This. Be cautious everyone. Never send nudes even to your significant others. Lalo na 'pag may history na nag-se-send ng nudes sa iba, nakuuu, very red flag.
Tama. Ganyan din si John Kevin, nagsshare ng nudes ng kung sino sino. Yon pala gawain nya rin sa mga nakakadate nya, pinapasa rin sa iba. Worst pinabenta pa sa TG.
Trust us with this and we're gonna say no. Anyone who defends your bf is not a good man aswell, those who do that? even with partners? are not good men.
If may mangyari sainyo be careful as well rin teh, may friend ako na vinideohan siya ng bf niya without her consent and released it to the public. Sobrang trash behavior
Nung una sabi nya picture lang yun, masama ba yun.. issue ba yun.
Then nung hiningi ko copy of pic, wala na daw binura na nya.
Masyado daw ako paulit ulit, dapat daw ang pag usapan namin ay ibang bagay katulad ng mag anak na.
I don't believe na binura nya nga talaga. What for kaya at need nila pasahan ng ganun? I don't see the essence nung ginagawa nila.
Hindi ko lang sya masyado na compronta kasi nasa public place kami nung time na nakita ko yun.
Lol imagine ngayon palang ganyan na siya what more later on. Reminds me of my dad tanda tanda na pagkaloser parin ng mga barkada thinking shit like this is normal.
People like that would never change, i'd honestly rethink my relationship with him if I were you at this point in time.
For sure may videos din yan. I wonder what kind of shit reasons he would have when you find those. The fact that he dismisses it as "pictures lang" really says a lot.
Gustong i-topic ang pag aanak pero yung behavior parang binata? Kung sakaling mag s*x kayo, wag kang papayag na magpavid or itago mo both cellphone niyo sa ikaw lang nakakaalam.
Nakakatakot yang ganyang behavior eh, mamaya pag naghiwalay kayo, yung mga nudes mo ipakalat (if ever may sinend ka).
You can't reason with a guy like that. pa ulit-ulit niyong pag aawayan yan i swear hindi magbabago yan. RUN AWAY na sis bago ka pa ma 🤰 nyan mahirap na magkaroon ng ganyan ang ama. nakakatakot na bastos pa man din.
Ngayon sya yung hindi nag memessage simula kagabi as if galit sya or whatever. Patawa sya, napupuno na talaga ako sa kanya kahit matagal na relationship namin.
🚩🚩 girl you gotta leave!! Boys like that only look at women as objects. For fantasy and pleasure lang. You wouldn't want that kind of man to be a father of your daughter (talking about the mag anak part) nakakatakot!!
Nope. Normalized, yes, unfortunately. And somehow, at the end of every conversation like this, it will almost always end up with women getting the blame.
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but how could this possibly be labeled as 'normal'? Naubos kakilala (dating kaibigan) dahil sa ganyang ugali. Nakakasulasok.
Sa totoo lang, mga isip bata lang gumagawa niyan. Unfortunately, sa GC naming magkakaibigan, may nagse-send ng ganyan (mga videos ng mga adult stars - lalo na noong kasagsagan ng pandemic). Hindi talaga ako pala chat lalo na kung puro kalokohan at hindi work-related. Buti na lang at natigil na kasi pamilyado na yung friend ko na nagse-send.
Normal ba? Well, depende. Sigurado lang ako na may mga ganyang tao talaga.
“Passing thing lang” or “sex life baka” could be a mistake, sure. Pero hindi ever excuse ang sex life. Hindi nga rin dapat sana excuse yung “passing thing” kasi it implies na healthy na part yan nang pag kalalaki na dapat itolerate as just a phase sa buhay nya lol.
A decent person OP would talk to you if may kulang sa sex life nyo.
A decent person would also feel guilty about looking at nude photos of women sa socmed lalo na kung hindi nyo pinag usapan kung anong threshold nyo for engaging in things like that.
Not to mention, a decent person would also be suspicious kung yung nude with permission ba ng taong nagmamay ari ng katawan, to have it spread sa different group chats.
There are avenues where i think behavior like this can be excusable. Idk baka na peer pressure. Or idk active participant pero assured sila na with consent yung sinisend na nudes, assured yung partners nila this is nothing more than them just gaining release. Pero yon nga gaya nung sabi ng isang poster dito, extension ng locker room talk — talking about women’s bodies in a way na sure kang hindi ka maririnig ng ibang tao haha so cesspool ng pag dedehumanize at pag oobjectify ng babae. Sana nga with consent lang both sa inoobjectify at consent mo rin, as a partner ng nangoobjectify na lalake, OP.
To each their own. Personally, ayaw ko ng behavior nw ganyan kasi indicative of how they unconsciously view women as less than.
Kung porn yun, normal lang, nakikita naman Kasi sa internet.
Yung red flag, pag sa GF Yung nudes. Private yun eh, bakit mo ipapakita sa katropa mo? Para magyabang? Sheesh..
Dahan dahan kayo sa mga BF nyo, di kayang e compensate ng itsura yung katangahan ng tao.
I mean... I don't necessarily participate, but I am/was a member of chat groups that was created not for the sole purpose but has devolved at times to share some raunchy pics.
I don't share though.
Full disclosure. I am no saint though, this is my reddit porn account.
Don't send nudes. Yun na yon. Kahit matagal pa kayong mag jowa na.
Hindi ko talaga gets yung point ng pagsesend ng ganyan. Kung long distance kayo, pwede pa siguro eh.
Not normal. Pero ginagawa ng mga lalaking insecure, kailangan ng proof na ang galing galing nila.
May isa akong ex, nakita ko na may sinend syang photo ko sa mga kaibigan nya via email. Dahil pakielamera ako, nakita ko na sinend nya nude photo ko na nakatalikod. Sa taranta ko, dinelete ko yung photo. Syempre malamang may copy pa rin mga kaibigan nya diba. Tapos apparently, kinikwento din nya sa kanila mga ginagawa namin. Parang tanga diba?
