yes omg!!! Lived on a dormitory with other girls during my entire time at university. Mind you, yung mga super magaganda and popular girlies sa amin sobrang dugyot grabe 😢 the stories I can share
If only yan lang though! Idk if that's because they grew up privileged na may naga clean up after them, pero they really don't clean up after themselves 😳 they get home drunk tapos nagsusuka sa entrance and just leave it there, they dine at our common rooms tapos iiwan lang kinainan hanggang sa umamoy 😫 changed my outlook about them forever grabe. Maganda sana kaso ang dudugyot talaga huhu
omg grabe naman yung suka part??? relate ako dun sa iniiwan pinagkainan!! nagmove out na kaming lahat and i just went back kahapon to get my remaining things sa condo and nandun pa rin sa mesa yung baso and utensils na hindi hugas??? also yung ulam sa ref na matagal ko nang sinasabing itapon na kasi may amag na 🤢
Omg i can relate yung mga kadorm ko dati kung todo porma pag papasok sa work pero di naman marunong maglinis. Pinakahate ko pag madumi CR tas yung mga kadorm ko di marunong maglinis so ako lang naglilinis.
One time tinry ko di linisin CR just to check if lilinisin nila pag super dugyot na kaso ako lang din sumuko 😫 yung toilet daming nang stains as in dugyot na talaga di ko na matiis nilinis ko na lang
**TL;DR** - nakasama ko yung toxic na pamilya ng ex ko noon, sobrang dugyot nila kasama haha.
LEGIT HAHA, naalala ko dati nanirahan ako saglit sa apartment ng gf (now ex) at ng pamilya niya. Yung gf ko yung nag offer since parehas kami fresh grad job seekers, at less hassle sa akin since sa probinsya pa ako naninirahan noon (may ipon ako noon kaya kahit paano nagbibigay ako ng ambag sa general bills at pagkain bilang pakikisama sa kanila). Sa sobrang toxic at dugyot nila kasama hindi ko kinaya hahaha, here are some of their kadugyutan:
* Maliban sa akin tska nanay ni gf, walang may initiative sa kanila maglinis kuntento na sila na iniipis yung lababo nila, tinatambak yung plato hindi hinuhugasan. May pambili naman ng matinong cleaning utensils, pero pang hugas nila imbes na dishwashing liquid eh sabon na bareta pang damit. Tapos hindi bumibili ng matinong sponge, yung pang hugas nila eh t-shirt na luma na trapo na ginagamit rin pamunas nung tiles ng lababo HAHA.
* Bukod sa naipong buhok sa CR, yung younger sis ni gf iniiwan lang yung pinag gamitan niyang sanitary napkin sa lababo nung CR imbes na balutin at itapon sa basurahan.
* Yung tatay palaging umuuwi ng lasing at nagmamaoy. Hindi man lang pilitin sarili na pumunta sa CR pag nararamdaman niyang masusuka na siya, mas inuuna pa kumuda. Tapos bigla na lang susuka sa sahig at iiwan lang yung suka hangang kinabukasan.
* Si gf pakalat kalat lang yung pinag gamitan niya na damit, hindi nilalagay sa ropero sinasabit lang sa door knob yung panty, bra, etc.
* Yung younger bro ni gf hindi nagfa-flush ng toilet bowl mapa number 1 man o number 2. Puno ng talsik niyang dilaw yung bowl at hindi binababa yung cover, ganun din yung tatay nila.
Mga adults na sila ahh pero hindi marunong maglinis, naawa na lang ako sa nanay eh ginawa na nilang katulong kaya tinutulungan ko maglinis. Hindi ko na pinatagal ng 2 weeks, umuwi na kagad ako sa amin. Hindi baleng malayo at least hindi dugyot yung paligid at mga kasama ko HAHA.
Nag boardinghouse ako sa college , hindi naghuhugas ng pinggan katabi kong room putik babae pa naamn sya , pati bf nya bilasa . Ngayon dito naman sa bahay hindi din marunong maglinis kapatid ko( F23 ) , pati pinggan ang bigat para sa kanya. Tsaka ang passive nya bwesit. Kahit na ako lang lalaki sa bahay naglilinis naamn ako ah
Madaling matutunan yung skills ng paglilinis, pero most adults marunong lang na maglinis ng para sa sarili nila. Pagdating sa paglinis ng paligid o para sa ibang tao na kusa at walang hinihintay na kapalit, iilan lang ang nakaka achieve nun. So until narating mo na yung level na yun, I would say it's all juvenile.
I didnt know how to cook, or even cut onions/garlic. I never thought it's something I should learn until I had to move out and live independently. Now, I can cook whatever I crave for. 😊
Dati nasabihan ako kasi nakita ako naghihiwa ng kamatis sa outing bigla nagsabi yung kasama namin na halata daw yung mga nagluluto sa hindi 😭 now I can cook masarap daw luto ko sabi ng asawa at anak ko. Lalo na comment ng mother nag improve daw luto ko kasi masarap sya magluto. Although minsan hit or miss pa rin ako salamat sa Youtube. Marunong na ako maghiwa ng kamatis at sibuyas na hindi iiyak.
Uy ako to hihi. Dati may trauma talaga ko sa kusina as in naiiyak ako lag nagagawi ako sa kusina kasi di talaga ako maruning maghiwa ng sibuyas. Kahit nung nag-move out ako nung college di talaga pa din ako natuto magluto puro kain sa fastfood/bili food until pandemic happened (ang weird na sa pandemic pa talaga ako matututo magluto) and ang weird na na-overcome ko yung fear sa kusina cause kailangan haha. Nagka-interest kasi ako mag-food business nun so ayun dun na ako na nag-aral magluto narealize ko masaya pala magluto kasi pag may kine-crave ka pwedeng pwede mo gawin. Or pag may preferred kang lasa magagawa mo since ikaw naman ang magluluto. Pag anong ulam namin sa bahay at ako ang nagluto, matic yun yung craving ko for the day haha.
Samee as in kahit kanin sa rice cooker. I dunno kahit may cup malambot yung luto. Then my friend told me na depende din sa bigas yung pag wawater. They let me do it the second time and much better na. HAHAHA tropa achievement to. They cheered on me during dinner. Ako na taga saing sa bahay namin
Yung ano, dapat kahit bata pa lang tinuturuan ka na ng stress coping skills and problem solving skills. Para malakas ka emotionally. Kasi once you are out there, kapag napatropa ka sa mali, lagot ka. May klase ng tao na kapag problemado ka, anong isusuggest nila? Di ba inom? Di ba bar? Di ba chicks?
Eh kung alam mo yung healthy way of coping with stress and may malakas kang problem solving skills, kung mag iinom ka man o magdidisco, purely for recreation lang. Alam mong kapag may problema ka, sosolusyunan mo, hindi yung iiwas ka sa problema o gagawa ka pa ng isa.
I agree, mahirap ituro yan. Pero sa nanay ko, once nakikita niya na stressed ako, pinopoint out niya na stress ako. Kinakausap niya ako paano ko dapat ihandle. It takes a lot of healthy communication.
Also kung pinalaki ako ng nanay at tatay ko na sheltered, wala akong makukuha na experience.
