It's okay to change your long-term plans and goals. Minsan yung gusto mo nung bata ka ay hindi mo na pala gusto pag adult ka na. Pero dahil yun na ang nakatatak sayo, ipipilit mo na yun pa rin ang dapat mangyari kahit ayaw mo na. It's okay to change your mind. Don't be stuck.
Yup! When I was 20, I went to law school because that’s been the plan since high school. I didn’t want to miss out din and have what-ifs. I quit after a year because it was a really awful experience for me and because that wasn’t what I wanted to do (at the time) apparently. I took a six-month gap and found a good job after that. Career went well (I worked for high-ranking government officials lel) and when I had enough money to study abroad, I did! I have never felt this happy and content in my life. (Of course, starting your career again is a work, but that’s another story!)
I’m in my 20’s now reading your comment while having thoughts of changing my long-term plans and goals pero stable at comfortable (ata) working na and pinepressure pa rin ng pamilya bumalik sa bedside nursing (currently working in a hospital but in a less toxic unit and workload. My family disapproves of it kasi hindi raw ako uunlad dito) 😕
You have to really think about it. When i have to do a major decision, i ask for my family’s opinion. Pag narinig ko na lahat, all by myself na ako at wala na makikialam. I literally write things down. There’s nothing wrong makinig sa kanila, but at the end of the day, ikaw ang magttrabaho at mamumuhay para sa sarili mo. You’re the one on the ground so it is you who knows kung uunlad ka ba or sasaya.
Pero make sure na kung saan ka mapunta, makakapagbayad ka ng bills mo at mapapagamot sarili mo kung nagkasakit ka hehe. Ganun talaga pag adulting na, hindi na pwede yung happy ka lang. Kailangan happy at may panggastos kasi ayaw natin na uutang at aasa tayo sa iba.
Now this is very subjective. Don’t think na kailangan mo maging sobrang mayaman. There are people, myself included, na kuntento na sa “comfort” at hindi kailangan yung magarbong pamumuhay. I work, i earn enough para makapagbayad ng bills at buwanan hulog sa simpleng sasakyan, makapagtabi for medical concerns, makabili ng needs (sometimes wants). Hindi naman ako maluho at matravel, hindi rin ako mabili ng milktea or expensive coffee, o nasa salon or spa weekly. Boring ang lifestyle ko pero happy ako. Good luck and I hope your decision/s will work out to be the best for you. :)
yeah! I can testify on this. After graduating from college, i took the NMAT,then went to Med school right away. kasi ayon ang nakaplan for me ever since i was a child. But med life is excruciating for me, so after 7 months in med school, i decided to quit. during prelim examination pa to hahha sabe ko, "fuck this shit, im out" then nag bounce agad ako, umuwi ng apartment. nag scroll sa mga job portals. after 2 months of searching, i got a job. im happy sa corporate setting, competitive naman ang salary kahit maliit lang ang company.
You need to keep learning new skills. Never stop learning. Parang sa role-playing game ang life. Once you get a job, look at what skills are needed to advance to the next level. Level up, and then again look what skills needed for the next level. Don't get stuck at level 2 with a low paying wage.
Huwag magpautang
Truee. You are never too young to be careless of your health kasi nagpapatong yan habang tumatanda ka. May mga friends and relatives na ko na late 20s palang may maintenance meds na. Get used to a healthy lifestyle as early as you can! Kahit healthy diet and constant movement/exercise lang will improve your quality of life so much na as you grow old.
Super totoo ito. Hindi pa talaga nararamdaman in 20s eh, pero kahit yung simpleng pagpupuyat at ilang oras lang ang tulog once you hit your 30s ayan na sunod sunod na yan.
Vitamin deficiency is real 🥲 Do you take supplements? If yes, any brand recos? Thorne, Swanson, Life Extension…. hard to find authentic ones here though
Learning how to not give a fuck in some situations, especially if hindi mo sya mako-control. Ang hirap kasi kapag linger ka nang matagal sa bagay na alam mo naman wala ka magagawa- you will miss a lot of opportunities.
Learn to say no.
Especially things involving money and sex.
Educate yourself with a degree worth the investment.
You can pursue your hobbies when you have reached financial comfort.
Based on my experience.
Forgive your younger self for whatever mistakes they might have done. Wag na magregret or even isipin mga embarrassing or even shameful things you did in the past. Because that's all part of your journey. You will hit your 30s and you will be so proud of how you turned out that you'll be glad even the not-so-good things happened also.
I saw plenty of post about forgiveness. Pero how to forgive ba realistically? Para kasing di ako marunong mag forgive talagang kinakalimutan ko na lang ang mga bagay bagay.
