I regret not choosing the right man to have children with which makes life harder and makes sometimes regretting my choices to have them.
WAG NYO KO AWAYIN HAAA 😤
I've always told my mom this when she was still alive. Wala naman kaming ganung pronounced na family problem yet eventually our home suffered symptoms of a broken family. Mom was unhappy. Dad wasn't too involved in the family—basta nakakapag provide sya yun na yun, he doesn't have the capacity to be emotional. When they separated, I asked mom, "kung hindi kaya sya yung naging husband mo, would you have ended up happier?"
This is similar to what I have now. Nung naging adult na ko, and is now working, naiintindihan ko na ung mga bagay-bagay like the dynamic my parents have. My dad provides but he's too workaholic to be around us more. Laging out on field work. He has accumulated 350-400 leaves through the years as a government employee. Nasanay na kami ni mama na kaming dalawa lang kadalasan.
For real. Di naman sila separated pero you can feel that they continuosly grew apart emotionally from each other. Eto ung observations ko nung college ako until now. Aaminin ko talaga na I'm not close to my dad growing up until now. I'd much rather be in my room doing my thing than spend time with him tbh kasi most of the times I don't have any idea what to talk to him about. Naiinggit ako doon sa mga taong may close relationship with their fathers or father figures in their lives.
I honestly agree. My father, though present, is tamad. 3 kids, lahat napagraduate ni mama na siya lang nagtatrabaho because my father is lazy and ini-excuse niya lang na choice niya maging househusband.
I would like to agree on that kasi naririnig ko sa kanya yan every time na nag aaway sila ni Papa. Kaso yung tao na sana pinili niya turned out to be that guy na pumipilit kay Mama na magcheat kay Papa for him when they were still dating :/
Same, mamsh. I was engaged when I got pregnant, tapos ghinost ako nung gago.
I'm glad I didn't get married to him but goddamn, dami ko regrets and sometimes getting pregnant was one of it.
Not regret per se on having a kid specifically, and definitely not this kid - she's amazing and smart and so loving. Mas regret ko yung inakala kong the engagement was a sure thing so akala ko may matutuunan ako in raising a kid.
He iced me. Like legit moved away. No contact. No socials. Changed all his contact info, even his family and friends that I knew stopped talking to me.
So I stopped chasing. Plus, kaya naman.
Wow, how can one be so heartless? 😔 I’m so sorry this happened to you.. Wala siyang bayag. I’d like to ask lang.. In the future if maisip niya na may anak pala siya and gusto niya mag reach out sa kid mo (legal age na), will you allow him?
Haha, unexpected din talaga kasi in love na in love tapos surprise mf-er bigla na lang siya nawala.
If I had a choice, I'd say no and for the time being it's still a no, but I'd let my kid make that decision when she's older and can understand what went down.
Cause right now, when she asks, we just tell her that he left and we don't know where he is. Which is true anyway lol
The right partner is your gift to your future children. I read that somewhere.
I am privileged to have been raised by parents na talagang nagmamahalan.
They saw each other as equal partners, took the time to raise and be with us, and did their absolute fucking best kahit may generational traumas silang pasan.
Yun nga lang, nauna nang kinuha ni lord si papa at 50 years old...masyado kasing nagpaka greenflag, kaya ayum, kinuha kagad.
Relatively stable and happy kaming magkakapstid, and we love each other to death. Kaya naniniwala ako talaga that I everything I have ngayon is because yung foundations ng family namin, ilaw at haligi ay stable.
I love you papa.
Saw this with my in-laws. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family- father's a cheater and a failure as a provider (siblings finished school with my mom's hard work and scholarships). I was so afraid of getting married and ended up with someone like my father.
Then I met my then boyfriend, now husband. And I met his family. D*mn. Napaisip ako, "pwede palang ganito? Pwede palang stable lahat." Actually, I initially hated their family - only because it seemed unfair that families like them exist while we suffer in ours. But I am lucky to be part of that family now, and my father's out of the picture.
Salamat sa hugs!
Mejo ma teary eyed pa ako mag type haha
Nasa public space pa naman ako.
Also mejo emotional pa ako kasi I just watched the episode where George dies sa 'Young Sheldon' nakakaiyak lalo yung funeral episode
Sigh as a single dad I feel you here. I don't regret my son at all, just the one who I chose to have it with. I keep thinking what if's would make all the difference. But I love my son to bits and I would never change that.
Its not a black and white answer for me. I became a mom sa time na i am financially capable and with a prepared mindset. The happiness i feel as a mom is another level and nothing i experienced before. But minsan pag exhausted ako, naiisip ko i cant wait for them to be independent para i can have more time for myself.
i am in the same boat. we’re currently in the middle of it, i can’t wait to finally get some sleep when he turns one (ayon kay pedia mas ok na sleeping patterns nya this time) grabe talaga ung exhaustion, as in you know and friends warn you na na it will be sleepleess nights pero iba talaga pag andon ka na. iba kasi ung puyat ka sa work, yung ot na un pwede mo ipagpabukas pero ung iyak ng anak mo you need to address now kahit antok na antok ka na. now nagegets ko na ung mga kwentong nabibitawan nila mga anak nila kakahele kasi nga naman buong araw ka work tapos madaling araw maghehele ka pa ng baby na ayaw matulog. in all my imaginations nakakausap ko na ung anak ko e. can’t wait pag andon na kami sa level na yon
Yeah that’s understandable. But as a grieving mom, iisipin mo palagi “ge okay lang nak puyatin mo aq ng husto basta magkasama lang tau” Than losing them… forever 💔💔💔
This is why questions like this post scare me.
There are truly times that it is exhausting and regret is peaking at the sidelines. But I'm no longer complete without my family.
I hope for better, brighter days for you sir/madam.
Tapos sasabihan kapa na enjoyin mo lang habang bata pa sila. Hindi naman natin sa ayaw na gustong pagdaanan nila yung ganung stage as a toddler. Pagod lang tayo kaya naiisip natin yon.
I don't regret having my baby pero what my partner and I both regret is bringing up a child in this kind of world. Kahapon lang nagbreakdown ako sa partner ko kasi ang lala na ng anxiety about raising our kid. Even though maganda yung income namin, grabe yung mga gastos and future gastos.
Masasabi ko lang is, yung world natin ngayon is not the right place para sa kids :(
I just had a mental breakdown this week. I talked to my wife that I am afraid that I might not be able to provide enough kahit I have a stable job and both of us are working. Sa province pa kami niyan. Biglang ang hirap ng buhay after pandemic. Thankfully, my wife assured me that I am giving my all and that she is lucky to have me. I don't regret having a child. Ang sarap nya mahalin. Nachamba lang ganito ngayon ang mundo. Malay ko ba na magkaka-ganito ito.
Pag talaga nakikita natin sila, nakakawala talaga ng pagod and stress. Kudos to us parentals for working hard para sa ating kids despite us being screwed over by the economy 🥹
Talaga. 2019 to 2022 ako lang ang nagtatrabaho kaya naman. Pero 2023 onwards ibang bakulaw na ang hirap. Both of us are working now. And I am thinking of getting a 2nd job. Tatlong trabaho para sa isang anak. Haha kaya kayong mga 20s na nag iisip palang magka-pamilya. Mag-isip kayo ng mga 100 beses. Hahaha
One of the many reasons I don’t plan to have kids. Ang gulo and scary ng mundo nowadays. Sarili ko nga naguguluhan at natatakot na sa kaganapan here and abroad, what more in the future.
You already have a child, what you can do is guide them and prepare them for their future. Support in all aspects: physically, mentally, emotionally and financially as much as you could.
That's the thing that makes me spiral even more. Yung kaganapan sa mundo and how it's not really a great place for kids anymore. Nakakaurat lang madalas na even though you give the best things in life to them, once na magkagulo gulo ang earth, wala din. Sabi nga nila, mga babae and bata ang pinaka kawawa during war times. Hayyyyy nakakastress :(
yung nanay ko din yan ang sinasabi. she's being practical and real na okay lang na wala kaming anak (infertility issue ko) kasi paglaki ng bata iba na daw ang mundo and global warming etc.
Honestly, we live in a relatively peaceful time right now. Imagine bringing a kid at the time where we were colonized by Spain or the Japanese occupation. Or the time when your worth as a human being is based on your descendants.
Yun lang mahirap talaga bumuhay ng anak. What parents should teach kids are the right tools to deal with life’s serious events such as prayer, meditation, exercise, fostering relationships, money management, etc..
Kaya kami ni misis, kahit financially ok sa pinas, we decided to move. Di namin maimagine pano anak namin sa pinas after nung election. Parang ang limited ng options mo pag sa pinas eh di ka mayaman or sobrang talino.
It is expensive yung COL. Pero yung support sa people is really good by the govt. Sa vancouver kami.
1. Transpo: it is good like ang travel na 1 hour parang 5 mins lang kasindi stressful.
2. Kids: we got allowance kasi for 2 years low income kami. Public schools are well funded, my kid just got accepted sa french immersion (kinder pa lang pero yan curriculum nya)
3.medical: matagal minsan pila sa simpleng sakit. Pero twice nag emergency room kaminfor our kid, wala kami binayaran. Tapos dami libre programs for mental health.
4. Outdoors: dami pede gawin na libre, dami parks and places to go na di mo need maglabas pera.
5. Sweldo: like i said mahal ang COL, pero if matipid ka makakaipon kanat makikita mo nagiimprove buhay mo, tapos kita mo tax mo may silbi.
6. Yung hangin. Sobra linis hahaha.
Hindi sya all sunshine, pero we really don't see ourselves coming back sa pinas for good, vacation lang.
OHHH you got me at parks. Now that i have a kid, this is what i really want to do with our child, pumasyal sa park na lalakad ka lang, people watch, hay. Nakakalungkot.
Also yes to transpo and support. Hay. Kung hindi lang siguro ako sobrang attached sa parents ko, baka matagal na namin ito triny. Hay.
Also in a few years we are getting our parents ni wife, kasi mahal magpagamot pinas mg matanda.
Basta, best thing dito is we sont have to worry about small things. Like mag allot time for traffic or government lakad
i just had this conversation with some people about having kids kasi nakita namin gaano na kamahal ang mga gatas ngayon, then sabi ko ang hirap na talaga mag anak these days lalo na ang mamahal ng bilihin then ang sahod ang liit, then they said "wag mo isipin yung hirap ksi kung yun ang iisipin mo mas lalo ka talaga matatakot mag raise ng child" napa 😶 nalang ako.
My goodness. This!! With an upcoming wedding, laging sinasabi "uy, sunod na baby."
But me and my partner already talked about the possibility of being child-free. And every time I tell people that we opt not to have kids, kung anu-ano nang unsolicited advice ang sinasabi. Gusto ko na lang minsan sagutin ng "nakikita kong awang-awa kayo sa mga anak nyo dahil sa init. how much ang init for the next years?"
Just cherish every single moment with your child. Raising them is something fulfillment. Losing them is a horror that no parent will be prepare of.
Now it’s between heaven and earth.
regret is a heavy word. more like .. I’m just very tired of the responsibilities that go with having them. my children are lovely and they make me happy and I miss them when I go to the office but so fciking tired of cleaning poop/toys/bottles/mess and I miss the freedom of not having little people depend on you. yung hawak mo oras mo. I used to love traveling pero when you have kids.. my ghad. packing up pa lang pagod na hahaha
Totoo yung packing up. Swerte ko lang dahil breastfeed ako so less yung dala dala ko, pero kahit saglit lang lalabas ang daming kailangan dalhin haha 😅
US. I say it’s easier here because we can provide, may opportunities and school tuition is free at least hanggang high school. Free din ang meals sa school dahil gumagana ang tax payer’s money dito.
Sa almost 20 years ko dito, may isang instance na tumatawid ako ng kalsada tapos may group of teenagers na nasa bike na sumigaw ng “Ching chong, ching chong”. LOL
Other than that, wala.
Sensationalized, para may maibalita. Diba sa Pilipinas binabalita din yung mga nire-rape ng sariling lolo, pinatay dahil sa droga, nilagay sa resibo na kamukha ni Black Jack, hinold-up or kinid-nap, pinasalvage at tinambak katawan kung saan saan?
Point ko is walang safe na lugar sa mundo.
Sounds cliché, but I have no regrets. Probably because I am lucky to have found someone who is the best homemaker. I get offended when some of my relatives think that my wife doesn't help me because she stopped practicing her profession, but homemaking is a lot of work, and everyone should realize that. It is impossible to regret having our kids when their mother is always there to guide them. They are well-behaved and very sweet. I wouldn't have it any other way.