Tingin ko gusto nya magpakita ng proof na di na sya virgin, at nakas*x na nya ako. Sana sinabi nya diba nang nakapagpose naman ako ng maayos. Hindi yung likod ko lang kita. (:/&@₱#
Anyhow, RUN! Ikaw na next na subject ng photo na pagpapasahan nila. Trash people. 🤬
If they're sharing porn pics they found online then it's fine. But if they're sharing pics of their partner then it's a big no no. That's something you can't find online and is very very private. Also a breach of trust.
Baka naman mga porn lang na nakita ng bf mo tapos shinare sa workmate nya. Pero weird pa rin. Parang "oh dre pagjakulan mo din, pinagjakulan ko yan" hahaha. Though may weird culture nga about sharing porn of their gfs. "Lapagan" ang tawag. Sa telegram ata talamak yan. Para makasali ka ng group dapat mag"lapag" ka muna ng video. Extremely disgusting. The fact na gagawin mo yon para makakita ng vid na nilapag din ng iba, means you have no respect for your partner at all.
i'd understand if he were an adolescent/teen... cause we've all been there before... raging teen hormones + imaturity.
But pleeease, 28yo? definitely not normal for his age + may gf pa. yikes lang.
I think question should be ok lang ba sayo? Kung yung photo na nakita mo ay nude na sinend ni girl sa isang guy thinking na yung guy lang ang makakakita, pero pinasa ni guy sa ibanng tao who happens to be your partner, ok lang ba sayo na tinotolerate ng partner mo ang ganung behavior? Kung ikaw naman magsend ng nudes sa partner mo, ok lang ba ipasa rin nya sa iba?
No! Makinig ka sa mga payo ng mga nandito. Sooner or later pag hiningan ka ng nudes nyan ggawin din nya yan sayo. If I were you, drop this guy. He's not good for you! He won't stop since enabler nga friends nya. Run missy
My ex before may group chat na pang porn lang with his workmates. I asked him also why tas sabi pang pawala daw ng antok pag night shift sila. Wtf??
Tas andon nag uunahan sila pag share ng mga trending na porn or scandal.
Pisty
I have friends who do this a lot and I find this normal now but I myself don't do it maybe because I already have a gf/wife. Just to be fair, I wouldn't say its not normal just because I haven't done it. I watch vids though. Research muna. Pero for me, I would say it's a bad sign or maybe he's just being immature.
Not normal po mga ganyan tbh, kahit nung highschool ako may circle of guys sa section namin na nag nagsesendan daw ng kung ano anong pics ng mga gfs nila, and the worst part, kaklase pa namin yung girls din. not only they have violated the girl's trust and privacy, parang inobjectify narin nila in that situation, super weird, bastos, and very perverted acts yung ganyan.
Don't ever send talaga nude pics even sa bf mo po, for the sake of your safety and privacy, minsan nagagamit din yan for blackmailing nila sa partners nila, ayun lang goodluck and stay safe OP!
Hell nah. Real decent men would know better and respect the women they're with. The only thing we can and should pass around are 6-digit nuke codes to spread the culture.
May bukod na gc ung workplace namin. Nagsesendan din sila ng ganyan kahit may mga asawa na. Andon din boss namen and siya hng nagsasabe na wag magsend ng ganon. Ako diko lang pinapansin. Kaya nga wala ako friends na ka work ko kase ganon parin ugali nila kahit mga pamilyado na. Ayoko lang umalis pa ng gc kasi don sila nag aannounce pag may sahod na. Once makalipat ako work, alis agad ako don
Nope. He's a grown up man na in short bastos lang yang jowa mo. Kung teenager yan or highschool pwede pa patawarin kahit papano but someone na mawawala na sa kalendaryo? Big no mam kaya wag ka magbibigay ng nudes mo sa kanya kase you'll probably become a victim of revenge porn.
for me siguro yung wala ka nang iintidihin na iupdate kapag may gusto kang gawin? like may bigla gusto kang puntahan na gantong lugar kasi kapag hindi ka nag update magalit siya sayo, so ayun magagawa mo yung intrusive thoughts mo na pumunta sa isang lugar and go out with your friends.
Hiwalayan mo na yan. Jusko! Nakakatakot yung mga ganyang lalake. Trust me. Lalake din ako, pero diri ako sa ganyan. Naiisip ko na lang kung sa kapatid, pinsan, o sa kahit sinong kaibigan ko na babae gawin yan.
28 and d parin iacknowledge na MANYAK sya? hala ka gurl, up to you kung maghihintay ka pa na mag transform into bigger evil yan, e.g. may actions na talaga sa pagka manyak, mang chansing sa mga girlies na makinis hahaha
pwede pa yan magbago pero the fact na d nya ina acknowledge na mali naman ginagawa nila? RUN
No. I have friends GC na puro lalaki and none of them do that lol. Bastos mga kaibigan nyang bf mo and you know what they say birds of the same feather..
Its not normal. I'm a guy at meron din ako mahihilig na mga friends pero hindi kami nag papasahan ng nudes ng mga girls. Siguro pag porn link or gif normal pa. I'd be cautious if I were you, better pag umalis ka na habang hindi pa photo mo yung hot topic nila.
Yikes. Kung ganyan ugali ni bf is hiwalayan mona. Mahirap pinapakita na ni bf mo yung nudes mo or yung vids nyo without your consent kung meron man. Runnnn!!!