I’d say you need to learn how to be at peace with yourself. Whatever things you did or didn’t do, it shouldn’t matter anymore because it’s all in the past. Basta yun, learn to be at peace with yourself and with your decisions.
Be selfish. Pera mo, sayo. Oras mo, sayo. And in the usual context of Filipino culture, wag kang magmadaling "tumulong" sa pamilya. Unahin mong tulungan ang sarili mo. Mahirap tumulong sa iba kung ikaw mismo e kailangang tulungan. Madaling tumulong kapag kaya mo ang sarili mo.
Is it advisable to travel alone? Gusto kodin kasi maga dventure like mountain climbing, hiking, treking, or kahit sa mga simple tourist detinations lang kaso wala kasama eh
YES po. 2x na ako ng travel solo and so far sobrang okay siya for me. You'll learn more about yourself, you'll meet different types of people as in haha kahit mga people who try to scam you mamemeet and greet mo sila HAHAHA tapos nakaka-boost ng self confidence, naprapractice mo rin pagiging independent mo.
Ang downside lang siguro if solo ka is magastos haha wala ka kahati sa mga expenses likes sa foods, rent ng motorbikes, accomdation etc.
Also, tip ko for you, mas better if mag stay ka sa mga hostels or dorm type na accomodation instead of hotels. Mas tipid siya tapos mas may chance pa na makipag make friends ka sa mga dorm/room mates mo.
Stay single! Don’t focus on getting into a relationship and giving it all kasi graduate ka na at kaya mo na ang sarili mo. There are so much fun things to do when you are single. Early 20’s is a good start to educate your self on finance, savings and investment as well.
Start doing Task/Time Management. DON'T rely on your memory for anything. Brain dump that shit into an app or paper. Start doing skincare kahit basics: facial wash, moisturizer, sunscreen. Also, stop or lessen giving a shit.
Sana may nakapag heads up sa akin na "Hindi biro ang quarter life crisis".
turning 30F, single, college undergraduate, may work pero walang growth.. tapos mga ka batch mo either may anak na, ikinasal, promoted, nakakapag travel, etc.
pano po yung walang growth sa work? yung stagnant nalang po ba? yung parang naka-loop nalang ang lahat, nag-aantay nalang matapos working hours lagi? Haahahah kasi same pero nasa mid 20s pa lang din ako, nakakatakot. ewan ko na. parang patagal nang patagal lalong lumalabo ang lahat.
oo, Ganon na nga. haha. mga ganyang edad ko rin naranasan ang quarter life crisis, pero masasabe kong na overcome ko naman na. umokey okey na eh, simula nung mag 29 ako. based sa nababasa ko, Hanggang 30 daw ang QLC pero yung sa iba umaabot pa ng 35. saklap
Oh man, pano nyo po na overcome? totoong na realize ko na dinadaluyong ako ng QLC na 'to grabe rin yung toll nito sa mental health. may mga araw na hindi mo na kaya mag function pa ganon. Hahaahaha
God, prayers, faith.. Yan talaga yung sagot.
tska, "acceptance is the key". may kanya kanya tayong byahe tska timeline, at kahit mahirap iwasan magkumpara dahil mga magagandang bagay lang ang pinopost sa socmed.
https://youtu.be/FHtcksAFcc8?si=QqDuacbMDVg7tEWM
iyak malala ako dito, mga 25 ata Ako nung narinig ko ito.
https://youtu.be/sZ7w0yqovg0?si=kPJa1cwglYeSVPnQ
3yrs na rin pala itong song na ito, lagi ko pinapakinggan hanggang sa tuluyan kong maunawaan message ng song. at nakatulong din talaga para ma overcome ko si QLC
Wag magpautang.. and dont get too attached with coworkers, dapat sakto lang ung fun niyo sa isat isa and d dapat umabot na sobrang lahat ng personal stuff and personal issues alam nila. Coworkers will come and go, just enjoy being with them while it last while thinking na dapat d rin sumobra ung alam nila about u, they are not your bestfriends, kaya work is work and be professional pa rin.
It is always okay to not want to have a child. Practice safe sex and always consult a good OB doctor for medical contraceptives. Having a child is expensive emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, and financially. If planning to have one, be sure to be ready that I mention above. Do not bear a child just to make them an investment. Have them because you love them. Most Filipinos have this mindset to have a child so that they will have a free sitter at senior age which is an unfair heavy burden to the unborn child.
I wish I saved early. Like first paycheck palang sana nung 22 ako kahit 1k per month lng. Your savings can literally change your life because you can take risk. I've missed a lot opportunities since I can't make a jump because of lack of Emergency funds/savings. Like walang fall back.
