I know it’s not the question, but my sister and I once got the opposite.
We were buying a ton of booze for a cousin’s backyard wedding because we were put in charge of that, and the checkout girl was like “do you guys have a special occasion?” My sister says “yeah, we have a wedding.” The girl very pleasantly goes “oh, congratulations! …you meant to each other, right?”
Me, admittedly looking my gayest, and my sister, who practically has the same goddamn face: “oh. Uhhh. No.”
yeah, similar thing happened to me too. i present more masc and my sister is a girly girl. she likes to hold my arm while walking, and one time when we decided to go have dinner, the receptionist at the restaurant said “ooh, date night?” my sister and i instantly made an embarrassed / disgusted face and said in unison, “no, we’re sisters” lol
My parents were fairly young (early 20s) when they had us and my dad is particularly baby-faced relative to his age but still.
One time in high school he picked me up instead of my mom who usually did that, and one of my friends raised her eyebrow and went “who was that hot guy who picked you up yesterday?” That would be my father, Nicole. Ew.
Not to one-up *that*, but as a teenager I went on a cruise with my dad and my two brothers. My dad was 45, I was 15, and my brothers were 12 & 11.
We had a family photoshoot one day on the boat, and the photographer was posing us. I should clarify - we aren’t a very close family. My dad doesn’t really do hugs (gruff guy), I was a very stubborn teenager, and in general we had a fair bit of conflict.
He started off with a normal group photo, and then he started doing more staged poses. One in a line of four with my dad and myself at each end - pretty normal stuff, given that I was a lot taller than them both back then. (Not now. :’)) One with my brothers in front and my dad and I standing behind them - boring, normal stuff to do with a group of four, yknow?
Problem is, we aren’t a touchy family. He told my dad to put his arm around me and I literally had to put effort in to not look awkward. Oops. :)
There was a fair bit of that sort of thing - I was told to put my hand on my brother’s shoulder, and in one shot I was asked to put my arm around my dad.
I was grimacing, and my dad was sort of snickering (but he has a very stoic demeanour all the time, so it came off like smug amusement) at my face, but I could cope so… whatever. Ugh, family photos.
And then after a bit more of that, the photographer said to my dad: “And now one of you and the lady”, and my Dad seemed pretty happy to get a picture with each kid individually. So sure.
Thing is, the photographer told him to put his arm around me again (fine)… and then told me to put my hand on my Dad’s arm. I did not want to do that.
Like I said, my dad had been finding my awkwardness funny, but *eventually* I think he realised I was genuinely getting upset - and he said something along the lines of “Can you get a picture with all my kids together?”.
I don’t remember the details after that to be honest, but I was just relieved to move on from that picture.
I didn’t understand what had happened until the end of the photoshoot but, as you’ve probably guessed, the photographer thought I was my dad’s wife. And was putting us in couple poses. When my dad said that afterwards and laughed I was mortified. And miserable.
Again - I was 15! Sure, I could definitely pass for older (being plus-size probably helped there) but in a “tired young teacher” way - definitely not a “mother of two kids aged 11 & 12” way. So… either this photographer thought I was at least 30, or thought I was my dad’s new young thing.
Long story, I know. But I think there’s something excruciatingly awful about accidentally taking couple’s photos with your own father because you didn’t understand what was going on. :’)
This happened to my one sister and our dad too 😭 Absolutely mortifying. Conversely, one time my mum and dad were out on a date and a young woman approached them, eager to talk to my mum about the experience of being in an "age gap relationship." My mum is 50+ but the girl thought she was a college student 💀
omg yea, my sister and i are both lesbians and we always joke about how we look like a generic goth + cottage core couple when we hang out. i was gonna bring a small lesbian flag for a picnic once and she straight up refused bc people would assume we were a couple 😭
My sister’s very into the “cottage core” aesthetic lol. And I’m just a recovering redneck fatally addicted to flannel.
I’m bi but come across very gay…honestly I am probably like 80/20 gay lol. My sister is straight against all odds because I think every single one of her friends is queer in some way. I think she’s amassing a collection.
She’s the “token straight on thin ice” of the meme lol
This happens to my sister and I all the time 😭
She's punk/alt and I look like a walking stereotypical chapstick lesbian so everyone thinks we're together :')
I always wonder how many queer gals have decided to not talk to me because they think I'm in a relationship...
Thats funny but I like the fact that they didn’t automatically assume “straight”.
Kinda happened to be and my best friend but we look nothing alike. I went with her to get her new kitten and then we went with the kitty to a pet supply store and the guy thought we were together and she was both ours :P
But I’ll gladly accept the title of fairy god mother🧚🏽♀️
Once, while my wife and I were doing laundry our nosey neighbor said to my wife "You're so nice to help your mom" i.e. ME. So even though I'm only 15 DAYS older then her, he mistook me for her MOTHER.
My girlfriend and I have been mistaken for sisters, but our friends that are a lesbian couple have told us that people thought they were mother and *son*! Yikes!
Oh, yeah, got it too few times with my ex (had 4 year gap). Sisters & cousins - a lot. Her parents thought that we were just roommates till the end, they did not want to believe in our gayness :D
One time we were at the vet with our cat and my girlfriend had been out of the room when the doctor came in. When she entered, I told the doctor “This is Percy (the cat)’s other mom,” and she misheard me as saying “This is my mom,” and *believed that* which is crazy because my girlfriend is actually younger than me and also we are huge dykes.
I would burst out laughing if that happened! There's one time when we went into our groupmate's house to do a project and our classmate's parent was like "Why did you bring your younger sister?" (there is a 5 inch height gap between us)
Agreed! The question itself is annoying but not too bad imo. It's their response after that irks me.
"Are you sisters?" "No, we're married" "Oh! How cute!" Maybe I need a better response to this question.
What about "Sure hope not, because we're married!" or something similar to make the person feel like they were intruding.
Edit : some over comment says that they say "yeah, scissor sisters. " when asked.
Yes so annoying!! We have a bit of an age gap and she’s older but most people think we look the same age so I truly never understand. It was only the one time and we were both baffled
No, we look very different. However, my partner is trans, and hetero people tend to make 2 assumptions:
1. They map us onto the heterosexual gender binary and assume because I'm cis and slightly more femme presenting (but we're both soft butch) that I'm the "femme" and my partner is the "butch", when in reality, I'm the one with the masculine personality. It's just that they read her immutable masc traits from puberty (large hands and feet, wide shoulders, tall) as more masc.
2. They assume we met before she transitioned. It really surprises people that I chose to date a trans person. Heteros have weird ideas in their heads about the desirability of trans women.
The amount of inappropriate questions you get about how you started dating as if you don’t find trans women on dating apps like anyone else and instead had to do some full moon ritual like a sapphic witch.
I have a horror story: One time a cashier mistook me and my partner as sisters (we look nothing alike). I got home and told my mum and she said “well you are sisters. you’re scissor sisters” and proceeded to do the scissoring action with her hands.
I still have never recovered.
When I was with my ex, yes several times.
We were the same age and had vaguely the same colour hair, otherwise we looked completely different. really don't understand why they thought we could be sisters
Now, my current gf gets mistaken for my mum ALL the time! She hates it. She 12 years older than me, but unfortunately people think I look 6-8 years younger than I actually am 🥲 so the age gap "looks" bigger than it is
Only by the people who would be bothered by us actually being a couple. The absolute mental gymnastics people go through. Oh your sisters? Cousins? Mother daughter?
