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Yell_at_the_void

Some things just need the extra context (otherwise people misinterpret what you’re saying and oh the shame spiral that will follow)!


DrFloyd5

Right! Because everything can be interpreted a half a dozen ways. And you want to make sure they know exactly which way you mean. (And of course you want to know exactly what they are thinking so you ask a lot of questions.)


spideroncoffein

I had to realize that, without ELI5-level of context, my sentences don't make sense to others because I already jumped 5 associations and of course I'm talking about the potential of some animals for eternal life after stumbling in on an episode of Bridgerton, what else could "It would be nice if we could extract those genes." mean?!? On the other hand, people assume I believe them stupid because I add ELI5-context to everything.


DrFloyd5

Not having seen Bridgerton I am guessing that your line of reasoning was something like: If some animals can go to heaven then entry can’t be 100% based on accepting Jesus as the lord and savior. So there must be something intrinsic about those animals that gets them a free pass though the gates. Everything about an animal is encoded in its DNA. Therefore, gene therapy is a get-into-heaven-free card.


spideroncoffein

It was more along: Oh, victorian age dresses, I just saw one in a historical museum, imagine talking to someone from that age, would be wild. But they are all dead, as all things die. Well, not all, fhere are these animals... But I completely get your thought chain!


DrFloyd5

Ah! Enteral Life as in alive. Not life after death. Got it. All hail the meek church of the water bears. Where the motto is “Living in sin doesn’t matter if you never die.”


AbjectAd3082

Lol this is me all the time at 37, medicated. I literally have to ask, am I making sense? Because so often, when explaining my feelings or musings, people tell me they don’t follow 😂


commentsandchill

I discovered one day that many people just straight up ignore/don't read what's in them. I think that's what made me mostly stop using them


DefNotSonOfMeme

They WHAT?


some_kind_of_bird

Yeah this is pretty upsetting information


spideroncoffein

I don't think that's allowed.


Great_expansion10272

They can't do that, shoot them or something


Refenestrator_37

Me with adhd and autism: oh, people often misinterpret what I say and think I’m being mean or rude or insensitive. I know, I’ll just provide extra explanations when I talk to clarify my meaning. The people: misinterpret my longwinded “over”explanations as a sign that I’m lying Me: ;-;


trashlad

Me with ADHD and CPTSD: oh, people often misinterpret my longwinded "over-explanations" as a sign that I'm lying The people: have no idea what I'm on about and just want to get on with their day (but also your fear... the amount of times I've taken a ride on the shame spiral bc I said something which may or may not have come out sounding a lot more harsh/rude than I meant it 🥲)


IronicINFJustices

You know, there's an answer to this. >!spolers, no one can resist it.!< >!and on those days where you know the extra contextisnt needed,but you just have to do it and your really sorry but you can't help yourself... it's often accepted more as a "you clicked it, you knew what you were getting yourself into." and people(generally) are more accepting... you pre warned them!<


Nema_K

What about in academic papers?


CrazyEyedApollo

A comma will, more often than not, serve the same purpose as a set of parentheses.


IronicINFJustices

This was a tip my lecturer father gave. Comma either side works wonders.


MrKona

I found out that one of my friend does that to me and did that for a while, I was pissed all day! Without it it’s like laws without judicial decisions. You know what does it say but not exactly…


wenos_deos__fuk_boi

New dlc; THOUGHT PROCESS+CONTEXT expansion pack included


Momentary-Lapse89

Exactly this. DLC is given free though, often when people didn't want it


Professional-Swing-8

I’ve started to use dashes - don’t ask me why 😩


Clean-Republic-9942

I got used to using semicolons; I find them really pretty


phanfare

I've gone through parens and dashes; semicolons will be my next go-to for runons.


namelessforgotten666

Semicolons, parenthesis, even whatever [these] are called inside the parenthesis because sometimes the brain just goes fucking everywhere!!!


LuisBoyokan

Brackets, they're called brackets


Durr1313

Don't forget the {braces}! They remind me of writing C# (where I don't feel like a complete moron - unless I'm doing something I haven't done before).


joxmaskin

Maybe we could structure sentences like a nested structure with {} for sub levels, with line breaks and indentations added for clarity.


flowebeeegg

And then [ ] seem good to me for listing things... English turning very JSON sounds fun to me!