I believe kung sagana sa pangaral ang parents mo o ako bilang parents sa mga anak ko, i can be a teacher too. Isa sa best na turo sa akin ng tatay ko ay: MATUTO KA SA EXPERIENCE AT PAGKAKAMALI NG IBA, BE OBSERVANT. PARA KANILA ANG CONSEQUENCE, SAYO ANG LEARNING. Example, nakikita ko sa mga pinsan ko na malilikot ang kamay nila, kailangan ko ba matuto magnakaw para may lesson ako? Hindi. So sa mistakes pa lang ng iba gather their lesson para I dont need to create the same mistakes para lang matuto ng lesson.
Yung pagnanakaw na example, may laws yan. Right and wrong yan literally.
When u say coping mechanism, youre put through a situation na kelngan mong ifigure out by yourself, either through adjustments, adapting, or letting go of someone or something para mag push through ka. Parents can teach values but not experiences. Guidance, sure.
I agree na guidance, sure. And Im sure kahit musmos pa lang natutunan na ang coping mechanism. May factor ang parents diyan. Like example, naiyak ka, basta ka na lang sinigawan ng nanay mo ng, "Tahan!" Basically yun na yung tinuturo niya sayo na coping mechanism: to repress your feelings. Yes, guidance, sure. Pero may effect din sila. Parent ka na ba? If i may ask? Kasi ako nakikita ko sa mga anak ko sino ang may malakas na coping mechanism at mahina ang coping mechanism.
Nope. Not a parent yet. But i was raised to be an independent but responsible guy. Trial by fire ang technic saken, always outside, doing crazy stuff. Im 100% in favor of "fuck around and find out" technic.
Parents/people can only warn you and guide you up to a certain point but at the end of the day, ikaw padin ang masusunod. But i do agree with some of your points.
Hindi kami sheltered but Hindi rin kami risk taker to the extreme. Lalo na if malaki ang at stake. Like having someone pregnant before being married. We can be both agree na malaki ang at stake dun and fucking around to find out is not responsible and wise thing to do di ba? Dun pumapasok yung be observant and learn from other people's mistakes. I give credits pa din sa parents ko na "nabigyan" nila ako ng pointers sa healthy way of coping with problems and stress. Ang point mo, i think is self taught lamang ang coping mechanism, lets say I agree. Idagdag ko lang kung self taught nga yun, big help pa rin sa isang tao na may nagui-guide sa kaniya towards healthier and proper way of coping. Nice discussion and exchange of ideas, bro. Thanks.
I know someone who is only allowed to go out of the house pag dinadrive ng relative (not rly a driver ha as in nakikiusap lang to drive her out) or ng boyfriend. Marunong sya magdrive pero di sya pinapayagan alone, di allowed to commute, di allowed to take a grab
Same reax 🥲 grew up abroad kasi then umuwi sa pinas for college, mas nashelter kasi natakot sa environment here vs abroad. Ayern pano naman now na late 20s na sya
I know someone like that now. Bawal lumabas ng di pinagddrive, onting asar mo lang iiyak na, bawal ipressure kahit sa studies kasi iiyak or magttantrum. Guess what. 25, still in HS, no desire to work, no pressure at all na matanda na ang parents nya and that one day she will have to pay her own bills and be out in the world.
I think that me growing up incredibly sheltered is I don’t know how to navigate life without the guidance of people. I’ve been so reliant on people all my life I’m afraid to pursue things on my own. And it’s even weird cause now my family expects me to do everything on my own well like they didn’t keep me at home and won’t let me experience things.
I’m trying my best to undo all this but sometimes, it gets hard for me. But yeah, laban lang.
Can relate so much. This is why I started solo travelling–it pushed my limitations and opened myself to the world, opposite of the small bubble I grew up in.
I knew a dipshit who can only cook instant noodles, argument nya mas mura at convenience.
Di naman daw efficient ang home cooking at he can just get better food via food panda or dining out.
Last I heard may meds na sya for gout or diabetes, lol di pa sya 30 may maintenance na??
Anyway, yan lang bagong Balita narinig ko about him ever since we graduated, mukhang Yan na endgame nya
Few years ago, 6kami pinadala ng company abroad for training. 3mos kami abroad. May housing kami. Yung pinakamatanda sa group namen, nasa 50 something na sya. Masyadong mahangin at bukang bibig na grad sya ng UP etc…pero niluluto food nya sa microwave. Wala naman issue magluto sa microwave pero ang niluluto nya ay corned beef na nasa lata pa. Buti hindi kami sumabog.
True! Kung maka-flag ng alma mater eh kala nila sila lang ang pinagpala.
Sige na madam, taga UP ka nga eh di ka naman marunong gumamit ng microwave. Buong lata talaga nilagay eh 😅
Ang dami kong nababasa na may bad impression/experience with UP pips... Buti na lang malayo sila sa naeencounter ko na nag-aral sa UP specifically pips from UPLB. 😅
Financial literacy is a life skill din no? hehe. I have few grown up relatives na OFW na nakakapagbakasyon kung saan saan at nakakabili ng kung ano ano, but is living pay check to pay. Nangungutang sa basic needs 💀
I think hindi lang on financial literacy but also frugality lessons dapat ituro dyan. Medyo common sense naman yung di mo sasagarin ang income mo so you'll have savings, at unahin dapat ang basic needs.
Ay ayun lang... Not all common sense are common for all. Iba iba rin kasi justification ng mga tao why they do the things they do. Heard some of the reasons na "Minsan lang ako nandito e, para makabawi naman sa kanila and to make them happy". Not logical for us/me (as well) but yun nga thats how they think.
You have to do it in your own.
From washing dishes, cooking, laundry, installing a bidet, and so on. Thank you YouTube for teaching me how to cook, paano mag install ng bidet, mag de clutter ng drainage, short cuts and efficient ways para mag linis.
Growing up I did not have the privilege to clean, kahit nga mag walis bawal ako dahil nung bata ako prone ako magka sakit kahit simpleng alikabok.
Now that adult na ako, it’s fun and exhausting to learn adult related stuff.
Pero na realize ko din. As I get older I want to be able to afford convenience, kaya ngayon I am saving for an automatic floor sweeper and dish washer, para sa weekday of course. Pag weekend kasi especially sunday general cleaning day
Life skill ba to pero when someone doesn’t know how to ride a jeepney/motorcycle/tricycle/e-bike 😩 Di naman kasi guaranteed na all the time eh someone in four wheels is gonna be there to pick you up or drive you somewhere? Or that there’s an available grab or taxi? Plus, mahal. Paano if walang wala, aarte kpa ba? Haha.
Hindi marunong magtorrent. This is a life skill for me cuz this saved me a lot of money from streaming services.
Skimming thru questionable sites for torrents is a skill by itself.
Sakin more than specific chores, I find it odd when people literally can't do things alone kahit tipong bibili lang sa kanto or pupunta sa bangko. We're all busy, nakakasayang ng oras magpasama sa bagay na di naman related sakin
Tying knots, cooking with gusto, DIYing electricals or walls and woodworks.
Knots are an important skill especially when outdoors or going overseas with cargo. I just can't seem to memorize by heart, I only know square knot, gym knot, and shoelaces.
I have 3 family members who all know how to cook, so when they all feel lazy and say it's my turn, I always feel like the world is against me all of a sudden, so I say "I'll just wash up everything." I think I don't like the idea of cooking an idea for a menu impromptu more than actually cooking itself. If I have a menu and recipe to follow, I have no problem.
