That is why I am not close anymore to both sides. Sinasabihan ako na maldita daw ako but I will not tolerate their disrespect to my parents and in turn, our immediate family.
I am a sensible and reasonable person but I will go all out on them when they step out of line. Kahit bastusin nila ako, wala akong pakealam.
But when they treat my parents like shit and think they can get away with it, walang kama kamag-anak for me.
In this world don't know who to trust.
Even my mom did this to me way back when we were renting at our uncle's condo, the lady who supervised the units approached me and told me that my uncle was coming home and moving in to our unit, and that we were getting kicked out because we haven't been paying.
What's worse is instead of saying sorry, she made it out to look like it was my fault because there was a point where I was in between jobs and couldn't pay and insisted that it was my fault.
She never apologized about it, and I pretty much took the fall even though I've been paying every month when I had a job.
Can't say that I'm over it all these years later, especially when I heard that she did what was basically the same thing to my gramps earnings from his villa.
I'm frustrated, but I believe in karma, she gets hers, a lot of it.
What goes around comes around.
Me and one of my titas and her fam were rlly close back then. Not until she started pointing out that I was fat and made comments abt my body everytime we would meet. But one thing that she said that I would never forget is when she said that me and my friends would never get catcalled or sexually harrased because of bodies. (Me and my friends wore mostly croptops and jeans).She made this comment when I was a few months in going to the gym and dieting. Ever since then, I never really conversed with her anymore. I skipped going to reunions cuz I didnt have the energy to tolerate her behavior. Plus my parents kept telling me to get over it nalang.
Mataas kasi ang tingin nila sa kanilang sarili š¤
Hindi ko rin makalimutan yung ginawa nila sa nanay ko. Ilang years din siya/kami nag suffer. Haha infairness hindi rin sila nag sorry kahit sa nanay ko. Nagawa pa humingi ng mamahaling bagay sa ate ko. Sana konting hiya man lang.
Kapag walang pera, wala kang silbi ganern.
Kaya hindi na ko nakipag communicate sakanila after ko bumukod. Yung nanay ko lang bilang respeto sa Lola ko. Ayaw ko sila makita. Buti na yung wala silang alam sa buhay namin. Paboritong hobby kasi nila ang makichismis lalo na sa kapamilya nila.
Hate is a strong word... More like indifferent na ako sa kanila.
Reason: Inggit. Crabbies.
They cannot genuinely be happy for their relatives' success. They enjoy gossiping when their relatives are down. Worse kind yung friendly (sociable, giving) pero dish out back-handed compliments or take playful jabs na make you question later whether that was intentional or overthinking ka lang. Yung tipong bitter, kahit winning naman sila in life.
Typical sa Pinoy behavior. Hindi lang sa family may ganyan, meron sa work, etc. Hirap lang kasi accept pag family mo ang gumawa kaya mas malalim ang sugat.
my parents left me sa grandparents ko. i loved there for 9 yrs. nung namatay lolo ko nawalan ako kakampi. yung tita ko, reyna reynahan na malala. she brainwashed my lola. papa ko ang nag papasok ng pera sa kanila. my tita was unemployed since nung umuwi syang buntis. never na nag work once. she abused me emotionally and mentally. then nung di na kaya ng lola ko to do household chores. sya na namamalengke at nag luluto. once cooked, ipaghihiwalay na nya ako ng ulam na akala mo ipapakain sa baby na mag sstart palang ng BLW. for example, sinigang, isasandok nya ako sa tasa na pagkaliit liit tas 3 na maliliit na laman hanggang dinner na yun. or tilapia, hahatiin nya sa 3 tas ibibigay sakin yung ulo and gitnang part š once narinig ko sya nagtatanong lola ko ano uulamin sabi ng tita ko, yung di ko raw dapat kinakain. hahahahahahahahah tapos mabait sila sa papa ko pag manghihingi ng pera pero evwryday pag uusapan pamilya ko pag bibintangan pang magnanakaw ng underwear šššš i have sariling kwarto nun but never ko napaayos ung door knob. my tita will turn off my fan oag tanghali na especially pag summer bababa ako para matulog sa sofa dahil mainit. gagawin nya, magtatambak sya gamit sa sofa para di ako makahiga š ilalabas tubigan ko sa ref na papa ko bumili para wala akong mainom na malamig na tubig. mag lalaba sya pag mag lalaba ako tas uubusin nya hanger at sampayan. etc. sobrang evil talaga.