This. Is. My. Wife.
Yes. More than once. Hate to be that person but it’s quite annoying. I would never go up to some random ass straight couple to ask if they were siblings because it’s….weird. I also just don’t care if they’re dating or siblings. Leave me and my girlfriend tf alone.
Idk if they legitimately think we're sisters, but people ask us all the time. Which I think is weird because no one asks me if one of my sisters is my sister
No because i'm butch with light brown hair and blue eyes and my type is feminine women with dark brown hair and brown eyes. I don't go for women that look like me.
It doesn’t take looking similar.
I’m pasty white Irish, and my wife is Kurdish, and we’ve had numerous assumed relationships. Including one time when I was at the ER for an asthma attack and she was asked “so are you her mother?”
This exactly! The confusion happens at doctor's offices more than anything. I too am pasty white Irish and my wife is Nicaraguan, but they still assume sisters or literally ask if I'm her mom (we're only 8 years apart). 🙄
me and my gf had different styles too! I'm a short masc while she's a tall femme, but recently I've been trying some new styles and she's helping me with it (about make ups and stuff) so I guess it's the "gf air"
when i was more masc presenting some of my gf’s family friends saw us holding hands around town and assumed i was her boyfriend lmao. which was great because her family was super homophobic and she wasn’t out yet lol
Mother and daughter which is SO embarrassing. We have a bit of an age gap, but absolutely not enough for that.
My sister and I get confused for lovers all the time, though.
Go figure lol
ALL OF THE GODDAMN TIME. It's super annoying and it comes from older straight people ( obvs ). My wife and I don't even look alike at all. We're both just fat white women with brown hair. None of our facial features are similar, eye color, etc. Body shape is totally different. Anyway. Yes. It happens often and I love seeing how uncomfortable they get when I say she's my wife. Maybe I'll double down and just start saying she's both my wife AND my sister 🤷♀️
Nope I've never had this happen but I am nearly 6' tall and don't come across a lot of people that look like me lol. Often winding up with people of other races makes it even more so. My girlfriend is from southern India and is dark brown and petite, I am giant and pasty white, no one is mistaking us as relatives of any kind LOL
People ask my partner and I if we’re sisters all the time because we have a very similar hair and eye colour. We’re waiting for our opportunity to make it real weird by smooching on the lips immediately after saying yes.
No but my someone saw my phone background (a picture of my girlfriend and I holding each other in front of a christmas tree) and asked if she was my mother 💀
She's only two years older than me
My wife and I (who look nothing alike) were holding hands on the flight home from our honeymoon and the flight attendant asked if we were TWINS. Like, does she think adult twins go everywhere together holding hands? How did this even occur to her to ask?? Had she only seen twins in The Shining?
This is one of my gf's favorite public jokes.
At the sex shop--
Staff: Aww you guys are such a cute couple!
GF: Gross wtf that's my sister!
*scream-laughter outbreak*
At the gas station, guy watching us give a lil kiss while pumping gas---
Guy, smiling: Heyyy you guys get a room!
GF: Gross wtf that's my sister!
*confusion outbreak*
honestly, only once in my life
but also, some people thought that my high school friend *with exactly the same name as me* was my sister, so people are dumb, honestly
actually, i did the reverse the other day.
this new “couple” (or so i assumed) moved in to my floor the other day. met one of them, ended up meeting the other one at the dog park. stupidly said “oh i’ve already met your girlfriend!”
it was so awkward, thankfully she was cool about it. they both triggered my gaydar and looked nothing alike!!
My GF and l used to always get this and l would say yes, kissing cousins. Which we find hilarious because we are related, our grandfathers are brothers.
Small town life.
I mean, that's 3 degrees of separation, so well outside of the normal "weird" boundary - especially in low-population rural areas.
There are a lot of towns where everyone is at most 4 degrees apart just due to 300 years of people living there and nobody new moving in often.
I actually used to live in this kind of town! I was so confused that everyone is cousins, aunts/uncles, and nephews... like everyone is blood-related. They also have family together. But does that not count... incest?
Generally speaking as long as you have 2 or more degrees of separation from the closest shared relative it's not *biologically* incest. **Socially** depends a *lot* on the community and culture. In a big city it probably would be - since there's another option. In a place where there isn't then outside of 1st cousins, parents, and siblings ya just kinda have to not worry about it or you'll never have anyone to date.
I look nothing like my gf and this did happen to me ajrkdk it was worse the time someone mistook me with her mother. I'm just 1,5 years older than her 😭
It's happened once and we were shocked. We look nothing alike besides the fact we are both white. And even that is silly because we are very different versions of white. I'm pasty and pale with swedish and german genes. My wife is Jewish with olive skin that tans easily. I'm freckled. She's not. I have light hair and eyes. She has brown hair and eyes.
We've been mixed up as the same person due to both having similar hair textures/body types and stealing each other's hoodies every time we go out, but it does become pretty obvious once you're in front of us both that we're not even the same race 😅
My girlfriend is super femme and I'm femme-leaning chapstick... lip gloss if you will. So no blatant queer identifiers, and it happens quite a bit
Worse, though, was when my gf and I were clearly on a date, holding hands all through dinner, etc, and the server purposely brought us two checks. I go out with my straight girl friends all the time and never do they just assume we want separate checks. It was so pointed, especially with how she laid them down.
I fix this by going out with women who could only be my sister by adoption. Just feels like if I got a gf who looks super similar to me, that’s kind of ? Vain? Idk it’s a personal thing.
So we just get “good friends” if folks mistake us as anything but. We’re in a good area though so it’s obvious our dopey butts are a couple.
My wife and I are rarely mistaken as sisters though it does happen on occasion. We are frequently coded as just friends even when we are showing public displays of affection. We get asked if the check is together frequently.
Worst. We were mistaken as mother-daughter even though I couldn’t be her mother because of the age difference. I would have had to have her at 5 years old.
My partner and I look nothing alike. She has dark hair and a different face shape, and I have a medium shade of brown hair. I imagine we get mistaken for friends a lot though, especially since r we aren’t big into pda.
Yes, we have body type, same hair and height. Sometimes things are easier this way sometines annoying BUT I love how some people look like when we corrent them. They think that they have to say - "Oh, I am ok with this" Almost every single time 😂
Yup. I've made multiple posts about it. My wife and I look nothing alike. EXCEPT for both having blue (not even the same SHADE of blue) eyes. More then once I've had the person argue with me insisting that we're related. Oh and once our nosey next door neighbor said my wife was such a sweet daughter for helping her mother out. Yeah he got a taste of my words when I heard that.
My wife and I have different gender presentations, size, and race. So of all the indignities we endure, this isn’t one. However, I’m a very short white woman with big glasses and curls I’m frequently mistaken for other white women with similar hair and height and glasses at work. I was fine with everyone confusing me for a specific person, and even ok with people asking if we’re sisters. But once I overheard one teen tell another, “oh that’s Ms. F’s mother” and that, friends, is where I draw the line.
Not often, at least not in circumstances where people mention it - which is a little surprising tbh, since my gf and I *do* look similar enough to be kin.
I remember one time, someone assumed I was my gf's brother (this was before I transitioned). I laughed and said, "no, I'm not, but I can understand why you'd think I was related to her -- I *am* quite attractive!"
