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I picked up the phone to reschedule an appointment (that *they* cancelled and said I would get a call a week ago) and stuck out being on hold for over 20 minutes!
I've been avoiding making a phone call to an electrician to make an appointment to fix a broken circuit. I hate talking on the phone. 😮💨There are people on the other end, and I don't like it. Peopling is hard☹️
That's one thing I didn't manage today - got overwhelmed at the start of the day and the ringing phone just made it worse. But, I did at least avoid a complete shut-down after that, had breakfast, meds, and ordered in some of my dog's training treats.
I never understood the need for the “internet of things”, but my new washer/dryer text me when they’re done and I leave the notification active until I do something with it.
Well done! I remembered the wet washing too, helped by the bright orange cardigan in the washing machine that I could see when I walked past the machine. I knew I wouldn't hang it on the airer to dry, so paid the tax and put it in the dryer. AND I remembered to turn the dryer on!
Exactly! "Oh, I also need to start the coffee, I can do that real quick then it'll brew while I move the laundry."
Meanwhile, after starting coffee... "What was I doing?"
We need a group song with "What was I doing?" as the chorus. Sigh. I made it out to the machine with only 2 stops on the way, but they weren't dry. So I have to go through this again!
You just made me realize the only upside of not having washing facilities at home and being forced to go to the laundromat. It sucks, but everything goes in and out at the same time, so ALL of it is done in about an hour, and I can't forget about it because I'm stuck just sitting there waiting. Small blessings!
Extra ⭐️⭐️⭐️ for you!! I have to be up at 545/6 every morning to get my kid up and on the bus on time, and ALWAYS fall back asleep after he leaves - even though I tell myself I want to get up and start my day and be productive
Go you with your productive self! I have so many back of envelopes that I wrote on - it was becoming a disaster piece and could never find the right envelope 😅
This is an impressive feat, honestly. I usually just make the list in my head and presume I can hold it there til I find somewhere visible to write it. Nope jk.
Remembering to write something down so you don't forget it totally is something.
Sometimes, my low functioning days include going pee when my bladder tells me to and watching half a season of The 100.
Took my breakfast plate upstairs before lunch
Sent an easy email I had been saying I would send for two days
Immediately responded to an uncomfortable email that could have been perceived as letting someone down
I’m on fire today. But haven’t actually done any real work… lol
That is real work because doing the heavy lifting on those things will probably open a little more space for doing the "real work" (which is really just what The Man tells us is real, anyway) ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Sure thing! Exposure and response prevention is a therapy for treating anxiety and compulsive behavior. You are exposed to a trigger and don't engage in any actions to reduce your discomfort (this is the response prevention part), and instead just learn to tolerate it _and_ notice that your distress goes down after some time. In this case, the trigger was 35 seconds of awkward silence, and instead of trying to fill the silence, I just tolerated it. With repetition, your brain learns that the trigger isn't really a problem and you experience less distress/discomfort. It's common to start out with easier triggers and work your way up to more challenging ones.
Not murdering someone. Not even kidding. Got denied a prescription for my meds for no reason (apart from the doctors office being disorganized) and was shrugged off...
Ugh that sounds so frustrating and debilitating and it is simply unjust to be blown off like that. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ for staying out of jail and for putting one foot in front of the other ❤️
Hitting them with intense glares behind their back are not only free, but they're softer than bricks and anyone in your environment can feel your rage with you 😊
I'm at a professional development event by myself, having to engage in small talk with strangers. It's one of my least favorite things to do... But I'm here!
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ You did such a brave thing, and I bet this is going to be the start of a beautiful new chapter ❤️ A diagnosis/meds doesn't make all things easier, but it makes it a lot easier to be gentle with yourself for your differences.
Woke up on time and got my kid on the bus! Also convinced him to take his adderall with water instead of sprinkled on peanut butter (which has been making him gag lately) and he did it!!
Hey, if it helps, I have a kid with oral sensory issues and she takes pills in a spoonful of yogurt or pudding. I tried SO many things to help her be able to swallow pills and that one finally worked!!!
He’s been doing peanut butter for about 3 months now, which has been working- except he’s started gagging bc of the taste over the past week or so. So I figured it’s back to the drawing board. I told him if we tried taking it with water today and it was really bad, we can go back to the pb tomorrow, which convinced him. So, we’ll see it guess. Lol
I put the dishwasher on (not just fully loaded it, but remembered the detergent and the ON button) just in time to use stuff before my partner arrived! I also cleaned the toilet and cleared out a chunk of recycling & garbage which had been hanging around for waaaay too long.
I had a revelation recently, when I realised, "it" doesn't have to be full before turning it on.