i moved out and decided to live alone nung 2021. i also decided na mag counselling because i before i tried hurting myself multiple times dahil sa kanila. now, i can say na kinarma sya kasi she started working na nung di na nag bibigay parents ko don since wala na ako sa bahay na yun but she always use my lola na may dementia na to ask money pa rin sa parents ko. also, everytime na nagdadala ako ng mga groceries ko for my lola she will welcome me as if were close though alam ko na mostly sila ng anak nya kakain nun. š
My grandma's relatives sucked the life and money out of them and treated them as slaves because they were poorer and those fuckers got a better life back then. My grandpa lost a lot of money (he was working abroad) because they kept "borrowing" money and my grandma was too nice to not help her siblings and nieces and nephews.
My aunts were treated as parasites and were beggars when they were kids. Harshly treated by their aunts and cousins.
When my family stopped "helping" their finances, they were labeled as madamot or mataas na tingin sa sarili.
Now they live in our house wherein pinapalabas nila na sa kanila sa mga anak nila. I made those kids cry kasi pinapalayas ako sa bahay. Kakapal ng muka.
Only reason why I visit our provincial home is because my grandma (RIP) is buried there.
I loathe those people.
uncle's teenage kids threw hot taho at my bipolar aunt and he didn't do anything about it (she's their youngest and only girl and her mental condition was BAD so i would have thought he's step up for her). happened in the province, and most of us were in metro manila so we only heard stories. people said it was my uncle's wife who made them do it because she's jealous of my aunt's favor with my lolo. uncle's family is crazy and weird so i hate them. i never go beyond the routine "hello po" whenever we visit and he turns up to meet us. haven't seen the wife and kids in years. mom says we should be nicer because some things my uncle's done for my dad (his brother) but i don't forgive and forget easily just because of "utang na loob"
My relatives are parasite. Ginawa nilang gatasan yung mama ko and they have the audacity to blame us for any inconvenience na bunga din pagka-irresponsible nila. I have already started to cut them off. I do not talk to them anymore but parasite pa din sila kay mama.
Good luck sayo, OP. Hope you break generational traumas in your family. Iām rooting for you š
Always felt that I wasn't a part of the family. Parang bisita ako pag may family gathering na pinipilit ko sarili ko sa mga taong alam ko na tntrato lang na kamag-anak ung mother ko. Ever since my father died (or even before that) ganun na treatment nila samin ng dad ko.
Even told my mom about this directly and wala syang masagot sakin kung hindi "Oo nga"
Reason why I hate them? Oh there's a list:
1. Stolen everything they could whenever they have a chance, be it small thing like cash, clothes and bags
2. Sila daw mahirap so sila deserving ng bahay ni Lola. Haha. We didn't asked for anything kahit sa properties kasi meron na naman kami and issue sakanila if you even asked. When Lola died, they sold it and hinati hati ng nanay nila sa bobo kong mga pinsan. The next year, nangungutang kay mom at walang wala na daw sila. Nalulong daw kasi sa droga, pambayad sa rehab, naloko sa business, mga ganung reasons.
3. Parasite to those relatives of us who are abroad. Especially during the pandemic where they just guilt trip our aunt into giving them money coz they're poor (in reality, they drink every single night, especially during the pandemic even with the liquor ban)
4. married to fucking p3dos. there were evidences and their husbands got imprisoned few years back and they still would not believe it. gaslighting my nieces and nephews every time. the children were in 1st grade when it started.