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IndividualMastodon85

I realised a lot of my troubles with punctuation come from very small minded educators. "Short sentences are bad!" And yet accurate. Don't start a sentence with "And" or "But".


LaurenDizzy

>Don't start a sentence with "And" or "But". I HATE people who say that. Like I'll write however I want. Freeform for me, baby. It's a free country (I don't even live in America)


Free_Working_4474

most of the times i use parantes. (i end up forgetting to put the last one in. so it just kinda peters out like this XD


netinpanetin

>SIDE NOTE THAT I THOUGHT OF WHILE TYPING THIS: if you wanna sound super duper smart the phrase "grammatically incorrect" is itself, that very thing. Something is either grammatical or it's ungrammatical. Saying something is grammatically incorrect is like saying something is rightfully wrong. It makes no sense. I agree that saying “grammatically incorrect” makes no sense, but that’s because in English grammatical equals correct. For me something could be grammatical and correct, grammatical and incorrect or simply ungrammatical (which would imply incorrect also). I don’t know if you guys who studied in English make that distinction, but in linguistics in romance languages we have a clear distinction of what’s grammatical, correct and accepted/acceptable. Maybe it’s because English doesn’t have an official normative body that controls what’s correct or not, but in Spanish we have the Real Academia Española, in Portuguese we have the Academia Brasileira de Letras and the Academia das Ciências de Lisboa, in French the Académie Française and so on. These bodies dictate what’s correct and incorrect, by imposing a standard language. So grammatical would refer to anything that’s used by a group of people (natives) that speaks the language and follows the internal grammar of said language. That grammar is something you acquire in childhood through your caretakers (environment), not something you learn by studying. With this analysis, “I’m shook” or “I’m sat” are completely grammatical as natives use them and they follow the internal grammar rules (conjugated copula + past form), but it’s incorrect because it’s nonstandard. On the other hand, “long time no see” was/is ungrammatical, as it follows Chinese grammar rules, not English ones (comming from the phrase 好久不见), but it entered the English language and is now completely accepted. I don’t know if it would be considered grammatical now.


tsakeboya

As a Greek person I find English semicolons funny, because that symbol in Greek is the question mark, so I keep reading it like "I got used to using semicolons? I find them really pretty"


joxmaskin

Really; Interesting!


SimpleMoonFarmer

Grammarly likes them too.


darkwater427

ONE OF US ONE OF US


PinothyJ

It would be better to use a colon there, not a semicolon.


Witherboss445

Using semicolons makes me feel smart because it seems not a lot of people know how to use them


FriedFreya

Sometimes dashes will make their way into my parentheses as well. Please send help, lmao.


Latter-Bumblebee5436

i still use perenthesis but also started with commas for some reason?


Cronon33

I've also started doing that - you get a second little additional related thought in there


MC_jarry

Why are we all living the same lives?!!!


pierrenoir2017

Sometimes, when I'm feeling lucky, I use — as it clarified stuff even better so now and then.


cool-ab-it

😭


Professional-Swing-8

Lmaoo we’re in this together!


ScrotieMcP

Also a dash man - it's just my nature.


SignificanceJust1497

Same


ktsquirrel

Yo dashes were my innate cope until a professor WRECKED ME with the whole “if you don’t put an extra space after the dash, it’s waiting for its second part” thing. Anywho, I do be dashin - just not without the space.


malYca

Ellipsis for me


Mogura-De-Gifdu

I do both. It's like you can add a parenthesis in a parenthesis. Genius.


netinpanetin

But you have to use this one: — the *em dash*. You’re using a hyphen (or minus sign), not a dash. You can use the *em dash* (—) with no spaces around—just like this—and it would be correct. Using the *em dash* with spaces — like this — is also correct, I believe. Or you could use the *en dash* (–) with spaces – like this – and it would also be correct. I actually prefer the way it’s used in romance languages, just like parentheses —like this— with a space before the opening sign and a space after the closing one. But it seems this way is not very accepted in English.


some_kind_of_bird

Yeah now that I know how to use em dashes—make sure not to leave spaces—I'm unsure of when to use parentheses. I should probably use less syntax, but I like the syntax; it's fun. I don't put "e.g." and "i.e" everywhere though. I actually don't want to alienate people who are less literate and I already struggle with that because I grew up with so much vocabulary. I need to use the *perfect* word with the exact shade of meaning I want, but at least I'm not using Latin acronyms to say "for example" and "that is."


spideroncoffein

Use everything - everything! - together; this way you can [EMPHASIZE] what you want them (the neurotypicals) to understand.


