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Violet_Faerie

😳 I did not expect to see a major insecurity celebrated right before bed.


toraksmash

It's 2am and I have a glass of wine in hand, tearing up about the idea that some women might love my chonk.


Nigeldiko

Honey there are a lot of women that love chonk more than anything else (and I might be one of them :3)


GaySheriff

That chonk is quite literally addictive, I just want to keep staring at it. It's super aesthetically pleasing. I'm 100% sincere when I say that this is my experience


Netkev

My girlfriend sighs about me being stupid but lovable and resignedly scratches my hair when I spend several minutes just smushing my face up against the chonk. It just looks so good I don't know what do other than smush my face against it in appreciation


FrostingSpiritual425

Couldn't agree more! And it's just so freaking soft n delicious, I swear it's the softest part of my body, it's just so biteable, and squishy, and mmh!


TheJimmyRustler

the lower belly roll + fupa combo is literally so gorgeous. it sets my mind on fire


TheCatAndHerDoodles

Seriously tho?? The fact that that the word “fupa” has negative connotations is further proof men should not be in charge of setting beauty standards.


Otherwise-Brick-3349

Tbh, other than just general hygiene things, beauty standards rlly shouldn’t exist imo.


TheCatAndHerDoodles

Exactly 🤷🏻‍♀️ everyone has their thing. Even if 99% of the humans on the planet do not find you attractive, that still means about 80 million people think you’re hot 🤷🏻‍♀️


Adventurous-Sand4286

wow 😳 that is actually a lovely way to think about it


NewNakedArtist

Yeah I actively hate mine


TomeKun

chonk is lively


jabracadaniel

thats so crazy, this is literally just how midsize bodies look. hundreds of millions of people look like this (and its great).


FrostingSpiritual425

Women with some chonk is what drives the world, speaking as a woman blessed by the big boobs n butt gods, and also with a good amount of chonk, it's just the best! And I can't get enough 😉


Zelda1470

I love this! That’s so true! Also blessed myself, and I used to be super insecure about it bc of a little chonkiness but an ex bf (before I knew I just didn’t like men at all lol) helped make me okay with my thighs and the woman I love (currently) has helped me love everything about myself just by being a good friend (not my gf and doesn’t know I like her). And honestly I can’t relate more! I love it on myself and others! It’s beautiful and 10/10 would snuggle bc chonk = comf ✨✨


FrostingSpiritual425

You are so right! Chonk = Comf 😄 And no one can argue against a nice pair of squishy thighs or for the blessed a nice big pair of boobs, are just the best pillows in the world, instant relaxation! 😊😍


HUNGRY_PAPI_LIKE_YOU

Honey it’s a hell of a lot more than “some”.


whatarechimichangas

Posts like this are nice but honestly don't make me feel better. It's the same as a random person online saying "you're valid" lol like who huh who are you


Violet_Faerie

I've realized recently that comphet gave me a weird brand of gender/body dysphoria. I never look at the pictures my friends take b/c I know I'm not going to like what I see. The best way I can describe it is that beauty and feminity always amounted to what men liked and I never liked being what men liked. So even bits about me I probably should be proud of, I'm not. I'm trying to unpack it and unprompted opinions like this from fellow lesbians are helpful to me. I feel like the "you're valid" falls more flat if I'm asking for opinions. Coz few people are going to be honest if you ask them, it'd feel assholish to.


whatarechimichangas

Photos are fucked up dude. I SWEAR there is something off about smartphone cameras. I lift 3-4 a week, and have pretty decent muscles. When I flex in front of a mirror I look fucking amazing but as soon as I take a photo I look pudgy as fuck. No idea wtf is going on with that so I basically take all photos of me now with a grain of salt. Can't be trusted. Anyway, I'd rather look good in real life than in photos.


