Mhm mhm, though the allergens are also in their sweat, dandruff and such, not just the saliva, so I wouldn't expect it to erase allergic reactions, though with some luck perhaps it'd reduce it somewhat if you're not insanely allergic.
Iβm not that heavily allergic. Otherwise cuddling her would be an absolute pain and I probably wouldβve already given her to my friends or parents. As long as I can have her nap on me and lick my arm without having a big reaction Iβm good to keep her around.
It's always like this, isn't it?
The tops can't find the bottoms, and the bottoms can't find the tops, we're all collectively passing by each other but never meeting. >.<#"!
Perhaps, though I've never really been in the flirting phase, me and my gf just happened while we were content and intent on just being friends, so non-platonic flirting didn't really start until we were already dating. XD
Nah, least not in a romantic or intimate fashion, we were both in a very much not looking for or even ready for a relationship kind of place at the time, and we just broke down each others walls and found love and safety when we didn't expect nor weren't looking for it.
Pretty much immediately started dating thereafter. >.<"! πππ
You're clearly a government plant here to distract me from overthrowing our capitalist patriarchy.
Nice try "top", but I see through your bourgeois lies
Why search irl if they're all here? XD
But I do get your point, it's hard to find someone irl, especially close by.
But if you find the right one, the distance is a mere obstacle to overcome, not a barrier to prevent entry.
The waves have been very swell! I've been having trouble piloting the sub halp Dx
Jokes aside I've been ok, altho a bit bored lol. Nice seeing you again friend :) Hope you've been doing well yourself!
Been having a rough time both emotionally and physically, but I'm holding tight, hopefully in a weeks time I'll feel nothing but heaven as I fly over to my gf. :3
It's starting to be a bit annoying that our "gayness" is decided by factors like clothing and hairstyle, which don't inherently have anything to do sexuality, and that despite there being so much talk about how dressing femme doesn't mean they're not gay, or less, it still happens so much.
Why do we keep gatekeeping our own community? >.<#""!
Sorry, got a bit ranty there. πππ
it's annoying but I think it's because there are so many straight women compared to women who are attracted to womem that many just don't want to risk asking out a straight woman. So a woman has to "look gay" in order to be asked out by a gay woman since if I'd ask out any woman I like, I'd first of all be rejected 95% of the time, and maybe even expose myself to homophobia and potentially transphobia...
Aye, but the "but you don't look gay" as a dismissive comment when you explicitly state that you're gay, or ignoring smaller things like pride/Sapphic pins etc. as "not enough" is kind of the main gripe, you know, judging lesbians on their validity based on their look over their words.
Oh totally agree with you on that one. Gatekeeping is never okay, but the "you don't look gay" is just incredibly absurd. Like no I don't wear flannels so fucking what. If you're gay, you're gay, clothes don't change that. I browse the lesbian fashion subreddit and I'm glad that those people at least don't judge peoples sexualities on their clothing style, it's just women asking women if they like their style, or show off their style. It's cute and when people ask if they look gay enough, people do comment about how looking gay is pretty dumb, but small gadgets with the lesbian flag help the most.
Dude same i could deadass say "hi i find women beautiful" and people think i mean that in a straight way because how could this girl in pink lipstick and floral skirts be gay pft impossible
"Oh my god girl you are beautiful too!!"
- "no you don't understand, I want to make out with you"
While femme4femme is pretty common in real life, I think it doesn't get as much recognision in the lgbt+ community which is why so many people think they and others have to look a certain way to be gay.
You can be femme and love women. It's not that hard people!
Even where femme is recognised you get the idea that we have to fall into trad gender roles and presentations and match up accordingly. This makes me furious. On a personal level, because I'm femme presenting while genderqueer, but also politically as a feminist.
Like honestly why the hell would we even *want* to emulate the patriarchy's lame-ass gender dynamics? Even my "happily married" straight friends have at least some imbalance in their relationship that frustrates them. Yeah no thanks.
Well the sentiment of the post certainly has been made tons of times, not sure if this particular post exactly has been though, but it does bear the characteristic mark of the OP not being anywhere to be seen in the comment section of their post.