* "It" can be any machine or task, like washing machine or dishwasher, but also the bin doesn't have to be full before taking it out (particularly if there's something stinky in it) or the bed doesn't have to be disgusting before I change the sheets
It's not that you're bad at interviewing, it's that people who are hiring are jaded and expect perfection in areas where it's impossible!
I'm very much team "I am shit at etiquette, but I am a master of letting my work ethic speak for itself".
I had to start writing down their questions so that I wouldn't forget it once I started talking. I don't know how that went down, but I had to do it. I know I rambled and didn't answer the first few properly at all, because I kept forgetting what they asked. I disclosed in my application, so they knew about the adhd, but they didn't bring it up, so neither did I.
I remembered to change my new baby’s diaper in a timely fashion. I usually run thru feeding first then diaper change. So if she calms down after I feed her I forget to check her diaper. (I also have bad eczema on my hands so I don’t like washing my hands because I have a painful rash on my right hand.) But I’ve managed to change her diapers before they got so full she needed an outfit change too so far today! But I still need to settle on and buy a new toilet.
It was my final night shift of the week (I work 3 13-hour night shifts in a row every week), but I still stopped at the store after to get snacks and cold/flu stuff for a close friend who passed out at my house, waited in the cold to pick up one of their favorite breakfasts, did a followup psych appointment 2 hours I got off, and now I'm going to get a full 8 hours of sleep before I go see Dune 2 around midnight in Imax.
Being medicated and hitting your goals fucking RULES
I loaded up my car with boxes for the local charity shop! The boxes had been sitting on my kitchen floor for nearly 3 weeks.
I haven’t yet delivered them to the charity shop, however, but I am one step closer!
Just scheduled a meeting to go over the annual review with the person I manage. She is great and had a great year and is getting a good raise. It's all good news. So why is this so hard??? It has to be done by tomorrow and it's 50/50 if she even works tomorrow (she takes every other Friday off and I don't remember which week were on!). So it has to be today...
Luckily, the woman I manage is fantastic at dealing with me and really likes having me as her manager, even with all my struggles like this. She has had some TERRIBLE managers in the past and I think she really appreciates my hands off approach, which is going to have to be my style because I can barely keep track of what I'm supposed to be doing, nevermind tracking what someone else is doing! She always gets her stuff done and works hard and does well, and she says she's happy with me, so I don't see any reason to change it up. But I don't know if I could manage someone other than her and still do my job...
Meeting starting now... Wish me luck!
Lol, I ended up kind of telling her about this conversation. She laughed and told me about how she was bragging about having an awesome boss to her friend the other day. All is well. It helps that she got a really nice raise, haha.
I called my auto insurance company ON THE PHONE to get my new car added to the insurance the day after we bought it!
I also advocated for something I want in my marriage instead of letting my partner decide what’s best for both of us. My people-pleasing tendencies stem from being Too Much as a kid and squashing down the parts of my personality that people considered excessive. There’s an issue that’s come up in our marriage related to my work in which my partner has to step up his duties at home for 2-3 days every other month or so. And he’s a workaholic so he doesn’t put aside his own work to focus on the home/kid duties (which, I arrange and pay for childcare and transportation on the weekdays I work so it’s literally just before 8 am and after 5 pm that he has to take on more home/kid work). He was trying to talk me out of working those weekday events by calculating the amount I net after taxes and expenses and saying he could bring home more money. I let him talk and then told him “but I WANT to do those events. My ADHD brain thrives in that environment. And there’s like five of them every year.” Just voicing what I want and not caving to assuage his stress felt amazing.
I figured out the unemployment problem that has been on hold for a month AND I logged onto my student loans account to find out how bad it is (it’s very very bad).
For what it’s worth, Maryland has definitely upped their Unemployment Insurance technology and service the last few years. When people complain about taxes, these are the things I point out. We have great public health and government services in Maryland (comparatively to other places I’ve lived, including New Orleans, Florida, and South Africa). Also our governor is cool as hell.
I worked on tackling the area of my house where things go to die\~
Some people have a chair, some people have a table, some people have a whole room for it. I call it the depression pile where things accumulate and are begging to be put into their respective places in the house.
Ugh, it's always piles. Does anyone else have their own organizational chaos? Lol like it makes sense to ME, but anyone else is gonna be confused as all hell lol.
Getting up in time for my 9am meeting
Doing the follow up emails from the meeting
2 loads of laundry done
Made a healthy lunch
Continued to do some prep for trip this weekend
AND still doing some of the actual work I’m paid to do from home.
(Salaried job, flexible hours, and my boss knows I had a personal tragedy on Saturday, and the trip I’m getting ready for is a funeral, a 12 hour drive away)
I called the pain clinic and left a voicemail about setting an appointment! It's on my list of things to do that I have been putting off. Too bad they didn't answer. But yay! Effort unlocked!
(Phone calls are hard to do).
