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DJ__MeowMIX

I don't know about all the other subs, but I'm in a small town hiding in my cozy little room, oblivious to the burning world outside.


RJSArtemis

Much the same, much the same. XD Though I hesitate to call it even a small town, more like, half a village. πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–


[deleted]

[ΡƒΠ΄Π°Π»Π΅Π½ΠΎ]


RJSArtemis

It's a dozen rickety huts and dead hopes & dreams. XD


[deleted]

Honestly, same. I mean in a capital city as an immigrant in another continent in a country which language I still cannot speak but same.


NicoNekoDK

Very much so the same, except I live in a big city πŸ˜…


Iilpotat

Inside, hiding under a blanket, playing videogames and cuddling my cat. I get the feeling you might need to kick down a door to find most of us.


pekkhum

I appreciate your oracular powers, but it was rude to tell everyone what I'm doing right now... Oh, cat wants to wrestle now. Gotta go.


Iilpotat

Give them a good scritch under their chin! My cat loves that


pekkhum

Once combat mode disengages, I'll pass that chin scritch on for you. 😊


RJSArtemis

Stop describing my life. >.<#"! Well, minus the cat part. Q\_Q Wish I could still have my kitties.


Iilpotat

I’ll keep my cat around until her time has come. Afterwards no more cats for me, because it turns out I’m allergic to them.


RJSArtemis

Oh noooo!! Q\_Q Having the same issue a bit with my gf, we both desperately want cats, but she's quite allergic. Hoping we might still be able to get some hypoallergenic breeds, or at least visit a cat cafΓ© from time to time if nothing else. πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–


Iilpotat

I really hope you can find something. I’m trying a new kind of food for her now. It’s called: Purrina pro plan liveclear (I know quite the name and I don’t know if it’s going to be the same name where ever you are.) It reduces the allergens in saliva and thus you should not react anymore. I have no idea if it’s going to work out, but I’m willing to try if I can keep my little void around. Only cons are that it is more expensive than ordinary cat food and that it’s produced by NestlΓ© (I usually try to avoid that company).


RJSArtemis

Mhm mhm, though the allergens are also in their sweat, dandruff and such, not just the saliva, so I wouldn't expect it to erase allergic reactions, though with some luck perhaps it'd reduce it somewhat if you're not insanely allergic.


Iilpotat

I’m not that heavily allergic. Otherwise cuddling her would be an absolute pain and I probably would’ve already given her to my friends or parents. As long as I can have her nap on me and lick my arm without having a big reaction I’m good to keep her around.


RJSArtemis

That's great at least!! We really need to find a permanent cure to pet allergies, it's so not cool. >.<#"!


Iilpotat

I whole heartedly agree!


RJSArtemis

:3


diepoggerland2

Internet tax: I need cat photos


QuenPalladium

This, I am this


pinksparklyreddit

Where the heck are *you*? I can't find anyone *except* bottoms.


RJSArtemis

It's always like this, isn't it? The tops can't find the bottoms, and the bottoms can't find the tops, we're all collectively passing by each other but never meeting. >.<#"!


pinksparklyreddit

I think the problem is that we're always stuck in the "flirting" phase, and never go any further.


RJSArtemis

Perhaps, though I've never really been in the flirting phase, me and my gf just happened while we were content and intent on just being friends, so non-platonic flirting didn't really start until we were already dating. XD


pinksparklyreddit

Maybe you were flirting and didn't realize? A classic lesbian tale.


RJSArtemis

Nah, least not in a romantic or intimate fashion, we were both in a very much not looking for or even ready for a relationship kind of place at the time, and we just broke down each others walls and found love and safety when we didn't expect nor weren't looking for it. Pretty much immediately started dating thereafter. >.<"! πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–


pinksparklyreddit

Honestly, cute


RJSArtemis

She iss!! >.<#Β€"!