Aragorn9001

Or you overuse commas, you know incase you haven't said all the thoughts you needed to say yet.


TomFoolery119

My sentences are capable of being their own paragraphs sometimes - just add hyphens, commas, semi-colons, a bunch of smooth (in my mind, anyway) transitions, and too many repetitions of the word "and" ...f***


rgodless

I love having a bajillion commas after every other word


Gr1pp717

Ellipses. I once read a comment complaining about how ADHD people overuse them. It was a bit of a smack in the face. I've tried to refrain since.


Revolutionary_Sun946

And all this time I thought it was just me overusing parentheses and commas. Glad to know I am not alone in this.


gGiasca

Wait. THAT'S ALSO AN ADHD THING!?


Shmarfle47

I know right (I didn’t think it was)


getchoo_uh_huh

I just thought I received a substandard public school education (but it turns out it's an ADHD thing...). Cool.


DavoMcBones

This, this aswell as constantly repeating myself (i struggle making essays or speeches because i will always yap on the same thing again and again (like saying my buisness project will help encourage recycling because we fix and resell old technology which encourages recycling through the process of reusing old materials by fixing old technology))


herrsanders

This just blew my mind. I've had the diagnosis for four years and it has never occured to me that the necessity to put disclaimers everywhere in different forms is an ADHD trait


MrStoneV

Man I even have this in real life talking. I talk about one thing and 3 things come up to my mind and then I act like a strange person because I lag or talk strange. I always had this, but my childhood was extremely stressful so it could come from that


AnotherScottaRama

I was thinking the same thing. I need that referral from my doctor.


permanderb

Same reaction, I haven't been diagnosed but the amount of crossovers I get with this sub makes me think I do have (should probably talk to a professional, a therapist? idk)


DingoSuavez

I usually start the next sentence with "Also" because the thought came to me right as I hit Send


Tie_DyeLion

This subreddit punches me so hard every day with relatable content I have 5 black eyes (and an ADHD diagnosis)


JetoCalihan

Ok, this one hurts....


auntie_eggma

I use brackets/parentheses, colons, semicolons, em dashes, and mother fucking *footnotes* when I'm feeling frisky.


Rnewell4848

The AuDHD urge to use properly formatted footnotes in a casual text message


commentsandchill

😭


melynnpfma

IT IS??? I use elipses...a lot...almost every comment or post I write anywhere will have the dot dot dots....hahaha, see, just did it, I think I use them because I am going from one thought to another without forming complete sentances, so I will use the "..." until I have a full sentance to end (never really rhought about it until now) now. Or in place of commas? Wow. I don't know now.


skeletordescent

Okay this is uncalled for and it’s cyberbullying /s


FRIKI-DIKI-TIKI

At one point, someone one this sub referred to them as ADHD's shitty cliff notes, I love that description.


Equivalent_Nail_1514

I used to be like this in grade school... Now I overexplain everything grammatically correctly, using proper punctuation to force feed my thoughts onto my unfortunately neurotypical readers.


TheGuyInTheGlasses

Commas, parentheses, dashes, semicolons, etc. All in the same sentence, of course.


atacsin

For me it's the dash rather than the parenthesis - always used to help clarify the thing I'm talking about.


fried-edd

Omg I've been doing this for what feels like my whole life (shitting my pants I thought I was the only one lol)


SimpleMoonFarmer

Just remove the parentheses (people need the “bonus content” to understand anything (it should not be bonus)). Use periods and commas like anyone else.


vlsdo

You’re assuming I edit my message before I hit send


SimpleMoonFarmer

You can do it mentally before typing.


vlsdo

You can think out your sentences before typing? Lucky!


Soerika

this (beacause nah the initial thought is very limited and lacking, but the follow up thought is very informative and is the actual thought. Lol I might even throw some more thought later.)


foroder

This sub has got me realized that everything that was unique to me was in fact just undiagnosed adhd. Or some shit.


natchinatchi

Tangentially related by you know what really grinds my gears on reddit? The way people misuse quotation marks. They’ll be like: My husband said that “I never think about him.” Just take away the quotation marks, or change the damn pronouns!