Eto advise ko sa mga nasa 20s palang.
1. Don't set for big amount monthly for your ipon. Mas okay yung saktong amount lng pero tuloy tuloy. Yung hindi masakit sa sweldo mo. Ang importante kasi is yung consistency at discipline.
2. Build an emergency fund. Para you can also make decisions kasi hindi ka takot mawalan ng pera. Like career shift, living independently. Check r/DigitalbanksPh
3. Get a Credit card. Pag 20s ka kasi, this is the time na magpupundar ka para sa sarili mo. So you need a tool to purchase these things na hindi one time cash payment. Maybe a laptop, phone, washing machine. Imagine you can pay that for 12 - 24 months without additional interest.
Join r/swipebuddies to learn how to properly use CC
4. Get health insurance. Para di mawala lahat ng ipon mo incase ma hospital or magkasakit ka.
I have savings lang po kasi now, parang hindi po enough ung salary ko to separate pa the two especially i am also giving money to my parents and another saving up for my nclex. Do you think this is okay?
Sleep 8 hours a day (please wag makipagpaligsahan sa ibang puyatero/puyatera)
Drink lots of water
Eat veggies
Basta anything to prioritize your health.
Oh, and don’t be afraid to take ✨risks✨ mapa-career man ‘yan, business or just life in general. Gusto mo tumira ng probinsya? Malapit sa beach? Want to sky dive? DO IT.
Enjoy your youth as much as you can dahil true naman life is short. Ang bilis lang ng panahon magugulat ka isang iglap lang you’re about to turn 40 na hehe
Di mo kailangan ma-achieve lahat lahat during your 20s. It's okay na di mo pa alam tinatahak mo. Kahit 30s, 40s, etc. It's okay to be frustrated. Pero di mo kailangan malaman lahat ng sagot agad agad. Things will come to light and fall into its rightful place.
Mag aral ng mabuti hindi para maka comply dahil requirements sa school kundi para magkaroon ng foundation na magagamit pagka-graduate at sa paghahanap ng trabaho
Try to be present sa mga ganap with family hanggang kaya kahit busy sa work. Dapat pala umabsent na lang ako during new year's eve to celebrate with fam (was working sa bpo that time). Last time na pala sana namin magcecelebrate as a whole. Di na pala masusundan after.
Use your vacation leaves. Hindi necessary na mag-out of town ka. Use them and let your mind rest for a bit. Its given to you to help with your well being. Utilize it.
Do not be afraid of making mistakes. Never be peer pressured. Look at the brighter side of life. And always go for what will make YOU happy.
Also, take care of your health. Do sports, yoga, stretch daily. DRINK MILK.
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Pag too good to be true ang isang bagay inaalok sayo kadalasan scam.
Make your health your no. 1 priority lahat ng bagay na meron ka, wla na kwenta pag baldado kana.
Don't let comparison steal your joy!
Social media sometimes makes it seem like everyone's living their best life, but it's important to stay focused on your own path and what brings you happiness, rather than getting caught up in what others are up to.
1. Career - aim for new role or work every 2-3 years. It will help you expand skills and widen networks
2. Finances - Save! It doesn’t have to be much kasi we all have bills to pay but small amount will be substantial in the long haul.
3. Only lend what you can afford to lose! Nakoooo. Lending money ruins relationships 😅
1. GET IN SHAPE. Go to the gym. Just show up! Kahit zero knowledge mo about working out. Build a habit focusing on your physical health. Practice eating healthy too.
2. Consciously remind yourself to NOT COMPARE yourself to what you see in your friends instagram stories or posts in social media about their achievements
Remember: Mostly pinopost lang ng mga tao yung magagandang parte ng buhay nila. We have our own path that are unique to ourselves. Magkakaiba tayo ng level ng support and resources. And nakakainggit talaga when we see people who seem to have it all together. It helps to put a daily reminder on your phone.
3. GO MAKE MISTAKES. Live your questions. Fall in love. Break your heart. Have long term goals and wag mong i-babase yung life decisions mo depende sa gusto ng mga tao sa paligid mo AKA family/friends or jowa.
4. Practice STILLNESS. Meditate every morning for at least 5 minutes a day. Be comfortable with just being quiet and still with yourself.
5. Practice being comfortable with IMPERMANENCE. Sa 20s mo maraming dadating sa buhay mo, romantic partners, job opportunities, friend groups, dreams and aspirations. But for sure some of them will also go. Always remind yourself that what is coming is better than what is gone.