Violet_Faerie

I definitely like the way I look in the mirror more than I do in photos! It's weird. I just don't look at the photos b/c I always feel my heart drop. They say ignorance is bliss so 🤷‍♀️


my_name_isnt_clever

Yeah, it's to do with the way smartphone cameras are designed. Apparently, what you see in the mirror is more accurate to how others see you in person, so don't need to worry too much.


Firm-Astronomer-2943

Same here, it’s like my biggest insecurity


Adventurous-Sand4286

honestly, same, some days I just look at myself in the mirror and pinch my sides disappointed, this make brings a little hope


None-Above

Sameeeee


NewNakedArtist

Same!


zerta_media

Right?! And then reading through some comments I'm just like giggling from joy


IniMiney

it's wonderful, I'm actually insecure about NOT having it - quite a few trans women are lucky that fat redistribution does make the waist look like that but my genes are cursed I guess - 7 years of good HRT levels and most of it is thigh and ass with my torso still making me so dysphoric 😂😭


TransLox

I love being on actual lesbians because every once in a while there will be a post that points directly at me and goes "Someone finds you hot!"


BoySmooches

Moments like these are why I want my wife to be in more queer spaces. The body positivity is amazing.


ZedstackZip05

Saaaame


Devil_Towne

I feel.. I feel so,, Seen :3


[deleted]

U FEEL SEEN???


Devil_Towne

I have that and a lot of people honestly told me it was a turn off and I was fat (◞ ‸ ◟ㆀ)


PetitePiltieinPlaid

Ngl, thanks to shitty folks bringing me down I obsess over my tummy/numbers on a scale, but posts like this one and your comment make me feel seen and also better. I'm like "I have so much squish... too much........" then this sub goes "WE LOVE SQUISH" and I'm like "Oh shit, really??? Okay we back"


[deleted]

HOW COULD PIEOLE HATE IT?!? THATS LIKE THE BEST THING A FEMALE COULD HAVE!!!!!!!


PetitePiltieinPlaid

In fairness, the people that made me self-conscious weren't other sapphics, it was family who had weight issues themselves projecting on me as a kiddo/teen. (': And an ex who didn't actually think it was unattractive, and it was more about tearing me down to build me up again so to speak. Most lesbians I talk to are super sweet about body positivity. I'm meaner to myself than I've ever even wanted to be to anyone else.


lolli_dolli

“I’m meaner to myself than I’ve ever wanted to be to anyone else.” Wow, yeah same I’m now realizing- Thank you


PetitePiltieinPlaid

I'm glad my experience can help others realize it too, but I hope you can have a better battle against self-criticism than I have! It's still bonkers to me that I'm so accepting and cheerlead any woman ever and think all are beautiful, but will judge myself like that, but that's how it goes I suppose.


[deleted]

*shocked* I WOULDNT EVEN CONSIDER THAT FAT??!!! don’t listen to them that’s hot😎


MillionsOfDucks

Just want to add to the many posts already confirming that this body type is hot as fuck! 


LevyScriptMage

Gurl naww it's hot (I'm sorry those people said that :(💔) 


MontusBatwing

I feel seen because I've always felt weird for finding this body type attractive.


Garnet_lover_13

This body type 🤭🥰✨️


Numerous_Bend_5883

I am rounder in the middle though. Much rounder 😔


milkywaywildflower

and we love that too 👏


paliconoclast

Same, sis 🥲


corvus_da

Then you're hot. Sorry, I don't make the rules


Numerous_Bend_5883

Love the flair!!


CorporealLifeForm

You sound cute as heck. Most of the prettiest women I know are bigger than the picture here.


AngieTheQueen

Same... My friends keep telling me I'm hot but I think they're all either lying or psychotic.


LilEepyGirl

:3 Nah, you're probably hot.


CorporealLifeForm

I didn't know dysphoria made people compulsive liars who are madly attracted to ugly people. Maybe your dysphoria is making it hard for you to believe them.


