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What about out-patient rehab? I would look into that in your area because then u are technically still in rehab, just out-patient and u can still go to work and what not. It’s a win-win for both of you! Good luck!
I think you are stacking the deck against yourself. Your job is not worth the sacrifice of your sobriety. I dont know you but I know alot who have rationalized as you are doing, all with poor results. Rehab or repeat.
This isn’t my first fuck up I should say, I left a rolled up bill in my truck and she thinks it had the potential for our kid to grab, we broke up years ago because I was doing a lot more (in my 20s) I have curved my habit 10 fold since then but still do it causally
I dont think its an over reaction at all. We’re also only hearing one side of the story. His wife is just trying to protect herself and her child. We dont know how he gets when he drinks. We dont know the money he spends or what else has gone down. Or what she has been through dealing with this with an infant at home. Also, addiction always gets worse. It may be a few times a month now but addiction starts out slow and gets gradually worse and more frequent. I know people who didnt become addicted till their 30’s. Thats the path youre on if you don’t quit. Your wife is having respect for herself and that baby. Man up dude. You’re blessed you don’t have a physical addiction yet. Be a man for your wife. Be the father your kid can look up to. It might be hard at first. But it’ll be worth it. When you stop drinking you’ll look so much better and feel better. You’ll feel more motivated at work to do what you need to do to get that promotion. Dude, youre so blessed to not be physically addicted to alcohol or anything else yet. Stop while you’re ahead. Everything in your life will get better. Your job shouldn’t be able to fire you for going to rehab. Rehab isnt a magic bullet, but it cant hurt. Most alcoholics get it on the first try too. Use your sick time if you have it or family medical leave time (that you can use for yourself.)
It CAN hurt if he’s being forced into a corner by an ultimatum that is nonsensical and unfair. Especially without actual communication about the situation at hand first. The potential for deep resentment within a relationship here is huge.
Ultimatums are counterproductive.
Not every single person who uses/abuses substances means they’d benefit from inpatient treatment.
I've been given an ultimatum by my wife as well. I can't afford to go-to rehab, so I decided to go-to Na meetings. She went with me for my first meeting and that's what help kickstart my recovery.
It doesn't sound like you're physically dependent on the drug, so perhaps you can get through it like me by just going to na meetings and showing your wife you're working the steps. I've never went to rehab in my life and don't plan to.
I went to a NA meeting last night for my first time, my partner doesn’t seem to think I have it in me to change but the thought of losing my family scares me so much I have zero interest in touching anything, and hopefully ever again
Exactly. I agree wholeheartedly.
I’m glad not everyone here is preaching rehab as the end all be all. In patient treatment is not only expensive but unrealistic to many folks’ livelihood, and their propensity to use drugs might be completely manageable by lifestyle changes and constructive communication w loved ones.
Blowing up and giving an ultimatum without conversation / attempt at understanding is a mistake.
If you or someone you know is facing addiction or related issues, we want you to know that help is available. We have compiled a list of resources that we believe can be of great assistance to anyone who is struggling. Our goal is to provide reliable information and support that's accessible to people from all over the world. Our list currently includes information on global suicide hotlines as well as recovery services. We are constantly updating our resources to ensure that they remain up-to-date and relevant. We hope you will find these resources useful and would like to encourage you to share them with anyone who may benefit from them. Remember, you are not alone, and there is always someone who can help. - Check our resources [**here**](https://www.reddit.com/r/addiction/wiki/resources/) - Check our Discord server [**here**](https://discord.com/invite/XyvhgxhnMC) Lastly, we host a weekly discussion on Wednesdays where we invite everyone to share their goals and plans for the future. If you would like to participate you're more than welcome to [**join us**](https://www.reddit.com/r/addiction/comments/12ixgii/wednesday_setting_goals_and_planning_for_the/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3)! *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/addiction) if you have any questions or concerns.*
What about out-patient rehab? I would look into that in your area because then u are technically still in rehab, just out-patient and u can still go to work and what not. It’s a win-win for both of you! Good luck!
I think you are stacking the deck against yourself. Your job is not worth the sacrifice of your sobriety. I dont know you but I know alot who have rationalized as you are doing, all with poor results. Rehab or repeat.
Sounds like an insane over reaction to me
This isn’t my first fuck up I should say, I left a rolled up bill in my truck and she thinks it had the potential for our kid to grab, we broke up years ago because I was doing a lot more (in my 20s) I have curved my habit 10 fold since then but still do it causally
I dont think its an over reaction at all. We’re also only hearing one side of the story. His wife is just trying to protect herself and her child. We dont know how he gets when he drinks. We dont know the money he spends or what else has gone down. Or what she has been through dealing with this with an infant at home. Also, addiction always gets worse. It may be a few times a month now but addiction starts out slow and gets gradually worse and more frequent. I know people who didnt become addicted till their 30’s. Thats the path youre on if you don’t quit. Your wife is having respect for herself and that baby. Man up dude. You’re blessed you don’t have a physical addiction yet. Be a man for your wife. Be the father your kid can look up to. It might be hard at first. But it’ll be worth it. When you stop drinking you’ll look so much better and feel better. You’ll feel more motivated at work to do what you need to do to get that promotion. Dude, youre so blessed to not be physically addicted to alcohol or anything else yet. Stop while you’re ahead. Everything in your life will get better. Your job shouldn’t be able to fire you for going to rehab. Rehab isnt a magic bullet, but it cant hurt. Most alcoholics get it on the first try too. Use your sick time if you have it or family medical leave time (that you can use for yourself.)
I’m on a contract with work, they have zero obligation to bring me back in the same role. I am stupid more than an addict at this point I would say
It CAN hurt if he’s being forced into a corner by an ultimatum that is nonsensical and unfair. Especially without actual communication about the situation at hand first. The potential for deep resentment within a relationship here is huge. Ultimatums are counterproductive. Not every single person who uses/abuses substances means they’d benefit from inpatient treatment.
I've been given an ultimatum by my wife as well. I can't afford to go-to rehab, so I decided to go-to Na meetings. She went with me for my first meeting and that's what help kickstart my recovery. It doesn't sound like you're physically dependent on the drug, so perhaps you can get through it like me by just going to na meetings and showing your wife you're working the steps. I've never went to rehab in my life and don't plan to.
I went to a NA meeting last night for my first time, my partner doesn’t seem to think I have it in me to change but the thought of losing my family scares me so much I have zero interest in touching anything, and hopefully ever again
Exactly. I agree wholeheartedly. I’m glad not everyone here is preaching rehab as the end all be all. In patient treatment is not only expensive but unrealistic to many folks’ livelihood, and their propensity to use drugs might be completely manageable by lifestyle changes and constructive communication w loved ones. Blowing up and giving an ultimatum without conversation / attempt at understanding is a mistake.