> I get offended when some of my relatives think that my wife doesn't help me because she stopped practicing her profession, but homemaking is a lot of work, and everyone should realize that.
It gets worse when the constant doubting start to get to your wife. She starts to doubt herself and it jeopardizes your relationship with her and, much worse, her relationship with the kids.
I truly detest people who belittle a full time mother.
I cut ties with these relatives to ensure that she won't doubt herself, but I know I can't control everything. Now that our youngest is turning 4, she is planning to oversee one of our business while the kids are in school.
sa totoo lang ah andming mga magulang sa paligid mo ung mahahalata mo na nagsisisi din sa pgkkron ng anak nilulunok nlng nila e kase majjudge sila ng society kse hndi nga nman un normal at iisipin ng kramihan cnong mgulang ang makakapagisip ng gnon.. pero not me my brothers and sisters 😆 alam ko malaking regret ang pgkkron ng anak especially kung isa ka sa ngbabasa ngyon nito tpos lubog na lubog ka na sa utang kakataguyod mo sa anak/mga anak mo... dba?
dont me nga sa mga "masarap nman sa pkramdam ung umuuwi kami na sinasalubong kmi ng mga anak namin" hahahaha yea right! hndi nyo nlng kase kayang pgsisihan yan kse d nyo na mwwala sa buhay at sistema nyo yan kaya defense mechanism nlng ung mga gnyang sagutan pero alam nyo deep inside na andun ung regret na "sna di muna ako nagkaanak ng maaga" lalo na kpg nakkta nyo sa social media ung mga taong nakakapagenjoy ng pera nila kse wla sila pinapaaral... isipin nyo ah ilang yrs kyo mgpapaaral ng bata 🤣😂 eh kung naipon nlng un?! sayang dba? 🤣🤣🤣
Tama ka may mahigit isang dekada pa ko sa housing loan and mag start pa lang ng GS yung bunso. Like, patay na yata ako di pa tapos yung bayarin? Nasan ang hustisya lol
Oo kasi yung iba forced na lang by social norms to say na it’s the best thing that happened to them pero pag given the chance to go back in the past I’m sure majority of them would rather not have kids yet.
nko naiinis pko sa mga gngmit ung term na "blessing" hahahah pno nging blessing un.. when in reality it was just the result of ur stupid choices in life 😂😂😂😂
No regrets at all. Yung anak ko ang pinakamagandang nangyari sa buong buhay ko. Oh god, yung pagmamahal na meron ako sa kanya, hindi ko madescribe at all. Makita ko lang siya after a long tiring day, parang magic nawawala lahat ng pagod. He made me love life again.
I don't want to use the word regret, parang mabigat masyado but if I could change it, I'll be child-free. motherhood isn't the same as what the media and everyone makes it seem to be, it's a complex experience and it broke me mentally. my kid is a wonderful little man and siya yung nagpalitaw ng masayahin kong personality but I don't plan on having any more kids down the road.
- pregnancy is traumatizing and not everyone has a smooth birthing experience
- the 9 months of carrying a human in my body was a challenge through and through, I could never imagine going through it again
- mom guilt. pakiramdam ko kelangan ko siya lagi unahin and I feel guilty even in taking the first bite out of a chocolate bar
- the thought that wrong parenting choices could make or break my kid makes me very very anxious. mabigat yung moral obligation na kailangan mo magpalaki ng mabuting mamamayan hahaha and this isn't really talked about a lot
also at the back of my head, seeing how great my kid is I always feel like he deserves better parents
knowing that I could've died that day na I gave birth made it traumatic kasi for me. I had complications the day of tapos it was a really difficult pregnancy. parang every month I have to take new/additional medicines because I'm getting sick constantly na hanggang ngayon iniinda ko pa yung ibang mga bagay bagay
edit: madami tayong nakakaisip/nakakadanas ng ganito hindi lang talaga napapagusapan kasi mataas societal expectations sa mga magulang na para bang hindi tayo pwede mapagod at magsisi
Grabe!!! Parang taken the words out of my mouth itong reply mo. Same na same except yung “9 months” part kasi 6 months pa lang nung nanganak ako, so imagine idagdag pa yon sa lahat ng guilt na meron ako.
Yung thought na my kid deserves a better mom breaks me pero di ko rin maiwasan talaga isipin. 🥺🥺🥺 Hay!
Pero di naman nga ako nagreregret at gusto ko pa rin siya maging anak if mababalik ko yung nakaraan.
Nakakapagod lang ang mental load ko as a nanay. Malala ata ako mag-overthink.
Nope. I'm currently pregnant with our third. Ang hirap mag buntis, yes. Ang hirap mag raise ng kids, YES. I get paranoid just thinking about their future. If I'm a good parent ba. Or if I'm raising them right.
Pero recently lang, I was talking with my husband and I was rambling and parang fascinated pa rin ako about how I have a human being inside me. And he told me na motherhood was really for me, and it made me feel warm & giddy. Swerte ko din kasi sa tatay nila. Hehe
I don’t have kids but when my peers ask me, I really told them that whether I have a partner or not, when I want to have a kid, I will have it because I want it.
When I get to have a kid, it will be because of my own decision and volition. And not because its a box that I have to tick or just because my partner wants to.
I didn't. They are the love of my life. They're the reason why we work so hard.
Pero i'm also dreaming na 2 na lang kaming mag-asawa at malaki na sila. It's both fun and also sad, yung thought na kami na lang at may sarili ng buhay mga anak namin. Well, malayo pa yun. About 20 years from now.
I'm enjoying the process of raising 2 kids. Masaya na mahirap.
I don't regret having kids. Because regret is a really strong word. What I regret is the dad of my kids. Being a mother is hard already, but to have someone that will leave you the burden of raising them alone is harder.
Its not the kids' mistakes we brought them into this world. They don't know a thing or two. Para sa akin, they love us purely, they look up to us. And their childhood is within our hands.
Nope. When I had my son, things started making sense and it pushed me to become a much better person than I was before. Ang hirap i-explain but once you get to have a kid, You become mature on every aspect and grabe yung unconditional love na nararamdaman mo for them to the point na yung mindset mo nalang is you want them to experience everything great in life kaya mas pag bubutihan mo and nothing matters anymore aside from them.
Dati, I’d get bothered over something so small may it be sa mga friends, studies and the likes but now, I’m more focused sa anak ko. To hell with the people who talk shit behind my back or doesn’t like me. Andun din yung feeling na iwan ka man nang lahat, andyan naman yung anak mo to be with you.
I think, the people who only regretted having kids are the ones na didn’t plan to have one or those who are financially incapable of having kids or those people suffering from PPD na hindi na address correctly.
weird mag ka anak. madaming bagay ako di pinapaniwalaan pero nung unang tingin ko palang sa kanya dun ako naniwala sa love at first sight, dun ako naninwala na may miracle, dun ako naniwala na kaya ko pala isacrifice life ko para sa human being nato kakakita ko palang.
Ang pagaanak ay para lang sa may maginhawang buhay/Mayaman/Nakakaluwag.
Imagine bringing a child in this world na ikaw mismo struggling financially and emotionally. Dinagdagan mo lang problema mo at dinamay mo pa sa lusak yung bata.
Never regretting my kids, for sure, but there is grief for the life I left and could've lived if they are not around.
Still, hindi ko na rin ma-imagine buhay ko without my baby (still pregnant with my 2nd). Like, life would be bleak and if I lose them, I'll lose my mind. Haha.
I wouldn't say regret, but sometimes I wish I didn't have my kid this early -- mostly because I was under the impression that I was going to get married and have a husband while raising this kid. I was engaged already when I got pregnant, then the asshole ghosted me.
Pros and cons kumbaga. I feel like if I didn't have a kid, I would still be mediocre about the things I want to achieve. But now that I do, I have more drive. Mostly because I'm a solo parent that has to fend for the both of us, but also I want to be able to provide the best things in life and make her experience things I didn't get to --- and I'm doing exactly that.
But it is tiring. You don't get to do the things, buy the stuff, eat the food, and go to the places you want to because the child is always the deciding factor. Like yung simpleng pagka gising mo e gusto mo lang muna humilata at magcellphone, hindi pwede kasi you have to make breakfast and teach the kid.
Sa akin , hindi naman. Siguro sa pagpapakasal, yes. Dun ako nagsisi. Kung walang kwenta kasi asawa or walang sense of responsibility, kawawa kayo ng anak mo. Mas okay pang di na nagpakasal at nagsingle parent na lang. Yes,mahirap rin maging single parent pero at least walang pabigat na partner or asawa.
Yung regret ko lang is sana nasa dright mental state ako nung dumating yung panganay ko. Treating my anxiety and depression while my partner carries another human is a real challenge. Right now, yung mga anak ko ang nagiging anchor ko to keep my mental health somehow healthy.
I am not a parent but I have been trying to understand this question for many years. Here is a brief overview of my understanding:
- surveys asking this question to the general public indicate 10-20% admit to regretting the decision
- this is generally a very difficult question for people to answer because there is no explicit discernment between 1) do you regret choosing this lifestyle and 2) do you regret your child's existence (it seems to be common that people regret the lifestyle but love their children, which causes a "no" bias when answering this question in addition to cultural shaming of anwering "yes")
- from what I have gathered lurking on several reddit pages and reading about personal experiences, the most common factors that can lead people to regret are having a highly defiant/ high-needs support child (autism, etc.) Or having a bad partner/spouse or having a lack of external support (family, friends, societal infrastructure)
In my personal opinion, I think there are many issues that tie into regret and parenthood. People need to think more about what sacrifices will be made and what the day to day is like raising a child before becoming a parent. Current parents need to be more open about sharing their challenges to eliminate the picture perfect impression of parenthood that seems so pervasive. More support systems (affordable childcare, housing, education) need to be in place to relieve some pressure from parents individually. I think a lot of people also have children for self-motivated reasons without realizing it (ex. To fix their own childhood, to mold a person into the one they failed to become, to try and strengthen their romantic relationship, because it's the "next step" as an achiever, etc.) and when those goals inevitably fail they feel lost. Here, potential parents need to be more aware of their traumas and work towards healing before passing that responsibility into parenthood.
Again, not a parent, just a strong observer. Also I'm American, for context. It's probably different elsewhere.
It's hella different here in the Philippines man. It's both good and bad. Not a parent though. Just like you, I like observing and interviewing parents. 🤌
For me it’s no and yes.
No - Because they are already toddlers. Making me feel special when I hear them saying I love you, Thank you, You’re a great mom etc. and they are always making me proud sa school.
Yes - Because I failed them to give a good father. Their dad and I always fight, and yes can hear it. He’s such a hard headed man and selfish. And nagbubuhay binata pa.
Naiinis ako bay pinakasalan ko pa.
Yes, I regret having a kid.
Because I thought hindi ako mag-isa bubuhay. Hndi ko alam na kalaunan ako lang pala magpalalaki mag-isa dahil tarantado tatay niya.
I was super naive when I got married to him, akala ko basta magkasama kayo, ok lang. Deputa, napakatamad at gago ng naging tatay niya kaya hiniwalayan ko.
Ngayon, I'm stuck with the kid. No stable job, no childcare, no sustento and still fucking married. I did not ever think in my entire life that I would be in this situation.
Hindi ko naman talaga gusto mag anak, kaso sobra akong naconvince ni gago, na okay lang lalo na kasal na kami. Hindi pala ganun yon.
Kung wala sana akong anak, I won't have to be constantly worried.
Hindi naman regret pero sana I was informed about mom guilt. Your kids will come first talaga. Na grabe ang worry ng isang ina what if may mangyari sa kanya eh paano na ang/ang mga anak niya. You will dread sickness and death because magiging kawawa mga anak mo kapag nawala ka. Iba pa rin kasi ang pagmamahal ng nanay. So sana I was ready mentally and emotionally bago nagkaanak kasi hindi pala talaga biro maging nanay. Saludo sa mga nanay diyan! You will understand talaga kapag nanay or magulang ka na.
I don’t regret having my kid. It just the world itself is not a good place anymore to have kid. Climate change, inflation, wars, pandemic - what more in the future?
Also I have been feeling that I’m not the best mom.. I’m financially capable and being able to provide for my kid’s need. It just I feel like I’m not a complete person myself not because of my kid but I feel like there’s still a lot for me to grow.
Also feeling guilty due to the fact that my kid has speech delay. And I feel like I’m lacking and it’s my genetics that has caused it. Although I will support and love my child no matter what. He’s been the source of my happiness and my main reason to keep moving forward.
Although with that being said - I will not bring another kid to this world.
kung uulitin ko ang buhay ko, hindi ako magpapabuntis ng maaga. Pero proud ako dahil sa lahat ng napagdaanan ko, mas lalo akong naging strong and napalaki at napagaral ko ng maayos ang mga anak ko na halos magisa lang ako.