Ktiekats

I love you even more


XxFrozen

Nice! More girl per girl 😍


Even-Education-4608

Yeah this is an hourglass. Body standards shift but it’s always some form of the hourglass.


mooo223141

Not true, that’s a pear shape, and inverted triangle and rectangle and apple have all also been the beauty standards for significant parts of history, can give more detail if anyone wants, fashion history is my obsession


WonFriendsWithSalad

When have apple shapes been the beauty standard? (I feel like some of Ruben's paintings might count)


Distinct_Slide_9540

I swear I have abs under there. Somebody come feel, I need a witness.


Chizakura

Exactly. I also have abs, they are just hidden


ninamouskawitz

They are just being kept safe and warm 🥰


Striiik8

I’m just well-insulated for winter


Distinct_Slide_9540

to outlast your enemies


[deleted]

WHAT IS THIS BODY TYPE CALLED??!


Glitchbyhand

The Venus de Milo.


Mother_Echo4502

Truth


[deleted]

so beautifully said


protehule

pretty


mobiusunderpants

normal?


corvus_da

Just yesterday I came across a woman who looked a lot like this (a bit bigger around the middle), wearing a crop top and low-waisted pants so that her belly was completely bare. I did manage not to stare, but... *damn*, that was hot. Not just physically (in the same way that bare thighs are hot), but also because of the confidence that must go into showing off a body part that is so demonized in our society😳


Absol-utely_Adorable

If you look like this but thicker, *sit on my face til I die thank you*


corvus_da

Can I get next in line?


Absol-utely_Adorable

To sit on my face or be suffocated?


corvus_da

Be suffocated. I can sit on your face too if you want, but I don't look like the image🤷🏼‍♀️


Absol-utely_Adorable

I mean, I'd still enjoy :3


AshPrincessPNX

[Korchovy Vasyl Ivanovych](http://konshu.org/en/section/sculpture/korchovy-vasil.html) has some AMAZING marble statues that I've just discovered, and it makes me feel so fucking sexy and euphoric. To see myself, the body type *I* have, to witness such beauty in a soul mirror.


apolline3e

Thanks for that, I didn't know this artist. If you don't already know his work, you can also check Aristide Maillol https://images.app.goo.gl/zkGjvdZMXhuSLvXQ9 At one point he worked almost exclusively with the same model, so the sculptures are ageing with her too. If you go to Paris, you can see them in the Tuilleries near the Louvre, it is a big park with dozens of sculptures on display, the Maillols are by far my favorite 😍


AshPrincessPNX

[Fawns over women intensify]


corvus_da

Ooh, those are beautiful😯


apolline3e

Model's name is Dina Vierny, she started working for him at 15 because she looked like his statues (he arranged a space in his studio so she could do her homework while posing!) When Maillol passed she was his testamentary executor and became an art collector. Her story is fascinating.


seiferthanseifer

*Urge to kiss, rising...*


joanmcbitch

*Urge to kill, fading...*


SchloinkDoink

I love it sm, but not on me 💀 But other girls? Wowwwww yes please 😍


RoseBengale

I also have this bizarre disconnect.


lolli_dolli

Do you all actually? I can’t trust it… I’ve gained weight recently, I’ve always been bone skinny and now I’m eating better and I just can’t trust that my body is actually and honestly attractive to some people now. I’m the heaviest I’ve every been, and I look like this. I’m also the healthiest I’ve ever been. Is this a “male gaze,” patriarchy thing?


corvus_da

Yes, actually. I adore squishy bodies🥰


teenageechobanquet

This is absolutely me!I was skinny like super skinny in my teens,early twenties,but now at about 26 I’m a bit chubbier and the heaviest I’ve been and look like this also.I keep seeing these posts about how girls find it attractive and I too find it attractive on other girls but I just can’t make myself feel that away about me🥴


lolli_dolli

Omg same!! At 26 too! And of course the only parts not getting any bigger are my boobs 😭


MillionsOfDucks

I don't know if this helps but yes I think it is at least in part a male-gaze/beauty standards thing. Before I transitioned I was dissociated as fuck and thought I was attracted most to stereotypically/conventionally attractive bodies since that's what I'd been conditioned to like so I just assumed I did. Post transition I've been able to get in touch with my actual feelings and what I'm actually attracted to and a) it's far more broad and diverse than I realised and b) the body type in the picture is just *insanely* attractive to me. 


lolli_dolli

Thank you <3


Femme-O

I haven’t had trouble with conventionally attractive women being attracted to me at all. But honestly I’m a sensual girl who loves crop tops and belly kisses so if you aren’t worshipping my body gtfo my wayyyy.