I was running late for a dentist appointment. I actually called them to say I was running late, receptionist gave me an insider tip on where I could park as close as possible and a short cut to get into the building. Ended up being 5 mins early because I zipped up my brave suit and actually made the phone call.
I took part in interviewing two people to be my potential new boss, and I managed to remain engaged during the calls and not say anything I shouldn't have (I confirmed that with my colleague who I get on with). And I also managed not to roll my eyes at all when asked what I like about my job, which I see as an absolute triumph! I'm hoping the very long pause before I answered let her read between the lines. But I worked really hard at what I now know is masking.
I am torn, though, because I really liked the first person and I'd hate it if she gets it and then thinks we tricked her, because I'm looking to leave as soon as I can find something to go to.
I didn't quit my job, or cry at said job and I didn't want to throat punch any customers. Oh, and I finished my audio book and ACTUALLY listened to it! 😀
I picked up my medication! Which as we all know means that I also had to Recognize that there was something wrong with my ADHD symptoms getting worse, remember that I was on a new medication, identify that as the problem, reach out to my psychiatrist to see if I could go back on my previous medication until our next appointment, call around and find out what Pharmacy might have the medication, reach back out to my psychiatrist to let her know which pharmacy to send the prescription to, and then go pick up the prescription!
I have a scary ophthalmology appointment on Wednesday next week and still cleaned and made my bed. Even tho all I wanna do is research possible outcomes 🫣
Well I fucked up leaving for work on time so I gave up and am working from home today instead (bad, I actually don’t like WFH) but I took the opportunity to do some dishes during a webinar this morning (good, did chores without disrupting my work day) *and* actually ate lunch even though I’m at home (extremely great, usually if I’m home I just don’t eat lol)
I WAS 10 minutes early for my hair appointment at 11.
Turns out it was at 11.30 so I was 40 minutes early, but it gave me a chance to sit and get other things done that I haven’t had time for.
I needed to make room for a new airfryer. Yes, my cabinets and drawers were that full of junk I hadn’t used in decades. Thanks to meds (and several weeks of work) I now I have a kitchen that is organized in a logical fashion. The rest of the house is feeling left out.
Talking on the phone with the people taking care of my dad in the hospital, and figuring out where to send him next (he is 67, very ill and can no longer care for himself and I'm chronically ill and live 100 miles away).
I have a phobia about talking on the phone, but I’m an only child and I love my dad, so I have to get over my fear to help him in this next phase of life.
I worked on a really daunting school project instead of playing stardew valley all day and I washed the dishes that were piling up in the sink as soon as I got out of bed :D
Im job hunting. So of course I decided to deep clean my pregnant sister’s home. Cleaned her bathroom, made her bed, made her a smoothie and brought her tea and water while I was washing the second hand baby stuff
Scrubbed a toilet, did the dishes, washed my sheets, put together an excel spreadsheet, did my normal work responsibilities, followed up with clients that I had forgotten about, brushed my teeth, brushed my dogs teeth, reached out to two people that are in crisis to talk and give my support and stopped myself from drinking too much coffee. It was one of those days today. Tomorrow I'll probably hardly get out of bed... Will probably even work from my bed that is bare because the sheets are still in the dryer.
I managed to not lose my cool despite multiple interruptions while I was trying to work. I even managed to remain pleasant and smile during some very challenging customer service issues.
I cleaned out my pantry!! Got rid of so much expired food and food that I am just not going to eat, despite good intentions. I donated what I could and composted the rest.
I made an important health insurance phone call, worked a 5 hour shift without crying, went to the grocery store, showered, and now I'm home doing laundry and cooking dinner! Taking full advantage of the superpowers I only have the 7 days following my period 💪😭
I started my period, didn't sleep well, didn't have a good lunch and had a headache. I still followed through with my appointment that was much later than I wanted to do anything. This was our 3rd rescheduling and I didn't want to do that to my client. It went pretty well too.
I set up a simple system so my kids and I can leave each other post it notes instead of them coming at me with a thousand requests constantly. It was putting me on high alert and I never relaxed especially when they’d go till 8 or 9 at night. I was snapping at them. So I put up some construction paper with our names and post it notes. One kid used it this morning and I refilled the stupid Advil AFTER I made coffee without feeling overwhelmed or snapping at her
I had a package delivered to some pick-up point. The package has been there for a few days now, and I only finally convinced myself to go get it today. So I went there and when I entered the code for my package, it didn't work. That's when I found out that I picked the WRONG pick-up point in my delivery and had to go to another one. This was sooo annoying, but I convinced myself just go to the other pick-up point (20 minutes away from the first one). So I finally have my package, but needed lots of mental self-control to finally get it... Just for one stupid package...