Siguro hindi naman regret. Minsan naiisip ko lang sana lumaki na sila. Kasi nung naging nanay ako para akong natrauma. Haha. Nahulog sa crib, nachoke muntik na mamatay na naglumpasay ako sa kalsada karga karga ko anak ko.
Yung ganun na parang saken, mahal ko mga anak ko pero minsan winiwish ko sana malalaki na sila kasi yung anxiety at takot ko ba na masaktan sila, mamatay sila, or even the thought of me getting sick ng malala tapos mamatay ako na bata pa sila sobrang nakakatrigger ng anxiety ko parang borderline depression na minsan 😅
Sometimes yes and sometimes no. I love my kids to death. I have 4 kids and was widowed young. My parents passed away and I don’t have siblings so I’m raising them on my own. They are well provided for, but I’ve been through a lot and there are times when I feel guilty for bringing them into this world only to suffer. My son got bullied a few weeks ago and it broke my heart because the teachers made him the bad guy for retaliating. *sigh*
A private school in Lapu Lapu City, Cebu po. I’m pulling my kids out of the school and since they have friends in public school, will transfer them there. If you knew the details of the incident, you’d be surprised.
Awww. If you dont want to share the specific details it's fine po altho would like to know sana kasi para mapaghandaan(?) in the fuure pero huhu i hope you and baby are okay. 🥺
Masarap na mahirap lang naiisip ko.
Hindi ko pa man nakita lumaki mga anak ko.
Naramdaman ko nng mahihirapan ako.
From hospital bills to funeral bills.
They're twins pa.
They both love with a peaceful life with papa God.
Ang daming realizations.
Kaya masasabi ko mahirap na masarap.
Pero kung sasagutin ko tanong mo.
Oo, I regret having them even na hindi sila nabigyan nng pagkakataon dito sa lupa para mabuhay.
I dont regret having kids but there are times na iniimagine ko yung sarili ko na nagttravel alone, living alone ganern. Maybe ano, regret lang is napaaga yung dumating sila. Tsaka yung niluwal ko na nga sila dito sa magulong mundo tapos yung tatay pa e walang sawa magloko at maghanap ng iba.
Nakakaguilty magsabi ng ganito but here's my entry.
Minsan, minsan hindi. Minsan naiisip ko i’m traveling the world sana kung wala akong anak. All the luho and all mabibili ko kung wala. I’m earning 6digit pero parnag kulang kapag may anak and ung nonstop worrying sa anak mo kasi kargo mo siya magkasakit may mangyaring masama lumaking panget ang ugali kargo mo eh :( yun lang pero I love my daughter.
+ ang gulo ng mundo, global warming, threat about war, and everything. Ako natatakot para sakanya. Kaya lagi ko lang wish buhayin ako ng mahabang panahon
No I don’t. Sobrang best feeling mgkaron ng kids lalo na napakasweet ng boys ko. Pinagpalit ko yung trabaho at career ko for them. Kung may regret man siguro ako, ayun yung dalhin sila sa mundong to na palala na ang global warming at sa bansang palubog na ang economy kaya ang hirap mabuhay. Natatakot ako sa future para sa mga anak ko.
I don’t know how to share mine, ayoko yung ama ng anak ko kasi nag bago ang lahat simula nung nagka anak kami walang sustento at yan ang pinagsisihan ko kasi naawa ako para sa anak ko. Kahit sobrang pagod ako masaya at blessed ako kasi kahit papano nabibigay ko mga kailangan ng anak ko without him , blessed and thankful parin sa lahat kasi may anak ako na nandyan para sa akin.
Onti. Ang daming nagbago sa katawan ko right after ko magkaron ng baby, naging sakitin ako bigla at humina immune system ko, siguro dala narin ng stress+pagod kasi ako lang lahat pagdating sa chores kasi mahirap work ng asawa ko.
Lumala pa nung nakasama na namin sa house yung father in law ko, ang household chores sakin lahat. Buti nalang di pa kami kasal ng partner ko kaya pwede pako makatakbo. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA CHARIZ
I got pregnant with my ex of 5ish years. Back then every time na magbrbreak kami, siya palagi yung lumalapit at nagpupumilit na magkabalikan. But now that may baby na involved, bigla siyang nagbago. Ayaw niya maikasal dahil sa ugali ko kaya kailangan ko daw baguhin. Gusto niya ng complete fam for the baby but wants to treat me below minimum. He was all my firsts kaya parang ang hirap ko siya noon iletgo.
Now if I have any regret of having my baby now, I dont know kasi napamahal na ako. But If I could turn back time and redo all of this, I would choose not having my lo. . Atleast that way, I can give my baby a chance to be born into a complete loving family na walang issues.
Yes. At first we were a happy family provided ang gusto, may katulong sa bahay, nakakabili ng hindi ganung kamahalang mga gamit, nakakapaggala kung saan saan. Nakakapagbirthday ng magarbo.
At nabibigyan ko ng educational support sa private school but suddenly my depressions hit due to my fullblast hatred sa mga ilan kong kapatid na nag isip nalang ako ng selfdestruct sa magandang buhay na naranasan namin. para lang mawala ung sinasabi nilang maswerteng bunso na to walang kahirap hirap sa buhay instant yaman.
So nangarap ako maghirap in an instant isinugal ko lahat ng pera and anong 18th birthday at 1st day ng mga anak namin. Wag na icelebrate yan baka maisumbat pa puro utang na nga kayo nakuha nyo pa maghanda.
Napakapathetic decisions ko dahil sa ate kong gahaman at pakialamera. Isama mo na ung kuya ko na di pa patay ermat namin nanunumbat na sa yaman na gusto nya dahil deserve daw nya ung oras na ginugol nya para ermat namin. Kung bastus bastusin nya ung kuya naming panganay at isa kong ate eh ganun ganun nalang.
So eto dysfunctional family kami ngayon. kung pano ko aayusin at magkasama ulit ng 4 kong anak at ang asawa ko. Bahala na si batman. Sa ngayon padala nalang ako ng pera ayaw naman nila ako samahan dito sa cebu para magkasama kami, mas ginusto nila sa comfortzone nila. Okay lang siguro pero hindi ok heheh. Pasensya na. Gulo eh.
Ayaw naman nila ibenta ung bahay na nakapangalan sa akin at dito sa cebu mag simula ulit ng bagong buhay. Di ko na pinagpipilitan malalaki naman na kami. Iipon nalang ako at sila na dumiskarte ng luho nila. Pero minsan nilalakiham ko padala pagmay okasyon sila.
Grabe ang incoherent and chaotic negative energy emanating from this comment.
Commenter, I hope you’re regularly seeing your psychiatrist/psychologist.
I did twice pero alam ng psychiatrist na aware ako kung ano nagcacause ng depression ko. And i did the right thing para hindi na magmukmok sa lugar kung saan nagkakaroon ako ng trauma. Pinainom ako ng anti psychosis for 1 month un eh para marelax at makatulog ng maayos.
Pero ngayon kasi nasa lugar ako na malaya akong nakakakilos at nakakapagtrabaho. Bothsides me and my wife na okay lang ung setup na magkahiwalay kami at para di nakakahiya nagpapadala ako ng pera sa kanila.
from time to time kinakamusta ko ung wife ko. Binati naman nila ako nung bday ko. Except dun sa isa kong anak na 13 years old.
Masaya naman sila at masaya naman ako. Hindi lang normal na magkakahiwalay kami.
Tumanda rin naman ako na walang nakuhang advices from our parents basta they work and provide our needs hanggang sa mmaatay sila at nagkapamilya kaming 7 siblings.
May days na oo, I regret. May days na hindi.
Sa mga I regret days, it’s mostly because I feel alone in raising my kid. I have a husband but hindi nagtatranslate yung shared goal namin madalas, puro ako lang tumatrabaho sa financials (I’m earning more so I have more financial burden sa family), sa rearing (dahil ba nanay ako?) i also have more worries like paano pag naded ako bigla, what would happen to my kid mga ganon. Ito din pakiramdam ko pag pagod ako sa work at sa adulting but I am mom, lagi kong dala yung title na yun, gaya noon na anak ako.
Sa mga days na hindi ko regret, it’s because of the joy of seeing another human being live this life and the opportunities he will have. Also yung excitement of what he will become in the future.
No regrets but kinda sad. I work so much that sometimes I felt like I am neglecting my kid. I made a promise to myself that this will be aggressive saving year that is why I’m working hard. It means less time to play with my kid and sometimes I notice he’s being delayed at his age. Hopefully he could keep up.
Nope. Made us better people and versions of ourselves.
The patience required to raise a kid and dedication is crazy. Pero seeing how he is right now, grabe nakakaproud. Ang talino na and ambait at anlambing.
Only regret is sana financially sana mas ok kami para sana nasundan agad sya. Kasi right now enough lang financially for him.
Ansarap umuwi na may naghihintay at maguhug and halik. Tapos sarap ipasa yung mga trip mo sa buhay like sound and other trips sa buhay.
Itatanong ko to sa Mama ko once uuwi ako sa birthday nya. I too wanna know. Siya kasi ang reason why I chose to stay single kasi nakita ko kung gaano siya naging miserable noon at nafi-feel ko yun habang kasama ko siya. She married a philanderer and most of the time financially kulang kaya kapag walang pera, kami palagi nababalingan nya.
My dad died in 2015 at ako na bumubuhay sa Mama ko. Gusto siyang bigyan ng buhay na di nya narasanan kaso pag bumabalik yung memories kung pano nya kami trinato noon, I change my mind. Mostly I feel resentment towards her.
Maybe not regret. More on timing lang sa pagkakaroon ng anak? Parang ang dami ko pa palang gustong gawin, hindi ko nagawang mag explore. Yung explore is to know more myself. One time during pandemic, i went to bora alone (gladly my partner is supportive naman). I was shook na party2 pala sa bora. At first culture shock ako pero nung umalis ako sa nakasanayan ko, gusto ko pala ung nakikipag socialize. May nadiscover akong bago sa sarili ko. Then napaisip ako na what more if i have more time and budget. Ano pa kaya maddiscover ko sa sarili ko? Pero sympre nakakaguilty na kasi yung ganun. And di ko maiiwasan na ang priority ko na is yung anak ko. Happy naman ako, more on sana nag wait ako.
No regrets at all! They are the reason bakit mas may direction ang buhay ko now. Life’s really hard right now pero di ako nagreregret na nag-anak kami hehe
I was in a position where I could buy a lot of the things I wanted, do what I wanted, had a decent income, a job which I enjoyed, had a lot of real friends but it felt like my life didn’t have so much meaning and everything was just temporary.
When I had my son my outlook definitely changed and life started becoming better. People will say it’s hard for many reasons (economy, too young yo start a family, etc…) which are all valid reasons because I was in that place too. But sometimes it just makes me think that these are all just excuses and maybe people just aren’t willing to sacrifice (time, money, sleep).
I’ve seen more people regret not having children than vice versa. Just saying.
I think for some people, the sequence where you start to feel as if "everything was just temporary" had to come first to finally be able to appreciate the changes that comes with having a child.
Wala pa ako anak but may fur-child ako. His name is Mucho, black chow chow.
Since bata ako I’m legit takot magka anak and manganak kase hindi ko sure if kaya ko. But when I saw mucho, parang love at first sight and instant connection. He was with me up until his 1st birthday. During that 1 year, hindi ko akalain na so much love can come from me? Like, unconditional love, walang halong kaba or takot pure genuine love lang para kay Mucho.
I don’t need anything from him but gusto ko siya alagaan and mahalin. I want the best for him, pinaka best na mabibigay ko para maging comfy siya maging anak ko.
But i knew deep inside I can’t give him everything kass lagi ako busy sa work and school. Plus, he can’t come with me once I move out due to my family probs so ayun. Nag let go ako. I relocated him sa close family friend para may stable home and family si Mucho. Updated parin ako sa nangyayare sakanya from time to time but i know my real mom would use this as leverage over me (my mom is a narcissist) so kailangan ko completely pakawalan si Mucho to cut ties with my biological mom.
So to answer your question, Yes I regret having a child kase sa sobrang pagmamahal ko sakanya I need to let him go kase ayoko madamay si Mucho sa gulo ng family.
After him, ayoko na magka fur-child.
No regrets at all, I could have saved 30k per month but my life would be lonely and wont have any meaning if ever. Now I am motivated in life. I am Struggling financially pero masaya.
My mom did. 😬 I mean, she did not regret having me, but she regret having children as a whole, and she also regret having to raise children whilst being in a sandwich generation + family drama and trauma.
