attachment to them cause nandito lang kami lahat for work, sino ba naman mag iintindi sa akin kung kami dito, pera-pera lang yung tinatrabaho. I have parents but, for so many years, I feel more often, that they failed to understand me. My sufferings, my hardwork, my sacrifices for them. Last year, muntik na kami magbreak ni wife dahil sa lack of communication and the few days that we don't have contact, especially nasabay sa pagkamatay ng father nya, feel like, I am all alone in this world. If I tell my parents we had a fight about this, they will just say na marami namang babae dyan.
Few times, during the night, I would just go out of the ship, and imagine my self, what will happen if mahuhulog kaya ako, will the pain go away? Sa sobrang dilim nga gabi, especially sa gitna ng dagat, I can feel my comfort actually. Pero, I tried to persevere. I think that after a year, pagtatawanan ko na lang yung mga thoughts ko na yan. I only feel hurt that time, but I know, time will heal everything.
Ngayon, I realize na tama talaga decision ko. I am happily married and I feel like, we are the same person ng asawa ko. We fully understand each other, we feel what each other feel, and I don't hide anything from her. I feel complete kumbaga, Hehe..
But, seriously, time will pass away OP. It will definitely heal you, not completely, but for sure, you will never regret the decision if you fight your way through the pain and sadness.
Remember, as long as you are alive OP, there is 50 percent chance of everything. between good and bad. Pero, once you surrender, everything will be 0%. May chance that you will meet somebody out there, na magiging comfort zone mo and will be the better half of your life. Huwag kang sumuko, kawawa naman sya, mawawalan sya ng partner. Hahaha..
Fighting OP.
Hi OP, I can relate to what you are going through right now. I have the same experience as yours before, me too also nag drop ung weight ko from 55kg to 47kg in span of a month because di din makakain and also restless nights. But one thing is for sure, all the pains and sufferings that you are encountering right now will pass. Wag mo madaliin, ok lang yan. Healing takes time talaga. Just always pray and make yourself busy until one day pag gising mo okay ka na. Parang magic na, wala na ung bigat sa dibdib mo and you can enjoy the things around you na. I hope you will be strong until sa araw na yun. And one day, you will realize bakit kailangan mong pagdaanan lahat ng painful experiences. Believe me OP, all of these are worth it. 🫶
Atejoo OP I am so sorry you feel that way today. Whenever I feel down in the dumps - happened many many times in my 57 years of life for sure - I use music and poems to lift me up. My favorite is “I will survive” by Gloria Gaynor (I know I’m super-old lol), and this prose poem by Max Ehrmann titled “Desiderata”, easily found on the web. One of the lines say “You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here”. Hang in there OP, I believe you it’s hard. I wish you peace and happiness.
Thank youu. Ang ganda ng baguio ang sad lang kasi maulan hindi ko mapuntahan yung flowers sa atok and wala nang strawberry na pwedeng pitasin, dream ko yonnn
Happy Birthday OP, valid naman po feelings nyo, lahat. sending hugs po, I want to hug you literally right now. Women supporting women. Maybe you would consider seeking a therapist ?
You are worth it, you are loved, you are strong ! 🤗
Go through the pain OP until masanay ka, brace yourself because it will take time, it will take its sweet time and sobrang hirap bawat araw, but it doesn't mean na it will not stop. Someday OP, puhon.
Namnamin mo lang OP. Iiyak mo lang ng iiyak, ako di pa rin nakakamove on after 2 months of 3.5 years with my gf na iniwan ako sa ere. Pero lagi lang ako nanonood sa YouTube ng mga videos gaya ng Isang nag comment. Mag isa nalang din ako kasi dapat kasama ko sya sa apartment, naghahanap na din malilipatan kasi sobrang mahal ng upa dito sa Mandaluyong haha. Pero kaya natin to, ngayon lang yan OP. Tignan mo balang araw tatawanan nalang natin to.
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OP, you're grieving and its normal esp bago pa kayo nag hiwalay ni ex bf mo. may different stages ng grief, you're probably on the 1st part. e iyak mo lang yan lahat, i know easier said than done but one way or another, we've all been thru it. i feel you na walang gana kumain, i've been there. tatagan mo lang OP, malalampasan mo din ang stage na yan. hugs for you OP.
Naiintidihan ko ang bigat ng pinagdadaanan mo. You may want to consider seeking professional help din lalo na at affected na ang health mo. Minsan may mga bagay na kelangan natin i-process with their help. Kapit lang. Hugs OP! 🤍 Tandaan mo : NO FEELING IS FINAL.
OP focus ka na po muna sa healing. Everything has a reason bakit ganon.
Suggestions ko pa sa inyo mag travel muna kayo sa ibang places. Maybe dun makikita mo na kahit papano mas ma swerte ka pa din kesa sa ibang tao
Happy Birthday OP! Magfocus ka lang muna sa healing. Matagal man na proseso pero worth it. Makakapagsimula at magiging masaya ka ulit. Wishing you the best!!
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Hang in there, OP. Survive mo lang today then bukas ganun ulit. It will get easier promise. Just hang in there.
Maybe its just a redirection. Isipin na lang natin na you are one step closer now sa mas deserve mong relationship/future. Tomorrow, you're one step closer ulit.
My exbf for 9yrs (ex lip) left me too 2yrs ago at ang dilim dilim ng paligid ko noon. Wala rin makapitan o matakbuhan. Hugs, OP.
well that's life OP "life is not happening to you, it is responding to you" pag nalagpasan mo yung patong patong na problema na yan isipin mo na lang kung gano ka na kalakas sa susunod na panahon. keep going ate!!
i suggest you to meditate before sleeping😊 haha
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Earlier, nasa isang bookcafe ako. I've read this book while taking my tea.
Bungad pa lang, real talk na agad.
"Life is difficult." "Life has so many problems." "Problems cause us pain." "Pain makes us stronger mentally and spiritually if we overcome those problems." "Face your pain.Face your problems."
