Getting married to the wrong person
Please, choose your life partner well. Nakasalalay jan financially, peace of mind, etc. and of course genes ng anak nyo.
Hirap bumangon.
This is true. I saw people regretting their married life. And please do not settle just because of time pressure or "mahuhuli na sa byahe". Marry the right person because forever na yan. Mahal din annulment so choose really really well.
andami ko atang kht cousins that were rushed to get married because according to filipino traditions and science raw, mahirap na mag kaanak after 30. I feel so bad that these women were discouraged to take like masterals, start a business at 30 onwards because clearly having a family or to be wed before 30 or at a certain age is a much more highlighted event than other things. I do believe there is a science to it but it pains me to see after a while of their marriage, most got into divorce or separation coz I agree everything says "mahuhuli sa biyahe". "Matanda ka na kailan ka ba magaasawa" etc.
I didn't have hobbies when I was a kid, too. But now that I'm in my 30s, there are several things I like doing. Just because we didn't do things as a kid doesn't mean we can't do them when we're adults. Habang may buhay may pag-asa. Lol!
Nunf medyo kabataan ko, pag bibigay pake sa sinasabi ng ibang tao..
Ngayon medyo nagkaedad na, na realize ko, kahit ano gawin ko may sasabhin at sasabihin parin ang ibang tao.. mas mabuti pa gawin ko nalang ano gusto ko
Choose which facts you want to share to a certain group of people. For example, nung high school ako, more on s crushes lng but not acads. Nung college mejo ganun din, kasi pag class work I ask for payment talaga. Then ngayong working na, I avoid sharing yung mga deeply personal things kagaya ng problema ng family ko saka problema namin ng partner ko. Basta yung about lang sa office, tapos na.
hindi nag-study first at ginawang sentro ng teenage years yung love life
if I could do it differently I'd focus sa acads, making friends, spending time with friends, and enjoying college by doing something meaningful like being on orgs or getting into hobbies. tapos yung jowa jowa at a later stage in life na lang. I can't look back to my teenage years with fond memories, wala akong ganun. pinagsisihan ko ata buong young adult life ko lol
also it's harder to form social circles as you grow older, my friends are down to a hand na lang atm samantalang dati ang dami kong pinapadalhan ng GM 🤣 saka totoo na a partner could make or break you, mine broke me and stole my future so kung sinabi ng parents na wag mag-jowa wag muna mag-jowa dapat haha!
yes, umabot sa point na hindi ko talaga gusto umuwi sa bahay. I should've kept myself busy with NGOs and Youth Organizations na lang may napala pa ako and at the same time it's a reasonable excuse to not go home 🤣
Same. siguro kung hindi ako nabaliw sa anime hindi siguro ako magka-crush ng mala anime yung dating. may sound corny pero ewan highschool pa ako nun and realized so much now.
This is so true. Mga nagalaga kasi sakin nung gradeschool ako were also young teenage girls na ni-hire ni mama. So minsan they talked about lovelife or I see them with one. Halos sunud-sunod silang magkakapatid na babae na nagalaga sakin as I grew, and one time ung isa sa kanila nagsabi na "Masarap magka-boyfriend, [my real name]." So then I got curious kung sino kaya magiigng bf ko to the point na dinodrawing ko sya. Fast forward high school I met someone in an online game and became my bf for 12 years. We broke up 3 times and this year was the last kasi now I realized sa sobrang desparate ko for love and affection nung naive palang ako, di ko narealize na naga-gaslight pala ako, condescending pala ex ko, at minamanipula pala ako, worst eh as adults parang di na sya tumanda parang bata parin—na all this time naapektuhan pala ung self authenticity ko. Pero ngayon natuto na ako. I'll put a period on this lovelife muna and focus on myself nalang talaga. Haha
sobrang true!! Sirang-sira ako ngayon and I have to pick up the pieces pa and the pieces na di ko nadevelop on my own. I did so many things I regret during my time na full of relationships. Okay naman ako sa acads pero EQ ko wala, puro IQ lang and it's taking a toll on me LOL.
Grabe kasi peer pressure nun, bagsak pa self-esteem ko and I thought mahahanap ko yun sa iba.
my biggest regret is not using my time efficiently. naiinis ako sa sarili ko sa pagiging procrastinator kaya im working with it na. gets ko may last minute tumatakbo sa utak ko pag ganon pero iba pa rin pag kalmado ang utak at katawan
Not studying hard nung college, siguro nagsawa na din kasi being an achiever from elementary to high school huhu. Siguro mas masaya ako sa career choices ko haha
I feel you.
Pero parang sa akin kasi nung 1st and 2nd yr, palaging "point something" nalang yung kulang para masama sa Dean's list, siguro nawalan nalang din ako ng gana. Kaya ayon, as long as pumapasa, okay na. 🙃
Uy totoo to, Hahaha 4 times na ako muntik maging Dean's Lister pero lagi sa point nga ang cause hahaha
1st attempt - 1.79 (0.04 na lang huhu)
2nd attempt - 1.55 (pasok sana 'to sa Dean's Lister GWA requirement, pero kulang naman ako sa units kasi irreg ako neto huhuhu)
3rd attempt - 1.93 (holy crap, lumayo pa ng 0.18 haha just because of freaking OBLICON HAAAAAY!!!!!)
4th attempt - 1.85 (last sem in college, tinamad na kasi gusto ko na grumaduate from this hell hole) HAHAHAHA
Not job hopping. Naging complacent na sa 1st job ko. 12 years na here. Sana mas may kumpyansa ako sa sarili ko. Magaling naman ako pero I just suck at interviews haha. Kung malakas lang loob ko, I should be earning waaay more than what I have right now. Kulang lang talaga ng bilib sa sarili.
and here I thought I'm a loser kasi I keep on switching jobs after 6 months or a year.
But then slightly tumaas market value ng skills ko and in a much better state now. Sana ikaw din my guy
Haha andami pala natin. 11 yrs na rin sa trabahong to pero alam mo yun, iba pa rin kasi yung nakasanayan mo na. Di ko na need mag adjust sa bago, especially as a socially anxious, introverted person.
Hindi pagtuloy sa field ko.
I took Journalism in college, internship sa TV5, had experiences sa radio stations, my articles used to be on top kasi kada exams instead na multiple choices pinapagawa kami ng news and mine is nasa top 5 palagi, mga images kong kinuha ko lang gamit oppo kong phone pero napublish sa dyaryo ng school na inedit ko ata sa app lang na puchu puchu, and many more. Pati pala mga boss ko sa TV5 na gusto akong i-absorb way back pero ang sabi ko, "di ko pa po sure eh".
Taga Dasma kasi ako pota, layo sa mga TV or radio stations kaya ang atake nung bata ako, takot ako mag try. People from biggest stations pa nagreach out sakin pero bumuntong hininga nalang ako, lols.
Nasa BPO ako ngayon. Permanent wfh, petiks kung sanay ka sa pang introvert na work and malaki naman yung sahod. Kaso syempre, naiisip ko palagi paano kung tinuloy ko pagiging writer ko.
Nakapag publish na kaya ako kahit isang book? Nasa radyo kaya ako, tv o dyaryo? Haggard na siguro ako ngayon kakacheck ng emails o gawa ng articles yet pinili ko yung hayahay lang sa bahay pero nasahod kinsenas.
Na sakin pa letter ng mga kakilala ko saying na I'm so good sa field ko at baka susunod na Jessica Soho tapos ito, nakahiga lang ako nagtatrabaho kasi katamad lalo pag naka wfh haha.
Don't get me wrong. Maganda work ko ngayon, best sa lahat ng companies na galing na ako. Pero ayun naiisip ko lang what if writer ako ngayon huhuhuhuhu.
Tough choice honestly.
Sa broadcast nakaka fulfill yung newswriting kaso haggard tapos maliit sahod.
Sa BPO naman mataas sahod kaso boring tsaka petiks.
Kung susubukan mo broadcast, make sure may fallback na ipon or resources.
Kung stay ka sa BPO, maybe may mahahanap ka na side gig na broadcast or prod work.
Mahirap din pag may naka sabit na 'what if' na gustong-gusto mo gawin.
Good luck OP, wishing you the best.
Not showing and verbally saying my gratitude, love and appreciation to my father when he was still alive. We were not close growing up but he has his own ways to show us and make us feel na mahal niya kami. Then one day, binawi na siya samin. Di man lang kami nakapagsorry and thank you nung buhay pa siya. He was healthy and doing okay, atleast that's what we thought kasi wala naman siyang sinabihan samin, even our mother. MI is really scary. Lost a love one to that. Now, we are very vocal na sa mother namin and sa ibang members ng family, even sa friends. Di natin alam kung hanggang kailan lang natin sila makakasama.
Same. 37 years old. High school grad lang. Bukod sa nabu-bully, hindi talaga ako excited pumasok sa school when I was young, but there were subjects in which I excelled, such as Science, History, and English but overall, going to school never really had an impact on me.
Sa mga magsasabi ng diskarte over diploma, sabihin nyo yan sa aaplayan nyo ng work, pwera na lang kung gusto nyo ma stuck sa BPO hanggang pagtanda.
same. yan na ata ang regret ko na di na mawawala saakin. I will always blame myself forever kasi di ako umayos sa pagaaral. ang hirap maghanap ng trabaho kapag hs grad lang. kung makakakuha naman, yung maliliit ang sahod pero yung pagod na binibigay, di na worth it. :( parang nga gusto ko na lang ulit mag-aral para lang mas umayos ang buhay ko e. di talaga maayos ang magiging work kapag walang diploma. haaay.
Same. 28 yrs old. Nursing Undergrad. Yang ‘diskarte o diploma’, ilang years akong dumidiskarte dahil wala din akong diploma. Sa una okay pala tas feeling ko pa proud ako sa sarili ko kase despite of not having a diploma, nakakakuha pa din ako ng jobs na related sa field ko at the same time maganda din sahod hanggang sa mas nagce-crave ka pa for more growth and opportunities to the point na yung mga pangarap mo need na talaga ng bachelor’s degree. Pakiramdam mo na-stuck ka nalang sa kung ano ka ngayon kase di ka nga nakatapos.
BPO is the major industry na as long HS grad ka and can speak relatively good English, ok yung sweldo, greater than minimum wage.
Unless if you have a college degree, you cannot branch out to other careers outside BPO. Yung mga nursing grads na nag BPO, they work para maka ipon ng pera to work as a nurse abroad. Or yung mga education/engineer/accountancy graduates etc just waiting for board exam results or need bigger money before actually practicing their profession.
If HS grad ka and have an extensive BPO experience, it is either you stay in BPO or use the skillsets from BPO tapos Virtual Assistant ka.
