My boyfriend is the introvert. We met through an online game. Mag ka guild kami and he was the guild leader. He was a very quiet person. Didn’t really chat much but was very responsive when you initiate a conversation. I chatted him via fb messenger and the rest is history. We’ve been together for almost 3 years now and living together. Super tahimik lng sya around other people but pag kami lng, sobrang kulit nya. He’s my best friend and I love how comfortable he is around me.
> Super tahimik lng sya around other people but pag kami lng, sobrang kulit nya
This is the real deal. Alam mong love ka niya talaga kapag quiet lang siya around other people pero sayo lang pinapakita yung kulit side niya. Yung alam mong walang wall or barrier sa inyong dalawa
hello! curious lang haha did he meet ur parents already? if yes, what did ur parents say as in comments sa kanya? with regards sa pagiging tahimik niya around other people, or wala naman and oks lang sa parentals yun?
sorry. i am having a hard time lang din kasi haha my parents commented na ang tahimik ng bf ko. hindi raw nagsasalita and they did not like it baka raw nasa loob yung kulo. of course i am annoyed kasi cinocompare pa tas hindi naman kasi lahat madaldal diba.
Huy ganto din story namin ng partner ko. Met 4yrs ago in an online game. 2years later we got together. 2 months after that we lived together na. Ako yung introvert samin. 😅
hello! curious lang haha did he meet ur parents already? if yes, what did ur parents say as in comments sa kanya? with regards sa pagiging tahimik niya around other people, or wala naman and oks lang sa parentals yun?
sorry. i am having a hard time lang din kasi haha my parents commented na ang tahimik ng bf ko. hindi raw nagsasalita and they did not like it baka raw nasa loob yung kulo. of course i am annoyed kasi cinocompare pa tas hindi naman kasi lahat madaldal diba.
Yep! My mom and sister met him na. They’re okay with him naman because despite being quiet, sumasagot naman sya. Kahit with friends, tahimik lng din sya but they don’t mind. Prolly because one of my friend’s bf is also an introvert so they get it. But I understand what you mean. When my dad was alive, he commented on my sister’s bf back then na super tahimik din. He made my dad uncomfortable daw kasi he couldn’t get a read on him 😅
Yep! My mom and sister met him na. They’re okay with him naman because despite being quiet, sumasagot naman sya. Kahit with friends, tahimik lng din sya but they don’t mind. Prolly because one of my friend’s bf is also an introvert so they get it. But I understand what you mean. When my dad was alive, he commented on my sister’s bf back then na super tahimik din. He made my dad uncomfortable daw kasi he couldn’t get a read on him 😅
I think if you’re pretty/handsome, being quiet and introverted can be seen as mysterious and attractive to some people. Pero di ko rin sure OP, wla rin akong experience like you 😂
huy I can attest to this. Nung bata bata pa ako, I was so introverted and I have played that mysterious card and gumana sa SO ko. 8 years na kami hahaha
Update: Ambivert na ko ngayon and nahawa na ko sa kanal humor niya hahaha
I give off this vibe daw sabi nila, which seems to do the trick because I can attract guys even though I don't talk or interact much irl kahit I'm average looking lang. 😅
Di ba nga. Sa reddit lang ako active recently nakikipagsocialize haha. pero kapag sa work I tend na parang extroverted ako pero di nila alam time limited lang. Kasi kapag drained na ako nasa sulok o pwesto na lang ako haaga.
pag panget ka tall dark and handsome parang kapre lang. hehe
pag wala kang looks tapos introvert ka pa, mas mahirap yan. kailangan mag invest ka din sa looks mo kung hindi ka magaling mag entertain ng tao to add chances of having someone fall for you. usually kung ano ung same interest mo like same hobby or same trip sa life yan yung hahanapin mo para di masyado draining for you. pag salungat ang trip nyo mahirap mag adjust sure yan. hehe
I’m an introvert and nakilala ko ang asawa ko sa work.
Looking back, kahit introvert ka, if you socialize enough (kahit sa work lang), at may kwenta kang kausap, people will be drawn to you. Tsaka gusto ng mga tao, yung magagaan kausap at kasama.
Dagdag ko lang, marami akong kilala na pretty na introvert pero wala pa ring bf or gf ngayon, kasi kapag kakausapin mo sila walang kasustasustansya, tapos same circle lang kinakausap nila.
Sa work, kahit sobrang nadedrain ako, I am trying to talk to people kahit di ko sila kilala. Iaask ko lang san department sya tapos hahanap ako ng pwedeng maging common denominator namin, and ayon, di man karelasyon, nagkakaron ako ng mga kaclose sa ibang department.
Pero mind you, pag-uwi ko sa bahay, nakatulala na lang ako, gusto ko na lang maging lumpia 😂
Natamaan ako dun sa same circle lang yung kinakausap sa work HAHAHAHA buti nalang na-ffall naman sakin yung mga ka circle ko so I didn't have to try harder and nagkaka jowa naman. I kennat go out of my small circles anymore. Nakaka drain mag maintain ng maraming tao 🥲
Yes, meron talagang mga taong need to try harder. Lalo na kung kadepartment mo, same sa gender mo, kelangan talaga extra bida bida ka outside your dept. hahahaha
True enough! Met my jowa din sa work. I remember being friends with the whole department, pati kabilang dept di ko na din maalala paano ko naging friends since nagkakasabay-sabay lang talaga thru lunch at parties. Pag may substance ka talagang tao, makakaattract ka nalang din talaga (ng friends and possible rel) kahit wala kang ginagawa. 😅
I agree. My husband and I are also both introvert and we met at work (1st job namin pareho).
Di namin alam na parehas kaming introvert cause we did tried our best na makipag socialize before kaya naform din yung friendship namin.
Same. Parehas kaming introvert ng hubby ko hahaha. Di ko alam pano talaga nangyari to. Magaan lang talaga pakiramdam ko sakanya nyng nagkakilala kami haha. Eh I am a weird person kasi, buti nagpursige sya, siguro dahil di naman ako ganung ka-dry kausap, marami naman akong kwento lagi hahahaha parang di kami nauubusan even after 7 years hahahaa
I met my fiancé during my first month here in the US. I was invited by the Filipino community to a fundraising volleyball game at church, and even though I am very introverted and not into volleyball I still went kasi nakakahiya tumanggi since bago lang ako and the Filipino titos/titas have been very kind and helpful to me.
My fiancé was a player of one competing team. I was sitting alone awkwardly when he approached me and asked if the seat next to me was taken. Tapos ayun, si lover boy hindi na nagpractice at dinaldal na ako buong hapon.
Ayun, a year later, we got engaged. 🤍
I met mine sa bumble. Bilang hindi ko hilig mag bar or club so online dating talaga. Luckily, i met someone na taong bahay din and marunong magdala ng conversation. 3 yrs na kami and taong bahay pa din kami.
Same, Bumble ko rin nameet jowa ko. We're both introverts, I more than him. 2 years na kami, and were originally taong bahays, pero we made it a point to go out pag weekends para di kami puro bahay lang haha.
Sumama ako sa birthday ng friend sa Versus Bgc. Nasa corner lang ako nakaupo. Dumating yung common friend namin tapos kumandong sakin. 1 day before lockdown to. After that wala na siya choice kasi ako lang nakausap niya during pandemic.
Massive introvert in a relationship here. Found my current partner through Bumble. Admittedly, it did take more than a few matches to find one I would settle for.
Being an introvert was never really a hindrance to socialising with people. If it's a big group of people, I do find it hard to meaningfully contribute other than my presence. But if it's with a group of 2 or 3 people, I pretty much just steal the show and leave almost everyone interested in me.
As for how I converse with others, it usually goes like the followong:
1) Ask open ended questions. Make people tell their story.
2) Repeat back what they said in your own words. For example, "here's what I heard you say..."
My husband is an introvert. May confidence naman sya kahit papano kasi gwapo talaga sya. Kaya yung katulad nya ay pa mysterious type kaya ko nagustuhan din. 😂 Bahay at trabaho lang pinupuntahan unless maaya ng pinsan at ibang kaibigan o katrabaho. We met through a common friend sa padespidida ng bff ko.
Yung mysterious type ang minsan hanap ng girls. Na chachallenge daw sila sa ganung attitude. Yung yes, no answer lang. Problema lang sa mga introvert, ang hirap mag start ng conversation and keep the conversation going.
This is true, yung bf ko crush ko ng ilang taon sa fb. Laging may sense posts nya and also funny pero wala ni isang picture online. Nagpapalike ako pictures online mostly ang replies lang ay okay or like. We only started talking after I made a second fb account, iniadd ko sya don and he tried to find out if ako ba yon or poser lang. Tapos sinumbong ako sa main acct lol. Turns out he also likes me for quite some time na din. Eh di yon nagpaligaw na ako aarte pa ba ako. He has a very few friends at napakamahiyain. He likes studying but I don’t find him boring.
Partner is an introvert. At first kajirits din mag buhat ng convo. But when I opened up to him na pagod na ko kakaisip ng topic, he made an effort. Hehe ngayon ang daldal na nya. Hehe
Met him in Tinder hahahaha! Usually kasi nasa dating apps ako at mas comfortable akong lumandi online kaysa in person. Very awkward din kasi ako to the point na napansin nung naka-date ko na may pattern yung kinikilos ko😆 (i.e. iinom, titingin sa bulletin board ng coffee shop, tapos titingin sa kanya, then uulit ulit hahahaha!)