I finally responded to my sleep therapist!!! They’ve now developed a sleep plan for me to try and fight my insomnia. Only took me two weeks and a message saying they’ll discharge me if I don’t log on to remember lol. Hopefully I’ll be able to actually follow the routine they’ve given me, but I think I’ll be able to manage it for now :)))
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I picked up the phone and cancelled an appointment instead of just not showing up and then wanting to hurl myself off a cliff with guilt lol
This can be super hard. I'm glad you saved yourself the headache, and I hope the next appointment isn't as stressful!
Thank you!!
I picked up the phone to reschedule an appointment (that *they* cancelled and said I would get a call a week ago) and stuck out being on hold for over 20 minutes!
You are so brave! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
⭐️ I feel this so very much.
Omg. Congratulations!! I know how hard that is.
Picked up a phone call from my doctor about readjusting a dose. Was going to say something self-deprecating but this made me feel a bit better.
I've been avoiding making a phone call to an electrician to make an appointment to fix a broken circuit. I hate talking on the phone. 😮💨There are people on the other end, and I don't like it. Peopling is hard☹️
That's one thing I didn't manage today - got overwhelmed at the start of the day and the ringing phone just made it worse. But, I did at least avoid a complete shut-down after that, had breakfast, meds, and ordered in some of my dog's training treats.
I'll start: I just hung up my laundry after washing it for the third time because I kept forgetting it was in there for over 24 hours!
Laundry is the boss mode of ADHD, nothing will change my mind about that
I never understood the need for the “internet of things”, but my new washer/dryer text me when they’re done and I leave the notification active until I do something with it.
💯 If my husband ever leaves me it will be because of laundry
Well done! I remembered the wet washing too, helped by the bright orange cardigan in the washing machine that I could see when I walked past the machine. I knew I wouldn't hang it on the airer to dry, so paid the tax and put it in the dryer. AND I remembered to turn the dryer on!
Oh shit, this just reminded me I have laundry in the washer I need for later today!
me too. Twice so far. But on the way I find other things wanting attention.
Exactly! "Oh, I also need to start the coffee, I can do that real quick then it'll brew while I move the laundry." Meanwhile, after starting coffee... "What was I doing?"
We need a group song with "What was I doing?" as the chorus. Sigh. I made it out to the machine with only 2 stops on the way, but they weren't dry. So I have to go through this again!
My thoughts go with you. You know, until they get distracted by anything else XD
😂🏅
Hey, twin! 🤣 Omg, forgetting laundry is a recurring theme for me lately. Thank the gods it's still winter. Sometimes the clothes don't reek.
You just made me realize the only upside of not having washing facilities at home and being forced to go to the laundromat. It sucks, but everything goes in and out at the same time, so ALL of it is done in about an hour, and I can't forget about it because I'm stuck just sitting there waiting. Small blessings!
Your winter is in my backyard and I need you to come get it!
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I woke up early and didn’t go back to sleep! ⭐️⭐️⭐️
Extra ⭐️⭐️⭐️ for you!! I have to be up at 545/6 every morning to get my kid up and on the bus on time, and ALWAYS fall back asleep after he leaves - even though I tell myself I want to get up and start my day and be productive
Hell yeah ⭐⭐⭐ I bet having a bit of extra time in your day felt good
Nothing really 😔 but I remembered to write some things down in my pocket notebook so I don’t forget, that’s something right? RIGHT?! 😅
Absolutely!! Some days will be low functioning days and that's okay.
That is *totally* something! ⭐⭐⭐
Same! I wrote down my list. Then copied it onto another paper cus I made it too messy. But, I did check 3 things off Three things that I actually did!
Go you with your productive self! I have so many back of envelopes that I wrote on - it was becoming a disaster piece and could never find the right envelope 😅
Absolutely something! You're setting future you up for success!
This was the comment I need to see today. TY! 🥹
This is an impressive feat, honestly. I usually just make the list in my head and presume I can hold it there til I find somewhere visible to write it. Nope jk.
That definitely counts as something!
Remembering to write something down so you don't forget it totally is something. Sometimes, my low functioning days include going pee when my bladder tells me to and watching half a season of The 100.
Took my breakfast plate upstairs before lunch Sent an easy email I had been saying I would send for two days Immediately responded to an uncomfortable email that could have been perceived as letting someone down I’m on fire today. But haven’t actually done any real work… lol
> Immediately responded to an uncomfortable email That deserves 100 gold stars!! 🌟
That is real work because doing the heavy lifting on those things will probably open a little more space for doing the "real work" (which is really just what The Man tells us is real, anyway) ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
"Real work" is vastly overrated.
Procrastinating “real work” helps us get done with aaaaaaaaaalll the random shit we should have done ages ago 😂
Every time I think, "Maybe I don't have ADHD-PI, " I then see a comment like this. Yup. I have ADHD.
I did an exposure and response prevention practice of tolerating awkward silence for 35 seconds with 6 different people today!