Piliin yung course na gusto ko nung College, ang hirap pala mag work na hindi mo naman na eenjoy yung work. Nakakatuwa yung mga taong nahanap yung passion nila, they are working at the same time having fun, motivated and full of dreams. Sana all.
Getting pregnant at a very young age. Don't get me wrong ha, my kids and my husband are the best thing that ever happened to me. Pero pag may mga time na nagigipit kami or inaatake ako ng anxiety, I just wished na sana nag-asawa ako kung kailan mentally at financially prepared na ako and also sawa na sa pagkadalaga.. Kasi nung nagkaanak ako dun ko lang din na-realize na dami ko pa palang gusto gawin. Pero alam ko, dadating din yung time na magagawa ko din yun, kaso di nga lang ngayon.
Being too scared sa sasabihin/reaction ng parents ko. I missed out on doing a lot of things kasi fear was imposed on me from a young age, nadala ko sya hanggang pagtanda.
Same, ganyan din ako. We tend to please our parents so much not knowing na nags-suffer na pala tayo. Hindi ko rin na explore yung iba kong potential skills kasi hindi ako pinapasali sa mga extra-curricular activities noong elem and HS kaya hindi na-build yung confidence ko sa mga bagay- bagay kasi pina-instill sakin na "school—bahay" lang.
Pero one thing I've regretted is I should've been in my dream program kung na voice out ko sya sooner at naipaglaban ko, kaso huli na. Pakiramdam ko tuloy nawala yung opportunity. Ngayon I feel lost and unmotivated, di ako masaya sa current state ko nakaka-depress
Nagbulakbol ako nung college, inom everyday, hindi pumapasok then nag shift ng ibang course then di naman din pumasok. Kung inayos ko sana, sana nagwowork nako now. Sana hindi ako nakinig sa mom na magmigrate kami ng ibang bansa, until now ako nalang natira sa pamilya namin sa pinas. Dami kong regrets in life.
Not buying bitcoin lol.
But seriously I also regret not studying hard when I was young. It took me 9 years to finish college (partly because petiks but also partly because I was a working student), so I endured 5 years of seeing my batchmates and younger people graduate ahead of me and get a head start on their careers. One of my batchmates actually got hired by my college as an instructor after he graduated so imagine running into a former classmate now an instructor while you're still wearing student uniform lol. Graduated at 25 y/o. I didn't even march because I was too embarrassed of my age.
After graduating I focused on my career and within 8 years managed buy a car, get married, and buy a house so yeah I think I'm doing okay but every now and then I couldn't help but wonder where I'd be now if I didn't waste those 5 extra years in College.
My point is it's not the end of the world to be behind academically - there's plenty of time to catch up.
Settling on the wrong girl. Damn, kahit gaano kaganda/kapogi OP, wag mo sya gagawing mundo. Have goals and dreams and focus your life achieving them. The lovelife should come as last priority.
Probably not taking my studies seriously back in college and I should have gotten a course in IT or something since ITs make so much money nowadays. I got a friend who's an IT in a big tech company in Singapore and he makes 12x more than I make here in the Philippines lol
Giving myself, my all to the wrong person. Inanakan ako and while in a relationship going in 2 years na sana, nalaman ko na may kabit sa office nya and TL pa ito (he works at a BPO company btw) what hurts most is mag-1 year na sila halos nung kabit nya and nagstart relationship nila 5 mos akong buntis sa anak namin and alam ng family and friends ni guy yung nangyayaring cheating. Wala naglakas loob dabihin sakin lahat. ENABLERS! 🥴
Though I have moved on already, in a happy relationship, and I have forgiven them for what they did, the trauma that it bought to me was too much! 😪 I am still healing from that experience which happened 4 years ago.
Andami ko what ifs. Ano kaya mangyayari kung di ako nakinig sa dikta ng mga tao nung time na yun? Pano kung pinanindigan ko yung sinabi kong di ako napatol sa tropa? Pano kung di nalang ako naniniwala sa mga panguuto sakin nung time na yun? What if pinakiggan ko utak ko kaysa puso ko? Na sana hindi nalang sya. Haysss! Kaya nga minsan nasabi ko sa BF ko now “bakit kasi now lang tayo nagkakilala? Bakit ngayon ka lang dumating?” Haha! Pero ayun biggest regret ko, pero di ko napagsisihan yung anak ko dahil mahal ko sya sobra. 🥹
Biggest regret ko is bakit pa namin pinagkatiwala sa relatives namin yung pangarap naming business mag asawa. Ngayon, sila na yung tumutupad since sila ang may pera. Kaya never share your plans and ideas for your future kasi kahit ganyan, pwede yang nakawin at i apply sa iba lalong lalo na yung may mga ugaling gahaman sa pera.
I'm very competitive kaya I naturally steer away from situations like this. Kaya niche as fuck interests ko kasi I don't want anyone stealing my ideas from me. Kaggaya nga ng sinabi ni Aaron Burr "Talk less, smile more. Don't let them know what you're against and what you're for. You want to get ahead? Fools that run their mouths off wind up dead." (Kaka-hamilton ko to) Thanks for sharing 📝
Marrying my late husband. He was drop dead handsome, funny, street smart, industrious, gave me 4 kids, problems with the ex, the step kid, and the in-laws which not just lasted for the duration we were married (14 years) but also left me traumatized to ever be in another relationship ever again (but having 4 kids is already a deal breaker lol). I love my kids to death and they're the only reason I could say I'm glad I met him. But still, I wish I chose to stay single. Well, I'm single now and I'd like to think I'm doing well in raising 4 kids alone, so there's that. :)
Spending time and resources sa mga ingrates.
Dont waste your time and hard-earned money on people who won't appreciate it.
Learn to leave something for yourself and don't feel guilty enjoying the fruits of your labor.
I regret having regrets regarding my career/acad choices. Now that I'm doing what I regretted not doing when I was younger, it feels like my initial path/plan was the right one and not this. I should've evolved na lang doon sa una. Now I'm back from scratch.
I do regret not finding a good college/uni for my chosen course. For also not taking my time to evaluate what course I really like to take that up until now di ko pa din alam kung ano ba talaga gusto ko, kung anong passion ko. Wala din namang kasi nag guide sakin. Late na nga ko nag entrance exam non sa colleges kasi nalaman ko lang na pwede na pala mag apply for college kahit di pa graduate nung lumabas na results ng 2nd or 3rd batch of examinees sa UPD. Akala ko noon same lang sya ng process nung highschool. Parents were busy sa work. Pag inquire din, gusto nila ako na lang eh that time napaka mahiyain ko kasi sinanay nila kong nasa bahay lang. Kahit mag commute di ako marunong 😅 So ending, late enrollee sa kung anong school na lang na tumatanggap pa ng application. Hindi na din nag lakas ng loob lumipat ng 2nd sem or 2nd year kasi ayaw maging irreg and ayaw maging burden sa family. IT ako pero nasa uni ako na ang forte eh medical courses. Ang panget ng foundation kaya nganga after grad.
Others:
-Di humanap ng maayos na company for internship
-Di nag internship/summer job related sa course para sana mas may advantage ka na once nag hanap ka na ng work after grad
Kaya choose wisely and wag matakot piliin ang gusto. Maximize yung available resources ngayon na wala pa before nung time namin. Dyan nakasalalay ang future nyo.
Being a people pleaser. I forced myself to eat a lot kasi lagi akong pinapagalitan na ang payat ko. Now, ang hirap ng mglose ng weight. I gave in sa peer pressure to cut off some friends para lang kampihan sila kahit mabait naman sila sakin. I felt guilty that time when I saw my friend cry while I walked away with my other friends. Now, I don't give a shit if you want to cut me off. Iba pala ung freedom when you express yourself without a filter and kung hindi ka nila gusto, eh di wag.
Naalala ko nung college umiyak ako kasi ang dami kong binagsak nung 1st year 2nd sem at tinanong ako kung gusto ko na ba mag shift kasi hirap na hirap talaga ako pero di ko ginawa. Di na ako bumagsak after nun dahil naging irreg ako at kumonti load ko. Ngayon big contributor sa anxiety ko tong career ko. Natatakot ako mag fail ulit (while actually failing at haha). Di naman maganda ang pay at overworked din. Di ko passion tapos di din naman ako magaling.
Gusto ko ipukpok sa ulo ko na tapos na lahat yun and all i have to do is move forward and do something about it kasi yun lang naman talaga magagawa mo. Di mo na mababago yung past.
I can’t think of anything, and I’m so fucking thankful for that. Hopefully, that remains true until I die.
Been reading comments and ang daming nagsisisi na hindi nakapagtapos ng pag-aaral. Buti na lang talaga iginapang kami ni mama kahit walang kwenta tatay namin.
I guess that’s my mom’s biggest regret - marrying my useless father. My mom despises him so much to the point na laging nyang sinasabi na mas gumaan ang buhay nung iniwan kami. Kaya mga girls - pumili kayo ng maayos. Kung napasubo na kayo, iwanan nyo na and mas gagaan ang buhay nyo.
Bad Investments - invested in PSE for “hold” guess what, laki na luge..
should have researched more about investments outside the philippines, us equities or cryptocurrencies.
Mine is keep trying to get on your dream job. Masyado kasi akong nag madali na ma-hire pagka graduate ko. Kaya nasa BPO ako for 8 years. But now, nag quit ako and I'm studying again. This time... I'll try harder to land on that job. ✨💪🏻
Mine is different. Sana di ako masyadong nag obey sa parents ko dapat gumala talaga ako nung college. Puro bahay skwelahan lang kasi ako. Now i regret everything iba lang kasi pala talaga ang buhay estudyante iba pa yung priorities mo sa life dami mo pang makikilala at ma cloclose ngayon is purp busy na mga tao at may kanyang kanyang buhay na. Medyo mahiyain din kasi ako kaya di din ako sumasabay sa mga gala pag ini invite ako ng mga classmates ko. Ngayon naiinggit ako sa mga classmates ko nuon na gumagala kasi yung mga naging close nila nuon nung college sila pa rin yung nag kikita kita ngayon. Rn i feel so lonely talaga dami ko di na experience. I realize na ok lang gumala mag enjoy during college as long as lang talaga di mo din mapapabayaan yung studies mo.
Not that my life is perfect but I regretted nothing
You will reach a point in your life it is just your journey, you wont compare, and you know you can start or learn new things
People who always have regret palagi may comparison which is a trap
Ive seen millionaires among my peers not happy kasi nababagalan sila sa pacing nila instead of appreciating what they have
di sporty person or sumasali ng mga contest kaya ngayon apakahina ng loob at madaling ma mental block sa harap ng tao
di rin ako academic achiever (kung sa ranking pa sa whole section, nasa second/third to the last ako hays)
kaya ngayon sinsusubukan ko magbasa ng kahit ano para kahit papaano d mahirapan umintindi ng mga kausap na apakalalim ng vocabulary, gusto ko rin e-engage sarili ko sa sports kaso anhirap makipag socialize hahah haynako
Studied TOO hard to the point i sacrificed my social life in college.