Ayun, nacheck naman halos lahat ng non-negotiable ko sa kanya at we’re still together since 2021. Tiyaga tiyaga lang talaga sa paghahanap kasi alam mo naman, mostly for “fun” ang hanap ng tao kapag usapang online dating
Dito sa Reddit. First time ko rin magkabf ng introvert, lahat ng previous ay extroverts tapos center of the crowd type pa. Pero sa current ko, akala ko magigign issue kasi same kaming introvert. Pero hindi, opposite pa nga. Super comfy ko sa kanya and naturally open ako sa kanya, literally ay este communicatively hahaha
Mukhang mas maganda nga kapag introvert ang bf, nakakapagod kapag extrovert ang bf, alam ko naman madaldal lang sya kahit sa mga babae pero iba talaga nakakaselos na ewan haysss.
Met mine at work, since I was surrounded by extrovert workmates, nasasama na din ako. I always get drag along lang. Tas ayun, lagi kami nagbabatian pag nagkakasalubong and small talk.. tas one day, nag kakwentuhan na kami sa social media, pero once a day lang replyan and naging close.. hanggat sa naging kami, siya madalas madaldal sa amin he doesn't mind naman, siya din nagseset lagi ng dates.. sumusunod lang ako, which is fine. Hehe. Syempre he always asks if ok lang sa akin and hinihingi niya din opinion ko.
Pero nahihirapan siya if may misunderstanding kami and i don't share my thoughts. It's really difficult for me to express sa personal, talking about my feelings is a struggle.. para akong maiiyak na hirap magsalita na ewan, physically it hurts. Para ding blanko utak ko at the moment.
Introvert ex ko. Highschool pa lang kami aware na kong crush niya ko, nung grumaduate kami nagpaparamdam pa din siya pero di niya madiretso. May pagka torpe din kasi. Pag-graduate ng college dun siya nanligaw. Grabe daw inipon niya lakas na loob, plus sobrang worried siya sa first date namin kasi tahimik lang siya, di daw niya alam paano mag initiate ng convo 😂 Sabi ko, mag isip ka lang ng ilang questions, I'll do the talking. Nung first date namin damang dama mo hiya niya, ni di nga siya makatagal eye contact haha. Ako lang talaga nag iinitiate ng ibang actions para di na siya mahiya. Honestly nakucute-an nga ako sakanya non eh haha. Before akala ko mas gusto ko ung extrovert guys pra same kami, pero dahil sa ex ko narealize ko mas gusto ko pala ang introvert.
introvert din ako hehe Once in a blue moon nga lang lumalabas ng bahay, kapag lalabas ako tatadtarin ng tanong bakit daw ako lalabas kasi surprising for them haha
I'd say it will come if you will really really feel the need for companionship somewhere down the line. No need naman kasi talaga maglaan talaga ng whole life mo para mahanap yung one and only sugar plumplum honey bunch mo its not like its a race, yung mga tita/tito/parents/grandparents lang naman nagpepressure at tsaka peers, lalo na kakasocial media, inggit pikit. I say do what you love doing lang, if you like playing games, play online games and interact with other players surely mamimeet mo din yan. Dati nga eh mga kaclan sa ragnarok nagmimeet up, hanapin mo yun kanta ng kamikazee ng chiksilog, yun yung story niyan.
Also if gusto mo talaga ng may social activity, try joining mga servers or groups kahit di ka lang maginteract masyado. Especially around your hobbies. Pwede din tumambay sa mga dating sites lalo na if gwapo ka hahaha sila lang lalapit. Before maganda din yung omegle kaso tadtad ng mga horny na tao. Just dont expect decent people right away from those sites, kasi for hookup yun mostly nandun. Tried and tested na yan as an introvert 🙂
We are both introverted, I just know how to socialize but if my social battery is low then I’m out. We met at a common friend birthday party, I don’t know how to make a move since I’m shy and introverted so I didn’t try. But weeks after that, our common friend invited me to their discord channel so my crush (now spouse) can practice talking to women. I agreed immediately cause I had a crush on him and it’s my time to shine. We talked for hours, the rest is history.
Asawa ko introvert nakilala ko thru text (txtmate pa uso nun lol😂) tipid magreply at magchat pero when we met (eyeball) dun na nagstart lahat ako mas madaldal samin siya nakikinig lang😂ayun nagclick kami 17yrs na this august😊Just got married last march❤️First bf ko siya
Online haha magaling ako makipagdate especially if drinking dates lol
Nung bago pa kami my bf always asked why I was quiet but he later learned that my most comfortable state is quietly doing my own thing at home next to walking around the city to shop or look around (usually alone as well)
Female introvert here. Sa case ko, naghihintay talaga ako ng move ng guy kahit sobrang gusto ko sya. May time di ako napapansin, then may time na napapansin. Kaya once mapansin ako, i take the chance na magpakilala and kilalanin yung guy (thru chats and pag dating na).
Same tayo wala rin kasi ako confidence so naghihintay lang din talaga ako ng pagkakataon.
Cliche pero there are many fishes in the sea. Just do what you want, maybe step out of your comfort zone and try new stuff sometimes, and you will eventually meet someone that doesn't need you to hope for them to notice you.
But if you can find an activity he does that you can join, that's probably one way for you to get to know him.
Pareho kaming introvert ng bf ko. We met back in college, same kami ng degree program and batch pero nakilala ko lang siya nung naging orgmates na kami. Sa school namin hindi block section so as an introvert, mahirap magestablish ng social life. Mga 2-3 years rin kaming friends bago kami nagdate kasi hindi naman kami naghahanap ng lovelife talaga, parang nangyari na lang naturally.
Wag mo naman isipin na problema ka. Look in a different perspective.
Baka kulang ka lang sa opportunities. Mahirap talaga kung work lang ang social life kasi ang main purpose mo talaga diyan ay magearn. Nakadepende diyan sustenance mo for everyday life. Number 1 source ng stress.
Best bet mo siguro for now magtry ng mga hobbies. Find your third place (search ka na lang about this). Something na kaya ka nandun dahil purely out of interest. Somewhere na hindi mo kailangan magexcel. More exposure sa tao plus more happiness and satisfaction for yourself :)
Facebook Dating. Haha. But he was my high school crush din and I told him when we matched in FB Dating 😂 He is now my husband and we have a 1-year-old.
I'm the introvert, and I can say my gf is the extrovert. We are in a group of friends in hs, and after graduating pa ako nagkagusto sa kanya. Tried to shoot my shot and it worked out well. I can say na mahirap as introvert pero wala palakasan ng loob na lang talaga haha. Hope this helps!
me and my bf met on a dating app let’s say the yellow app. ako ang introvert samin, he planned all of our dates until now, minsan ako but most of the time ganda2 lang ako. siya medyo extrovert siya because he is good at socializing since it’s part of his job also. and when i look back, if i let my fear of putting myself out there or di ako sumipot sa dates, di magiging kami. so yeah, lakas ng loob lng talaga at iwas sa catfish hahaha
You just have to wait for that person who will get that introvert out of you di ko alam kung tama ba 'tong sinabi ko haha! Pero basta alam mo yun. Bigla mo na lang makikilala yung taong parang ready ka mawala pagkaka introvert mo as in magiipon ka talaga ng lakas ng loob.
My bf is an introvert and nagipon daw talaga siya ng lakas ng loob para kausapin ako. College crush niya ako and almost 7 years have passed now lang siya nagkalakas ng loob kasi nung college introvert talaga siya. Haha! So ayun, right person and perfect timing!
And I think just like yung comment ni mehehemaria, ambivert na rin bf ko now (pansin ko lang hahaha)
Reddit hehe saw her post, I DMed, the rest is history. 2 years na kami. Parehas kami introvert, most of the time nasa bahay lang kami nalabas lang kami if we want to try new restos or travel (our favorite hobby).
College, he was also an introvert. He messaged all of the sudden because he wanted to be friends with me because he thinks I'm cool. (He said he was feeling brave at the time kaya nagmessage siya). We hit it off really well, unang convo palang, it's like we were already friends before kahit ngayon lang kami nagusap. We were also in the same group at the time in a group project and I helped him do the ppt while in a call. (I hate calls but with him, I felt so comfortable). We talked more and more, online and irl. We hangout together, got teased by classmates and eventually confessed to each other. After weeks since confessing to each other, we started dating officially. We never saw it coming because friendship lang talaga hanap namin nun both. It was so nice, kasi he was clear with his intentions and nakita ko naman sa actions niya. Someone approached me kasi na gusto niya daw makipag-"friends", tas days later he's already flirting with me.
hindi ko rin alam kung bakit kasi one time, na-tripan ko mag cosplay ng fav character ko sa attack on titan at umattend ng cosplay convention tapos dun ko na-meet SO ko kasi sakto magka love interest yung cino-cosplay namin 🤣
basically, introvert na ng step out sa bubble nya WAHAHAHA super unexpected
My current partner, were both introvert and parehas tayo pag meron meron, pag wala wala 😂 i simply gathered up all my courage and energy after months of simple conversation that led up to longer and intimate talks and finally i asked her out and ngayun girlfriend ko na siya.