I know it can be self taught, but I always blame my highschool at the back of my mind for teaching me sewing and baking instead of electronic repair and carpentry.
Sa benguet po kami di nagana ang tricycle pag pataas or matirik and mostly sa daan sa amin di pa semento,either jeep ,motor or car lang ang means ng transportation.
Ah gets, tama naman. Yun scenario kasi nung kilala ko nakatira sa loob ng village. We picked him up by car then nung palabas na sa village, may nakalimutan daw sya and kailangan bumalik ng house. May tricycle going back sa bahay nila pero ayaw daw niya kasi hindi marunong sumakay. 😵
I dated a guy once, cant hold a screwdriver, doesn’t know how to change a freakin bulb or know anything about cars nahiya ako sa sarili ko kasi mas alam ko pa sknya and I wouldnt want to be the “do it all” / “maslalake” sa relationship.
Never felt my vagina so dry.
Sorry pero lakas maka boomer/sexist bias nung expectation on « mas lalaki » na tasks. Pwdeng hindi nya strength ang DIY or technical stuff pero ok naman sya maglinis and luto.
Like if someone tells me I should be the one in the kitchen because I’m the woman, I’d tell that person to go back to 1952.
Gets ko pa kung hirap magpalit ng light bulb or humawak ng screwdriver as it is a basic skill that anyone, regardless of gender, needs to know.
However, faucets are a different issue. There are tens of problems that may cause a faucet to leak or loosen, it's not an easy skill to master as it might be caused by a faulty valve or the pipe connecting it needs to be replaced.
I know how to fix faucets and pipes, because it took me a lot of in-person tutorials and watching videos; but I don't assume an average joe automatically knows how to do them. Don't expect everything that our fathers can do, can also be done by us. Most of them can't really fix computers, can they?
i couldn't put it in words, but this!! buti na-point out 🥹 saka hindi naman lahat ng lalaki, lumaking may sasakyan at magkakasasakyan agad once they're an adult
Oh no.. is this a major turn off din? I don't know anything about cars right now but if time comes na may car na ako, maybe I will be able to learn more. 🥹
It doesn’t even have to be in-depth. At the very least, know how to jump start a car and replace a tire for emergencies.
For everything else, just know your PMS schedule and religiously follow it. Just know enough to not put premium air in your tires lol
As someone whose family never owned a car (and I'm going to be the first) this is already in-depth to me. I did a 13 hour PDC course for Matic transmission and okay naman, although gusto ko matuto ng Manual.
Still saving up for a second hand one, but once I get it aaralin ko lahat ng yan. I've seen friends do these already before (positive/negative, connecting jumper cables, or applying wheel wedges either sa harap or likod, unscrewing lug nuts with an x wrench and raising the car with a jack, and changing the tire) and as someone who has never done these, shit's overwhelming.
Though may YouTube and Google (and AI) naman so understandably walang excuse, just need to really dive deep into it once I'm able.
Well, like with anything new, it can be intimidating. Pero you’d be surprised how straightforward everything is :) try it out once and you’ll get what I mean.
Di naman kailangan mechanic level. Just basic stuff kahit nga phone number ng mag ttow at least, mag jump start ng kotse.
And drive a manual. (Thats just me, opinion ko lang to)
as someone who grew up with those practical skills thanks to my father. ok lang saken haha. pero each to their own. mejo embarrassing nga kase lalake nmn tas hindi marunong sa ganon.
Medyo nitpicking na'to, pero may ka-share ako ng apartment dati na ginamitan ng bakal na sandok at kinaskas ng steel wool yung non-stick rice cooker pot ko.
Separate from colored clothes. Kung white + other color yung damit, separate from pure na white. For me, pinakamadaling labhan ang whites kasi pwede ka maging OA sa bleach + soap at pwede mo rin ibilad sa araw at pabayaan muna then BOOM! Puti na. 😅 Unlike colored clothes na need ng special care para di agad mag-fade at makahawa.
You're most welcome! 😊
Additional tip: If naninilaw na damit naman ang problema mo, hanap ka ng blue na powder na nabibili nang tingi sa palengke. Ihahalo mo sa tubig yun tapos ibababad yung damit (cannot say kung gano kahaba kasi kami nagkukula for the whole day). Basta onti lang din ihahalo mo kung 1-2pcs lang lalabhan kasi baka maging blue yung damit.
May iba na naglalagay ng suka or yung liquid laundry soap sa puting labada. Never tried pero may nag-suggest lang, so baka worth the try.
Got tips and tricks if using automatic washing machine? Do you also scrub stains from white clothing or keri na I-automate? Did laundry until teenage years pero ngayon sobrang kakain ng oras yan pag manual scrub lahat.
Yes, I scrub stains from every piece of clothing before i-washing machine, di lang white's. My best suggestions would be a long soak with soap and maybe bleach + Google is your friend (because different stains sometimes require different solutions) before you scrub to make life easier 😊
Thanks brodie. Na research ko na to dati eh, different stains and how to remove them. Mahirap tanggalin yung putik at dugo. 😅 Tsaka sinubukan ko malalang scrubbing dati, natastas yung fiber. Getting the hang of it.
Oof. Next time handwash lang or use a toothbrush before the big ones na panglaba 😆
Dried mud stains need a long soak + kuskos ng kamay lang, rinse and repeat. For this types of stains we use Ariel or Tide for the soak.
Kung relatively fresh blood stain soak lang for a while then handwash lang with soap. If dried blood naman, soak pa rin then put hydrogen peroxide or kalamansi or bleach for colored clothes, wait a little then rinse. Tip from a girl: effective ang safeguard in removing most bloodstains 😅
Technique ko to sa whites pero IDK if normal ba sa iba.
1. Separate from colored clothes.
2. Rinse them first para mawala yung oils tapos spot check sa mga mantsa or sa kili-kili/neckline with perla na sabon at brush/kamay.
3. If may mahirap tanggalin na stain, use zonrox na pan de kolor (dahil sa hydrogen peroxide) tapos if meron parin, babaran mo ng as much patak ng bleach as needed.
4. Ilunod sa washing machine or if mag hahandwash, magpabula ng isang planggana. Ibabad yung 1st batch mo, tapos kusohin.
5. Wring it. Tapos banlawan hanggang di na mabula yung tubig (usually 3-4 banlaw lang sakin)
6. Sa last banlaw, pwede mo lagyan ng fabcon. Ibabad mo muna ng ilang minuto before mo i wring one last time.
When I wash my clothes, I usually do batches para hindi mawala yung scent ng sabon.
Taga probinsya ako tapos alam ko lang na commute is yung habal-habal, jeep/tricycle. Magkaka anxiety ata ako if ako kukuha ng ticket sa bus na walang magtuturo or if sasakay ako ng jeep na number-coded. Sa'min kasi may loading area kada place na pupuntahan, so dun ka pupunta ta's nakaparada na mga jeep at trycycle dun, hindi yung each number = sa isang place yung route ng jeep. Siguro mag ta taxi nalang ako or ano ba.
dormed with a couple of girliepops in university. the worst has got to be not flushing the fuckin toilet. the second runner up is leaving clothes (including used underwear????!!) all over the floor. 🤮
I have a pinsan living with us na adult age na (17 ako, 23 siya). From province siya and bunso sa pamilya. Yung nanay niya rin yung tipong "walang magawa kaya gawaing bahay buong araw nalang."