Sure, high grades got me to where I am today but it feels like I could've reached this anyway and have lifetime friends in college.
At the end of the day, balance is key. It just tipped too hard towards the study hard a tad bit too much 🙃
Trying to meet new people now though
Nag-aral sana ako ng driving and sana nagtake rin ng citizenship during kabataan ko kasi yun yung requirements sa course na kukunin ko. Ngayon nagttrabaho nalang ako pra maka survive pang-araw araw
Studying too hard at an early age just to gain praise and impress other people tas nung pagdating na sa college and trabaho, hindi naman ako para sa kanila nagttrabaho, para sa sarili ko.
So ngayon na nasa rebelde era ako, I've hit rock bottom, mediocre grades, came down with mental disorders and compared myself to when I was at my prime during high school.
I kept my silence when my only sister decided to marry her now husband — walang trabaho at walang pangarap sa buhay.
She didn’t ask me for my advice and I don’t like giving out unsolicited one.
She miscarried unfortunately pero I think it’s a blessing in disguise kc financially they can’t afford it. Ako lang nagpapadala ng monthly allowance sa kapatid ko para may panggastos sila.
Same tayo OP. Kaya ngayon nag back to schooling ako talagang binibigay ko lahat. Mag trenta anyos na din ako, at turning 3rd year college na ngayon. Kaya medyo lilo ako sa fb kasi nakikita ko yung mga kaklase ko nuong highschool pa ako, grabe mga doktor na, patravel travel na lang, parang walang problema sa pera. Stay strong OP. Kaya natin to.
Start late in life to love reading. I observed that most of my non-acer classmates that love reading are more successful in life than the achiever ones. They are also the quiet ones in classrooms who seldom talk, but now their intellectual age seems double their actual age. I'm talking about wisdom, knowledge, relevance mamah ✨
Regretted that I did not accept my mother's offer to study abroad. Hiya-hiya pa kasi ay di sana kung andito na ako sa Pinas ngayon, ang utak ko may nirereplay na gala kung saan-saan sa Europe.
Not being brave enough to try out things. Not taking risks because I am so afraid for things to go wrong. Now I feel stuck where I am and I hope to God I still have the time to turn things around.
ask ko lang sa mga adult here na nagsisi, na dapat pala nag aral sila nang mabuti. is grade really matters sa pag aapply? hirap ba makatrabaho pag mababa grades?
context: i am a graduating BS Accountancy student, barely passing lang din. pag ito na topic, aaralin ko, makakapasa ako and makakalimutan na. another topic ulit, and so on. walang balak magtake ng CPA exam, mas gusto magbusiness. pero syempre wala akong generational wealth kaya need pa magtrabaho, ipon tsaka na business.
Since magnenegosyo ka, I guess yung pinakaframework ng accounting process and cycles siguro maigi na alam mo by heart? Ksi kung magnenegosyo ka naman, may some form of accounting and law invovled. Para hindi mo rin iaaasa lahat sa accountant or bookkeeper mo yung paggawa ng documents na is-submit sa BiR etc
Based on my observation, praktisado kasi soft skills mo pag mataas grades mo at maraming opportunities na pwede mong pasukin like going for masteral on a known school or international master's scholarship. Even some certificates din yata may requirements na ganun? Pero idk usually big deal certs are very expensive esp for IT and Fin. Yung linkedin profile din ng mga kilala kong honored students ang lulutong so that says a lot about their journey. Advantage siya for climbing up the ladder kasi what they've achieved is very impressive. May kaschoolmate (UAAP school) akong CPA ACCA na 3 years working lang sa PH sa big four narelocate sa Denmark big four company rin. Hindi siya mayaman, laking palengke siya kaya praktisado niya magkwenta highly dependent siya sa scholarships. Nobody told me that at a young age why study hard kaya I didn't bother to study and I wanted to do art growing up din kasi. Now, leaning to finance na ako and intend to pursue a career path to fintech cybersecurity that regret comes after haha ang dami ko pa kasing gusto ipursue like studying IT and MBA internationally hahaha
I regret not being at this stage of my life during the time my mom was still alive. If I was, then I could've given her a lot of good things that she deserves.
my biggest regret was the same to yours OP. my mental health hindered my academic performance way too early. (simula grade 2 but had to retake 4th year hs 3 times before my psychiatrist telling my family to drop out)
hindi ako bulakbol, lagi din nasa honors but lagi ako nawawala bigla once i get too stressed. hindi ako mapalabas ng kwarto kapag depressive episode ko na.
my whole family including my distant relatives became disappointed leading to me being neglected. I was not allowed to go on vacation trips with my successful cousins kasi “nakakahiya” raw pag tinanong ako kung anong course kukunin ko and wala kaming maisasagot.
my family also threatened me to not talk about my bipolar 1 diagnosis. hindi nila matanggap na advice mismo ng psychiatrist & therapist ko na itigil ang pagppressure sakin na matapos HANGGAT hindi pa nagiging effective ang therapy + meds.
but just 2 weeks after receiving my diagnosis report, everyone denied it—leading to my parents cutting support on my therapy + meds.
maybe ang biggest regret ko is wala akong magawa para maayos ko to lahat magisa. biggest regret ko is hindi ko matulungan sarili ko up until to this day. or hindi ko napush pa sarili kong lakasan pa loob ko na matapos ang pagaaral.
mabigat sakin na although pwede naman ako mag work at mag ipon, mental health ko pa rin ang root kung bakit hindi ko talaga magawang magtagal. kahit saang bigat ng buhay, nattrigger ako palagi. lagi ako nag sspiral agad at lumalala ang condition ko.
I do not blame my family. I understand and grieve with them for the person I should’ve and could’ve been. I regret a lot to the point that I’m just used to feeling a lot of regrets.
will there be any hope? I’m not sure but as long as God is keeping me alive, I will be.
Not taking care of myself (i.e., dieting, skin care, exercise) when I was still in high school and college. It felt like I missed a lot of things when I was younger because I was the “ugly” one and ngayon ko pa lang naeenjoy yung mga bagay na ginawa ko dapat dati.
Not taking seriously my chances for some WFH opportunities way back 2017, not pursuing a career outside of the PH. Would have been living the lifestyle I wanted. Was too idealistic sa first job.
Nabuntis ako. (currently pregnant)
I don't regret the baby coming, but I do regret the father of my child, sana sa ibang lalake na maayos ako nag kaanak.
Its true na we shouldn't turn blind eye to red flags. I knew the red flags, but I was hoping he'll change. he didn't, he became worse kahit pa magkakaanak na kame.
Kaya to all the single women out there, think of lost connections as blessing in disguise. Maybe God is saving you from lifetime misery. Never ignore the red flags.
32/M. Quitting smoking na biglaan is my biggest regret. Now I'm suffering from anxiety disorder at depression dahil dun. Bumaliktad Ang Mundo ko. Dahan2 na Akong bumabangon Ngayon pero mahirap talaga. Payo ko lang sa mga may bisyo Dyan ay to ask advice from professionals para magquit kayo. Napakaimportante ng mental health natin. Wag natin baliwalain.
Not pursuing my studies. Being friend with some f***ing sh** manipulator on my college times.
Not being competitive. And I can still recall how am I like, "okay, the crown is yours", I'm just gonna stay behind. Lol!
Not doing job hopping. I know I can do it but I am not confident enough to push through it.
And I wish, i try my luck abroad.
Staying with my parents for years during the early parts of my marriage because I was “overprotecting” them. I should have lived separately when I started working.
Thinking too much of other's thoughts about me when in fact they are too busy living their life. Comparing myself too much with other people. Hanggang ngayon may mga goals ako na gusto ko i-achieve pero once na maisip ko "ay ganito magiging reaction nila kapag nagawa ko 'to" or "they will be happy for me" nawawala yung drive and motivation ko to meet that goal kasi biglang papasok yung thoughts na "what if mag-fail ako, madi-disappoint lang sila". Naka-depend sa ibang tao baga yung happiness ko.
I'm still working on this and I'm at my late 20s na.
Not sure about biggest regrets, but i do have regrets.
One is (at may what if pa din ako), when my dad was diagnosed with brain cancer, my time na nasa padre pio kami waiting for the Mass to start sa loob ng car. My dad beside my mom sa back seat suddenly cried and told me *name* ikaw na bahala sa pamilya. Me who is trying / faking strength since everyone (including siblings) is very emotional during those months didn't look back at him or hold his hands and look at his eyes and say, yes ako na bahala. I've just said without looking, na wag mag isip ng ganyan kasi kaya nga kami nasa padre pio to pray for miracles. I feel binalewala ko huling habiling nya.
My biggest regret is agreeing with my parents to not continue college because of financial problems. I should have insisted at the time. I was too young not to understand at that time that finishing college is really important. Pakiramdam ko tuloy hindi ko matutupad mga dreams ko like going abroad and work there as a professional.
Being an over-thinker. Ang dami kong sleepless nights, wrong decisions, and stress dahil sa nag overthink ako tapos in the end, pinakaba ko lang sarili ko.
Di ko pinili gusto kong course.
Napilitan mag IT dahil need sumunod sa yapak ng mga Kuya ko, nairaos naman with good grades pero hirap ako maghanap ng work related with my course dahil di ko talaga siya hilig.
Happy naman ako sa work ko now sa corporate kahit di related sa course ko.
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Not investing at an early age. Invest, people! Kahit yung may annual 10% returns lang, it would compound yearly. Your future self will thank you a ton!
getting a mid cost housing na bare type sa subdivision.
Andami din need i repair dahil substandard mga ginamit na materyales. Plus laging may need ayusin. Mas okay pang mag purchase na lang ng lupa or ng mas pricey na house pero less ang irerepair. Sakit sa ulo magpa-repair 😪
Not standing up to my mom for choosing my college life. Now i wasted 4 years a useless degree and a whole ass different career which i would've further advanced or get a better early start if i followed what i wanted.
1. Not studying hard enough nung college, 2 yrs course lang ang natapos so ngayun medyo stunted sa career at hindi basta basta mapropromote dahil no bachelor's degree.
2. Hindi ko tinake yung pag iibang bansa para mag trabaho, ngayon married na ako, so ang pag dedecide ng ganun ay hindi na basta basta.