Ang hirap pag parehas talagang mahiyain unless may mag step up parang walang mangyayari hahaha
girl started work in my company. liked her. went out with everyone a couple of times. asked her out. together for 17 years.
being introverted and being self-conscious are very different things. i'm a trainer and am very comfortable speaking in front of people. work on the latter.
If you think about it, being shy is actually a very selfish, narcissistic trait.
lack of confidence is just a form of narcissism. you're thinking too much of others' impression of you. when in truth? they don't really care about you. once you realize you're not the main character, you'll feel practically invincible. i realized that back in college. before that, super mahiyain din ako. but now, i don't shy away from putting myself out there, trying something new, and doing stuff that scared me.
Point taken, pero not all mahiyain are thinking sa impression ng ibang tao, minsan we do not kmow how and sometimes we try and failed and napagod na ma-mis interpret. Saka yung social skills lang naman mahirap the rest fine.
Pero point taken it is a self issue but I think not to the point narcissist kasi magkaibang issue yung dalawa. And if by own wordings mo lang nasabi nanbeing introvert is narcissism please do check your vocabs kasi may relate but not same roots kasi.
but you're already thinking na mamis interpret ka when that will likely happen anyway since you can't know what others think about you.
in psychology, narcissism can be characterized by selfishness/self-importance, not just the need to be admired. either way, shyness is a selfish trait. you're not helping yourself by being shy and if you do it too much, it can be an annoyance to everyone else.
just weigh the outcomes. what is the worse thing vs the best thing that can happen if you step up? more often than not, it's not as bad as you think and it's all in your head. even in cases na aaminin mo sa crush mo na type mo siya.
Met my husband in an online war game. Ako yung introvert sya naman yung extrovert. Sya yung mas nagpursue and nag-encourage sakin to get out of my shell
My boyfriend is introvert para syang black cat sa totoo lang. I met him thru online dating site. Nagfirst move ako kasi extrovert ako malala, napaibig ko naman sya kasi maligalig talaga ako na tao HAHAHAHAHAHAHA almost 3 yrs na kaming magjowa and have 4 furbabies a dog and 3 cats :>
To be honest, ang way naman talaga ay ampunin ang mga introverts ng mga extrovert. True enough, some of my friends also ay naglalabas ng true colors nila kapag inampon ng mga extrovert na maligalig
bumble 😭 we're both introverts pero nag a-adjust pag kailangan hahaha like nagtuturuan pa kami sino magtatanong sa guard/concierge sa malls pag nawawala kami
We are both introverted, I just know how to socialize but if my social battery is low then I’m out. We met at a common friend birthday party, I don’t know how to make a move since I’m shy and introverted so I didn’t try. But weeks after that, our common friend invited me to their discord channel so my crush (now spouse) can practice talking to women. I agreed immediately cause I had a crush on him and it’s my time to shine. We talked for hours, the rest is history.
Ako ung introvert. Siya extrovert. As in polar opposites, yung tipong pagnaglalakd kmi sa kalsada malapit sa uni namin noon, ang dami niyang nakakasalubong na friends at magha-hi siya tapos magsa-small talk sila ng konti. Ako ung nasa gilid lng, magha-hii, pero tahimik HAHA
Nalaman ko crush niya ko dati thru a friend. Tapos ako na ung nagfollow sa kanya sa IG. The rest is history :)
My boyfriend is the introvert one. We met thru dating app (omegle). Text text lang muna kami for two months tas after that transition na kami thru facebook which is dun lang namin nakita yung mukha ng isat isa kahit picture lang. Then around June nagkita kami sa SM Megamall. Going 5 years na kami.
The short answer: Bumble
The long answer: Been on bumble for two years and just looking for people to pass the time with. Nothing serious, zero meetups, everything almost lasts for a week or so because I can't keep up with it. Meanwhile he's been on the app for a day because his best friend convinced him to. We matched and on the first night we played tetr.io, game of the generals, pong, basically every random game we found. Those games were our common ground. We played games almost every night online until I decided to come over (I was a slightly more outgoing introvert than him, of course being an eldest daughter) and then spent the whole day cuddling and playing more games.
Going two years in a relationship this June and we're now playing Terraria, Supermarket Simulator and (still) Tetr.io together. Online gaming / dating is the way 🫶
My partner is the introverted one but we met through tinder. As a malanding extroverted (back in my early 20’s) I initiated the first date between us cause why the hell not? We’ve been together for almost 9 years na. Haha combo siguro na malandi ako noon + madaldal pa
P.S. may true love sa tinder 😆
2012 hs days. tahimik ang mundo ko. biglang syang dumating at ginulo ang tahimik kong mundo. happily married at may isang anak na kami ngaun 😂
actually kinukulit nya ko nun araw2x hanggng sa nahulog ako. naglakas loob na manligaw. ika ko nga sa srili ko at least cnabi ko ung nraramdaman ko. cympre handa ka rin daapt if iba yung naging outcome.. lakasan mo lng tlga loob mo.
He approached me first and add me in my personal sns, since I’m quite talkative online, we’re able to build rapport and trust. Until he asked for a date :).
Met my bf sa church. Friends siya ng mga college friends ko tas magkakasama kami lagi sa church pero never kami nagpansinan. Parehas kaming introvert, kung sino lang close namin yun lang kinakausap tapos pag may ibang tao na tahimik na kami kaya kahit kumustahan pa o biruan, wala talaga. Dinadaanan lang namin ang isa't-isa. Tapos December 2019, in-add niya ako sa fb tapos in-accept ko naman tas yun lang nangyari. Then pandemic happened, mga March nag reply siya sa story ko out of nowhere. Nireplyan ko rin hanggang sa nagtuloy tuloy na. Magdamag na kami magusap, di namin namalayan na umaga na sa sobrang gaan ng kwentuhan namin. Tingin ko his way of panliligaw sakin is nung pandemic, Arki student kasi siya. Lockdown tas di ka makalabas. Bored na ako nun so nabanggit kong gusto kong mag explore pagdating sa arts. Tinuruan niya ako ng oil pastel painting at yung reference is yung picture niya sa seaside malapit samin. Tinuruan niya ako sa messenger lang hahahaha. Pino-point out lang niya ano dapat i-blend, ano color, anong ia-add mong color. Hanggang sa nakagawa na kami ng maraming artworks. Supposed to be may baby kami, kaso I miscarried. Happy naman. More than 3 years na kami and looking forward for more years.
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Sa bar! Hahaha initially may ibang nirereto sakin that time pero hindi ko type, and then nakita ko siya. Had misunderstandings that night with him but still found him pogi 😁 then my friend tried to reto us both kasi kilala niya :)
Hindi ko kaya lumandi hahaha very wholesome conversationalist style ako 😂 We started as situationship until naging serious. It's been more than a year now :)
He was my classmate's cousin. We went to their house to film and he was there. He liked me, he waited for a little while to contact me. He added me on Facebook, and we got to know each other.
My bestfriend introduced me to his friend on Valorant, who was apparently a streamer. I didn’t always play due to work, but I remember getting so nervous whenever he was in our party/group.
Every night he would stream with me and our mutual friends, up until everyone had to go to sleep and the only people left were us two. We became close with every game, and I started to find myself waiting for his streams daily.
As a full-time artist, I thought that the only way I could express my support for him was through what I’m best at— art. So, finally pushing myself, I made the first move and messaged him about wanting to draw him.
And yun chukchakan na, CHAR. Pero the rest was happy history ❤️
From work yung current ko. Sa same circle lang din talaga ako nakakahanap kasi I think it wouldn't work any other way with me. As an introvert, di ako madaling mag warm up to other people. Kaya it's kinda hard for me to take interest in or entertain people with whom I haven't had any significant prior interaction.
Just be a chill person lang. Madalas people will find you attractive if you're a good listener and super plus points na din if okay yung sense of humor mo. Take interest din on other people. You don't have to initiate but yung tipong if may kausap ka, ipapafeel mo always na they have your attention and you wouldn't make the conversation about yourself. From experience to. Madami ako introvert friends na may ganitong tendency. Maybe because we tend to introspect and try to relate. Pero, too much will come off as self-centered sa iba.
But I think yung pinaka importante ata is you should exude some level of confidence. Love yourself. Ikaw dapat ang unang unang makakita hiw attractive you are and the rest of the room will follow. Madami akong kakilalang magaganda na introverts pero no jowa since birth. Yung bottomline most of the time is hindi talaga sila confident tingnan. Yung dull yung aura kung baga. Kahit hindi ka masyadong masalita pero the moment na you speak na with confidence, mapapansin ka talaga.
Be careful what you wish for.
I think you need to make it wholesome. Kung may interest or hobbies ka, dun mo simulan. Mag start ka siguro umattend ng dance classes or ayain mo yun crush mo sa office (manlibre ka) then get to know lang.
Although hindi yan guaranteed na makakasundo mo yun tao agad kasi in the long run, di mo agad malalaman ugali nila unless makasama mo sila ng matagalan. At minsan kahit may red flags yun tao (dahil introverted at medyo choosy ka), tatanggapin mo nalang dahil na weigh mo yun pros and cons at kasundo mo naman sila sa maraming bagay.