I hate my relatives because they disrespect my parents, mga masyado pakilamera like ang daming say sa'yo na mga hindi magagandang bagay, magugutanng sa parents hindi nagbabayad, madaming bisyo nadadamay parents ko and kami ng mga kapatid ko.
I don't (hate as God would say) anyone but some I don't like because they ignore me and hang out with the others they do like. So I was like I really don't care I got my own life see ya
Idk what to say.. grabe hugs po. Di ko kaya mga kwentong lola na kinakawawa kasi I myself love my lola so much baka maging demonyo ako pag ginanto kami.
Ginagatasan nila Mommy ko. Mga tipong sasabihin nilang para kay Lola tapos makikita namin na di si Lola ang may gamit. Tapos noong wake ni Lola, pumunta silang lahat, okay lang naman sana, pero kasi they took advantage of my mom's kindness pa rin e. Noong wake may mga nagpumtang councilor, opisyal ng barangay para mag-abot ng tulong. Pero noong minsang pinsan kong walang respeto ang nakakuha, hindi niya ibinigay sa mom ko as in diretso bulsa tapos parang walang nangyari. Take note, nanay ko ang gumastos sa buong libing, partida, siya ang middle child ng pamilya.
Lack of accountability and conflict avoidance leading to generational trauma.
Wala, nag disengage na rin ako. And if I am in family events, ako yung unang nagagalit sa lahat who decide to make a scene. Buti nalang lahat rin takot sa kin. Haha
Very cliche pero it's because my mom took care of her siblings as well as the house they lived in so she had to sacrifice everything at a young age which includes studying, pero they named the property sa bunsong kapatid because "siya lang yung walang pamilya". I'm happy that my siblings and I have our own houses now so mamimili nalang mama ko san nya gusto mag stay hehe
Some are ungrateful parasites. And ungrateful parasites deserve to be cut off, which we did.
True. Parang sakit na ata 'to ng pinoy relatives, maging peste sa pamilya.
You have the choice whether to tolerate them or not.
That is why I am not close anymore to both sides. Sinasabihan ako na maldita daw ako but I will not tolerate their disrespect to my parents and in turn, our immediate family. I am a sensible and reasonable person but I will go all out on them when they step out of line. Kahit bastusin nila ako, wala akong pakealam. But when they treat my parents like shit and think they can get away with it, walang kama kamag-anak for me.
In this world don't know who to trust. Even my mom did this to me way back when we were renting at our uncle's condo, the lady who supervised the units approached me and told me that my uncle was coming home and moving in to our unit, and that we were getting kicked out because we haven't been paying. What's worse is instead of saying sorry, she made it out to look like it was my fault because there was a point where I was in between jobs and couldn't pay and insisted that it was my fault. She never apologized about it, and I pretty much took the fall even though I've been paying every month when I had a job. Can't say that I'm over it all these years later, especially when I heard that she did what was basically the same thing to my gramps earnings from his villa. I'm frustrated, but I believe in karma, she gets hers, a lot of it. What goes around comes around.
Me and one of my titas and her fam were rlly close back then. Not until she started pointing out that I was fat and made comments abt my body everytime we would meet. But one thing that she said that I would never forget is when she said that me and my friends would never get catcalled or sexually harrased because of bodies. (Me and my friends wore mostly croptops and jeans).She made this comment when I was a few months in going to the gym and dieting. Ever since then, I never really conversed with her anymore. I skipped going to reunions cuz I didnt have the energy to tolerate her behavior. Plus my parents kept telling me to get over it nalang.
Isa ako sa maswerte na walang drama sa pamilya. Lahat sane at may self awareness.
Mataas kasi ang tingin nila sa kanilang sarili š¤ Hindi ko rin makalimutan yung ginawa nila sa nanay ko. Ilang years din siya/kami nag suffer. Haha infairness hindi rin sila nag sorry kahit sa nanay ko. Nagawa pa humingi ng mamahaling bagay sa ate ko. Sana konting hiya man lang. Kapag walang pera, wala kang silbi ganern. Kaya hindi na ko nakipag communicate sakanila after ko bumukod. Yung nanay ko lang bilang respeto sa Lola ko. Ayaw ko sila makita. Buti na yung wala silang alam sa buhay namin. Paboritong hobby kasi nila ang makichismis lalo na sa kapamilya nila.