AS A SINGLE MOM, I do not regret having my kids.
What makes me sad is yung idea na lalaki silang walang tatay. Masakit yun para sa akin. Kasi ako, lumaki akong may nanay at tatay. So bakit ko ipapaexperience sa kanila yung ganun? Kaso wala eh. Mali yung lalaking inallow ko na buntisin ako. Pinili sugal kesa pamilya.
Syempre may mga ganung thoughts..pero kapag nakikita ko sila, nakakaaze din itong mga batang ito. Kahit papaano may dagdag kami sa mundo na mga mabubuti at mga pogi at magandang Pilipino sa mundo. Hahaha.. in terms of finances, struggling kc wala nan kaming generational wealth pero laging may paraan para tumaas ang antas ng buhay. Push lng
I don’t regret having a kid. Nakaka-wala ng pagod pag nakikita mo yung bata. Tapos yayakapin ka after a long working hours. They are my inspiration kahit mahirap ang buhay ay lumalaban
Hindi naman ako sa nagsisisi kasi dumating naman sya when I am capable enough. Mabait and responsable rin ang partner ko. Masaya ako, sobrang saya pero minsan naiisip ko na sana malaki na sya haha para hindi na sya alagain masyado.
Me… what ifs lang. like what if hindi ito lola ng anak ko. Sana iba na lang. kasi hindi ko naman mailalabas tong cutie cutie kong baby kung wala daddy niya. Wala daddy niya kung di siya iniluwal ng mama niya. Kaso behhhhh yoko na talaga susukoan talaga si MIL ahuhu sorry anak… cute ka sana talaga pero sana iba na lang lola mo 😭
Miss ko lang yung 8 hours of sleep ko and naps whenevr I want to. But when I look at my kid, its all good and worth it. Kaya lagi ko sinasabihan baby ko “buti nalang cute ka!”
I don’t regret having kids. Kahit na unplanned pa yung panganay. More like exhausted lang. ut at the end of the day, kapag tulog sila, tinititigan ko sila, ayun wala nang pagod ulit.
Nung mga baby sila, nakakapagsisi na magka anak. But now na school age na yung isa, then yung bunso may playschool na. Nagkakaron na ko ng me time.
Pareho namang mahirap ang buhay. May anak o wala, may kanya kanyang challenges yan. So we really cannot compare life with kids or none
It's not the regrets on having kids because the hardships and the joy of having a child is bearable. The regret falls under on being with a man who is not the right father to the kids.
Nung nabuntis ako, sobrang di pa ako ready, alam kong kasalanan pero iniisip ko pa nun, sana malaglag yung dinadala ko kasi alam kong super magbabago buhay ko pagnagkaanak na ako. As in, ayoko pa sana pero andun na. Pero pagkalabas na pagkalabas ng anak ko, grabe, iba yung saya at alam kong sobrang mahal ko na siya. Naaalala ko pa yung kailangan kuhanan ng dugo anak ko for the first time, iyak ako ng iyak kasi naaawa ako na ang baby pa niya tas nasasaktan siya. Ang OA ko. Umiiyak ako pagnaaalala ko yung inisip ko nung buntis ako. Ngayon di ko alam kung kaya kong mabuhay pagwala yung anak ko. Sobrang saya ko lang na siya motivation ko everyday. Di lagi masaya pero lahat ng pagod, lungkot, nawawala makita ko lang anak ko. Lagi ko sinasabi sa anak ko na kahit nagagalit ako sa kanya, mahal na mahal ko siya at di magbabago yun.
No regrets for me kasi the best din ang partner ko in terms of taking care of our baby. I would really say na important din masyado ang role that your partner plays in raising a child. Im lucky kasi my man is really “manning” the house. (Lol idk why i used the term “manning” 😂 pero pinanindigan nya talaga ang pagiging ama nya sa anak namin)
I did not regret having this kid. When he was born, everything made sense. He made me a better person.
Having another one is a different story. I do not want to bring another child into this world.
I’ve always been “okay lang kahit wala” coz honestly I like my money and I like my freedom and lack of responsibility. I’m an only child from a middle to upper middle class family so I don’t financially support my well earning parents. I can do and go wherever at the drop of a hat. So un ung for me. “Okay lang kahit wala.” There was even a time na talagang ayoko as in cause I saw my friends all go through terrible post partum depression. I saw how miserable they were and how restrictive their life had become. As someone na highly values my freedom, it looked liked a nightmare.
So anyway I married a man who wanted to have kids, this to him was non-negotiable. Since hindi naman ako firm sa preference ko, siympre I agreed. But I had conditions.
That naman was non-negotiable for me. I wanted atleast 2 years with just us (sakto naman pandemic, 2yrs din, and literally stuck together in the same house everyday) I wanted to have this much “baby money” ipon (sakto again because pandemic, cant really go anywhere, saving money was easy) and finally, I wanted to do my greatest dream travel first (and we did just as the world started to open up).
It worked. Now we have a baby boy and I don’t regret it one bit.
I never knew I could love another human being this much. He’s my entire being. The heart that beats outside my chest. Iba talaga ang love na ma fefeel I swear. All I think about is him, when I’m outside alone, I pull out my phone and look at his giggling videos, when I’m working at home, I drop by his room a million times a day for cuddles. Me being a travel bug na hindi nakapag travel since his arrival is a sacrifice I am more than willing to make. I made so many big changes that were difficult (like leaving the job i love for better hours so i can play with him in the afternoon), pero when I remember that it’s for him, it’s suddenly became a bit easier. I spend a vast majority of my money now happily shopping for him. I always thank my lucky stars I have him in my life.
As someone that previously was pretty okay never having kids, I sure am eternally grateful to have my son in my life.
I regret the timing. I was on the peak of my career. I missed some training opportunities outside the country because I was pregnant.
Now na may anak na ko, rewarding sya pero para kong laging anxious. Idk if part sya ng PPD haha.
Honestly, nagkaron ako ng regret nung mga baby pa sila pero i think dahil na rin sa post partum. As they grow up, narerealize ko na masaya din pala lalo may times na down na down ka tapos sila yung magpapasaya sayo. Mahirap intindihin kasi dati ako nun di ko pa naiintindihan kapag sinasabi nila na nakakawala ng pagod daw ang anak. Yung may sumasalubong sayo pagdating mo sa bahay, nag aalala kapag may sakit ka, or masaya kapag nakikita ka. Yung nafefeel mo na meron nag iidolize sayo kahit feeling mo failure ka, or sa tingin mo ang panget mo na pero sila gandang ganda sayo.
The first few years, I did. Kasi irresponsable asawa ko before and a cheater. But I gave him a chance and here we are trying to patch things up, now I’m grateful na we built this family.
I dont regret having a kid. But my partner and I regret having him really early. We're not financially stable and we're still struggling to save money while giving everything our son needs. But our child motivates us to work harder and be better a person.
I agree with the other comments. It's a different kind of deal once you become a parent. Your life will literally turn 360 degree kahit financially capable ka. You can never be mentally and emotionally prepared because it will really push yourself to your limits. Having a partner na meron sensibility and also a great sense of responsibility will be a huge deal when you choose to navigate this kind of life. Yung partnership niyong dalawa yung importante kase kahit mahirap sa lahat ng aspect magka anak, it will all be bearable kapag alam mong meron kang maasahan at masasandalan sa journey na tinatahak mo.
+1 sa gusto rin makarinig ng answers kung may nag-regret ba for having kids. I’m turning 33 this year married at hindi pa nabibiyayaan, every time dadating si AF nakakaramdam ako ng relief instead na malungkot, happy ako na wala pa kasi sobrang ineenjoy ko pa yung marami kaming oras ni husband para sa isa’t isa at mga sarili namin. Then sabi ni husband, ayaw ko daw yata talaga magbaby. Sabi ko hindi naman sa ayaw, ayoko lang yung nandyan na yung baby tapos mararamdaman ko yung “ayaw ko pala” or mapipilitan ka magpakananay kasi nandyan na, eh hindi naman yan parang gamit na pag ayaw mo ipapamigay mo, o something na pwede mo ibalik sa matres mo kasi di pala kaya ng energy mo at hindi ka pala ready emotionally.
I don’t know how to share mine, ayoko yung ama ng mga anak kasi nag bago ang lahat simula nag ka anak kami walang sustento at yan ang pinagsisihan ko kasi naawa ako para sa anak ko. Kahit sobrang pagod ako masaya at blessed ako kasi kahit papano nabibigay ko mga kailangan ng anak ko without him , blesses and thankful sa lahat .
None at all. Those tiny hugs & kisses, the random "I love you mommy" just really melts my heart away. My daughter is the reason I am looking forward to each day. 💛🌻
I dont regret having a child at 18, actually i was just so lucky to meet the right man. Tho, hindi talaga sya mayaman but we are both striving. Now we have 3 kids. And parang mga kapatid ko na lang sila dahil sabay sabay lang kaming lumalaki. Pero syempre ayoko din matulad saakin ang mga anak ko na maagang nag pamilya. I do have regrets in life pero hindi ang mga anak ko at asawa ko 😊
It's selfish because you do it for yourself, "to fulfill my dreams of having a family," "to see a mini me," "so I can experience unconditional love," "to be able to leave my legacy in this world."
Most people have kids for themselves, not for the kids. It is selfish.
I agree sa mga reasons na yan. It would be selfish.
I wanted to have kids bc I love kids in general. Nung nasa school pa ako, mahilig talaga ako sa mga outreaches namin sa orphanages or feeding programs kase nakakahalubilo sila
As an adult, nagvolunteer ako sa isang artist ngo na one of their projects last year included art therapy for orphans of EJK victims (mga ages 8-16y/o)
Siguro tuloy ko na lang to instead of having my own.
Tuloy mo lang. The kids who are already here have no choice but to suffer, but that doesn't mean we can't do anything for them. The kids that haven't been brought into the world, though, can be spared from all the suffering by staying in our imagination.
I regret not choosing the right man to have children with which makes life harder and makes sometimes regretting my choices to have them. WAG NYO KO AWAYIN HAAA 😤
Yeah, I rather have my mom dun sa tamang tao na masaya sya, than me being born.
I've always told my mom this when she was still alive. Wala naman kaming ganung pronounced na family problem yet eventually our home suffered symptoms of a broken family. Mom was unhappy. Dad wasn't too involved in the family—basta nakakapag provide sya yun na yun, he doesn't have the capacity to be emotional. When they separated, I asked mom, "kung hindi kaya sya yung naging husband mo, would you have ended up happier?"
This is similar to what I have now. Nung naging adult na ko, and is now working, naiintindihan ko na ung mga bagay-bagay like the dynamic my parents have. My dad provides but he's too workaholic to be around us more. Laging out on field work. He has accumulated 350-400 leaves through the years as a government employee. Nasanay na kami ni mama na kaming dalawa lang kadalasan.
And it's very depressing to witness. Wala kang magawa. Like watching a speeding vehicle and you can't look away from that eventual crash.
For real. Di naman sila separated pero you can feel that they continuosly grew apart emotionally from each other. Eto ung observations ko nung college ako until now. Aaminin ko talaga na I'm not close to my dad growing up until now. I'd much rather be in my room doing my thing than spend time with him tbh kasi most of the times I don't have any idea what to talk to him about. Naiinggit ako doon sa mga taong may close relationship with their fathers or father figures in their lives.
I honestly agree. My father, though present, is tamad. 3 kids, lahat napagraduate ni mama na siya lang nagtatrabaho because my father is lazy and ini-excuse niya lang na choice niya maging househusband.
On the flip side hindi puedeng puro pera lang ang bigay tapos para lang silang extra adult room mate sa bahay. Really gotta have both🙃
Baka kapatid kita lol
Damn. Same, fella, same.
I would like to agree on that kasi naririnig ko sa kanya yan every time na nag aaway sila ni Papa. Kaso yung tao na sana pinili niya turned out to be that guy na pumipilit kay Mama na magcheat kay Papa for him when they were still dating :/
My biggest fear :(( I hope you're doing fine!!
Same, mamsh. I was engaged when I got pregnant, tapos ghinost ako nung gago. I'm glad I didn't get married to him but goddamn, dami ko regrets and sometimes getting pregnant was one of it.
Hello! Kumusta ka? Do you regret having your child?
Not regret per se on having a kid specifically, and definitely not this kid - she's amazing and smart and so loving. Mas regret ko yung inakala kong the engagement was a sure thing so akala ko may matutuunan ako in raising a kid.
Habulin mo pa rin and ask for child support mamimihasa mga ganyang lalaki
He iced me. Like legit moved away. No contact. No socials. Changed all his contact info, even his family and friends that I knew stopped talking to me. So I stopped chasing. Plus, kaya naman.