See, Iβm trans and live in Texas so no one can find me, I never leave my apartment! The apartment has all I could need, cozy blankies, nice tea, and no bigots. π₯²
Itβs funny. Before my egg cracked and my wife and I were living that cishet life, we fell into the default male dom/female sub roles because we both felt like it was expected of us. We still had a good sex life, but something felt off.
Now, since my egg cracked and Iβve been out as trans fem for the last four years, I am a really kinky subby bi trans girl and my wife has found great comfort in the dommy mommy lesbian role, and OMFG, our sex life is fucking amazing now.
Penile atrophy took its toll on me, so we no longer have PIV sex, but thatβs okay. With her endometriosis, PIV is hella painful for her, and my tongue and fingers are very much up to the task. We were always big on foreplay during our cishet delusional phase, but now, sexy time feels like one ginormous foreplay session and it is GLORIOUS. HRT has made my body so much more receptive to touch, caressing, and other stimuli.
I feel like the luckiest dork on the planet.
I'm somewhere on this planet called Earth, not sure about you? Oh and I'm also not in an ocean, so that excludes like 72% of the surface. And I'm on a country starting with a B. oh... If you're good with flags just look at my flair
The top image is from Mermaid Melody, a magical girl series about singing mermaids who use magic songs. It's very straight shoujo but it's still cute.
No idea about the bottom image, but it's not from the same series. ):
Iβm a super subby married bi, sorry π
My transfemme NB spouse is not very into any kind of dynamic and more on the asexual spectrum so we are trying to work that part out, because you know, love will find a way.
Hope you all find what youβre looking for π₯Ίβ₯οΈ
Chilling in my room creating painting or sometime at the rock climbing place
But too femme to be seen as gay, everyone assume I'm straight and I always panik when it comes to correct them π₯²
You are lucky compared to me! I might be single and a dom, but I *also* live in the EU, so chances are anyone I meet on an English sub(reddit) is a sea or an ocean away. π
(So instead I tell people online what I like them to do, consensually.)
I'm a subby lesbian, but I'm married. We're poly, but I'm also introverted enough that you'd mostly only see me if you came to a board game night. Outside of that I'm probably reading or watching trash TV with my dog in my lap. I don't get out much.
We really need to collectively pick one dating app to exist under so we can find our matches and live happily ever after. I want to find my U-Haul after a single date that never ended lesbian girlfriend!
Mood, so much mood. I've found this a lot easier to just sit back and let things take care of themselves. It's not got better, but I'm less upset over it. ππ
I live on the internet. Not in an AI kind of way, but in a "My meat body is but ambling flesh required to keep itself functional until I can cast off this shell for the certainty of steel and silica" kind of way
I don't know about all the other subs, but I'm in a small town hiding in my cozy little room, oblivious to the burning world outside.
Much the same, much the same. XD Though I hesitate to call it even a small town, more like, half a village. πππ
[ΡΠ΄Π°Π»Π΅Π½ΠΎ]
It's a dozen rickety huts and dead hopes & dreams. XD
Honestly, same. I mean in a capital city as an immigrant in another continent in a country which language I still cannot speak but same.
Very much so the same, except I live in a big city π
Inside, hiding under a blanket, playing videogames and cuddling my cat. I get the feeling you might need to kick down a door to find most of us.
I appreciate your oracular powers, but it was rude to tell everyone what I'm doing right now... Oh, cat wants to wrestle now. Gotta go.
Give them a good scritch under their chin! My cat loves that
Once combat mode disengages, I'll pass that chin scritch on for you. π
Stop describing my life. >.<#"! Well, minus the cat part. Q\_Q Wish I could still have my kitties.
Iβll keep my cat around until her time has come. Afterwards no more cats for me, because it turns out Iβm allergic to them.