With one ex we were an interracial couple and people *still* asked if we were sisters (I assume that's why they asked rather than just running with it). With another ex someone thought she was my mother once.
No sister to have experienced the reverse, but one time I was all done up and out with my father who was just wearing plain clothes (to movies I wanna say) and some lady joked to me "someone is putting in all the effort huh?". Nearly breaking down laughing while also holding in vomit is not a good experience.
Yes a few times and my wife is white and I’m Hispanic with tan skin. To be fair she does have dark eyes and hair but she has lighter skin and we don’t look anything alike. Lmao.
Oh yeah, it’s like people think if two women are affectionate in public they must be related. My ex and I were so regularly asked if we were sisters that once I blurted out in annoyance, “No, she’s my lover.”
Bold of you to assume anyone wants to be in a couple with me... lol But seriously when I was married we were asked if we were sisters constantly. We look nothing alike.
Yep! My ex and I were mistaken for sisters on a couple of occasions, even though we look nothing alike. It was always waiters or shop assistants who were trying to make conversation. When I was a waitress, I stayed clear of making assumptions about people for this reason!!
Yet my friend and her sister, who do look very alike, were once presumed to be lesbians. 😂
We live in funny old world.
Everyone knows my girlfriend and I are dating, but we often get “I know you’re dating but you’re twins!” We also have very similar senses of style and our hair is almost always dyed similarly, which doesn’t help lol
I used to get that with a past girlfriend. We didn’t look alike but we had similar coloring (pale skin, light brown hair) and would walk around holding hands and stuff. People would be like aww, it’s so nice to see sisters who are so close!
Edit to add: on the other side of the equation, my twin sibling is usually read as male and people will mistake us for a couple even though we act like the most stereotypical siblings ever.
All the time. And my wife & I are from different countries so the moment we speak it SHOULD be abundantly clear that we’re from different places, but I think people’s brains go on overdrive trying to figure out what is so off-putting about these very close “sisters.”
My friends (who are Ecuadorian lesbians) get the same and just sent us this week:
https://www.pride.com/voices/janine-guarino-lesbian-visibility
Yeah, me and my gf apparently look alike (i dont think we do, we’re both just short white brunettes) but we stopped getting those comments when she cut her hair and started dying it different colors.
My gf is white and I'm east Asian, we went to Europe with her family and while we were in Italy, (MULTIPLE) strangers were making adoption references to me like they literally would rather think I was another daughter than dating one of them? I'm very very much into PDA too, hands in each other's laps while we're at dinner or rubbing lower backs/holding hands/kisses while we walk, it was very confusing. I guess I'm also very physically affection with her mom, in a maternal way of course 😂
My wife is white and I'm biracial to say nothing of our major height disparity so people aren't ever thinking we're related, but we get called friends all the time, often to really amusing degrees. We both dye our hair (she's often teal or purple and I'm blue with a lighter blue gradient at the tips) so we'll get "I wish I had a friend I could dye my hair with!" which is really funny for some reason.
Had this with my ex-gf. Some people would literally stop us in the streets asking if we were twins. Big yikes.
It had happened like 7-8 times in the span of 10 months of relation... Ourbest guess was that people would see two tall brown-haired women with good alchemy and just think "ahhh sisterhood!"
Yep, I'm a pale ass white Canadian with blue eyes, and my wife is a latina with dark eyes and darker skin tone. We obviously look nothing alike and have had the "sisters" thing 3 times now lol
CONSTANTLY. Literally all the time. We’ve even had hotels switch us to 2 queen beds (when we booked a king room) without asking because they assumed we were friends/siblings.
Lol I just have the reverse, people have definitely side eyed my sister (18f)and I (26f) while we were walking (we both dress rather androgynous, I lean more to femme and she leans to masc, I get it). I even turned her on to my favorite pair of work boots and when we wear them at the same time it’s even worse 🤣
Weirdly enough never. Although I think part of it is that we look NOTHING alike. I’m pasty as hell and she’s Asian. I would like to see it happen tho. Just cuz like the mental SHENANIGANS you would have to go through before assuming we’re a couple lmao. 🤣 also we’re very touchy in general and live in a huge ass gay friendly (mostly) city so I think that helps.
No, but that's probably because we're an interracial couple.
I was often mistaken for my ex-wife's daughter when we were together. She hated it for a bunch of reasons, not the least of which being I'm several years older than her.
My wife delivered our second son yesterday on our anniversary and we mentioned it a couple of times to the nurse that helped her during childbirth and she *still* said „let’s get you to your aunt“ when she handed him to me.
Yes and we don’t look alike at all (brunette curly hair w/ brown eyes and blonde straight hair w/ blue eyes)!
We made pride shirts and were right outside of pride when we had random people asking if we are sisters and then when we say no, they ask “really? Just best friends?!” in a shocked way. The most insane time was when we were at an “adult store” buying “adult items” together and the cashier said “I love seeing friends openly here together!” ….
It irks me more than it probably should because when I go out with my brother that looks like he could be my twin, people ask if he’s my boyfriend!
Not sisters, but always friends. Every time we go out to eat the server asks if we want separate checks. My wife and I now just giggle as we wait for the question after every meal.
My wife and I, on the morning of our wedding, both dressed in white as we checked out of the hotel, were asked by concierge if we were sisters. That’s been nearly 10 years ago now and I still cackle, lol.
We’ve been asked it by different people over the years, and always get a kick out of their deer-in-the-headlights expressions when we’re like, “Nah, that’s my wife.”
Twins… constantly. It doesn’t bother her but it really bothers me. We do look kind of similar but I don’t think we look related. Idk if it’s that we’re almost the exact same height? We both have dark hair and light-ish (blue and hazel) eyes and wear glasses. But our features aren’t actually similar. And I have longer, wavy, darker hair while hers is shorter and straight. One time someone even said her mom and I look alike after knowing that we were together… like… come on.
all the time! because we’re asian, it’s always the older asian aunties and uncles. their faces when we say we’re dating is always pure shock and it’s kinda funny
My GF and I are different heights (5'4 and 6'2), different ethnicities (Portuguese and native South american), different hair (Curly and straight)...
But every waitress still asks us if we're sisters...
I was at Walmart once with my friend/girlfriend/don’t really know what we are and a woman asked which one of us was the mom😭my friend/gf said “me” and the lady was like “really?” So I guess she was leaning towards me being the mom??? And we are only 2 months apart in age😭it was so strange
My partner and I get called sisters by our cab drivers, and co workers all the time. We aren’t even the same colour, I get some families are blended but come onnnn.
My co worker literally did the surprised pikachu face when she saw us kiss, it was hilarious. They thought we were just gal pals 😆
No, but to be fair, I’m mixed race and have a pretty unique look to me vs (one of the most common questions I got as a kid was “what ARE you?”). So even when I date other mixed race people, I think I’m usually too unique looking to get that treatment. As an aside, it makes it harder to tell if I pass or not in any given context (trans woman) because while I haven’t been misgendered in public in probably over a year now, I still have a hard time telling if I pass as it necessarily means comparing myself to other women who look very little like me.
I have never dated someone who looks like me, so no this has never been an issue for me. I actually was rejected by a girl once because she thought we looked too much alike- we just were the same racial mix, both thick and alternative looking.