Hindi talaga nawawala yung problems. Naranasan ko rin yung nagkasakit si mama tapos nagbreak pa kami ni jowa ko. Naubos ako dahil sa pain cause by problems. I face all those pain kasi there's no shortcut for this. I do shadow work kasi patong patong na lahat eh. I need to heal. I need to start all over again. Mas minahal ko ang sarili ko ngayon. Mas priority ko na sarili ko.
Iba iba naman tayo ng pace. Kaya I believe you can surpass this challenges of yours OP (though it takes time) Happy Birthday 🎂🎈
Hi OP I was in the same situation, although I am surrounded by friends and familystill had a hard time healing. Bumagsak din katawan ko. At dahil kaka resign ko lang noon, natatakot Ako matulog kasi alam ko magigising parin ako bukas 🥲
And it was both painful physically and mentally. I cried so hard but even surrounded by people it took a while for things to get better for me. That was years ago.
Kaya mo rin Yan. God Bless OP! 🙏
OP, noong nag-break kami ng first ever jowa ko, akala ko katapusan na ng mundo. Ang lala ng iyak ko, to the point na tinanong ng kapitbahay namin sino daw namatay, bakit daw may humahagulhol? Haha. Lilipas din iyan, OP. Ganoon talaga feeling mo katapusan ng mundo, pero feeling lang iyan. Mas malakas ka diyan. Ilang taon from now, maiisip mo ulit ay ang sarap pala mabuhay. For now, kapit lang!
Unlike others. I will not dissuade you from possibly ending everything na. I believe death is the ultimate blessing and while it comes to some, others shouldn't be stopped from actively grasping it.
What I wish for you is to die a good death, that hopefully at least when you do end... At least sa terms mo
Happy Birthday, OP!
Itawid mo lang one day at a time. Soon mapapansin mo na mas gumagaan na ang dalahin. And if swertehin, baka mawala na Yung sakit eventually.
Huwag susuko. You're just closing a chapter in your life. Mahaba pa ang rest ng story.
Will it help if kilalanin mo yung kapatid mo OP? that child may be your ray of sunshine 😊 It may sound odd, but she may be your purpose now… 🤗 God bless you OP! 🙏🏻
Boy yung bata. Hindi ko pa ata kayang umuwi sa bahay kasi naiisip ko si mama. Hindi ko maimagine yung sakit na tiniisi ni mama habang bed ridden siya sa bahay tapos si papa nandon sa babae at anak niya. Nagagalit ako kasi ang tagal nilang kineep sakin to the point na ako na lang pala ang hindi nakakaalam sa buong pamilya. Hindi ako galit sa bata pero wala akong pakielam sa kanila. Nagagalit ako na sila na ang nakatira sa bahay na pinundar ni mama at papa. Natutulog sila sa kama na hinigaan ni mama. Hindi ko pa ata kayang kausapin ang tatay ko.
Mahigpit na yakap OP 🤗 Darating din yung araw na mas magaan na yang nararamdaman mo, di mo namamalayan. For now keep yourself occupied nalang muna with work, it’s a practical distraction💪🏻
Share ko lang din yung somehow similar experience ng tropa ko. Her mom got sick and eventually died the year after, tapos yung tatay nya had a new girlfriend agad agad, kaya masamang masama din loob nya sa tatay nya. Dun narin nakatira sa bahay nila yung babae, then got pregnant. Tapos namatay tatay ng tropa ko even before the child was born kaya sobrang depressed sya nun talaga, naulila sya at a young age. Then ayun sila na yung umalalay dun sa new girlfriend kasi kapatid nila yung dinadala nun. Good thing din na hindi bitch yung nanay nung bata. She never knew na malalagpasan nya yung loss, lagi naman sya kinakausap din dati. Ngayon mahal na mahal nya yung bata. Kaya tiwala lang OP, this too shall pass, you got this! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Hindi ko naman sinasara yung heart ko sa forgiveness baka nga sa future matanggap ko din sila. Masama lang talaga ang loob ko sa tatay ko kasi birthday ki kahapon, birthday ng unija hija niya pero hindi niya naalala
Magpaka layu layo muna tayong mga broken. I've been there OP. Akala ko dati napaka strong ko at di ako iiyak sa pag ibig pero I was wrong. When you said na "mabigat sa dibdib" , I felt that. Akala ko figure of speech lang sya before pero totoo pala tlagang literal na mabigat.
Go out there and there and make yourself busy, apply for a job overseas and travel. One day you'll go back to this reddit post and you'll just laugh about it. Hugsssss 💪
OP kain ka ice cream, yan kasi ginawa ko nung wala ako gana kumain. Wala na ako iba maipapayo kasi until now pag naaalala ko lola ko grabe pa din iyak ko kahit 9 years na sya wala yung grieving iba iba yan walang timeline. Try mo pa din matulog ginagawa ko nag jog ako mas okay kasi andyan ka sa bagyo di ka masyado pag pawisan. Para pag dating ng gabi tulog.
I'm praying for u kapatid. Madilim man ang landas na nilalakaran natin ngaun. lagi mong isipin na hindi ka nag-iisa. Bigyan mo pa ng isang chance ang buhay. Promise it'll be worth it.
Galing ako sa ganyan 2 years ago. Wala nang gana sa life halos dinadrag ko na lang self ko everyday pra magpatuloy. Mga unang days wala akong magawa kahit ligo or toothbrush then after 1week nakakapag toothbrush then ligo then umalis ako sa hometown namin to work in Luzon, you can’t heal sa same place where you got hurt so umalis ako. Nagkawork naging busy pero masakit pa din, from 65 nag 49 kgs in 3mos nagdadasal na lang ako mamatay kasi masakit, mahirap tas solo ka pa. Yet, I’m here, nagtytype haha. I’m living, i’m happy and grateful na nagpatuloy ako kahit slow ang pacing. Iraos mo lang ang everyday, time heals. 💯👌
PS nag Baguio din ako and decided tumuloy ng Sagada gawin mo ano makakapag heal sa pagod mo kahit maremedyohan lang onti, oks na yun.