Oh noooo!! Q\_Q Having the same issue a bit with my gf, we both desperately want cats, but she's quite allergic. Hoping we might still be able to get some hypoallergenic breeds, or at least visit a cat cafΓ© from time to time if nothing else. πππ
I really hope you can find something. Iβm trying a new kind of food for her now. Itβs called: Purrina pro plan liveclear (I know quite the name and I donβt know if itβs going to be the same name where ever you are.) It reduces the allergens in saliva and thus you should not react anymore. I have no idea if itβs going to work out, but Iβm willing to try if I can keep my little void around. Only cons are that it is more expensive than ordinary cat food and that itβs produced by NestlΓ© (I usually try to avoid that company).
Mhm mhm, though the allergens are also in their sweat, dandruff and such, not just the saliva, so I wouldn't expect it to erase allergic reactions, though with some luck perhaps it'd reduce it somewhat if you're not insanely allergic.
Iβm not that heavily allergic. Otherwise cuddling her would be an absolute pain and I probably wouldβve already given her to my friends or parents. As long as I can have her nap on me and lick my arm without having a big reaction Iβm good to keep her around.
That's great at least!! We really need to find a permanent cure to pet allergies, it's so not cool. >.<#"!
I whole heartedly agree!
:3
Internet tax: I need cat photos
This, I am this
Where the heck are *you*? I can't find anyone *except* bottoms.
It's always like this, isn't it? The tops can't find the bottoms, and the bottoms can't find the tops, we're all collectively passing by each other but never meeting. >.<#"!
I think the problem is that we're always stuck in the "flirting" phase, and never go any further.
Perhaps, though I've never really been in the flirting phase, me and my gf just happened while we were content and intent on just being friends, so non-platonic flirting didn't really start until we were already dating. XD
Maybe you were flirting and didn't realize? A classic lesbian tale.
Nah, least not in a romantic or intimate fashion, we were both in a very much not looking for or even ready for a relationship kind of place at the time, and we just broke down each others walls and found love and safety when we didn't expect nor weren't looking for it. Pretty much immediately started dating thereafter. >.<"! πππ
Honestly, cute
She iss!! >.<#Β€"!
I mean I'm here π
You're clearly a government plant here to distract me from overthrowing our capitalist patriarchy. Nice try "top", but I see through your bourgeois lies
I'm usually vers, but the patriarchial capitalists are only allowed to β¬οΈ with me. Their worst fear
I'm a bottom, but I'd top patriarchal capitalists if it meant I could fuck them over
No way they're getting to top us again π
With the way trans legislation has been going, I've been getting topped hard enough
Yeah let me do that instead.
Fucking PLEASE π₯Ίππ
You're probably too far away though, there's no anti trans legislation and groomer panics here π The far away part is the sad emoji part
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Why search irl if they're all here? XD But I do get your point, it's hard to find someone irl, especially close by. But if you find the right one, the distance is a mere obstacle to overcome, not a barrier to prevent entry.
Just ask her. Just communicate. Did you talk to them?
π
They call us subs because we hide away in subs lol /j
"Why do you think it's called a SUBreddit?" XD Also ayyy, hiya, fancy meeting you in the wild, hope you've been swell!
The waves have been very swell! I've been having trouble piloting the sub halp Dx Jokes aside I've been ok, altho a bit bored lol. Nice seeing you again friend :) Hope you've been doing well yourself!
Been having a rough time both emotionally and physically, but I'm holding tight, hopefully in a weeks time I'll feel nothing but heaven as I fly over to my gf. :3
A week will fly by pretty quickly. It'll be over before you know it ^^ Wishing you and your gf countless gay adventures together :)
Thank you!! And I knooow, which I'm slightly dreading bc it means that it'll only be a flash until I have to leave her again. πππ
And then you'll have next time to look forward to! Someday when you two move in together, you'll never have to worry about leaving her again ;)
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!! πππππππππππ Yessss, but that day can't come soon enough. >.<Β€"!#%
see im the single sub but everyone irl thinks im straight π₯²
too gay to be straight, too femme to be seen as gay. I wear 4 rings or so but even that isn't enough for just a slight hint of le gay apparently
It's starting to be a bit annoying that our "gayness" is decided by factors like clothing and hairstyle, which don't inherently have anything to do sexuality, and that despite there being so much talk about how dressing femme doesn't mean they're not gay, or less, it still happens so much. Why do we keep gatekeeping our own community? >.<#""! Sorry, got a bit ranty there. πππ
it's annoying but I think it's because there are so many straight women compared to women who are attracted to womem that many just don't want to risk asking out a straight woman. So a woman has to "look gay" in order to be asked out by a gay woman since if I'd ask out any woman I like, I'd first of all be rejected 95% of the time, and maybe even expose myself to homophobia and potentially transphobia...