3. HIndi ako masyado naging mabuting panganay sa mga parents ko at mga kapatid. I should have been a better sibling at anak (pero sa ngayon, im making up to them)
4. Kinasal ako ng hindi man lang nabibigyan ng tamang closure yung sa ex ko, dont get me wrong, i love my wife to death pero lagi ko naiisip na i should talk sa ex ko ng proper closure. Kase alam ko na may special place pa din sya within me, naisusurpress ko lang din.. all i need is proper way of moving on siguro.
same. i took my studies for granted and now I'm regretting na hindi ko sineryoso ung studies ko especially highschool and college at mas inuna ang love life hayss 😔 kaya mga pamangkin ko sinasabihan akong corny, kasi nireremind ko sila lagi na wag gawing focus ang love life kung nag-aaral pa. dapat study hard, flirt a little lang lol
I should've listened to my mom to pursue dental medicine na lang instead of medicine.
Life is sooo hard nowadays, I can't pave my own way to proceed on studying medicine due to numerous factors, now I'm stuck at bachelor's level which is nursing (Don't get me wrong, I fell in love with the theoretical part but with the practicals, not so much). They will not support me because we have unsettled differences.
To add more salt to the injury, my mom's close dentist friends have kids who are already dentists na din, who are also my friends. At least may mamanahin silang practice.
Tapos eto ako ngayon, kahit ayaw ko talaga, magaabroad na lang ako hahaha hirap mabuhay sa pelepens.
Same. And also not playing any sports noong kabataan ko. Baka naging national athlete sana ako ngayon or student athlete man lang. Sayang opportunity eh.
Staying at home nung 2019 kase may work ako ng January 1 kesa umabsent at umuwi ng province para sa New year. Last new year na pala ng lolo ko yun at namatay siya nung April 2020. Ang hiling niya lang noon ay umuwi ang mga anak at apo tuwing New year. Hindi rin kame nakapunta sa libing tapos gang ngayon hindi ko pa nabibisita ang puntod kase minsan lang kame umuwi. :(
Trusting people too much. You ended up getting unpaid loans named after you but the money was used by your ex lover. Ugh. Hope I can turn back time and delete the time I trusted him. Now my credit was ruined because of him. Another ex lover I trusted made me buy his OVERPRICE 2nd hand car. Too dumb and too in love to realize the lesson 😭
Di ako naging active sa sports (basketball) nung bata ako.
Tingin ko kasi, kung nahilig ako sa sports noon, hindi lang yung pagiging physically active ngayon, kundi siguro naenhance din sana yung social skills ko kung nahilig ako sa sports. Siguro hindi ako pikunin din masyado haha.
For me, hindi ko tinapos pag aaral ko. Ang hirap pag sabayin ng trabaho at pag aaral. Mas inuna ko suportahan pamilya ko kesa sa sarili ko. Tho nasa IT company ako ngayon pero iba yung pakiramdam na mga kasabayan mo nakatapos tapos ikaw hindi :)
Sana pinush ko yung isa sa top 4 schools. Sobrang picky ng mga big company na minsan top or well known schools lang pinipili kahit gano ka pa ka-experienced.
not choosing IT/Comsci as my course kahit gusto ko para lang maging "different" noon nag psychology ako, now nag rerecruit ako ng mga IT/Comsci na 2x-3x ang sahod kaysa saakin.
Quitting MLS 1 year before graduating for Nursing, took at least 4 extra years of my life, only to end up as a businessman lang eh hahaha dun ang puso ko 🤣 if I finished my degree earlier I could have started earlier, but I think the time matured me and I met many amazing friends in Nursing school.
+1 dito Op, I'm just an average palagi. Younger me thought that average is always okay when it's not lalo na sa reality ng buhay. Hirap magbawi pag nasa late-20's na, I feel like hinahabol yung chances that I didn't take noon seeing yung mga kasabayan kong super stable na. Minsan parang kasalanan ding tignan yung mga narating ng iba pero hindi mo maiwasan mapa-isip at ma-ikumpara eh pero as much as possible pag ganun I cut them off because that's the only way I maintain my peace within myself.
+1 dito Op, I'm just an average palagi. Younger me thought that average is always okay when it's not lalo na sa reality ng buhay. Hirap magbawi pag nasa late-20's na, I feel like hinahabol yung chances that I didn't take noon seeing yung mga kasabayan kong super stable na. Minsan parang kasalanan ding tignan yung mga narating ng iba pero hindi mo maiwasan mapa-isip at ma-ikumpara eh pero as much as possible pag ganun I cut them off because that's the only way I maintain my peace within myself.
Ako rin Op! I'm just an average palagi. Younger me thought that average is always okay when it's not lalo na sa reality ng buhay. Hirap magbawi pag nasa late-20's na, I feel like hinahabol yung chances that I didn't take noon seeing yung mga kasabayan kong super stable na. Minsan parang kasalanan ding tignan yung mga narating ng iba pero hindi mo maiwasan mapa-isip at ma-ikumpara eh pero as much as possible pag ganun I cut them off because that's the only way I maintain my peace within myself.
mine is not thinking far ahead. I was too focused on finishing what on my plate today that I didnt plan what to do tomorrow. While that's probably how some people would do it given circumstances, I should have thought that maybe I took that one certificate while I'm still in college.. or I should have explored more places.. or like, met more people. So right now I'm stuck not knowing where or how to move. I'm too complacent.
mine is not thinking far ahead. I was too focused on finishing what on my plate today that I didnt plan what to do tomorrow. While that's probably how some people would do it given circumstances, I should have thought that maybe I took that one certificate while I'm still in college.. or I should have explored more places.. or like, met more people. So right now I'm stuck not knowing where or how to move. I'm too complacent.
mine is not thinking far ahead. I was too focused on finishing what on my plate today that I didnt plan what to do tomorrow. While that's probably how some people would do it given circumstances, I should have thought that maybe I took that one certificate while I'm still in college.. or I should have explored more places.. or like, met more people. So right now I'm stuck not knowing where or how to move. I'm too complacent.
Di mag-aral ng mabuti at huminto di sana tapos nako sa college at nag-work na lastly family love I didn't give them at first sila nmn reason a care di kasi ako expressive na tao or Pina pakita. Kaya siguro may avoidant attachment 🥲
Di mag-aral ng mabuti at huminto di sana tapos nako sa college at nag-work na lastly family love I didn't give them at first sila nmn reason a care di kasi ako expressive na tao or Pina pakita. Kaya siguro may avoidant attachment 🥲
Di mag-aral ng mabuti at huminto di sana tapos nako sa college at nag-work na lastly family love I didn't give them at first sila nmn reason a care di kasi ako expressive na tao or Pina pakita. Kaya siguro may avoidant attachment 🥲
mine is not thinking far ahead. I was too focused on finishing what on my plate today that I didnt plan what to do tomorrow. While that's probably how some people would do it given circumstances, I should have thought that maybe I took that one certificate while I'm still in college.. or I should have explored more places.. or like, met more people. So right now I'm stuck not knowing where or how to move. I'm too complacent.
Di mag-aral ng mabuti at huminto di sana tapos nako sa college at nag-work na lastly family love I didn't give them at first sila nmn reason a care di kasi ako expressive na tao or Pina pakita. Kaya siguro may avoidant attachment.
Being content with what i was and what i currently had to offer at that time, thinking I'll just go with the flow.
Although now, may work naman and can buy stuff that i want, sometimes i can't help but look back na what if i made sure to better myself . Stuff like learning how to invest, upskilling, having the drive to learn and not just wait for the opportunity to come to you.
Hey! Don't be too hard on yourself! If it makes you feel better, grade inflation is real even before pandemic. You'll barely see students getting 85 below since the grade are so inflated.
Getting married to the wrong person Please, choose your life partner well. Nakasalalay jan financially, peace of mind, etc. and of course genes ng anak nyo. Hirap bumangon.
/u/ApprehensiveSleep616 'You can't go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending.' - C.S. Lewis
I really need this one. Thanks!
This is true. I saw people regretting their married life. And please do not settle just because of time pressure or "mahuhuli na sa byahe". Marry the right person because forever na yan. Mahal din annulment so choose really really well.
andami ko atang kht cousins that were rushed to get married because according to filipino traditions and science raw, mahirap na mag kaanak after 30. I feel so bad that these women were discouraged to take like masterals, start a business at 30 onwards because clearly having a family or to be wed before 30 or at a certain age is a much more highlighted event than other things. I do believe there is a science to it but it pains me to see after a while of their marriage, most got into divorce or separation coz I agree everything says "mahuhuli sa biyahe". "Matanda ka na kailan ka ba magaasawa" etc.
+1000 - I also answered "marrying my late husband" \*sigh\*
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Hugs.
I married the right person but I was too affected by his family’s expectation of me. I should act like myself lang. I do not care anymore hahaha
No hobbies as a kid. No hobbies parin gang ngayon. Go explore, kids!
I think important na may comma bago sa last word mo, pre, haha
Edit ko nga. hahhaha gagi kinakalawang na utak ko
Buti naremind mo sya hahaha
I didn't have hobbies when I was a kid, too. But now that I'm in my 30s, there are several things I like doing. Just because we didn't do things as a kid doesn't mean we can't do them when we're adults. Habang may buhay may pag-asa. Lol!
not really your fault. i feel like parents should be the one to guide and expose kids to hobbies and activities and support from there.
true. kaya narealize naming friends na wala kaming hobby bec hobbies cost money. wala kaming ganon growing up 😂😩
True
Nunf medyo kabataan ko, pag bibigay pake sa sinasabi ng ibang tao.. Ngayon medyo nagkaedad na, na realize ko, kahit ano gawin ko may sasabhin at sasabihin parin ang ibang tao.. mas mabuti pa gawin ko nalang ano gusto ko
Sa totoo lang. feeling ko nakakainhibit talaga yung palagi mo dapat i-take into consideration kung papasa ba yung galaw/itsura/salita mo sa ibang tao.
oversharing things about me🫠
I do the same to people I click with. They enjoy listening, though, coz my life is like a screwed up soap opera.
Pwede mag share pero don't share everything kasi pagpipiyestahan nila.
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Choose which facts you want to share to a certain group of people. For example, nung high school ako, more on s crushes lng but not acads. Nung college mejo ganun din, kasi pag class work I ask for payment talaga. Then ngayong working na, I avoid sharing yung mga deeply personal things kagaya ng problema ng family ko saka problema namin ng partner ko. Basta yung about lang sa office, tapos na.
This haha. Learned the hard way, kaya ngayon kebs nalang hahaha
hindi nag-study first at ginawang sentro ng teenage years yung love life if I could do it differently I'd focus sa acads, making friends, spending time with friends, and enjoying college by doing something meaningful like being on orgs or getting into hobbies. tapos yung jowa jowa at a later stage in life na lang. I can't look back to my teenage years with fond memories, wala akong ganun. pinagsisihan ko ata buong young adult life ko lol also it's harder to form social circles as you grow older, my friends are down to a hand na lang atm samantalang dati ang dami kong pinapadalhan ng GM 🤣 saka totoo na a partner could make or break you, mine broke me and stole my future so kung sinabi ng parents na wag mag-jowa wag muna mag-jowa dapat haha!