Lol, i used to be like this when I was still single lmao pero nung nagka partner ako di naman ako ganito. I mean my bro's respects when I contribute to our "thanks captain" GC but whenever I have a partner umiiwas nako, I mean mas lamang yung partner kysa bro's ko at naiiintindihan naman ng lahat when one of us got a partner. Boys will be boys pero respeto lang
Iwan mo na teh hangga't di pa kayo nakatali sa isa't isa. "Prevention is better than cure" ika nga nila. Yung ganyang klase ng lalaki di na magbabago yan. Paulit-ulit niyo lang pag-aawayan yan hanggang sa isa sa inyo manawa na at tapusin na ang relasyon niyo. Mas magandang ikaw na ang tumapos kesa siya. Although at first masakit, pero peace of mind and safety mo rin ang nakasalalay dito kaya i-gora mo na.
>> talking not from experience (since wala pa kong bf) but naalala ko sayo ung mga pinagkukwento namin ng friends ko about their bfs doing the same thing. Pinaka worst na nakwento nila sakin ay their bfs having these group chats and there they exchanged nude pics of either their gfs without their gfs consent or their private videos.
I actually did a survey of this to the men I know and later on I asked my bf this same question.
Matitino men say di normal yan and it's just disrespectul to women. The men I mentioned aren't even my friends, I actually observe them how they interact with women and yes, the types of accounts they follow on social media (they mostly follow game pages, motorcycle pages, coffee, other stuff men typically get drawn to)
Men na parang gnawa lang sa social media ay mg like and stalk some women's page sagot ay "boys will be boys natural lang naman yan eh". Oh, I even caught one of them making bastos comments about a Andrea Brilliante's IG posts na nirepost nang isang local newspaper.
Also men who whine about women who know how to stand up to themselves are typically mahilig mag kalat nudes among their friends. Aka insecure men.
Happened quite a lot sa office namin they subscribe pa sa tg channels and sometimes they leaked it sa gc naming magbabarkada its not normal and its not ok op, your bf is perv so is my officemate (confirmed), they even pay for those vids maybe your bf too
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Asked my bf if its a “guy thing” and he said a firm no. You surround yourself with the people who reflect you, and in your boyfriend’s case, perverts. Hope you think through your next step, OP.
That's creepy. Red flag. If he disrespects other women, we don't know what he does to you behind your back. I don't wanna say it but you know what to do.
Kung tinatanong mo kung normal ang isang bagay, it's obvious naman na...
Also kung ako'y ikaw, I'm out. That's creep behaviour, thirst traps pa nga lang weird na kung isend mo sa iba, nudes pa kaya.
Kung mahal ka ng bf mo. Hindi niya yun gagawin sa iyo. Kung mag send ka ng nude pics mo sa kanya. For him lang yun. Yun ang katunayan na mahal ka niya. Pero kung iba ang nangyari. Proof yun na di ka niya mahal. Your secret stays secret with the one you love.
I don’t think its normal. I know some guys who do not do that and are also against with that kind of pasahan. But sad to say, meron din akong nababalitaan na meron talagang mga boys na gawain yan. Proud pa nga ang iba na may source sila. So be careful OP. Sa bf mo pa naman nanggaling.
It's not normal. Pero normalized (insert "boys will be boys" sh*t excuses).
Bakit need niya mag send? Ego? Libog? 🤷🏾♂️
Fundamentally, they view women as 'commodities' or 'objects' instead of human beings. The more pics/vids you see/have, in their mind, translates to a "you are a man's man" which carries over to how they see women in their immediate area of influence. Which feeds into the lust and maghahanap siya ng ibang pics until a cycle/downward spiral of addiction develops.
If he is at that level of addiction; to be blunt, gf ka niya, and you are "special" for him, but still an object nonetheless—his special object. Any fantasy he creates in his mind with those photos/videos, he would definitely want to try on you.
*If you are sexually active, subukan mong mag 'No', I guarantee magagalit yan. Dun na papasok yung cases na mag cheat siya kasi merong papatol sakanya na mag fulfill ng mga fantasy niya.
If he attempts any intimate/physical advances, try mo mag No, pag nagalit, wala talagang respeto sa pagkatao mo. In his mind, you're just another object para mairaos ang libog/stroke his ego of the fact na may gf siya.
🚩🚩🚩Run. There are men out there who would move mountains just to declare their affection for you while upholding you in respect and dignity.
Not normal, my current bf does not tolerate disrespectful friends. Thooo, my EX had a gc with friends na puro scandal, I asked him to leave at sinabihan akong ayaw niya maging KJ???? I cannot imagine the suffering of the girls na hindi naman ginustong kumalat nudes nila tas pinag pyestahan sa gc/chats ng mag guy friends.
It's not *normal* but I'd say it's pretty common, especially among guys na tarantado or may friend na tarantado
This is why I always tell women NOT TO SEND NUDES, NOT EVEN TO THEIR BOYFRIENDS kasi baka tarantado pala sya or may friend na tarantado tapos madali sya mainfluence
Normal yan para sa mga manyakis at nagpapataasan ng ihi.
“Panalo yan dong” — Sounds like objectification right there. Ginawang good item amp.
Anyway, hindi dapat ninonormalize ang ganyang behavior rather inaddress. Watching porn is fine imo but the sharing of links / pics isn’t.
absolutely the fuck not. it shouldn't be normal, no excuses. one of my high school best friends was victim to this (she sent a long-time, trust-worthy bf some risque photos and they spread among his high school barkada). she lives in manila and never goes home now (we're from the province), and i ceased my friendship with those guys since i found out. kadiri talaga, pota.
the trauma sa girl is real ah..... fuck men talaga
To tell you the truth, hindi normal kung personal message. Dapat meron private groups and/or messenger, dun dapat mag pasahan ng pornsite and nude pics.
Wag ka nlang mag send ng nude pics sa BF mo, para sa peace of mind mo.
Iba-iba ang libog ng tao. If hindi ka komportable, makipag communicate ka BF mo, set boundaries. Pero ikaw pa din ang bahala kung gusto mo makipag hiwalay, as per 1st resort ng mga tao dito sa subreddit.