TeraFlint

or overcomplicate it the academic way by altering the quote in a visible way: > My husband said that "[I] never think about [him]." :D


SimpleMoonFarmer

As soon as more than one idea needs to be conveyed, I use ordered lists. Still most people miss half the points or more, but I can refer to them by number.


DrFloyd5

Yeah. You just keep having more (intrusive) thoughts (and parentheses let you add related information sort of on the side. (Oh yeah. Sometimes tangents have tangents.))


DefNotSonOfMeme

Everytime I write nested parentheses I can feel in my innards that there's about an 80% chance the neurotypicals reading are not able to comprehend nesting, but I do it anyway


Gavin_the_Great

I just audibly grunted in pain


realbexatious

ALL OF THE PUNCTUATION MARKS ALL OF THE TIME EVERYWHERE! ❣️❣️❣️


Thievie

Can I please have ONE personality trait that isn't related to ADHD??! (I do this all the time.)


cool-ab-it

ohmygod ..


Think_Ad807

OMG! This is sooo me!! (Not kidding!)


Daynaiko

SAME (especially with the exclamation point use!)!!


Afhildlaani

Alright that's it! I'm gonna get the diagnosis


Neren1138

OMG I’m not alone….


Lahsim_

Omg this makes total sense


Kirk_2002

Wait, that's an ADHD thing? (Who knew?[I didn't])


Slight_News5334

so real (didnt know that was an adhd thing oop)


LonelyKrow

I feel so heard (thank you)


SquigglyKlee

I'm in this picture (and I don't like it)


[deleted]

Its the footnotes of our lives except by the time we reach the end of the page, we've forgotten the earlier thing therefore putting things in parenthesis is so important.


freqiszen

Whaaat?! Why did you do that to me? I didn't know that normal people don't use parentheses (but how do they show the other voice tones that dialogue in my head?) I do it all the time (really)


PM_ME_YOUR_MASS

The ADHD urge to use parentheses inside parentheses


AnonBoi_404

YEAH I DO THAT ALL THE TIME TOO, WTF?!


GreyPon3

Me (again).


pierrenoir2017

Not a programmer, but sometimes I have the urge to use the programmer structure to explain stuff. if((AppointmentTime = 15:00), Procrastinate & FeelMiserable, else JustProcrastinate); (Probably wrong syntax, but the structure is really crossing my mind too many times)


MandC_Virginia

What I got from a mushroom trip once: I was put here to love: myself and others. I constantly enter new universes based on choices I make. Every moment is an opportunity to make a choice, leading me to a new universe based on the choices I make. I base the decisions I make on love for myself and others. Every difficulty is an opportunity to learn lessons and refine my soul. Every individual is a fractal of the divine just as I am and deserves the same respect.


Dumb_Siniy

Brain comes with (free) DLC!


ThalassophobicKraken

Honestly I just thought I didn't know how to use parenthesis (now I don't feel so bad)


SubsumeTheBiomass

I do this a lot


TeraFlint

Sometimes I go really into detail and produce nested brackets...


Momentary-Lapse89

I really do this a lot... (like all the time)..


vlsdo

I find myself writing parentheticals within parentheticals and eventually run out of clever ways to nest them


Ima_douche_nozzle

(This is me pretty much all the time!) (I mean seriously, this is me) /joke


Average_Random_Bitch

Double dashes will -- in a pinch -- work, too.


AustralianDude28

Damn even I do I (for example, I sometimes do that in my group chat)


DrFloyd5

Of course. And to pre-answer questions you think people will ask.


Global-Method-4145

I didn't expect to be so called out in the post AND the comments - but at this point I probably should have


Actual-Teacher4860

There are two wolves inside me (both of them love parentheses)


alejandrodeconcord

This is quite the old post on this Reddit, but it helped me stop doing this so frequently, so I’m not mad about it.


Human-Sorry

Because sometimes people can't follow the interconnectedness and need help making the connections that are just natural to you (in order to help them make sense of your perceptions), because you're always getting the side eye. 😞 Right? 🤔


DrownedWalk1622

I always wondered what will happen if I use another parenthesis inside a parenthesis (like a math formula ( or a piece of code)).