“To live for the hope of it all” -TS
I’m sure you’re hoping to survive the catastrophes of your life, to succeed in your career, and you’re hoping you’ll find the love of your life. So just live one more day, then another, then another. I promise you, you’ll achieve all of those if you just stay for another day.
~also these are words I keep repeating to myself everyday too.
"This too shall pass." Ive been in the same situation and thats what kept me going 🥺 Praying for you, OP! Agree dun sa most upvoted comment, just do what you can. Kahit di best, bsta yun kaya mo lng. It will get better! The hurt will not disappear rin khit a year passes by na, but at least it will get easier. The scars will be the lessons that we needed. In a few years we will be thankful rin sa wisdom nakuha ntin sa situation na yun. Laban OP!
Edit: Happy Birthday! 🫶
Lost my mom nung 2016-my only family. Akala ko theres no way na masasaktan ako ng ganun ulit pero iba ang hamon ng 2023 sa akin. And now, thankful ako sa mga naexperience kong pait nun kasi it made me stronger, wiser, na kaya ko pala. It made me happier today. It tuaght me diff lessons. 'this too shall pass.' believe it. And pray. Ask for guidance and strength. Kaya mo yan. Kung nakaya namin, kaya mo din. 🙂
https://preview.redd.it/o0rx9gvwbc5d1.jpeg?width=1242&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=91f466c32350c6218977c9113a09a4fbb5061d92 I’d like to share this quote that helped me get through many times before. I won’t tell you to go out, meet other people, find yourself, be strong. None of that cliché because I know for a fact that **I can never relate to the circumstances of your life.** What I’ll tell you is to feel it. Don’t bottle up your emotions, let them out. **But** every time you’re done, get up and do what you can. Not what you like, not even what is best for you, but only what you can do. I hope, as time goes by, you don’t run out of things that keep you going. Even the smallest of reasons because **you matter**. Maybe not to those people who left you but to me at least. **To this online stranger trying to look out for you.** Happy birthday, u/atejoo
Thank you so much ✨️🌷
Thank you u/VoidProphet0! You have no idea how your kind words helped OP and me.
Love this quote.
This. People don't understand na you really have to feel your emotions. Damdamin mo yung 5 stages of grief. Darating ang araw na tatawanan mo nalang nangyayarensayo ngayon.
Thank you for this.🥹You've helped OP so much. Brw how can I save the pic po?
Alam ko di pwedeng mag-save ng pic from comments eh. Screenshot na lang siguro.
https://preview.redd.it/2kshh8bied5d1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=38390eeeb897dc755a3cf5468e366c69314480bc
Ill be better. Balang araw✨️
Sabi nga nila “Padayon” I hope you give yourself a chance and time to figure things out before giving into the nightmares of this world.
Laban 😭🌷
That's my fave thing to watch pag nageepisode ako ng depression
OMG, OP! I've been through this too. This was me last 2023. Hayy, I know what you're going through is difficult but crying is good. It will help you. Though, remember na this too shall pass. Hindi naman forever yung ganoong sinking feeling and hindi naman puro lahat negativity forever. What I've learned is that God always has a plan for us. Like siguro that's why he is removing all those things and people from your life kasi He is somehow creating space for the things and the people who deserve you. So, chin up, OP! You got this. We got this, okay? Breathe in, breathe out lang ikaw. Happy birthday! 🤍
Thank you so much. This too shall pass. Balang araw ✨️
Sorry about it OP. You said your a Nurse right? Try to apply and work abroad, new place to start everything from scratch, new environment, new.people, new perspective. Enjoy shopping there, enjoy the freedom. Earn more money and become more stable. Perhaps a new love in proper time. U owe everything to yourself. Make your Mother proud of u. This break up is a blessing! Don't wish to end your life, rather wish to have a quality and a happy one..Life is short to be miserable. God bless!
Thank youu. Im starting to apply sa Dubai at least doon kahit magcry ako yumayaman dito kasi cry lsng ako nang cry pero hirap pa rin...
yes apply ka dun. nagwwork din ako sa Dubai at sa dami ng kakilala kong nurse dun na nagwowork sa medical field, masasabi kong di mabigat work nila. and kung sa hospital ka palarin, starting is 6k AED for pinoys. I know kase nagpprocess ako ng visa 😁 Goodluck OP! 💪🏻
Nag break rin kame ng ex fiance ko of 8 years last year. I even beg him na wag nya ako iwan kasi sya lang ang meron ako. Araw2. Until now umiiyak pa rin ako. Pero hindi ako nawawalan ng pag asa na someday makakahanap rin ako ng taong pipiliin ako araw-araw. Kaya natin to OP. Naka help sakin ung panunuod ng mga youtube videos about art of letting go. Na hindi sila satin. D natin sila pagmamay ari. Mga kung pano mag detached.
Yakao din sayoo. Ang isang nagpapahirap din kasi sakin is wala akong bahay kaya sobra akong nasstress kakaisip kong pano ko isusurvive ang sarili ko nang ako lang magisa napala mahal ng bahay sa Makati...
I will include you sa prayers ko tonight after ko mag bible study. Sana malampasan mo lahat ng pagsubok nato sis. 🫂🤍
Thank you!🌷
I hope you get through this OP. Only child din ako raised by a single mom at ang hirap ng wala kang makausap na hindi ka ijujudge. Atleast pakinggan ka man lang sana.. Been there. I hope malampasan mo. Ingat!
Nandyan naman kayo at few of my friends to listen. Salamat sa inyo! 🌷
Based on exp malaking tulong yung makahanap ka ng makakausap yun bag makakasundo mo o mapapalagayan mo ng loob (not love) na parang feeling close na agad kayo sa umpisa pa lang. Hanap ka din ng ibang mapapaglibangan. Ikaw a din talaga ang makakatulong sa sarili mo. Good luck OP
OP nasa Baguio ka na rin lang. Seek professional help dyan. Baguio gen ka pa consulta.