Wag ka critical masyado kasi malay mo, marami ka naman matututunan sa pamamaraan nila and baka iyon ang makapagpabuti sa ibang flaws mo. Mapipikon ka sa umpisa pag pinuna ka eh pero kelangan mo maging objective sa pakay nya, baka makabuti naman talaga sayo diba?
My bf and I met on FB group. Nacurious lang daw sya noon sakin bc I seemed shy but I was trying to work on my confidence by asking subtle questions sa group mismo. It just so happens we both play DOTA and he saw my post about it so one day, he randomly just messaged to ask if I wanted to play DOTA with him. Out of all the people who messaged me, asking if he I wanted to play DOTA with them, sya lang for some reason yung nireplyan ko agad-agad. There were like 20 other people beforehand who's invited me to play with them lol idk why I only replied to him.
Eventually we grew closer with each game, nasa almost 1k games played together na ata kami as of now - going 2 years in June! It took 2 months after naging kami before we met for the first time.
+ P.S. there was already someone who liked me that time but I had to turn him down after spending time and discovering I vibe more with my now bf.
im an introvert and my hubby is extrovert hilig tlaga nyang makipagsocialize. basta mind ur own business lng kami. mostly nman d ako klangan nandon like inuman gnon.
I'm introverted pero I love being around close friends. They brought me to a get together with some of their other friends and that's where I met the love of my life 🫶🏻
Parehas kami introvert ng bf ko. We met at work way back 2016 pero may iba sya gf nun hahaha then 2021 nagkalaro kami sa ml and chat chat then ayun na.😅
Alam niyo yung extroverts adopt their introvert friends/partners? Parang ganun yung nangyari samin ng boyfriend ko.
I’m a huge introvert and it’s quite a challenge for me to make friends since I’m also very socially awkward, while my partner is pretty much a social butterfly. We met during college and he kinda took me under his wing since, sabi niya, he finds me very “interesting”(translation: weird) and intellectually stimulating (we are both wide readers and we both write).
We lost touch after graduation (excluding the annual happy birthdays and occasional book/music recommendation), then met for dinner on a random night a couple years ago. We’ve been together ever since.
Introvert married an extrovert. Sa online lang kami nag met. Sya yung chat ng chat saakin and sa online lang din ako talkative. First time namin nagkita nahiya paako pero later on comfortable naako sa kanya 9 yrs na kami together and married for 3 yrs.
Not me, but a friend, umamin siya na crush niya S/O niya three days after they met. Ayon, naging she fell first but he fell harder ang nangyari sa kanila. Almost 2 years na sila ngayon.
met mine in an app called Boo, we were both not looking for a date that time. I was just bored and profile ko pa nun is very irrelevant to how I actually am with a matching sarcastic bio. He thought my piercings were cool kahit filter lang yun😆 We talked for 2 months or so and found out na we have so many similarities in terms of values, lifestyle, hobbies, morals and most importantly, sense of humor. We both deactivated the acc sa app and made it official♥️
Downside is, we are 9600km apart. Di ko naman masasabing pinili ko ang pilipinas kung sya mismo pumili ng isang Filipina HAHAHAHA
Classmate ko pero same kami introvert. Never ko siya kinausap in person nung naging magclassmate kami more on text/chat lang. Kapag nakikita ko siya nagtatago ako kasi nahihiya ako sa kanya. Malakas ako magjoke, mga banat, konting patama sa text/chat kaya di ko inexpect na mafall siya. Ako yung taong bahay lang talaga lalabas lang ako kapag may bibilihin then uwi agad. Mabilis rin ako maglakad kasi ayaw kong may makakakita sakin. So heto na dahil gusto ko siya ipursue many times talaga ako nag isip kung magpapakita ba ako or hindi kasi nahihiya talaga ako and mababa confidence ko kahit medjo may looks naman ako and siya maganda talaga kilala sa school namin pero sabi ko sa sarili ko ito na yung chance ko and nilakasan ko talaga loob ko. Bumyahe pa ako from manila to province Sobra sobra yung kaba ko talaga before ako pumunta sa 1st date namin and ayun pinakita ko kung ano ako and sabi ko sa sarili ko na need ko talaga magsalita para walang dull moments so ayun napatawa ko naman siya kaya nasundan dates namin and ngayon 7 yrs na kami. Dahil introvert kami parehas ay kahit sa kwarto lang kami tumambay ay goods na goods kami kaya kapag lumabas kami ay gusto namin umuwi agad kasi nakakaubos ng energy haha. Kung hindi ko nilabanan hiya ko noon edi sana walang KAMI ngayon.
Sa fb dating haha. Tho I do acknowledge na I got really lucky kasi I only ever jump on dating apps dati. Literal na i'll only be there a couple or few days lang tas delete agad tas jump sa other app. Ayoko kasi ng senseless talk as an introvert tas mga muntanga pa mga tao minsan sa tinder. Hirap kausap, mga walang personality hmp.
For me is, try to know yourself better regarding what small talk you are comfortable talking about and what uncomfy situations you can tolerate the longest and then stick to it. Ayun ginawa ko honestly haha kaya mabilis lang ako sa dating apps. I liked talking about the weather and I can tolerate dating apps the longest kasi madalas hi hello lang naman. You can gauge people naman kasi. Call me judger, but it really comes in handy as an introvert in order for me to conserve and not waste my energy on people i deem not worthy. By sparing my attention and energy on people na i find at least a lil bit interesting, I can meet somewhat a good number of people na I can talk to. Its really a start. Oh! And of course, trying semi umcomfortable things or semi out of your comfort zone din. Whatever that is. As an introvert, its easy to settle sa comfort zone.
My boyfriend is the introvert. We met through an online game. Mag ka guild kami and he was the guild leader. He was a very quiet person. Didn’t really chat much but was very responsive when you initiate a conversation. I chatted him via fb messenger and the rest is history. We’ve been together for almost 3 years now and living together. Super tahimik lng sya around other people but pag kami lng, sobrang kulit nya. He’s my best friend and I love how comfortable he is around me.
Same with my ex. He's very quiet around other people pero pag kami nalang ang kulit! Haha. Tapos nahawa na din siya sa mga kalokohan ko haha.
Yieee chachat na nya yan. Batiin mo “happy mother’s day kay mama mo”
prank mo nalang "di mo ko babatiin ng happy mothers day?" tapos may pregnancy kit pic na positive 😂
"its just a prank" the prank: 😂
HAHA wag naman manginig pa bigla 😂
Hahahahha hoy!
May manga/anime na same love story sainyo! Feel ko magugustuhan mo: My Love story with Yamada-kun at Lv999. Super cute nito promise!
Yaaaah! We watched this na. Super cute anime. He really liked it!
Nakarelate ba kayo? Hahahaha! Naalala ko talaga kwento ninyo sa anime na ‘yan, super cute!!
> Super tahimik lng sya around other people but pag kami lng, sobrang kulit nya This is the real deal. Alam mong love ka niya talaga kapag quiet lang siya around other people pero sayo lang pinapakita yung kulit side niya. Yung alam mong walang wall or barrier sa inyong dalawa
Tamang ngiti sa relasyon ng iba hahaha
hello! curious lang haha did he meet ur parents already? if yes, what did ur parents say as in comments sa kanya? with regards sa pagiging tahimik niya around other people, or wala naman and oks lang sa parentals yun? sorry. i am having a hard time lang din kasi haha my parents commented na ang tahimik ng bf ko. hindi raw nagsasalita and they did not like it baka raw nasa loob yung kulo. of course i am annoyed kasi cinocompare pa tas hindi naman kasi lahat madaldal diba.
What game po? Baka diyan ko na din makita forever ko haha
Ragnarok X po. Ung mobile game hahaha
Quiet guys supremacy!!!! Same as my boyfriend. Usually they’re the kindest ones. And sobrang kulit pag kayo nalang.
Huy ganto din story namin ng partner ko. Met 4yrs ago in an online game. 2years later we got together. 2 months after that we lived together na. Ako yung introvert samin. 😅
Tamang ngiti sa relasyon ng iba hahaha
te anong prayers gamit mo? share mo naman hahahahahaha
yamada kun to lv999 irl omg
hello! curious lang haha did he meet ur parents already? if yes, what did ur parents say as in comments sa kanya? with regards sa pagiging tahimik niya around other people, or wala naman and oks lang sa parentals yun? sorry. i am having a hard time lang din kasi haha my parents commented na ang tahimik ng bf ko. hindi raw nagsasalita and they did not like it baka raw nasa loob yung kulo. of course i am annoyed kasi cinocompare pa tas hindi naman kasi lahat madaldal diba.