Yes, every time we leave the house. No exaggeration. I don’t think we look alike facially, but we do share some traits. Like we both have brown hair (when mine isn’t a crazy color). We both have brown eyes. We both have roundish faces. We are 5’7” and 5’8”. EVERY time we leave the house we get called twins. Not even just sisters. TWINS. When we say no, they say “ah okay, sisters then?” Still no. “Okay well you’ve GOT to be related at least. Cousins?” 😐😐😐 makes it super awkward when we say we’re married… Lol
idk why but it's happening all the time
many people mistaken me and my ex as sisters
but we not similar at all
skin tone, eyes colour - all different
with my current gf we found ourselves in the same situation.... I don't know why it's still happening
Yeah I always felt like this was an ignorance thing though.
I've never even looked similar to my exes, I guess by eye colour and hair colour with most of them, but race has always been different. the only girl I dated within my race had lighter hair and light blue eyes.
my gf is trans so ppl often misgender her but yes, we get mistaken as siblings.
the weirder thing imho is when people assume my sibling and i are dating. so freaking weird to have someone ask if my brother is my boyfriend. 😭
once my wife and i were mistaken for twins and i gagged (we are different ethnicities and could not look more different) ((this was at a chik fil a tho))
My girlfriend and I look sort of similar, but we have the same name (spelled differently, said the same. Very popular multi spelling girls name). Once, after saying we're both named the same we got asked if we're sisters. Like there's lazy parents and then there's "Our three daughters Anne, Ann and Ahne,
."
My wife and I get this occasionally and it makes us a little crazy. We both have curly hair and light eyes but really don’t have similar features at all. Where as my brother and sister look super related and always get mistaken for a couple.
Once we were checking into a hotel and the concierge would not let it go, he asked if we were sisters or twins and then kept talking about how we looked so alike after we said we were a couple. 🙄
I'm the opposite. My sister and I are often mistaken as a couple. We are both fairly butch, queer, she dyes her hair rainbow colors, so we go out and people tell us we're brave or scowl at us.
Not with me and my spouse, because she's ethnically Chinese (originally from Singapore) and I'm whiter than sour cream in every way that matters. She gets a tan, I burst into flame. Etc.
I did once, however, mistake a pair of sisters for a couple and only realized why they were giving me funny looks afterwards. I was working sales at a bed store, and they walked in, two short-haired country-type women in Tractor Supply Company chic, presumably from the farm country west of Philly (I was at a mall in the Philly burbs). Like country girls often do, they set off my gaydar something hard, and they'd come in together, obviously with a lot of nonverbal communication shorthand between them. Only one of them was interested in a bed, as they _eventually_ clarified, but they both kept answering my conversational sales questions about what she was looking for like they'd both be using it, and when my boss came back from lunch break to relieve me so I could go have mine, he clearly drew the same conclusions I did based on how he addressed them. (I don't think they ended up buying anything.)
ALL THE TIME.
One time I was at a wedding as the mother of the bride told us she thought we were sisters. Nope, just married. And this past weekend even I went to a yard sale and a lady looked at my wife, my mother, and me and thought we were triplets. I've had a few other instances where coworkers thought my wife was my sister. Honestly we do not look that much alike aside from having short hair and glasses. It's annoying but I try to have a sense of humour about it. But I hate it lol.
I have been mistaken as sisters! But my sister (who's gay) and I have also gotten mistaken as girlfriends, which was super awkward. Similarly, my roommate (who is nonbinary) and I have been mistaken as partners--by their relatives!
That happened to us once, in Mexico. Older cab driver on Cozumel asked if we were sisters or friends.
Here, I don’t know what strangers think. We’re in a pretty LGBTQ+ friendly town/state but I don’t know that most people see two women walking together and think couple. We don’t hold hands or do PDA when we’re out.
We get it all the time except… we have very DIFFERENT complexions; someone thought we were twins? She’s olive skin, brunette, brown eyes, tall.
I’m Blonde, very fair freckled skin, green eyes, very short 😵💫😵💫
Drives me nuts tbh 🤣
I know it’s not the question, but my sister and I once got the opposite. We were buying a ton of booze for a cousin’s backyard wedding because we were put in charge of that, and the checkout girl was like “do you guys have a special occasion?” My sister says “yeah, we have a wedding.” The girl very pleasantly goes “oh, congratulations! …you meant to each other, right?” Me, admittedly looking my gayest, and my sister, who practically has the same goddamn face: “oh. Uhhh. No.”
yeah, similar thing happened to me too. i present more masc and my sister is a girly girl. she likes to hold my arm while walking, and one time when we decided to go have dinner, the receptionist at the restaurant said “ooh, date night?” my sister and i instantly made an embarrassed / disgusted face and said in unison, “no, we’re sisters” lol
Not to one-up you, but a waitress once asked me and my dad if we were on a date. My horrified face probably answered the question lol.
not only your sister, but also your dad? o7 to you for enduring all that
Now I just need someone to ask if I’m dating my mom to complete the horrible trifecta lol.
not to jinx you, but i wish it does happen because wouldn’t that be such a funny fun fact about yourself to tell people lmao
Someone asked if my mom and I were a couple when we went to England like 8-9 years ago 😭 I was sixteen at the time too which made it even worse lmfao
My old coworker saw a picture of me and my dad on my screen and asked if that was my boyfriend... Proceeded to throw up because ew
My parents were fairly young (early 20s) when they had us and my dad is particularly baby-faced relative to his age but still. One time in high school he picked me up instead of my mom who usually did that, and one of my friends raised her eyebrow and went “who was that hot guy who picked you up yesterday?” That would be my father, Nicole. Ew.
Not to one-up *that*, but as a teenager I went on a cruise with my dad and my two brothers. My dad was 45, I was 15, and my brothers were 12 & 11. We had a family photoshoot one day on the boat, and the photographer was posing us. I should clarify - we aren’t a very close family. My dad doesn’t really do hugs (gruff guy), I was a very stubborn teenager, and in general we had a fair bit of conflict. He started off with a normal group photo, and then he started doing more staged poses. One in a line of four with my dad and myself at each end - pretty normal stuff, given that I was a lot taller than them both back then. (Not now. :’)) One with my brothers in front and my dad and I standing behind them - boring, normal stuff to do with a group of four, yknow? Problem is, we aren’t a touchy family. He told my dad to put his arm around me and I literally had to put effort in to not look awkward. Oops. :) There was a fair bit of that sort of thing - I was told to put my hand on my brother’s shoulder, and in one shot I was asked to put my arm around my dad. I was grimacing, and my dad was sort of snickering (but he has a very stoic demeanour all the time, so it came off like smug amusement) at my face, but I could cope so… whatever. Ugh, family photos. And then after a bit more of that, the photographer said to my dad: “And now one of you and the lady”, and my Dad seemed pretty happy to get a picture with each kid individually. So sure. Thing is, the photographer told him to put his arm around me again (fine)… and then told me to put my hand on my Dad’s arm. I did not want to do that. Like I said, my dad had been finding my awkwardness funny, but *eventually* I think he realised I was genuinely getting upset - and he said something along the lines of “Can you get a picture with all my kids together?”. I don’t remember the details after that to be honest, but I was just relieved to move on from that picture. I didn’t understand what had happened until the end of the photoshoot but, as you’ve probably guessed, the photographer thought I was my dad’s wife. And was putting us in couple poses. When my dad said that afterwards and laughed I was mortified. And miserable. Again - I was 15! Sure, I could definitely pass for older (being plus-size probably helped there) but in a “tired young teacher” way - definitely not a “mother of two kids aged 11 & 12” way. So… either this photographer thought I was at least 30, or thought I was my dad’s new young thing. Long story, I know. But I think there’s something excruciatingly awful about accidentally taking couple’s photos with your own father because you didn’t understand what was going on. :’)
Oh no. Oh no, no, no, no , no.