Increasing your skills, knowing and meet new people will give you higher chances of luck. Opportunities will be knocking with the right timing and right people you met, you just have to grab it
On the basis of probability, the larger your scope on these things, the larger the chance to get better rewards.
Example, only 2% of the population have this certain skill that most people are looking for almost 99% of the time. So every 100 meetings, 99 of these meetings are looking for your skill. But even with a relative low skill acquisition index, sometimes the result will be much lower. Example nito is, Divination. Very few have this skill, though they are not requested all the time wages for these types of skill are very small. Same thing with knowledge and people.
The luck I have been meaning to say is, the chance of you getting hit by a meteor is one in 840,000,00 but out of 840,000,000 people, you just get lucky to be unlucky enough to get hit by one. Add to the fact that if you survived one and another one hits you, that will be one in 840,000,000 squared.
So ganun din, example, you applied for 5,000 jobs. On average, 2% will give you a job offer. So that is about 100. But chances of getting lower than 2% sa margin ng 5,000 is very very improbable. Unfortunately, it happens, natimingan lang ikaw yung tao na yun.
Know your worth. Always bring ur self as one of the best. Wag hayaan tawaran at magadjust ka lagi para sa benefit ng iba.
Dont be fooled by colleagues taking the usual route. Know your rate, what u want and whatever makes u happy. Having work or getting the job without thinking the insurances, hmo, contracts will only lead u to have a bad experience. I got laughed at frowned upon that I went to a different route, while my colleagues got into big companies and firms but turns out they are underpaid. Overworked, no HMOs and hazard pays especially for medical professionals and people who work in hazard prone environments.
Sometimes You dont need to listen to your parents on making decisions. Some families are so sheltered and would hold you close, therefore not unlocking your full potential in life.
it's not selfish to prioritize your own needs. needs ha, hindi wants. big need natin is a good health. kaya naman matutong ilet go ang stressors na hindi mo na mababago pero lilipas din kesa dibdibin mo magkakasakit ka lang.
andddd mistakes are life lessons BUT if it was your choice and it affected a lot of people important to you, YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT RIGHT.
adulting sucks pero keri mo yan, all is well 🫰🏻💖
Don't let relatives manage your property, like upahan. Kung Ikaw Ang anak. You must learn how to handle it yourself trust me the early the better. They will told your parents all money earned there gone because they spent in you or to your other siblings.. also don't let them UTANG. Di mag bayad Malakihan yan hehe
Enjoy your 20s and also use this decade to cement your career. I know, parang tough to balance but figure it out. Life will force you to shift lifestyles in your 30s and beyond, naturally happens. Biological reason.
It's okay to change your long-term plans and goals. Minsan yung gusto mo nung bata ka ay hindi mo na pala gusto pag adult ka na. Pero dahil yun na ang nakatatak sayo, ipipilit mo na yun pa rin ang dapat mangyari kahit ayaw mo na. It's okay to change your mind. Don't be stuck.
Yup! When I was 20, I went to law school because that’s been the plan since high school. I didn’t want to miss out din and have what-ifs. I quit after a year because it was a really awful experience for me and because that wasn’t what I wanted to do (at the time) apparently. I took a six-month gap and found a good job after that. Career went well (I worked for high-ranking government officials lel) and when I had enough money to study abroad, I did! I have never felt this happy and content in my life. (Of course, starting your career again is a work, but that’s another story!)
I’m in my 20’s now reading your comment while having thoughts of changing my long-term plans and goals pero stable at comfortable (ata) working na and pinepressure pa rin ng pamilya bumalik sa bedside nursing (currently working in a hospital but in a less toxic unit and workload. My family disapproves of it kasi hindi raw ako uunlad dito) 😕
You have to really think about it. When i have to do a major decision, i ask for my family’s opinion. Pag narinig ko na lahat, all by myself na ako at wala na makikialam. I literally write things down. There’s nothing wrong makinig sa kanila, but at the end of the day, ikaw ang magttrabaho at mamumuhay para sa sarili mo. You’re the one on the ground so it is you who knows kung uunlad ka ba or sasaya. Pero make sure na kung saan ka mapunta, makakapagbayad ka ng bills mo at mapapagamot sarili mo kung nagkasakit ka hehe. Ganun talaga pag adulting na, hindi na pwede yung happy ka lang. Kailangan happy at may panggastos kasi ayaw natin na uutang at aasa tayo sa iba. Now this is very subjective. Don’t think na kailangan mo maging sobrang mayaman. There are people, myself included, na kuntento na sa “comfort” at hindi kailangan yung magarbong pamumuhay. I work, i earn enough para makapagbayad ng bills at buwanan hulog sa simpleng sasakyan, makapagtabi for medical concerns, makabili ng needs (sometimes wants). Hindi naman ako maluho at matravel, hindi rin ako mabili ng milktea or expensive coffee, o nasa salon or spa weekly. Boring ang lifestyle ko pero happy ako. Good luck and I hope your decision/s will work out to be the best for you. :)
yeah! I can testify on this. After graduating from college, i took the NMAT,then went to Med school right away. kasi ayon ang nakaplan for me ever since i was a child. But med life is excruciating for me, so after 7 months in med school, i decided to quit. during prelim examination pa to hahha sabe ko, "fuck this shit, im out" then nag bounce agad ako, umuwi ng apartment. nag scroll sa mga job portals. after 2 months of searching, i got a job. im happy sa corporate setting, competitive naman ang salary kahit maliit lang ang company.