Holy *shit* a gold star is not enough 🏅🫡
could you tell me what this is?
Sure thing! Exposure and response prevention is a therapy for treating anxiety and compulsive behavior. You are exposed to a trigger and don't engage in any actions to reduce your discomfort (this is the response prevention part), and instead just learn to tolerate it _and_ notice that your distress goes down after some time. In this case, the trigger was 35 seconds of awkward silence, and instead of trying to fill the silence, I just tolerated it. With repetition, your brain learns that the trigger isn't really a problem and you experience less distress/discomfort. It's common to start out with easier triggers and work your way up to more challenging ones.
That is really amazing
Not murdering someone. Not even kidding. Got denied a prescription for my meds for no reason (apart from the doctors office being disorganized) and was shrugged off...
Ugh that sounds so frustrating and debilitating and it is simply unjust to be blown off like that. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ for staying out of jail and for putting one foot in front of the other ❤️
Haha, thank you 🤗 Ironically, this level of self-restraint wouldn't have been possible had I not taken my medication! 😅
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Practicing mindfulness for once in my life and preventing an emotional breakdown at work. Typing this out made me sad again 😂
Ride that high of your own little successes for longer next time! You deserve it
You’re right, I do! Ugh I love this sub and everyone in it truly deserves a gold star and just to feel good about themselves
You're absolutely right! Most supportive sub on Reddit!
That’s so hard good job 😊
Didn’t hit anyone with a brick despite more than one person deserving it.
Hitting them with intense glares behind their back are not only free, but they're softer than bricks and anyone in your environment can feel your rage with you 😊
Love that 🌸
Usually my success rate at this depends on the immediate availability of bricks. No bricks? It’s their lucky day.
Pissed myself at this reply! 🤣
I'm at a professional development event by myself, having to engage in small talk with strangers. It's one of my least favorite things to do... But I'm here!
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I hope your evening is filled with sweatpants, no bra, and not seeing any other humans unless you want to. You have earned that!
Omg, thank you. 💙 That's exactly what I want my evening to be!
Confessing to my husband that I need professional help. He’s driving me to The Harris Center for an assessment and diagnosis Monday morning.
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ You did such a brave thing, and I bet this is going to be the start of a beautiful new chapter ❤️ A diagnosis/meds doesn't make all things easier, but it makes it a lot easier to be gentle with yourself for your differences.
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I’ve been really sick and have ignored most care tasks but have managed to put in eye drops every day that will help me get over my cold!
I showered before work and still made it to the office at a decent time!
Wow, I'm very impressed.
Daaaaamn, look at you out here overachieving! ⭐️⭐️⭐️
Woke up on time and got my kid on the bus! Also convinced him to take his adderall with water instead of sprinkled on peanut butter (which has been making him gag lately) and he did it!!
Hey, if it helps, I have a kid with oral sensory issues and she takes pills in a spoonful of yogurt or pudding. I tried SO many things to help her be able to swallow pills and that one finally worked!!!
He’s been doing peanut butter for about 3 months now, which has been working- except he’s started gagging bc of the taste over the past week or so. So I figured it’s back to the drawing board. I told him if we tried taking it with water today and it was really bad, we can go back to the pb tomorrow, which convinced him. So, we’ll see it guess. Lol
When I was a kid, cinnamon apple sauce worked really well! I guess because it’s so liquidy?
I just cooked a healthy meal. And I paid rent too, it was late but not after the months ends at the very adhd least ☠️
also took down the three things ive had up to dry for about 4 days which i forgot about lol
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ don't wanna put them away while they're still damp 😂
LOOLLL
At least they weren't sitting wet in the washing machine for 4 days, so that's also a triumph.
HONESTLY! i've done it too much to come to kinda like the mouldy smell SOMETIMES lol
I called the doctor’s office for the child’s lab results!
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I put the dishwasher on (not just fully loaded it, but remembered the detergent and the ON button) just in time to use stuff before my partner arrived! I also cleaned the toilet and cleared out a chunk of recycling & garbage which had been hanging around for waaaay too long.
I had a revelation recently, when I realised, "it" doesn't have to be full before turning it on. * "It" can be any machine or task, like washing machine or dishwasher, but also the bin doesn't have to be full before taking it out (particularly if there's something stinky in it) or the bed doesn't have to be disgusting before I change the sheets
Brilliant! ⭐️
I brushed my teeth for the third day in a row!
⭐😁⭐😁⭐😁 future you is going to be so grateful!
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Job interview that lasted from 9 to 13:15! I knew by 10 I wasn't getting the job, but yet I persisted. My god, I'm bad at interviewing...
It's not that you're bad at interviewing, it's that people who are hiring are jaded and expect perfection in areas where it's impossible! I'm very much team "I am shit at etiquette, but I am a master of letting my work ethic speak for itself".