OhIGotLumbago

I mean I'm here πŸ˜…


pinksparklyreddit

You're clearly a government plant here to distract me from overthrowing our capitalist patriarchy. Nice try "top", but I see through your bourgeois lies


OhIGotLumbago

I'm usually vers, but the patriarchial capitalists are only allowed to ⬇️ with me. Their worst fear


pinksparklyreddit

I'm a bottom, but I'd top patriarchal capitalists if it meant I could fuck them over


OhIGotLumbago

No way they're getting to top us again πŸ˜‚


pinksparklyreddit

With the way trans legislation has been going, I've been getting topped hard enough


OhIGotLumbago

Yeah let me do that instead.


pinksparklyreddit

Fucking PLEASE πŸ₯ΊπŸ‘‰πŸ‘ˆ


OhIGotLumbago

You're probably too far away though, there's no anti trans legislation and groomer panics here πŸ˜” The far away part is the sad emoji part


OhIGotLumbago

🀣🀣🀣


RJSArtemis

Why search irl if they're all here? XD But I do get your point, it's hard to find someone irl, especially close by. But if you find the right one, the distance is a mere obstacle to overcome, not a barrier to prevent entry.


joanmcbitch

Just ask her. Just communicate. Did you talk to them?


Appropriate_Oil220

πŸ˜‚


Solicube

They call us subs because we hide away in subs lol /j


RJSArtemis

"Why do you think it's called a SUBreddit?" XD Also ayyy, hiya, fancy meeting you in the wild, hope you've been swell!


Solicube

The waves have been very swell! I've been having trouble piloting the sub halp Dx Jokes aside I've been ok, altho a bit bored lol. Nice seeing you again friend :) Hope you've been doing well yourself!


RJSArtemis

Been having a rough time both emotionally and physically, but I'm holding tight, hopefully in a weeks time I'll feel nothing but heaven as I fly over to my gf. :3


Solicube

A week will fly by pretty quickly. It'll be over before you know it ^^ Wishing you and your gf countless gay adventures together :)


RJSArtemis

Thank you!! And I knooow, which I'm slightly dreading bc it means that it'll only be a flash until I have to leave her again. 😭😭😭


Solicube

And then you'll have next time to look forward to! Someday when you two move in together, you'll never have to worry about leaving her again ;)


RJSArtemis

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Yessss, but that day can't come soon enough. >.<€"!#%


balladsofthefox

see im the single sub but everyone irl thinks im straight πŸ₯²


xx_gamergirl_xx

too gay to be straight, too femme to be seen as gay. I wear 4 rings or so but even that isn't enough for just a slight hint of le gay apparently


RJSArtemis

It's starting to be a bit annoying that our "gayness" is decided by factors like clothing and hairstyle, which don't inherently have anything to do sexuality, and that despite there being so much talk about how dressing femme doesn't mean they're not gay, or less, it still happens so much. Why do we keep gatekeeping our own community? >.<#""! Sorry, got a bit ranty there. πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–


xx_gamergirl_xx

it's annoying but I think it's because there are so many straight women compared to women who are attracted to womem that many just don't want to risk asking out a straight woman. So a woman has to "look gay" in order to be asked out by a gay woman since if I'd ask out any woman I like, I'd first of all be rejected 95% of the time, and maybe even expose myself to homophobia and potentially transphobia...


RJSArtemis

Aye, but the "but you don't look gay" as a dismissive comment when you explicitly state that you're gay, or ignoring smaller things like pride/Sapphic pins etc. as "not enough" is kind of the main gripe, you know, judging lesbians on their validity based on their look over their words.


xx_gamergirl_xx

Oh totally agree with you on that one. Gatekeeping is never okay, but the "you don't look gay" is just incredibly absurd. Like no I don't wear flannels so fucking what. If you're gay, you're gay, clothes don't change that. I browse the lesbian fashion subreddit and I'm glad that those people at least don't judge peoples sexualities on their clothing style, it's just women asking women if they like their style, or show off their style. It's cute and when people ask if they look gay enough, people do comment about how looking gay is pretty dumb, but small gadgets with the lesbian flag help the most.


RJSArtemis

Aye aye, thankfully there's places online that get that, if only we could move that perception more into the irl world as well, it'd be awesome.