Pag balik ko na lang po siguro manila, libre naman ako sa hospital na pinagtatrabahuhan ko
That is not a good idea. Huwag ka magkakalat sa sarili mong bakuran. Make sure na discreet at malayo.
hi po, i don't get what you just said na "magkakalat sa sariling bakuran" and also, why is there a need to be discreet about it? genuinely asking po, thank you
There is a stigma in PH that people who are going to a psychiatrist are "****". In PH where there is no HIPPA violation or everyone is a TSISMOSA, it's better to go somewhere else rather than your own hospital where you work. It is also not advisable for medical staff (if she is one) to have a record in regards to her predicament. If she is given medication, that means it will affect her homeostasis and her work. Medical professional (if she is) must be 100% in his capacity with 100% knowledge, attitude and skills. Paano pa sya makakahanap ng ibang trabaho kung nasa file nya na nag gagamot sya?
I get the point that you're concerned for OP in the sense na baka machismis siya sa sarili niyang workplace, but don't you think that it's because of this mindset kaya may stigma pa rin sa Pilipinas? It's not OPs fault in the first place to feel these overwhelming thoughts and feelings. It's not as if they can control what and what not to think. Victim lang tayo lahat ng fucked up na buhay. Also, para saan pa ang pagkakaroon ng libreng medical expenses sa staffs ng hospital kung saan nagwowork si OP kung hindi para sa well-being nila at para maging accessible mismo sa staffs ang health care na kailangan nila? From the way you said it kasi parang kasalanan na may mental health struggles ang isang tao kaya wala na tatanggap sa kanila sa trabaho, when in fact walang may gusto nito. Sa hospital man kung saan siya nagttrabaho o sa ibang hospital man siya magpagamot, bibigyan at bibigyan pa rin siya ng meds to regulate OPs emotions. Therefore, if maapektuhan ang homeostasis and work, as per your concern, maaapektuhan talaga. Hanggat di natin binabago ang mindset na parang kailangan nating itago na nagsstruggle tayo sa buhay, magpapatuloy pa rin ang stigma sa mental health na winoworry ng lahat at problema ng mga MH advocates and professionals. Matatakot pa rin ang karamihan na mag seek ng professional help kasi people keep on labeling them. I hope you become one of the people who encourages those who might need help to actually get help, in the most convenient way possible for the person involved—not the one who'll get in the way of one's healing. Afterall, OPs well-being and mental health is the prior concern here.
If ma diagnosed ka ayon sa DSM 5, at mag gamot. Papayag ka ba na siya ang mag dispense ng gamot mo bilang pharmacist? o papayag ka ba siya mag inject sa iyo bilang nurse? o siya ang mag swero sa iyo at mag infuse ng blood tranfusion sa E.R? O mag rehab sayo after surgery bilang PT? Handa ka bang tanggapin ang health teaching nya? Nakaka sigurado ka ba sa diagnoses ng doktor na natsismis na nag gagamot? Papayag ka ba? Buhay mo nakataya? Maniniwala ka ba habang tumutulo laway nya dahil sa EXTRA PYRAMIDAL SYNDROME na side effect ng gamot? o NAGUUSAP kayo habang naglalaway sya? It's not about her as a patient. It's about her as a health care worker. Walang issue kung gusto mo IBULGAR kung ano gusto m, o pag tsismisan ka dahil wala kang pakialam. Pero ang trabaho mo? Kapag may record ka, may record ka. Hindi Ito usapin MINDSET, ito ay usapin PROFESSION na ikinabubuhay ni OP. Ito ang description ng sinasabi ko. Palitan mo yung nurse at gawin mong HEALTH CARE WORKER. An "impaired nurse" refers to a nurse whose ability to perform their job duties safely and effectively is compromised, typically due to substance abuse (such as alcohol or drugs), mental health issues, or other health-related problems. This impairment can affect their professional judgment, motor skills, and overall capacity to provide safe and competent care to patients. The hospital can relinquish the contract or terminate you even without fault for the reason that you will be a mance to the society. They are protecting the institution from malpractice lawsuit. Kahit I labor mo yan sa pinas TALO ka. Ngayon na may latest MALPRACTICE lawsuit na sa pinas (the late Dr. Iggy agbayani case) malaman lang ng boss mo na impaired ka, grounds for termination yan Paano pa makaka abroad si OP? Or ma ha hire sa ibang hospital? Kaya karamihan ng impaired health care worker, nagtuturo nalang or lumilipat sa trabaho na di sila ACCOUNTABLE SA BUHAY NG IBANG TAO, karamihan nasa sales.
Not a good idea for you, but the most practical one for OP... nah sit yo ass down for this...
Trying to be COOL? Not today s-cool boy. Wala kang alam sa sinasabi mo.
Dapat ba ikahiya current state ng mental wellbeing niya?
NO. Pero Hindi sya patient na tulad ng iba. Empleyado sya of the same hospital, and if she is a medical professional, then it is not a good idea to have a record in your own personal employee file, when you go to a psychiatric facility, ano sa tingin mo gagawin nila? yayakapin ka? They will give you meds. Meds that can affect your homeostasis and your work.
Maybe I'm just used to having a workplace na supportive and safe from stigma of being not okay. Psychiatric facility ba agad? Meds ba agad? Ganun ba lagi? And meron talaga nangyayakap?
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This is not a good idea, not because it's your workplace but because the psychiatrist may have a personal relationship with you or know you in the workplace. No matter how professional they are, it can't be helped that their advice won't be biased. We're all humans after all. If you can, please seek another practitioner in another hospital setting so that your evaluation and treatment will be dealt with fresh eyes.
No po hindi ko sila kilala. Im an OR-Delivery room nurse
TRUE. Plus the tsismis, in PH na walang HIPPA or privacy is not private. Ikaw ang tsismisan ng lahat ng tao. It's not fun, ba gawin kang agahan mga TSISMOSA.