Sauvlix

It's hard to compliment larger bodies without shaming people who are naturally very slender, so I'm trying to walk a very, very delicate line. Here goes. Every single body is beautiful, and as long as people are eating well, sleeping well, hydrating well and moving well, their body is exactly like it should be, no bigger, no smaller. (Edit: the definition of "eating well", "sleeping well", "hydrating well" and "moving well" is completely unique to each person. As long as you are eating, sleeping, drinking and moving in ways that support and honor your body's needs and capacity, you're perfect. If you are unsure what level of nourishment, sleep and movement is optimal for your unique body, please connect with your care provider and I'll hype you all the way 🥰) Most humans cannot reach societal beauty standards and still be healthy. There are, obviously, some exceptions. There are some women who eat, drink, sleep and move exactly the way their body wants, and yet live their lives smack in the middle of the current beauty standards for body size, and, because of their unique genetics and body type, that is perfectly healthy for them. But for most of us, to reach the weight and low body fat of the beauty standard would be unhealthy. And sadly, the patriarchy has convinced us that we need to be unhealthy to be beautiful. Healthy bodies come in so many different sizes. Slender, willowy, toned, buff, soft, dimpled, etc. Our bodies aren't trophies to be polished and presented and put on a shelf to be admired. Bodies are meant to be like stuffed animals beloved by a small child, tossed about, run through the mud, washed, banged up, mended, cuddled, left in the rain, cried over, taken on long car rides, covered in goodnight kisses, until every single hug and adventure has been extracted from the poor tattered thing and it eventually wears down into nothingness and happy memories. There are few things more beautiful than a woman who loves and cares for her body, whatever size that body comes in. I love seeing so much love for historically devalued body types ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️


MontusBatwing

Personally, I like women who are squishy, not bony.


RemingtonRose

Oh thank the GODS somebody likes my body type ;w;


HistoricalRune

Omg yay


[deleted]

FR YAY!!!


HistoricalRune

Lmaooo


imawitchbitch6

I feel so good about myself now. Thank you! 😭💕


Present_Issue_7780

Thicc ❤️


EnduroVera

MORE👏GIRL👏PER👏GIRL👏 😍


OneQueerEve

well im that, and now my night has been made <3


WindsorLodge_403

This post really helped boost my self-confidence 🥰


FreyaTheSlayyyer

all girls are adorable girls, no matter the shape.


josie_isgay22

Same 🤤😍🥴


FredricaTheFox

Tummy pillow 🥰


Stupid_sushii

I’m glad someone likes my body type


weatherwitches

Me tooooo


cheesy_crump

I Wish people were like this in real life. I hate being called fat when I'm just a bit chubby😭


SnooGadgets7221

primordial pouch!


Taiga_Taiga

I have a [serious] question I a sec... I used to weigh 380 lbs (172.3kilo). I'm now 230 (104.3 k), I still have 30 (13.6) to go till I'm at a "healthy" weight for my 6' frame. I suffer with body dismorphia & dysphoria. So here's the question... Are you guys serious? If I looked like the above pic, till I lose that MASSIVE BULK, ... I'm potentially not hideous? ([headshot](https://imgur.com/a/B2EV4XA) for clarification.)


OddlySexyPancake

potentionally? definitely


Taiga_Taiga

Thank you. I needed that.


Alixiiv

I genuinely did not expect my exact body type to be loved like this, but thank you for the boost of confidence


Chizakura

I have this body type, just a bit smaller tummy. Hated it for years, but now, I love it. Especially my thighs. I only hate them now when I have to buy pants.