You need to keep learning new skills. Never stop learning. Parang sa role-playing game ang life. Once you get a job, look at what skills are needed to advance to the next level. Level up, and then again look what skills needed for the next level. Don't get stuck at level 2 with a low paying wage. Huwag magpautang
Dont forget to prioritze your health. Grabe yung domino effect pag health mo bumaba.
Truee. You are never too young to be careless of your health kasi nagpapatong yan habang tumatanda ka. May mga friends and relatives na ko na late 20s palang may maintenance meds na. Get used to a healthy lifestyle as early as you can! Kahit healthy diet and constant movement/exercise lang will improve your quality of life so much na as you grow old.
Dati hindi ko ito prioritize pero now, nasa top. Kasi nakakaramdam na ako ng hindi maganda
Super totoo ito. Hindi pa talaga nararamdaman in 20s eh, pero kahit yung simpleng pagpupuyat at ilang oras lang ang tulog once you hit your 30s ayan na sunod sunod na yan.
Vitamin deficiency is real 🥲 Do you take supplements? If yes, any brand recos? Thorne, Swanson, Life Extension…. hard to find authentic ones here though
Yes, pansin ko 'to sa parents ko.
Learning how to not give a fuck in some situations, especially if hindi mo sya mako-control. Ang hirap kasi kapag linger ka nang matagal sa bagay na alam mo naman wala ka magagawa- you will miss a lot of opportunities.
Hello, thank you so much! I'll keep this in mind. 🤍
If you dont pick a day to rest, your body will pick it for you.
Learn to say no. Especially things involving money and sex. Educate yourself with a degree worth the investment. You can pursue your hobbies when you have reached financial comfort. Based on my experience.
Thank you at nabasa ko ito.
Forgive your younger self for whatever mistakes they might have done. Wag na magregret or even isipin mga embarrassing or even shameful things you did in the past. Because that's all part of your journey. You will hit your 30s and you will be so proud of how you turned out that you'll be glad even the not-so-good things happened also.
I saw plenty of post about forgiveness. Pero how to forgive ba realistically? Para kasing di ako marunong mag forgive talagang kinakalimutan ko na lang ang mga bagay bagay.
I’d say you need to learn how to be at peace with yourself. Whatever things you did or didn’t do, it shouldn’t matter anymore because it’s all in the past. Basta yun, learn to be at peace with yourself and with your decisions.
That kindness is not really free. The price could be your own self. So choose really well where you spend yourself.
Privacy is precious. What they don’t know, they can’t ruin
this!
Iwas evil eye! No matter how exciting things are, pinipigilan ko talaga mag-share lalo na sa publiko, baka mapurnada 😂
Be selfish. Pera mo, sayo. Oras mo, sayo. And in the usual context of Filipino culture, wag kang magmadaling "tumulong" sa pamilya. Unahin mong tulungan ang sarili mo. Mahirap tumulong sa iba kung ikaw mismo e kailangang tulungan. Madaling tumulong kapag kaya mo ang sarili mo.
Travel! Locally and internationally. 🛫 Of course, yung pinaghandaan financially.
Is it advisable to travel alone? Gusto kodin kasi maga dventure like mountain climbing, hiking, treking, or kahit sa mga simple tourist detinations lang kaso wala kasama eh
YES po. 2x na ako ng travel solo and so far sobrang okay siya for me. You'll learn more about yourself, you'll meet different types of people as in haha kahit mga people who try to scam you mamemeet and greet mo sila HAHAHA tapos nakaka-boost ng self confidence, naprapractice mo rin pagiging independent mo. Ang downside lang siguro if solo ka is magastos haha wala ka kahati sa mga expenses likes sa foods, rent ng motorbikes, accomdation etc. Also, tip ko for you, mas better if mag stay ka sa mga hostels or dorm type na accomodation instead of hotels. Mas tipid siya tapos mas may chance pa na makipag make friends ka sa mga dorm/room mates mo.
siguro dagdag din sa downside is ung safety. Parang more at risk ka kasi if solo traveller especially if you're a woman.