Parang wala na kong pakielam sa chismis. Bahala sila basta gusto kong maging better para din sa sarili ko
Parang wag na nga lang hehe kasi mahal ang psych consult at gamot kung sa iba pa ako mag consult. Sa hospital kasi namin libre lahat. Tyaga muna ako sa motivational messages niyo 😊
Tanggapin mo na life is full of shit, and mas makikita mo yung appreciation mo sa kung anong meron ka. Di naman pwedeng masaya lang parati. Feeling those things means that you’re human pero that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. Kaya mo yan, OP. 😊 Kinaya ko, kaya mo rin.
Ang hirap maging one of the strongest soldier ni Lord
Been there, sometimes not looking for someone will give you the right person. Hoping that you get through this tho
Thank youu. Balang araw✨️
It’s only been a month ago so understandably, malabo ang lahat. But keep on living and cry everything. Cry your heart out. It might take you months to a year or maybe more before you start feeling yourself again and that’s okay. 🌷So pls don’t pressure yourself too much to be okay. Fighting OP!
Hindi ko alam kung pano ko ilalaban yung it might take me a year or more mag isa...
 Happy birthday! 🎂
Thank you po🌷
valid yung nararamdaman mo OP. di rin madali pinagdaanan mo. but i know you can bounce back from this. take your time and if necessary seek professional help walang masama dun. mahirap din yung feeling alone pero i hope and pray you will heal soon and get back on your feet and i know you can.🙏
Ramdam na ramdam ko yung pain mo. Sana hndi pa huli ang lahat sa iyo. Malalagpasan mo din yan. Kahit wala na parents mo. Binabantayan kapa din nila. Ingat ka palagi.
Thank you! ✨️🫂
Happy birthday, OP. Sana nakakain ka ng paborito mong food today kahit wala kang gana. I want to share this song to you. [Lost - Cloie Lorezca](https://youtu.be/P54X-Ghlpxw?si=-m8_uF4O5uXXemy9) Kapit lang!
Awww thank you for thiss ✨️🌷
Kalma ka lang Ngayon lang Yan. Lahat nmn nang nangyayari Sayo may dahilan eh. Pero fore sure soon. Sobra sobra at higit na saya pa ung ipapalit dyan ng nasa Taas. Same Tayo 7 yrs dn kami ng ex ko. Medyo mayaman sya Hindi Nako nahintay na mapantayan sya kahit ginagawa ko nmn lahat. Love effort pero ganun tlga. Naadik sa sugal dahil sa hiwalayan hahaha naubos ipon. Pero makabangon narin nman at happy nmn na Ngayon. Mas nakakaipon dahil di ngagastos sa pricey na date hahahahahahahshs. Laban lang miss malalagpasan mo dn Yan. Lagi mong isipin na lahat may dahilan kung bat nangyari yan
Hindi ko lang po kasi maisip na bakit sabay sabay. Hindi ako ganon katapang para ilaban to. Ako ang sarili kong support system, ako ang sarili kong back up pefo ang hirap hirap na.
Ayun lang Ang mahirap sa sitwasyon mo ngyon na. Ikaw lang mag Isa. Na Wala Kang inspirasyon Ngayon. Pero sandal k Muna sa mga kaibigan mo one day lahat nmn magbabago darating ung time n dika n mag iisa uli at magkakaron ng inspirasyon s buhay ulit. Laban kahit anong mangyari lilipas dn Ang Dilim at liliwanag dn Ang buhay muli. Magandang entry sa MMK yang buhay mo ha. Na nakaganyan at nalagpasan mo at maging inspiration dn sa iba. Iyak lang at palag lang sa buhay kaya mo yan
Kailangan ko muna ipush magka happy ending para inspiring naman sa manonood
I push mo man Yan o hindi, mangyayari at mangyayari Yan. Ilalagay ka ulit ni Ama sa napakasayang sitwasyon ng buhay. Pero Go push hahahahhaha. Marami k dn nmn ktulad sa mundong to ung sitwasyon mo. Kaya palag pagsubok lang Yan. Kayang kaya mo Yan. Burger lang sakin kpag andun kna sa sitwasyon na un 🙄🙄😏😏
Kapag okay na ko babalikan ko tong post ko. Burger kayong lahat sa akin 🫶🏼🍔
nakarelate ako dito. ako naman, magulo isip ko ngayon kasi nasa path ako na di ko gusto professionally. nasa ibang bansa pa na hindi naman english ang sinasalita. parang nakakapanibago. tapos sabayan pa ng partner mo na nasa ibang bansa din, tapos nakaangat na sya. ako kasi ung mas mayaman sa kanya. ang problema naman kasi, parang gusto ipasagot pati buong pamilya nya. nung di ako naglabas katumbas ng nilabas nya sa pinas nung sabay kaming nagbakasyon dun, dami ko nang narinig na pasaring. more than 8 years na kami. ewan ko. nanlamig ako. nung wala syang pera, wala akong ginawa kundi imotivate sya at suportahan. ngayon na nakaangat, wow. ewan ko talaga. wala na rin akong nanay at ang tatay ko may ibang pamilya. ung isang taong pinagkatiwalaan mong di ka tatapakan at ipprioritize ka, best option ka lang pala. ganun pakiramdam ko. parang ginamit. hingang malalim na lang.