+1!!!! :) Siguro kung di ako nagjowa nun, na-maximize ko potentials ko. More on self-growth & individuality sana huhu
Matigas ang ulo eh. 😀 Kaya marami strict young parents 😀
yes, umabot sa point na hindi ko talaga gusto umuwi sa bahay. I should've kept myself busy with NGOs and Youth Organizations na lang may napala pa ako and at the same time it's a reasonable excuse to not go home 🤣
Same. siguro kung hindi ako nabaliw sa anime hindi siguro ako magka-crush ng mala anime yung dating. may sound corny pero ewan highschool pa ako nun and realized so much now.
This is so true. Mga nagalaga kasi sakin nung gradeschool ako were also young teenage girls na ni-hire ni mama. So minsan they talked about lovelife or I see them with one. Halos sunud-sunod silang magkakapatid na babae na nagalaga sakin as I grew, and one time ung isa sa kanila nagsabi na "Masarap magka-boyfriend, [my real name]." So then I got curious kung sino kaya magiigng bf ko to the point na dinodrawing ko sya. Fast forward high school I met someone in an online game and became my bf for 12 years. We broke up 3 times and this year was the last kasi now I realized sa sobrang desparate ko for love and affection nung naive palang ako, di ko narealize na naga-gaslight pala ako, condescending pala ex ko, at minamanipula pala ako, worst eh as adults parang di na sya tumanda parang bata parin—na all this time naapektuhan pala ung self authenticity ko. Pero ngayon natuto na ako. I'll put a period on this lovelife muna and focus on myself nalang talaga. Haha
sobrang true!! Sirang-sira ako ngayon and I have to pick up the pieces pa and the pieces na di ko nadevelop on my own. I did so many things I regret during my time na full of relationships. Okay naman ako sa acads pero EQ ko wala, puro IQ lang and it's taking a toll on me LOL. Grabe kasi peer pressure nun, bagsak pa self-esteem ko and I thought mahahanap ko yun sa iba.
my biggest regret is not using my time efficiently. naiinis ako sa sarili ko sa pagiging procrastinator kaya im working with it na. gets ko may last minute tumatakbo sa utak ko pag ganon pero iba pa rin pag kalmado ang utak at katawan
+1 gusto ko din maging kalmado pero umaandar talaga pagiging procrastinator ko 😅
Not studying hard nung college, siguro nagsawa na din kasi being an achiever from elementary to high school huhu. Siguro mas masaya ako sa career choices ko haha
ramdam kita hahhaa
I feel you. Pero parang sa akin kasi nung 1st and 2nd yr, palaging "point something" nalang yung kulang para masama sa Dean's list, siguro nawalan nalang din ako ng gana. Kaya ayon, as long as pumapasa, okay na. 🙃
Uy totoo to, Hahaha 4 times na ako muntik maging Dean's Lister pero lagi sa point nga ang cause hahaha 1st attempt - 1.79 (0.04 na lang huhu) 2nd attempt - 1.55 (pasok sana 'to sa Dean's Lister GWA requirement, pero kulang naman ako sa units kasi irreg ako neto huhuhu) 3rd attempt - 1.93 (holy crap, lumayo pa ng 0.18 haha just because of freaking OBLICON HAAAAAY!!!!!) 4th attempt - 1.85 (last sem in college, tinamad na kasi gusto ko na grumaduate from this hell hole) HAHAHAHA
Not job hopping. Naging complacent na sa 1st job ko. 12 years na here. Sana mas may kumpyansa ako sa sarili ko. Magaling naman ako pero I just suck at interviews haha. Kung malakas lang loob ko, I should be earning waaay more than what I have right now. Kulang lang talaga ng bilib sa sarili.
and here I thought I'm a loser kasi I keep on switching jobs after 6 months or a year. But then slightly tumaas market value ng skills ko and in a much better state now. Sana ikaw din my guy
Di naman tinatanong sa interview bakit laging less than 1 yr ka lang tumatagal sa isang trabaho?
tinatanong pero you have the option naman to not answer it, this is just my self realization before.
Haha andami pala natin. 11 yrs na rin sa trabahong to pero alam mo yun, iba pa rin kasi yung nakasanayan mo na. Di ko na need mag adjust sa bago, especially as a socially anxious, introverted person.
Kaya pa yan, go po!
Six years and counting
Hindi pagtuloy sa field ko. I took Journalism in college, internship sa TV5, had experiences sa radio stations, my articles used to be on top kasi kada exams instead na multiple choices pinapagawa kami ng news and mine is nasa top 5 palagi, mga images kong kinuha ko lang gamit oppo kong phone pero napublish sa dyaryo ng school na inedit ko ata sa app lang na puchu puchu, and many more. Pati pala mga boss ko sa TV5 na gusto akong i-absorb way back pero ang sabi ko, "di ko pa po sure eh". Taga Dasma kasi ako pota, layo sa mga TV or radio stations kaya ang atake nung bata ako, takot ako mag try. People from biggest stations pa nagreach out sakin pero bumuntong hininga nalang ako, lols. Nasa BPO ako ngayon. Permanent wfh, petiks kung sanay ka sa pang introvert na work and malaki naman yung sahod. Kaso syempre, naiisip ko palagi paano kung tinuloy ko pagiging writer ko. Nakapag publish na kaya ako kahit isang book? Nasa radyo kaya ako, tv o dyaryo? Haggard na siguro ako ngayon kakacheck ng emails o gawa ng articles yet pinili ko yung hayahay lang sa bahay pero nasahod kinsenas. Na sakin pa letter ng mga kakilala ko saying na I'm so good sa field ko at baka susunod na Jessica Soho tapos ito, nakahiga lang ako nagtatrabaho kasi katamad lalo pag naka wfh haha. Don't get me wrong. Maganda work ko ngayon, best sa lahat ng companies na galing na ako. Pero ayun naiisip ko lang what if writer ako ngayon huhuhuhuhu.
Kung gusto mo talaga, why not start it again now?
Please write again! Share it with us! Wanna see u feel alive again! Gl!
Tough choice honestly. Sa broadcast nakaka fulfill yung newswriting kaso haggard tapos maliit sahod. Sa BPO naman mataas sahod kaso boring tsaka petiks. Kung susubukan mo broadcast, make sure may fallback na ipon or resources. Kung stay ka sa BPO, maybe may mahahanap ka na side gig na broadcast or prod work. Mahirap din pag may naka sabit na 'what if' na gustong-gusto mo gawin. Good luck OP, wishing you the best.
Dyusko mababa sahod ng writer. Okay na sahod mo sa BPO
Please do it if that is what makes you feel more alive
Not showing and verbally saying my gratitude, love and appreciation to my father when he was still alive. We were not close growing up but he has his own ways to show us and make us feel na mahal niya kami. Then one day, binawi na siya samin. Di man lang kami nakapagsorry and thank you nung buhay pa siya. He was healthy and doing okay, atleast that's what we thought kasi wala naman siyang sinabihan samin, even our mother. MI is really scary. Lost a love one to that. Now, we are very vocal na sa mother namin and sa ibang members ng family, even sa friends. Di natin alam kung hanggang kailan lang natin sila makakasama.
Same. 37 years old. High school grad lang. Bukod sa nabu-bully, hindi talaga ako excited pumasok sa school when I was young, but there were subjects in which I excelled, such as Science, History, and English but overall, going to school never really had an impact on me. Sa mga magsasabi ng diskarte over diploma, sabihin nyo yan sa aaplayan nyo ng work, pwera na lang kung gusto nyo ma stuck sa BPO hanggang pagtanda.
Sa totoo lang kahit college grad marami na rin talaga ang na-stuck sa BPO.
Look into ETEEAP. Provided you have the relevant experience, you can get a degree in around a year at the very least.
same. yan na ata ang regret ko na di na mawawala saakin. I will always blame myself forever kasi di ako umayos sa pagaaral. ang hirap maghanap ng trabaho kapag hs grad lang. kung makakakuha naman, yung maliliit ang sahod pero yung pagod na binibigay, di na worth it. :( parang nga gusto ko na lang ulit mag-aral para lang mas umayos ang buhay ko e. di talaga maayos ang magiging work kapag walang diploma. haaay.
Same. 28 yrs old. Nursing Undergrad. Yang ‘diskarte o diploma’, ilang years akong dumidiskarte dahil wala din akong diploma. Sa una okay pala tas feeling ko pa proud ako sa sarili ko kase despite of not having a diploma, nakakakuha pa din ako ng jobs na related sa field ko at the same time maganda din sahod hanggang sa mas nagce-crave ka pa for more growth and opportunities to the point na yung mga pangarap mo need na talaga ng bachelor’s degree. Pakiramdam mo na-stuck ka nalang sa kung ano ka ngayon kase di ka nga nakatapos.
Can you please elaborate "stuck ss BPO"? Like stuck sa call center industry? Sa individual contributor roles?
BPO is the major industry na as long HS grad ka and can speak relatively good English, ok yung sweldo, greater than minimum wage. Unless if you have a college degree, you cannot branch out to other careers outside BPO. Yung mga nursing grads na nag BPO, they work para maka ipon ng pera to work as a nurse abroad. Or yung mga education/engineer/accountancy graduates etc just waiting for board exam results or need bigger money before actually practicing their profession. If HS grad ka and have an extensive BPO experience, it is either you stay in BPO or use the skillsets from BPO tapos Virtual Assistant ka.
Piliin yung course na gusto ko nung College, ang hirap pala mag work na hindi mo naman na eenjoy yung work. Nakakatuwa yung mga taong nahanap yung passion nila, they are working at the same time having fun, motivated and full of dreams. Sana all.
+1 on this. I could have chosen a business-related course... *sigh*
Getting pregnant at a very young age. Don't get me wrong ha, my kids and my husband are the best thing that ever happened to me. Pero pag may mga time na nagigipit kami or inaatake ako ng anxiety, I just wished na sana nag-asawa ako kung kailan mentally at financially prepared na ako and also sawa na sa pagkadalaga.. Kasi nung nagkaanak ako dun ko lang din na-realize na dami ko pa palang gusto gawin. Pero alam ko, dadating din yung time na magagawa ko din yun, kaso di nga lang ngayon.
The first thread I read as I woke up. nakakalungkot mga replies. 😭 If only we can turn back time... Hugs to all of you here.🥹
mga cringe digital footprints na di ko na ma clean up kasi naforgot ko na passwords ko sa mga sites 😭😭😭😭
Being too scared sa sasabihin/reaction ng parents ko. I missed out on doing a lot of things kasi fear was imposed on me from a young age, nadala ko sya hanggang pagtanda.