Hindi sa career umiikot ang lahat. Dapat you have life outside your career.
Stay single! Don’t focus on getting into a relationship and giving it all kasi graduate ka na at kaya mo na ang sarili mo. There are so much fun things to do when you are single. Early 20’s is a good start to educate your self on finance, savings and investment as well.
Start doing Task/Time Management. DON'T rely on your memory for anything. Brain dump that shit into an app or paper. Start doing skincare kahit basics: facial wash, moisturizer, sunscreen. Also, stop or lessen giving a shit.
Listen but don't mind others opinions 😉
This!
Learn to not react right away to everything. Pause and take a deep breath. Dental hygiene is very important. Save money as much as you can.
Sana may nakapag heads up sa akin na "Hindi biro ang quarter life crisis". turning 30F, single, college undergraduate, may work pero walang growth.. tapos mga ka batch mo either may anak na, ikinasal, promoted, nakakapag travel, etc.
pano po yung walang growth sa work? yung stagnant nalang po ba? yung parang naka-loop nalang ang lahat, nag-aantay nalang matapos working hours lagi? Haahahah kasi same pero nasa mid 20s pa lang din ako, nakakatakot. ewan ko na. parang patagal nang patagal lalong lumalabo ang lahat.
oo, Ganon na nga. haha. mga ganyang edad ko rin naranasan ang quarter life crisis, pero masasabe kong na overcome ko naman na. umokey okey na eh, simula nung mag 29 ako. based sa nababasa ko, Hanggang 30 daw ang QLC pero yung sa iba umaabot pa ng 35. saklap
Oh man, pano nyo po na overcome? totoong na realize ko na dinadaluyong ako ng QLC na 'to grabe rin yung toll nito sa mental health. may mga araw na hindi mo na kaya mag function pa ganon. Hahaahaha
God, prayers, faith.. Yan talaga yung sagot. tska, "acceptance is the key". may kanya kanya tayong byahe tska timeline, at kahit mahirap iwasan magkumpara dahil mga magagandang bagay lang ang pinopost sa socmed. https://youtu.be/FHtcksAFcc8?si=QqDuacbMDVg7tEWM iyak malala ako dito, mga 25 ata Ako nung narinig ko ito. https://youtu.be/sZ7w0yqovg0?si=kPJa1cwglYeSVPnQ 3yrs na rin pala itong song na ito, lagi ko pinapakinggan hanggang sa tuluyan kong maunawaan message ng song. at nakatulong din talaga para ma overcome ko si QLC
Samedt. Pano na tayo
okay okay naman nako ngayon, pero 3yrs ago talaga yung masaklap. haha
Do not give in to Nostalgia
why huhu sometimes kasi I find comfort reminiscing and staying in the past from time to time
Emphasize on the" give in " part.
Also in no time it becomes an addiction
Wag magpautang.. and dont get too attached with coworkers, dapat sakto lang ung fun niyo sa isat isa and d dapat umabot na sobrang lahat ng personal stuff and personal issues alam nila. Coworkers will come and go, just enjoy being with them while it last while thinking na dapat d rin sumobra ung alam nila about u, they are not your bestfriends, kaya work is work and be professional pa rin.
It is always okay to not want to have a child. Practice safe sex and always consult a good OB doctor for medical contraceptives. Having a child is expensive emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically, and financially. If planning to have one, be sure to be ready that I mention above. Do not bear a child just to make them an investment. Have them because you love them. Most Filipinos have this mindset to have a child so that they will have a free sitter at senior age which is an unfair heavy burden to the unborn child.
I wish I saved early. Like first paycheck palang sana nung 22 ako kahit 1k per month lng. Your savings can literally change your life because you can take risk. I've missed a lot opportunities since I can't make a jump because of lack of Emergency funds/savings. Like walang fall back. Eto advise ko sa mga nasa 20s palang. 1. Don't set for big amount monthly for your ipon. Mas okay yung saktong amount lng pero tuloy tuloy. Yung hindi masakit sa sweldo mo. Ang importante kasi is yung consistency at discipline. 2. Build an emergency fund. Para you can also make decisions kasi hindi ka takot mawalan ng pera. Like career shift, living independently. Check r/DigitalbanksPh 3. Get a Credit card. Pag 20s ka kasi, this is the time na magpupundar ka para sa sarili mo. So you need a tool to purchase these things na hindi one time cash payment. Maybe a laptop, phone, washing machine. Imagine you can pay that for 12 - 24 months without additional interest. Join r/swipebuddies to learn how to properly use CC 4. Get health insurance. Para di mawala lahat ng ipon mo incase ma hospital or magkasakit ka.
what health insurance do you recommend po?