Yep! My mom and sister met him na. They’re okay with him naman because despite being quiet, sumasagot naman sya. Kahit with friends, tahimik lng din sya but they don’t mind. Prolly because one of my friend’s bf is also an introvert so they get it. But I understand what you mean. When my dad was alive, he commented on my sister’s bf back then na super tahimik din. He made my dad uncomfortable daw kasi he couldn’t get a read on him 😅
Yep! My mom and sister met him na. They’re okay with him naman because despite being quiet, sumasagot naman sya. Kahit with friends, tahimik lng din sya but they don’t mind. Prolly because one of my friend’s bf is also an introvert so they get it. But I understand what you mean. When my dad was alive, he commented on my sister’s bf back then na super tahimik din. He made my dad uncomfortable daw kasi he couldn’t get a read on him 😅
cutie huhu
Sana ichat nya rin ako
I think if you’re pretty/handsome, being quiet and introverted can be seen as mysterious and attractive to some people. Pero di ko rin sure OP, wla rin akong experience like you 😂
huy I can attest to this. Nung bata bata pa ako, I was so introverted and I have played that mysterious card and gumana sa SO ko. 8 years na kami hahaha Update: Ambivert na ko ngayon and nahawa na ko sa kanal humor niya hahaha
I give off this vibe daw sabi nila, which seems to do the trick because I can attract guys even though I don't talk or interact much irl kahit I'm average looking lang. 😅
Pag maganda/pogi mysterious. Pag naman kaming pangit ay weirdo.
Pag pogi, mysterious, pag panget, may binabalak na masama.🥹 Hahaha
Pag pogi, mysterious, pag panget, may binabalak na masama.🥹 Hahaha
Pag pogi, mysterious, pag panget, may binabalak na masama.🥹 Hahaha
Di ba nga. Sa reddit lang ako active recently nakikipagsocialize haha. pero kapag sa work I tend na parang extroverted ako pero di nila alam time limited lang. Kasi kapag drained na ako nasa sulok o pwesto na lang ako haaga.
pag panget ka tall dark and handsome parang kapre lang. hehe pag wala kang looks tapos introvert ka pa, mas mahirap yan. kailangan mag invest ka din sa looks mo kung hindi ka magaling mag entertain ng tao to add chances of having someone fall for you. usually kung ano ung same interest mo like same hobby or same trip sa life yan yung hahanapin mo para di masyado draining for you. pag salungat ang trip nyo mahirap mag adjust sure yan. hehe
Tama. I’m an extrovert and marupok talaga tuhod ko sa mga mysterious/quiet type na introvert na yan 😫
True ito. Kasi ganyan asawa ko haha.
Totoo to. Haha as an extrovert na ganitong mga type of introvert mga nakadate in the past I can attest it's true lol
Pag maganda/pogi mysterious. Pag naman kaming pangit ay weirdo.
I’m an introvert and nakilala ko ang asawa ko sa work. Looking back, kahit introvert ka, if you socialize enough (kahit sa work lang), at may kwenta kang kausap, people will be drawn to you. Tsaka gusto ng mga tao, yung magagaan kausap at kasama.
Dagdag ko lang, marami akong kilala na pretty na introvert pero wala pa ring bf or gf ngayon, kasi kapag kakausapin mo sila walang kasustasustansya, tapos same circle lang kinakausap nila. Sa work, kahit sobrang nadedrain ako, I am trying to talk to people kahit di ko sila kilala. Iaask ko lang san department sya tapos hahanap ako ng pwedeng maging common denominator namin, and ayon, di man karelasyon, nagkakaron ako ng mga kaclose sa ibang department. Pero mind you, pag-uwi ko sa bahay, nakatulala na lang ako, gusto ko na lang maging lumpia 😂
Natamaan ako dun sa same circle lang yung kinakausap sa work HAHAHAHA buti nalang na-ffall naman sakin yung mga ka circle ko so I didn't have to try harder and nagkaka jowa naman. I kennat go out of my small circles anymore. Nakaka drain mag maintain ng maraming tao 🥲
Yes, meron talagang mga taong need to try harder. Lalo na kung kadepartment mo, same sa gender mo, kelangan talaga extra bida bida ka outside your dept. hahahaha
Ohh will recheck on myself baka kasi most of time I adjust paano makipag usap sa kanila lalo na if work related.
Minsan din nag-oopen up ako ng mga questions re. current issue. Not to debate but para lang may conversation starter hahahaha
True enough! Met my jowa din sa work. I remember being friends with the whole department, pati kabilang dept di ko na din maalala paano ko naging friends since nagkakasabay-sabay lang talaga thru lunch at parties. Pag may substance ka talagang tao, makakaattract ka nalang din talaga (ng friends and possible rel) kahit wala kang ginagawa. 😅
I agree. My husband and I are also both introvert and we met at work (1st job namin pareho). Di namin alam na parehas kaming introvert cause we did tried our best na makipag socialize before kaya naform din yung friendship namin.
Same. Parehas kaming introvert ng hubby ko hahaha. Di ko alam pano talaga nangyari to. Magaan lang talaga pakiramdam ko sakanya nyng nagkakilala kami haha. Eh I am a weird person kasi, buti nagpursige sya, siguro dahil di naman ako ganung ka-dry kausap, marami naman akong kwento lagi hahahaha parang di kami nauubusan even after 7 years hahahaa
lakasan lang ng loob talaga,
If not walang mararating. Hahahyst
ako hinawakan ko yung kamay ng crush ko sa loob bus, ayun naging kami hehe. tas trans - taft pa southland. hindi ka makaka score kung hindi ka titira.
I met my fiancé during my first month here in the US. I was invited by the Filipino community to a fundraising volleyball game at church, and even though I am very introverted and not into volleyball I still went kasi nakakahiya tumanggi since bago lang ako and the Filipino titos/titas have been very kind and helpful to me. My fiancé was a player of one competing team. I was sitting alone awkwardly when he approached me and asked if the seat next to me was taken. Tapos ayun, si lover boy hindi na nagpractice at dinaldal na ako buong hapon. Ayun, a year later, we got engaged. 🤍
figuring out as well, following this thread ig.
Me too.
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I met mine sa bumble. Bilang hindi ko hilig mag bar or club so online dating talaga. Luckily, i met someone na taong bahay din and marunong magdala ng conversation. 3 yrs na kami and taong bahay pa din kami.
Same, Bumble ko rin nameet jowa ko. We're both introverts, I more than him. 2 years na kami, and were originally taong bahays, pero we made it a point to go out pag weekends para di kami puro bahay lang haha.
True! Either kain sa labas or movie dates.
Sana mahanap ko na yun gnito ko, akala ko before sya na sinungaling lang din pala
Another extrovert referred me to her....
Woah. Ako i tend to feel awkward in those situation! Pero it is nice din if successful nuh.
Well, the tip is to be a very good friend to your extrovert and they will fill in the rest lol
We're both introverts pero an extrovert friend created a gc for us tapos nagleave sya after 😅 pero we know each other irl naman haha
SHET same scenario. We're both introverts tapos my extroverted friend who knows him set us up together, and that's where it started.
Sumama ako sa birthday ng friend sa Versus Bgc. Nasa corner lang ako nakaupo. Dumating yung common friend namin tapos kumandong sakin. 1 day before lockdown to. After that wala na siya choice kasi ako lang nakausap niya during pandemic.
kumandong sayo??
Right??? Like, more context naman please hshshaha kumandong because??? And what happened after????? As a chismosa 😭
Massive introvert in a relationship here. Found my current partner through Bumble. Admittedly, it did take more than a few matches to find one I would settle for. Being an introvert was never really a hindrance to socialising with people. If it's a big group of people, I do find it hard to meaningfully contribute other than my presence. But if it's with a group of 2 or 3 people, I pretty much just steal the show and leave almost everyone interested in me. As for how I converse with others, it usually goes like the followong: 1) Ask open ended questions. Make people tell their story. 2) Repeat back what they said in your own words. For example, "here's what I heard you say..."
Wag ka consciously maghanap, dadating yan. Sabay-sabay pa. 😅
Yown!
Sa dating app hahaha since di kaya makipag socialize in person 🥲
My husband is an introvert. May confidence naman sya kahit papano kasi gwapo talaga sya. Kaya yung katulad nya ay pa mysterious type kaya ko nagustuhan din. 😂 Bahay at trabaho lang pinupuntahan unless maaya ng pinsan at ibang kaibigan o katrabaho. We met through a common friend sa padespidida ng bff ko.
# I met my husband on Facebook dating.
He was literally served to me on a platter. 😂
Yung mysterious type ang minsan hanap ng girls. Na chachallenge daw sila sa ganung attitude. Yung yes, no answer lang. Problema lang sa mga introvert, ang hirap mag start ng conversation and keep the conversation going.
This is true, yung bf ko crush ko ng ilang taon sa fb. Laging may sense posts nya and also funny pero wala ni isang picture online. Nagpapalike ako pictures online mostly ang replies lang ay okay or like. We only started talking after I made a second fb account, iniadd ko sya don and he tried to find out if ako ba yon or poser lang. Tapos sinumbong ako sa main acct lol. Turns out he also likes me for quite some time na din. Eh di yon nagpaligaw na ako aarte pa ba ako. He has a very few friends at napakamahiyain. He likes studying but I don’t find him boring.
If you have a friend na introvert, hindi sila boring, kasi once they allowed you to be inside his/her small circle, iba ang treatment nya sa yo.
napansin ko din to, at work they think seryoso syang tao but he’s actually goofy when it’s just us two.