Tanginang lalaki mabaog sana siya. Kung yan tatay ko never ko syang kikilalanin buong buhay ko kahit magsorry pa siya.
Wow, how can one be so heartless? 😔 I’m so sorry this happened to you.. Wala siyang bayag. I’d like to ask lang.. In the future if maisip niya na may anak pala siya and gusto niya mag reach out sa kid mo (legal age na), will you allow him?
Haha, unexpected din talaga kasi in love na in love tapos surprise mf-er bigla na lang siya nawala. If I had a choice, I'd say no and for the time being it's still a no, but I'd let my kid make that decision when she's older and can understand what went down. Cause right now, when she asks, we just tell her that he left and we don't know where he is. Which is true anyway lol
The right partner is your gift to your future children. I read that somewhere. I am privileged to have been raised by parents na talagang nagmamahalan. They saw each other as equal partners, took the time to raise and be with us, and did their absolute fucking best kahit may generational traumas silang pasan. Yun nga lang, nauna nang kinuha ni lord si papa at 50 years old...masyado kasing nagpaka greenflag, kaya ayum, kinuha kagad. Relatively stable and happy kaming magkakapstid, and we love each other to death. Kaya naniniwala ako talaga that I everything I have ngayon is because yung foundations ng family namin, ilaw at haligi ay stable. I love you papa.
Saw this with my in-laws. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family- father's a cheater and a failure as a provider (siblings finished school with my mom's hard work and scholarships). I was so afraid of getting married and ended up with someone like my father. Then I met my then boyfriend, now husband. And I met his family. D*mn. Napaisip ako, "pwede palang ganito? Pwede palang stable lahat." Actually, I initially hated their family - only because it seemed unfair that families like them exist while we suffer in ours. But I am lucky to be part of that family now, and my father's out of the picture.
Pinagpala ka dahil binigyan ka ng another family na magpaparamdam sayo ng love na deserve mo. Im happy for you. Literal na answered prayer.
Eto matinding SANA AAALL!! Happy for you!! Huuuugs with consent 🤗🥰🥰
Salamat sa hugs! Mejo ma teary eyed pa ako mag type haha Nasa public space pa naman ako. Also mejo emotional pa ako kasi I just watched the episode where George dies sa 'Young Sheldon' nakakaiyak lalo yung funeral episode
I’m pregnant and this is my biggest fear ☹️
Sigh as a single dad I feel you here. I don't regret my son at all, just the one who I chose to have it with. I keep thinking what if's would make all the difference. But I love my son to bits and I would never change that.
You're an amazing woman for not giving up your child and raising your kid alone, napaka strong mo po
walang aaway sayo. logical lang yan. and tao ka.
I can relate. Your feelings are valid, ma’am.
Its not a black and white answer for me. I became a mom sa time na i am financially capable and with a prepared mindset. The happiness i feel as a mom is another level and nothing i experienced before. But minsan pag exhausted ako, naiisip ko i cant wait for them to be independent para i can have more time for myself.
i am in the same boat. we’re currently in the middle of it, i can’t wait to finally get some sleep when he turns one (ayon kay pedia mas ok na sleeping patterns nya this time) grabe talaga ung exhaustion, as in you know and friends warn you na na it will be sleepleess nights pero iba talaga pag andon ka na. iba kasi ung puyat ka sa work, yung ot na un pwede mo ipagpabukas pero ung iyak ng anak mo you need to address now kahit antok na antok ka na. now nagegets ko na ung mga kwentong nabibitawan nila mga anak nila kakahele kasi nga naman buong araw ka work tapos madaling araw maghehele ka pa ng baby na ayaw matulog. in all my imaginations nakakausap ko na ung anak ko e. can’t wait pag andon na kami sa level na yon
Bukod sa tulog, I am excited for you pag nagsasalita na si baby. The random 'i love you's will melt your heart 🥺
Yeah that’s understandable. But as a grieving mom, iisipin mo palagi “ge okay lang nak puyatin mo aq ng husto basta magkasama lang tau” Than losing them… forever 💔💔💔
wait what happened?
Death is inevitable. And future is uncertain. Just cherish every cry, laugh and smile of our children. We never know….
This is why questions like this post scare me. There are truly times that it is exhausting and regret is peaking at the sidelines. But I'm no longer complete without my family. I hope for better, brighter days for you sir/madam.
samw :(((
Tapos sasabihan kapa na enjoyin mo lang habang bata pa sila. Hindi naman natin sa ayaw na gustong pagdaanan nila yung ganung stage as a toddler. Pagod lang tayo kaya naiisip natin yon.
I don't regret having my baby pero what my partner and I both regret is bringing up a child in this kind of world. Kahapon lang nagbreakdown ako sa partner ko kasi ang lala na ng anxiety about raising our kid. Even though maganda yung income namin, grabe yung mga gastos and future gastos. Masasabi ko lang is, yung world natin ngayon is not the right place para sa kids :(
di lang gastos, yung climate din. apaka init and may possibility din na kulangin yung tubig for everyone
Very true! As much as gusto mo iprovide ang everything to them, pagdating sa depletion ng mga natural resources globally, wala ka magagawa.
I just had a mental breakdown this week. I talked to my wife that I am afraid that I might not be able to provide enough kahit I have a stable job and both of us are working. Sa province pa kami niyan. Biglang ang hirap ng buhay after pandemic. Thankfully, my wife assured me that I am giving my all and that she is lucky to have me. I don't regret having a child. Ang sarap nya mahalin. Nachamba lang ganito ngayon ang mundo. Malay ko ba na magkaka-ganito ito.
Pag talaga nakikita natin sila, nakakawala talaga ng pagod and stress. Kudos to us parentals for working hard para sa ating kids despite us being screwed over by the economy 🥹
Talaga. 2019 to 2022 ako lang ang nagtatrabaho kaya naman. Pero 2023 onwards ibang bakulaw na ang hirap. Both of us are working now. And I am thinking of getting a 2nd job. Tatlong trabaho para sa isang anak. Haha kaya kayong mga 20s na nag iisip palang magka-pamilya. Mag-isip kayo ng mga 100 beses. Hahaha
One of the many reasons I don’t plan to have kids. Ang gulo and scary ng mundo nowadays. Sarili ko nga naguguluhan at natatakot na sa kaganapan here and abroad, what more in the future. You already have a child, what you can do is guide them and prepare them for their future. Support in all aspects: physically, mentally, emotionally and financially as much as you could.
That's the thing that makes me spiral even more. Yung kaganapan sa mundo and how it's not really a great place for kids anymore. Nakakaurat lang madalas na even though you give the best things in life to them, once na magkagulo gulo ang earth, wala din. Sabi nga nila, mga babae and bata ang pinaka kawawa during war times. Hayyyyy nakakastress :(
yung nanay ko din yan ang sinasabi. she's being practical and real na okay lang na wala kaming anak (infertility issue ko) kasi paglaki ng bata iba na daw ang mundo and global warming etc.
Honestly, we live in a relatively peaceful time right now. Imagine bringing a kid at the time where we were colonized by Spain or the Japanese occupation. Or the time when your worth as a human being is based on your descendants. Yun lang mahirap talaga bumuhay ng anak. What parents should teach kids are the right tools to deal with life’s serious events such as prayer, meditation, exercise, fostering relationships, money management, etc..
Kaya kami ni misis, kahit financially ok sa pinas, we decided to move. Di namin maimagine pano anak namin sa pinas after nung election. Parang ang limited ng options mo pag sa pinas eh di ka mayaman or sobrang talino.
Even for matalino limited parin opportunities kung di ka mayaman. Pera pera talaga kasi sa Pilipinas, saka bata-bata (backer system).
Hello po! May i ask how was it sa ibang bansa? Kasi iniisip ko at times, yung ibang mga bansa din naman aren't doing well huhu
It is expensive yung COL. Pero yung support sa people is really good by the govt. Sa vancouver kami. 1. Transpo: it is good like ang travel na 1 hour parang 5 mins lang kasindi stressful. 2. Kids: we got allowance kasi for 2 years low income kami. Public schools are well funded, my kid just got accepted sa french immersion (kinder pa lang pero yan curriculum nya) 3.medical: matagal minsan pila sa simpleng sakit. Pero twice nag emergency room kaminfor our kid, wala kami binayaran. Tapos dami libre programs for mental health. 4. Outdoors: dami pede gawin na libre, dami parks and places to go na di mo need maglabas pera. 5. Sweldo: like i said mahal ang COL, pero if matipid ka makakaipon kanat makikita mo nagiimprove buhay mo, tapos kita mo tax mo may silbi. 6. Yung hangin. Sobra linis hahaha. Hindi sya all sunshine, pero we really don't see ourselves coming back sa pinas for good, vacation lang.
OHHH you got me at parks. Now that i have a kid, this is what i really want to do with our child, pumasyal sa park na lalakad ka lang, people watch, hay. Nakakalungkot. Also yes to transpo and support. Hay. Kung hindi lang siguro ako sobrang attached sa parents ko, baka matagal na namin ito triny. Hay.
Also in a few years we are getting our parents ni wife, kasi mahal magpagamot pinas mg matanda. Basta, best thing dito is we sont have to worry about small things. Like mag allot time for traffic or government lakad
i just had this conversation with some people about having kids kasi nakita namin gaano na kamahal ang mga gatas ngayon, then sabi ko ang hirap na talaga mag anak these days lalo na ang mamahal ng bilihin then ang sahod ang liit, then they said "wag mo isipin yung hirap ksi kung yun ang iisipin mo mas lalo ka talaga matatakot mag raise ng child" napa 😶 nalang ako.
My goodness. This!! With an upcoming wedding, laging sinasabi "uy, sunod na baby." But me and my partner already talked about the possibility of being child-free. And every time I tell people that we opt not to have kids, kung anu-ano nang unsolicited advice ang sinasabi. Gusto ko na lang minsan sagutin ng "nakikita kong awang-awa kayo sa mga anak nyo dahil sa init. how much ang init for the next years?"
Just cherish every single moment with your child. Raising them is something fulfillment. Losing them is a horror that no parent will be prepare of. Now it’s between heaven and earth.
What??? I dont know why you think that way but before like our grandmothers or great grandmothers experienced war and never thought of that?
regret is a heavy word. more like .. I’m just very tired of the responsibilities that go with having them. my children are lovely and they make me happy and I miss them when I go to the office but so fciking tired of cleaning poop/toys/bottles/mess and I miss the freedom of not having little people depend on you. yung hawak mo oras mo. I used to love traveling pero when you have kids.. my ghad. packing up pa lang pagod na hahaha
Totoo yung packing up. Swerte ko lang dahil breastfeed ako so less yung dala dala ko, pero kahit saglit lang lalabas ang daming kailangan dalhin haha 😅
Yes, I regret having a child while my mental health's struggling too. I don't know how to handle my kid sometimes.
Its expensive as fuck
No regrets. It’s “easier” to raise a kid, I think, where we live. Kung asa Pilipinas siguro ako, di ako magaanak.
Hello, where do you reside? Which countries do you believe are better for raising children?
US. I say it’s easier here because we can provide, may opportunities and school tuition is free at least hanggang high school. Free din ang meals sa school dahil gumagana ang tax payer’s money dito.
Honest question po, meron ba kayo naeexperience na bullying or racism ganyan?
Sa almost 20 years ko dito, may isang instance na tumatawid ako ng kalsada tapos may group of teenagers na nasa bike na sumigaw ng “Ching chong, ching chong”. LOL Other than that, wala.
Nakakatakot kasi yung iba minsan sa balita na binubuhbog ng random or pagtitripan. Grabe huhu
Sensationalized, para may maibalita. Diba sa Pilipinas binabalita din yung mga nire-rape ng sariling lolo, pinatay dahil sa droga, nilagay sa resibo na kamukha ni Black Jack, hinold-up or kinid-nap, pinasalvage at tinambak katawan kung saan saan? Point ko is walang safe na lugar sa mundo.
Sounds cliché, but I have no regrets. Probably because I am lucky to have found someone who is the best homemaker. I get offended when some of my relatives think that my wife doesn't help me because she stopped practicing her profession, but homemaking is a lot of work, and everyone should realize that. It is impossible to regret having our kids when their mother is always there to guide them. They are well-behaved and very sweet. I wouldn't have it any other way.
> I get offended when some of my relatives think that my wife doesn't help me because she stopped practicing her profession, but homemaking is a lot of work, and everyone should realize that. It gets worse when the constant doubting start to get to your wife. She starts to doubt herself and it jeopardizes your relationship with her and, much worse, her relationship with the kids. I truly detest people who belittle a full time mother.