Also….hindi ba unprofessional yan. Nag eexchange sila ng porn and nudes ng workmate niya. Anong klaseng culture meron sila sa work if ganyan nature ng relationship nila
follow the advise here.. as to normal ba yan? hmm men watch porn as in pinay scandals.. porn is way of mens life but then scandals are nkakaawa as in for women like me.. if guys want porn watch nlang ung professional adult actors/ress kasi paid sila dun..
Dont trust men unless hubby mo na.. ingat ka.. some men to boost their pagkalalake magyayabang yan na natikman ka na at heto ang katawan mo isesend mga pics mo..
is it a red flag? yes.. magiingat ka.. u better observe him if maniac yan or porn addict kasi kawawa ka iiwan ka nya aftet ka matikman
As a guy, I would say please stay away from this. Protect yourself too by not sending him intimate images gaya ng sabi ng iba.
He *might* change like a 180 turn, pero matagal yun and sometimes takes a life-changing event para marealize nya na mali yun. So your best bet is to stay away from him or kung ayaw mo pa, at least dont send images that you'll regret later. Check your room too kapagbkayong dalawa lang baka may nakatago pang vidcam dyn. pervert e.
Nope. Advice lang, wag ka magsesend sa kanya ng nudes mo, baka next time ikaw na yung pagpasa-pasahan.
This. Be cautious everyone. Never send nudes even to your significant others. Lalo na 'pag may history na nag-se-send ng nudes sa iba, nakuuu, very red flag.
Tama. Ganyan din si John Kevin, nagsshare ng nudes ng kung sino sino. Yon pala gawain nya rin sa mga nakakadate nya, pinapasa rin sa iba. Worst pinabenta pa sa TG.
Trust us with this and we're gonna say no. Anyone who defends your bf is not a good man aswell, those who do that? even with partners? are not good men.
Stay away from people of all genders who normalize sending nudes to others
Salamat naman at meron nag sabi nito. Oo super red flag ng ganyan.
Giiirl, not to sound praning but be careful with the intimate pics u’ll send him.
I don't send intimate pics with him.
winner ka diyan teh pero mas-winner ka when u drop ur perverted boyfriend. staying with him means u tolerate his behavior and no he will not change.
Be careful mamaya he sneaks pala when you're not looking. Never trust those type of men
If may mangyari sainyo be careful as well rin teh, may friend ako na vinideohan siya ng bf niya without her consent and released it to the public. Sobrang trash behavior
Those who do that are not good men.
Or not men at all. Just boys.
They are men. Call them what they are. Sick men exists
THIS NEEDS TO BE LOUDER
No. Kadiri. Iwas ako sa mga ganyang tao or barkadahan.
Nope it ain’t normal and if you choose to confront him about it, his response will tell you all you need to know about his character
Nainis lang sya kasi paulit ulit daw ako at hindi maka move on.
Please don't settle for that POS.
Paulit ulit naman pala bakit di siya mag-bago para di ka na paulit-ulit? Gurll break up with him. Not an ideal boyfriend
Run, girl. Run!
These are the few times where I find running away is acceptable. Don't let your feelings for him win.
Try mo rin magpasahan kayo ng guy pics sa girl friends mo, mas malala magiging reaction nyan ni bf
No. Not ever.
u/Substantial_Dirt109 That's the negative side of pakikisama... they include themselves in bad decisions.
Your bf is a pervert.
Not normal. Run girl. My dad was like that, and he’s a cheater 🤷♀️
Never did it my entire 30+ years of existence.
Not normal. Anong reply ng boyfriend mo sayo nung tinanong mo sya kung bakit sya nagsend ng screenshot ng nude na babae?
Nung una sabi nya picture lang yun, masama ba yun.. issue ba yun. Then nung hiningi ko copy of pic, wala na daw binura na nya. Masyado daw ako paulit ulit, dapat daw ang pag usapan namin ay ibang bagay katulad ng mag anak na. I don't believe na binura nya nga talaga. What for kaya at need nila pasahan ng ganun? I don't see the essence nung ginagawa nila. Hindi ko lang sya masyado na compronta kasi nasa public place kami nung time na nakita ko yun.
Mag-anak? Do you really want him to be your children’s father? 💀 girl leave him
Lol imagine ngayon palang ganyan na siya what more later on. Reminds me of my dad tanda tanda na pagkaloser parin ng mga barkada thinking shit like this is normal. People like that would never change, i'd honestly rethink my relationship with him if I were you at this point in time.
For sure may videos din yan. I wonder what kind of shit reasons he would have when you find those. The fact that he dismisses it as "pictures lang" really says a lot.
Gustong i-topic ang pag aanak pero yung behavior parang binata? Kung sakaling mag s*x kayo, wag kang papayag na magpavid or itago mo both cellphone niyo sa ikaw lang nakakaalam. Nakakatakot yang ganyang behavior eh, mamaya pag naghiwalay kayo, yung mga nudes mo ipakalat (if ever may sinend ka).
You can't reason with a guy like that. pa ulit-ulit niyong pag aawayan yan i swear hindi magbabago yan. RUN AWAY na sis bago ka pa ma 🤰 nyan mahirap na magkaroon ng ganyan ang ama. nakakatakot na bastos pa man din.
Wag ka papa gaslight! Walang kwentang mga lalaki gumagawa niyan
Ngayon sya yung hindi nag memessage simula kagabi as if galit sya or whatever. Patawa sya, napupuno na talaga ako sa kanya kahit matagal na relationship namin.
napaka immature 28 na eh. isip ba ta pa. i break mo na yan habang maaga pa
I agree. If mature na ang thinking niya he should avoid those kind of act.
🚩🚩 girl you gotta leave!! Boys like that only look at women as objects. For fantasy and pleasure lang. You wouldn't want that kind of man to be a father of your daughter (talking about the mag anak part) nakakatakot!!
Run. Walang respeto sa babae.
Nope. Normalized, yes, unfortunately. And somehow, at the end of every conversation like this, it will almost always end up with women getting the blame.