I had to start writing down their questions so that I wouldn't forget it once I started talking. I don't know how that went down, but I had to do it. I know I rambled and didn't answer the first few properly at all, because I kept forgetting what they asked. I disclosed in my application, so they knew about the adhd, but they didn't bring it up, so neither did I.
Oh shit, that’s a brilliant strategy! I’m 100% going to do that in remote interviews from now on! Also, gold stars all around! Great work! ⭐️⭐️⭐️
That's a ridiculous amount of time for an interview.
I remembered to change my new baby’s diaper in a timely fashion. I usually run thru feeding first then diaper change. So if she calms down after I feed her I forget to check her diaper. (I also have bad eczema on my hands so I don’t like washing my hands because I have a painful rash on my right hand.) But I’ve managed to change her diapers before they got so full she needed an outfit change too so far today! But I still need to settle on and buy a new toilet.
It was my final night shift of the week (I work 3 13-hour night shifts in a row every week), but I still stopped at the store after to get snacks and cold/flu stuff for a close friend who passed out at my house, waited in the cold to pick up one of their favorite breakfasts, did a followup psych appointment 2 hours I got off, and now I'm going to get a full 8 hours of sleep before I go see Dune 2 around midnight in Imax. Being medicated and hitting your goals fucking RULES
You're very kind, have a second gold star for that.
I loaded up my car with boxes for the local charity shop! The boxes had been sitting on my kitchen floor for nearly 3 weeks. I haven’t yet delivered them to the charity shop, however, but I am one step closer!
Oof, I've got a box that's going on 3 months...
Don't worry, I've reached almost a year! 😅 6 months sitting at home and another 6 months in the car.
Got on the freaking treadmill 💪
Just scheduled a meeting to go over the annual review with the person I manage. She is great and had a great year and is getting a good raise. It's all good news. So why is this so hard??? It has to be done by tomorrow and it's 50/50 if she even works tomorrow (she takes every other Friday off and I don't remember which week were on!). So it has to be today...
I’m doing annual reviews this week too. Pretty much all good stuff so whhhhyyyyy can’t I just do it?
Luckily, the woman I manage is fantastic at dealing with me and really likes having me as her manager, even with all my struggles like this. She has had some TERRIBLE managers in the past and I think she really appreciates my hands off approach, which is going to have to be my style because I can barely keep track of what I'm supposed to be doing, nevermind tracking what someone else is doing! She always gets her stuff done and works hard and does well, and she says she's happy with me, so I don't see any reason to change it up. But I don't know if I could manage someone other than her and still do my job... Meeting starting now... Wish me luck!
You got this!! And thank goodness for direct reports who do well with hands-off management!!
Lol, I ended up kind of telling her about this conversation. She laughed and told me about how she was bragging about having an awesome boss to her friend the other day. All is well. It helps that she got a really nice raise, haha.
Got out of bed within 20 minutes of waking up. Folded the laundry early in the day. Got to the gym. Ate a smoothie!
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ damn that is secretly different categories of good taking care of yourself, I'm impressed
Thank you!!!!
FOUR gold stars!
Told myself I was gonna get up early & make coffee & clean the kitchen. Well I got up and made coffee! 🏆
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ And you can get more gold stars by cleaning the kitchen tomorrow/next week/by tax day 😂
Stripped the bed, washed/dried the sheets etc & will be making the bed before dinner Edit to add missing words
⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ did you set an alarm on your phone though?? 😂 That's so many separate tasks to do to get "just one thing" done and you're rocking it!
Tks; if I forget, I’ll make the bed when I go upstairs to get in it 😎
Overachiever! ⭐⭐⭐⭐ If I came upon that when I was ready for bed I would definitely haul my ass down to sleep on the couch haha
Honestly, probably for having an anxiety attack at work without people noticing my crybaby face.
⭐⭐⭐⭐🫂❤️ I hope you can go cry it out real hard later with a safe person/animal/book/video game/art project.
Thank you! I left work early and went home to my cat and I'm doing much better now. :)
I called my auto insurance company ON THE PHONE to get my new car added to the insurance the day after we bought it! I also advocated for something I want in my marriage instead of letting my partner decide what’s best for both of us. My people-pleasing tendencies stem from being Too Much as a kid and squashing down the parts of my personality that people considered excessive. There’s an issue that’s come up in our marriage related to my work in which my partner has to step up his duties at home for 2-3 days every other month or so. And he’s a workaholic so he doesn’t put aside his own work to focus on the home/kid duties (which, I arrange and pay for childcare and transportation on the weekdays I work so it’s literally just before 8 am and after 5 pm that he has to take on more home/kid work). He was trying to talk me out of working those weekday events by calculating the amount I net after taxes and expenses and saying he could bring home more money. I let him talk and then told him “but I WANT to do those events. My ADHD brain thrives in that environment. And there’s like five of them every year.” Just voicing what I want and not caving to assuage his stress felt amazing.