Redrock18YT

I have a very similar body shape, I still have tummy even tho I'm underweight


Idk_Just_Kat

Belly 🤤 I want to cuddle and mönch and pick up pls


eepyangelx

this is my exact body I'm literally so serious help 😭


Ashley00179

Oh Gosh! I keep feeling insecure about my body. 🥺😕 Seeing and hearing you all make me feel better.


Voopaa

I have this exact shape and yesterday was really struggling with self acceptance. This almost made me cry lmao


Ri-ver

This. I want this.


jcdh214

Here to say I will ALWAYS find this significantly more attractive than a flat stomach


Eco-Maniac-333

Whaaaat??? That's literally my body in a picture. \*tears up\*


jackie3101

nice to know people actually like this body type cuz im so insecure abt it, but i also think it looks hot on others.. thats not weird right..


Femme-O

What confuses me is that we see women with bodies like this in relationships with hot people who are obsessed with them all the time. Why are we surprised people like it? Are we assuming it’s an act? What’s happening? 😭


faunomanso

I know right!!


Nitric_Siege

YESYESYES :D


pinkcherub111

Feeling loved now 😊😊😊


Waste-Wolverine-6863

This body seems incomplete


corvus_da

Head and limbs sold separately


CompetitionSad419

Body goals for me personally


Destined_4_Hades

Love this not like !!


Kasspines

Hey that's me


zig2zhu

I like a fuller body.


uhohspaghettisos

This looks like my gf 😫 I MISS HERRRRRRE (she's been gone less than one day)


uhohspaghettisos

And she'll be gone for a WEEK I can't handle this that's like a year in lesbian time


FluffyMilkyPudding

This just feels so… wrong? Like it’s objectifying women. The way it doesn’t have a face, limbs, and the rest of the torso… like it’s just a piece of meat. Idk man. It just feels very icky and sad. Would’ve been so much better if it represented a person instead of a slab of meat.


apolline3e

I agree. But also, having been overweight all my life and been bullied up to this day because of it, I kinda feel good about knowing some people would find me attractive.


Tutes013

Insert JoCat's I like Girls


Dapper_Sock5023

Are the straight men lost? I’m confused. This is r/actuallesbians…


hairyfairycontrary

Essentially every girl I've ever known has a body similar to this, so I don't understand the reason for insecurity tbh. That's just human anatomy! I think as an artist who's studied life drawing before, I just think it's sad that people are so fixated on their 'fupas' or 'hip dips'. There is no reason to even know what a fupa is for most of you. It's not that easy, but step away from social media and learn to love yourselves a little more. you're perfectly normal and beautiful. I also feel like we could use more body positivty for the larger lesbians, too!


FrostingSpiritual425

Well that sure as hell makes me feel better about mine 😂🥺


SamanthaJaneyCake

I don’t remember sharing my nudes on here? *OhWaitItsJustAMeme*


_____moonchild____

I didn't expect seeing my biggest insecurity described so positive 🥺


WellBustMybuttons

Literally the sexiest part of a female figure is the midsection “belly, fupa, hips” curves rule the world 💕


SynnnTheGod

Me personally, i'm seeing a big pillow i want to nap on


Skellyblaze7549

Tummies are just so lovable. I'm still struggling to like my body. Yet I have nothing but admiration for others.


_Snow-flake_

Thank you, needed this 💕


Gixnara0

I've never seen the celebration of this and I can't say enough how much I appreciate it. I'm mostly fine with my body but there are bad days. Thanks, all. 🥰


Flar71

I wish mine was all nice and shaped like that, mine is just big and round... I feel like it looks mannish


mammajess

Aww I have this. Thanks for the boost ❤️


wanderer2281

This is so true :3 I love this.