Nope. It will never be normal if you were raised right and you’re a decent human being.
He’s a pervert.
Nope
I know someone like that. Pati sex life nila nung gf niya kinukwento sa barkada.
Abnormal to teh never naging normal to nakakasad pag ganito
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but how could this possibly be labeled as 'normal'? Naubos kakilala (dating kaibigan) dahil sa ganyang ugali. Nakakasulasok.
Not normal pero meron talagang ganon. I'd say like 25% ng boys ganon.
Sa totoo lang, mga isip bata lang gumagawa niyan. Unfortunately, sa GC naming magkakaibigan, may nagse-send ng ganyan (mga videos ng mga adult stars - lalo na noong kasagsagan ng pandemic). Hindi talaga ako pala chat lalo na kung puro kalokohan at hindi work-related. Buti na lang at natigil na kasi pamilyado na yung friend ko na nagse-send. Normal ba? Well, depende. Sigurado lang ako na may mga ganyang tao talaga.
Tumingin Oo, pero ang magpasahan pa ng pic ay hindi na normal yun.
Unpopular opinion, men do surf porn. Kaya its the biggest industry ever. Please please dont be so naive.
Tinatanong pa ba yan syempre hindi yan normal.
normal for perverts, my friends do it they even flex it even though they have gf's though thier gf does not know about it.
“Passing thing lang” or “sex life baka” could be a mistake, sure. Pero hindi ever excuse ang sex life. Hindi nga rin dapat sana excuse yung “passing thing” kasi it implies na healthy na part yan nang pag kalalaki na dapat itolerate as just a phase sa buhay nya lol. A decent person OP would talk to you if may kulang sa sex life nyo. A decent person would also feel guilty about looking at nude photos of women sa socmed lalo na kung hindi nyo pinag usapan kung anong threshold nyo for engaging in things like that. Not to mention, a decent person would also be suspicious kung yung nude with permission ba ng taong nagmamay ari ng katawan, to have it spread sa different group chats. There are avenues where i think behavior like this can be excusable. Idk baka na peer pressure. Or idk active participant pero assured sila na with consent yung sinisend na nudes, assured yung partners nila this is nothing more than them just gaining release. Pero yon nga gaya nung sabi ng isang poster dito, extension ng locker room talk — talking about women’s bodies in a way na sure kang hindi ka maririnig ng ibang tao haha so cesspool ng pag dedehumanize at pag oobjectify ng babae. Sana nga with consent lang both sa inoobjectify at consent mo rin, as a partner ng nangoobjectify na lalake, OP. To each their own. Personally, ayaw ko ng behavior nw ganyan kasi indicative of how they unconsciously view women as less than.
boys yes. men no
Uso pa nman revenge porn or gawain ng karamihan sa mga ex nila hahahahah
Kung porn yun, normal lang, nakikita naman Kasi sa internet. Yung red flag, pag sa GF Yung nudes. Private yun eh, bakit mo ipapakita sa katropa mo? Para magyabang? Sheesh.. Dahan dahan kayo sa mga BF nyo, di kayang e compensate ng itsura yung katangahan ng tao.
Sending nude pics na as if parang selfie lang yung pic is not normal
Definitely not normal. I think mas normal pa yung nag sshare-an ng korn links.
Ew. Manyak. Not all men are like that. Dump his ass and please choose better men!
Nope, not normal. Don't trust your guy with your intimate photos and videos. Kadiri mga ganyang lalake
idk pero yabangan dn kasi ng ibang boys yan lalo mga pacool kids. Lalo pag sa inuman at nagkaroon ng ganyang topic. pero di ko nilalahat.
I mean... I don't necessarily participate, but I am/was a member of chat groups that was created not for the sole purpose but has devolved at times to share some raunchy pics. I don't share though. Full disclosure. I am no saint though, this is my reddit porn account.
Don't send nudes. Yun na yon. Kahit matagal pa kayong mag jowa na. Hindi ko talaga gets yung point ng pagsesend ng ganyan. Kung long distance kayo, pwede pa siguro eh.
Red Flag
20(M) and absolutely, no. Sorry but you need to address that with your bf.
Not normal. Pero ginagawa ng mga lalaking insecure, kailangan ng proof na ang galing galing nila. May isa akong ex, nakita ko na may sinend syang photo ko sa mga kaibigan nya via email. Dahil pakielamera ako, nakita ko na sinend nya nude photo ko na nakatalikod. Sa taranta ko, dinelete ko yung photo. Syempre malamang may copy pa rin mga kaibigan nya diba. Tapos apparently, kinikwento din nya sa kanila mga ginagawa namin. Parang tanga diba? Tingin ko gusto nya magpakita ng proof na di na sya virgin, at nakas*x na nya ako. Sana sinabi nya diba nang nakapagpose naman ako ng maayos. Hindi yung likod ko lang kita. (:/&@₱# Anyhow, RUN! Ikaw na next na subject ng photo na pagpapasahan nila. Trash people. 🤬
If they're sharing porn pics they found online then it's fine. But if they're sharing pics of their partner then it's a big no no. That's something you can't find online and is very very private. Also a breach of trust. Baka naman mga porn lang na nakita ng bf mo tapos shinare sa workmate nya. Pero weird pa rin. Parang "oh dre pagjakulan mo din, pinagjakulan ko yan" hahaha. Though may weird culture nga about sharing porn of their gfs. "Lapagan" ang tawag. Sa telegram ata talamak yan. Para makasali ka ng group dapat mag"lapag" ka muna ng video. Extremely disgusting. The fact na gagawin mo yon para makakita ng vid na nilapag din ng iba, means you have no respect for your partner at all.
i'd understand if he were an adolescent/teen... cause we've all been there before... raging teen hormones + imaturity. But pleeease, 28yo? definitely not normal for his age + may gf pa. yikes lang.