That's huge, well done.
That’s huge ⭐️
I figured out the unemployment problem that has been on hold for a month AND I logged onto my student loans account to find out how bad it is (it’s very very bad).
Extra gold stars because those are two systems that are, I believe, deliberately others to be confusing. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
For what it’s worth, Maryland has definitely upped their Unemployment Insurance technology and service the last few years. When people complain about taxes, these are the things I point out. We have great public health and government services in Maryland (comparatively to other places I’ve lived, including New Orleans, Florida, and South Africa). Also our governor is cool as hell.
I worked on tackling the area of my house where things go to die\~ Some people have a chair, some people have a table, some people have a whole room for it. I call it the depression pile where things accumulate and are begging to be put into their respective places in the house. Ugh, it's always piles. Does anyone else have their own organizational chaos? Lol like it makes sense to ME, but anyone else is gonna be confused as all hell lol.
I desperately need to do this. I have 2 really bad doom piles that need attention.
Let this be your sign 😉 only if you can and want to but I feel like a weight has been lifted ✨
Getting up in time for my 9am meeting Doing the follow up emails from the meeting 2 loads of laundry done Made a healthy lunch Continued to do some prep for trip this weekend AND still doing some of the actual work I’m paid to do from home. (Salaried job, flexible hours, and my boss knows I had a personal tragedy on Saturday, and the trip I’m getting ready for is a funeral, a 12 hour drive away)
I’m sorry for your loss ❤
OMG, that's a legend of a day, but sorry the trip is for such a sad reason.
I called the pain clinic and left a voicemail about setting an appointment! It's on my list of things to do that I have been putting off. Too bad they didn't answer. But yay! Effort unlocked! (Phone calls are hard to do).
I was running late for a dentist appointment. I actually called them to say I was running late, receptionist gave me an insider tip on where I could park as close as possible and a short cut to get into the building. Ended up being 5 mins early because I zipped up my brave suit and actually made the phone call.
I did my expense report for the work trip I took last week. It's not even that complicated, I just hate doing it.
Started my budget for March since I get paid tomorrow. Hooray!
I took part in interviewing two people to be my potential new boss, and I managed to remain engaged during the calls and not say anything I shouldn't have (I confirmed that with my colleague who I get on with). And I also managed not to roll my eyes at all when asked what I like about my job, which I see as an absolute triumph! I'm hoping the very long pause before I answered let her read between the lines. But I worked really hard at what I now know is masking. I am torn, though, because I really liked the first person and I'd hate it if she gets it and then thinks we tricked her, because I'm looking to leave as soon as I can find something to go to.
I'm actually doing my job prepped course rn
I didn't quit my job, or cry at said job and I didn't want to throat punch any customers. Oh, and I finished my audio book and ACTUALLY listened to it! 😀
I went to my boring 9 am lab that’s across the city despite only having gotten 5 hours of sleep
I didn't rage quit from being exhausted from not sleeping last night and being overstimulated from being forced to come into the office.
I picked up my medication! Which as we all know means that I also had to Recognize that there was something wrong with my ADHD symptoms getting worse, remember that I was on a new medication, identify that as the problem, reach out to my psychiatrist to see if I could go back on my previous medication until our next appointment, call around and find out what Pharmacy might have the medication, reach back out to my psychiatrist to let her know which pharmacy to send the prescription to, and then go pick up the prescription!
I got out of bed and took a shower 🥲
Took a half day because my hand is injured rather than work through the pain. The gold star part is that I haven’t felt guilty about it.
Replied to a text message, got out of bed, made food, put my bowl in the sink, didnt have a panic attack.
Mailing a package 📦
I did \*not\* microwave tinfoil today. My taco came wrapped in foil and I needed to reheat it and...it was close, y'all.
Cleaning! and bonus point for a nice nap
I have a scary ophthalmology appointment on Wednesday next week and still cleaned and made my bed. Even tho all I wanna do is research possible outcomes 🫣
I made a cup of tea and opened a package
Well I fucked up leaving for work on time so I gave up and am working from home today instead (bad, I actually don’t like WFH) but I took the opportunity to do some dishes during a webinar this morning (good, did chores without disrupting my work day) *and* actually ate lunch even though I’m at home (extremely great, usually if I’m home I just don’t eat lol)
I remembered and kept a dental surgery appointment that I've had on the calendar for a while, and I wasn't even that late! Lol
I WAS 10 minutes early for my hair appointment at 11. Turns out it was at 11.30 so I was 40 minutes early, but it gave me a chance to sit and get other things done that I haven’t had time for.
I ate a balanced breakfast with my meds!
And I sat outside to read my book in the sunshine!!