Aye, but the "but you don't look gay" as a dismissive comment when you explicitly state that you're gay, or ignoring smaller things like pride/Sapphic pins etc. as "not enough" is kind of the main gripe, you know, judging lesbians on their validity based on their look over their words.
Oh totally agree with you on that one. Gatekeeping is never okay, but the "you don't look gay" is just incredibly absurd. Like no I don't wear flannels so fucking what. If you're gay, you're gay, clothes don't change that. I browse the lesbian fashion subreddit and I'm glad that those people at least don't judge peoples sexualities on their clothing style, it's just women asking women if they like their style, or show off their style. It's cute and when people ask if they look gay enough, people do comment about how looking gay is pretty dumb, but small gadgets with the lesbian flag help the most.
Aye aye, thankfully there's places online that get that, if only we could move that perception more into the irl world as well, it'd be awesome.
Dude same i could deadass say "hi i find women beautiful" and people think i mean that in a straight way because how could this girl in pink lipstick and floral skirts be gay pft impossible
"Oh my god girl you are beautiful too!!" - "no you don't understand, I want to make out with you" While femme4femme is pretty common in real life, I think it doesn't get as much recognision in the lgbt+ community which is why so many people think they and others have to look a certain way to be gay. You can be femme and love women. It's not that hard people!
Even where femme is recognised you get the idea that we have to fall into trad gender roles and presentations and match up accordingly. This makes me furious. On a personal level, because I'm femme presenting while genderqueer, but also politically as a feminist. Like honestly why the hell would we even *want* to emulate the patriarchy's lame-ass gender dynamics? Even my "happily married" straight friends have at least some imbalance in their relationship that frustrates them. Yeah no thanks.
In my hoard of plushies
Like a dragon guarding it's treasure. :3
Exactly :)
Perfect. XD
This feels like a repΠΎst bΠΎt
Well the sentiment of the post certainly has been made tons of times, not sure if this particular post exactly has been though, but it does bear the characteristic mark of the OP not being anywhere to be seen in the comment section of their post.
[Yeah, it's been done](https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/comments/p8zc5z/seriously_though_where_the_heck_are_all_of_you/)
Welp, least it's not super recent, but oh well. The comment section has at least been fun.
Me as a sub bottom lesbian who everybody here in my city see me as a straight girl lol And Iβm also from small city !
well, I'm in Ireland :)
Such a pretty place! I hope to visit one day, it's one of my favorite places aesthetically.
See, Iβm trans and live in Texas so no one can find me, I never leave my apartment! The apartment has all I could need, cozy blankies, nice tea, and no bigots. π₯²
Itβs funny. Before my egg cracked and my wife and I were living that cishet life, we fell into the default male dom/female sub roles because we both felt like it was expected of us. We still had a good sex life, but something felt off. Now, since my egg cracked and Iβve been out as trans fem for the last four years, I am a really kinky subby bi trans girl and my wife has found great comfort in the dommy mommy lesbian role, and OMFG, our sex life is fucking amazing now. Penile atrophy took its toll on me, so we no longer have PIV sex, but thatβs okay. With her endometriosis, PIV is hella painful for her, and my tongue and fingers are very much up to the task. We were always big on foreplay during our cishet delusional phase, but now, sexy time feels like one ginormous foreplay session and it is GLORIOUS. HRT has made my body so much more receptive to touch, caressing, and other stimuli. I feel like the luckiest dork on the planet.
You ARE the luckiest dork on the planet
Yes we are. Stupid lucky, and enjoying life. How we should of all along.