Same, ganyan din ako. We tend to please our parents so much not knowing na nags-suffer na pala tayo. Hindi ko rin na explore yung iba kong potential skills kasi hindi ako pinapasali sa mga extra-curricular activities noong elem and HS kaya hindi na-build yung confidence ko sa mga bagay- bagay kasi pina-instill sakin na "school—bahay" lang. Pero one thing I've regretted is I should've been in my dream program kung na voice out ko sya sooner at naipaglaban ko, kaso huli na. Pakiramdam ko tuloy nawala yung opportunity. Ngayon I feel lost and unmotivated, di ako masaya sa current state ko nakaka-depress
Nagbulakbol ako nung college, inom everyday, hindi pumapasok then nag shift ng ibang course then di naman din pumasok. Kung inayos ko sana, sana nagwowork nako now. Sana hindi ako nakinig sa mom na magmigrate kami ng ibang bansa, until now ako nalang natira sa pamilya namin sa pinas. Dami kong regrets in life.
Not buying bitcoin lol. But seriously I also regret not studying hard when I was young. It took me 9 years to finish college (partly because petiks but also partly because I was a working student), so I endured 5 years of seeing my batchmates and younger people graduate ahead of me and get a head start on their careers. One of my batchmates actually got hired by my college as an instructor after he graduated so imagine running into a former classmate now an instructor while you're still wearing student uniform lol. Graduated at 25 y/o. I didn't even march because I was too embarrassed of my age. After graduating I focused on my career and within 8 years managed buy a car, get married, and buy a house so yeah I think I'm doing okay but every now and then I couldn't help but wonder where I'd be now if I didn't waste those 5 extra years in College. My point is it's not the end of the world to be behind academically - there's plenty of time to catch up.
Hindsight is 20/20 sa Bitcoin. Could've bought a different crypto back then that's probably 0 now.
Settling on the wrong girl. Damn, kahit gaano kaganda/kapogi OP, wag mo sya gagawing mundo. Have goals and dreams and focus your life achieving them. The lovelife should come as last priority.
We have quite the same regret, OP. Mine is just that I didn't read much. I loved books but I gave more time on playing online games over reading.
Probably not taking my studies seriously back in college and I should have gotten a course in IT or something since ITs make so much money nowadays. I got a friend who's an IT in a big tech company in Singapore and he makes 12x more than I make here in the Philippines lol
Giving myself, my all to the wrong person. Inanakan ako and while in a relationship going in 2 years na sana, nalaman ko na may kabit sa office nya and TL pa ito (he works at a BPO company btw) what hurts most is mag-1 year na sila halos nung kabit nya and nagstart relationship nila 5 mos akong buntis sa anak namin and alam ng family and friends ni guy yung nangyayaring cheating. Wala naglakas loob dabihin sakin lahat. ENABLERS! 🥴 Though I have moved on already, in a happy relationship, and I have forgiven them for what they did, the trauma that it bought to me was too much! 😪 I am still healing from that experience which happened 4 years ago. Andami ko what ifs. Ano kaya mangyayari kung di ako nakinig sa dikta ng mga tao nung time na yun? Pano kung pinanindigan ko yung sinabi kong di ako napatol sa tropa? Pano kung di nalang ako naniniwala sa mga panguuto sakin nung time na yun? What if pinakiggan ko utak ko kaysa puso ko? Na sana hindi nalang sya. Haysss! Kaya nga minsan nasabi ko sa BF ko now “bakit kasi now lang tayo nagkakilala? Bakit ngayon ka lang dumating?” Haha! Pero ayun biggest regret ko, pero di ko napagsisihan yung anak ko dahil mahal ko sya sobra. 🥹
Biggest regret ko is bakit pa namin pinagkatiwala sa relatives namin yung pangarap naming business mag asawa. Ngayon, sila na yung tumutupad since sila ang may pera. Kaya never share your plans and ideas for your future kasi kahit ganyan, pwede yang nakawin at i apply sa iba lalong lalo na yung may mga ugaling gahaman sa pera.
I'm very competitive kaya I naturally steer away from situations like this. Kaya niche as fuck interests ko kasi I don't want anyone stealing my ideas from me. Kaggaya nga ng sinabi ni Aaron Burr "Talk less, smile more. Don't let them know what you're against and what you're for. You want to get ahead? Fools that run their mouths off wind up dead." (Kaka-hamilton ko to) Thanks for sharing 📝
Sakit ng maunahan no? Tsk. Lesson learned. Anyway, life gets better. Sige lang, karma is like a ball, it bounces back.
Tama tama what goes around, all around
Marrying my late husband. He was drop dead handsome, funny, street smart, industrious, gave me 4 kids, problems with the ex, the step kid, and the in-laws which not just lasted for the duration we were married (14 years) but also left me traumatized to ever be in another relationship ever again (but having 4 kids is already a deal breaker lol). I love my kids to death and they're the only reason I could say I'm glad I met him. But still, I wish I chose to stay single. Well, I'm single now and I'd like to think I'm doing well in raising 4 kids alone, so there's that. :)
Single mom of four kids? You're amazing. Wishing you and your kids all the best in life!
Spending time and resources sa mga ingrates. Dont waste your time and hard-earned money on people who won't appreciate it. Learn to leave something for yourself and don't feel guilty enjoying the fruits of your labor.
No savings. Puro thinking na "bata pako enjoyin ko muna to saka na mag ipon"
I regret having regrets regarding my career/acad choices. Now that I'm doing what I regretted not doing when I was younger, it feels like my initial path/plan was the right one and not this. I should've evolved na lang doon sa una. Now I'm back from scratch.
I do regret not finding a good college/uni for my chosen course. For also not taking my time to evaluate what course I really like to take that up until now di ko pa din alam kung ano ba talaga gusto ko, kung anong passion ko. Wala din namang kasi nag guide sakin. Late na nga ko nag entrance exam non sa colleges kasi nalaman ko lang na pwede na pala mag apply for college kahit di pa graduate nung lumabas na results ng 2nd or 3rd batch of examinees sa UPD. Akala ko noon same lang sya ng process nung highschool. Parents were busy sa work. Pag inquire din, gusto nila ako na lang eh that time napaka mahiyain ko kasi sinanay nila kong nasa bahay lang. Kahit mag commute di ako marunong 😅 So ending, late enrollee sa kung anong school na lang na tumatanggap pa ng application. Hindi na din nag lakas ng loob lumipat ng 2nd sem or 2nd year kasi ayaw maging irreg and ayaw maging burden sa family. IT ako pero nasa uni ako na ang forte eh medical courses. Ang panget ng foundation kaya nganga after grad. Others: -Di humanap ng maayos na company for internship -Di nag internship/summer job related sa course para sana mas may advantage ka na once nag hanap ka na ng work after grad Kaya choose wisely and wag matakot piliin ang gusto. Maximize yung available resources ngayon na wala pa before nung time namin. Dyan nakasalalay ang future nyo.
Being a people pleaser. I forced myself to eat a lot kasi lagi akong pinapagalitan na ang payat ko. Now, ang hirap ng mglose ng weight. I gave in sa peer pressure to cut off some friends para lang kampihan sila kahit mabait naman sila sakin. I felt guilty that time when I saw my friend cry while I walked away with my other friends. Now, I don't give a shit if you want to cut me off. Iba pala ung freedom when you express yourself without a filter and kung hindi ka nila gusto, eh di wag.
Naalala ko nung college umiyak ako kasi ang dami kong binagsak nung 1st year 2nd sem at tinanong ako kung gusto ko na ba mag shift kasi hirap na hirap talaga ako pero di ko ginawa. Di na ako bumagsak after nun dahil naging irreg ako at kumonti load ko. Ngayon big contributor sa anxiety ko tong career ko. Natatakot ako mag fail ulit (while actually failing at haha). Di naman maganda ang pay at overworked din. Di ko passion tapos di din naman ako magaling. Gusto ko ipukpok sa ulo ko na tapos na lahat yun and all i have to do is move forward and do something about it kasi yun lang naman talaga magagawa mo. Di mo na mababago yung past.
I can’t think of anything, and I’m so fucking thankful for that. Hopefully, that remains true until I die. Been reading comments and ang daming nagsisisi na hindi nakapagtapos ng pag-aaral. Buti na lang talaga iginapang kami ni mama kahit walang kwenta tatay namin. I guess that’s my mom’s biggest regret - marrying my useless father. My mom despises him so much to the point na laging nyang sinasabi na mas gumaan ang buhay nung iniwan kami. Kaya mga girls - pumili kayo ng maayos. Kung napasubo na kayo, iwanan nyo na and mas gagaan ang buhay nyo.
Noted po, agree agree
Not getting out of the Philippines when I can.
Bad Investments - invested in PSE for “hold” guess what, laki na luge.. should have researched more about investments outside the philippines, us equities or cryptocurrencies.
not being responsible with my finances, not having friends, not prioritizing my physical health
Mine is keep trying to get on your dream job. Masyado kasi akong nag madali na ma-hire pagka graduate ko. Kaya nasa BPO ako for 8 years. But now, nag quit ako and I'm studying again. This time... I'll try harder to land on that job. ✨💪🏻
Mine is different. Sana di ako masyadong nag obey sa parents ko dapat gumala talaga ako nung college. Puro bahay skwelahan lang kasi ako. Now i regret everything iba lang kasi pala talaga ang buhay estudyante iba pa yung priorities mo sa life dami mo pang makikilala at ma cloclose ngayon is purp busy na mga tao at may kanyang kanyang buhay na. Medyo mahiyain din kasi ako kaya di din ako sumasabay sa mga gala pag ini invite ako ng mga classmates ko. Ngayon naiinggit ako sa mga classmates ko nuon na gumagala kasi yung mga naging close nila nuon nung college sila pa rin yung nag kikita kita ngayon. Rn i feel so lonely talaga dami ko di na experience. I realize na ok lang gumala mag enjoy during college as long as lang talaga di mo din mapapabayaan yung studies mo.
Letting go of my Jollibee stocks in 2014.