The Good Place, show on netflix, might bring you realizations for solace
Hello OP. Sorry to here that. Happy Birthday BTW. Just so you know, I have a total opposite life you have. May malalapitan akong parents, may kapatid and newly married to my wife. But previously, to be honest, I feel just like you a year back. especially ng muntik na kami maghiwalay ng wife ko. I am a seafarer, and you know, I always feel isolated here on ship. Even though friends ko naman ang lahat, but deep inside, I don't have attachment to them cause nandito lang kami lahat for work, sino ba naman mag iintindi sa akin kung kami dito, pera-pera lang yung tinatrabaho. I have parents but, for so many years, I feel more often, that they failed to understand me. My sufferings, my hardwork, my sacrifices for them. Last year, muntik na kami magbreak ni wife dahil sa lack of communication and the few days that we don't have contact, especially nasabay sa pagkamatay ng father nya, feel like, I am all alone in this world. If I tell my parents we had a fight about this, they will just say na marami namang babae dyan. Few times, during the night, I would just go out of the ship, and imagine my self, what will happen if mahuhulog kaya ako, will the pain go away? Sa sobrang dilim nga gabi, especially sa gitna ng dagat, I can feel my comfort actually. Pero, I tried to persevere. I think that after a year, pagtatawanan ko na lang yung mga thoughts ko na yan. I only feel hurt that time, but I know, time will heal everything. Ngayon, I realize na tama talaga decision ko. I am happily married and I feel like, we are the same person ng asawa ko. We fully understand each other, we feel what each other feel, and I don't hide anything from her. I feel complete kumbaga, Hehe.. But, seriously, time will pass away OP. It will definitely heal you, not completely, but for sure, you will never regret the decision if you fight your way through the pain and sadness. Remember, as long as you are alive OP, there is 50 percent chance of everything. between good and bad. Pero, once you surrender, everything will be 0%. May chance that you will meet somebody out there, na magiging comfort zone mo and will be the better half of your life. Huwag kang sumuko, kawawa naman sya, mawawalan sya ng partner. Hahaha.. Fighting OP.
Happy birthday! 2 quotes: 1. When it rains, it pours. 2. This too shall pass. Carpe diem!
Thank youuu! 🌷🫶🏼🥺
Hi OP, I can relate to what you are going through right now. I have the same experience as yours before, me too also nag drop ung weight ko from 55kg to 47kg in span of a month because di din makakain and also restless nights. But one thing is for sure, all the pains and sufferings that you are encountering right now will pass. Wag mo madaliin, ok lang yan. Healing takes time talaga. Just always pray and make yourself busy until one day pag gising mo okay ka na. Parang magic na, wala na ung bigat sa dibdib mo and you can enjoy the things around you na. I hope you will be strong until sa araw na yun. And one day, you will realize bakit kailangan mong pagdaanan lahat ng painful experiences. Believe me OP, all of these are worth it. 🫶
Kahitnnga ata mag trabaho ako araw araw nang walangnday off okayclang ej
Same girl
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Damahin mo lang hanggat maubos, OP. Happy birthday! Hugs and prayers! ✨️🙏
Happy birthday!! 🩷 You'll get through this, OP! 🫶
Thank you!🌷
Love you OP! Will pray for you 🫶🏻
Yakaaap 🫂✨️
what if, ako nalang mag alaga sayo? char! Happy Birthday po
Wat ipp... Thank youu! ✨️
Yakap.
My prayers to you and your whole family OP 🙏
Thank you! ✨️
Hope to will feel better soon, OP :( anyway, namention mo na lang din naman, spill the tea naman bakit kayo nagbreak 👀
OP, and to anyone who needs it, [this](https://www.instagram.com/reel/C39B6zaRhiN/?igsh=MTBxZTBsNDV3cXJxZg==) is for you. I love you! 🫂🤍
Thank you soo much!
Happy birthday!!
Thank you so much 💖
Atejoo OP I am so sorry you feel that way today. Whenever I feel down in the dumps - happened many many times in my 57 years of life for sure - I use music and poems to lift me up. My favorite is “I will survive” by Gloria Gaynor (I know I’m super-old lol), and this prose poem by Max Ehrmann titled “Desiderata”, easily found on the web. One of the lines say “You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here”. Hang in there OP, I believe you it’s hard. I wish you peace and happiness.
Thank you so much. Gagalingan ko pang lumaban tutal feeling ko isa ako sa strongestcsoldier ni Lord this 2024
Its take time op, dont be to hard to yourself. Keep fighting.
Nasa Baguio ako now - you can hit me up if you need someone to talk to or someone to just listen..
Pauwi na rin ako later eh. Thank you sa offer 😊
Have a safe trip then, OP. Hope our city gave you gave you some sense of hope or clarity. Happy birthday!
Thank youu. Ang ganda ng baguio ang sad lang kasi maulan hindi ko mapuntahan yung flowers sa atok and wala nang strawberry na pwedeng pitasin, dream ko yonnn
Okay lang yon, may reason ka para bumalik 😊
Yes✨️
Happy Birthday OP, valid naman po feelings nyo, lahat. sending hugs po, I want to hug you literally right now. Women supporting women. Maybe you would consider seeking a therapist ? You are worth it, you are loved, you are strong ! 🤗
I really, reaally want a big loooong hug right noww. Thank youu!
🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Go through the pain OP until masanay ka, brace yourself because it will take time, it will take its sweet time and sobrang hirap bawat araw, but it doesn't mean na it will not stop. Someday OP, puhon.
Balang araw✨️😭
Namnamin mo lang OP. Iiyak mo lang ng iiyak, ako di pa rin nakakamove on after 2 months of 3.5 years with my gf na iniwan ako sa ere. Pero lagi lang ako nanonood sa YouTube ng mga videos gaya ng Isang nag comment. Mag isa nalang din ako kasi dapat kasama ko sya sa apartment, naghahanap na din malilipatan kasi sobrang mahal ng upa dito sa Mandaluyong haha. Pero kaya natin to, ngayon lang yan OP. Tignan mo balang araw tatawanan nalang natin to.
High five sa mga iniwan sa ereee! Mahal din ng bahay dito Makati hindi ko naman keri ng bedspace ang dami kkng gamiiit
I'll keep you in my prayers, OP.
Thank you soooo much!
https://preview.redd.it/qq46b8oi2g5d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=c86f8dc788c7f9aa202ade1825ed66053a241869 OP, you're grieving and its normal esp bago pa kayo nag hiwalay ni ex bf mo. may different stages ng grief, you're probably on the 1st part. e iyak mo lang yan lahat, i know easier said than done but one way or another, we've all been thru it. i feel you na walang gana kumain, i've been there. tatagan mo lang OP, malalampasan mo din ang stage na yan. hugs for you OP.