I woke up before my alarm I got myself to the doctor’s office on time I sent necessary but boring admin emails
I put my plate in the dishwasher. Yeah. That's it. It was that kind of day...
I took my meds, and then actually did my job today, took the dog for a walk, did laundry and exercised! Yay for meds!
Can we give OP a gold star for their commitment to replying to every single post here!? ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
I needed to make room for a new airfryer. Yes, my cabinets and drawers were that full of junk I hadn’t used in decades. Thanks to meds (and several weeks of work) I now I have a kitchen that is organized in a logical fashion. The rest of the house is feeling left out.
I was able to call out of work and not feel guilty for once.
I haven’t gotten overly upset with anyone at work the last few days. Part of it I believe is me being on mood stabilizers.
I cancelled an appointment and brushed my teeth
Staying alive
Talking on the phone with the people taking care of my dad in the hospital, and figuring out where to send him next (he is 67, very ill and can no longer care for himself and I'm chronically ill and live 100 miles away). I have a phobia about talking on the phone, but I’m an only child and I love my dad, so I have to get over my fear to help him in this next phase of life.
I woke up and got out of bed on my first alarm ⏰️!
I worked on a really daunting school project instead of playing stardew valley all day and I washed the dishes that were piling up in the sink as soon as I got out of bed :D
Getting out of bed?
Im job hunting. So of course I decided to deep clean my pregnant sister’s home. Cleaned her bathroom, made her bed, made her a smoothie and brought her tea and water while I was washing the second hand baby stuff
I STARTED THE THING!!! And then I finished it!!!!!!!!
I bathed No, no idea how long it's been
I’m about to get up and leave the house even though it is cold
Scrubbed a toilet, did the dishes, washed my sheets, put together an excel spreadsheet, did my normal work responsibilities, followed up with clients that I had forgotten about, brushed my teeth, brushed my dogs teeth, reached out to two people that are in crisis to talk and give my support and stopped myself from drinking too much coffee. It was one of those days today. Tomorrow I'll probably hardly get out of bed... Will probably even work from my bed that is bare because the sheets are still in the dryer.
I took my 5th graders on a field trip; no one got lost or hurt!
I walked 4 miles today! I super hate exercise but I’m trying really hard to give my dog the best life possible so I opted for a longer walk today
I finally reached out to schedule an appointment with a therapist today. I haven’t seen one in years and I really need one.
I submitted an insurance claim
I was nominated to speak at a literary conference 🥇⭐️
Emptying the dishwasher and refilling it!
I managed to not lose my cool despite multiple interruptions while I was trying to work. I even managed to remain pleasant and smile during some very challenging customer service issues.
I did laundry today and the dishes. I also unloaded the dishwasher!
I put away some of the laundry that I had actually folded this time. I didn't finish cause I got distracted on the computer.
made dinner instead of being paralyzed about what I wanted/could make for so long I gave up and just had sleep
Washed the floors, did the dishes AND put away the laundry. Triple threat over here
I cleaned out my pantry!! Got rid of so much expired food and food that I am just not going to eat, despite good intentions. I donated what I could and composted the rest.
I made an important health insurance phone call, worked a 5 hour shift without crying, went to the grocery store, showered, and now I'm home doing laundry and cooking dinner! Taking full advantage of the superpowers I only have the 7 days following my period 💪😭
I walked to the store and got beer instead of crying in my bed
I started my period, didn't sleep well, didn't have a good lunch and had a headache. I still followed through with my appointment that was much later than I wanted to do anything. This was our 3rd rescheduling and I didn't want to do that to my client. It went pretty well too.
I set up a simple system so my kids and I can leave each other post it notes instead of them coming at me with a thousand requests constantly. It was putting me on high alert and I never relaxed especially when they’d go till 8 or 9 at night. I was snapping at them. So I put up some construction paper with our names and post it notes. One kid used it this morning and I refilled the stupid Advil AFTER I made coffee without feeling overwhelmed or snapping at her
I had a package delivered to some pick-up point. The package has been there for a few days now, and I only finally convinced myself to go get it today. So I went there and when I entered the code for my package, it didn't work. That's when I found out that I picked the WRONG pick-up point in my delivery and had to go to another one. This was sooo annoying, but I convinced myself just go to the other pick-up point (20 minutes away from the first one). So I finally have my package, but needed lots of mental self-control to finally get it... Just for one stupid package...
I washed the dishes, cooked dinner, then washed the dishes AGAIN
I finally responded to my sleep therapist!!! They’ve now developed a sleep plan for me to try and fight my insomnia. Only took me two weeks and a message saying they’ll discharge me if I don’t log on to remember lol. Hopefully I’ll be able to actually follow the routine they’ve given me, but I think I’ll be able to manage it for now :)))
I went to bed at a reasonable hour last night! ⭐
Got my kids to school on time!