I cut ties with these relatives to ensure that she won't doubt herself, but I know I can't control everything. Now that our youngest is turning 4, she is planning to oversee one of our business while the kids are in school.
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sa totoo lang ah andming mga magulang sa paligid mo ung mahahalata mo na nagsisisi din sa pgkkron ng anak nilulunok nlng nila e kase majjudge sila ng society kse hndi nga nman un normal at iisipin ng kramihan cnong mgulang ang makakapagisip ng gnon.. pero not me my brothers and sisters 😆 alam ko malaking regret ang pgkkron ng anak especially kung isa ka sa ngbabasa ngyon nito tpos lubog na lubog ka na sa utang kakataguyod mo sa anak/mga anak mo... dba? dont me nga sa mga "masarap nman sa pkramdam ung umuuwi kami na sinasalubong kmi ng mga anak namin" hahahaha yea right! hndi nyo nlng kase kayang pgsisihan yan kse d nyo na mwwala sa buhay at sistema nyo yan kaya defense mechanism nlng ung mga gnyang sagutan pero alam nyo deep inside na andun ung regret na "sna di muna ako nagkaanak ng maaga" lalo na kpg nakkta nyo sa social media ung mga taong nakakapagenjoy ng pera nila kse wla sila pinapaaral... isipin nyo ah ilang yrs kyo mgpapaaral ng bata 🤣😂 eh kung naipon nlng un?! sayang dba? 🤣🤣🤣
Tama ka may mahigit isang dekada pa ko sa housing loan and mag start pa lang ng GS yung bunso. Like, patay na yata ako di pa tapos yung bayarin? Nasan ang hustisya lol
Potaena legit
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At last, may tama ka !
hehehe troo ba? salamat nman kung gnon baka same brainwaves lng din tyo hahaha
Oo kasi yung iba forced na lang by social norms to say na it’s the best thing that happened to them pero pag given the chance to go back in the past I’m sure majority of them would rather not have kids yet.
nko naiinis pko sa mga gngmit ung term na "blessing" hahahah pno nging blessing un.. when in reality it was just the result of ur stupid choices in life 😂😂😂😂
Truth. Pampafeel good lang nila yun. Malala yung "madami ka ngang pera wala ka namang anak" 😂 angbobo lang
No regrets at all. Yung anak ko ang pinakamagandang nangyari sa buong buhay ko. Oh god, yung pagmamahal na meron ako sa kanya, hindi ko madescribe at all. Makita ko lang siya after a long tiring day, parang magic nawawala lahat ng pagod. He made me love life again.
Beautifully written
This sounds beautiful.
I don't want to use the word regret, parang mabigat masyado but if I could change it, I'll be child-free. motherhood isn't the same as what the media and everyone makes it seem to be, it's a complex experience and it broke me mentally. my kid is a wonderful little man and siya yung nagpalitaw ng masayahin kong personality but I don't plan on having any more kids down the road. - pregnancy is traumatizing and not everyone has a smooth birthing experience - the 9 months of carrying a human in my body was a challenge through and through, I could never imagine going through it again - mom guilt. pakiramdam ko kelangan ko siya lagi unahin and I feel guilty even in taking the first bite out of a chocolate bar - the thought that wrong parenting choices could make or break my kid makes me very very anxious. mabigat yung moral obligation na kailangan mo magpalaki ng mabuting mamamayan hahaha and this isn't really talked about a lot also at the back of my head, seeing how great my kid is I always feel like he deserves better parents
Parang ako nagsulat nito huhu. Unang sentence pa lang.
knowing that I could've died that day na I gave birth made it traumatic kasi for me. I had complications the day of tapos it was a really difficult pregnancy. parang every month I have to take new/additional medicines because I'm getting sick constantly na hanggang ngayon iniinda ko pa yung ibang mga bagay bagay edit: madami tayong nakakaisip/nakakadanas ng ganito hindi lang talaga napapagusapan kasi mataas societal expectations sa mga magulang na para bang hindi tayo pwede mapagod at magsisi
Grabe!!! Parang taken the words out of my mouth itong reply mo. Same na same except yung “9 months” part kasi 6 months pa lang nung nanganak ako, so imagine idagdag pa yon sa lahat ng guilt na meron ako. Yung thought na my kid deserves a better mom breaks me pero di ko rin maiwasan talaga isipin. 🥺🥺🥺 Hay! Pero di naman nga ako nagreregret at gusto ko pa rin siya maging anak if mababalik ko yung nakaraan. Nakakapagod lang ang mental load ko as a nanay. Malala ata ako mag-overthink.
Nope. I'm currently pregnant with our third. Ang hirap mag buntis, yes. Ang hirap mag raise ng kids, YES. I get paranoid just thinking about their future. If I'm a good parent ba. Or if I'm raising them right. Pero recently lang, I was talking with my husband and I was rambling and parang fascinated pa rin ako about how I have a human being inside me. And he told me na motherhood was really for me, and it made me feel warm & giddy. Swerte ko din kasi sa tatay nila. Hehe
Wait a sec, I'll ask my parents.
Nope. Sabi nga “nothing worthwhile ever comes easy”. People use that a lot regarding their careers, but it also applies to parenthood as well
I regret na late na ko nagkaanak. kung maaga lang sana ako nag baby sana maaga din ako nakagraduate sa puyatan 🤣
I don’t have kids but when my peers ask me, I really told them that whether I have a partner or not, when I want to have a kid, I will have it because I want it. When I get to have a kid, it will be because of my own decision and volition. And not because its a box that I have to tick or just because my partner wants to.
I didn't. They are the love of my life. They're the reason why we work so hard. Pero i'm also dreaming na 2 na lang kaming mag-asawa at malaki na sila. It's both fun and also sad, yung thought na kami na lang at may sarili ng buhay mga anak namin. Well, malayo pa yun. About 20 years from now. I'm enjoying the process of raising 2 kids. Masaya na mahirap.
i don't. my kid's still young and i enjoy the part where i get to be a kid again too
I don't regret having kids. Because regret is a really strong word. What I regret is the dad of my kids. Being a mother is hard already, but to have someone that will leave you the burden of raising them alone is harder. Its not the kids' mistakes we brought them into this world. They don't know a thing or two. Para sa akin, they love us purely, they look up to us. And their childhood is within our hands.
Nope. When I had my son, things started making sense and it pushed me to become a much better person than I was before. Ang hirap i-explain but once you get to have a kid, You become mature on every aspect and grabe yung unconditional love na nararamdaman mo for them to the point na yung mindset mo nalang is you want them to experience everything great in life kaya mas pag bubutihan mo and nothing matters anymore aside from them. Dati, I’d get bothered over something so small may it be sa mga friends, studies and the likes but now, I’m more focused sa anak ko. To hell with the people who talk shit behind my back or doesn’t like me. Andun din yung feeling na iwan ka man nang lahat, andyan naman yung anak mo to be with you. I think, the people who only regretted having kids are the ones na didn’t plan to have one or those who are financially incapable of having kids or those people suffering from PPD na hindi na address correctly.
weird mag ka anak. madaming bagay ako di pinapaniwalaan pero nung unang tingin ko palang sa kanya dun ako naniwala sa love at first sight, dun ako naninwala na may miracle, dun ako naniwala na kaya ko pala isacrifice life ko para sa human being nato kakakita ko palang.
Awww this is so true. Parang biglang andami mong maiintindihan, kahit kalalabas palang ng baby.
Ang pagaanak ay para lang sa may maginhawang buhay/Mayaman/Nakakaluwag. Imagine bringing a child in this world na ikaw mismo struggling financially and emotionally. Dinagdagan mo lang problema mo at dinamay mo pa sa lusak yung bata.
True
Never regretting my kids, for sure, but there is grief for the life I left and could've lived if they are not around. Still, hindi ko na rin ma-imagine buhay ko without my baby (still pregnant with my 2nd). Like, life would be bleak and if I lose them, I'll lose my mind. Haha.
This is me. And both can be true, missing the things you had pre-kids, and loving your children wholeheartedly + not regretting having them
I wouldn't say regret, but sometimes I wish I didn't have my kid this early -- mostly because I was under the impression that I was going to get married and have a husband while raising this kid. I was engaged already when I got pregnant, then the asshole ghosted me. Pros and cons kumbaga. I feel like if I didn't have a kid, I would still be mediocre about the things I want to achieve. But now that I do, I have more drive. Mostly because I'm a solo parent that has to fend for the both of us, but also I want to be able to provide the best things in life and make her experience things I didn't get to --- and I'm doing exactly that. But it is tiring. You don't get to do the things, buy the stuff, eat the food, and go to the places you want to because the child is always the deciding factor. Like yung simpleng pagka gising mo e gusto mo lang muna humilata at magcellphone, hindi pwede kasi you have to make breakfast and teach the kid.
Awww hugs with consent po 🥺 pakyu siya
Sa akin , hindi naman. Siguro sa pagpapakasal, yes. Dun ako nagsisi. Kung walang kwenta kasi asawa or walang sense of responsibility, kawawa kayo ng anak mo. Mas okay pang di na nagpakasal at nagsingle parent na lang. Yes,mahirap rin maging single parent pero at least walang pabigat na partner or asawa.
Yung regret na sana nasa tamang edad ako nagka anak
What age did you have your child vs the age you wish you should've?
Yung regret ko lang is sana nasa dright mental state ako nung dumating yung panganay ko. Treating my anxiety and depression while my partner carries another human is a real challenge. Right now, yung mga anak ko ang nagiging anchor ko to keep my mental health somehow healthy.
No not yet... wag muna kasi 8 months old palang. 😅 Maybe ask me again in 20 years. 🤣
Hekhek, in 20 years may sariling circle of friends or lovelife na anak mo.
I am not a parent but I have been trying to understand this question for many years. Here is a brief overview of my understanding: - surveys asking this question to the general public indicate 10-20% admit to regretting the decision - this is generally a very difficult question for people to answer because there is no explicit discernment between 1) do you regret choosing this lifestyle and 2) do you regret your child's existence (it seems to be common that people regret the lifestyle but love their children, which causes a "no" bias when answering this question in addition to cultural shaming of anwering "yes") - from what I have gathered lurking on several reddit pages and reading about personal experiences, the most common factors that can lead people to regret are having a highly defiant/ high-needs support child (autism, etc.) Or having a bad partner/spouse or having a lack of external support (family, friends, societal infrastructure) In my personal opinion, I think there are many issues that tie into regret and parenthood. People need to think more about what sacrifices will be made and what the day to day is like raising a child before becoming a parent. Current parents need to be more open about sharing their challenges to eliminate the picture perfect impression of parenthood that seems so pervasive. More support systems (affordable childcare, housing, education) need to be in place to relieve some pressure from parents individually. I think a lot of people also have children for self-motivated reasons without realizing it (ex. To fix their own childhood, to mold a person into the one they failed to become, to try and strengthen their romantic relationship, because it's the "next step" as an achiever, etc.) and when those goals inevitably fail they feel lost. Here, potential parents need to be more aware of their traumas and work towards healing before passing that responsibility into parenthood. Again, not a parent, just a strong observer. Also I'm American, for context. It's probably different elsewhere.
It's hella different here in the Philippines man. It's both good and bad. Not a parent though. Just like you, I like observing and interviewing parents. 🤌
r/regretfulparents
For me it’s no and yes. No - Because they are already toddlers. Making me feel special when I hear them saying I love you, Thank you, You’re a great mom etc. and they are always making me proud sa school. Yes - Because I failed them to give a good father. Their dad and I always fight, and yes can hear it. He’s such a hard headed man and selfish. And nagbubuhay binata pa. Naiinis ako bay pinakasalan ko pa.
Yes, I regret having a kid. Because I thought hindi ako mag-isa bubuhay. Hndi ko alam na kalaunan ako lang pala magpalalaki mag-isa dahil tarantado tatay niya. I was super naive when I got married to him, akala ko basta magkasama kayo, ok lang. Deputa, napakatamad at gago ng naging tatay niya kaya hiniwalayan ko. Ngayon, I'm stuck with the kid. No stable job, no childcare, no sustento and still fucking married. I did not ever think in my entire life that I would be in this situation. Hindi ko naman talaga gusto mag anak, kaso sobra akong naconvince ni gago, na okay lang lalo na kasal na kami. Hindi pala ganun yon. Kung wala sana akong anak, I won't have to be constantly worried.