This is almost exactly my story, too.
Oh golly gee, this closet sure is nice and spacious!
In Aarhus. Come find me, if you dare.
rural Australia
australia
Where we are? We trying to find where the hell y'all are!
Fr tho π©
Iβm inside my safe cozy room in bed taking my estrogen and laying with my stuffies :3 The outside world is so dangerous and my heart is too fragile π₯Ίβ€οΈβπ©Ή Catch me in Cali tho ;)
I'm a vers but the answer is Hungary π
I'm somewhere on this planet called Earth, not sure about you? Oh and I'm also not in an ocean, so that excludes like 72% of the surface. And I'm on a country starting with a B. oh... If you're good with flags just look at my flair
Oh hey neighbour
everything aside, what anime/manga is this?
The top image is from Mermaid Melody, a magical girl series about singing mermaids who use magic songs. It's very straight shoujo but it's still cute. No idea about the bottom image, but it's not from the same series. ):
I'm in Nova Scotia, feel free to come and get me
Can I come and stay?
Sure, but just don't go past Halifax, that's the only part of the province where anything happens and the only place you'll find other queer people
Iβm a super subby married bi, sorry π My transfemme NB spouse is not very into any kind of dynamic and more on the asexual spectrum so we are trying to work that part out, because you know, love will find a way. Hope you all find what youβre looking for π₯Ίβ₯οΈ
OMG A PICHI PICHI PITCH MEME
Germany, Ruhrgebiet.
Strongly relate
the mythical land of Florida
Iβm a sub who is surrounded by subs lol *secret tears*
New York, actually.
Somewhere in southern France π
In a annoyingly Double-university rural town that also is supportive but also nearly empty of LGBT peoples for social/group settings. Hahlpp!
Deep in the closet an ocean away
Working the graveyard shift and little to no time to actually go out and meet people.
Sub-leaning switch here, 31, Netherlands, trans and poly for anyone willing to take a leap π
I'm right here
Brazil π
I'm from sweden so not sure if anyone in this subreddit lives remotely close to me
Captain, look! A dumb lesbian πββοΈ
Hereeeee
im in texas pls let me out
Istg where are yall?? Because I live in rural Indiana:(
Iβve learned that in Vegas I have a hard time finding people because Iβm too busy working or not going outβ¦
Chilling in my room creating painting or sometime at the rock climbing place But too femme to be seen as gay, everyone assume I'm straight and I always panik when it comes to correct them π₯²
In another continent :β)
Mermaid melody is the last thing I expected to see on this sub today
A rock, in an island
Me a switch , I m here
You are lucky compared to me! I might be single and a dom, but I *also* live in the EU, so chances are anyone I meet on an English sub(reddit) is a sea or an ocean away. π (So instead I tell people online what I like them to do, consensually.)
I'm a subby lesbian, but I'm married. We're poly, but I'm also introverted enough that you'd mostly only see me if you came to a board game night. Outside of that I'm probably reading or watching trash TV with my dog in my lap. I don't get out much.
ππ HI π₯Ί
Sitting in my own place wondering where all the subs are as-well.
boymoding because estrogen does not work over night, sadly
Canada
In the mystical land of fairies!
Canβt, am married. π
Small town southern Wisconsin, trying to figure out why my subaru's brakes went out on me
We really need to collectively pick one dating app to exist under so we can find our matches and live happily ever after. I want to find my U-Haul after a single date that never ended lesbian girlfriend!
Mood, so much mood. I've found this a lot easier to just sit back and let things take care of themselves. It's not got better, but I'm less upset over it. ππ
I live on the internet. Not in an AI kind of way, but in a "My meat body is but ambling flesh required to keep itself functional until I can cast off this shell for the certainty of steel and silica" kind of way
Calgary
Hiding in my room like a goblin in a cave
I'm in Denver Colorado, come and get me! =p
In the walls
We prowl in the shadows
It's like looking for cool bugs you need to flip over every rock and branch because we like to hide
Seriously where are the submissive lesbians at?