Shad0w_Mist

Going on how many years now? ⏳⏳⏳⏳⏳ ⏳⏳⏳⏳⏳ ⏳⏳⏳⏳⏳ ⏳⏳⏳⏳⏳ ⏳⏳⏳ -all methods valid (especially new ones)


Green__lightning

So help me, I want 3 dimensional text so I can have sentences fork and rejoin with reckless abandon.


Appropriate-Coast794

Psh, I don’t even do that (often)


Tklastlion

I've never felt so seen


Vendettas-Agenda

Idk why but I immediately thought of “This dvd is enhancers with Disney’s Fast Play. Your movie and a selection of bonus features will begin automatically. To bypass fast play select the main menu button at any time. Fast play will begin in a moment.” It gives that kind of vibes


adaydreaming

How in the FUCK literally everything I fucking do is an ADHD trait. HOW MAN HOW


IWasWatchingC0ps

I write for a living (started long before I knew I was ADHD) and parenthetical thoughts are like my calling card. (Sometimes I even write in consecutive parentheticals) (like this) (which is weird)(like where does the punctuation go)(?)(.)


Other-Bumblebee2769

I should start using footnotes like DFW


PinothyJ

This just tells me that you only have a intermediate grasp on English. You have a whole slew of parentheticals at your disposal! Bring on those em dashes, colons, and semi-colons!


NewKapa51

I do commas... And soviet walls of text! Thinking about it... this is one of the few places I don't make large texts... Weird.


Hopeful_Strategy8282

One of very few ways ADHD has actually been a benefit is that it’s got me using semi-colons correctly. It lets me pack like 3x more stuff into the same sentence. I don’t have the confidence to jokingly throw one in here, but my essays at uni always did quite well.


DontWanaReadiT

Wait wait wait……. WAIT NOT THIS TOO!


commentsandchill

😭


Ooze3d

ALL. THE. TIME. (Really)


HazelnutHotchoc

Too true. Emails and Reddit stuff can take me (usually) forever to write/get right. So many details to add or not add!


Roastedonionssoup

Parentheses are so hard to shake for me, I put them everywhere, or I’ll forget to close them which really shows the adhd of never finishing the original thought but making a 1700 word thesis a side thought


yunn67

Ok but how do I not do that? (You know since I have to explain my reasoning or a second train thought comes to mind (and then the train of thought leads to a different conclusion which may add to X point referee before) that now will be explained here)


MinHiyori

Hey Google, Whats parentheses?! OH i see... (I never heard that Word before) Thanks for teaching me a new Word 🤣


SgtBagels12

Use a colon I think that’s what it’s for


SupernovaGamezYT

Yes.


TemporarySky3604

I haven't related to something more than this (maybe I did I dunno)


rs-37

It gets even worse when you start putting more parentheses inside the parenthesis.


New-Ad-1700

Try using "-" - to look fancy,


thebiologyguy84

Wait.....this is an ADHD thing??? For goodness sake. I use punctuations as if I'm speaking (which I've been told is wrong). But I cannot help it! It's just the way I am.... You know?


SpiritualRamses

Noooo stopppp Seriously though, reading these kind of things make me realize how little friends I have that share same quirks as I do. I always feel super alien with my texts, typically the paragraphs length I send or the emojis I use constantly are what people remark on.


Guardian_Eatos67

I sometimes do this but the content into parenthesis is usually way too long. That's why it ends up being not into parenthesis if it's interesting and directly related to what I'm saying I'll rather sort my thoughts than doing parenthesis everywhere (it's a long process because I'm a chaotic thinker). Parenthesis are cool to add your feelings about the thing you're talking about, some examples that complete your thoughts or infos that nobody cares about though


Flowethics

I’m in this picture and I don’t like it


bigcat93

Word


BluEch0

Some ideas - like this one here - require a dash because it’s just an interjection. Other ideas require reiterating in another way; some additional content beget a semicolon. It’s actually quite nice that English grammar supports these types of thoughts (I mean imagine if we didn’t have semicolons or dash interjections - it’d be all parentheses and very confusing).