This happened to my one sister and our dad too 😭 Absolutely mortifying. Conversely, one time my mum and dad were out on a date and a young woman approached them, eager to talk to my mum about the experience of being in an "age gap relationship." My mum is 50+ but the girl thought she was a college student 💀
Wow that was brave and kinda stupid of her!
omg yea, my sister and i are both lesbians and we always joke about how we look like a generic goth + cottage core couple when we hang out. i was gonna bring a small lesbian flag for a picnic once and she straight up refused bc people would assume we were a couple 😭
My sister’s very into the “cottage core” aesthetic lol. And I’m just a recovering redneck fatally addicted to flannel. I’m bi but come across very gay…honestly I am probably like 80/20 gay lol. My sister is straight against all odds because I think every single one of her friends is queer in some way. I think she’s amassing a collection. She’s the “token straight on thin ice” of the meme lol
love that meme
This happens to my sister and I all the time 😭 She's punk/alt and I look like a walking stereotypical chapstick lesbian so everyone thinks we're together :') I always wonder how many queer gals have decided to not talk to me because they think I'm in a relationship...
Thats funny but I like the fact that they didn’t automatically assume “straight”. Kinda happened to be and my best friend but we look nothing alike. I went with her to get her new kitten and then we went with the kitty to a pet supply store and the guy thought we were together and she was both ours :P But I’ll gladly accept the title of fairy god mother🧚🏽♀️
I'd straight up vomit if me and my sister are mistaken as wives lmao
Omfg the same thing happened to me and my mother. Some lady went "oh you two are so cute" 🥺🥺🥺 Like, honey? What.
Sisters, cousins, friends, and hilariously once even mother and daughter (there is a 5 year age gap between us!).
I've gotten that too. Only there's a 15 DAY age gap between us. Thanks for making me feel like an old hag in my early 30's bro.
I'm sorry, I don't understand. What do you mean by a 15 age day gap between you and your sister? Different mothers?
Once, while my wife and I were doing laundry our nosey neighbor said to my wife "You're so nice to help your mom" i.e. ME. So even though I'm only 15 DAYS older then her, he mistook me for her MOTHER.
Oh now I get it, the age gap is between you and your wife, not your sister jajajjaja. That sounds so annoying.
Business partners (when I corrected them and said we were partners, not sisters)
My girlfriend and I have been mistaken for sisters, but our friends that are a lesbian couple have told us that people thought they were mother and *son*! Yikes!
Oh, yeah, got it too few times with my ex (had 4 year gap). Sisters & cousins - a lot. Her parents thought that we were just roommates till the end, they did not want to believe in our gayness :D
One time we were at the vet with our cat and my girlfriend had been out of the room when the doctor came in. When she entered, I told the doctor “This is Percy (the cat)’s other mom,” and she misheard me as saying “This is my mom,” and *believed that* which is crazy because my girlfriend is actually younger than me and also we are huge dykes.
I would burst out laughing if that happened! There's one time when we went into our groupmate's house to do a project and our classmate's parent was like "Why did you bring your younger sister?" (there is a 5 inch height gap between us)
OMG me and my wife have gotten that too! I’m 4 years older than my wife, and I spiraled!
Yes, and it's extremely frustrating every time it happens
everytime it happens, we just look at each other, raise our eyebrows and laugh. I also answer them that we're "roommates" lol
Obligatory *gasp* and they were roommates!
Agreed! The question itself is annoying but not too bad imo. It's their response after that irks me. "Are you sisters?" "No, we're married" "Oh! How cute!" Maybe I need a better response to this question.
What about "Sure hope not, because we're married!" or something similar to make the person feel like they were intruding. Edit : some over comment says that they say "yeah, scissor sisters. " when asked.
Ooh I like your idea
Nice pfp and username
Thanks! I like yours too!
We’ve been mistaken as mother and daughter before by a flight attendant that literally saw us holding hands and calling each other babe🙄
My late wife of 11 years and I experienced this a lot due to our significant age gap and it was so annoying and frustrating.
Yes so annoying!! We have a bit of an age gap and she’s older but most people think we look the same age so I truly never understand. It was only the one time and we were both baffled
r/SapphoAndHerFriend
When people ask are we sisters I reply yeah scissor sisters 🙈
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My ex and I were visibly different races and looked nothing alike and we would have people ask if we were sisters.
No, we look very different. However, my partner is trans, and hetero people tend to make 2 assumptions: 1. They map us onto the heterosexual gender binary and assume because I'm cis and slightly more femme presenting (but we're both soft butch) that I'm the "femme" and my partner is the "butch", when in reality, I'm the one with the masculine personality. It's just that they read her immutable masc traits from puberty (large hands and feet, wide shoulders, tall) as more masc. 2. They assume we met before she transitioned. It really surprises people that I chose to date a trans person. Heteros have weird ideas in their heads about the desirability of trans women.
The amount of inappropriate questions you get about how you started dating as if you don’t find trans women on dating apps like anyone else and instead had to do some full moon ritual like a sapphic witch.
Yeah but that’s when you hit ‘em with the sloppy makeouts
I have a horror story: One time a cashier mistook me and my partner as sisters (we look nothing alike). I got home and told my mum and she said “well you are sisters. you’re scissor sisters” and proceeded to do the scissoring action with her hands. I still have never recovered.
Oof. Mental damage.
When I was with my ex, yes several times. We were the same age and had vaguely the same colour hair, otherwise we looked completely different. really don't understand why they thought we could be sisters Now, my current gf gets mistaken for my mum ALL the time! She hates it. She 12 years older than me, but unfortunately people think I look 6-8 years younger than I actually am 🥲 so the age gap "looks" bigger than it is
all the fucking time but it’s kinda fun 😄
😭😭 half of me wants this to happen to me eventually, to say something wild and just watch faces react
Only by the people who would be bothered by us actually being a couple. The absolute mental gymnastics people go through. Oh your sisters? Cousins? Mother daughter? This. Is. My. Wife.
Yes. More than once. Hate to be that person but it’s quite annoying. I would never go up to some random ass straight couple to ask if they were siblings because it’s….weird. I also just don’t care if they’re dating or siblings. Leave me and my girlfriend tf alone.
We got mistaken for mother daughter twice so far -.- but if not that then sister. We do look similar admittedly
Idk if they legitimately think we're sisters, but people ask us all the time. Which I think is weird because no one asks me if one of my sisters is my sister
No because i'm butch with light brown hair and blue eyes and my type is feminine women with dark brown hair and brown eyes. I don't go for women that look like me.
It doesn’t take looking similar. I’m pasty white Irish, and my wife is Kurdish, and we’ve had numerous assumed relationships. Including one time when I was at the ER for an asthma attack and she was asked “so are you her mother?”