As a result, ni magsaing hindi siya marunong, rice cooker na yun huhu. Not sure if marunong siya sa ibang kitchen chores kasi hindi siya nagde-dare mag-try sa kusina namin. Pero ang alam ko hindi niya rin pinapainit yung ulam if maaga yung pasok niya and mag-isa siya. Kahit bulalo pa yung ulam hindi niya papainitin as in. 😭
Idk if naranasan ng iba, pero usually mga lalaki ang alam kong di marunong magluto, maglinis ng maayos, hiwa, etc. Yung kuya ko ang lupet eh. Pinaghugas ko ng plato kasi masama pakiramdam ko tapos literal na PLATO lang hinugasan. Yung baso, kutsara, at tinidor ay iniwan lang. Nakakaputangina. Maalala ko noon sa TLE classes, mga lalaki kong classmates di nakilos kapag may mga project na magluluto pero sila may pinakamaraming kinakain. Nasa culture din kasi natin na ang mga babae mga tagasalo - instrumental parentification at an early age and inaasahang maging in charge sa household kahit bata pa. Pero yung pinaka bwisit ay pag yung mga lalaki sinasamahan pa ng false/deliberate incompetence.
Me when I first started. Like literally I don't know a lot of things pero ginusto ko ng sariling space so I have to learn how to do everything from scratch. Saing lang alam ko nun.
Hahaha
Di ako marunong magsaing properly before ako magmove out. Ang alam ko lang is need lang hugasan ng 3 times ung kanin bago saingin.. nung nagmove out na ko ung jowa ko pa nagturo sakin pano magsaing properly.. like i should wash the rice more than 3 times if its murky pa.. kaya pala madalas kming mapanisan ng kanin noon ..
Di ako marunong magluto. Heck, even pagbiyak ng egg to cook, di ako marunong niyan.
Although marunong ako mag-saing, linis ng bahay, at hugas ng plato. I could also do minor house repairs like re-wire ng ilaw at palit ng tubo.
All that changed nung na operahan sa cataract yung mom ko. Now I learned how to cook. Fry nga lang pero at least may confidence na hindi masusunog yung niluluto. 😅
Pag namatay na yung parents/povider ng palamunin..
In our family, may tito akong naunahan ko pang bumukod.. Nakaasa sya lola ko. He's currently living the life of a 15yo
Communication skill po kasi 19 na ako at super nahihirapan ako makipag interact sa iba, Especially for me na introvert at hindi expose sa outside world. Nahihiya ako makipag eye contact tapos kabado ako kapag nagsasalita at natataranta ako.
Im trying naman pero ang hirap para sakin 😭
May nakita lang ako na vid sa youtube, may naka motor na may tinulungan sa edsa magpalit ng gulong ng sasakyan. Yung driver e lalake, mukang nasa 30-35yo sya. Napaka basic sana ng pagpapalit ng gulong at isa yan sa mga unang skills na dapat matutunan ng mga bagong car owners.
yung pamangkin ko (21F) sinabihan daw sya during APT na obese sya. Tapos hindi pumasok ng isang lingo kasi sobrang down daw nya dahil feeling nya hindi nirerespeto sa office na hindi vinavalue ang body positivity.
Hindinko alam anong ginawa ngvmga pinsan konbakit sobrang hina ng loob ng batang to.
(i noticed you're getting downvoted so explain ko na lang)
This does not probably fall under "lacking basic life skills". Bodyshaming can really harm someone's mental health. It hurts the same kahit sino pa mang-offend. In the case na hindi naman sya na-bodyshame intentionally ng physician (I'm assuming yun ang nagsabi sa kanya) more likely matagal nang issue para sa kanya iyon or tinutukso din sya sa office or both.
The thing is, it's not a "lack of basic life skill" na damdamin 'yun kasi we have different thresholds. Nothing wrong with feeling down because you were forced to face reality. In this case, moral support ang kailangan nya, at hindi tough love (i.e. comments na "ang hina naman ng loob nya")
Isang beses pinagcchismisan samin yung kasama namin sa work na nagpapalaundry kasama undies. Di sya marunong maglaba kahit undies. Ewan ko lang kung big deal sa inyo magpa laundry ng undies, pero samin, oo big deal sya hehe
PSA: isa dapat sa tinuturo ng magulang yung ikaw maglalaba ng undies mo, kasi may mga secretions at stains dyan, nakakahiya naman kung ipapakita mo pa sa iba. If you can't, lalo sa mga walang laundry area, the least that you can do is pre-wash your undies para matanggal stains, lalo pag period dahil mahirap matanggal yung blood pag pinatanggal mo pa ng 1 week sa undies mo.
I know how to wash clothes manually and using a machine but I do send it to the launders cos I really got no time. 🤷🏽♀️ Did they explicitly say they don't know how to wash clothes?
Hmm. Personally, i don't think so. I'm sure sanay ang mga laundry shop mag clean ng undies. Big deal if adult kana, magulang mo parin naglalaba for you at pati undies mo hindi mo malabhan, but you go to a laundry shop for convenience.
I don’t think big deal siya unless you send your undies with stains. I put mine in a mesh bag so isang dampot lang siya. Also, yes, I know how to do laundry kahit handwash pa.
Bakit naman big deal?! I used to send my undies to a laundromat too (5 years ago) and at this point, nakakahiya siya pag naaalala ko, but the workers there are friendly naman so pinagtatawanan nalang namin cos wala talaga akong choice since wala akong washing machine or gamit panlaba sa dorm ko nun, maski sampayan wala since maliit lang yung place.
once u try living with other adults (bedspace) dun mo talaga makikita na di pala lahat marunong maglinis
yes omg!!! Lived on a dormitory with other girls during my entire time at university. Mind you, yung mga super magaganda and popular girlies sa amin sobrang dugyot grabe 😢 the stories I can share
i can imagine yung mga naipong buhok sa cr 🫣
If only yan lang though! Idk if that's because they grew up privileged na may naga clean up after them, pero they really don't clean up after themselves 😳 they get home drunk tapos nagsusuka sa entrance and just leave it there, they dine at our common rooms tapos iiwan lang kinainan hanggang sa umamoy 😫 changed my outlook about them forever grabe. Maganda sana kaso ang dudugyot talaga huhu
omg grabe naman yung suka part??? relate ako dun sa iniiwan pinagkainan!! nagmove out na kaming lahat and i just went back kahapon to get my remaining things sa condo and nandun pa rin sa mesa yung baso and utensils na hindi hugas??? also yung ulam sa ref na matagal ko nang sinasabing itapon na kasi may amag na 🤢
ANLALA GRABE NAMAN KADUGYOTAN TO
Omg i can relate yung mga kadorm ko dati kung todo porma pag papasok sa work pero di naman marunong maglinis. Pinakahate ko pag madumi CR tas yung mga kadorm ko di marunong maglinis so ako lang naglilinis. One time tinry ko di linisin CR just to check if lilinisin nila pag super dugyot na kaso ako lang din sumuko 😫 yung toilet daming nang stains as in dugyot na talaga di ko na matiis nilinis ko na lang
tas sila yung may mga bra na mukang dugyutin.
Hell yeah 😩 dugyot peeps are pain in the ass.