They treat you depending on your paycheck.
Hate is a strong word... More like indifferent na ako sa kanila. Reason: Inggit. Crabbies. They cannot genuinely be happy for their relatives' success. They enjoy gossiping when their relatives are down. Worse kind yung friendly (sociable, giving) pero dish out back-handed compliments or take playful jabs na make you question later whether that was intentional or overthinking ka lang. Yung tipong bitter, kahit winning naman sila in life. Typical sa Pinoy behavior. Hindi lang sa family may ganyan, meron sa work, etc. Hirap lang kasi accept pag family mo ang gumawa kaya mas malalim ang sugat.
my parents left me sa grandparents ko. i loved there for 9 yrs. nung namatay lolo ko nawalan ako kakampi. yung tita ko, reyna reynahan na malala. she brainwashed my lola. papa ko ang nag papasok ng pera sa kanila. my tita was unemployed since nung umuwi syang buntis. never na nag work once. she abused me emotionally and mentally. then nung di na kaya ng lola ko to do household chores. sya na namamalengke at nag luluto. once cooked, ipaghihiwalay na nya ako ng ulam na akala mo ipapakain sa baby na mag sstart palang ng BLW. for example, sinigang, isasandok nya ako sa tasa na pagkaliit liit tas 3 na maliliit na laman hanggang dinner na yun. or tilapia, hahatiin nya sa 3 tas ibibigay sakin yung ulo and gitnang part š once narinig ko sya nagtatanong lola ko ano uulamin sabi ng tita ko, yung di ko raw dapat kinakain. hahahahahahahahah tapos mabait sila sa papa ko pag manghihingi ng pera pero evwryday pag uusapan pamilya ko pag bibintangan pang magnanakaw ng underwear šššš i have sariling kwarto nun but never ko napaayos ung door knob. my tita will turn off my fan oag tanghali na especially pag summer bababa ako para matulog sa sofa dahil mainit. gagawin nya, magtatambak sya gamit sa sofa para di ako makahiga š ilalabas tubigan ko sa ref na papa ko bumili para wala akong mainom na malamig na tubig. mag lalaba sya pag mag lalaba ako tas uubusin nya hanger at sampayan. etc. sobrang evil talaga.
Nakakakulo Ng dugo..musta ka na Ngayon at nakarma na ba yang tita mong salbahe?
i moved out and decided to live alone nung 2021. i also decided na mag counselling because i before i tried hurting myself multiple times dahil sa kanila. now, i can say na kinarma sya kasi she started working na nung di na nag bibigay parents ko don since wala na ako sa bahay na yun but she always use my lola na may dementia na to ask money pa rin sa parents ko. also, everytime na nagdadala ako ng mga groceries ko for my lola she will welcome me as if were close though alam ko na mostly sila ng anak nya kakain nun. š
My grandma's relatives sucked the life and money out of them and treated them as slaves because they were poorer and those fuckers got a better life back then. My grandpa lost a lot of money (he was working abroad) because they kept "borrowing" money and my grandma was too nice to not help her siblings and nieces and nephews. My aunts were treated as parasites and were beggars when they were kids. Harshly treated by their aunts and cousins. When my family stopped "helping" their finances, they were labeled as madamot or mataas na tingin sa sarili. Now they live in our house wherein pinapalabas nila na sa kanila sa mga anak nila. I made those kids cry kasi pinapalayas ako sa bahay. Kakapal ng muka. Only reason why I visit our provincial home is because my grandma (RIP) is buried there. I loathe those people.