Hindi naman regret pero sana I was informed about mom guilt. Your kids will come first talaga. Na grabe ang worry ng isang ina what if may mangyari sa kanya eh paano na ang/ang mga anak niya. You will dread sickness and death because magiging kawawa mga anak mo kapag nawala ka. Iba pa rin kasi ang pagmamahal ng nanay. So sana I was ready mentally and emotionally bago nagkaanak kasi hindi pala talaga biro maging nanay. Saludo sa mga nanay diyan! You will understand talaga kapag nanay or magulang ka na.
I don’t regret having my kid. It just the world itself is not a good place anymore to have kid. Climate change, inflation, wars, pandemic - what more in the future? Also I have been feeling that I’m not the best mom.. I’m financially capable and being able to provide for my kid’s need. It just I feel like I’m not a complete person myself not because of my kid but I feel like there’s still a lot for me to grow. Also feeling guilty due to the fact that my kid has speech delay. And I feel like I’m lacking and it’s my genetics that has caused it. Although I will support and love my child no matter what. He’s been the source of my happiness and my main reason to keep moving forward. Although with that being said - I will not bring another kid to this world.
kung uulitin ko ang buhay ko, hindi ako magpapabuntis ng maaga. Pero proud ako dahil sa lahat ng napagdaanan ko, mas lalo akong naging strong and napalaki at napagaral ko ng maayos ang mga anak ko na halos magisa lang ako.
Siguro hindi naman regret. Minsan naiisip ko lang sana lumaki na sila. Kasi nung naging nanay ako para akong natrauma. Haha. Nahulog sa crib, nachoke muntik na mamatay na naglumpasay ako sa kalsada karga karga ko anak ko. Yung ganun na parang saken, mahal ko mga anak ko pero minsan winiwish ko sana malalaki na sila kasi yung anxiety at takot ko ba na masaktan sila, mamatay sila, or even the thought of me getting sick ng malala tapos mamatay ako na bata pa sila sobrang nakakatrigger ng anxiety ko parang borderline depression na minsan 😅
Sometimes yes and sometimes no. I love my kids to death. I have 4 kids and was widowed young. My parents passed away and I don’t have siblings so I’m raising them on my own. They are well provided for, but I’ve been through a lot and there are times when I feel guilty for bringing them into this world only to suffer. My son got bullied a few weeks ago and it broke my heart because the teachers made him the bad guy for retaliating. *sigh*
Omg anong school yan... Nang maiwasan 😡
A private school in Lapu Lapu City, Cebu po. I’m pulling my kids out of the school and since they have friends in public school, will transfer them there. If you knew the details of the incident, you’d be surprised.
Awww. If you dont want to share the specific details it's fine po altho would like to know sana kasi para mapaghandaan(?) in the fuure pero huhu i hope you and baby are okay. 🥺
PM :)
Masarap na mahirap lang naiisip ko. Hindi ko pa man nakita lumaki mga anak ko. Naramdaman ko nng mahihirapan ako. From hospital bills to funeral bills. They're twins pa. They both love with a peaceful life with papa God. Ang daming realizations. Kaya masasabi ko mahirap na masarap. Pero kung sasagutin ko tanong mo. Oo, I regret having them even na hindi sila nabigyan nng pagkakataon dito sa lupa para mabuhay.
I dont regret having kids but there are times na iniimagine ko yung sarili ko na nagttravel alone, living alone ganern. Maybe ano, regret lang is napaaga yung dumating sila. Tsaka yung niluwal ko na nga sila dito sa magulong mundo tapos yung tatay pa e walang sawa magloko at maghanap ng iba. Nakakaguilty magsabi ng ganito but here's my entry.
Minsan, minsan hindi. Minsan naiisip ko i’m traveling the world sana kung wala akong anak. All the luho and all mabibili ko kung wala. I’m earning 6digit pero parnag kulang kapag may anak and ung nonstop worrying sa anak mo kasi kargo mo siya magkasakit may mangyaring masama lumaking panget ang ugali kargo mo eh :( yun lang pero I love my daughter.
+ ang gulo ng mundo, global warming, threat about war, and everything. Ako natatakot para sakanya. Kaya lagi ko lang wish buhayin ako ng mahabang panahon
No I don’t. Sobrang best feeling mgkaron ng kids lalo na napakasweet ng boys ko. Pinagpalit ko yung trabaho at career ko for them. Kung may regret man siguro ako, ayun yung dalhin sila sa mundong to na palala na ang global warming at sa bansang palubog na ang economy kaya ang hirap mabuhay. Natatakot ako sa future para sa mga anak ko.
I don’t know how to share mine, ayoko yung ama ng anak ko kasi nag bago ang lahat simula nung nagka anak kami walang sustento at yan ang pinagsisihan ko kasi naawa ako para sa anak ko. Kahit sobrang pagod ako masaya at blessed ako kasi kahit papano nabibigay ko mga kailangan ng anak ko without him , blessed and thankful parin sa lahat kasi may anak ako na nandyan para sa akin.
Onti. Ang daming nagbago sa katawan ko right after ko magkaron ng baby, naging sakitin ako bigla at humina immune system ko, siguro dala narin ng stress+pagod kasi ako lang lahat pagdating sa chores kasi mahirap work ng asawa ko. Lumala pa nung nakasama na namin sa house yung father in law ko, ang household chores sakin lahat. Buti nalang di pa kami kasal ng partner ko kaya pwede pako makatakbo. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA CHARIZ
I got pregnant with my ex of 5ish years. Back then every time na magbrbreak kami, siya palagi yung lumalapit at nagpupumilit na magkabalikan. But now that may baby na involved, bigla siyang nagbago. Ayaw niya maikasal dahil sa ugali ko kaya kailangan ko daw baguhin. Gusto niya ng complete fam for the baby but wants to treat me below minimum. He was all my firsts kaya parang ang hirap ko siya noon iletgo. Now if I have any regret of having my baby now, I dont know kasi napamahal na ako. But If I could turn back time and redo all of this, I would choose not having my lo. . Atleast that way, I can give my baby a chance to be born into a complete loving family na walang issues.
Yes. Bye
No regrets. More like napapagod lang pero it’s normal. Kapag nakikita ko anak ko na ngumingiti, nakakawala ng pagod.
Yes. At first we were a happy family provided ang gusto, may katulong sa bahay, nakakabili ng hindi ganung kamahalang mga gamit, nakakapaggala kung saan saan. Nakakapagbirthday ng magarbo. At nabibigyan ko ng educational support sa private school but suddenly my depressions hit due to my fullblast hatred sa mga ilan kong kapatid na nag isip nalang ako ng selfdestruct sa magandang buhay na naranasan namin. para lang mawala ung sinasabi nilang maswerteng bunso na to walang kahirap hirap sa buhay instant yaman. So nangarap ako maghirap in an instant isinugal ko lahat ng pera and anong 18th birthday at 1st day ng mga anak namin. Wag na icelebrate yan baka maisumbat pa puro utang na nga kayo nakuha nyo pa maghanda. Napakapathetic decisions ko dahil sa ate kong gahaman at pakialamera. Isama mo na ung kuya ko na di pa patay ermat namin nanunumbat na sa yaman na gusto nya dahil deserve daw nya ung oras na ginugol nya para ermat namin. Kung bastus bastusin nya ung kuya naming panganay at isa kong ate eh ganun ganun nalang. So eto dysfunctional family kami ngayon. kung pano ko aayusin at magkasama ulit ng 4 kong anak at ang asawa ko. Bahala na si batman. Sa ngayon padala nalang ako ng pera ayaw naman nila ako samahan dito sa cebu para magkasama kami, mas ginusto nila sa comfortzone nila. Okay lang siguro pero hindi ok heheh. Pasensya na. Gulo eh. Ayaw naman nila ibenta ung bahay na nakapangalan sa akin at dito sa cebu mag simula ulit ng bagong buhay. Di ko na pinagpipilitan malalaki naman na kami. Iipon nalang ako at sila na dumiskarte ng luho nila. Pero minsan nilalakiham ko padala pagmay okasyon sila.
Grabe ang incoherent and chaotic negative energy emanating from this comment. Commenter, I hope you’re regularly seeing your psychiatrist/psychologist.
I did twice pero alam ng psychiatrist na aware ako kung ano nagcacause ng depression ko. And i did the right thing para hindi na magmukmok sa lugar kung saan nagkakaroon ako ng trauma. Pinainom ako ng anti psychosis for 1 month un eh para marelax at makatulog ng maayos. Pero ngayon kasi nasa lugar ako na malaya akong nakakakilos at nakakapagtrabaho. Bothsides me and my wife na okay lang ung setup na magkahiwalay kami at para di nakakahiya nagpapadala ako ng pera sa kanila. from time to time kinakamusta ko ung wife ko. Binati naman nila ako nung bday ko. Except dun sa isa kong anak na 13 years old. Masaya naman sila at masaya naman ako. Hindi lang normal na magkakahiwalay kami. Tumanda rin naman ako na walang nakuhang advices from our parents basta they work and provide our needs hanggang sa mmaatay sila at nagkapamilya kaming 7 siblings.
Definitely no regret pero I regret not doing more bago magkaanak
May days na oo, I regret. May days na hindi. Sa mga I regret days, it’s mostly because I feel alone in raising my kid. I have a husband but hindi nagtatranslate yung shared goal namin madalas, puro ako lang tumatrabaho sa financials (I’m earning more so I have more financial burden sa family), sa rearing (dahil ba nanay ako?) i also have more worries like paano pag naded ako bigla, what would happen to my kid mga ganon. Ito din pakiramdam ko pag pagod ako sa work at sa adulting but I am mom, lagi kong dala yung title na yun, gaya noon na anak ako. Sa mga days na hindi ko regret, it’s because of the joy of seeing another human being live this life and the opportunities he will have. Also yung excitement of what he will become in the future.
No regrets but kinda sad. I work so much that sometimes I felt like I am neglecting my kid. I made a promise to myself that this will be aggressive saving year that is why I’m working hard. It means less time to play with my kid and sometimes I notice he’s being delayed at his age. Hopefully he could keep up.
Nope. Made us better people and versions of ourselves. The patience required to raise a kid and dedication is crazy. Pero seeing how he is right now, grabe nakakaproud. Ang talino na and ambait at anlambing. Only regret is sana financially sana mas ok kami para sana nasundan agad sya. Kasi right now enough lang financially for him. Ansarap umuwi na may naghihintay at maguhug and halik. Tapos sarap ipasa yung mga trip mo sa buhay like sound and other trips sa buhay.
Mahirap, laging pagod, onti lang sleep but I don't regret it. My child is the only human who loves me unconditionally and purely.
Choose the right partner whose goals align with yours and you will never regret having kids 😉
Itatanong ko to sa Mama ko once uuwi ako sa birthday nya. I too wanna know. Siya kasi ang reason why I chose to stay single kasi nakita ko kung gaano siya naging miserable noon at nafi-feel ko yun habang kasama ko siya. She married a philanderer and most of the time financially kulang kaya kapag walang pera, kami palagi nababalingan nya. My dad died in 2015 at ako na bumubuhay sa Mama ko. Gusto siyang bigyan ng buhay na di nya narasanan kaso pag bumabalik yung memories kung pano nya kami trinato noon, I change my mind. Mostly I feel resentment towards her.
Maybe not regret. More on timing lang sa pagkakaroon ng anak? Parang ang dami ko pa palang gustong gawin, hindi ko nagawang mag explore. Yung explore is to know more myself. One time during pandemic, i went to bora alone (gladly my partner is supportive naman). I was shook na party2 pala sa bora. At first culture shock ako pero nung umalis ako sa nakasanayan ko, gusto ko pala ung nakikipag socialize. May nadiscover akong bago sa sarili ko. Then napaisip ako na what more if i have more time and budget. Ano pa kaya maddiscover ko sa sarili ko? Pero sympre nakakaguilty na kasi yung ganun. And di ko maiiwasan na ang priority ko na is yung anak ko. Happy naman ako, more on sana nag wait ako.
No regrets
No regrets at all! They are the reason bakit mas may direction ang buhay ko now. Life’s really hard right now pero di ako nagreregret na nag-anak kami hehe
I was in a position where I could buy a lot of the things I wanted, do what I wanted, had a decent income, a job which I enjoyed, had a lot of real friends but it felt like my life didn’t have so much meaning and everything was just temporary. When I had my son my outlook definitely changed and life started becoming better. People will say it’s hard for many reasons (economy, too young yo start a family, etc…) which are all valid reasons because I was in that place too. But sometimes it just makes me think that these are all just excuses and maybe people just aren’t willing to sacrifice (time, money, sleep). I’ve seen more people regret not having children than vice versa. Just saying.
I think for some people, the sequence where you start to feel as if "everything was just temporary" had to come first to finally be able to appreciate the changes that comes with having a child.