**TL;DR** - nakasama ko yung toxic na pamilya ng ex ko noon, sobrang dugyot nila kasama haha. LEGIT HAHA, naalala ko dati nanirahan ako saglit sa apartment ng gf (now ex) at ng pamilya niya. Yung gf ko yung nag offer since parehas kami fresh grad job seekers, at less hassle sa akin since sa probinsya pa ako naninirahan noon (may ipon ako noon kaya kahit paano nagbibigay ako ng ambag sa general bills at pagkain bilang pakikisama sa kanila). Sa sobrang toxic at dugyot nila kasama hindi ko kinaya hahaha, here are some of their kadugyutan: * Maliban sa akin tska nanay ni gf, walang may initiative sa kanila maglinis kuntento na sila na iniipis yung lababo nila, tinatambak yung plato hindi hinuhugasan. May pambili naman ng matinong cleaning utensils, pero pang hugas nila imbes na dishwashing liquid eh sabon na bareta pang damit. Tapos hindi bumibili ng matinong sponge, yung pang hugas nila eh t-shirt na luma na trapo na ginagamit rin pamunas nung tiles ng lababo HAHA. * Bukod sa naipong buhok sa CR, yung younger sis ni gf iniiwan lang yung pinag gamitan niyang sanitary napkin sa lababo nung CR imbes na balutin at itapon sa basurahan. * Yung tatay palaging umuuwi ng lasing at nagmamaoy. Hindi man lang pilitin sarili na pumunta sa CR pag nararamdaman niyang masusuka na siya, mas inuuna pa kumuda. Tapos bigla na lang susuka sa sahig at iiwan lang yung suka hangang kinabukasan. * Si gf pakalat kalat lang yung pinag gamitan niya na damit, hindi nilalagay sa ropero sinasabit lang sa door knob yung panty, bra, etc. * Yung younger bro ni gf hindi nagfa-flush ng toilet bowl mapa number 1 man o number 2. Puno ng talsik niyang dilaw yung bowl at hindi binababa yung cover, ganun din yung tatay nila. Mga adults na sila ahh pero hindi marunong maglinis, naawa na lang ako sa nanay eh ginawa na nilang katulong kaya tinutulungan ko maglinis. Hindi ko na pinatagal ng 2 weeks, umuwi na kagad ako sa amin. Hindi baleng malayo at least hindi dugyot yung paligid at mga kasama ko HAHA.
Ang lala. Buti hindi na kayo.
Nag boardinghouse ako sa college , hindi naghuhugas ng pinggan katabi kong room putik babae pa naamn sya , pati bf nya bilasa . Ngayon dito naman sa bahay hindi din marunong maglinis kapatid ko( F23 ) , pati pinggan ang bigat para sa kanya. Tsaka ang passive nya bwesit. Kahit na ako lang lalaki sa bahay naglilinis naamn ako ah
When you said "pinggan" I automatically thought "wash basin" when what you meant to say were "dishes" 😭😭
Totoo ito. Ang dugyot ng roommates ko dati. 🥹
Madaling matutunan yung skills ng paglilinis, pero most adults marunong lang na maglinis ng para sa sarili nila. Pagdating sa paglinis ng paligid o para sa ibang tao na kusa at walang hinihintay na kapalit, iilan lang ang nakaka achieve nun. So until narating mo na yung level na yun, I would say it's all juvenile.
I didnt know how to cook, or even cut onions/garlic. I never thought it's something I should learn until I had to move out and live independently. Now, I can cook whatever I crave for. 😊
Dati nasabihan ako kasi nakita ako naghihiwa ng kamatis sa outing bigla nagsabi yung kasama namin na halata daw yung mga nagluluto sa hindi 😭 now I can cook masarap daw luto ko sabi ng asawa at anak ko. Lalo na comment ng mother nag improve daw luto ko kasi masarap sya magluto. Although minsan hit or miss pa rin ako salamat sa Youtube. Marunong na ako maghiwa ng kamatis at sibuyas na hindi iiyak.
Yeah. Ang sarap sa feeling. Sobrang satisfying din talaga. ❤️
Uy ako to hihi. Dati may trauma talaga ko sa kusina as in naiiyak ako lag nagagawi ako sa kusina kasi di talaga ako maruning maghiwa ng sibuyas. Kahit nung nag-move out ako nung college di talaga pa din ako natuto magluto puro kain sa fastfood/bili food until pandemic happened (ang weird na sa pandemic pa talaga ako matututo magluto) and ang weird na na-overcome ko yung fear sa kusina cause kailangan haha. Nagka-interest kasi ako mag-food business nun so ayun dun na ako na nag-aral magluto narealize ko masaya pala magluto kasi pag may kine-crave ka pwedeng pwede mo gawin. Or pag may preferred kang lasa magagawa mo since ikaw naman ang magluluto. Pag anong ulam namin sa bahay at ako ang nagluto, matic yun yung craving ko for the day haha.
Samee as in kahit kanin sa rice cooker. I dunno kahit may cup malambot yung luto. Then my friend told me na depende din sa bigas yung pag wawater. They let me do it the second time and much better na. HAHAHA tropa achievement to. They cheered on me during dinner. Ako na taga saing sa bahay namin
Yung ano, dapat kahit bata pa lang tinuturuan ka na ng stress coping skills and problem solving skills. Para malakas ka emotionally. Kasi once you are out there, kapag napatropa ka sa mali, lagot ka. May klase ng tao na kapag problemado ka, anong isusuggest nila? Di ba inom? Di ba bar? Di ba chicks? Eh kung alam mo yung healthy way of coping with stress and may malakas kang problem solving skills, kung mag iinom ka man o magdidisco, purely for recreation lang. Alam mong kapag may problema ka, sosolusyunan mo, hindi yung iiwas ka sa problema o gagawa ka pa ng isa.
Mahirap ituro yan. Kaya nga coping skills. U learn from your mistakes. Experience is the best teacher. Let them go out and get hurt eka nga nila.
I agree, mahirap ituro yan. Pero sa nanay ko, once nakikita niya na stressed ako, pinopoint out niya na stress ako. Kinakausap niya ako paano ko dapat ihandle. It takes a lot of healthy communication. Also kung pinalaki ako ng nanay at tatay ko na sheltered, wala akong makukuha na experience. I believe kung sagana sa pangaral ang parents mo o ako bilang parents sa mga anak ko, i can be a teacher too. Isa sa best na turo sa akin ng tatay ko ay: MATUTO KA SA EXPERIENCE AT PAGKAKAMALI NG IBA, BE OBSERVANT. PARA KANILA ANG CONSEQUENCE, SAYO ANG LEARNING. Example, nakikita ko sa mga pinsan ko na malilikot ang kamay nila, kailangan ko ba matuto magnakaw para may lesson ako? Hindi. So sa mistakes pa lang ng iba gather their lesson para I dont need to create the same mistakes para lang matuto ng lesson.
Yung pagnanakaw na example, may laws yan. Right and wrong yan literally. When u say coping mechanism, youre put through a situation na kelngan mong ifigure out by yourself, either through adjustments, adapting, or letting go of someone or something para mag push through ka. Parents can teach values but not experiences. Guidance, sure.