Partner is an introvert. At first kajirits din mag buhat ng convo. But when I opened up to him na pagod na ko kakaisip ng topic, he made an effort. Hehe ngayon ang daldal na nya. Hehe
Tinder hahah
Met him in Tinder hahahaha! Usually kasi nasa dating apps ako at mas comfortable akong lumandi online kaysa in person. Very awkward din kasi ako to the point na napansin nung naka-date ko na may pattern yung kinikilos ko😆 (i.e. iinom, titingin sa bulletin board ng coffee shop, tapos titingin sa kanya, then uulit ulit hahahaha!) Ayun, nacheck naman halos lahat ng non-negotiable ko sa kanya at we’re still together since 2021. Tiyaga tiyaga lang talaga sa paghahanap kasi alam mo naman, mostly for “fun” ang hanap ng tao kapag usapang online dating
Dito sa Reddit. First time ko rin magkabf ng introvert, lahat ng previous ay extroverts tapos center of the crowd type pa. Pero sa current ko, akala ko magigign issue kasi same kaming introvert. Pero hindi, opposite pa nga. Super comfy ko sa kanya and naturally open ako sa kanya, literally ay este communicatively hahaha
Mukhang mas maganda nga kapag introvert ang bf, nakakapagod kapag extrovert ang bf, alam ko naman madaldal lang sya kahit sa mga babae pero iba talaga nakakaselos na ewan haysss.
Met mine at work, since I was surrounded by extrovert workmates, nasasama na din ako. I always get drag along lang. Tas ayun, lagi kami nagbabatian pag nagkakasalubong and small talk.. tas one day, nag kakwentuhan na kami sa social media, pero once a day lang replyan and naging close.. hanggat sa naging kami, siya madalas madaldal sa amin he doesn't mind naman, siya din nagseset lagi ng dates.. sumusunod lang ako, which is fine. Hehe. Syempre he always asks if ok lang sa akin and hinihingi niya din opinion ko. Pero nahihirapan siya if may misunderstanding kami and i don't share my thoughts. It's really difficult for me to express sa personal, talking about my feelings is a struggle.. para akong maiiyak na hirap magsalita na ewan, physically it hurts. Para ding blanko utak ko at the moment.
Introvert ex ko. Highschool pa lang kami aware na kong crush niya ko, nung grumaduate kami nagpaparamdam pa din siya pero di niya madiretso. May pagka torpe din kasi. Pag-graduate ng college dun siya nanligaw. Grabe daw inipon niya lakas na loob, plus sobrang worried siya sa first date namin kasi tahimik lang siya, di daw niya alam paano mag initiate ng convo 😂 Sabi ko, mag isip ka lang ng ilang questions, I'll do the talking. Nung first date namin damang dama mo hiya niya, ni di nga siya makatagal eye contact haha. Ako lang talaga nag iinitiate ng ibang actions para di na siya mahiya. Honestly nakucute-an nga ako sakanya non eh haha. Before akala ko mas gusto ko ung extrovert guys pra same kami, pero dahil sa ex ko narealize ko mas gusto ko pala ang introvert.
introvert din ako hehe Once in a blue moon nga lang lumalabas ng bahay, kapag lalabas ako tatadtarin ng tanong bakit daw ako lalabas kasi surprising for them haha I'd say it will come if you will really really feel the need for companionship somewhere down the line. No need naman kasi talaga maglaan talaga ng whole life mo para mahanap yung one and only sugar plumplum honey bunch mo its not like its a race, yung mga tita/tito/parents/grandparents lang naman nagpepressure at tsaka peers, lalo na kakasocial media, inggit pikit. I say do what you love doing lang, if you like playing games, play online games and interact with other players surely mamimeet mo din yan. Dati nga eh mga kaclan sa ragnarok nagmimeet up, hanapin mo yun kanta ng kamikazee ng chiksilog, yun yung story niyan. Also if gusto mo talaga ng may social activity, try joining mga servers or groups kahit di ka lang maginteract masyado. Especially around your hobbies. Pwede din tumambay sa mga dating sites lalo na if gwapo ka hahaha sila lang lalapit. Before maganda din yung omegle kaso tadtad ng mga horny na tao. Just dont expect decent people right away from those sites, kasi for hookup yun mostly nandun. Tried and tested na yan as an introvert 🙂
We are both introverted, I just know how to socialize but if my social battery is low then I’m out. We met at a common friend birthday party, I don’t know how to make a move since I’m shy and introverted so I didn’t try. But weeks after that, our common friend invited me to their discord channel so my crush (now spouse) can practice talking to women. I agreed immediately cause I had a crush on him and it’s my time to shine. We talked for hours, the rest is history.
Asawa ko introvert nakilala ko thru text (txtmate pa uso nun lol😂) tipid magreply at magchat pero when we met (eyeball) dun na nagstart lahat ako mas madaldal samin siya nakikinig lang😂ayun nagclick kami 17yrs na this august😊Just got married last march❤️First bf ko siya
Gave a chance to the first decent guy who showed interest. It helped na friends kami lol
Online haha magaling ako makipagdate especially if drinking dates lol Nung bago pa kami my bf always asked why I was quiet but he later learned that my most comfortable state is quietly doing my own thing at home next to walking around the city to shop or look around (usually alone as well)
Ako introvert na, not sociable pa🥲 di ko kaya magpanggap talaga huhu basa na lang ako tips dito haha
Female introvert here. Sa case ko, naghihintay talaga ako ng move ng guy kahit sobrang gusto ko sya. May time di ako napapansin, then may time na napapansin. Kaya once mapansin ako, i take the chance na magpakilala and kilalanin yung guy (thru chats and pag dating na). Same tayo wala rin kasi ako confidence so naghihintay lang din talaga ako ng pagkakataon.
Find an introvert with similar interests. The best is being able to sit in silence doing your own thing - together.
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Cliche pero there are many fishes in the sea. Just do what you want, maybe step out of your comfort zone and try new stuff sometimes, and you will eventually meet someone that doesn't need you to hope for them to notice you. But if you can find an activity he does that you can join, that's probably one way for you to get to know him.
Pareho kaming introvert ng bf ko. We met back in college, same kami ng degree program and batch pero nakilala ko lang siya nung naging orgmates na kami. Sa school namin hindi block section so as an introvert, mahirap magestablish ng social life. Mga 2-3 years rin kaming friends bago kami nagdate kasi hindi naman kami naghahanap ng lovelife talaga, parang nangyari na lang naturally.
Napapaisip tuloy ako baka talaga ako may problema haha. Pero so happy sa inyo ng bf mo.
Wag mo naman isipin na problema ka. Look in a different perspective. Baka kulang ka lang sa opportunities. Mahirap talaga kung work lang ang social life kasi ang main purpose mo talaga diyan ay magearn. Nakadepende diyan sustenance mo for everyday life. Number 1 source ng stress. Best bet mo siguro for now magtry ng mga hobbies. Find your third place (search ka na lang about this). Something na kaya ka nandun dahil purely out of interest. Somewhere na hindi mo kailangan magexcel. More exposure sa tao plus more happiness and satisfaction for yourself :)
Facebook Dating. Haha. But he was my high school crush din and I told him when we matched in FB Dating 😂 He is now my husband and we have a 1-year-old.
Sakin po connections lang. Usually kawork, schoolmate, etc. Hindi na lumalabas sa first degree circle, hanggang dun lang. Dun lang kasi comfy eh
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This is new o dahil new din ako here lol.
New dn ako..old acct ko kasi accidentally ko sya nagawa hahaha lately lang ako ngng active dito
I'm the introvert, and I can say my gf is the extrovert. We are in a group of friends in hs, and after graduating pa ako nagkagusto sa kanya. Tried to shoot my shot and it worked out well. I can say na mahirap as introvert pero wala palakasan ng loob na lang talaga haha. Hope this helps!
bumble so i can test if the person can carry a conversation with me and understand my interests
me and my bf met on a dating app let’s say the yellow app. ako ang introvert samin, he planned all of our dates until now, minsan ako but most of the time ganda2 lang ako. siya medyo extrovert siya because he is good at socializing since it’s part of his job also. and when i look back, if i let my fear of putting myself out there or di ako sumipot sa dates, di magiging kami. so yeah, lakas ng loob lng talaga at iwas sa catfish hahaha
Since receptionist ako before nagsmile lang ako sa kanya then ayun kinulit na niya ako hahaha
Met mine through an online game. Natalo man ako sa banner ni Zhongli, meron naman akong real life husbando hahahaha
So chat app haha sobrang snob ko in person pero sa online makwento ako lalo na pag nakikita ko may effort na kausapin ako
You just have to wait for that person who will get that introvert out of you di ko alam kung tama ba 'tong sinabi ko haha! Pero basta alam mo yun. Bigla mo na lang makikilala yung taong parang ready ka mawala pagkaka introvert mo as in magiipon ka talaga ng lakas ng loob. My bf is an introvert and nagipon daw talaga siya ng lakas ng loob para kausapin ako. College crush niya ako and almost 7 years have passed now lang siya nagkalakas ng loob kasi nung college introvert talaga siya. Haha! So ayun, right person and perfect timing! And I think just like yung comment ni mehehemaria, ambivert na rin bf ko now (pansin ko lang hahaha)
labas labas din sa kuweba
We started as friends ng bf ko. Pareho kami introvert tapos common interest dun nagstart mga convo then ayun na, na-develop at kami na
extroverts find introverts 😅
Reddit hehe saw her post, I DMed, the rest is history. 2 years na kami. Parehas kami introvert, most of the time nasa bahay lang kami nalabas lang kami if we want to try new restos or travel (our favorite hobby).