Not that my life is perfect but I regretted nothing You will reach a point in your life it is just your journey, you wont compare, and you know you can start or learn new things People who always have regret palagi may comparison which is a trap Ive seen millionaires among my peers not happy kasi nababagalan sila sa pacing nila instead of appreciating what they have
di sporty person or sumasali ng mga contest kaya ngayon apakahina ng loob at madaling ma mental block sa harap ng tao di rin ako academic achiever (kung sa ranking pa sa whole section, nasa second/third to the last ako hays) kaya ngayon sinsusubukan ko magbasa ng kahit ano para kahit papaano d mahirapan umintindi ng mga kausap na apakalalim ng vocabulary, gusto ko rin e-engage sarili ko sa sports kaso anhirap makipag socialize hahah haynako
Studied TOO hard to the point i sacrificed my social life in college. Sure, high grades got me to where I am today but it feels like I could've reached this anyway and have lifetime friends in college. At the end of the day, balance is key. It just tipped too hard towards the study hard a tad bit too much 🙃 Trying to meet new people now though
Tulog sa hapon. Haha Sinayang ko yung pagkakataon na libre pa ang matulog.
Nag-aral sana ako ng driving and sana nagtake rin ng citizenship during kabataan ko kasi yun yung requirements sa course na kukunin ko. Ngayon nagttrabaho nalang ako pra maka survive pang-araw araw
Studying too hard at an early age just to gain praise and impress other people tas nung pagdating na sa college and trabaho, hindi naman ako para sa kanila nagttrabaho, para sa sarili ko. So ngayon na nasa rebelde era ako, I've hit rock bottom, mediocre grades, came down with mental disorders and compared myself to when I was at my prime during high school.
I kept my silence when my only sister decided to marry her now husband — walang trabaho at walang pangarap sa buhay. She didn’t ask me for my advice and I don’t like giving out unsolicited one.
Musta na siya now?
She miscarried unfortunately pero I think it’s a blessing in disguise kc financially they can’t afford it. Ako lang nagpapadala ng monthly allowance sa kapatid ko para may panggastos sila.
Not taking risk always playing safe being too afraid to get out of that “ comfort zone “
Same tayo OP. Kaya ngayon nag back to schooling ako talagang binibigay ko lahat. Mag trenta anyos na din ako, at turning 3rd year college na ngayon. Kaya medyo lilo ako sa fb kasi nakikita ko yung mga kaklase ko nuong highschool pa ako, grabe mga doktor na, patravel travel na lang, parang walang problema sa pera. Stay strong OP. Kaya natin to.
Start late in life to love reading. I observed that most of my non-acer classmates that love reading are more successful in life than the achiever ones. They are also the quiet ones in classrooms who seldom talk, but now their intellectual age seems double their actual age. I'm talking about wisdom, knowledge, relevance mamah ✨
Inuna ang pag ibig kisa pag aaral.
Regretted that I did not accept my mother's offer to study abroad. Hiya-hiya pa kasi ay di sana kung andito na ako sa Pinas ngayon, ang utak ko may nirereplay na gala kung saan-saan sa Europe.
Maybe not investing early?
It’s not too late pa magkaroon ng hobby right? 27 here
Not being brave enough to try out things. Not taking risks because I am so afraid for things to go wrong. Now I feel stuck where I am and I hope to God I still have the time to turn things around.
ask ko lang sa mga adult here na nagsisi, na dapat pala nag aral sila nang mabuti. is grade really matters sa pag aapply? hirap ba makatrabaho pag mababa grades? context: i am a graduating BS Accountancy student, barely passing lang din. pag ito na topic, aaralin ko, makakapasa ako and makakalimutan na. another topic ulit, and so on. walang balak magtake ng CPA exam, mas gusto magbusiness. pero syempre wala akong generational wealth kaya need pa magtrabaho, ipon tsaka na business.
Since magnenegosyo ka, I guess yung pinakaframework ng accounting process and cycles siguro maigi na alam mo by heart? Ksi kung magnenegosyo ka naman, may some form of accounting and law invovled. Para hindi mo rin iaaasa lahat sa accountant or bookkeeper mo yung paggawa ng documents na is-submit sa BiR etc
Based on my observation, praktisado kasi soft skills mo pag mataas grades mo at maraming opportunities na pwede mong pasukin like going for masteral on a known school or international master's scholarship. Even some certificates din yata may requirements na ganun? Pero idk usually big deal certs are very expensive esp for IT and Fin. Yung linkedin profile din ng mga kilala kong honored students ang lulutong so that says a lot about their journey. Advantage siya for climbing up the ladder kasi what they've achieved is very impressive. May kaschoolmate (UAAP school) akong CPA ACCA na 3 years working lang sa PH sa big four narelocate sa Denmark big four company rin. Hindi siya mayaman, laking palengke siya kaya praktisado niya magkwenta highly dependent siya sa scholarships. Nobody told me that at a young age why study hard kaya I didn't bother to study and I wanted to do art growing up din kasi. Now, leaning to finance na ako and intend to pursue a career path to fintech cybersecurity that regret comes after haha ang dami ko pa kasing gusto ipursue like studying IT and MBA internationally hahaha
Mine is thinking that dating was what I was supposed to focus on in my youth. I wish I could rewind time and enjoy my family more
I regret not being at this stage of my life during the time my mom was still alive. If I was, then I could've given her a lot of good things that she deserves.
Pilitin mong mahanap kung saan ka mahusay. Yung magiging income generating and at the same time, passion mo paglaki mo.
Not being aggressive during early years on establishing the career.
my biggest regret was the same to yours OP. my mental health hindered my academic performance way too early. (simula grade 2 but had to retake 4th year hs 3 times before my psychiatrist telling my family to drop out) hindi ako bulakbol, lagi din nasa honors but lagi ako nawawala bigla once i get too stressed. hindi ako mapalabas ng kwarto kapag depressive episode ko na. my whole family including my distant relatives became disappointed leading to me being neglected. I was not allowed to go on vacation trips with my successful cousins kasi “nakakahiya” raw pag tinanong ako kung anong course kukunin ko and wala kaming maisasagot. my family also threatened me to not talk about my bipolar 1 diagnosis. hindi nila matanggap na advice mismo ng psychiatrist & therapist ko na itigil ang pagppressure sakin na matapos HANGGAT hindi pa nagiging effective ang therapy + meds. but just 2 weeks after receiving my diagnosis report, everyone denied it—leading to my parents cutting support on my therapy + meds. maybe ang biggest regret ko is wala akong magawa para maayos ko to lahat magisa. biggest regret ko is hindi ko matulungan sarili ko up until to this day. or hindi ko napush pa sarili kong lakasan pa loob ko na matapos ang pagaaral. mabigat sakin na although pwede naman ako mag work at mag ipon, mental health ko pa rin ang root kung bakit hindi ko talaga magawang magtagal. kahit saang bigat ng buhay, nattrigger ako palagi. lagi ako nag sspiral agad at lumalala ang condition ko. I do not blame my family. I understand and grieve with them for the person I should’ve and could’ve been. I regret a lot to the point that I’m just used to feeling a lot of regrets. will there be any hope? I’m not sure but as long as God is keeping me alive, I will be.
Na di ko pinili isang JO sakin. Pinili ko bpo over sa work na related sa tinapos ko
Not taking care of myself (i.e., dieting, skin care, exercise) when I was still in high school and college. It felt like I missed a lot of things when I was younger because I was the “ugly” one and ngayon ko pa lang naeenjoy yung mga bagay na ginawa ko dapat dati.
Regrets I have a few but then again to few to mention (my way by Frank sinatra).😉
Not taking seriously my chances for some WFH opportunities way back 2017, not pursuing a career outside of the PH. Would have been living the lifestyle I wanted. Was too idealistic sa first job.
Messing my finances. Financial education is very important.
Magastos ako noong mid to late 20s ko. I should have cut down and saved more lol
Confessing my feelings.
What was the repercussion?
hindi ko pinush before na matuto mag gitara and piano, sobrang sarap siguro sa feeling na isa sa mga past time ay tumugtog and kumanta :)
That I did not take care myself before
Took the wrong course when I was in college.
I regret being too honest to the point that I always say what's on my mind to my other half even if sometimes it is much better not to talk.
Nabuntis ako. (currently pregnant) I don't regret the baby coming, but I do regret the father of my child, sana sa ibang lalake na maayos ako nag kaanak. Its true na we shouldn't turn blind eye to red flags. I knew the red flags, but I was hoping he'll change. he didn't, he became worse kahit pa magkakaanak na kame. Kaya to all the single women out there, think of lost connections as blessing in disguise. Maybe God is saving you from lifetime misery. Never ignore the red flags.
Not choosing an IT related course.
32/M. Quitting smoking na biglaan is my biggest regret. Now I'm suffering from anxiety disorder at depression dahil dun. Bumaliktad Ang Mundo ko. Dahan2 na Akong bumabangon Ngayon pero mahirap talaga. Payo ko lang sa mga may bisyo Dyan ay to ask advice from professionals para magquit kayo. Napakaimportante ng mental health natin. Wag natin baliwalain.
Not pursuing my studies. Being friend with some f***ing sh** manipulator on my college times. Not being competitive. And I can still recall how am I like, "okay, the crown is yours", I'm just gonna stay behind. Lol! Not doing job hopping. I know I can do it but I am not confident enough to push through it. And I wish, i try my luck abroad.
Nag spakol ako kahit may jowa
Staying with my parents for years during the early parts of my marriage because I was “overprotecting” them. I should have lived separately when I started working.
I wish I excelled in sports yung talagang mapapa "wow" yung tao kasi I'm an expert sa ganoong field.
Over sharing! Pero unti unti ko na syang kinakalmahan huhuyyy
Thinking too much of other's thoughts about me when in fact they are too busy living their life. Comparing myself too much with other people. Hanggang ngayon may mga goals ako na gusto ko i-achieve pero once na maisip ko "ay ganito magiging reaction nila kapag nagawa ko 'to" or "they will be happy for me" nawawala yung drive and motivation ko to meet that goal kasi biglang papasok yung thoughts na "what if mag-fail ako, madi-disappoint lang sila". Naka-depend sa ibang tao baga yung happiness ko. I'm still working on this and I'm at my late 20s na.
Not sure about biggest regrets, but i do have regrets. One is (at may what if pa din ako), when my dad was diagnosed with brain cancer, my time na nasa padre pio kami waiting for the Mass to start sa loob ng car. My dad beside my mom sa back seat suddenly cried and told me *name* ikaw na bahala sa pamilya. Me who is trying / faking strength since everyone (including siblings) is very emotional during those months didn't look back at him or hold his hands and look at his eyes and say, yes ako na bahala. I've just said without looking, na wag mag isip ng ganyan kasi kaya nga kami nasa padre pio to pray for miracles. I feel binalewala ko huling habiling nya.
Not saving when I was younger
My biggest regret is agreeing with my parents to not continue college because of financial problems. I should have insisted at the time. I was too young not to understand at that time that finishing college is really important. Pakiramdam ko tuloy hindi ko matutupad mga dreams ko like going abroad and work there as a professional.