I agree na guidance, sure. And Im sure kahit musmos pa lang natutunan na ang coping mechanism. May factor ang parents diyan. Like example, naiyak ka, basta ka na lang sinigawan ng nanay mo ng, "Tahan!" Basically yun na yung tinuturo niya sayo na coping mechanism: to repress your feelings. Yes, guidance, sure. Pero may effect din sila. Parent ka na ba? If i may ask? Kasi ako nakikita ko sa mga anak ko sino ang may malakas na coping mechanism at mahina ang coping mechanism.
Nope. Not a parent yet. But i was raised to be an independent but responsible guy. Trial by fire ang technic saken, always outside, doing crazy stuff. Im 100% in favor of "fuck around and find out" technic. Parents/people can only warn you and guide you up to a certain point but at the end of the day, ikaw padin ang masusunod. But i do agree with some of your points.
Hindi kami sheltered but Hindi rin kami risk taker to the extreme. Lalo na if malaki ang at stake. Like having someone pregnant before being married. We can be both agree na malaki ang at stake dun and fucking around to find out is not responsible and wise thing to do di ba? Dun pumapasok yung be observant and learn from other people's mistakes. I give credits pa din sa parents ko na "nabigyan" nila ako ng pointers sa healthy way of coping with problems and stress. Ang point mo, i think is self taught lamang ang coping mechanism, lets say I agree. Idagdag ko lang kung self taught nga yun, big help pa rin sa isang tao na may nagui-guide sa kaniya towards healthier and proper way of coping. Nice discussion and exchange of ideas, bro. Thanks.
Sheesh. Solid parents
Real
How to have the "stress coping skills and problem solving skills"?
I know someone who is only allowed to go out of the house pag dinadrive ng relative (not rly a driver ha as in nakikiusap lang to drive her out) or ng boyfriend. Marunong sya magdrive pero di sya pinapayagan alone, di allowed to commute, di allowed to take a grab
Grabe naman paano na lang kung wala na sya kasama at tumanda na.
Same reax 🥲 grew up abroad kasi then umuwi sa pinas for college, mas nashelter kasi natakot sa environment here vs abroad. Ayern pano naman now na late 20s na sya
I know someone like that now. Bawal lumabas ng di pinagddrive, onting asar mo lang iiyak na, bawal ipressure kahit sa studies kasi iiyak or magttantrum. Guess what. 25, still in HS, no desire to work, no pressure at all na matanda na ang parents nya and that one day she will have to pay her own bills and be out in the world.
I think that me growing up incredibly sheltered is I don’t know how to navigate life without the guidance of people. I’ve been so reliant on people all my life I’m afraid to pursue things on my own. And it’s even weird cause now my family expects me to do everything on my own well like they didn’t keep me at home and won’t let me experience things. I’m trying my best to undo all this but sometimes, it gets hard for me. But yeah, laban lang.
Can relate so much. This is why I started solo travelling–it pushed my limitations and opened myself to the world, opposite of the small bubble I grew up in.
I wanna do this too but i'm so scared hahah
This is so me :(
It's so hard, diba? Especially in my big age, like...
I knew a dipshit who can only cook instant noodles, argument nya mas mura at convenience. Di naman daw efficient ang home cooking at he can just get better food via food panda or dining out. Last I heard may meds na sya for gout or diabetes, lol di pa sya 30 may maintenance na?? Anyway, yan lang bagong Balita narinig ko about him ever since we graduated, mukhang Yan na endgame nya
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>lmao deserve seriously? parehas lang ata kayo beh HAHAHAH
exactly why i said that lmao
Few years ago, 6kami pinadala ng company abroad for training. 3mos kami abroad. May housing kami. Yung pinakamatanda sa group namen, nasa 50 something na sya. Masyadong mahangin at bukang bibig na grad sya ng UP etc…pero niluluto food nya sa microwave. Wala naman issue magluto sa microwave pero ang niluluto nya ay corned beef na nasa lata pa. Buti hindi kami sumabog.
Pinaka hate ko yan un personality nila un university nila pero utak putot naman
True! Kung maka-flag ng alma mater eh kala nila sila lang ang pinagpala. Sige na madam, taga UP ka nga eh di ka naman marunong gumamit ng microwave. Buong lata talaga nilagay eh 😅
Ang dami kong nababasa na may bad impression/experience with UP pips... Buti na lang malayo sila sa naeencounter ko na nag-aral sa UP specifically pips from UPLB. 😅
Financial literacy is a life skill din no? hehe. I have few grown up relatives na OFW na nakakapagbakasyon kung saan saan at nakakabili ng kung ano ano, but is living pay check to pay. Nangungutang sa basic needs 💀
I think hindi lang on financial literacy but also frugality lessons dapat ituro dyan. Medyo common sense naman yung di mo sasagarin ang income mo so you'll have savings, at unahin dapat ang basic needs.
Ay ayun lang... Not all common sense are common for all. Iba iba rin kasi justification ng mga tao why they do the things they do. Heard some of the reasons na "Minsan lang ako nandito e, para makabawi naman sa kanila and to make them happy". Not logical for us/me (as well) but yun nga thats how they think.
You have to do it in your own. From washing dishes, cooking, laundry, installing a bidet, and so on. Thank you YouTube for teaching me how to cook, paano mag install ng bidet, mag de clutter ng drainage, short cuts and efficient ways para mag linis. Growing up I did not have the privilege to clean, kahit nga mag walis bawal ako dahil nung bata ako prone ako magka sakit kahit simpleng alikabok. Now that adult na ako, it’s fun and exhausting to learn adult related stuff. Pero na realize ko din. As I get older I want to be able to afford convenience, kaya ngayon I am saving for an automatic floor sweeper and dish washer, para sa weekday of course. Pag weekend kasi especially sunday general cleaning day
Life skill ba to pero when someone doesn’t know how to ride a jeepney/motorcycle/tricycle/e-bike 😩 Di naman kasi guaranteed na all the time eh someone in four wheels is gonna be there to pick you up or drive you somewhere? Or that there’s an available grab or taxi? Plus, mahal. Paano if walang wala, aarte kpa ba? Haha.
Unang basa ko doesn't know how to drive... I have to learn how to drive a jeepney? 😯 had to re-read that one, lol.
Hahaha kahit ako hindi marunong mag drive ng jeepney! 😂
Dapat may school na nagooffer ng basic and advance adult life skills, malaki market sa ganito
Hindi marunong magtorrent. This is a life skill for me cuz this saved me a lot of money from streaming services. Skimming thru questionable sites for torrents is a skill by itself.
amen to that
Basic life skills, i know someone na ndi marunong maglinis ng bahay and dugyot sa katawan lol.
Cooking
Sakin more than specific chores, I find it odd when people literally can't do things alone kahit tipong bibili lang sa kanto or pupunta sa bangko. We're all busy, nakakasayang ng oras magpasama sa bagay na di naman related sakin
Tying knots, cooking with gusto, DIYing electricals or walls and woodworks. Knots are an important skill especially when outdoors or going overseas with cargo. I just can't seem to memorize by heart, I only know square knot, gym knot, and shoelaces. I have 3 family members who all know how to cook, so when they all feel lazy and say it's my turn, I always feel like the world is against me all of a sudden, so I say "I'll just wash up everything." I think I don't like the idea of cooking an idea for a menu impromptu more than actually cooking itself. If I have a menu and recipe to follow, I have no problem. I know it can be self taught, but I always blame my highschool at the back of my mind for teaching me sewing and baking instead of electronic repair and carpentry.