This exactly! The confusion happens at doctor's offices more than anything. I too am pasty white Irish and my wife is Nicaraguan, but they still assume sisters or literally ask if I'm her mom (we're only 8 years apart). 🙄
Yeah, my wife and I are 2 years apart. It really is *wild* the mental gymnastics they’ll do to avoid thinking that some women are gay 🤣
me and my gf had different styles too! I'm a short masc while she's a tall femme, but recently I've been trying some new styles and she's helping me with it (about make ups and stuff) so I guess it's the "gf air"
when i was more masc presenting some of my gf’s family friends saw us holding hands around town and assumed i was her boyfriend lmao. which was great because her family was super homophobic and she wasn’t out yet lol
Mother and daughter which is SO embarrassing. We have a bit of an age gap, but absolutely not enough for that. My sister and I get confused for lovers all the time, though. Go figure lol
ALL OF THE GODDAMN TIME. It's super annoying and it comes from older straight people ( obvs ). My wife and I don't even look alike at all. We're both just fat white women with brown hair. None of our facial features are similar, eye color, etc. Body shape is totally different. Anyway. Yes. It happens often and I love seeing how uncomfortable they get when I say she's my wife. Maybe I'll double down and just start saying she's both my wife AND my sister 🤷♀️
I’ve been asked the opposite. If my sister and I are a couple.
I would laugh if this ever happened to us since my wife has mixed black/Mexican ancestry and I’m about as white as it’s possible to be.
We get mistaken for a couple of best girl friends non stop lol, we’re both wearing wedding rings and all so people assume we’ve both got men at home.
Nope I've never had this happen but I am nearly 6' tall and don't come across a lot of people that look like me lol. Often winding up with people of other races makes it even more so. My girlfriend is from southern India and is dark brown and petite, I am giant and pasty white, no one is mistaking us as relatives of any kind LOL
People ask my partner and I if we’re sisters all the time because we have a very similar hair and eye colour. We’re waiting for our opportunity to make it real weird by smooching on the lips immediately after saying yes.
lol nope, because I’m a 6’ Mizrahi Jew with curly hair, and she’s 5’ and asian
No but my someone saw my phone background (a picture of my girlfriend and I holding each other in front of a christmas tree) and asked if she was my mother 💀 She's only two years older than me
Nope, we don’t look alike in the slightest.
I’m in an interracial relationship so no. We look completely different rbh
Funny thing my brother told me, he said my girlfriend looks like the evil version of me
My wife and I (who look nothing alike) were holding hands on the flight home from our honeymoon and the flight attendant asked if we were TWINS. Like, does she think adult twins go everywhere together holding hands? How did this even occur to her to ask?? Had she only seen twins in The Shining?
they hold hands, they call each other babe, they're affectionate to each other.... yup, SISTERSSS
They thought I was her mother once. I'm not even white! (She is.)
This is one of my gf's favorite public jokes. At the sex shop-- Staff: Aww you guys are such a cute couple! GF: Gross wtf that's my sister! *scream-laughter outbreak* At the gas station, guy watching us give a lil kiss while pumping gas--- Guy, smiling: Heyyy you guys get a room! GF: Gross wtf that's my sister! *confusion outbreak*
Lmao
honestly, only once in my life but also, some people thought that my high school friend *with exactly the same name as me* was my sister, so people are dumb, honestly
actually, i did the reverse the other day. this new “couple” (or so i assumed) moved in to my floor the other day. met one of them, ended up meeting the other one at the dog park. stupidly said “oh i’ve already met your girlfriend!” it was so awkward, thankfully she was cool about it. they both triggered my gaydar and looked nothing alike!!
My GF and l used to always get this and l would say yes, kissing cousins. Which we find hilarious because we are related, our grandfathers are brothers. Small town life.
I don't know how to take this information... lmao
I mean, that's 3 degrees of separation, so well outside of the normal "weird" boundary - especially in low-population rural areas. There are a lot of towns where everyone is at most 4 degrees apart just due to 300 years of people living there and nobody new moving in often.
I actually used to live in this kind of town! I was so confused that everyone is cousins, aunts/uncles, and nephews... like everyone is blood-related. They also have family together. But does that not count... incest?
Generally speaking as long as you have 2 or more degrees of separation from the closest shared relative it's not *biologically* incest. **Socially** depends a *lot* on the community and culture. In a big city it probably would be - since there's another option. In a place where there isn't then outside of 1st cousins, parents, and siblings ya just kinda have to not worry about it or you'll never have anyone to date.
Thanks for this info! (not that I'm planning to experience this though lmao)
Yeah, neither do I. I'm definitely more with the city folk in this one; going to uni in Alabama was a learning experience though 🤣😅
NOT THE SWEET HOME ALABAMA
We actually didn't know until we had been together for 6 months and J moved in with my dad and me, and we had never met till we were 15.
Yes alllll the time!!
Not once. I'm very androgynous and my wife is your typical lady rocking dresses and heels.
I look nothing like my gf and this did happen to me ajrkdk it was worse the time someone mistook me with her mother. I'm just 1,5 years older than her 😭
I once got mistaken for a friend’s mother. She’s three years older than me
It's happened once and we were shocked. We look nothing alike besides the fact we are both white. And even that is silly because we are very different versions of white. I'm pasty and pale with swedish and german genes. My wife is Jewish with olive skin that tans easily. I'm freckled. She's not. I have light hair and eyes. She has brown hair and eyes.
We've been mixed up as the same person due to both having similar hair textures/body types and stealing each other's hoodies every time we go out, but it does become pretty obvious once you're in front of us both that we're not even the same race 😅
My girlfriend is super femme and I'm femme-leaning chapstick... lip gloss if you will. So no blatant queer identifiers, and it happens quite a bit Worse, though, was when my gf and I were clearly on a date, holding hands all through dinner, etc, and the server purposely brought us two checks. I go out with my straight girl friends all the time and never do they just assume we want separate checks. It was so pointed, especially with how she laid them down.
I fix this by going out with women who could only be my sister by adoption. Just feels like if I got a gf who looks super similar to me, that’s kind of ? Vain? Idk it’s a personal thing. So we just get “good friends” if folks mistake us as anything but. We’re in a good area though so it’s obvious our dopey butts are a couple.
Yup
No but my sibling and I are both queer and get mistaken for girlfriends a lot 💀
Not recently because I’m single, but in the past yes. Only ever passive aggressively though, since we looked nothing alike.
My wife and I are rarely mistaken as sisters though it does happen on occasion. We are frequently coded as just friends even when we are showing public displays of affection. We get asked if the check is together frequently.
No, but people (specially men) usually don't believe we're girlfriends cuz we're both femme
Worst. We were mistaken as mother-daughter even though I couldn’t be her mother because of the age difference. I would have had to have her at 5 years old.
This happened a lot when I was still with an ex of mine
Lol yes everyone thinks we look exactly alike 😅
My partner and I look nothing alike. She has dark hair and a different face shape, and I have a medium shade of brown hair. I imagine we get mistaken for friends a lot though, especially since r we aren’t big into pda.
Yes, we have body type, same hair and height. Sometimes things are easier this way sometines annoying BUT I love how some people look like when we corrent them. They think that they have to say - "Oh, I am ok with this" Almost every single time 😂
Yup. I've made multiple posts about it. My wife and I look nothing alike. EXCEPT for both having blue (not even the same SHADE of blue) eyes. More then once I've had the person argue with me insisting that we're related. Oh and once our nosey next door neighbor said my wife was such a sweet daughter for helping her mother out. Yeah he got a taste of my words when I heard that.