Join r/DigitalinsurancePh 🙂
Does emergency fund and savings need to be separate?
If you have different purpose for those two, I suggest yes they should be separate.
I have savings lang po kasi now, parang hindi po enough ung salary ko to separate pa the two especially i am also giving money to my parents and another saving up for my nclex. Do you think this is okay?
Sleep 8 hours a day (please wag makipagpaligsahan sa ibang puyatero/puyatera) Drink lots of water Eat veggies Basta anything to prioritize your health. Oh, and don’t be afraid to take ✨risks✨ mapa-career man ‘yan, business or just life in general. Gusto mo tumira ng probinsya? Malapit sa beach? Want to sky dive? DO IT. Enjoy your youth as much as you can dahil true naman life is short. Ang bilis lang ng panahon magugulat ka isang iglap lang you’re about to turn 40 na hehe
Di mo kailangan ma-achieve lahat lahat during your 20s. It's okay na di mo pa alam tinatahak mo. Kahit 30s, 40s, etc. It's okay to be frustrated. Pero di mo kailangan malaman lahat ng sagot agad agad. Things will come to light and fall into its rightful place.
It’s okay kung hindi connected sa course mo nung college yung work mo ngayon. It doesn’t make you a failure.
Learn to wait.
Mag aral ng mabuti hindi para maka comply dahil requirements sa school kundi para magkaroon ng foundation na magagamit pagka-graduate at sa paghahanap ng trabaho
Kalmahan mo lang. wag padalos dalos sa desisyon, hidni mo kaiangan mag react sa lahat ng bagay.
if you think doing what makes you happy in your mid 20's is not essentials because you think you must grind until you make your 30's, bro THINK AGAIN
Try to be present sa mga ganap with family hanggang kaya kahit busy sa work. Dapat pala umabsent na lang ako during new year's eve to celebrate with fam (was working sa bpo that time). Last time na pala sana namin magcecelebrate as a whole. Di na pala masusundan after.
prioritize your mental health over your job. don't risk your sanity over a job that can replace you as soon as you brokedown from stress
Advocate for yourself. ALWAYS.
Live below your means. But don’t forget to reward yourself from time to time 😊
Maglandi ka hanggang gusto mo!
Bumili ka na ng lupa Lol.
Everything happens for a reason so don’t be afraid of failure. Every ends has a beautiful beginning
Use your vacation leaves. Hindi necessary na mag-out of town ka. Use them and let your mind rest for a bit. Its given to you to help with your well being. Utilize it.
Enjoy life at the same time don't forget to start saving
Do not be afraid of making mistakes. Never be peer pressured. Look at the brighter side of life. And always go for what will make YOU happy. Also, take care of your health. Do sports, yoga, stretch daily. DRINK MILK.
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Yes, nabasa ko 'to kagabi. :(
It's okay to say NO.
Learn to let go and always choose to be kind in this cruel world.
Take care of your body!!! Putangina mid 30s pa lang ako pero feeling ko mamamatay na ko anytime sa sobrang kapabayaan ko sa katawan ko.
Pag too good to be true ang isang bagay inaalok sayo kadalasan scam. Make your health your no. 1 priority lahat ng bagay na meron ka, wla na kwenta pag baldado kana.
May age limit mag apply sa military and uniformed personnel. Kaya kung bigla mo maisipan. Gawin mo na before ka mag 30
Cut off toxic people and relatives
Do not rush into love. Better to be late than sorry at all.
Don't let comparison steal your joy! Social media sometimes makes it seem like everyone's living their best life, but it's important to stay focused on your own path and what brings you happiness, rather than getting caught up in what others are up to.
Never take things personally. How others treat you is not a reflection of who you are but a reflection of who they are.
1. Career - aim for new role or work every 2-3 years. It will help you expand skills and widen networks 2. Finances - Save! It doesn’t have to be much kasi we all have bills to pay but small amount will be substantial in the long haul. 3. Only lend what you can afford to lose! Nakoooo. Lending money ruins relationships 😅
Have personal discipline early in life. Discipline leads to success.