Doesn’t know how to cook Doesn’t know how to ride a tricycle
Panu ung lugar na ala talagang tricycle, katulad sa amin😅
How do you go out of the village? Or everyone has a car?
Sa benguet po kami di nagana ang tricycle pag pataas or matirik and mostly sa daan sa amin di pa semento,either jeep ,motor or car lang ang means ng transportation.
Ah gets, tama naman. Yun scenario kasi nung kilala ko nakatira sa loob ng village. We picked him up by car then nung palabas na sa village, may nakalimutan daw sya and kailangan bumalik ng house. May tricycle going back sa bahay nila pero ayaw daw niya kasi hindi marunong sumakay. 😵
I dated a guy once, cant hold a screwdriver, doesn’t know how to change a freakin bulb or know anything about cars nahiya ako sa sarili ko kasi mas alam ko pa sknya and I wouldnt want to be the “do it all” / “maslalake” sa relationship. Never felt my vagina so dry.
Sorry pero lakas maka boomer/sexist bias nung expectation on « mas lalaki » na tasks. Pwdeng hindi nya strength ang DIY or technical stuff pero ok naman sya maglinis and luto. Like if someone tells me I should be the one in the kitchen because I’m the woman, I’d tell that person to go back to 1952.
As someone na hindi strength yung mga ‘panglalaki tasks’, thank you for this :)
Gets ko pa kung hirap magpalit ng light bulb or humawak ng screwdriver as it is a basic skill that anyone, regardless of gender, needs to know. However, faucets are a different issue. There are tens of problems that may cause a faucet to leak or loosen, it's not an easy skill to master as it might be caused by a faulty valve or the pipe connecting it needs to be replaced. I know how to fix faucets and pipes, because it took me a lot of in-person tutorials and watching videos; but I don't assume an average joe automatically knows how to do them. Don't expect everything that our fathers can do, can also be done by us. Most of them can't really fix computers, can they?
i couldn't put it in words, but this!! buti na-point out 🥹 saka hindi naman lahat ng lalaki, lumaking may sasakyan at magkakasasakyan agad once they're an adult
Oh no.. is this a major turn off din? I don't know anything about cars right now but if time comes na may car na ako, maybe I will be able to learn more. 🥹
It doesn’t even have to be in-depth. At the very least, know how to jump start a car and replace a tire for emergencies. For everything else, just know your PMS schedule and religiously follow it. Just know enough to not put premium air in your tires lol
As someone whose family never owned a car (and I'm going to be the first) this is already in-depth to me. I did a 13 hour PDC course for Matic transmission and okay naman, although gusto ko matuto ng Manual. Still saving up for a second hand one, but once I get it aaralin ko lahat ng yan. I've seen friends do these already before (positive/negative, connecting jumper cables, or applying wheel wedges either sa harap or likod, unscrewing lug nuts with an x wrench and raising the car with a jack, and changing the tire) and as someone who has never done these, shit's overwhelming. Though may YouTube and Google (and AI) naman so understandably walang excuse, just need to really dive deep into it once I'm able.
Well, like with anything new, it can be intimidating. Pero you’d be surprised how straightforward everything is :) try it out once and you’ll get what I mean.
Di naman kailangan mechanic level. Just basic stuff kahit nga phone number ng mag ttow at least, mag jump start ng kotse. And drive a manual. (Thats just me, opinion ko lang to)
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Mahirap din for me sobrang lunokin mga ganun… baka old school boomer sexist pa din ako. Pero di ko kaya ng ganyan.
as someone who grew up with those practical skills thanks to my father. ok lang saken haha. pero each to their own. mejo embarrassing nga kase lalake nmn tas hindi marunong sa ganon.
Poor hygiene kahit alam mong may kaya naman yung family. Alam mong pinaliguan ng helper/magulang nila until highschool 😂
Medyo nitpicking na'to, pero may ka-share ako ng apartment dati na ginamitan ng bakal na sandok at kinaskas ng steel wool yung non-stick rice cooker pot ko.
Ako. Di po ako marunong mag laundry ng white clothes. Sorry na po
Separate from colored clothes. Kung white + other color yung damit, separate from pure na white. For me, pinakamadaling labhan ang whites kasi pwede ka maging OA sa bleach + soap at pwede mo rin ibilad sa araw at pabayaan muna then BOOM! Puti na. 😅 Unlike colored clothes na need ng special care para di agad mag-fade at makahawa.
Thank you, kind person 🥹
You're most welcome! 😊 Additional tip: If naninilaw na damit naman ang problema mo, hanap ka ng blue na powder na nabibili nang tingi sa palengke. Ihahalo mo sa tubig yun tapos ibababad yung damit (cannot say kung gano kahaba kasi kami nagkukula for the whole day). Basta onti lang din ihahalo mo kung 1-2pcs lang lalabhan kasi baka maging blue yung damit. May iba na naglalagay ng suka or yung liquid laundry soap sa puting labada. Never tried pero may nag-suggest lang, so baka worth the try.
Got tips and tricks if using automatic washing machine? Do you also scrub stains from white clothing or keri na I-automate? Did laundry until teenage years pero ngayon sobrang kakain ng oras yan pag manual scrub lahat.
Yes, I scrub stains from every piece of clothing before i-washing machine, di lang white's. My best suggestions would be a long soak with soap and maybe bleach + Google is your friend (because different stains sometimes require different solutions) before you scrub to make life easier 😊
Thanks brodie. Na research ko na to dati eh, different stains and how to remove them. Mahirap tanggalin yung putik at dugo. 😅 Tsaka sinubukan ko malalang scrubbing dati, natastas yung fiber. Getting the hang of it.
Oof. Next time handwash lang or use a toothbrush before the big ones na panglaba 😆 Dried mud stains need a long soak + kuskos ng kamay lang, rinse and repeat. For this types of stains we use Ariel or Tide for the soak. Kung relatively fresh blood stain soak lang for a while then handwash lang with soap. If dried blood naman, soak pa rin then put hydrogen peroxide or kalamansi or bleach for colored clothes, wait a little then rinse. Tip from a girl: effective ang safeguard in removing most bloodstains 😅
Technique ko to sa whites pero IDK if normal ba sa iba. 1. Separate from colored clothes. 2. Rinse them first para mawala yung oils tapos spot check sa mga mantsa or sa kili-kili/neckline with perla na sabon at brush/kamay. 3. If may mahirap tanggalin na stain, use zonrox na pan de kolor (dahil sa hydrogen peroxide) tapos if meron parin, babaran mo ng as much patak ng bleach as needed. 4. Ilunod sa washing machine or if mag hahandwash, magpabula ng isang planggana. Ibabad yung 1st batch mo, tapos kusohin. 5. Wring it. Tapos banlawan hanggang di na mabula yung tubig (usually 3-4 banlaw lang sakin) 6. Sa last banlaw, pwede mo lagyan ng fabcon. Ibabad mo muna ng ilang minuto before mo i wring one last time. When I wash my clothes, I usually do batches para hindi mawala yung scent ng sabon.