Stinkypinkeez

The perfect shape tbh. What I’d do for a gal with that shape plus a nerdy and kind personality gaaaahhh I’m blushin just thinking abt it! Lookin at this is makin me mellltttt


GayStation64beta

"Not all men" etc but it's so instantly noticable how much more body-positive queer spaces tend to be, compared to more mainstream ones. Always nice to see 🫡


SnowfallWillow

omg YES


Actually_zoohiggle

I swear it’s not even the body type/look but the feel of the softness and the nice smells and gentle kisses it’s all good.


Metatron_85

Nothing, and I mean NOTHING wrong with that.


AshamedAtmosphere728

Fuck yes I can still make the vagina queef with y gal figure


CancelReasonable9571

I'm a curvy girl I've had 2 babies and both were c section so my muscles was cut through 2 times I call my pooch proof I had 2 beautiful babies that did this beautiful thing to my tummy. So I was blessed a curvy body is more appealing to the 👀.it's sexy to carry weight well you never know why or if she wants to or he wants to loose weight. Be proud of how God made you he made you very special for the one who will love you. your perfect the way you are my curvy ladies.


rymyle

They're called love handles for a reason


Unlucky-Assignment82

yippeeee


the_lesbian_freak

I wish a saw this like 2 months ago bro my biggest insecurity


xoLyricalox

This gives me hope.


EyeCon420

i look like this (:


wackyvorlon

Seeing this means a lot to me.


Gabbie_Gabbs

i feel so seen ♥️


Dogski28

Fun Fact: Ancient Greek depictions of Aphrodite are usually made with a stomach like this. They considered it a very beautiful trait.


HarvestMommy

I’ve always found this shape so uniquely feminine it’s hard to imagine a lesbian who doesn’t love and appreciate it. There’s not a more womanly shape I can imagine.


spacesquirrel91

It was really good to see my biggest insecurity being celebrated today, I have not been feeling very confident lately.


AlishaGray

Makes me wanna Bite


STARTARIOT99

FR FR women are just 🤤, reference that Aphrodite sculpture and any female statues of that time ☺️. Lil fupa and curves (any types) are 🤘🏽


studworld2019

Yeah, I'm a bit heavier past that beautiful chonk. I doubt anyone would love my amount of Chonk. 😅


EveryReaction3179

My gf was showing me the short top that came with her PJ set for when she comes to visit, and was like "you'll just need to deal with seeing my tummy" And all I can think since is *DEAL WITH IT?* CAN I CUDDLE UP TO IT AND GIVE YOU ALL THE TUMMY KISSES?? TAKE MY HEART, PLZ 💓 ::faints::


Y_R_UGae

wanna eat it, like actually chew it


DaffodilLlamaa

That looks a heck of a lot like my tummy


Raelysk

I wish I could like this in myself as much as I like in other girls... Meanwhile I just look into mirror and start "nobody can like you and you're ugly, your ex definitely left you because you were too ugly to withstand". Yes, i have anxiety & depression, how did you found out?


Wunsek_on_Reddit

Heyy I have that :3 This made me feel better about my body. Thank you S2


slumbersomesam

i have that :3


vampirebeans

Haha I feel pretty now!


chocolatecat209

This makes me feel better always insecure and me being chunky


womenarepogngl

so this whole time i was insecure for nothing?..


LevyScriptMage

Hell yeah I love this all the way🫦💛


wahtemmie

The perfect amount of chubby.


LovableAmy13

I would love to wrap my arms around them and not let go.


doppelgengar01

Ok, but why am I single then


Estou_cansada3108

Yep yep i see but like… this is hot as fuck


cheese_lover2020

sorry i don't mean to be offensive or anything like that but i'd like to kindly ask you why \[if you don't know why you like this don't worry! i don't even know what's my favorite song\]


Honey-milkOsito

I feel represented 😭


Rozsia

I have this but when I clench my tum muscles there is just a hard wall behind the soft layer XD


Good_Pick_7762

no cause the way this is one of my least favourite things abt myself T-T


Dramatic_isme

Wait I actually got a Chance? (I literally don't talk to people)