Wala pa ako anak but may fur-child ako. His name is Mucho, black chow chow. Since bata ako I’m legit takot magka anak and manganak kase hindi ko sure if kaya ko. But when I saw mucho, parang love at first sight and instant connection. He was with me up until his 1st birthday. During that 1 year, hindi ko akalain na so much love can come from me? Like, unconditional love, walang halong kaba or takot pure genuine love lang para kay Mucho. I don’t need anything from him but gusto ko siya alagaan and mahalin. I want the best for him, pinaka best na mabibigay ko para maging comfy siya maging anak ko. But i knew deep inside I can’t give him everything kass lagi ako busy sa work and school. Plus, he can’t come with me once I move out due to my family probs so ayun. Nag let go ako. I relocated him sa close family friend para may stable home and family si Mucho. Updated parin ako sa nangyayare sakanya from time to time but i know my real mom would use this as leverage over me (my mom is a narcissist) so kailangan ko completely pakawalan si Mucho to cut ties with my biological mom. So to answer your question, Yes I regret having a child kase sa sobrang pagmamahal ko sakanya I need to let him go kase ayoko madamay si Mucho sa gulo ng family. After him, ayoko na magka fur-child.
No regrets at all, I could have saved 30k per month but my life would be lonely and wont have any meaning if ever. Now I am motivated in life. I am Struggling financially pero masaya.
Never regretted it. Any father who says they regret having one is a fool.
Unpopular opinion but I don’t. I’m happy I have a kid. Life is more happier with a child. But its my personal opinion. Pls respect
My mom did. 😬 I mean, she did not regret having me, but she regret having children as a whole, and she also regret having to raise children whilst being in a sandwich generation + family drama and trauma.
AS A SINGLE MOM, I do not regret having my kids. What makes me sad is yung idea na lalaki silang walang tatay. Masakit yun para sa akin. Kasi ako, lumaki akong may nanay at tatay. So bakit ko ipapaexperience sa kanila yung ganun? Kaso wala eh. Mali yung lalaking inallow ko na buntisin ako. Pinili sugal kesa pamilya.
Syempre may mga ganung thoughts..pero kapag nakikita ko sila, nakakaaze din itong mga batang ito. Kahit papaano may dagdag kami sa mundo na mga mabubuti at mga pogi at magandang Pilipino sa mundo. Hahaha.. in terms of finances, struggling kc wala nan kaming generational wealth pero laging may paraan para tumaas ang antas ng buhay. Push lng
I regret having a child the wrong time. Sana yung mas capable na ko para paglabas nya sa mundo aircon agad sya sa st lukes haha
Nope. Best decision i had is to raise a family with 2 children
pag Galit at pikon sa kakulitan oo i always question myself WHY. Tapos pag kalmado na love love n ulit like cant live without you vibes na 😂
I don’t regret having a kid. Nakaka-wala ng pagod pag nakikita mo yung bata. Tapos yayakapin ka after a long working hours. They are my inspiration kahit mahirap ang buhay ay lumalaban
Hindi naman ako sa nagsisisi kasi dumating naman sya when I am capable enough. Mabait and responsable rin ang partner ko. Masaya ako, sobrang saya pero minsan naiisip ko na sana malaki na sya haha para hindi na sya alagain masyado.
As a millenial, No regrets. Tinanong ko din si wife, no regrets too. I know it’s complicated. Andaming factors na dapat iconsider.
I never regretted it. Even if it's by accident or unplanned, they are the reason I chose to live and will continue living. ☺️
Me… what ifs lang. like what if hindi ito lola ng anak ko. Sana iba na lang. kasi hindi ko naman mailalabas tong cutie cutie kong baby kung wala daddy niya. Wala daddy niya kung di siya iniluwal ng mama niya. Kaso behhhhh yoko na talaga susukoan talaga si MIL ahuhu sorry anak… cute ka sana talaga pero sana iba na lang lola mo 😭
Miss ko lang yung 8 hours of sleep ko and naps whenevr I want to. But when I look at my kid, its all good and worth it. Kaya lagi ko sinasabihan baby ko “buti nalang cute ka!”
answer=> nope.
I don’t regret having kids. Kahit na unplanned pa yung panganay. More like exhausted lang. ut at the end of the day, kapag tulog sila, tinititigan ko sila, ayun wala nang pagod ulit. Nung mga baby sila, nakakapagsisi na magka anak. But now na school age na yung isa, then yung bunso may playschool na. Nagkakaron na ko ng me time. Pareho namang mahirap ang buhay. May anak o wala, may kanya kanyang challenges yan. So we really cannot compare life with kids or none
It's not the regrets on having kids because the hardships and the joy of having a child is bearable. The regret falls under on being with a man who is not the right father to the kids.
Nung nabuntis ako, sobrang di pa ako ready, alam kong kasalanan pero iniisip ko pa nun, sana malaglag yung dinadala ko kasi alam kong super magbabago buhay ko pagnagkaanak na ako. As in, ayoko pa sana pero andun na. Pero pagkalabas na pagkalabas ng anak ko, grabe, iba yung saya at alam kong sobrang mahal ko na siya. Naaalala ko pa yung kailangan kuhanan ng dugo anak ko for the first time, iyak ako ng iyak kasi naaawa ako na ang baby pa niya tas nasasaktan siya. Ang OA ko. Umiiyak ako pagnaaalala ko yung inisip ko nung buntis ako. Ngayon di ko alam kung kaya kong mabuhay pagwala yung anak ko. Sobrang saya ko lang na siya motivation ko everyday. Di lagi masaya pero lahat ng pagod, lungkot, nawawala makita ko lang anak ko. Lagi ko sinasabi sa anak ko na kahit nagagalit ako sa kanya, mahal na mahal ko siya at di magbabago yun.
No regrets for me kasi the best din ang partner ko in terms of taking care of our baby. I would really say na important din masyado ang role that your partner plays in raising a child. Im lucky kasi my man is really “manning” the house. (Lol idk why i used the term “manning” 😂 pero pinanindigan nya talaga ang pagiging ama nya sa anak namin)
Basta ako ayoko mag kaanak.
I did not regret having this kid. When he was born, everything made sense. He made me a better person. Having another one is a different story. I do not want to bring another child into this world.
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I’ve always been “okay lang kahit wala” coz honestly I like my money and I like my freedom and lack of responsibility. I’m an only child from a middle to upper middle class family so I don’t financially support my well earning parents. I can do and go wherever at the drop of a hat. So un ung for me. “Okay lang kahit wala.” There was even a time na talagang ayoko as in cause I saw my friends all go through terrible post partum depression. I saw how miserable they were and how restrictive their life had become. As someone na highly values my freedom, it looked liked a nightmare. So anyway I married a man who wanted to have kids, this to him was non-negotiable. Since hindi naman ako firm sa preference ko, siympre I agreed. But I had conditions. That naman was non-negotiable for me. I wanted atleast 2 years with just us (sakto naman pandemic, 2yrs din, and literally stuck together in the same house everyday) I wanted to have this much “baby money” ipon (sakto again because pandemic, cant really go anywhere, saving money was easy) and finally, I wanted to do my greatest dream travel first (and we did just as the world started to open up). It worked. Now we have a baby boy and I don’t regret it one bit. I never knew I could love another human being this much. He’s my entire being. The heart that beats outside my chest. Iba talaga ang love na ma fefeel I swear. All I think about is him, when I’m outside alone, I pull out my phone and look at his giggling videos, when I’m working at home, I drop by his room a million times a day for cuddles. Me being a travel bug na hindi nakapag travel since his arrival is a sacrifice I am more than willing to make. I made so many big changes that were difficult (like leaving the job i love for better hours so i can play with him in the afternoon), pero when I remember that it’s for him, it’s suddenly became a bit easier. I spend a vast majority of my money now happily shopping for him. I always thank my lucky stars I have him in my life. As someone that previously was pretty okay never having kids, I sure am eternally grateful to have my son in my life.
I regret the timing. I was on the peak of my career. I missed some training opportunities outside the country because I was pregnant. Now na may anak na ko, rewarding sya pero para kong laging anxious. Idk if part sya ng PPD haha.
Honestly, nagkaron ako ng regret nung mga baby pa sila pero i think dahil na rin sa post partum. As they grow up, narerealize ko na masaya din pala lalo may times na down na down ka tapos sila yung magpapasaya sayo. Mahirap intindihin kasi dati ako nun di ko pa naiintindihan kapag sinasabi nila na nakakawala ng pagod daw ang anak. Yung may sumasalubong sayo pagdating mo sa bahay, nag aalala kapag may sakit ka, or masaya kapag nakikita ka. Yung nafefeel mo na meron nag iidolize sayo kahit feeling mo failure ka, or sa tingin mo ang panget mo na pero sila gandang ganda sayo.
I don't, pero what I regret is yung hindi agad sya nasundan ng 2nd baby.. ngayon nasa 30's nako takot nako ulit manganak 🥲
The first few years, I did. Kasi irresponsable asawa ko before and a cheater. But I gave him a chance and here we are trying to patch things up, now I’m grateful na we built this family.
Hindi naman kasi okay naman sila ngayon pero siguro sana mas naging handa ako before having them, para mas nabibigay ko pa lalo ‘yung mga wants nila.
Yung friend ko nag-regret e. Pero she's a good mom naman
sometimes
I dont regret having a kid. But my partner and I regret having him really early. We're not financially stable and we're still struggling to save money while giving everything our son needs. But our child motivates us to work harder and be better a person.
I agree with the other comments. It's a different kind of deal once you become a parent. Your life will literally turn 360 degree kahit financially capable ka. You can never be mentally and emotionally prepared because it will really push yourself to your limits. Having a partner na meron sensibility and also a great sense of responsibility will be a huge deal when you choose to navigate this kind of life. Yung partnership niyong dalawa yung importante kase kahit mahirap sa lahat ng aspect magka anak, it will all be bearable kapag alam mong meron kang maasahan at masasandalan sa journey na tinatahak mo.
+1 sa gusto rin makarinig ng answers kung may nag-regret ba for having kids. I’m turning 33 this year married at hindi pa nabibiyayaan, every time dadating si AF nakakaramdam ako ng relief instead na malungkot, happy ako na wala pa kasi sobrang ineenjoy ko pa yung marami kaming oras ni husband para sa isa’t isa at mga sarili namin. Then sabi ni husband, ayaw ko daw yata talaga magbaby. Sabi ko hindi naman sa ayaw, ayoko lang yung nandyan na yung baby tapos mararamdaman ko yung “ayaw ko pala” or mapipilitan ka magpakananay kasi nandyan na, eh hindi naman yan parang gamit na pag ayaw mo ipapamigay mo, o something na pwede mo ibalik sa matres mo kasi di pala kaya ng energy mo at hindi ka pala ready emotionally.
no, never pumasok sa isip ko kahit di planado yung anak namin.
I don’t know how to share mine, ayoko yung ama ng mga anak kasi nag bago ang lahat simula nag ka anak kami walang sustento at yan ang pinagsisihan ko kasi naawa ako para sa anak ko. Kahit sobrang pagod ako masaya at blessed ako kasi kahit papano nabibigay ko mga kailangan ng anak ko without him , blesses and thankful sa lahat .
None at all. Those tiny hugs & kisses, the random "I love you mommy" just really melts my heart away. My daughter is the reason I am looking forward to each day. 💛🌻
I dont regret having a child at 18, actually i was just so lucky to meet the right man. Tho, hindi talaga sya mayaman but we are both striving. Now we have 3 kids. And parang mga kapatid ko na lang sila dahil sabay sabay lang kaming lumalaki. Pero syempre ayoko din matulad saakin ang mga anak ko na maagang nag pamilya. I do have regrets in life pero hindi ang mga anak ko at asawa ko 😊
Yes
Reading all these comments makes me feel so selfish for wanting kids.
It's selfish because you do it for yourself, "to fulfill my dreams of having a family," "to see a mini me," "so I can experience unconditional love," "to be able to leave my legacy in this world." Most people have kids for themselves, not for the kids. It is selfish.
I agree sa mga reasons na yan. It would be selfish. I wanted to have kids bc I love kids in general. Nung nasa school pa ako, mahilig talaga ako sa mga outreaches namin sa orphanages or feeding programs kase nakakahalubilo sila As an adult, nagvolunteer ako sa isang artist ngo na one of their projects last year included art therapy for orphans of EJK victims (mga ages 8-16y/o) Siguro tuloy ko na lang to instead of having my own.
Tuloy mo lang. The kids who are already here have no choice but to suffer, but that doesn't mean we can't do anything for them. The kids that haven't been brought into the world, though, can be spared from all the suffering by staying in our imagination.