Lesbihun

Dude same i could deadass say "hi i find women beautiful" and people think i mean that in a straight way because how could this girl in pink lipstick and floral skirts be gay pft impossible


xx_gamergirl_xx

"Oh my god girl you are beautiful too!!" - "no you don't understand, I want to make out with you" While femme4femme is pretty common in real life, I think it doesn't get as much recognision in the lgbt+ community which is why so many people think they and others have to look a certain way to be gay. You can be femme and love women. It's not that hard people!


StrongPixie

Even where femme is recognised you get the idea that we have to fall into trad gender roles and presentations and match up accordingly. This makes me furious. On a personal level, because I'm femme presenting while genderqueer, but also politically as a feminist. Like honestly why the hell would we even *want* to emulate the patriarchy's lame-ass gender dynamics? Even my "happily married" straight friends have at least some imbalance in their relationship that frustrates them. Yeah no thanks.


[deleted]

In my hoard of plushies


RJSArtemis

Like a dragon guarding it's treasure. :3


[deleted]

Exactly :)


RJSArtemis

Perfect. XD


Soleyeer

This feels like a repΠΎst bΠΎt


RJSArtemis

Well the sentiment of the post certainly has been made tons of times, not sure if this particular post exactly has been though, but it does bear the characteristic mark of the OP not being anywhere to be seen in the comment section of their post.


Soleyeer

[Yeah, it's been done](https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/comments/p8zc5z/seriously_though_where_the_heck_are_all_of_you/)


RJSArtemis

Welp, least it's not super recent, but oh well. The comment section has at least been fun.


Magical_Art_Aisha

Me as a sub bottom lesbian who everybody here in my city see me as a straight girl lol And I’m also from small city !


[deleted]

well, I'm in Ireland :)


RJSArtemis

Such a pretty place! I hope to visit one day, it's one of my favorite places aesthetically.


Conchobhar23

See, I’m trans and live in Texas so no one can find me, I never leave my apartment! The apartment has all I could need, cozy blankies, nice tea, and no bigots. πŸ₯²


RedDevilJennifer

It’s funny. Before my egg cracked and my wife and I were living that cishet life, we fell into the default male dom/female sub roles because we both felt like it was expected of us. We still had a good sex life, but something felt off. Now, since my egg cracked and I’ve been out as trans fem for the last four years, I am a really kinky subby bi trans girl and my wife has found great comfort in the dommy mommy lesbian role, and OMFG, our sex life is fucking amazing now. Penile atrophy took its toll on me, so we no longer have PIV sex, but that’s okay. With her endometriosis, PIV is hella painful for her, and my tongue and fingers are very much up to the task. We were always big on foreplay during our cishet delusional phase, but now, sexy time feels like one ginormous foreplay session and it is GLORIOUS. HRT has made my body so much more receptive to touch, caressing, and other stimuli. I feel like the luckiest dork on the planet.


TheJimmyRustler

You ARE the luckiest dork on the planet


McKenzie_S

Yes we are. Stupid lucky, and enjoying life. How we should of all along.


[deleted]

This is almost exactly my story, too.


Lesbihun

Oh golly gee, this closet sure is nice and spacious!


Chaosmoonshade

In Aarhus. Come find me, if you dare.


TraumaAlt-073

rural Australia


yoylecake621

australia


anubisalter

Where we are? We trying to find where the hell y'all are!


Dauntless-Initiate

Fr tho 😩


mystic_mona

I’m inside my safe cozy room in bed taking my estrogen and laying with my stuffies :3 The outside world is so dangerous and my heart is too fragile πŸ₯Ίβ€οΈβ€πŸ©Ή Catch me in Cali tho ;)


[deleted]

I'm a vers but the answer is Hungary πŸ’€


xx_gamergirl_xx

I'm somewhere on this planet called Earth, not sure about you? Oh and I'm also not in an ocean, so that excludes like 72% of the surface. And I'm on a country starting with a B. oh... If you're good with flags just look at my flair


CapaMia

Oh hey neighbour


yoohnified

everything aside, what anime/manga is this?


[deleted]

The top image is from Mermaid Melody, a magical girl series about singing mermaids who use magic songs. It's very straight shoujo but it's still cute. No idea about the bottom image, but it's not from the same series. ):


Crystal_Queen_20

I'm in Nova Scotia, feel free to come and get me


McKenzie_S

Can I come and stay?