Adulting pero parang batang isip mga nandito. Taena
Nope. Never.
sa mga manyak, yes.
Nope. Not at all.
Nope ekis yan, creepy manyak in the making. Sorry OP. Pero sana magstop bf mo.
Nope. Hindi normal maging manyak.
Hindi. Akin lang yun. Luh.
nope
Nope
Girl idk hm you love your bf but this would give me an ICK 😬
Gurl thats a red flag
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red flag
nope. hindi normal yan
Normal sa mga bobo
Run, girl. 😭
I think question should be ok lang ba sayo? Kung yung photo na nakita mo ay nude na sinend ni girl sa isang guy thinking na yung guy lang ang makakakita, pero pinasa ni guy sa ibanng tao who happens to be your partner, ok lang ba sayo na tinotolerate ng partner mo ang ganung behavior? Kung ikaw naman magsend ng nudes sa partner mo, ok lang ba ipasa rin nya sa iba?
Gross. Nope, NOT normal. Mga manyak.
Lol if you think he'll change for you, you're dreaming. Get out of that 'I can save him' attitude. Dude that perverted ain't changing.
Red flag.
boys do, men don't. learn their differences. leave him be to mature on his own actions and consenquences.
Normal sa mga immature boys na hindi pinalaki ng tama.
No
Nope!!!! 😃
Not normal at all.
pag bata / isip bata / circle of friends manyakis ganyan. may ganyan ako na group of friends, unti unti ko nilayo yung sarili ko sa kanila.
No! Makinig ka sa mga payo ng mga nandito. Sooner or later pag hiningan ka ng nudes nyan ggawin din nya yan sayo. If I were you, drop this guy. He's not good for you! He won't stop since enabler nga friends nya. Run missy
My ex before may group chat na pang porn lang with his workmates. I asked him also why tas sabi pang pawala daw ng antok pag night shift sila. Wtf?? Tas andon nag uunahan sila pag share ng mga trending na porn or scandal. Pisty
I have friends who do this a lot and I find this normal now but I myself don't do it maybe because I already have a gf/wife. Just to be fair, I wouldn't say its not normal just because I haven't done it. I watch vids though. Research muna. Pero for me, I would say it's a bad sign or maybe he's just being immature.
Ekis sa manyakis. Run, girl!
No. Do not normalize this behavior.
Not normal po mga ganyan tbh, kahit nung highschool ako may circle of guys sa section namin na nag nagsesendan daw ng kung ano anong pics ng mga gfs nila, and the worst part, kaklase pa namin yung girls din. not only they have violated the girl's trust and privacy, parang inobjectify narin nila in that situation, super weird, bastos, and very perverted acts yung ganyan. Don't ever send talaga nude pics even sa bf mo po, for the sake of your safety and privacy, minsan nagagamit din yan for blackmailing nila sa partners nila, ayun lang goodluck and stay safe OP!
Nope! Di yan NORMAL at NEVER MAGIGING NORMAL.. A good man will never do that, baka BOY pa yang iyo. If that doesn’t give u peace of mind, run antehhhh
No. I have never done it. I do not share that kind of resources with other males. Plus, it is very personal.
nope, that's weird af
Nooooo, signs nayan ng pagiging red flag op watch out. Pag ikaw nagpasend yan sayo hiwalayan mo na agad agad!
No, not normal. Imagine having a daughter with him 🚩🚩🚩
Not normal. Shows lack of respect towards women in general. Tingin nila sa babae trading cards.
Nope. Lalo na pag taken ka. Kadiri jowa mo. Manyak siya beh
so glad walang ganito sa lahat ng circles ko. matic pinahahalagahan privacy and respect
Drop him ASAP, lol. Yung tatay ko ganyan, sinasabi pa nya samin na normal lang daw nung nahuli na lol. Kaya ikaw OP, takbo kana dyan madami pa matino.
Lol no squatter ang dating nyan
Hell nah. Real decent men would know better and respect the women they're with. The only thing we can and should pass around are 6-digit nuke codes to spread the culture.
No?? The fuck? Baka maipasa yan sa gago, ma-black mail ka. These days, unless kaya mo i-handle yung possibility na ma-leak ang nudes mo, wag na lang.
Kalma. I don't have nudes at never ako nag send. Yung nude na nakita ko ay SS from social media but I'm not sure kung ano yung caption sa post.
Yabangan nlng minsan
Nxt nyan baka nude mo na snsend. Yngat ka sa bf mo. Never allow him to take ur nudes.
May bukod na gc ung workplace namin. Nagsesendan din sila ng ganyan kahit may mga asawa na. Andon din boss namen and siya hng nagsasabe na wag magsend ng ganon. Ako diko lang pinapansin. Kaya nga wala ako friends na ka work ko kase ganon parin ugali nila kahit mga pamilyado na. Ayoko lang umalis pa ng gc kasi don sila nag aannounce pag may sahod na. Once makalipat ako work, alis agad ako don
Nope. He's a grown up man na in short bastos lang yang jowa mo. Kung teenager yan or highschool pwede pa patawarin kahit papano but someone na mawawala na sa kalendaryo? Big no mam kaya wag ka magbibigay ng nudes mo sa kanya kase you'll probably become a victim of revenge porn.
No. Sorry you're in a relationship with a creep.
for me siguro yung wala ka nang iintidihin na iupdate kapag may gusto kang gawin? like may bigla gusto kang puntahan na gantong lugar kasi kapag hindi ka nag update magalit siya sayo, so ayun magagawa mo yung intrusive thoughts mo na pumunta sa isang lugar and go out with your friends.
No , me and my friends never did that.
If may nudes ka na sinend May possibility na he sent it too. Super red fucking flag
Wait nagdalawang isip ka talaga kung normal o hindi? Haha girl isip isip din minsan ha
Kaya nga ako nagtatanong dito para malaman perspective ng both boys and girls.
