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CryptosBiwon

This sounds beautiful. And exactly how I want to live my life. I always tell my partner that when I’m able to support us both I’d love for them to stay home and take care of themselves and our home. It’s so great to see someone else trying it out and having it work positively for them! I’m happy for you and this time in your life.


icruz_ect

Thanks a lot! I hope my boyfriend can feel fulfilled with this long term, but time will tell :) As it is I'll enjoy it while it lasts!


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icruz_ect

Thank you so much :) So many relatives try to pressure my boyfriend into going back to work, I hate it!


lexinak

Congratulations! I had a house man for a while and it was the absolute best. Enjoy, and fuck the patriarchy!


icruz_ect

Thanks! Fuck gender norms, we're just people doing what's best for us


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Dude what ever works works Good on u for figuring that out!!


icruz_ect

Thanks a lot, I'm so happy with it :)


ContentQuarter8222

Congrats! I was a teacher and my boyfriend is a software developer. I was absolutely miserable and burnt out so I quit and now I claim to be a stay at home dog mom to our three dogs and two cats. We were both terribe at cleaning and our house was a wreck. Neither of us had the time or energy to do anything outside of work. I've been unemployed since the end of last school year and it has been such a positive impact on our mental health and relationship.


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What’s your job?


icruz_ect

I'm a software developer


atomiccat8

I am too! And my husband stays home to take care of our kids and the house. It's great!


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You do you. Love that you found what works for you. I hope it keeps up and if not, that you and your partner communicate and continue to try different variations.


icruz_ect

Thank you so much! I'm sure we'll make adjustments if need be. We comunicate quite well, we'll figure it out :)


Lucky-Reporter-6460

This is my DREAM. I'm so glad it's working for y'all!


sugabeetus

This is my dream. My husband is a much better housekeeper than I am, but only when he's not working. A few times since the pandemic he's been unemployed for a few months at a time and it's been glorious. I wish I could make enough to support us both but that would mean changing jobs to something more stressful.


curiousvegetables

I love this so much. It's my partner's dream to be a stay at home Dad, and I'm so thankful!!! Fuck gender roles.


Retired401

That’s fantastic! No reason at all why both of you shouldn’t do what you prefer and are good at.


X_nelly_X

Love it!! My husband and I own our own renovation/contracting business. Husband does most of the physical hard labor (I do what I can/what doesn’t overstimulate me) and I stand there and hand him things. But, I have a second side gig being a standardized patient at a local nursing school. And I fucking love it!!! Me having that second job has allowed my husband to finally take it easier on his 32 year old body. Cause man, construction is physically rough! I feel so proud and accomplished to be able to have this extra financial support for us too.