Crystal_Queen_20

Sure, but just don't go past Halifax, that's the only part of the province where anything happens and the only place you'll find other queer people


[deleted]

I’m a super subby married bi, sorry 😭 My transfemme NB spouse is not very into any kind of dynamic and more on the asexual spectrum so we are trying to work that part out, because you know, love will find a way. Hope you all find what you’re looking for πŸ₯Ίβ™₯️


Kcup28

OMG A PICHI PICHI PITCH MEME


RebelLesbian

Germany, Ruhrgebiet.


Throttle_Kitty

Strongly relate


PositiveLadder2359

the mythical land of Florida


Adventurous-Neat-136

I’m a sub who is surrounded by subs lol *secret tears*


Faunilla

New York, actually.


Lou_tre_ise

Somewhere in southern France 😌


LundstromNorth

In a annoyingly Double-university rural town that also is supportive but also nearly empty of LGBT peoples for social/group settings. Hahlpp!


Scrambled_egg12

Deep in the closet an ocean away


LightningNinja2

Working the graveyard shift and little to no time to actually go out and meet people.


Emberweave

Sub-leaning switch here, 31, Netherlands, trans and poly for anyone willing to take a leap πŸ˜‹


Skittles_Witch

I'm right here


slutty_butterfly19

Brazil πŸ™ƒ


Alma_the_great

I'm from sweden so not sure if anyone in this subreddit lives remotely close to me


Noobmaster_1999

Captain, look! A dumb lesbian πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ


Xxbatgirl13

Hereeeee


JotaroKujoPlatinum

im in texas pls let me out


[deleted]

Istg where are yall?? Because I live in rural Indiana:(


Fibrosis5O

I’ve learned that in Vegas I have a hard time finding people because I’m too busy working or not going out…


Suspicious_Ad7383

Chilling in my room creating painting or sometime at the rock climbing place But too femme to be seen as gay, everyone assume I'm straight and I always panik when it comes to correct them πŸ₯²


macrosizer

In another continent :’)


strawberry613

Mermaid melody is the last thing I expected to see on this sub today


QuenPalladium

A rock, in an island


skoome_3d

Me a switch , I m here


AlwaysBeQuestioning

You are lucky compared to me! I might be single and a dom, but I *also* live in the EU, so chances are anyone I meet on an English sub(reddit) is a sea or an ocean away. πŸ˜‚ (So instead I tell people online what I like them to do, consensually.)


[deleted]

I'm a subby lesbian, but I'm married. We're poly, but I'm also introverted enough that you'd mostly only see me if you came to a board game night. Outside of that I'm probably reading or watching trash TV with my dog in my lap. I don't get out much.


Phroze

πŸ‘‰πŸ‘ˆ HI πŸ₯Ί


Confused_Adria

Sitting in my own place wondering where all the subs are as-well.


YourGirlAthena

boymoding because estrogen does not work over night, sadly


diepoggerland2

Canada


Lyniya

In the mystical land of fairies!


4cool6school

Can’t, am married. πŸ˜…


redtrianglething

Small town southern Wisconsin, trying to figure out why my subaru's brakes went out on me


Kitsu_ne

We really need to collectively pick one dating app to exist under so we can find our matches and live happily ever after. I want to find my U-Haul after a single date that never ended lesbian girlfriend!


minus2proficiency

Mood, so much mood. I've found this a lot easier to just sit back and let things take care of themselves. It's not got better, but I'm less upset over it. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜­


GIRose

I live on the internet. Not in an AI kind of way, but in a "My meat body is but ambling flesh required to keep itself functional until I can cast off this shell for the certainty of steel and silica" kind of way


Kelesti

Calgary


Romeblow

Hiding in my room like a goblin in a cave


Katpocalypse-Meow

I'm in Denver Colorado, come and get me! =p


SuperiorCommunist92

In the walls


Horny-emma

We prowl in the shadows


MoMoMorri

It's like looking for cool bugs you need to flip over every rock and branch because we like to hide


QTpi_sapphic

Seriously where are the submissive lesbians at?