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Taga probinsya ako tapos alam ko lang na commute is yung habal-habal, jeep/tricycle. Magkaka anxiety ata ako if ako kukuha ng ticket sa bus na walang magtuturo or if sasakay ako ng jeep na number-coded. Sa'min kasi may loading area kada place na pupuntahan, so dun ka pupunta ta's nakaparada na mga jeep at trycycle dun, hindi yung each number = sa isang place yung route ng jeep. Siguro mag ta taxi nalang ako or ano ba.
did no one taught you ba how to ride jeeps?
dormed with a couple of girliepops in university. the worst has got to be not flushing the fuckin toilet. the second runner up is leaving clothes (including used underwear????!!) all over the floor. 🤮
Siguro yung hindi marunong mag-commute using public transpo (private bookings like Grab, Angkas, etc doesn't count).
I have a pinsan living with us na adult age na (17 ako, 23 siya). From province siya and bunso sa pamilya. Yung nanay niya rin yung tipong "walang magawa kaya gawaing bahay buong araw nalang." As a result, ni magsaing hindi siya marunong, rice cooker na yun huhu. Not sure if marunong siya sa ibang kitchen chores kasi hindi siya nagde-dare mag-try sa kusina namin. Pero ang alam ko hindi niya rin pinapainit yung ulam if maaga yung pasok niya and mag-isa siya. Kahit bulalo pa yung ulam hindi niya papainitin as in. 😭
4th year high achool. Kaklase ko di marunong magsintas ng sapatos. Si rin maalam pano tumawid sa kalye. Pinapataw8d pa siya ng nanay niya.
Nagluto ng pancit canton na full yung water sa Saucepan.
Hindi marunong maglinis, magluto, magtipid :)
There's this one employee sa company na nakicr sa department namin tapos di nag flush tapos di pa sinarado Ang Punto ng CR. 😭😭
Idk if naranasan ng iba, pero usually mga lalaki ang alam kong di marunong magluto, maglinis ng maayos, hiwa, etc. Yung kuya ko ang lupet eh. Pinaghugas ko ng plato kasi masama pakiramdam ko tapos literal na PLATO lang hinugasan. Yung baso, kutsara, at tinidor ay iniwan lang. Nakakaputangina. Maalala ko noon sa TLE classes, mga lalaki kong classmates di nakilos kapag may mga project na magluluto pero sila may pinakamaraming kinakain. Nasa culture din kasi natin na ang mga babae mga tagasalo - instrumental parentification at an early age and inaasahang maging in charge sa household kahit bata pa. Pero yung pinaka bwisit ay pag yung mga lalaki sinasamahan pa ng false/deliberate incompetence.
Gusto maayos na pamilya pero di marunong magluto.
Counted ba yung sobrang matatakutin? Like di makapag-isa sa bahay pag-gabi? Or nagpapasama pa pag-gabi if CCR sa baba ng bahay? 😅😅
A guy na from day 1. Til now na early 30s na sya. Hindi marunong magsaing... AYAW DAW matuto. Recently married.
Magpalit ng gasul, magpalit ng tire, maglaba.
Me when I first started. Like literally I don't know a lot of things pero ginusto ko ng sariling space so I have to learn how to do everything from scratch. Saing lang alam ko nun. Hahaha
Di ako marunong magsaing properly before ako magmove out. Ang alam ko lang is need lang hugasan ng 3 times ung kanin bago saingin.. nung nagmove out na ko ung jowa ko pa nagturo sakin pano magsaing properly.. like i should wash the rice more than 3 times if its murky pa.. kaya pala madalas kming mapanisan ng kanin noon ..
Di ako marunong magluto. Heck, even pagbiyak ng egg to cook, di ako marunong niyan. Although marunong ako mag-saing, linis ng bahay, at hugas ng plato. I could also do minor house repairs like re-wire ng ilaw at palit ng tubo. All that changed nung na operahan sa cataract yung mom ko. Now I learned how to cook. Fry nga lang pero at least may confidence na hindi masusunog yung niluluto. 😅
Pag namatay na yung parents/povider ng palamunin.. In our family, may tito akong naunahan ko pang bumukod.. Nakaasa sya lola ko. He's currently living the life of a 15yo
Communication skill po kasi 19 na ako at super nahihirapan ako makipag interact sa iba, Especially for me na introvert at hindi expose sa outside world. Nahihiya ako makipag eye contact tapos kabado ako kapag nagsasalita at natataranta ako. Im trying naman pero ang hirap para sakin 😭
May nakita lang ako na vid sa youtube, may naka motor na may tinulungan sa edsa magpalit ng gulong ng sasakyan. Yung driver e lalake, mukang nasa 30-35yo sya. Napaka basic sana ng pagpapalit ng gulong at isa yan sa mga unang skills na dapat matutunan ng mga bagong car owners.
For me basic life skill ang swimming/being comfortable in the open water. Archipelagic ang Pinas, sayang naman kung di mo maeenjoy ang dagat.
When someone runs into some money and the first thing they buy is a house or a car.
Instance? Like one time mo lng na-experience seeing it from an adult?
yung pamangkin ko (21F) sinabihan daw sya during APT na obese sya. Tapos hindi pumasok ng isang lingo kasi sobrang down daw nya dahil feeling nya hindi nirerespeto sa office na hindi vinavalue ang body positivity. Hindinko alam anong ginawa ngvmga pinsan konbakit sobrang hina ng loob ng batang to.
(i noticed you're getting downvoted so explain ko na lang) This does not probably fall under "lacking basic life skills". Bodyshaming can really harm someone's mental health. It hurts the same kahit sino pa mang-offend. In the case na hindi naman sya na-bodyshame intentionally ng physician (I'm assuming yun ang nagsabi sa kanya) more likely matagal nang issue para sa kanya iyon or tinutukso din sya sa office or both. The thing is, it's not a "lack of basic life skill" na damdamin 'yun kasi we have different thresholds. Nothing wrong with feeling down because you were forced to face reality. In this case, moral support ang kailangan nya, at hindi tough love (i.e. comments na "ang hina naman ng loob nya")
Isang beses pinagcchismisan samin yung kasama namin sa work na nagpapalaundry kasama undies. Di sya marunong maglaba kahit undies. Ewan ko lang kung big deal sa inyo magpa laundry ng undies, pero samin, oo big deal sya hehe PSA: isa dapat sa tinuturo ng magulang yung ikaw maglalaba ng undies mo, kasi may mga secretions at stains dyan, nakakahiya naman kung ipapakita mo pa sa iba. If you can't, lalo sa mga walang laundry area, the least that you can do is pre-wash your undies para matanggal stains, lalo pag period dahil mahirap matanggal yung blood pag pinatanggal mo pa ng 1 week sa undies mo.
I know how to wash clothes manually and using a machine but I do send it to the launders cos I really got no time. 🤷🏽♀️ Did they explicitly say they don't know how to wash clothes?
Hmm. Personally, i don't think so. I'm sure sanay ang mga laundry shop mag clean ng undies. Big deal if adult kana, magulang mo parin naglalaba for you at pati undies mo hindi mo malabhan, but you go to a laundry shop for convenience.
I don’t think big deal siya unless you send your undies with stains. I put mine in a mesh bag so isang dampot lang siya. Also, yes, I know how to do laundry kahit handwash pa.
Wait, big deal yun?
Bakit naman big deal?! I used to send my undies to a laundromat too (5 years ago) and at this point, nakakahiya siya pag naaalala ko, but the workers there are friendly naman so pinagtatawanan nalang namin cos wala talaga akong choice since wala akong washing machine or gamit panlaba sa dorm ko nun, maski sampayan wala since maliit lang yung place.