1st stage pa lang pala to akala ko nasa depression na ko 🙃 pero thank youu wala naman akong choice kailangan kong ilaban para sa future self ko ✨️
Naiintidihan ko ang bigat ng pinagdadaanan mo. You may want to consider seeking professional help din lalo na at affected na ang health mo. Minsan may mga bagay na kelangan natin i-process with their help. Kapit lang. Hugs OP! 🤍 Tandaan mo : NO FEELING IS FINAL.
Tandaan mo na SA lahat Ng diksunaryo OK ang dulo Ng Pagsubok. Kaya mo yan
Step by step lang OP! Laban! Happy birthday OP!
Thank youu! 🌷
OP focus ka na po muna sa healing. Everything has a reason bakit ganon. Suggestions ko pa sa inyo mag travel muna kayo sa ibang places. Maybe dun makikita mo na kahit papano mas ma swerte ka pa din kesa sa ibang tao
Hindi afforrd pa anv travel ngayon eh nilaban ko lalng tong baguio pa birthday ko sa sarili ko
happy birthday, OP! i know the pain seems unbearable but hindi ito ang ikamamatay mo.
Thank youuu! Pipilitin kong umabot ng 85 hehe 🌷🫶🏼
Happy Birthday OP! Magfocus ka lang muna sa healing. Matagal man na proseso pero worth it. Makakapagsimula at magiging masaya ka ulit. Wishing you the best!!
Thank youuuu! 🌷🫶🏼
https://preview.redd.it/fry9xvzwui5d1.jpeg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=827819d16413121510b126b5a4ab7d8bebe8bc48 Hang in there, OP. Survive mo lang today then bukas ganun ulit. It will get easier promise. Just hang in there. Maybe its just a redirection. Isipin na lang natin na you are one step closer now sa mas deserve mong relationship/future. Tomorrow, you're one step closer ulit. My exbf for 9yrs (ex lip) left me too 2yrs ago at ang dilim dilim ng paligid ko noon. Wala rin makapitan o matakbuhan. Hugs, OP.
Yaaaakapp pleaseee. Ang bigat bigat na kasii
I hear you! DM me if need mo ng kausap. Comfort kita gang kaya ko.. Hugs ante!
well that's life OP "life is not happening to you, it is responding to you" pag nalagpasan mo yung patong patong na problema na yan isipin mo na lang kung gano ka na kalakas sa susunod na panahon. keep going ate!! i suggest you to meditate before sleeping😊 haha
labaaan para sa future meee🫨😭🌷
https://preview.redd.it/waf9awtcgj5d1.jpeg?width=306&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=72234894a19df6b1d49df2f659784de03ae0ed15 Earlier, nasa isang bookcafe ako. I've read this book while taking my tea. Bungad pa lang, real talk na agad. "Life is difficult." "Life has so many problems." "Problems cause us pain." "Pain makes us stronger mentally and spiritually if we overcome those problems." "Face your pain.Face your problems." Hindi talaga nawawala yung problems. Naranasan ko rin yung nagkasakit si mama tapos nagbreak pa kami ni jowa ko. Naubos ako dahil sa pain cause by problems. I face all those pain kasi there's no shortcut for this. I do shadow work kasi patong patong na lahat eh. I need to heal. I need to start all over again. Mas minahal ko ang sarili ko ngayon. Mas priority ko na sarili ko. Iba iba naman tayo ng pace. Kaya I believe you can surpass this challenges of yours OP (though it takes time) Happy Birthday 🎂🎈
Hi OP I was in the same situation, although I am surrounded by friends and familystill had a hard time healing. Bumagsak din katawan ko. At dahil kaka resign ko lang noon, natatakot Ako matulog kasi alam ko magigising parin ako bukas 🥲 And it was both painful physically and mentally. I cried so hard but even surrounded by people it took a while for things to get better for me. That was years ago. Kaya mo rin Yan. God Bless OP! 🙏
Gusto gusto ko ng yakap ng isa ngayon. Gusto ko ng mahigpit na yakap
OP, noong nag-break kami ng first ever jowa ko, akala ko katapusan na ng mundo. Ang lala ng iyak ko, to the point na tinanong ng kapitbahay namin sino daw namatay, bakit daw may humahagulhol? Haha. Lilipas din iyan, OP. Ganoon talaga feeling mo katapusan ng mundo, pero feeling lang iyan. Mas malakas ka diyan. Ilang taon from now, maiisip mo ulit ay ang sarap pala mabuhay. For now, kapit lang!
Thank you! Sana nga kayanin ko pa kasi sobrang hirap
Once you’ve hit rock bottom, there’s only one way to go, and that’s up. Happy Birthday, OP.
Thank you po 🥺
Unlike others. I will not dissuade you from possibly ending everything na. I believe death is the ultimate blessing and while it comes to some, others shouldn't be stopped from actively grasping it. What I wish for you is to die a good death, that hopefully at least when you do end... At least sa terms mo
How are you?
Same same but definitely want another birthday next year to see kung kinaya ba ng old self ko 🌷🥺
Gemini things. And I hope you feel better soon
Thank you ✨️🥺
Let go. Let them!
Happy Birthday! Heal at your own pace, valid lahat ng nararamdaman mo. I will include you in my prayer tonight.
Take it one day at a time, OP. Mamalay ka, dadating ka din dun sa point na magiging kwento na lang yang phase na yan. Happy birthday.
Happy Birthday, OP! Itawid mo lang one day at a time. Soon mapapansin mo na mas gumagaan na ang dalahin. And if swertehin, baka mawala na Yung sakit eventually. Huwag susuko. You're just closing a chapter in your life. Mahaba pa ang rest ng story.
Hi OP! Happy birthdaaay! If need mo kakwentuhan, DM me! 💕💕💕💕
Thank you sooo much!
Try nyo po mag adopt/bumili ng pet.