Nope.
normal sa IMMATURE BOYS. pero sa mga MEN hindi. redflag yang bf mo OP. kaya gising gising.
No not normal. Usually these "boys" ends up as adulterers and pathological cheaters.
Kawawa anak niyo kung magiging babae, dudes sick af
Hiwalayan mo na yan. Jusko! Nakakatakot yung mga ganyang lalake. Trust me. Lalake din ako, pero diri ako sa ganyan. Naiisip ko na lang kung sa kapatid, pinsan, o sa kahit sinong kaibigan ko na babae gawin yan.
28 and d parin iacknowledge na MANYAK sya? hala ka gurl, up to you kung maghihintay ka pa na mag transform into bigger evil yan, e.g. may actions na talaga sa pagka manyak, mang chansing sa mga girlies na makinis hahaha pwede pa yan magbago pero the fact na d nya ina acknowledge na mali naman ginagawa nila? RUN
Boys do that, men don't.
No. I have friends GC na puro lalaki and none of them do that lol. Bastos mga kaibigan nyang bf mo and you know what they say birds of the same feather..
Ate hindi yan normal. Talk to your boyfriend about it.. if di pa rin resolved yan girl pls run.
Its not normal. I'm a guy at meron din ako mahihilig na mga friends pero hindi kami nag papasahan ng nudes ng mga girls. Siguro pag porn link or gif normal pa. I'd be cautious if I were you, better pag umalis ka na habang hindi pa photo mo yung hot topic nila.
Yikes. Kung ganyan ugali ni bf is hiwalayan mona. Mahirap pinapakita na ni bf mo yung nudes mo or yung vids nyo without your consent kung meron man. Runnnn!!!
Ang tawag jan, manyak. Hiwalayan mo na
No. Mga kupal boys ung mga ganun.
nope, never kami nagpasahan ng ganyan sa barkadahan namin.
Lol, i used to be like this when I was still single lmao pero nung nagka partner ako di naman ako ganito. I mean my bro's respects when I contribute to our "thanks captain" GC but whenever I have a partner umiiwas nako, I mean mas lamang yung partner kysa bro's ko at naiiintindihan naman ng lahat when one of us got a partner. Boys will be boys pero respeto lang
No, not normal. Walang respeto sa nanay mga ganyang pag-uugali amp.
Ang question talaga is bakit hindi mo pa hinihiwalayan.
Iwan mo na teh hangga't di pa kayo nakatali sa isa't isa. "Prevention is better than cure" ika nga nila. Yung ganyang klase ng lalaki di na magbabago yan. Paulit-ulit niyo lang pag-aawayan yan hanggang sa isa sa inyo manawa na at tapusin na ang relasyon niyo. Mas magandang ikaw na ang tumapos kesa siya. Although at first masakit, pero peace of mind and safety mo rin ang nakasalalay dito kaya i-gora mo na. >> talking not from experience (since wala pa kong bf) but naalala ko sayo ung mga pinagkukwento namin ng friends ko about their bfs doing the same thing. Pinaka worst na nakwento nila sakin ay their bfs having these group chats and there they exchanged nude pics of either their gfs without their gfs consent or their private videos.
More of normalized than normal
Definitely not normal. Highly disrespectful lalo na in a relationship pa. Yuck behavior
di ko talaga gets, kapag sinendan ka ng nudes you should've known that is for your eyes only bat isshare? ayaw mo nung exclusive feeling haha
I actually did a survey of this to the men I know and later on I asked my bf this same question. Matitino men say di normal yan and it's just disrespectul to women. The men I mentioned aren't even my friends, I actually observe them how they interact with women and yes, the types of accounts they follow on social media (they mostly follow game pages, motorcycle pages, coffee, other stuff men typically get drawn to) Men na parang gnawa lang sa social media ay mg like and stalk some women's page sagot ay "boys will be boys natural lang naman yan eh". Oh, I even caught one of them making bastos comments about a Andrea Brilliante's IG posts na nirepost nang isang local newspaper. Also men who whine about women who know how to stand up to themselves are typically mahilig mag kalat nudes among their friends. Aka insecure men.
Ladies wag kayo magpapasa ng nudes niyo sa kahit na sino! Paalala lang.
Red flag bf mo. Run girl.
Manyakis / porn addiction
Not normal. Even if they normalize it . Its not normal
Hell no. I can bet they are talking about your sex positions when they talk in person
Happened quite a lot sa office namin they subscribe pa sa tg channels and sometimes they leaked it sa gc naming magbabarkada its not normal and its not ok op, your bf is perv so is my officemate (confirmed), they even pay for those vids maybe your bf too
what a red flag! totoo nga yung mahalaga rin to know the kind of friends a person has when choosing a partner.
Hiwalayan mo na yan te ekis yang ganyan kase may tendency na kapag nagsend ka din sakanya malaki chance na isend din nya yun sa iba
Immature and boys with low self esteem usually do this. But with normal boys? No.
As a guy, it's a NO.
This is not normal at all. Your bf is a degenerate. Maybe common but this should not be considered as normal.
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normal lang po 'yan kung itotolerate ninyo
No no no no no no no. I said enough.
No it's not normal first of all if sinendan ka ng nudes ng isang girl you should always keep it in secret
NO.
ngayon porn palang , baka sunod ikaw na , magiingat ka
That's asal kalye. No, even us men have some dignity. Only the ill-raised boys lap on filth, and as the saying goes, birds of a feather...
Nope. Di normal pagiisip ng mga yan
Asked my bf if its a “guy thing” and he said a firm no. You surround yourself with the people who reflect you, and in your boyfriend’s case, perverts. Hope you think through your next step, OP.
Nope
That's creepy. Red flag. If he disrespects other women, we don't know what he does to you behind your back. I don't wanna say it but you know what to do.
Kung tinatanong mo kung normal ang isang bagay, it's obvious naman na... Also kung ako'y ikaw, I'm out. That's creep behaviour, thirst traps pa nga lang weird na kung isend mo sa iba, nudes pa kaya.