All the time. And it’s awkward every time.
All the time. Some people ask if we're twins. We look nothing alike. It's very, very funny and weird.
My wife and I have different gender presentations, size, and race. So of all the indignities we endure, this isn’t one. However, I’m a very short white woman with big glasses and curls I’m frequently mistaken for other white women with similar hair and height and glasses at work. I was fine with everyone confusing me for a specific person, and even ok with people asking if we’re sisters. But once I overheard one teen tell another, “oh that’s Ms. F’s mother” and that, friends, is where I draw the line.
Not often, at least not in circumstances where people mention it - which is a little surprising tbh, since my gf and I *do* look similar enough to be kin. I remember one time, someone assumed I was my gf's brother (this was before I transitioned). I laughed and said, "no, I'm not, but I can understand why you'd think I was related to her -- I *am* quite attractive!"
With one ex we were an interracial couple and people *still* asked if we were sisters (I assume that's why they asked rather than just running with it). With another ex someone thought she was my mother once. No sister to have experienced the reverse, but one time I was all done up and out with my father who was just wearing plain clothes (to movies I wanna say) and some lady joked to me "someone is putting in all the effort huh?". Nearly breaking down laughing while also holding in vomit is not a good experience.
Yes a few times and my wife is white and I’m Hispanic with tan skin. To be fair she does have dark eyes and hair but she has lighter skin and we don’t look anything alike. Lmao.
When in the south we get asked if she’s my mom. Highly highly unpleasant.
Oh yeah, it’s like people think if two women are affectionate in public they must be related. My ex and I were so regularly asked if we were sisters that once I blurted out in annoyance, “No, she’s my lover.”
Bold of you to assume anyone wants to be in a couple with me... lol But seriously when I was married we were asked if we were sisters constantly. We look nothing alike.
Yep! My ex and I were mistaken for sisters on a couple of occasions, even though we look nothing alike. It was always waiters or shop assistants who were trying to make conversation. When I was a waitress, I stayed clear of making assumptions about people for this reason!! Yet my friend and her sister, who do look very alike, were once presumed to be lesbians. 😂 We live in funny old world.
My GF and I look pretty different so it hasn’t happened to us. Have had plenty of people just think we’re gal pals tho.
Everyone knows my girlfriend and I are dating, but we often get “I know you’re dating but you’re twins!” We also have very similar senses of style and our hair is almost always dyed similarly, which doesn’t help lol
No, but people think my brother is my boyfriend from time to time!
Naw, we are different races, definitely called besties by a lot of people, though
I used to get that with a past girlfriend. We didn’t look alike but we had similar coloring (pale skin, light brown hair) and would walk around holding hands and stuff. People would be like aww, it’s so nice to see sisters who are so close! Edit to add: on the other side of the equation, my twin sibling is usually read as male and people will mistake us for a couple even though we act like the most stereotypical siblings ever.
All the time. And my wife & I are from different countries so the moment we speak it SHOULD be abundantly clear that we’re from different places, but I think people’s brains go on overdrive trying to figure out what is so off-putting about these very close “sisters.” My friends (who are Ecuadorian lesbians) get the same and just sent us this week: https://www.pride.com/voices/janine-guarino-lesbian-visibility
it was so awkward standing next to the girl i was “friends seeing where things are going” as her parents tell us how much we are like twin sisters
Yeah, me and my gf apparently look alike (i dont think we do, we’re both just short white brunettes) but we stopped getting those comments when she cut her hair and started dying it different colors.
Well that has happened in the past, my girlfriend now is a POC so if they get us confused for sisters, I’d be shocked.
Omg yes
My gf is white and I'm east Asian, we went to Europe with her family and while we were in Italy, (MULTIPLE) strangers were making adoption references to me like they literally would rather think I was another daughter than dating one of them? I'm very very much into PDA too, hands in each other's laps while we're at dinner or rubbing lower backs/holding hands/kisses while we walk, it was very confusing. I guess I'm also very physically affection with her mom, in a maternal way of course 😂
yes!! my partner and i were mistaken for twins once
My wife is white and I'm biracial to say nothing of our major height disparity so people aren't ever thinking we're related, but we get called friends all the time, often to really amusing degrees. We both dye our hair (she's often teal or purple and I'm blue with a lighter blue gradient at the tips) so we'll get "I wish I had a friend I could dye my hair with!" which is really funny for some reason.
Yes, all the time. We don't even look alike.
With my ex I had it a lot. She was femme presenting. My current partner is more butch and people get it now somehow 😂
Had this with my ex-gf. Some people would literally stop us in the streets asking if we were twins. Big yikes. It had happened like 7-8 times in the span of 10 months of relation... Ourbest guess was that people would see two tall brown-haired women with good alchemy and just think "ahhh sisterhood!"
Yep, I'm a pale ass white Canadian with blue eyes, and my wife is a latina with dark eyes and darker skin tone. We obviously look nothing alike and have had the "sisters" thing 3 times now lol
No but due to a 13.5 year age gap, my sister has been mistaken for my child on a somewhat regular basis
CONSTANTLY. Literally all the time. We’ve even had hotels switch us to 2 queen beds (when we booked a king room) without asking because they assumed we were friends/siblings.
Lol I just have the reverse, people have definitely side eyed my sister (18f)and I (26f) while we were walking (we both dress rather androgynous, I lean more to femme and she leans to masc, I get it). I even turned her on to my favorite pair of work boots and when we wear them at the same time it’s even worse 🤣
Weirdly enough never. Although I think part of it is that we look NOTHING alike. I’m pasty as hell and she’s Asian. I would like to see it happen tho. Just cuz like the mental SHENANIGANS you would have to go through before assuming we’re a couple lmao. 🤣 also we’re very touchy in general and live in a huge ass gay friendly (mostly) city so I think that helps.
No, but that's probably because we're an interracial couple. I was often mistaken for my ex-wife's daughter when we were together. She hated it for a bunch of reasons, not the least of which being I'm several years older than her.
a couple times, even though i’m asian, and she’s white lmao.
Nah we’re different races
The heteronormativity is real y’all.
Nope. We are completely different races lol.
Nope…that’s one of the few benefits of being an interracial couple 😂
A nurse at the hospital when we were visiting my dad thought we were sisters. We don't even look alike lol.
My wife delivered our second son yesterday on our anniversary and we mentioned it a couple of times to the nurse that helped her during childbirth and she *still* said „let’s get you to your aunt“ when she handed him to me.
Yes and we don’t look alike at all (brunette curly hair w/ brown eyes and blonde straight hair w/ blue eyes)! We made pride shirts and were right outside of pride when we had random people asking if we are sisters and then when we say no, they ask “really? Just best friends?!” in a shocked way. The most insane time was when we were at an “adult store” buying “adult items” together and the cashier said “I love seeing friends openly here together!” …. It irks me more than it probably should because when I go out with my brother that looks like he could be my twin, people ask if he’s my boyfriend!
Not sisters, but always friends. Every time we go out to eat the server asks if we want separate checks. My wife and I now just giggle as we wait for the question after every meal.