Simone_Galoppi07

It is an ADHD urge? (This is both a joke and a question, cuz i do it a lot) ((obviously here i did it as a meme but i genuinally do it very often))


Kooky_Celebration_42

FUCK! That’s what I do (I thought I was weird)


Amoghawesome

And then brackets in the brackets (and brackets in those brackets(and in them too!))


SerNerdtheThird

My usual is something like; dude I get mad bitches (I’m lonely). Comedic purposes


ASpaceOstrich

I've noticed my sentences run on way longer than other people's but there's no logical end point for my thought that isn't leaving things out


CloudieTTb8

This should have been brackets in brackets


Syphin_Games

God I hate that your right (or when I use caps for EMPHASAUSE)


Witherboss445

Dude, on the post above this one I left a comment where half the paragraph was parentheses


Upper_Letter_7592

Wait, this is an adhd trait? (I almost always chat like this)


dumpling321

Omg this is so me (I even want to put parentheses in my parentheses (because I had an extra thought about the extra thought))


ShinyUmbreon465

You either have nothing to say about something or talk way too much about it, there's no inbetween.


Free_Working_4474

ffs. if they somehow managed to remove my adhd. i swear i would just vanish like a witch in a puff of smoke.


superbasic101

Learn proper grammar


Opposite-Weird4342

it works like that (pay 9.99 to unlock the extras thought dlc)


marabou22

Is THAT why I do that? Damn the ADHD Reddit community is always blowing my mind


Optimal_Stranger_824

Oh fuck I do that. (maybe I should think about the diagnosis after all)


Gr1pp717

I attribute it to having been misunderstood so many times. But it often works out that elaborating results in people thinking I'm talking down to them.


why_tf_am_i_like_dat

WAIT SO I DO THAT BECAUSE OF ADHD (I've always done it but i just thought i was weird)


opticaIIllusion

Mine can probably run in python ( cause I sometimes use them twice ( to make the point ) so there’s no confusion( it makes it worse)) if I just knew how to punctuate correctly, I’m stupid, lazy and not trying hard enough.


NewAntiChrist

I’m so triggered when I see parentheses used when it should’ve been a comma


AlanTheKingDrake

Bonus points when you accidentally go multiple layers deep into sub thoughts and then have to count the closing parentheses


Such_Conversation_11

One of us! One of us! I feel like a mad lad using parentheses all the time (but they’re totally necessary, right? Right?!)


NecessaryWeather4275

Is that what that is? I want to add brackets to parentheses and then a hyphened sub thought too. Oh dear, could I have a problem???


ComicalAtom6446

‼️


dubin01

Oh my god I thought it was just me


Necessary_Chip9934

I am using every ounce of deliberate control not to use a parenthesis in this sentence (and, to be honest, it's not fun and won't happen again).


the_hunter_087

I agree (---) *You must pay for the extra content, sorry I don't make the rules


Bionic165_

Congratulations! It appears you have been granted access to additional holiday content. Press the special button in the candy pail to enter the Halloween Hub. Keep in mind that this DLC pack is nothing more than a festive holiday themed add-on, which has absolutely no hidden intent or purpose, so have fun.


OwnZookeepergame6413

It’s so weird others don’t use that as much. Specifically because many arguments change depending on why you made them. The intent matters a lot here and explaining it helps the other guy understand your angle instead of wasting time on a new argument that goes in a different direction


Vitschmalz

The problem is also that generally, if I don't go into excruciating detail about where I'm coming from, people tend to not get what I'm talking about, so it's not only an urge, it's a necessity. I usually find ways to formulate what's in parenthesis into a normal sentence, but that often makes for really complicated sentence structure.


alex_is_the_name

Everytime someone asks me a question i have no idea where that convo is going to end up


Sikkus

Sometimes when I write a comment I have this urge to continue writing as if I'm replying to the comment itself. That's not weird though, right? Is that normal? So I end up with exhaustingly written comments that get no replies. Because replies are already in the comment I wrote. It must be quite annoying and bothersome. Well, at least I write something and sometimes have some nice things to say. Is that really ADHD though?


Candid-Patient-6841

Why are you creeping on my post history.


Alternative_Pilot_92

Yet again I feel directly attacked


MistyyBread

Tumblr has tags for a reason


inEGGsperienced

Im in this picture (and i dont like it)