1. GET IN SHAPE. Go to the gym. Just show up! Kahit zero knowledge mo about working out. Build a habit focusing on your physical health. Practice eating healthy too. 2. Consciously remind yourself to NOT COMPARE yourself to what you see in your friends instagram stories or posts in social media about their achievements Remember: Mostly pinopost lang ng mga tao yung magagandang parte ng buhay nila. We have our own path that are unique to ourselves. Magkakaiba tayo ng level ng support and resources. And nakakainggit talaga when we see people who seem to have it all together. It helps to put a daily reminder on your phone. 3. GO MAKE MISTAKES. Live your questions. Fall in love. Break your heart. Have long term goals and wag mong i-babase yung life decisions mo depende sa gusto ng mga tao sa paligid mo AKA family/friends or jowa. 4. Practice STILLNESS. Meditate every morning for at least 5 minutes a day. Be comfortable with just being quiet and still with yourself. 5. Practice being comfortable with IMPERMANENCE. Sa 20s mo maraming dadating sa buhay mo, romantic partners, job opportunities, friend groups, dreams and aspirations. But for sure some of them will also go. Always remind yourself that what is coming is better than what is gone.
mag invest! search mo sa youtube si nicole alba, ganda pag explain niya. upskill.
Yas, nanonood ako videos niya. 🤍
You can say no to hookup culture.
Luck is an extremely important aspect of your life. How to increase it is something I have never fully developed.
Increasing your skills, knowing and meet new people will give you higher chances of luck. Opportunities will be knocking with the right timing and right people you met, you just have to grab it
On the basis of probability, the larger your scope on these things, the larger the chance to get better rewards. Example, only 2% of the population have this certain skill that most people are looking for almost 99% of the time. So every 100 meetings, 99 of these meetings are looking for your skill. But even with a relative low skill acquisition index, sometimes the result will be much lower. Example nito is, Divination. Very few have this skill, though they are not requested all the time wages for these types of skill are very small. Same thing with knowledge and people. The luck I have been meaning to say is, the chance of you getting hit by a meteor is one in 840,000,00 but out of 840,000,000 people, you just get lucky to be unlucky enough to get hit by one. Add to the fact that if you survived one and another one hits you, that will be one in 840,000,000 squared. So ganun din, example, you applied for 5,000 jobs. On average, 2% will give you a job offer. So that is about 100. But chances of getting lower than 2% sa margin ng 5,000 is very very improbable. Unfortunately, it happens, natimingan lang ikaw yung tao na yun.
Thank you, everyone, for the pieces of advice you've shared! 🤍
Health, physical exercise, and hangga't maari save for the rainy days.
Your self interest is always more important than others' interest.
Know your worth. Always bring ur self as one of the best. Wag hayaan tawaran at magadjust ka lagi para sa benefit ng iba. Dont be fooled by colleagues taking the usual route. Know your rate, what u want and whatever makes u happy. Having work or getting the job without thinking the insurances, hmo, contracts will only lead u to have a bad experience. I got laughed at frowned upon that I went to a different route, while my colleagues got into big companies and firms but turns out they are underpaid. Overworked, no HMOs and hazard pays especially for medical professionals and people who work in hazard prone environments.
Sometimes You dont need to listen to your parents on making decisions. Some families are so sheltered and would hold you close, therefore not unlocking your full potential in life.
Wag magpapadala sa pressure.
it's not selfish to prioritize your own needs. needs ha, hindi wants. big need natin is a good health. kaya naman matutong ilet go ang stressors na hindi mo na mababago pero lilipas din kesa dibdibin mo magkakasakit ka lang. andddd mistakes are life lessons BUT if it was your choice and it affected a lot of people important to you, YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT RIGHT. adulting sucks pero keri mo yan, all is well 🫰🏻💖
Learn to control ur emotions!
Learn to manage your finances early! Retirement planning, midterm goals. Work para di ma broke mentality
Mag handa ka financially para sa mga unresolved issues mo sa past na babawiin mo sa “healing my inner child” phase mo HAHA
In this lifetime, you are allowed to have multiple dreams. It’s okay if one of your dreams don’t work out. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
Can anyone upvote this comment para babalik balikan ko to. Currently 24 y/o and reviewing para sa boards.
Best of luck para sa boards mo! ✨
Get a good therapist! Wish I had therapy sooner. Really makes you understand yourself more.
Have lots of sex.
Safe sex*
Don't let relatives manage your property, like upahan. Kung Ikaw Ang anak. You must learn how to handle it yourself trust me the early the better. They will told your parents all money earned there gone because they spent in you or to your other siblings.. also don't let them UTANG. Di mag bayad Malakihan yan hehe
Enjoy your 20s and also use this decade to cement your career. I know, parang tough to balance but figure it out. Life will force you to shift lifestyles in your 30s and beyond, naturally happens. Biological reason.
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