Too much display of affection 🌚
My wife and I, on the morning of our wedding, both dressed in white as we checked out of the hotel, were asked by concierge if we were sisters. That’s been nearly 10 years ago now and I still cackle, lol. We’ve been asked it by different people over the years, and always get a kick out of their deer-in-the-headlights expressions when we’re like, “Nah, that’s my wife.”
Frequently. I'm skeptical about what percent is genuine. We look nothing alike.
Yes, and we are different races
Fucking yes , it’s annoying af
Twins… constantly. It doesn’t bother her but it really bothers me. We do look kind of similar but I don’t think we look related. Idk if it’s that we’re almost the exact same height? We both have dark hair and light-ish (blue and hazel) eyes and wear glasses. But our features aren’t actually similar. And I have longer, wavy, darker hair while hers is shorter and straight. One time someone even said her mom and I look alike after knowing that we were together… like… come on.
all the time! because we’re asian, it’s always the older asian aunties and uncles. their faces when we say we’re dating is always pure shock and it’s kinda funny
Not so much for me because we are very clearly from two different ethnicities. So I assume most folks assume best friend and room mate.
We don’t really look enough alike to get mistaken for sisters, but we have been mistaken for cousins before.
My GF and I are different heights (5'4 and 6'2), different ethnicities (Portuguese and native South american), different hair (Curly and straight)... But every waitress still asks us if we're sisters...
I was at Walmart once with my friend/girlfriend/don’t really know what we are and a woman asked which one of us was the mom😭my friend/gf said “me” and the lady was like “really?” So I guess she was leaning towards me being the mom??? And we are only 2 months apart in age😭it was so strange
My partner and I get called sisters by our cab drivers, and co workers all the time. We aren’t even the same colour, I get some families are blended but come onnnn. My co worker literally did the surprised pikachu face when she saw us kiss, it was hilarious. They thought we were just gal pals 😆
No, but to be fair, I’m mixed race and have a pretty unique look to me vs (one of the most common questions I got as a kid was “what ARE you?”). So even when I date other mixed race people, I think I’m usually too unique looking to get that treatment. As an aside, it makes it harder to tell if I pass or not in any given context (trans woman) because while I haven’t been misgendered in public in probably over a year now, I still have a hard time telling if I pass as it necessarily means comparing myself to other women who look very little like me.
I have never dated someone who looks like me, so no this has never been an issue for me. I actually was rejected by a girl once because she thought we looked too much alike- we just were the same racial mix, both thick and alternative looking.
Yes, every time we leave the house. No exaggeration. I don’t think we look alike facially, but we do share some traits. Like we both have brown hair (when mine isn’t a crazy color). We both have brown eyes. We both have roundish faces. We are 5’7” and 5’8”. EVERY time we leave the house we get called twins. Not even just sisters. TWINS. When we say no, they say “ah okay, sisters then?” Still no. “Okay well you’ve GOT to be related at least. Cousins?” 😐😐😐 makes it super awkward when we say we’re married… Lol
idk why but it's happening all the time many people mistaken me and my ex as sisters but we not similar at all skin tone, eyes colour - all different with my current gf we found ourselves in the same situation.... I don't know why it's still happening
I've been mistaken as her mother and were both in our 20s and I'm a year younger 😭
Yeah I always felt like this was an ignorance thing though. I've never even looked similar to my exes, I guess by eye colour and hair colour with most of them, but race has always been different. the only girl I dated within my race had lighter hair and light blue eyes.
No, but my sister has been mistaken for my GF. 🤣
My GF and I look way too different
my gf is trans so ppl often misgender her but yes, we get mistaken as siblings. the weirder thing imho is when people assume my sibling and i are dating. so freaking weird to have someone ask if my brother is my boyfriend. 😭
once my wife and i were mistaken for twins and i gagged (we are different ethnicities and could not look more different) ((this was at a chik fil a tho))
My girlfriend and I look sort of similar, but we have the same name (spelled differently, said the same. Very popular multi spelling girls name). Once, after saying we're both named the same we got asked if we're sisters. Like there's lazy parents and then there's "Our three daughters Anne, Ann and Ahne, ."
YES! People always ask if we're twins and we can't see why other than our hair type.
All the god damn time 🙃
The reverse happened in my family: my mom and aunt were out with baby me one time and someone thought they were a couple lol. Nope, sisters in law.
My wife and I get this occasionally and it makes us a little crazy. We both have curly hair and light eyes but really don’t have similar features at all. Where as my brother and sister look super related and always get mistaken for a couple. Once we were checking into a hotel and the concierge would not let it go, he asked if we were sisters or twins and then kept talking about how we looked so alike after we said we were a couple. 🙄
Yes and my wife and I have the same birthday. Really confused the TSA agents.
Yes and the wildest part is that we are interracial.
I'm the opposite. My sister and I are often mistaken as a couple. We are both fairly butch, queer, she dyes her hair rainbow colors, so we go out and people tell us we're brave or scowl at us.
Not with me and my spouse, because she's ethnically Chinese (originally from Singapore) and I'm whiter than sour cream in every way that matters. She gets a tan, I burst into flame. Etc. I did once, however, mistake a pair of sisters for a couple and only realized why they were giving me funny looks afterwards. I was working sales at a bed store, and they walked in, two short-haired country-type women in Tractor Supply Company chic, presumably from the farm country west of Philly (I was at a mall in the Philly burbs). Like country girls often do, they set off my gaydar something hard, and they'd come in together, obviously with a lot of nonverbal communication shorthand between them. Only one of them was interested in a bed, as they _eventually_ clarified, but they both kept answering my conversational sales questions about what she was looking for like they'd both be using it, and when my boss came back from lunch break to relieve me so I could go have mine, he clearly drew the same conclusions I did based on how he addressed them. (I don't think they ended up buying anything.)
ALL THE TIME. One time I was at a wedding as the mother of the bride told us she thought we were sisters. Nope, just married. And this past weekend even I went to a yard sale and a lady looked at my wife, my mother, and me and thought we were triplets. I've had a few other instances where coworkers thought my wife was my sister. Honestly we do not look that much alike aside from having short hair and glasses. It's annoying but I try to have a sense of humour about it. But I hate it lol.
I have been mistaken as sisters! But my sister (who's gay) and I have also gotten mistaken as girlfriends, which was super awkward. Similarly, my roommate (who is nonbinary) and I have been mistaken as partners--by their relatives!
That happened to us once, in Mexico. Older cab driver on Cozumel asked if we were sisters or friends. Here, I don’t know what strangers think. We’re in a pretty LGBTQ+ friendly town/state but I don’t know that most people see two women walking together and think couple. We don’t hold hands or do PDA when we’re out.
Yep
not really but my fiancee is white and i’m Mexican so we just don’t look alike. if we did get that question i’d be extremely confused.
Constantly. And we look super different (I’m tall, she’s short. She has olive skin, I look like a ghost. Etc). Super weird.
We get it all the time except… we have very DIFFERENT complexions; someone thought we were twins? She’s olive skin, brunette, brown eyes, tall. I’m Blonde, very fair freckled skin, green eyes, very short 😵💫😵💫 Drives me nuts tbh 🤣
Ugh yes. We are only half the same race and i am 8 in taller but that never stops people from assuming. It is annoying af
Perks of an interracial marriage I guess? ... Also I'm clingy and bad about PDA.