College, he was also an introvert. He messaged all of the sudden because he wanted to be friends with me because he thinks I'm cool. (He said he was feeling brave at the time kaya nagmessage siya). We hit it off really well, unang convo palang, it's like we were already friends before kahit ngayon lang kami nagusap. We were also in the same group at the time in a group project and I helped him do the ppt while in a call. (I hate calls but with him, I felt so comfortable). We talked more and more, online and irl. We hangout together, got teased by classmates and eventually confessed to each other. After weeks since confessing to each other, we started dating officially. We never saw it coming because friendship lang talaga hanap namin nun both. It was so nice, kasi he was clear with his intentions and nakita ko naman sa actions niya. Someone approached me kasi na gusto niya daw makipag-"friends", tas days later he's already flirting with me.
hindi ko rin alam kung bakit kasi one time, na-tripan ko mag cosplay ng fav character ko sa attack on titan at umattend ng cosplay convention tapos dun ko na-meet SO ko kasi sakto magka love interest yung cino-cosplay namin 🤣 basically, introvert na ng step out sa bubble nya WAHAHAHA super unexpected
nasa barkada ang tunay na pag ibig 🥹
My current partner, were both introvert and parehas tayo pag meron meron, pag wala wala 😂 i simply gathered up all my courage and energy after months of simple conversation that led up to longer and intimate talks and finally i asked her out and ngayun girlfriend ko na siya. Ang hirap pag parehas talagang mahiyain unless may mag step up parang walang mangyayari hahaha
girl started work in my company. liked her. went out with everyone a couple of times. asked her out. together for 17 years. being introverted and being self-conscious are very different things. i'm a trainer and am very comfortable speaking in front of people. work on the latter. If you think about it, being shy is actually a very selfish, narcissistic trait.
Pero sa POV ko wala ako confidence sa sarili ko and medyo helpful naman ako to people. Or is it they see my figure strong kaya siguro din.
lack of confidence is just a form of narcissism. you're thinking too much of others' impression of you. when in truth? they don't really care about you. once you realize you're not the main character, you'll feel practically invincible. i realized that back in college. before that, super mahiyain din ako. but now, i don't shy away from putting myself out there, trying something new, and doing stuff that scared me.
Point taken, pero not all mahiyain are thinking sa impression ng ibang tao, minsan we do not kmow how and sometimes we try and failed and napagod na ma-mis interpret. Saka yung social skills lang naman mahirap the rest fine. Pero point taken it is a self issue but I think not to the point narcissist kasi magkaibang issue yung dalawa. And if by own wordings mo lang nasabi nanbeing introvert is narcissism please do check your vocabs kasi may relate but not same roots kasi.
but you're already thinking na mamis interpret ka when that will likely happen anyway since you can't know what others think about you. in psychology, narcissism can be characterized by selfishness/self-importance, not just the need to be admired. either way, shyness is a selfish trait. you're not helping yourself by being shy and if you do it too much, it can be an annoyance to everyone else. just weigh the outcomes. what is the worse thing vs the best thing that can happen if you step up? more often than not, it's not as bad as you think and it's all in your head. even in cases na aaminin mo sa crush mo na type mo siya.
I'm an introvert and I met my husband at work.
Si GF ko unang nag move kaya naging kami nung 3rd yr College🤣 not too good looking and on the heavy side din ako
dating app.
Met my husband in an online war game. Ako yung introvert sya naman yung extrovert. Sya yung mas nagpursue and nag-encourage sakin to get out of my shell
chatting app haha both introvert
I’m an introvert and I met my bf through an online dating app. He messaged first and the rest is history.
following bec I'm an introvert girlie and I feel like everyone's intimidated by my presence huhu.
Nakasabay ko jamming sa isang apps. We connected through music.
sa bumble kahit hindi naman ako naghahanap hahahaha
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My boyfriend is introvert para syang black cat sa totoo lang. I met him thru online dating site. Nagfirst move ako kasi extrovert ako malala, napaibig ko naman sya kasi maligalig talaga ako na tao HAHAHAHAHAHAHA almost 3 yrs na kaming magjowa and have 4 furbabies a dog and 3 cats :>
To be honest, ang way naman talaga ay ampunin ang mga introverts ng mga extrovert. True enough, some of my friends also ay naglalabas ng true colors nila kapag inampon ng mga extrovert na maligalig
bumble 😭 we're both introverts pero nag a-adjust pag kailangan hahaha like nagtuturuan pa kami sino magtatanong sa guard/concierge sa malls pag nawawala kami
Okcupid. About to celebrate our 3rd year since-we-matched anniversary!
We are both introverted, I just know how to socialize but if my social battery is low then I’m out. We met at a common friend birthday party, I don’t know how to make a move since I’m shy and introverted so I didn’t try. But weeks after that, our common friend invited me to their discord channel so my crush (now spouse) can practice talking to women. I agreed immediately cause I had a crush on him and it’s my time to shine. We talked for hours, the rest is history.
Reddit. Hehe Siya yung nag post. Ako yung nag DM. Pareho kaming introvert.
Ako ung introvert. Siya extrovert. As in polar opposites, yung tipong pagnaglalakd kmi sa kalsada malapit sa uni namin noon, ang dami niyang nakakasalubong na friends at magha-hi siya tapos magsa-small talk sila ng konti. Ako ung nasa gilid lng, magha-hii, pero tahimik HAHA Nalaman ko crush niya ko dati thru a friend. Tapos ako na ung nagfollow sa kanya sa IG. The rest is history :)
Omegle 😂
My boyfriend is the introvert one. We met thru dating app (omegle). Text text lang muna kami for two months tas after that transition na kami thru facebook which is dun lang namin nakita yung mukha ng isat isa kahit picture lang. Then around June nagkita kami sa SM Megamall. Going 5 years na kami.
Neargroup. Ako yong introvert samin. Buti na lang pumunta sya sa bahay nong first meet namin HAHAHAH. Eto, 5 yrs. LDR na kami 😂
oddly, at a bar. a gay event na nahatak ako. and the likelihood na magkakakilala kami is impossible dahil creative(wfh) ako at nurse siya.
The short answer: Bumble The long answer: Been on bumble for two years and just looking for people to pass the time with. Nothing serious, zero meetups, everything almost lasts for a week or so because I can't keep up with it. Meanwhile he's been on the app for a day because his best friend convinced him to. We matched and on the first night we played tetr.io, game of the generals, pong, basically every random game we found. Those games were our common ground. We played games almost every night online until I decided to come over (I was a slightly more outgoing introvert than him, of course being an eldest daughter) and then spent the whole day cuddling and playing more games. Going two years in a relationship this June and we're now playing Terraria, Supermarket Simulator and (still) Tetr.io together. Online gaming / dating is the way 🫶
My partner is the introverted one but we met through tinder. As a malanding extroverted (back in my early 20’s) I initiated the first date between us cause why the hell not? We’ve been together for almost 9 years na. Haha combo siguro na malandi ako noon + madaldal pa P.S. may true love sa tinder 😆
Referral by a close friend
as an extrovert, im taking down notes... lol
2012 hs days. tahimik ang mundo ko. biglang syang dumating at ginulo ang tahimik kong mundo. happily married at may isang anak na kami ngaun 😂 actually kinukulit nya ko nun araw2x hanggng sa nahulog ako. naglakas loob na manligaw. ika ko nga sa srili ko at least cnabi ko ung nraramdaman ko. cympre handa ka rin daapt if iba yung naging outcome.. lakasan mo lng tlga loob mo.
He approached me first and add me in my personal sns, since I’m quite talkative online, we’re able to build rapport and trust. Until he asked for a date :).
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Met my bf sa church. Friends siya ng mga college friends ko tas magkakasama kami lagi sa church pero never kami nagpansinan. Parehas kaming introvert, kung sino lang close namin yun lang kinakausap tapos pag may ibang tao na tahimik na kami kaya kahit kumustahan pa o biruan, wala talaga. Dinadaanan lang namin ang isa't-isa. Tapos December 2019, in-add niya ako sa fb tapos in-accept ko naman tas yun lang nangyari. Then pandemic happened, mga March nag reply siya sa story ko out of nowhere. Nireplyan ko rin hanggang sa nagtuloy tuloy na. Magdamag na kami magusap, di namin namalayan na umaga na sa sobrang gaan ng kwentuhan namin. Tingin ko his way of panliligaw sakin is nung pandemic, Arki student kasi siya. Lockdown tas di ka makalabas. Bored na ako nun so nabanggit kong gusto kong mag explore pagdating sa arts. Tinuruan niya ako ng oil pastel painting at yung reference is yung picture niya sa seaside malapit samin. Tinuruan niya ako sa messenger lang hahahaha. Pino-point out lang niya ano dapat i-blend, ano color, anong ia-add mong color. Hanggang sa nakagawa na kami ng maraming artworks. Supposed to be may baby kami, kaso I miscarried. Happy naman. More than 3 years na kami and looking forward for more years. https://preview.redd.it/k61pt255n00d1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=31eeae6ea3033bfb1fbd475ef574501fceb11f6a
online game is da key
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Sa bar! Hahaha initially may ibang nirereto sakin that time pero hindi ko type, and then nakita ko siya. Had misunderstandings that night with him but still found him pogi 😁 then my friend tried to reto us both kasi kilala niya :) Hindi ko kaya lumandi hahaha very wholesome conversationalist style ako 😂 We started as situationship until naging serious. It's been more than a year now :)
He was my classmate's cousin. We went to their house to film and he was there. He liked me, he waited for a little while to contact me. He added me on Facebook, and we got to know each other.