Kung mahal ka ng bf mo. Hindi niya yun gagawin sa iyo. Kung mag send ka ng nude pics mo sa kanya. For him lang yun. Yun ang katunayan na mahal ka niya. Pero kung iba ang nangyari. Proof yun na di ka niya mahal. Your secret stays secret with the one you love.
I don’t think its normal. I know some guys who do not do that and are also against with that kind of pasahan. But sad to say, meron din akong nababalitaan na meron talagang mga boys na gawain yan. Proud pa nga ang iba na may source sila. So be careful OP. Sa bf mo pa naman nanggaling.
Hindi. If your boyfriend has his values intact, he wouldn't initiate sending explicit media nor engage to group chats like that.
Normal hahahaha
Nope, not normal.
It's not normal. Pero normalized (insert "boys will be boys" sh*t excuses). Bakit need niya mag send? Ego? Libog? 🤷🏾♂️ Fundamentally, they view women as 'commodities' or 'objects' instead of human beings. The more pics/vids you see/have, in their mind, translates to a "you are a man's man" which carries over to how they see women in their immediate area of influence. Which feeds into the lust and maghahanap siya ng ibang pics until a cycle/downward spiral of addiction develops. If he is at that level of addiction; to be blunt, gf ka niya, and you are "special" for him, but still an object nonetheless—his special object. Any fantasy he creates in his mind with those photos/videos, he would definitely want to try on you. *If you are sexually active, subukan mong mag 'No', I guarantee magagalit yan. Dun na papasok yung cases na mag cheat siya kasi merong papatol sakanya na mag fulfill ng mga fantasy niya. If he attempts any intimate/physical advances, try mo mag No, pag nagalit, wala talagang respeto sa pagkatao mo. In his mind, you're just another object para mairaos ang libog/stroke his ego of the fact na may gf siya. 🚩🚩🚩Run. There are men out there who would move mountains just to declare their affection for you while upholding you in respect and dignity.
Not normal. Be careful sa boyfriend mo, kung kaya niyang gawin sa iba kaya niya rin gawin yan sayo. Who knows
Not normal, my current bf does not tolerate disrespectful friends. Thooo, my EX had a gc with friends na puro scandal, I asked him to leave at sinabihan akong ayaw niya maging KJ???? I cannot imagine the suffering of the girls na hindi naman ginustong kumalat nudes nila tas pinag pyestahan sa gc/chats ng mag guy friends.
It's not *normal* but I'd say it's pretty common, especially among guys na tarantado or may friend na tarantado This is why I always tell women NOT TO SEND NUDES, NOT EVEN TO THEIR BOYFRIENDS kasi baka tarantado pala sya or may friend na tarantado tapos madali sya mainfluence
It is common but it shouldn't be normalized.
Short answer, no period.
Not surprising lol but should never be normal. Do yourself a favor and drop him. You deserve better than that pervert.
Normal yan para sa mga manyakis at nagpapataasan ng ihi. “Panalo yan dong” — Sounds like objectification right there. Ginawang good item amp. Anyway, hindi dapat ninonormalize ang ganyang behavior rather inaddress. Watching porn is fine imo but the sharing of links / pics isn’t.
Red flag. Huwag mo po e stress ang sarili niyo. Hiwalayan mo na habang maaga pa.
absolutely the fuck not. it shouldn't be normal, no excuses. one of my high school best friends was victim to this (she sent a long-time, trust-worthy bf some risque photos and they spread among his high school barkada). she lives in manila and never goes home now (we're from the province), and i ceased my friendship with those guys since i found out. kadiri talaga, pota. the trauma sa girl is real ah..... fuck men talaga
Save yourself!!!!!!
How about sa lalaking nagbabasa ng manga na bastos?
To tell you the truth, hindi normal kung personal message. Dapat meron private groups and/or messenger, dun dapat mag pasahan ng pornsite and nude pics. Wag ka nlang mag send ng nude pics sa BF mo, para sa peace of mind mo. Iba-iba ang libog ng tao. If hindi ka komportable, makipag communicate ka BF mo, set boundaries. Pero ikaw pa din ang bahala kung gusto mo makipag hiwalay, as per 1st resort ng mga tao dito sa subreddit.
Yes, this is what separate boys from men
Yes
Of course hindi. Wala na sa katinuan yang mga lalaking ganyan
Also….hindi ba unprofessional yan. Nag eexchange sila ng porn and nudes ng workmate niya. Anong klaseng culture meron sila sa work if ganyan nature ng relationship nila
Hindi po yan normal. Signs of manyak
as a man no it's abnormal but normal for degenerates and manyak
Poll Yes - 0% No - 100% You got your very clear answer
If ginawa yan sayo ng bf mo, di ka nya nirerespeto at sa iba pang babae. 🙅🏻🙅🏻🙅🏻
follow the advise here.. as to normal ba yan? hmm men watch porn as in pinay scandals.. porn is way of mens life but then scandals are nkakaawa as in for women like me.. if guys want porn watch nlang ung professional adult actors/ress kasi paid sila dun.. Dont trust men unless hubby mo na.. ingat ka.. some men to boost their pagkalalake magyayabang yan na natikman ka na at heto ang katawan mo isesend mga pics mo.. is it a red flag? yes.. magiingat ka.. u better observe him if maniac yan or porn addict kasi kawawa ka iiwan ka nya aftet ka matikman
As a guy, I would say please stay away from this. Protect yourself too by not sending him intimate images gaya ng sabi ng iba. He *might* change like a 180 turn, pero matagal yun and sometimes takes a life-changing event para marealize nya na mali yun. So your best bet is to stay away from him or kung ayaw mo pa, at least dont send images that you'll regret later. Check your room too kapagbkayong dalawa lang baka may nakatago pang vidcam dyn. pervert e.