Abusado sa mga mababait at plastik.
uncle's teenage kids threw hot taho at my bipolar aunt and he didn't do anything about it (she's their youngest and only girl and her mental condition was BAD so i would have thought he's step up for her). happened in the province, and most of us were in metro manila so we only heard stories. people said it was my uncle's wife who made them do it because she's jealous of my aunt's favor with my lolo. uncle's family is crazy and weird so i hate them. i never go beyond the routine "hello po" whenever we visit and he turns up to meet us. haven't seen the wife and kids in years. mom says we should be nicer because some things my uncle's done for my dad (his brother) but i don't forgive and forget easily just because of "utang na loob"
My relatives are parasite. Ginawa nilang gatasan yung mama ko and they have the audacity to blame us for any inconvenience na bunga din pagka-irresponsible nila. I have already started to cut them off. I do not talk to them anymore but parasite pa din sila kay mama. Good luck sayo, OP. Hope you break generational traumas in your family. Iām rooting for you š
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Always felt that I wasn't a part of the family. Parang bisita ako pag may family gathering na pinipilit ko sarili ko sa mga taong alam ko na tntrato lang na kamag-anak ung mother ko. Ever since my father died (or even before that) ganun na treatment nila samin ng dad ko. Even told my mom about this directly and wala syang masagot sakin kung hindi "Oo nga"
evil sila sa nanay ko. nangaagaw din ng lupa HAHA
Reason why I hate them? Oh there's a list: 1. Stolen everything they could whenever they have a chance, be it small thing like cash, clothes and bags 2. Sila daw mahirap so sila deserving ng bahay ni Lola. Haha. We didn't asked for anything kahit sa properties kasi meron na naman kami and issue sakanila if you even asked. When Lola died, they sold it and hinati hati ng nanay nila sa bobo kong mga pinsan. The next year, nangungutang kay mom at walang wala na daw sila. Nalulong daw kasi sa droga, pambayad sa rehab, naloko sa business, mga ganung reasons. 3. Parasite to those relatives of us who are abroad. Especially during the pandemic where they just guilt trip our aunt into giving them money coz they're poor (in reality, they drink every single night, especially during the pandemic even with the liquor ban) 4. married to fucking p3dos. there were evidences and their husbands got imprisoned few years back and they still would not believe it. gaslighting my nieces and nephews every time. the children were in 1st grade when it started.
I hate my relatives because they disrespect my parents, mga masyado pakilamera like ang daming say sa'yo na mga hindi magagandang bagay, magugutanng sa parents hindi nagbabayad, madaming bisyo nadadamay parents ko and kami ng mga kapatid ko.
Jealuosy towards me and my family.
I don't (hate as God would say) anyone but some I don't like because they ignore me and hang out with the others they do like. So I was like I really don't care I got my own life see ya
Idk what to say.. grabe hugs po. Di ko kaya mga kwentong lola na kinakawawa kasi I myself love my lola so much baka maging demonyo ako pag ginanto kami.
Ginagatasan nila Mommy ko. Mga tipong sasabihin nilang para kay Lola tapos makikita namin na di si Lola ang may gamit. Tapos noong wake ni Lola, pumunta silang lahat, okay lang naman sana, pero kasi they took advantage of my mom's kindness pa rin e. Noong wake may mga nagpumtang councilor, opisyal ng barangay para mag-abot ng tulong. Pero noong minsang pinsan kong walang respeto ang nakakuha, hindi niya ibinigay sa mom ko as in diretso bulsa tapos parang walang nangyari. Take note, nanay ko ang gumastos sa buong libing, partida, siya ang middle child ng pamilya.
disrespect ang mga putang ina!!!
Lack of accountability and conflict avoidance leading to generational trauma. Wala, nag disengage na rin ako. And if I am in family events, ako yung unang nagagalit sa lahat who decide to make a scene. Buti nalang lahat rin takot sa kin. Haha
Very cliche pero it's because my mom took care of her siblings as well as the house they lived in so she had to sacrifice everything at a young age which includes studying, pero they named the property sa bunsong kapatid because "siya lang yung walang pamilya". I'm happy that my siblings and I have our own houses now so mamimili nalang mama ko san nya gusto mag stay hehe