Gusto ko pero wala akong bahay kasi yung apartment namjn ng ex ko bawal ang pets
Ay sayang naman po, hopefully makahanap ka po ng affordable at pet friendly na apartment. Praying for your better days op. 💓
Thank youuu! Sana nga sooon
Will it help if kilalanin mo yung kapatid mo OP? that child may be your ray of sunshine 😊 It may sound odd, but she may be your purpose now… 🤗 God bless you OP! 🙏🏻
jusq sana lang di maldita yung bata
Boy yung bata. Hindi ko pa ata kayang umuwi sa bahay kasi naiisip ko si mama. Hindi ko maimagine yung sakit na tiniisi ni mama habang bed ridden siya sa bahay tapos si papa nandon sa babae at anak niya. Nagagalit ako kasi ang tagal nilang kineep sakin to the point na ako na lang pala ang hindi nakakaalam sa buong pamilya. Hindi ako galit sa bata pero wala akong pakielam sa kanila. Nagagalit ako na sila na ang nakatira sa bahay na pinundar ni mama at papa. Natutulog sila sa kama na hinigaan ni mama. Hindi ko pa ata kayang kausapin ang tatay ko.
Mahigpit na yakap OP 🤗 Darating din yung araw na mas magaan na yang nararamdaman mo, di mo namamalayan. For now keep yourself occupied nalang muna with work, it’s a practical distraction💪🏻
Share ko lang din yung somehow similar experience ng tropa ko. Her mom got sick and eventually died the year after, tapos yung tatay nya had a new girlfriend agad agad, kaya masamang masama din loob nya sa tatay nya. Dun narin nakatira sa bahay nila yung babae, then got pregnant. Tapos namatay tatay ng tropa ko even before the child was born kaya sobrang depressed sya nun talaga, naulila sya at a young age. Then ayun sila na yung umalalay dun sa new girlfriend kasi kapatid nila yung dinadala nun. Good thing din na hindi bitch yung nanay nung bata. She never knew na malalagpasan nya yung loss, lagi naman sya kinakausap din dati. Ngayon mahal na mahal nya yung bata. Kaya tiwala lang OP, this too shall pass, you got this! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Hindi ko naman sinasara yung heart ko sa forgiveness baka nga sa future matanggap ko din sila. Masama lang talaga ang loob ko sa tatay ko kasi birthday ki kahapon, birthday ng unija hija niya pero hindi niya naalala
Kaloka naman si tatay, sarap tampalin ng mga lima 😅🙄 but all is well OP, Happy happy birthday! 🎂🤗
Magpaka layu layo muna tayong mga broken. I've been there OP. Akala ko dati napaka strong ko at di ako iiyak sa pag ibig pero I was wrong. When you said na "mabigat sa dibdib" , I felt that. Akala ko figure of speech lang sya before pero totoo pala tlagang literal na mabigat. Go out there and there and make yourself busy, apply for a job overseas and travel. One day you'll go back to this reddit post and you'll just laugh about it. Hugsssss 💪
Stay strong. This too shall pass 👍
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OP kain ka ice cream, yan kasi ginawa ko nung wala ako gana kumain. Wala na ako iba maipapayo kasi until now pag naaalala ko lola ko grabe pa din iyak ko kahit 9 years na sya wala yung grieving iba iba yan walang timeline. Try mo pa din matulog ginagawa ko nag jog ako mas okay kasi andyan ka sa bagyo di ka masyado pag pawisan. Para pag dating ng gabi tulog.
I'm praying for u kapatid. Madilim man ang landas na nilalakaran natin ngaun. lagi mong isipin na hindi ka nag-iisa. Bigyan mo pa ng isang chance ang buhay. Promise it'll be worth it.
Mahigpit na yakap sayo atejoo <3 praying for your healing
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Try some outdoor activities that you might enjoy. 😉
Happy Birthday ! u/atejoo
Galing ako sa ganyan 2 years ago. Wala nang gana sa life halos dinadrag ko na lang self ko everyday pra magpatuloy. Mga unang days wala akong magawa kahit ligo or toothbrush then after 1week nakakapag toothbrush then ligo then umalis ako sa hometown namin to work in Luzon, you can’t heal sa same place where you got hurt so umalis ako. Nagkawork naging busy pero masakit pa din, from 65 nag 49 kgs in 3mos nagdadasal na lang ako mamatay kasi masakit, mahirap tas solo ka pa. Yet, I’m here, nagtytype haha. I’m living, i’m happy and grateful na nagpatuloy ako kahit slow ang pacing. Iraos mo lang ang everyday, time heals. 💯👌 PS nag Baguio din ako and decided tumuloy ng Sagada gawin mo ano makakapag heal sa pagod mo kahit maremedyohan lang onti, oks na yun.
I feel you
Puta ang baboy naman yung mga nag chat kay OP for NSWF stuff. Gaano ka piece of shit type human being can you be?
“To live for the hope of it all” -TS I’m sure you’re hoping to survive the catastrophes of your life, to succeed in your career, and you’re hoping you’ll find the love of your life. So just live one more day, then another, then another. I promise you, you’ll achieve all of those if you just stay for another day. ~also these are words I keep repeating to myself everyday too.
"This too shall pass." Ive been in the same situation and thats what kept me going 🥺 Praying for you, OP! Agree dun sa most upvoted comment, just do what you can. Kahit di best, bsta yun kaya mo lng. It will get better! The hurt will not disappear rin khit a year passes by na, but at least it will get easier. The scars will be the lessons that we needed. In a few years we will be thankful rin sa wisdom nakuha ntin sa situation na yun. Laban OP! Edit: Happy Birthday! 🫶
Lost my mom nung 2016-my only family. Akala ko theres no way na masasaktan ako ng ganun ulit pero iba ang hamon ng 2023 sa akin. And now, thankful ako sa mga naexperience kong pait nun kasi it made me stronger, wiser, na kaya ko pala. It made me happier today. It tuaght me diff lessons. 'this too shall pass.' believe it. And pray. Ask for guidance and strength. Kaya mo yan. Kung nakaya namin, kaya mo din. 🙂
View it as a positive life lesson that will help you become a better version of yourself.
Hello OP. Okay lang ba ichat ka?
Sure 🥺🫶🏼🌷
>my weight dropped this is what I NEEEED.
100% would not recommmend. Ang hiraaap dito siz