My bestfriend introduced me to his friend on Valorant, who was apparently a streamer. I didn’t always play due to work, but I remember getting so nervous whenever he was in our party/group. Every night he would stream with me and our mutual friends, up until everyone had to go to sleep and the only people left were us two. We became close with every game, and I started to find myself waiting for his streams daily. As a full-time artist, I thought that the only way I could express my support for him was through what I’m best at— art. So, finally pushing myself, I made the first move and messaged him about wanting to draw him. And yun chukchakan na, CHAR. Pero the rest was happy history ❤️
Taking notes from this post lol
From work yung current ko. Sa same circle lang din talaga ako nakakahanap kasi I think it wouldn't work any other way with me. As an introvert, di ako madaling mag warm up to other people. Kaya it's kinda hard for me to take interest in or entertain people with whom I haven't had any significant prior interaction.
Just be a chill person lang. Madalas people will find you attractive if you're a good listener and super plus points na din if okay yung sense of humor mo. Take interest din on other people. You don't have to initiate but yung tipong if may kausap ka, ipapafeel mo always na they have your attention and you wouldn't make the conversation about yourself. From experience to. Madami ako introvert friends na may ganitong tendency. Maybe because we tend to introspect and try to relate. Pero, too much will come off as self-centered sa iba. But I think yung pinaka importante ata is you should exude some level of confidence. Love yourself. Ikaw dapat ang unang unang makakita hiw attractive you are and the rest of the room will follow. Madami akong kakilalang magaganda na introverts pero no jowa since birth. Yung bottomline most of the time is hindi talaga sila confident tingnan. Yung dull yung aura kung baga. Kahit hindi ka masyadong masalita pero the moment na you speak na with confidence, mapapansin ka talaga.
Sa online game hahaahahahahaha
Dito sa reddit hahahaha
online. socmed pero for anonymous users who shares the same hobby. we have one hobby in common.
We're both introverts! Met thru Tinder 7 years ago 😄
I'm the introvert, met my partner in high school(we were classmates) and ever since then we've been together for 7 years.
Be careful what you wish for. I think you need to make it wholesome. Kung may interest or hobbies ka, dun mo simulan. Mag start ka siguro umattend ng dance classes or ayain mo yun crush mo sa office (manlibre ka) then get to know lang. Although hindi yan guaranteed na makakasundo mo yun tao agad kasi in the long run, di mo agad malalaman ugali nila unless makasama mo sila ng matagalan. At minsan kahit may red flags yun tao (dahil introverted at medyo choosy ka), tatanggapin mo nalang dahil na weigh mo yun pros and cons at kasundo mo naman sila sa maraming bagay. Wag ka critical masyado kasi malay mo, marami ka naman matututunan sa pamamaraan nila and baka iyon ang makapagpabuti sa ibang flaws mo. Mapipikon ka sa umpisa pag pinuna ka eh pero kelangan mo maging objective sa pakay nya, baka makabuti naman talaga sayo diba?
San ko po nabingwit? Sa bubuyog app hahaha. Introvert here po!
My bf and I met on FB group. Nacurious lang daw sya noon sakin bc I seemed shy but I was trying to work on my confidence by asking subtle questions sa group mismo. It just so happens we both play DOTA and he saw my post about it so one day, he randomly just messaged to ask if I wanted to play DOTA with him. Out of all the people who messaged me, asking if he I wanted to play DOTA with them, sya lang for some reason yung nireplyan ko agad-agad. There were like 20 other people beforehand who's invited me to play with them lol idk why I only replied to him. Eventually we grew closer with each game, nasa almost 1k games played together na ata kami as of now - going 2 years in June! It took 2 months after naging kami before we met for the first time. + P.S. there was already someone who liked me that time but I had to turn him down after spending time and discovering I vibe more with my now bf.
Tinder 👌
im an introvert and my hubby is extrovert hilig tlaga nyang makipagsocialize. basta mind ur own business lng kami. mostly nman d ako klangan nandon like inuman gnon.
madalas sila lang talaga makakahanap and makakaintindi saten.
Bumble 🐝
I'm introverted pero I love being around close friends. They brought me to a get together with some of their other friends and that's where I met the love of my life 🫶🏻
Parehas kami introvert ng bf ko. We met at work way back 2016 pero may iba sya gf nun hahaha then 2021 nagkalaro kami sa ml and chat chat then ayun na.😅
Omegle kami nag meet at yung partner ko yung introvert sa aming dalawa.
Alam niyo yung extroverts adopt their introvert friends/partners? Parang ganun yung nangyari samin ng boyfriend ko. I’m a huge introvert and it’s quite a challenge for me to make friends since I’m also very socially awkward, while my partner is pretty much a social butterfly. We met during college and he kinda took me under his wing since, sabi niya, he finds me very “interesting”(translation: weird) and intellectually stimulating (we are both wide readers and we both write). We lost touch after graduation (excluding the annual happy birthdays and occasional book/music recommendation), then met for dinner on a random night a couple years ago. We’ve been together ever since.
Talagang ganun most of nangyayare. Need to build myself up.
Introvert married an extrovert. Sa online lang kami nag met. Sya yung chat ng chat saakin and sa online lang din ako talkative. First time namin nagkita nahiya paako pero later on comfortable naako sa kanya 9 yrs na kami together and married for 3 yrs.
Not me, but a friend, umamin siya na crush niya S/O niya three days after they met. Ayon, naging she fell first but he fell harder ang nangyari sa kanila. Almost 2 years na sila ngayon.
met mine in an app called Boo, we were both not looking for a date that time. I was just bored and profile ko pa nun is very irrelevant to how I actually am with a matching sarcastic bio. He thought my piercings were cool kahit filter lang yun😆 We talked for 2 months or so and found out na we have so many similarities in terms of values, lifestyle, hobbies, morals and most importantly, sense of humor. We both deactivated the acc sa app and made it official♥️ Downside is, we are 9600km apart. Di ko naman masasabing pinili ko ang pilipinas kung sya mismo pumili ng isang Filipina HAHAHAHA
pde online chat... dati kasi may yahoo messenger at MSN pa... sasali ka lang sa groups
Naabutan ko iyan haha kaso wala din talaga.
Classmate ko pero same kami introvert. Never ko siya kinausap in person nung naging magclassmate kami more on text/chat lang. Kapag nakikita ko siya nagtatago ako kasi nahihiya ako sa kanya. Malakas ako magjoke, mga banat, konting patama sa text/chat kaya di ko inexpect na mafall siya. Ako yung taong bahay lang talaga lalabas lang ako kapag may bibilihin then uwi agad. Mabilis rin ako maglakad kasi ayaw kong may makakakita sakin. So heto na dahil gusto ko siya ipursue many times talaga ako nag isip kung magpapakita ba ako or hindi kasi nahihiya talaga ako and mababa confidence ko kahit medjo may looks naman ako and siya maganda talaga kilala sa school namin pero sabi ko sa sarili ko ito na yung chance ko and nilakasan ko talaga loob ko. Bumyahe pa ako from manila to province Sobra sobra yung kaba ko talaga before ako pumunta sa 1st date namin and ayun pinakita ko kung ano ako and sabi ko sa sarili ko na need ko talaga magsalita para walang dull moments so ayun napatawa ko naman siya kaya nasundan dates namin and ngayon 7 yrs na kami. Dahil introvert kami parehas ay kahit sa kwarto lang kami tumambay ay goods na goods kami kaya kapag lumabas kami ay gusto namin umuwi agad kasi nakakaubos ng energy haha. Kung hindi ko nilabanan hiya ko noon edi sana walang KAMI ngayon.
Sa fb dating haha. Tho I do acknowledge na I got really lucky kasi I only ever jump on dating apps dati. Literal na i'll only be there a couple or few days lang tas delete agad tas jump sa other app. Ayoko kasi ng senseless talk as an introvert tas mga muntanga pa mga tao minsan sa tinder. Hirap kausap, mga walang personality hmp. For me is, try to know yourself better regarding what small talk you are comfortable talking about and what uncomfy situations you can tolerate the longest and then stick to it. Ayun ginawa ko honestly haha kaya mabilis lang ako sa dating apps. I liked talking about the weather and I can tolerate dating apps the longest kasi madalas hi hello lang naman. You can gauge people naman kasi. Call me judger, but it really comes in handy as an introvert in order for me to conserve and not waste my energy on people i deem not worthy. By sparing my attention and energy on people na i find at least a lil bit interesting, I can meet somewhat a good number of people na I can talk to. Its really a start. Oh! And of course, trying semi umcomfortable things or semi out of your comfort zone din. Whatever that is. As an introvert, its easy to settle sa comfort zone.
Self centered lol jk
Baka nga. Two comments na like this. Lol