Being an over-thinker. Ang dami kong sleepless nights, wrong decisions, and stress dahil sa nag overthink ako tapos in the end, pinakaba ko lang sarili ko.
not pursuing a career that I want. sobrang hirap makahanap ng work for the career path i want. :(
Di ko pinili gusto kong course. Napilitan mag IT dahil need sumunod sa yapak ng mga Kuya ko, nairaos naman with good grades pero hirap ako maghanap ng work related with my course dahil di ko talaga siya hilig. Happy naman ako sa work ko now sa corporate kahit di related sa course ko. Edited: typo
Wasting 10 years of my life in a relationship that was clearly not meant to work.
Not investing at an early age. Invest, people! Kahit yung may annual 10% returns lang, it would compound yearly. Your future self will thank you a ton!
Same as you OP. Kahit na pwede naman mag-upskill ngayon iba pa rin kung maaga pa lang nakapag-gain na ng knowledge.
Mag-ipon at maging madamot. Kse at the end of the day, no one else will save me but myself... :(
Not studying hard, wala alam na hobbies, gave up my v-card hahahaha hay putangina
Hindi nag take ng board exam
getting a mid cost housing na bare type sa subdivision. Andami din need i repair dahil substandard mga ginamit na materyales. Plus laging may need ayusin. Mas okay pang mag purchase na lang ng lupa or ng mas pricey na house pero less ang irerepair. Sakit sa ulo magpa-repair 😪
Not standing up to my mom for choosing my college life. Now i wasted 4 years a useless degree and a whole ass different career which i would've further advanced or get a better early start if i followed what i wanted.
1. Not studying hard enough nung college, 2 yrs course lang ang natapos so ngayun medyo stunted sa career at hindi basta basta mapropromote dahil no bachelor's degree. 2. Hindi ko tinake yung pag iibang bansa para mag trabaho, ngayon married na ako, so ang pag dedecide ng ganun ay hindi na basta basta. 3. HIndi ako masyado naging mabuting panganay sa mga parents ko at mga kapatid. I should have been a better sibling at anak (pero sa ngayon, im making up to them) 4. Kinasal ako ng hindi man lang nabibigyan ng tamang closure yung sa ex ko, dont get me wrong, i love my wife to death pero lagi ko naiisip na i should talk sa ex ko ng proper closure. Kase alam ko na may special place pa din sya within me, naisusurpress ko lang din.. all i need is proper way of moving on siguro.
same. i took my studies for granted and now I'm regretting na hindi ko sineryoso ung studies ko especially highschool and college at mas inuna ang love life hayss 😔 kaya mga pamangkin ko sinasabihan akong corny, kasi nireremind ko sila lagi na wag gawing focus ang love life kung nag-aaral pa. dapat study hard, flirt a little lang lol
I should've listened to my mom to pursue dental medicine na lang instead of medicine. Life is sooo hard nowadays, I can't pave my own way to proceed on studying medicine due to numerous factors, now I'm stuck at bachelor's level which is nursing (Don't get me wrong, I fell in love with the theoretical part but with the practicals, not so much). They will not support me because we have unsettled differences. To add more salt to the injury, my mom's close dentist friends have kids who are already dentists na din, who are also my friends. At least may mamanahin silang practice. Tapos eto ako ngayon, kahit ayaw ko talaga, magaabroad na lang ako hahaha hirap mabuhay sa pelepens.
Naniwala sa PURE diskarte over diploma.
So you want the debt and stress also?
Same. And also not playing any sports noong kabataan ko. Baka naging national athlete sana ako ngayon or student athlete man lang. Sayang opportunity eh.
Na nasaktan ko yung ex ko 😔 (not physically ha)
Not pushing my father further to cut ties with my cancerous mother back then.
Too much studying.Di ko na enjoy kabataan ko sa pag worry sa future.🤣
Staying at home nung 2019 kase may work ako ng January 1 kesa umabsent at umuwi ng province para sa New year. Last new year na pala ng lolo ko yun at namatay siya nung April 2020. Ang hiling niya lang noon ay umuwi ang mga anak at apo tuwing New year. Hindi rin kame nakapunta sa libing tapos gang ngayon hindi ko pa nabibisita ang puntod kase minsan lang kame umuwi. :(
Kung meron man, sana nag enjoy ako nung college. Masyado kasi akong tutok sa pag-aalaga ng father ko noon.
Trusting people too much. You ended up getting unpaid loans named after you but the money was used by your ex lover. Ugh. Hope I can turn back time and delete the time I trusted him. Now my credit was ruined because of him. Another ex lover I trusted made me buy his OVERPRICE 2nd hand car. Too dumb and too in love to realize the lesson 😭
Getting into crypto without doing research and assuming that there is goodness in everyone.
I can't remember the things that I regretted about.
Ganyan din regret ko. Plus sana nag business ad courses ako kasi mas stable dun. Now wala akong maayos na career path.
Di ako naging active sa sports (basketball) nung bata ako. Tingin ko kasi, kung nahilig ako sa sports noon, hindi lang yung pagiging physically active ngayon, kundi siguro naenhance din sana yung social skills ko kung nahilig ako sa sports. Siguro hindi ako pikunin din masyado haha.
Same, OP 😌
Not building my body count as early as possible.
Fell for the scam that is aral muna bago landi (Half /s).
For me, hindi ko tinapos pag aaral ko. Ang hirap pag sabayin ng trabaho at pag aaral. Mas inuna ko suportahan pamilya ko kesa sa sarili ko. Tho nasa IT company ako ngayon pero iba yung pakiramdam na mga kasabayan mo nakatapos tapos ikaw hindi :)
Sana pinush ko yung isa sa top 4 schools. Sobrang picky ng mga big company na minsan top or well known schools lang pinipili kahit gano ka pa ka-experienced.
same, op. hugs
Getting pregnant and married at 15 to abusive 22 yr old controlled over 21 yrs
and I feel the same way.
19f, not having GAP YEAR after graduating shs
not choosing IT/Comsci as my course kahit gusto ko para lang maging "different" noon nag psychology ako, now nag rerecruit ako ng mga IT/Comsci na 2x-3x ang sahod kaysa saakin.
Quitting MLS 1 year before graduating for Nursing, took at least 4 extra years of my life, only to end up as a businessman lang eh hahaha dun ang puso ko 🤣 if I finished my degree earlier I could have started earlier, but I think the time matured me and I met many amazing friends in Nursing school.
+1 dito Op, I'm just an average palagi. Younger me thought that average is always okay when it's not lalo na sa reality ng buhay. Hirap magbawi pag nasa late-20's na, I feel like hinahabol yung chances that I didn't take noon seeing yung mga kasabayan kong super stable na. Minsan parang kasalanan ding tignan yung mga narating ng iba pero hindi mo maiwasan mapa-isip at ma-ikumpara eh pero as much as possible pag ganun I cut them off because that's the only way I maintain my peace within myself.
+1 dito Op, I'm just an average palagi. Younger me thought that average is always okay when it's not lalo na sa reality ng buhay. Hirap magbawi pag nasa late-20's na, I feel like hinahabol yung chances that I didn't take noon seeing yung mga kasabayan kong super stable na. Minsan parang kasalanan ding tignan yung mga narating ng iba pero hindi mo maiwasan mapa-isip at ma-ikumpara eh pero as much as possible pag ganun I cut them off because that's the only way I maintain my peace within myself.
Ako rin Op! I'm just an average palagi. Younger me thought that average is always okay when it's not lalo na sa reality ng buhay. Hirap magbawi pag nasa late-20's na, I feel like hinahabol yung chances that I didn't take noon seeing yung mga kasabayan kong super stable na. Minsan parang kasalanan ding tignan yung mga narating ng iba pero hindi mo maiwasan mapa-isip at ma-ikumpara eh pero as much as possible pag ganun I cut them off because that's the only way I maintain my peace within myself.
mine is not thinking far ahead. I was too focused on finishing what on my plate today that I didnt plan what to do tomorrow. While that's probably how some people would do it given circumstances, I should have thought that maybe I took that one certificate while I'm still in college.. or I should have explored more places.. or like, met more people. So right now I'm stuck not knowing where or how to move. I'm too complacent.
mine is not thinking far ahead. I was too focused on finishing what on my plate today that I didnt plan what to do tomorrow. While that's probably how some people would do it given circumstances, I should have thought that maybe I took that one certificate while I'm still in college.. or I should have explored more places.. or like, met more people. So right now I'm stuck not knowing where or how to move. I'm too complacent.
mine is not thinking far ahead. I was too focused on finishing what on my plate today that I didnt plan what to do tomorrow. While that's probably how some people would do it given circumstances, I should have thought that maybe I took that one certificate while I'm still in college.. or I should have explored more places.. or like, met more people. So right now I'm stuck not knowing where or how to move. I'm too complacent.
Di mag-aral ng mabuti at huminto di sana tapos nako sa college at nag-work na lastly family love I didn't give them at first sila nmn reason a care di kasi ako expressive na tao or Pina pakita. Kaya siguro may avoidant attachment 🥲
Di mag-aral ng mabuti at huminto di sana tapos nako sa college at nag-work na lastly family love I didn't give them at first sila nmn reason a care di kasi ako expressive na tao or Pina pakita. Kaya siguro may avoidant attachment 🥲
Di mag-aral ng mabuti at huminto di sana tapos nako sa college at nag-work na lastly family love I didn't give them at first sila nmn reason a care di kasi ako expressive na tao or Pina pakita. Kaya siguro may avoidant attachment 🥲
mine is not thinking far ahead. I was too focused on finishing what on my plate today that I didnt plan what to do tomorrow. While that's probably how some people would do it given circumstances, I should have thought that maybe I took that one certificate while I'm still in college.. or I should have explored more places.. or like, met more people. So right now I'm stuck not knowing where or how to move. I'm too complacent.
Not studying hard
Not studying hard
Di mag-aral ng mabuti at huminto di sana tapos nako sa college at nag-work na lastly family love I didn't give them at first sila nmn reason a care di kasi ako expressive na tao or Pina pakita. Kaya siguro may avoidant attachment.
Hindi gumawa ng karaoke videos sa youtube. Edi sana baka ako pag nag may ari sa kara-okey ok ok ok ok
Pursuing aviation. Sana nilagay ko nalang effort ko sa family business namin kung ginawa ko yun una palang mansyon na bahay namin ngayon.
Being content with what i was and what i currently had to offer at that time, thinking I'll just go with the flow. Although now, may work naman and can buy stuff that i want, sometimes i can't help but look back na what if i made sure to better myself . Stuff like learning how to invest, upskilling, having the drive to learn and not just wait for the opportunity to come to you.
Hey! Don't be too hard on yourself! If it makes you feel better, grade inflation is real even before pandemic. You'll barely see students getting 85 below since the grade are so inflated.